ABOUT THIS EPISODE
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Welcome to today's episode! In this video, I share the one big mistake most partners make when an avoidant comes back, and the best way to respond instead. As a former avoidant who came back multiple times, I explain why taking them back with open arms only signals you still will not stand up for yourself, and why their return is always a test. I break down the three reasons avoidants come back, from being thirsty for love, to wanting closeness from a safe distance, to actually having done the work. The best response is to stay steady, keep building your own life, and ask one real question: why are you coming back? Then the real test begins.
► Links and Resources:
The 3 Reasons Avoidants Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4umBMT2pBpY&t=12s
Why Avoidants Don't Know Their Needs Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YoerBrHSdUI
How an Avoidant Sees a Healthy Relationship Video: https://youtu.be/6bFFqAAWobU?si=X0bAP0bkaHqb7nmr
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► Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
00:48 The Pain Avoidants Cause
04:14 The Big Mistake Most Partners Make
05:50 When They Return, You Have the Power
06:16 The 3 Reasons They Come Back
10:52 The Best Response When They Return
13:23 The One Question to Ask
16:01 The Real Test Begins
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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.
I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
