HOW TO BE AN INTELLECTUAL #IntellectualWoman #glowup #FemininityAndIntellect #BecomingHer

WEBVTT
00:00.152 --> 00:06.479
[SPEAKER_00]: So today, we are talking about how to be an intellectual, okay?
00:06.819 --> 00:20.794
[SPEAKER_00]: So this could also be called, how not to look stupid, dumb, and ignorant, because that's really kind of what happens sometimes when you are an intellectual, and we don't want that, we don't want that.
00:21.254 --> 00:27.224
[SPEAKER_00]: In this episode, we are going to break down 15 things to do to be calm and intellectual.
00:27.685 --> 00:28.626
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's get into it.
00:28.947 --> 00:30.189
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's how you work at Lady.
00:32.025 --> 00:42.229
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so first of all, if you clicked on this video, big kudos and congratulations to you because you probably already are an intellectual.
00:42.330 --> 00:48.392
[SPEAKER_00]: I think a lot of people kind of are, it's just they don't really lean into it as much as they should.
00:48.492 --> 00:54.655
[SPEAKER_00]: So just simply wanted to seek out more information on how to become an intellectual.
00:54.955 --> 00:56.996
[SPEAKER_00]: You're already like halfway there.
00:57.550 --> 01:06.496
[SPEAKER_00]: So, let's just go ahead and get into the topics and I'm gonna give you tidbits and tricks and all kinds of things throughout this episode.
01:06.717 --> 01:11.220
[SPEAKER_00]: But let's start with number one, okay?
01:11.700 --> 01:15.183
[SPEAKER_00]: It is about knowing current events, all right?
01:15.263 --> 01:22.568
[SPEAKER_00]: So we want to be intellectually sharp because we wanna understand what is happening in the world around us.
01:22.927 --> 01:38.462
[SPEAKER_00]: We want to know what's happening with economic science, healthcare, culture, global conflicts, all of those things because there's nothing worse than having a conversation with someone and you may be bringing up something that you've seen on the news or something like that.
01:38.542 --> 01:41.125
[SPEAKER_00]: And they just have literally no clue what you're talking about.
01:41.485 --> 01:44.768
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I'm not talking about things that are specific to one area.
01:45.129 --> 01:46.250
[SPEAKER_00]: You live once a day.
01:46.549 --> 01:58.333
[SPEAKER_00]: And someone knows lives in another, you know, like it's not global news, but I'm talking about global news things, you know, that happen big topics that affect a country as a whole.
01:58.753 --> 02:00.274
[SPEAKER_00]: We should know what's going on.
02:00.334 --> 02:06.076
[SPEAKER_00]: Number one for our own safety because right now we are living in some pretty turbulent time.
02:06.136 --> 02:15.299
[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, if we're kind of walking around Latta and don't know what's going on, that could be dangerous for us and our family and friends.
02:15.762 --> 02:22.681
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, and again, when these things are brought up, and we are clueless, we just look, unfortunately, not very bright.
02:24.147 --> 02:26.608
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not a good look, it just isn't.
02:26.708 --> 02:31.350
[SPEAKER_00]: And then for those of us who do volunteer work, we talk to the public a lot.
02:31.690 --> 02:36.372
[SPEAKER_00]: So if we're talking to the public, we're doing cards, we're doing whatever it is that we're doing.
02:37.093 --> 02:42.315
[SPEAKER_00]: And people will come up to us and be like, oh, this is how I feel, this is what's happening.
02:42.355 --> 02:49.638
[SPEAKER_00]: And if we have no clue, now we just look tone deaf and outdated and just a bunch of like,
02:50.757 --> 02:52.017
[SPEAKER_00]: It just is not a good look.
02:52.118 --> 03:10.144
[SPEAKER_00]: We need to be intellectuals and know about current events if we're going to be engaging in any kind of public service because we are supposed to be there for people to talk to, to get understanding about the future and to give them encouragement and all of that about all the good things to come.
03:10.224 --> 03:17.246
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, like if we're not doing that, it is only gonna like be a hindrance for us, okay?
03:17.700 --> 03:30.884
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, this is going to also be important because you want to be equipped so that you can then critically think about what's going on in society and make informed decisions, okay?
03:31.604 --> 03:39.107
[SPEAKER_00]: So, all right, now, number two, this one is one that could get you in a lot of trouble.
03:40.181 --> 03:47.705
[SPEAKER_00]: An intellectual understands that intelligence includes cultural awareness, okay?
03:48.085 --> 03:58.770
[SPEAKER_00]: So you should know the basic values, customs traditions, religions and community styles of major cultural regions around the world.
03:59.729 --> 04:03.493
[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, think Africa, Asia, Europe, Middle East, and Latin America.
04:03.553 --> 04:08.417
[SPEAKER_00]: Like you should kind of know like, hey, in Latin America, most people are Christian.
04:08.437 --> 04:12.321
[SPEAKER_00]: You shouldn't be like, oh, there's a bunch of Muslim people living in Latin America.
04:12.361 --> 04:15.244
[SPEAKER_00]: You shouldn't know that most of those people are going to be in the Middle East.
04:15.444 --> 04:22.971
[SPEAKER_00]: There's always exception to the rule, but again, we have all these studies and kind of publishing that each country,
04:23.211 --> 04:25.293
[SPEAKER_00]: country puts out on their demographics.
04:25.573 --> 04:42.544
[SPEAKER_00]: So everybody surveys their people, and this is how they make and publish these national and international reports that let you know, hey, what are the local, you know, racial groups, what are their religions, what are, you know, the customs, all these things.
04:42.584 --> 04:50.530
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, this just makes you culturally aware so that when you meet someone from these places, you are not insulting them because you don't know
04:51.082 --> 05:16.130
[SPEAKER_00]: anything about their culture, you know, in the modern times, this is 2026, like you can't, it just is not cute, it's just not a good look walking around, not knowing anything about their major regions of the world, you know, you don't have to know every remote island or, you know, my new culture, we can only like, no so much at a time and that's okay, but like,
05:16.592 --> 05:26.639
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, mixing things up and really just not knowing anything at all is just very weird, completely tone deaf, and of course, really dumb.
05:28.540 --> 05:39.688
[SPEAKER_00]: So if that is you, if you've ever done that, like, you know, mix someone up or like, you know, someone is like, oh, I'm from Taiwan and you're like, oh, I love kimchi.
05:41.070 --> 06:09.033
[SPEAKER_00]: Like you look so dumb, like you, that's not a good look, okay, you obviously don't know the difference between the different types of Asian and the different types of Asian foods and it's not a good little girl girl you look a hot mess you need to get yourself together and it's not cute, okay, one resource that you could visit visit is called a cultural intelligence center and they just kind of like, you know, break down some things and just give you some information about all the different cultures.
06:09.437 --> 06:15.727
[SPEAKER_00]: and things just remember smart people can understand respect is beyond their own environment.
06:16.027 --> 06:19.413
[SPEAKER_00]: So a lot of people live in one area their whole life and so their whole
06:20.165 --> 06:28.273
[SPEAKER_00]: self-awareness, they're being, you know, their understanding is only about people who look and move throughout the world in the same way as they do.
06:28.874 --> 06:40.025
[SPEAKER_00]: And while that's understandable, because you can't live in two places that once right, you can't live halfway, you know, in America and halfway in Europe or whatever.
06:40.605 --> 06:48.266
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, it does take time to move about the globe and and there's so only so much time and all of that, you know, that and money and all that.
06:48.426 --> 06:53.887
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, so it's not necessarily even about moving about the globe, although that could certainly help.
06:54.287 --> 07:01.308
[SPEAKER_00]: But you do need to know more than just your own environment, because otherwise, girl, you look at real setup.
07:01.409 --> 07:01.829
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
07:02.769 --> 07:07.790
[SPEAKER_00]: So, uh, number three, no global demographics and human diversity.
07:07.850 --> 07:10.030
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, this factors in with number two.
07:10.620 --> 07:12.441
[SPEAKER_00]: But I want to go a little deeper on this.
07:12.581 --> 07:22.088
[SPEAKER_00]: So this means understanding world populations ethnic diversity geography migration patterns languages population trends.
07:22.328 --> 07:35.372
[SPEAKER_00]: So when you think migration patterns like knowing like okay people from here, migrating into here, like even one example of that is Egypt, you know, thousands and thousands of years ago, the original Egyptians look one way.
07:35.412 --> 07:38.313
[SPEAKER_00]: They had a bunch of battles and things and everything.
07:38.353 --> 07:41.294
[SPEAKER_00]: And then now other people have migrated into Egypt.
07:41.354 --> 07:49.296
[SPEAKER_00]: And you have this kind of, you know, different looking people that are also Egyptians, but there was a migration pattern that happened there that made that happen.
07:52.417 --> 08:00.183
[SPEAKER_00]: So kind of knowing a little bit about that, you know, it just is again going to raise your awareness when you meet people from these different regions.
08:00.503 --> 08:03.385
[SPEAKER_00]: It also makes you eat not as easy to trip.
08:03.885 --> 08:14.093
[SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes people go to a different country and they want to give you this cock-a-mami view of like what their country is about and you can be like, yeah, no.
08:14.893 --> 08:16.594
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, I've read about this.
08:16.654 --> 08:26.501
[SPEAKER_00]: This is published World History that like everybody knows and you're just trying to like make yourself look better or make a certain group look worse and everything.
08:26.521 --> 08:33.586
[SPEAKER_00]: So then you're also not following for tricks that people pull as well, which also makes you more of an intellectual.
08:33.827 --> 08:40.892
[SPEAKER_00]: You're able to keep yourself safe, your family safe, um, and you're you're able to know what's true and not true,
08:44.775 --> 09:03.786
[SPEAKER_00]: So understanding human diversity helps you to think again beyond your own environment and also knowing that, you know, some people are a genetically diverse their ethnically diverse, knowing the different diversities that make up a different group of an area again, all of that really helps.
09:03.966 --> 09:10.450
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so number four number four is a different one and I stand firmly on this one.
09:11.370 --> 09:17.217
[SPEAKER_00]: Read more non-fiction than fiction, okay?
09:17.777 --> 09:30.412
[SPEAKER_00]: There are so many more interesting things that are true and factual that you can learn from and that can empower you to be a better person to yourself and to other people when you read non-fiction.
09:31.161 --> 09:35.124
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, like reading fiction as an adult, I'm sorry, y'all.
09:35.164 --> 09:42.971
[SPEAKER_00]: When people tell me about the latest, like, oh, fiction book that they read, I'm like, girl, you really, like, that's all you have time to do.
09:43.651 --> 09:46.013
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, we supposed to be helping people.
09:46.073 --> 09:55.761
[SPEAKER_00]: And you send up here, read books about bunny rabbits, you know, turning in a people or, you know, a new space thing that's like, all made up.
09:57.050 --> 10:02.895
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just, I'm not saying don't read it, but I'm saying prioritize reading nonfiction.
10:03.956 --> 10:10.961
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, if you notice a lot of people who only re-fiction tend to be very out of touch with reality.
10:11.241 --> 10:24.192
[SPEAKER_00]: This is the same person when you ask them, like, oh, man, did you see what happened in this country or oh, man, did you see, wow, you know, we got to be careful about this because now, you know,
10:24.902 --> 10:28.343
[SPEAKER_00]: a new update on some health thing or whatever like that.
10:28.403 --> 10:46.006
[SPEAKER_00]: This is the person who's going to have no clue what you're talking about because they are reading 10,000 page fiction books that just take the mind into this fantasy world and they are totally branded to the real world and it's just unhealthy.
10:46.046 --> 10:52.628
[SPEAKER_00]: Like again, it's 2026, things are getting worse, not better and so to me it's just a massive
10:54.135 --> 10:57.697
[SPEAKER_00]: to like be reading fiction books as a grown adult.
10:57.777 --> 11:15.028
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like fiction books are great for kids when you are learning them from ages like zero to like, I don't know, maybe even 12 could be the cut off, but I already know as my kids age and they get to some of the bigger ages like 12 and all that stuff.
11:15.496 --> 11:19.057
[SPEAKER_00]: We're not, it's going to be a cut off with the picture books.
11:19.437 --> 11:26.738
[SPEAKER_00]: Like a fiction book will be a treat like once every few months, but your daily reading is going to be nonfiction.
11:27.158 --> 11:29.579
[SPEAKER_00]: Learn about somebody who did something important.
11:30.719 --> 11:37.020
[SPEAKER_00]: Those of us who have our weekly meetings, everything that we are reading about is nonfiction.
11:37.460 --> 11:38.261
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
11:38.361 --> 11:40.121
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's real things.
11:40.697 --> 11:47.920
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, knowing more things that are happening in the world are going to help you to be more well-rounded in that area too.
11:48.000 --> 11:51.662
[SPEAKER_00]: So you want to read things read more about history.
11:51.722 --> 11:53.503
[SPEAKER_00]: We're doing that every week at our meetings.
11:53.603 --> 11:54.763
[SPEAKER_00]: Also, we're reading history.
11:54.783 --> 11:56.524
[SPEAKER_00]: So read about world history.
11:56.604 --> 12:05.988
[SPEAKER_00]: So now you're expanding on that it's going to make you an even better teacher read up on psychology read up on economics read up on health from a reputable source.
12:06.448 --> 12:17.992
[SPEAKER_00]: Not the health crazies, but reputable sources, you know, NIH, all these places Mayo Clinic, Harvard Med, all these read there on health.
12:18.052 --> 12:24.935
[SPEAKER_00]: Read up on business, read up on science, read biographies, and grow if read and aim for you, watch a documentary.
12:25.355 --> 12:30.237
[SPEAKER_00]: Now even with documentaries, you have to be careful because documentaries can be very slighted like,
12:31.035 --> 12:42.426
[SPEAKER_00]: If a person is producing their own documentary, of course, they're gonna try to give you the idea that whatever idea they want you to know.
12:42.626 --> 12:48.632
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I'll say that sometimes you don't get a raw filter and the same can be true of autobiographies.
12:48.972 --> 12:54.558
[SPEAKER_00]: But at least you are still learning something, even though it might be kind of watered down or
12:54.994 --> 13:00.818
[SPEAKER_00]: slanted from a one perspective or whatever you're still learning about something real.
13:01.298 --> 13:04.941
[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, if you reading isn't your thing, watch documentaries.
13:05.401 --> 13:08.203
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, there's a ton of great documentaries on Netflix.
13:08.584 --> 13:17.710
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, Amazon has great documentaries and actually a lot of YouTubers make great documentaries, and those are just free on YouTube.
13:18.030 --> 13:40.292
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so you have to do your research and make sure, you know, the information is, you know, at least somewhat credible, but sometimes when I've watched a documentary, I've then gone on to do more research on a topic and I'm like, yo, I didn't even know this like this is so cool like wow, you know, and then again, once you are in these conversations with people,
13:41.360 --> 13:52.288
[SPEAKER_00]: Just walking about minding your business, now you've got a way to be involved in a more intelligent conversation because that's really what being an intellectual is about.
13:52.328 --> 13:59.333
[SPEAKER_00]: Being able to have intelligent, meaningful conversations and interactions with people.
13:59.914 --> 14:01.655
[SPEAKER_00]: Like that's really what it's about.
14:01.675 --> 14:06.559
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's hard these days because I just feel like so many people are just brain dead.
14:06.659 --> 14:09.541
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's, they're just full of mindless content.
14:11.432 --> 14:15.463
[SPEAKER_00]: Like off-color jokes especially the men it's like always in off-color joke.
14:16.085 --> 14:18.150
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's always something loot.
14:18.211 --> 14:19.715
[SPEAKER_00]: It's always something dumb
14:20.162 --> 14:23.885
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just like no substance, you know, two most people.
14:23.965 --> 14:26.888
[SPEAKER_00]: And so it just gets really frustrating.
14:27.488 --> 14:29.190
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just going to do a personal share.
14:29.290 --> 14:36.936
[SPEAKER_00]: I get really frustrated because I feel like there aren't a lot of people who have interest in nonfiction anymore.
14:37.116 --> 14:43.021
[SPEAKER_00]: Like most people don't like history, which again, is really weird to me if you go to meetings every week.
14:43.061 --> 14:46.584
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you say you don't like history, but you're reading about it every week.
14:48.192 --> 14:50.633
[SPEAKER_00]: it's like people don't even put that connection together.
14:50.893 --> 15:15.418
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, so yeah, and like I just get really frustrated like sometimes I'm, you know, maybe, you know, out with a certain group or, you know, maybe I'm in a car group or maybe I'm, you know, just wherever and it's just like, the conversations are so dull because people just don't like care about anything, but what's a he-he-ha-ha funny or,
15:16.018 --> 15:22.182
[SPEAKER_00]: some silly or, you know, just sharing their latest, you know, non-fiction thing, like it.
15:22.903 --> 15:40.175
[SPEAKER_00]: I just, I don't know y'all, I just can't, but any who, this matters because it's going to help you build expertise, it's going to help you build your vocabulary, it's going to strengthen your mental framework, and it's also going to strengthen your reasoning ability.
15:43.203 --> 16:09.386
[SPEAKER_00]: reasoning and ability build reasoning ability like that is so much of what we learn every single week and this is a way you strengthen your reasoning ability by being an intellectual knowing more than just what you have to know but going above and beyond and learning some other things just for your own personal development okay so expanding your understanding of history science business.
16:09.807 --> 16:15.649
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, all these things is going to help you to become an intellectual, okay?
16:16.110 --> 16:18.230
[SPEAKER_00]: So let's move on to number five.
16:18.951 --> 16:25.473
[SPEAKER_00]: Learn the art of commune, vacation, okay?
16:26.634 --> 16:29.255
[SPEAKER_00]: Literally learn the art of communication.
16:29.842 --> 16:32.785
[SPEAKER_00]: why this is going to be important.
16:32.885 --> 16:39.953
[SPEAKER_00]: And intellectual is not just knowledgeable, but they can communicate ideas clearly and effectively.
16:40.473 --> 16:46.059
[SPEAKER_00]: So here is where you're going to immediately be able to tell if somebody is an intellectual or not.
16:46.619 --> 16:51.084
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe there's some type of challenge, let's say a time challenge, right?
16:51.578 --> 16:56.602
[SPEAKER_00]: Like maybe you're out with a group like and you're supposed to meet up for dinner, right?
16:56.642 --> 17:01.045
[SPEAKER_00]: But you're all going to shop around this area and then you want to meet up for dinner.
17:02.226 --> 17:11.172
[SPEAKER_00]: The people in the group who get very overwhelmed by simply trying to figure out what time and where everybody should meet up for dinner.
17:11.512 --> 17:14.474
[SPEAKER_00]: These are people who do not have the art of communication.
17:18.943 --> 17:27.931
[SPEAKER_00]: when simple things trigger anger or like you ask someone a question like, hey, I was thinking, maybe I could meet you here at 630?
17:27.991 --> 17:29.732
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, well, I don't know.
17:30.033 --> 17:37.019
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I was thinking this like, people who go immediately and take anger, they don't know how to communicate.
17:37.099 --> 17:39.601
[SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, I'm so tired of this.
17:40.922 --> 17:44.205
[SPEAKER_00]: I just don't even bother like talking to people like this.
17:45.980 --> 18:11.863
[SPEAKER_00]: Like once I could tell you don't know how to communicate or you have very little to add or you're very dull or your first knee jerk response is anxiety or anger when you're trying to simply like, hey, let's all meet up here or hey, what time is good for you or maybe working through a small challenge or disagreement that arises people who go straight to anger.
18:12.863 --> 18:16.864
[SPEAKER_00]: Or, over well, these are not people you want to be around.
18:17.725 --> 18:20.505
[SPEAKER_00]: These are people who need to do some deep mental work.
18:20.525 --> 18:23.566
[SPEAKER_00]: These are people who, again, only read nonfiction.
18:23.766 --> 18:24.427
[SPEAKER_00]: Or, I'm sorry.
18:24.727 --> 18:26.687
[SPEAKER_00]: These are people who read fiction.
18:27.027 --> 18:29.528
[SPEAKER_00]: They're own, in their own little world all the time.
18:29.848 --> 18:31.989
[SPEAKER_00]: And they're all little head, you know, with
18:32.373 --> 18:38.360
[SPEAKER_00]: a bunny rabbits running through fields and you know, hippity, hoppity, and whoop, you do!
18:38.881 --> 18:40.843
[SPEAKER_00]: They are not dialed in.
18:41.183 --> 18:41.604
[SPEAKER_00]: They're not.
18:42.205 --> 18:43.326
[SPEAKER_00]: Anybody could change.
18:43.566 --> 18:49.173
[SPEAKER_00]: It is possible, but right now, they're not ready to receive you because you are a communicator.
18:49.533 --> 18:52.196
[SPEAKER_00]: Just again, the fact that you are listening to this.
18:53.095 --> 19:22.442
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, that already, you're already, your wills are already turning, you already want to be an intellectual, so again, this one is literally massive, so this is going to be able to be including having the ability to speak clearly, listen carefully, asking thought provoking questions, explaining complex ideas simply, okay, the people who
19:23.127 --> 19:44.322
[SPEAKER_00]: You ask him a simple question and they've got to give you like a five minute response and you basically ask them, but yes or no question, these are people who aren't secure with themselves, these are people who don't have it communicate, okay, so always take that as a red flag, all right, and again minimize your engagement with these people.
19:44.902 --> 19:58.765
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean because they're only going to frustrate you and they're not the art of communication is just like any relationship is about can you kick the, you know, tennis ball, I can you hit the tennis ball back and forth.
19:59.212 --> 19:59.932
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what it is.
19:59.972 --> 20:01.773
[SPEAKER_00]: So I say something intellectual.
20:02.013 --> 20:03.313
[SPEAKER_00]: You say something intellectual.
20:03.433 --> 20:06.854
[SPEAKER_00]: I say something like you say that you need people who can do that.
20:06.994 --> 20:10.254
[SPEAKER_00]: Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang, bang, back and forth with you.
20:10.294 --> 20:16.656
[SPEAKER_00]: When you serve that ball girl and it falls flat on a ground or you could tell they don't even want to be in the game.
20:16.876 --> 20:17.416
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
20:17.896 --> 20:19.257
[SPEAKER_00]: Girl don't even waste your time.
20:19.617 --> 20:21.437
[SPEAKER_00]: They need to go into the mental work.
20:21.979 --> 20:40.142
[SPEAKER_00]: is 2026 we all have to start developing ourselves like literally it is way too much so again why the art of communication is then a matter leadership when you're out with your family or that's a good example so let's say you're out with like your husband's family right.
20:40.660 --> 21:01.192
[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe you kind of have been elected as the leader or maybe someone is just a big mouth and they elect themselves other leader, but they're not a good leader because they don't speak clearly and they're not an intellectual and they don't usually know what they're doing now if you know the art of communication, you could kind of real this person in it.
21:01.592 --> 21:08.816
[SPEAKER_00]: ask some more questions like, hey, well, I know that, you know, the kids want to do this and your kids want to do that.
21:09.496 --> 21:10.997
[SPEAKER_00]: And maybe we could all do this.
21:11.137 --> 21:12.297
[SPEAKER_00]: What do you think about that?
21:12.697 --> 21:22.122
[SPEAKER_00]: Now when you know the art of communication, that person who does not know the art of communication is going to be a little less frustrating because you at least know what to do.
21:22.722 --> 21:26.684
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't because sometimes people are so crazy.
21:26.704 --> 21:28.485
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't even want any type of like,
21:28.815 --> 21:39.505
[SPEAKER_00]: guidance, leadership, or not even that, just like being able to meet halfway and problem solve, they just want to do what they want to do and they want everybody just follow what they do.
21:39.686 --> 21:43.089
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is not someone who has the art of communication.
21:44.163 --> 21:44.523
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
21:44.903 --> 21:48.305
[SPEAKER_00]: Remember, great thinkers often become great communicators.
21:48.325 --> 21:58.771
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, once you're doing some of these other steps that we've already talked about, you're going to do better in these situations where you have to communicate or even stand up with you.
22:12.386 --> 22:29.732
[SPEAKER_00]: Just the basics, you do not have to be a doctor, you do not have to be a scholar, but you need to know the basics of some of these just to prevent yourself from being a victim of misinformation as well as preventing you and your loved ones, your friends, your family from being victims of miscommunication.
22:30.052 --> 22:33.754
[SPEAKER_00]: Crime example, your out with a group of,
22:35.054 --> 23:02.595
[SPEAKER_00]: Ladies and one person in the group is like, hey, you know what, it's been really, I think is so cool and what I'm doing is I'm ingesting mint essential oil, you know, I'm taking five tablespoons each day and I listen to this one tick tocker and they said it will grow your hair like you're not going to fall victim to stuff like that and you'll be able to give a kind
23:03.365 --> 23:08.387
[SPEAKER_00]: But intellectual response, oh, oh, wow, okay, thanks for sharing that with me.
23:08.427 --> 23:12.848
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, you know, I had done some reading on CDC about essential oils.
23:13.148 --> 23:28.713
[SPEAKER_00]: And while they have a lot of good uses, you know, there is a lot of research that suggests that ingesting eating drinking essential oils could actually, you know, have some really adverse and bad health consequences.
23:28.793 --> 23:28.993
[SPEAKER_00]: So,
23:29.370 --> 23:30.231
[SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for sharing.
23:30.352 --> 23:32.435
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't, I don't think I feel safe to do that.
23:32.755 --> 23:35.038
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and you may want to think about it.
23:35.179 --> 23:43.691
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I could send you that article on CDC if you like up to you totally personal, you know, I respect you and I think, and I thank you for sharing.
23:44.172 --> 23:44.773
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, so.
23:45.133 --> 23:48.434
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what that can look like when you're in intellectual.
23:48.474 --> 23:52.855
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's like we have to apply some of these principles to everyday life.
23:53.135 --> 23:54.956
[SPEAKER_00]: So we want to season our words with salt.
23:55.216 --> 23:59.777
[SPEAKER_00]: But we also, you know, don't want to just be a yes person, whatever someone says.
23:59.817 --> 24:03.658
[SPEAKER_00]: No matter if it's crazy, convoluted, weird, out and left field.
24:03.678 --> 24:05.418
[SPEAKER_00]: We're just, oh, yeah, really?
24:06.158 --> 24:07.499
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, okay.
24:09.778 --> 24:12.721
[SPEAKER_00]: Not a good look, not a good look, okay?
24:12.781 --> 24:33.399
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, no one where to go for reputable health information, like knowing to go to CDC or NIH or Harvard Health, Mayo Clinic, all these places, American Heart Society, like knowing where to go for good information, it's also gonna make you an intellectual, it's gonna make you look more intelligent.
24:33.679 --> 24:46.109
[SPEAKER_00]: than that person who shouting out, yeah, you know, this person I saw on Instagram was talking about the minute someone says, this person that I seen on Instagram and they share no other facts about their background.
24:46.389 --> 24:54.455
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, it's different as someone's like, oh, I follow this doctor on Instagram that, you know, is a surgeon and makes like surgery.
24:54.800 --> 24:57.281
[SPEAKER_00]: safety tips or you know something like that.
24:57.321 --> 24:57.942
[SPEAKER_00]: That's different.
24:57.962 --> 24:58.802
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what we want.
24:59.162 --> 25:07.486
[SPEAKER_00]: But these people who are just basically influencers and you know have all their little people regurgitating like all the things that they say.
25:07.506 --> 25:09.347
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just, it's not a good look.
25:09.407 --> 25:13.049
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is something that really makes people look unintelligent when they do that.
25:13.329 --> 25:20.832
[SPEAKER_00]: What I've started doing is being silent when people talk about health misinformation,
25:22.310 --> 25:35.742
[SPEAKER_00]: If there's a group, I kind of will just not participate in the conversation and when the conversation of visuals, I'll change the subject and I looked in my rear view one time and I noticed that the person kind of was looking like, maybe I shouldn't have said that.
25:36.022 --> 25:43.429
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes that's enough because what I'm learning as I grow and develop is on certain topics, I feel strongly about
25:48.727 --> 25:55.552
[SPEAKER_00]: and prone to like getting angry and agitated, which we just learned about number five.
25:56.112 --> 25:58.834
[SPEAKER_00]: So that was the art of communication.
25:58.874 --> 26:01.876
[SPEAKER_00]: That was what number five was that we were talking about here.
26:01.936 --> 26:16.106
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's one area that I identified that I need to become more of an intellectual, like I need to be able to, when people are saying things that aren't true or make me angry about health misinformation,
26:17.687 --> 26:25.277
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I need to be able to like either be quiet and let my silence be a little strategic.
26:26.654 --> 26:38.738
[SPEAKER_00]: or I need to add something in a such a way that my words are seasoned with salt and I can give the person something to think about rather than just being like, hey, what you're saying is really dumb and don't ever say that again.
26:38.818 --> 26:39.958
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, that's not nice.
26:40.058 --> 26:41.939
[SPEAKER_00]: That's not what we wanted to do.
26:41.979 --> 26:51.642
[SPEAKER_00]: So I have to give myself props because recently I was in a situation where I could have really went hard in the pain and I was like, I gotta stop going hard on people.
26:53.102 --> 26:54.643
[SPEAKER_00]: That's not an intellectual move.
26:56.158 --> 26:58.185
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm proud of me for that.
26:58.225 --> 26:58.847
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to give my
27:03.894 --> 27:09.319
[SPEAKER_00]: So if that's you girl and you have improved give yourself a round of applause as well.
27:09.499 --> 27:14.243
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, let's go on to almost get one.
27:14.263 --> 27:15.504
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's go on to number seven.
27:15.924 --> 27:21.829
[SPEAKER_00]: So know the basics about history and your local regional history.
27:21.849 --> 27:24.731
[SPEAKER_00]: So let's focus on that part regional history.
27:24.771 --> 27:29.315
[SPEAKER_00]: Like if you live in an area, like knowing who founded the area.
27:29.891 --> 27:35.753
[SPEAKER_00]: knowing some of the struggles and challenges from an economic perspective.
27:36.233 --> 27:39.414
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm knowing some of the different social issues.
27:41.935 --> 27:56.899
[SPEAKER_00]: And even though we a lot of us don't really get involved in politics like that, even knowing some of that stuff and the only reason that this one is going to be good for you is sometimes we get new people moving into our area.
27:57.503 --> 28:00.344
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, sometimes we are doing a public work.
28:00.424 --> 28:02.404
[SPEAKER_00]: We may be at cards or whatever like that.
28:02.844 --> 28:06.706
[SPEAKER_00]: And when we're engaging with the public, we can share some of these things.
28:06.746 --> 28:16.308
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, oh, you know, if you like, you know, for example, nature hikes, there's a great nature hike that leads to this place.
28:16.368 --> 28:22.410
[SPEAKER_00]: It was actually a building that was used as a station during World War II.
28:23.490 --> 28:26.991
[SPEAKER_00]: you could see some historical facts there and you and your family might love it.
28:27.451 --> 28:35.733
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, now whatever else you have to say have the lid it has validity to it because it's like, oh, this person is smart.
28:36.013 --> 28:38.873
[SPEAKER_00]: This person knows stuff about their local reaching.
28:39.574 --> 28:46.475
[SPEAKER_00]: And so now everything else that we say people can be like, okay, I can kind of trust this person like they know things, they know things.
28:46.977 --> 28:55.491
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, knowing your personal area, the reason why this one sticks out to me is because I have lived in a lot of different places at this point and
28:56.369 --> 29:01.932
[SPEAKER_00]: I can recall so many times when I'm like, hey, I'm new here, where are the cool places to go?
29:01.992 --> 29:04.213
[SPEAKER_00]: And people are like, oh, I don't go anywhere.
29:04.293 --> 29:05.153
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't do anything.
29:05.273 --> 29:07.094
[SPEAKER_00]: I just go to work and come home.
29:07.554 --> 29:09.355
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's just like, what you live here.
29:10.035 --> 29:11.816
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you don't know nothing about your air.
29:11.856 --> 29:13.257
[SPEAKER_00]: You can't tell me what to go shop.
29:13.277 --> 29:18.539
[SPEAKER_00]: You can't tell me that historical landmarks and things that I want to see and take my kids to.
29:18.619 --> 29:20.940
[SPEAKER_00]: You can't tell me like, you know,
29:21.867 --> 29:44.722
[SPEAKER_00]: Any of this is just weird to me like not to know anything and each region has a lot of information on this topic so you don't have to know it all we don't have to know it all but even just having one or two talking points like hey you know I'm fairly new here but I do know this this might be a place you want to check out it's really pretty or hey if you like.
29:45.745 --> 29:46.145
[SPEAKER_00]: swimming.
29:46.185 --> 29:57.149
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a beautiful natural waterfall that you can hike to that's really like only you know to a two minute hike off the road and you'll just love this place.
29:57.189 --> 30:05.992
[SPEAKER_00]: The water's beautiful you know a lot of tourists come from all around like these are the things that are binding that give you social currency.
30:06.445 --> 30:07.866
[SPEAKER_00]: and make you a resource.
30:07.946 --> 30:10.168
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is what keeps people coming back to you.
30:10.208 --> 30:11.910
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, oh, thank you so much for that.
30:12.310 --> 30:13.191
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that was cool.
30:13.551 --> 30:15.653
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, someone so knows something about this.
30:15.713 --> 30:20.678
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's see if someone so maybe knows something else about the area or whatever.
30:21.278 --> 30:25.242
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, it just gives you cultural competency.
30:25.502 --> 30:29.085
[SPEAKER_00]: It just helps you to be an intellectual, OK?
30:30.146 --> 30:31.367
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's go on a number eight.
30:36.206 --> 30:37.287
[SPEAKER_00]: to take a little drink.
30:38.488 --> 30:42.951
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, so number eight, learn critical thinking and logic.
30:44.352 --> 30:57.282
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, have you ever been in a conversation with someone and they say something and you're like, how does that logically make sense in your mind?
31:00.305 --> 31:03.247
[SPEAKER_00]: I wish I had like the perfect example for you,
31:05.130 --> 31:10.034
[SPEAKER_00]: But it's like, how do you, how does that make any kind of logic?
31:10.975 --> 31:16.600
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, it just, it just does not make any sense, right?
31:17.781 --> 31:18.902
[SPEAKER_00]: So don't do that.
31:20.030 --> 31:29.657
[SPEAKER_00]: Like be a critical thinker and again, you are not going to be able to have critical thinking ability if you're not doing all these other pieces that we talked about.
31:30.058 --> 31:45.229
[SPEAKER_00]: Like if you only read fiction books, you know, if you don't watch documentaries, if you don't engage in the local culture, if you don't know who founded your local town, you know, and like,
31:46.567 --> 31:47.548
[SPEAKER_00]: all those things.
31:48.148 --> 31:52.271
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to have critical thinking and logic.
31:55.113 --> 32:07.402
[SPEAKER_00]: Because this is a skill that you have to develop without critical thinking, knowledge can become dangerous because there's a lot of information out there.
32:07.462 --> 32:11.625
[SPEAKER_00]: Again, we've talked about misinformation and you have the problem
32:15.755 --> 32:18.457
[SPEAKER_00]: and I read this there and those are reputable sources.
32:18.898 --> 32:21.660
[SPEAKER_00]: This doesn't align with what I read there.
32:22.060 --> 32:32.309
[SPEAKER_00]: And so then the issue is you go out with a group of people and people are having a conversation and you say something that's just completely not logical at all.
32:32.790 --> 32:34.831
[SPEAKER_00]: And so now people are like, oh!
32:36.010 --> 32:36.630
[SPEAKER_00]: Uh-huh.
32:37.330 --> 32:45.773
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, and now people are gonna talk behind your bagless face if people do it, even the nicest people, even though we know we're not supposed to do it.
32:46.153 --> 32:48.574
[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, yo, did you wish he said it, dinner?
32:48.934 --> 32:51.034
[SPEAKER_00]: How does that make sense to her?
32:51.734 --> 32:53.315
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, how dumb is that?
32:54.255 --> 32:57.136
[SPEAKER_00]: And we don't want that for ourselves and our loved ones.
32:57.476 --> 33:01.579
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, so like you have to work on critical thinking skills.
33:02.039 --> 33:04.121
[SPEAKER_00]: And this isn't something that's about IQ.
33:04.161 --> 33:05.121
[SPEAKER_00]: Like none of this stuff.
33:05.482 --> 33:10.425
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not about being an IQ person, memorizing random facts.
33:10.905 --> 33:13.067
[SPEAKER_00]: Like no one likes a brainiac.
33:13.267 --> 33:23.834
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's not somebody that is just randomly walking around, sharing scientific things, and history things, and using big words just to make themselves look smarter than everybody else.
33:25.985 --> 33:33.307
[SPEAKER_00]: critical thinking, being able to communicate, having cultural competence and like being a good person.
33:33.487 --> 33:35.848
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, that's all this really boils down to.
33:36.128 --> 33:36.528
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
33:37.408 --> 33:40.929
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's move on to number nine, learn basic economics, y'all.
33:41.809 --> 33:51.572
[SPEAKER_00]: There is nothing that can make you look more unintelligent and not an intellectual than not knowing basic
33:52.077 --> 34:04.257
[SPEAKER_00]: economics, not understanding inflation, taxes, supply and demand debt, okay, debt is one that will reveal that you don't know what you're doing, which are life and make you look
34:08.101 --> 34:30.152
[SPEAKER_00]: So this is something you really want to give some thought to like some people will be like oh yeah I put this on my credit card, but my credit card has 30% interest rate and it's like why do you have that credit card?
34:30.653 --> 34:33.314
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm a person that listens when people talk.
34:33.714 --> 34:42.855
[SPEAKER_00]: Like if you tell me you have a credit card with 30% interest, I'll let you also tell me that you hate that credit card and you're closing it.
34:42.955 --> 34:56.878
[SPEAKER_00]: If you think a 30% interest rate is a good thing and you think that's normal, you're telling me that you don't know basic economics because you should know enough to do the math and know that you are never paying that off-road.
34:57.515 --> 35:00.436
[SPEAKER_00]: like it ain't happening, okay?
35:00.496 --> 35:08.820
[SPEAKER_00]: So like simple things, you know, or people who love the idea of like leasing cars.
35:09.781 --> 35:12.962
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, unless you just have so much money, you just don't care.
35:13.002 --> 35:15.663
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, hey, I want to have a new car every four years.
35:15.723 --> 35:26.188
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, but if you think leasing is like, you're actually doing something better than buying a car like, oh, why would anybody buy a car when they could just lose?
35:27.708 --> 35:31.731
[SPEAKER_00]: Like that just is not bright at all.
35:32.072 --> 35:37.997
[SPEAKER_00]: Like it just isn't because leasing a car is gonna put you more in debt.
35:38.117 --> 35:48.606
[SPEAKER_00]: You're never gonna get to a point of paying that car off and have being able to save that 400 or whatever that price of that lease is each month.
35:48.986 --> 35:51.148
[SPEAKER_00]: When you buy a car and you could pay it off,
35:51.445 --> 35:58.871
[SPEAKER_00]: You're gonna have at least a couple of years of having that car without a payment, which gives you the ability to then save money.
35:59.492 --> 36:16.106
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, if you are super rich and you just love leasing cars because you just wanna have a new car every few years, more power to you, but when you think this is better than buying a car or even buying a older car that is used,
36:16.750 --> 36:23.779
[SPEAKER_00]: and driving an older car because it's something that you can afford and you're modest with how you spend your money.
36:24.460 --> 36:25.362
[SPEAKER_00]: Those are good things.
36:26.223 --> 36:32.251
[SPEAKER_00]: Being flashy and overspending and running up credit card debt and
36:32.775 --> 36:41.321
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, buying expensive clothes that you can't afford, because you think that makes you look like an intellectual, it's actually doing the opposite.
36:42.341 --> 36:52.248
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, for me, I have one person tell me one time that their car payment was $1600 a month, but they live in an apartment.
36:53.669 --> 36:55.030
[SPEAKER_00]: Stop and think about that for a minute.
36:55.050 --> 36:58.672
[SPEAKER_00]: Your car payment is $1600 a month, but you live in an apartment.
36:59.460 --> 37:12.063
[SPEAKER_00]: Unless again, you just over-rich and don't care at all about money and you just like, I know I'm throwing money away, but I move a lot and I have money.
37:12.123 --> 37:13.384
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a multi-millionaire.
37:13.804 --> 37:25.607
[SPEAKER_00]: This does not apply to you, but the average person that is middle class or lower, which is most of us, if you were paying $600 for a car at you living in an apartment where your rent is going to go up every single year.
37:26.592 --> 37:32.115
[SPEAKER_00]: And you're paying $1600 by $1600 a month for a car by choice.
37:32.175 --> 37:33.116
[SPEAKER_00]: You like that car.
37:33.196 --> 37:33.896
[SPEAKER_00]: It's flashy.
37:33.936 --> 37:34.997
[SPEAKER_00]: It makes you look rich.
37:36.098 --> 37:41.041
[SPEAKER_00]: You do not know basic economics and you are not an intellectual.
37:41.981 --> 37:44.403
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, these are the things that the world tells you.
37:45.043 --> 37:46.224
[SPEAKER_00]: Makes you an intellectual.
37:47.184 --> 37:48.405
[SPEAKER_00]: It is not true.
37:49.857 --> 37:57.301
[SPEAKER_00]: People who actually have money and who are responsible with their money and modest with their money, they move in silence.
37:57.361 --> 38:05.085
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't need to pay $1,600 car payments for fancy expensive flashy cars to make people think that there's something that they're not.
38:05.605 --> 38:08.166
[SPEAKER_00]: That is unintelligence.
38:08.447 --> 38:12.829
[SPEAKER_00]: That is not an intellectual, okay?
38:17.987 --> 38:20.508
[SPEAKER_00]: That's how a lot of people feel about that.
38:20.528 --> 38:24.668
[SPEAKER_00]: That's how I feel about that, because it's like, okay, don't hit me up from money.
38:24.888 --> 38:34.090
[SPEAKER_00]: When you just told me you're driving this expensive Mercedes and paying $1,600 a month, then you wanna come ask somebody to help you pay your bills.
38:35.490 --> 38:36.871
[SPEAKER_00]: You're doing this to yourself.
38:36.951 --> 38:42.992
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, number nine, learn basic economics, know how to manage your own money.
38:44.162 --> 38:48.483
[SPEAKER_00]: know how to be modest with your money and make a financial decisions.
38:50.404 --> 38:51.804
[SPEAKER_00]: That is what is important.
38:52.324 --> 38:52.584
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
38:52.604 --> 38:54.105
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's move on to number 10.
38:55.425 --> 39:02.307
[SPEAKER_00]: We touched on this a little bit, but we need to also have a basic understanding of psychology and human behavior.
39:03.617 --> 39:20.162
[SPEAKER_00]: Things that this is going to influence is your motivation, your habits, emotional regulation, which is huge in society today because most people are emotionally unregulated, prone to fits, prone to anger, prone to all that.
39:20.802 --> 39:25.544
[SPEAKER_00]: It also helps you to be more persuasive, it helps you to be on lookout for biases.
39:26.124 --> 39:33.046
[SPEAKER_00]: So when you have a lot of biases, that can snowball into being almost like borderline.
39:33.366 --> 39:38.007
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to say races, but it could lead you.
39:38.287 --> 39:39.827
[SPEAKER_00]: It could certainly lead you into that.
39:39.887 --> 39:47.989
[SPEAKER_00]: When you have a bunch of biases and preconceived ideas, a bunch of assumptions that aren't based on anything.
39:48.089 --> 39:49.930
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, people make assumptions.
39:50.010 --> 39:51.210
[SPEAKER_00]: The people were prone.
39:51.630 --> 40:04.493
[SPEAKER_00]: to making assumptions and have a lot of biases are people who don't watch documentaries, people who only read fiction books and people who don't know nothing about their area or their country like history none of that stuff.
40:04.873 --> 40:06.034
[SPEAKER_00]: These are the same people.
40:06.634 --> 40:11.075
[SPEAKER_00]: So again this is why this is important to be in intellectuals so you don't have these biases.
40:11.395 --> 40:15.677
[SPEAKER_00]: You also don't fall victim to like negative group behaviors.
40:16.217 --> 40:22.980
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's going to help give you the ability to have stronger relationships because you're more self-aware.
40:23.380 --> 40:34.925
[SPEAKER_00]: Like when you know that basics of like psychology for example, that when someone is grieving the loss of a loved one that they are stage is too great.
40:35.551 --> 40:54.869
[SPEAKER_00]: If you know that you'll be able to identify the stages that that person is in and maybe one of their stages that they're in is anger and maybe they just go off on you and intellectual person will be like, oh, okay, they just had a loss of a family member they're going through the grieving process.
40:55.513 --> 40:59.714
[SPEAKER_00]: And it looks like they're on about step two, which is, you know, anger.
41:00.214 --> 41:01.895
[SPEAKER_00]: And so I know this is not them.
41:01.995 --> 41:04.095
[SPEAKER_00]: This is someone that is a really good person.
41:04.115 --> 41:06.736
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm just going to allow them to be angry right now.
41:07.176 --> 41:09.977
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm going to like revisit this a later time.
41:10.057 --> 41:14.218
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to kill them with kindness in the meantime, like I'm going to be there for them.
41:14.278 --> 41:17.359
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to love them through this because I know it's not them.
41:18.099 --> 41:22.540
[SPEAKER_00]: The non intellectual will take that personally.
41:22.920 --> 41:49.153
[SPEAKER_00]: The non intellectual will not even think about this person just had a loss because non intellectuals are also usually more self focused right they only think about their own feelings because they're often fairy tale land reading fiction books right so they don't think about other people's feelings and what make people feel impact and do the things that they do so they're just unaware.
41:49.533 --> 41:54.256
[SPEAKER_00]: So anything that they can't understand, they just immediately go into defensive mode.
41:54.877 --> 41:58.800
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so this is where understanding psychology can come into play.
41:59.260 --> 42:01.421
[SPEAKER_00]: Also, friendship.
42:01.762 --> 42:07.966
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's say you have a friend who maybe they're mom like ran out on them, right?
42:08.306 --> 42:12.169
[SPEAKER_00]: Like she just left home one day and never came back and just, you know,
42:12.947 --> 42:14.712
[SPEAKER_00]: at a critical time in a person's life.
42:14.792 --> 42:20.306
[SPEAKER_00]: So then you may understand that they may have a wound.
42:23.488 --> 42:24.969
[SPEAKER_00]: which is the abandonment room.
42:25.369 --> 42:28.210
[SPEAKER_00]: And you'll know that because you learned about psychology.
42:28.250 --> 42:45.859
[SPEAKER_00]: So you know, oh, okay, maybe this particular friend gets a little upset when I don't return a text because maybe this abandonment room that she has, you know, from her mother who just left and never came back, maybe she just has a struggle dealing with that.
42:45.899 --> 42:52.142
[SPEAKER_00]: So now you can show this person more grace, more love, more understanding, because you are informed.
42:52.809 --> 43:03.384
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, when you can listen when people talk like, you know, and then apply some of the things that you've learned and makes you a better friend and makes you more understanding.
43:04.426 --> 43:07.570
[SPEAKER_00]: And you could even say that to the person like, hey, you know, like,
43:08.645 --> 43:21.888
[SPEAKER_00]: You share with me that you're your mom, you know, like left at a critical time in your life, you know, how do you feel, you know, about how this could affect some things?
43:21.928 --> 43:33.450
[SPEAKER_00]: Is there anything you want to share with me that, you know, maybe you communicate in a different way that I can be more respectful of or more understanding on.
43:34.444 --> 43:40.768
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I had somebody say to me one time, hey, I'm really not good with communication.
43:41.228 --> 43:46.892
[SPEAKER_00]: I just, you know, was pretty sheltered growing up and I'm a little socially awkward.
43:47.292 --> 43:52.996
[SPEAKER_00]: So, like, please don't take offense, but like, I just, you know, this isn't skill that I'm learning.
43:53.336 --> 43:55.437
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, bro, I appreciate that so much.
43:55.478 --> 44:00.020
[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, first of all, like you are so amazing
44:04.709 --> 44:07.590
[SPEAKER_00]: and so much intelligence, the fact that you're sharing that.
44:07.610 --> 44:15.733
[SPEAKER_00]: See, when we share and we share about ourselves, again, we're doing that tennis match, back and forth, we're pushing that ball, back and forth.
44:16.053 --> 44:17.894
[SPEAKER_00]: And then now, I know how to deal with her.
44:17.914 --> 44:19.734
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, oh, okay, no problem.
44:20.134 --> 44:23.095
[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, like, it helps.
44:23.635 --> 44:30.638
[SPEAKER_00]: And so now that I've learned more about psychology and human behavior, I tell people, hey, you know,
44:31.640 --> 44:36.053
[SPEAKER_00]: When I first meet someone and I could tell we've had some, you know, great interactions.
44:36.443 --> 44:43.067
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll be like, hey, I'm just letting you know, I'm a busy mom and sometimes I struggle with punctuality.
44:43.267 --> 44:45.868
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not that I wanna come late to things.
44:46.028 --> 45:00.996
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just, this is also built to stand with some like past things and issues that I've had and I have, you know, issues sometimes being punctual, but know that if I'm not gonna show up, I will always let you know in advance.
45:01.676 --> 45:03.878
[SPEAKER_00]: Or if I'm running late, I will let you know,
45:06.571 --> 45:07.272
[SPEAKER_00]: to be in late.
45:07.572 --> 45:09.995
[SPEAKER_00]: Little things like that go really far with people.
45:10.015 --> 45:14.921
[SPEAKER_00]: So then now, when that situation happens, they're like, oh, she told me about this.
45:15.682 --> 45:17.504
[SPEAKER_00]: Again, that's being an intellectual.
45:18.125 --> 45:19.566
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not about being perfect.
45:20.087 --> 45:23.491
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not about, you know, never making a mistake.
45:23.591 --> 45:26.154
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just about being a good communicator.
45:26.614 --> 45:26.995
[SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
45:28.974 --> 45:37.799
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, let's talk about 11 and then we'll get on to our last one, 12, okay, so if you're still here girl, thank you.
45:42.257 --> 45:45.560
[SPEAKER_00]: We are learning and working through this together, girls.
45:45.640 --> 45:51.825
[SPEAKER_00]: So let's talk about 11, which is developed media literacy.
45:52.005 --> 45:59.992
[SPEAKER_00]: We touched on this one a little bit, but it especially is especially important now because of the use of AI.
46:00.633 --> 46:06.638
[SPEAKER_00]: So you're going to have to get good at telling the difference between AI and things that are not AI.
46:08.139 --> 46:32.506
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, because now what I'm finding is when when we're talking and then we're engaging it with each other in our different social groups and our different social setting, I will see a lot of people sharing things that they have seen online and the minute they show it to me, I could clearly tell us a and then it just makes again that person look a little uninformed, a little, um,
46:37.986 --> 46:41.468
[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to have to learn the difference between what AI and what is it now.
46:41.988 --> 46:49.113
[SPEAKER_00]: I will say that with a grain of salt though because it is going to continue to get harder to tell.
46:49.713 --> 46:52.355
[SPEAKER_00]: What is AI and what is it?
46:52.795 --> 47:02.421
[SPEAKER_00]: So I think to just be a little bit more of an intellectual is probably best not to share things that you don't know 100% are real or fake.
47:04.862 --> 47:26.667
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, that's just what I'm doing because I don't ever want to look like I'm not an intellectual or not caring about spreading misinformation so I'm like, you know what if I can't tell Girl, I'm just not going to share it like I'm not going to be like hey look at this on my phone and then have everybody in the group you like girl, what are you talking about that.
47:33.269 --> 47:34.309
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my bad.
47:35.270 --> 47:37.572
[SPEAKER_00]: And there's nothing wrong with making mistakes, guys.
47:38.033 --> 47:43.638
[SPEAKER_00]: Even in a situation like that, you could be like, you know what, I should affect that before I showed it, shame on me.
47:43.998 --> 47:51.064
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you people respect you, but I've had people also double down and be like, this isn't AI, this is real.
47:51.525 --> 47:54.727
[SPEAKER_00]: And everybody in the group is like, hey, it's AI.
47:55.448 --> 48:01.412
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, so again, when you get into situations like that, it's just not a good look for the individual.
48:01.532 --> 48:03.234
[SPEAKER_00]: So just thought I would touch on that one.
48:04.174 --> 48:06.136
[SPEAKER_00]: Now let's talk about our last one.
48:06.156 --> 48:07.677
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, wait a minute.
48:07.697 --> 48:09.018
[SPEAKER_00]: This ain't our last one girl.
48:09.058 --> 48:10.118
[SPEAKER_00]: We still got a lot to do.
48:10.198 --> 48:10.639
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry.
48:10.659 --> 48:12.660
[SPEAKER_00]: This is number 12.
48:14.021 --> 48:17.423
[SPEAKER_00]: Beauty, grooming, and personal presentation.
48:17.584 --> 48:19.305
[SPEAKER_00]: This is going to be different for everybody.
48:19.825 --> 48:23.787
[SPEAKER_00]: However, there is more hard truth that we are going to have to accept.
48:24.907 --> 48:30.789
[SPEAKER_00]: You are not going to be seen as put together.
48:30.869 --> 48:41.313
[SPEAKER_00]: I'll just say put together, maybe confident, or sometimes even trustworthy if you have a really dishevel appearance all the time.
48:43.448 --> 48:48.152
[SPEAKER_00]: And I know that hurts because it hurts me too because I'm not put together all the time, y'all.
48:48.612 --> 48:50.313
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes I look a hotness.
48:50.774 --> 48:57.439
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of y'all saw me, I came on my green circle stories for my private group.
48:57.639 --> 49:00.501
[SPEAKER_00]: And I was just talking to you guys about a situation I was in.
49:01.161 --> 49:04.744
[SPEAKER_00]: And I looked at hot mess, like I did not look good.
49:05.525 --> 49:09.828
[SPEAKER_00]: It's okay to not look good sometimes, but the rule with this is like,
49:10.642 --> 49:13.804
[SPEAKER_00]: 75% of the time you want to look put together.
49:14.224 --> 49:18.606
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't want to look bad, 75% of the time.
49:19.086 --> 49:36.934
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that that remaining 25% like again, if you look good, 75% in the time, if somebody sees you on a 25% off day, it's not going to mean anything because it's like, oh, well, she's just rushing or maybe she's not feeling well today,
49:37.597 --> 49:57.592
[SPEAKER_00]: But when you constantly are kind of just red nose and crust in the eyes, bad breath, bad teeth, hygiene, you know, really, really dirty mouth, smell, bad clothes or disheveled, covered in hair, or...
49:58.312 --> 50:06.213
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, just stuff like that, it's just going to kind of start to give people a visual perception that might not be true.
50:06.413 --> 50:09.074
[SPEAKER_00]: It might just be that you are an intellectual.
50:09.094 --> 50:13.055
[SPEAKER_00]: You just don't care about putting yourself together that much.
50:13.115 --> 50:16.255
[SPEAKER_00]: Two things can be true at the same time, you know?
50:16.395 --> 50:23.436
[SPEAKER_00]: So, um, but again, think about how we're encouraged at our meetings, you know, to show up.
50:23.656 --> 50:27.197
[SPEAKER_00]: We don't show up, you know, with our PJs on or like,
50:27.598 --> 50:32.579
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, whatever, we're all supposed to be somewhat put together.
50:32.739 --> 50:36.820
[SPEAKER_00]: So I just try to mimic that in like my whole life.
50:37.980 --> 50:41.981
[SPEAKER_00]: I have places where I'm like, if I'm going to the grocery store, I don't care what I look like.
50:42.121 --> 50:43.121
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I literally don't care.
50:43.141 --> 50:44.001
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not putting on.
50:44.041 --> 50:46.221
[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to make up just to go to the grocery store.
50:46.762 --> 50:54.843
[SPEAKER_00]: But I know that if I'm at my meetings, if I'm at an assembly, or if I'm at a social gathering,
50:55.649 --> 51:00.353
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, I'm going to in those settings, try to put myself somewhat together.
51:00.493 --> 51:01.914
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to have on lashes.
51:01.974 --> 51:03.395
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have that BABY queen.
51:03.455 --> 51:09.579
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to have a full beat face and makeup, but I do need to have on clean, well-earned clothes.
51:10.020 --> 51:15.624
[SPEAKER_00]: I need to have clothes that fit my body in a appropriate way.
51:15.824 --> 51:17.265
[SPEAKER_00]: I need to smell good.
51:17.725 --> 51:23.690
[SPEAKER_00]: Smelling good is big, um, you know, not smelling like, I don't know.
51:24.118 --> 51:33.443
[SPEAKER_00]: cleaning products or the dog or the cat, um, you know, it, you just don't want to smell like you're like not fresh.
51:33.683 --> 51:36.985
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just not a good look, especially for us as females.
51:37.866 --> 51:47.191
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, it just isn't so given some some look to your social priests, you're how people perceive you socially based on your appearance.
51:47.917 --> 51:50.179
[SPEAKER_00]: um, it's something good to do.
51:50.519 --> 51:55.642
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, I personally think, you know, minimal makeup is good for most ladies.
51:55.902 --> 52:04.488
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, you know, I feel like a lot of people just subscribe to this idea, which is really not a, uh, well rounded idea.
52:04.608 --> 52:11.893
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel it kind of comes from the idea of, you know, kind of criminalizing femininity, like,
52:12.338 --> 52:16.199
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, this whole thing about, I've done videos on it, not wearing pink.
52:16.439 --> 52:19.140
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I would you wear pink and that's too.
52:21.701 --> 52:28.643
[SPEAKER_00]: So the idea of kind of like, you know, people kind of look down on people who they feel are too girly or too.
52:28.803 --> 52:33.744
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, you were wearing makeup all the time and oh, you look nice all the time.
52:34.244 --> 52:39.586
[SPEAKER_00]: Anytime you hear people kind of pick a net, you like that, they don't have
52:40.100 --> 52:50.105
[SPEAKER_00]: the social currency, they don't have the intellect to place value on looking nice.
52:50.306 --> 52:53.127
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to look perfect, but you do need to look nice.
52:53.667 --> 53:06.054
[SPEAKER_00]: So there's a lot we can say about that, but your presentation does make a difference, especially if you are a married woman, we have to consider that.
53:10.172 --> 53:38.017
[SPEAKER_00]: kind of enhance, you know, our husband's view of us, you know, just switching it up, looking into a little different, because then we feel cute and girly and they like when we feel cute and girly and did it, so again, this is not something about being perfect all the time, but we do need to give thought to how we look when we think of intellectual people, we think of people who are put together.
53:38.437 --> 53:39.157
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is,
53:40.381 --> 53:55.393
[SPEAKER_00]: This is a good way to illustrate the difference between someone who's just intelligent, thinking Albert Einstein, who was very distraveled and not together, but he had a high acute overall, and that's what some people that's all they care about.
53:55.433 --> 53:57.895
[SPEAKER_00]: But would you say he was also an intellectual?
53:57.975 --> 54:08.924
[SPEAKER_00]: No, Einstein had some very rude things to say about certain groups of people and had some really dumb things to say on other things, and that was because while he had a high IQ,
54:09.747 --> 54:13.968
[SPEAKER_00]: He was not an intellectual, okay?
54:13.988 --> 54:16.709
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, there's some people who are really smart.
54:17.669 --> 54:22.811
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe they feel they're too smart to put any work into their appearance.
54:22.851 --> 54:35.794
[SPEAKER_00]: But when you think again about someone who's an intellectual, maybe we could use, I don't know, maybe Michelle Obama as an illustration of that.
54:35.834 --> 54:36.734
[SPEAKER_00]: She's put together.
54:38.945 --> 54:43.706
[SPEAKER_00]: glam beat face all the time of makeup, but she does look put together.
54:43.966 --> 54:45.286
[SPEAKER_00]: She speaks well.
54:45.426 --> 54:46.847
[SPEAKER_00]: She respects people.
54:47.347 --> 54:51.688
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, she challenges, handles challenges with grace.
54:52.468 --> 54:58.589
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, she's someone who's been insulted a lot, but she's still able to, you know, speak with dignity and grace.
54:58.950 --> 54:59.950
[SPEAKER_00]: And all those things.
54:59.970 --> 55:00.870
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's kind of
55:01.257 --> 55:10.043
[SPEAKER_00]: how you can draw that comparison between being intelligent, having a high IQ, and being an intellectual.
55:10.363 --> 55:17.287
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, all right, let's talk about number 13, which is learning a second language.
55:17.307 --> 55:18.548
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes that can be cool.
55:18.588 --> 55:20.009
[SPEAKER_00]: This is kind of a bonus one.
55:20.089 --> 55:26.773
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think you literally have to know a different language to be an intellectual, but it's cool and it helps, I think,
55:27.533 --> 55:35.716
[SPEAKER_00]: It's cool because, you know, sometimes you can travel a bit more and you feel a little more secure because you know a second language.
55:36.096 --> 55:42.158
[SPEAKER_00]: Even if you don't know a full language, even if you know enough to get by, I know enough Spanish to get by.
55:42.458 --> 55:44.579
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't call me fluent, but I do know enough.
55:44.939 --> 55:46.161
[SPEAKER_00]: to get by.
55:47.162 --> 55:50.706
[SPEAKER_00]: So even that could be helpful, you know, people respond well to that.
55:50.726 --> 55:52.608
[SPEAKER_00]: They're like, oh my goodness, thank you so much.
55:52.648 --> 55:57.034
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm glad you knew a few languages because I didn't know what that person was talking about.
55:57.094 --> 55:58.695
[SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for helping me, you know?
55:59.016 --> 56:02.440
[SPEAKER_00]: So it just bridges the gap and understanding and communication.
56:02.870 --> 56:06.433
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's good to know a different language.
56:07.013 --> 56:09.455
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's talk about number 14.
56:10.456 --> 56:12.938
[SPEAKER_00]: Spent time around intelligent people.
56:13.519 --> 56:26.249
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, I would say, more so spent time, not just around intelligent, but intellectual people, because remember, the topic of our discussion today is intellectual people.
56:27.371 --> 56:39.739
[SPEAKER_00]: people who challenge or thinking as thoughtful questions, exposure to new ideas and information you didn't know, and who can disagree respectfully.
56:40.440 --> 56:45.203
[SPEAKER_00]: I love someone who can disagree on something respectfully.
56:46.164 --> 57:13.792
[SPEAKER_00]: I also kind of like somebody who can disagree disrespectfully, but it is a thousand times better when people can disagree respectfully, like when someone can say something and they leave kind of that person or that group like, oh, okay, all right, they don't agree, but I got their vibe, like I'm feeling it, I get why that's okay, I disagree, but I get it, you know, like
57:16.560 --> 57:27.242
[SPEAKER_00]: The reason you want this is because the this is the type of environment that pushes you to grow faster and intellectual development often happens socially, right.
57:28.062 --> 57:31.843
[SPEAKER_00]: So, um, this is something that I think is important.
57:31.883 --> 57:44.985
[SPEAKER_00]: We've all heard, you know, this this line here, you know, those having dealings with the stupid becomes stupid and those haven't dealing with the wise become wise, right.
57:45.335 --> 57:46.816
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's what we want.
57:46.856 --> 57:48.057
[SPEAKER_00]: We've all heard that before.
57:48.117 --> 57:49.478
[SPEAKER_00]: We've all learned that before.
57:50.138 --> 57:52.640
[SPEAKER_00]: So we want to do that.
57:53.180 --> 57:58.964
[SPEAKER_00]: So hang out with people who are kind of aligned with.
57:59.064 --> 58:12.373
[SPEAKER_00]: Some of those core things, your basic core beliefs and just people who subscribe to being intellectuals and everybody's gonna bring something different to the table.
58:12.943 --> 58:34.368
[SPEAKER_00]: So you might be one type of an intellectual and then this other person might be a different type of an intellectual and the next person is a different type of an intellectual, but you're all intellectuals meaning you all respect knowledge and learning and communicating effectively and so you're going to have these just very deep and meaningful conversations when that happens.
58:34.957 --> 58:37.558
[SPEAKER_00]: Again, this has become a rare and rare these days.
58:37.738 --> 58:46.823
[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like as a kid, I was sit back and I would listen to these beautifully intellectual conversations among other older people.
58:47.783 --> 58:51.245
[SPEAKER_00]: You're a kid so you're just kind of a fly on the wall hanging out.
58:52.906 --> 58:56.948
[SPEAKER_00]: But now I just feel like even older people are not as bright.
58:58.150 --> 59:08.299
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, and I think that's because now some of the older people like people who were older when we were like really really little, um, some of them had passed away now.
59:08.339 --> 59:16.786
[SPEAKER_00]: And so now people who are older, like, maybe they grew up more so in, like, modern time.
59:16.826 --> 59:24.072
[SPEAKER_00]: So they just are a little more self-focused and, you know, the older generation, maybe had more conversations with people.
59:24.112 --> 59:26.634
[SPEAKER_00]: So they learned more and they cared more about what was.
59:26.957 --> 59:28.081
[SPEAKER_00]: happening around them.
59:28.523 --> 59:32.537
[SPEAKER_00]: And so now, unfortunately, society is kind of trending down because
59:33.062 --> 01:00:02.629
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, just think about like the brand new babies now that are born and they have like all technology and stuff like what does that look like as an 80 year old person like let's just take a baby who's born in 2026 and they spend their life only watching my list TikTok videos like not reading a lot and only reading fiction and you know only just this very niche existence.
01:00:04.050 --> 01:00:11.655
[SPEAKER_00]: And then when they get 80, are they going to have wise things to say this to the talk about or the younger generations?
01:00:12.096 --> 01:00:14.878
[SPEAKER_00]: No, and so we kind of are already starting to see that.
01:00:15.358 --> 01:00:24.245
[SPEAKER_00]: And I just shake my head, like when I see a person that's like 80 years old and they just got the net, I'm just like, you know, I don't want to be that.
01:00:24.864 --> 01:00:28.987
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to be that 80 year old where people are like, oh my goodness, she is so amazing.
01:00:29.027 --> 01:00:40.336
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, she knows so much about life and has given me some really good advice than that 80 year old person's like, I don't know, I just, you know, just survive and did what I do.
01:00:40.536 --> 01:00:48.943
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, like, I hate when an older person says, I don't know, like, I know that might be weird, but I'm like, well, you should know.
01:00:49.823 --> 01:00:51.965
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, and there's a way to say you don't know
01:00:54.800 --> 01:00:57.482
[SPEAKER_00]: It's the turning office, the conversation.
01:00:57.822 --> 01:01:00.724
[SPEAKER_00]: You can say, well, that's something interesting that you share.
01:01:01.724 --> 01:01:05.106
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know about that, but I have come across this.
01:01:05.766 --> 01:01:10.569
[SPEAKER_00]: This might be something that was kind of a long of lines of what you're talking about.
01:01:12.170 --> 01:01:22.776
[SPEAKER_00]: But now I hear people who are that old, and they say they don't know, like a five-year-old says, I don't know, like if you ask a five-year-old something, hey, have you heard of this?
01:01:25.384 --> 01:01:33.247
[SPEAKER_00]: Now I talk to 80 years and they're like, I don't know, and they got nothing else to add beyond that.
01:01:33.447 --> 01:01:43.311
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm just like, so you've been on this planet 80 years and you just have not gathered much like it just I don't know.
01:01:43.431 --> 01:01:43.751
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
01:01:43.811 --> 01:01:44.172
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
01:01:44.232 --> 01:01:44.652
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
01:01:44.672 --> 01:01:44.932
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
01:01:44.952 --> 01:01:49.214
[SPEAKER_00]: And I again, people can have cognitive decline and that is okay, like, you know.
01:01:49.554 --> 01:01:52.555
[SPEAKER_00]: And again, we're not asking for perfection or anything like that.
01:01:53.232 --> 01:02:00.596
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're an older person and you do have your wits about you, you're still driving, you know, you're still, you know, I don't know all those things.
01:02:00.716 --> 01:02:04.659
[SPEAKER_00]: It's nice when you have something to share with the younger generations.
01:02:04.839 --> 01:02:05.339
[SPEAKER_00]: I love it.
01:02:05.839 --> 01:02:09.081
[SPEAKER_00]: Like I love listening to people's life experience.
01:02:09.161 --> 01:02:10.882
[SPEAKER_00]: Tell me what not to do what to do.
01:02:11.523 --> 01:02:15.605
[SPEAKER_00]: I've learned a lot that way by by listening with older people.
01:02:16.226 --> 01:02:19.507
[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, so spend time around.
01:02:19.688 --> 01:02:20.248
[SPEAKER_00]: I would say.
01:02:21.363 --> 01:02:30.228
[SPEAKER_00]: Intellectuals and older people who are dialed in, older people who care and have had an intellectual existence, right?
01:02:32.109 --> 01:02:47.558
[SPEAKER_00]: Finally, we are at our last one, 15, practice intellectual humility, so the key thing to be in an intellectual is understanding
01:02:47.955 --> 01:02:51.337
[SPEAKER_00]: that humility is what keeps learning alive.
01:02:52.358 --> 01:02:58.621
[SPEAKER_00]: People who feel that they know everything don't continue to seek out information.
01:02:59.542 --> 01:03:02.203
[SPEAKER_00]: They're like, oh, why would I bother have been there done that?
01:03:02.664 --> 01:03:08.507
[SPEAKER_00]: Whatever, arrogance kills growth, arrogance kills growth.
01:03:09.167 --> 01:03:13.870
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you're arrogant, you're not going to be an intellectual.
01:03:17.940 --> 01:03:21.322
[SPEAKER_00]: At any age, arrogance is just unappealing.
01:03:21.783 --> 01:03:23.764
[SPEAKER_00]: It just, like, really, really, really is.
01:03:24.144 --> 01:03:32.370
[SPEAKER_00]: And you can speak strongly and firmly, all why not being an arrogant with it.
01:03:32.670 --> 01:03:33.531
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
01:03:33.731 --> 01:03:45.779
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, some people take people who are able to be assertive and be firm and say what they mean to me what they say, they could take that as being arrogant.
01:03:48.027 --> 01:03:55.770
[SPEAKER_00]: being arrogant is simply thinking you are right all the time and your perspective is the only one that matters.
01:03:56.250 --> 01:04:04.773
[SPEAKER_00]: It has nothing to do with standing firm on things or being confident and what you say or being a leader.
01:04:05.473 --> 01:04:10.195
[SPEAKER_00]: It simply is thinking you're the only one that matters.
01:04:10.275 --> 01:04:11.636
[SPEAKER_00]: That is what arrogance is.
01:04:12.196 --> 01:04:14.957
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, two things can be true at the same time.
01:04:15.822 --> 01:04:23.028
[SPEAKER_00]: And what you don't want to do is ever simply feel like your opinion is the only one that matters.
01:04:23.629 --> 01:04:29.754
[SPEAKER_00]: And so that's why it is important to practice into actual intellectual humility.
01:04:30.535 --> 01:04:37.221
[SPEAKER_00]: It meeting uncertainties, being open to correction and changing your mind when presented with evidence.
01:04:37.781 --> 01:04:43.306
[SPEAKER_00]: There is nothing more on intellectual and on intelligent,
01:04:43.680 --> 01:05:09.304
[SPEAKER_00]: that someone then, excuse me, someone who is presented with evidence and still even with reputable sources, things that have been held to be true through research and literature, and they will still be like, oh no, that's not true.
01:05:11.550 --> 01:05:17.691
[SPEAKER_00]: like these kind of people are showing that they don't have reasoning ability, which we talked about.
01:05:18.812 --> 01:05:28.954
[SPEAKER_00]: And it's arrogant because they feel like even though they're presented with logical facts that whatever they heard or however they feel is just the end of all be all.
01:05:29.094 --> 01:05:30.414
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is very strange.
01:05:31.455 --> 01:05:33.195
[SPEAKER_00]: So when we can
01:05:34.525 --> 01:06:00.759
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, here's something from someone, maybe we never knew that and just thing essential oils is toxic, but someone presents information to you and a kind and positive way and doesn't force you to believe what they believe, but just as, hey, I'm just letting you know, like this is what I read on, you know, CDC and NIH, some people are really having some toxicology type issues with
01:06:01.328 --> 01:06:27.177
[SPEAKER_00]: with this like be careful and you go oh no it the whole CDC is corrupt and you know it's all a scam and a conspiracy and blotted out it out it out it out this is not someone you want to really you know and it's hard because we love everyone like we all have someone like that
01:06:31.362 --> 01:06:43.870
[SPEAKER_00]: in on certain things and they just don't want to hear what anyone has to say, and it's just so hard with these individuals because it's like, how do you think that this is okay, like, these are literal facts.
01:06:44.441 --> 01:07:05.512
[SPEAKER_00]: And you just choose to believe what you want to believe, you know, and because society has gotten so bad, I can kind of understand why people just are like I believe this and this is just how it's always been and I don't want to hear anything from anybody else I get why people are getting to that point or why people get to that point.
01:07:06.057 --> 01:07:21.869
[SPEAKER_00]: We could even use older people as an example, you know, some people just live their life, you know, a certain way and they just feel how they feel, you could show them evidence from any book or reputable organization and they are not going to hear it.
01:07:21.889 --> 01:07:27.693
[SPEAKER_00]: They don't care and they just rest on, hey, this is how it was since I was a little kid and I just don't care.
01:07:29.102 --> 01:07:41.537
[SPEAKER_00]: So I can understand that, but at the same time, is that really showing reasoning ability, which is one of the key cornerstones to being an intellectual, is it really,
01:07:44.372 --> 01:07:45.213
[SPEAKER_00]: It's really good.
01:07:45.774 --> 01:07:51.920
[SPEAKER_00]: It really just is, and you know, and so again, this is how we reveal the conversation who we are.
01:07:52.781 --> 01:07:57.507
[SPEAKER_00]: We all met this person that, you know, will be wrong and strong girl.
01:07:57.907 --> 01:08:00.650
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, they're real wrong and they're strong on it.
01:08:02.569 --> 01:08:06.130
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and it's just like you can't tell them nothing girl.
01:08:06.251 --> 01:08:07.671
[SPEAKER_00]: Like they don't want to hear it.
01:08:07.751 --> 01:08:14.894
[SPEAKER_00]: And like everybody in the group will be like, hey, you're wrong, hey, that ain't true.
01:08:15.114 --> 01:08:18.236
[SPEAKER_00]: And they will just die on that hill.
01:08:18.316 --> 01:08:20.817
[SPEAKER_00]: So it is what it is, girl.
01:08:20.857 --> 01:08:25.198
[SPEAKER_00]: But any who yikes, we have been on here for quite some time.
01:08:25.939 --> 01:08:28.980
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I should have just kept it at like five to six because
01:08:29.359 --> 01:08:32.902
[SPEAKER_00]: 15, it really puts us like into the time.
01:08:32.962 --> 01:08:35.284
[SPEAKER_00]: But, I mean, I'm happy.
01:08:35.665 --> 01:08:37.806
[SPEAKER_00]: I love talking about this stuff.
01:08:38.407 --> 01:08:41.109
[SPEAKER_00]: So, you know, it is what it is.
01:08:41.650 --> 01:08:43.792
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot more to say on this topic.
01:08:43.872 --> 01:08:46.434
[SPEAKER_00]: I think I will revisit this a couple of times.
01:08:46.934 --> 01:08:55.642
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you enjoyed this conversation, definitely subscribe because there are other tips to be in an intellectual that have nothing to do with any of the topics that I share today.
01:08:56.814 --> 01:09:04.455
[SPEAKER_00]: So I think I would like to explore some of those topics more because I just love when I could talk with intellectuals and
01:09:04.985 --> 01:09:07.526
[SPEAKER_00]: is it's just much more fun and meaningful for me.
01:09:07.566 --> 01:09:10.106
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you even get like better humor too.
01:09:10.666 --> 01:09:18.808
[SPEAKER_00]: Like people who, you know, they don't fill their heads with much information, they can't be as witty.
01:09:19.328 --> 01:09:27.050
[SPEAKER_00]: And like their humor is very much like centered around like bodily functions, like just really silly stuff.
01:09:27.090 --> 01:09:29.411
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, oh, so web paths, yeah, so it's really funny.
01:09:29.451 --> 01:09:32.391
[SPEAKER_00]: Like sometimes that's funny, but a lot of times,
01:09:35.172 --> 01:09:39.374
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, kind of, you know, off color like that.
01:09:40.995 --> 01:09:53.962
[SPEAKER_00]: When you're within electrical people, like they'll say something that a joke, like someone said a joke that was so funny and it was about like this guy who, oh, I'll give you an example.
01:09:54.002 --> 01:09:58.184
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you've ever seen the movie, I think it's called,
01:09:58.901 --> 01:10:11.768
[SPEAKER_00]: two-one clue or something like that and it has Robin Williams and he's talking to the three individuals at the table and he's like, oh, what do you want to do?
01:10:12.168 --> 01:10:16.790
[SPEAKER_00]: And then they're like saying things and he's like, oh, three sisters have check up.
01:10:17.511 --> 01:10:25.595
[SPEAKER_00]: Like if you didn't know who check up was, it's like this guy who he basically had like a three ring type thing going on with
01:10:26.007 --> 01:10:27.489
[SPEAKER_00]: this group of sisters.
01:10:27.509 --> 01:10:30.391
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think it was even adapted into like a play.
01:10:30.852 --> 01:10:32.494
[SPEAKER_00]: I believe it's from Russia.
01:10:32.514 --> 01:10:33.194
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't quote me.
01:10:33.294 --> 01:10:34.816
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm foggy on the details.
01:10:35.276 --> 01:10:38.700
[SPEAKER_00]: But someone who's an intellectual will get that joke.
01:10:39.948 --> 01:10:50.233
[SPEAKER_00]: but if you don't know anything about that, you won't get that joke, but it's okay not to get the joke, but the intellectual person, if they don't get the joke, they're the person that looks it up.
01:10:50.253 --> 01:10:51.854
[SPEAKER_00]: They're like, who's check off?
01:10:52.395 --> 01:10:57.677
[SPEAKER_00]: And they look it up, and then they're like, ha ha, that is literally hilarious, you know?
01:10:57.737 --> 01:10:59.979
[SPEAKER_00]: So that's a type of humor I like.
01:11:00.099 --> 01:11:06.882
[SPEAKER_00]: Like humor that's connected to different things in history, or science, or whatever,
01:11:08.615 --> 01:11:18.407
[SPEAKER_00]: So then the joke goes deeper like it's just so funny, you know, so anyway, I hope everybody got that example, but um, any who.
01:11:19.138 --> 01:11:20.880
[SPEAKER_00]: All right, ladies, I'm going to hop over here.
01:11:21.000 --> 01:11:23.983
[SPEAKER_00]: I ran my mouth about this a long time today.
01:11:24.083 --> 01:11:27.187
[SPEAKER_00]: So I appreciate the list and the share.
01:11:27.627 --> 01:11:32.633
[SPEAKER_00]: I do have a short that I'm going to be posting that I'll just touch on the main five things.
01:11:32.673 --> 01:11:36.317
[SPEAKER_00]: So if you haven't seen that short, head over to my YouTube and check out the short.
01:11:37.418 --> 01:11:38.539
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'll see you next time.
01:11:38.719 --> 01:11:39.060
[SPEAKER_00]: Bye-bye.
01:11:39.540 --> 01:11:41.521
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry to interrupt, but it's important.
01:11:41.802 --> 01:11:49.887
[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Work at Lady Podcast, where it's time to put it in the work, regarding educating yourself on all areas of your health and well-being.
01:11:50.227 --> 01:11:56.211
[SPEAKER_00]: At Work at Lady Podcast, we are dedicated to empowering women to take control of their health and mental well-being.
01:11:56.652 --> 01:12:08.800
[SPEAKER_00]: Our mission is to provide women with the knowledge, inspiration, and tools needed to transform their lives from improving nutrition and fitness, navigating womanhood, and if you're a mom, excelling at motherhood.
01:12:09.180 --> 01:12:09.781
[SPEAKER_00]: Step 1.
01:12:10.081 --> 01:12:11.083
[SPEAKER_00]: Like this episode.
01:12:11.344 --> 01:12:11.965
[SPEAKER_00]: Step 2.
01:12:12.265 --> 01:12:15.590
[SPEAKER_00]: Share it with someone you love and even the haters they need help to.
01:12:16.271 --> 01:12:16.872
[SPEAKER_00]: Step 3.
01:12:16.973 --> 01:12:18.435
[SPEAKER_00]: Subscribe on podcasts.
01:12:18.535 --> 01:12:19.797
[SPEAKER_00]: Subscribe on YouTube.
01:12:20.078 --> 01:12:23.543
[SPEAKER_00]: Join our mailing list to stay in the loop on classes and events.
01:12:24.144 --> 01:12:26.728
[SPEAKER_00]: I am so happy you made it here, girl.
01:12:27.209 --> 01:12:27.770
[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.