ABOUT THIS EPISODE
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Welcome to today's episode! In this video, I share five things an avoidant partner does when they are secretly in love with you but cannot show it, from my own perspective as a recovered avoidant. I explain why love, closeness and vulnerability feel dangerous to them, using the image of real feelings buried under a pile of poop, their protection strategies and childhood trauma. Then I walk through the five signs, from keeping coming back and showing love through actions, to getting triggered by you and hiding their fear of losing you. In the end I explain why you should not always accept this incomplete love, because you deserve someone who is willing to do the work.
► Links and Resources:
Why Avoidants Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7kGDhim-YlY&t=34s
My Moment of Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=79s
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► Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
01:03 Why Avoidants Hide Their Love
06:18 Sign 1: They Keep Coming Back
10:08 Sign 2: They Show Love Through Actions
12:02 Sign 3: They Stay in Contact Even When It Is Hard
13:42 Sign 4: You Trigger Them
14:52 Sign 5: Hidden Jealousy and Fear of Losing You
19:53 Why You Should Not Always Accept Their Love
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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.
I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
