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We're not always in a state of panic.
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We're not always in a state where we can't control our emotions.
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But anytime you're dealing with some challenge that brings on a state of fear or anxiety or makes you sad, all you want to do is get out of that state.
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So you're constantly just thinking, how do I get out of this?
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You can't do a real assessment of your life that has any real quality to it.
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Why?
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Because it is impacted, it is impeded by those negative thoughts.
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I don't care who you are, I don't care how powerful your thought processes are, I don't care how in control you are on every other day.
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But when you are in a state of depression, anxiety, and despair, forget about it.
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Don't even try.
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First, you have to get yourself into a position of joy.
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Not when you're in a state of despair.
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You can't build.
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Now I'm in a good place.
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So now let me work on myself.
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The trust factor is a ticket to a better life.
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The trust factor shows you how to get through the life.
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Good morning, everybody.
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Welcome to another episode of the Trust Factor Podcast.
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Yesterday we had some unbelievable lessons worth repeating.
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Repetition is key, by the way.
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I want to give you a little bit of insight.
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I told you yesterday, and I've told you many times, Gemara for me, learning Gemara, is spectacularly difficult, as it is for so many people, and for good reason, because it's an entirely new language, there's no punctuation, it's high-level ideas, it's it's verbiage that stems from thousands of years ago, where people generally spoke differently.
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So it's very, very difficult to get these ideas.
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And for me, I'm no exception.
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Now, there was one program that I became a part of called Kenyan Masekta in Toronto.
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And it was easily the most progress that I had ever made in learning Gemara.
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What's the key?
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What's the difference between Kenyan Masekta and all the other times that I've tried to learn by so many different people?
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Here it is.
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Repetition.
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That's it.
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The whole idea behind Kenyan Masekta, the whole idea behind Gemara, the whole idea behind learning is that after you've learned a principle, you need to take it home with you and review.
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Every time I would learn with somebody, that person would ultimately finish the class by saying, go home and review.
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And what would happen?
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Nothing.
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Nobody would go home and review because we're too busy.
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Life gets in the way.
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If we're not going to review it there and then, it's never going to be reviewed.
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So this whole program is built on repetition.
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This whole program starts by coming in, learning the idea, not a lot, not quantity, but quality.
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Learn a few lines, learn it in the Aramaic, the text that it's written in, then translate it to Hebrew or English, whatever you're comfortable with, and then repeat it again.
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This is somebody who's leading the class.
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Repeat it a few times so that everybody gets it, explaining it.
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Then we would break off into groups, two at a time, and each person would give it over in the original text, the language, and then in English, and explain it.
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So one person would give it over, the other person would give it over, then the other person, and it'd go back and forth a couple times each person.
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Then they would come back together as a group and repeat it again.
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Okay, so you've had the leader of the group read it and explain it in Aramaic and in English at least two or three times.
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Then again, four or five times one-on-one with another person, and then again as a group once we review it.
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Now, that was one day over an hour.
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Think about how many repetitions you had there.
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Then we would come back again and review it the next day.
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Before we would get into the new content, we would review yesterday's content.
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All that repetition was the only reason why I had so much success.
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And you look around today, that program is massively, massively successful.
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The idea being, just like homework, when you go to school and you learn, your teacher gives you homework.
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Why?
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So you can go home and repeat, review.
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It's critically important.
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So we're talking about unbelievable ideas over here.
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We can't just let them pass.
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Can't just let these gems of ideas that are life-changing ideas pass without reviewing them again and again and again, which we've done generally in this book, right?
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A lot of the ideas aren't novel.
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We're just reviewing them or repeating them in different contexts.
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Let's review what we talked about yesterday because it was unbelievable.
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The creator's principal complaint against a person is why are you sad?
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Think about that.
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We talked about Cain and Abel.
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The guy just committed the first murder in human history that came out of despair and depression.
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Hashem could have had serious complaints against him.
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Why didn't you bring the right sacrifice?
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Why didn't you take time and be more careful?
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Why didn't you give the choicest of your offerings?
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Why didn't you pray to me?
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Why didn't you connect with me?
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Why didn't you do all these different things?
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Why didn't you learn more?
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There could have been so many different complaints that Hashem could have had against him, but his number one complaint was, why has your countenance fallen?
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Why are you depressed?
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That is the danger.
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The danger is not that you're going to sin.
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Nobody wants to sin.
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Nobody wants to do anything bad.
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But we've learnt already many times that it's unavoidable.
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I don't care who you are, I don't care how big a rabbi you are, I don't care how righteous you are and how long you've been learning for.
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Every human being is going to make mistakes on a regular basis.
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The more you learn, the more you grow, the harder you try, the fewer you will make.
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But it takes time.
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That means you're going to spend a lifetime making mistakes.
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And it's perfectly normal as long as we recover, as long as we do chuva and we come back from it, we feel bad about it and we make plans to never repeat it.
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And when you do repeat it, you get right back up because the risk is that you fall and you stay down.
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You become depressed and despondent.
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And Hashem will have a major complaint against you to say, why are you not getting up?
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Why have you fallen and become depressed?
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What is with the sadness?
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That is the major complaint that Hashem has.
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It's an unbelievable lesson for every single one of us.
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What does it tell you?
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It tells you that Hashem is much more concerned with you as an individual, with your emotional and physical well-being than he is with any single mitzvah.
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As important as the mitzvahs are, as important as the commandments are, they are the bedrock of our existence.
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As important as they are, they all go by the wayside when?
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When Hashem is worried about you and your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.
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How do we know this?
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Aside from what I just told you, there's an idea in Torah, pikuach nefeshtochat kolha Torah kulah, that a life risk, a threat that somebody may die as a result of an illness or an injury, takes the entire Torah and puts it on hold.
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The idea being that Hashem says, I'm giving you these mitzvahs so that you should live by them, not die by them, that somebody should be foolish enough to think I'm not going to drive myself to the hospital or drop, jump in a car and get driven to the hospital when God forbid I have a major illness or injury that happens on Shabbat or on a Yom Kippur.
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It's ridiculous.
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Hashem says, get in the car and get to the hospital.
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Not only do you need to do it, but it's a mitzvah.
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What would normally become an averah, a sin, gets turned into a mitzvah.
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Why?
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Because you're going to live another day, to be able to do more of the commandments, to be able to become a better individual in this life.
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If you're dead, you're not good to anybody, including yourself and to Hashem.
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There's no mitzvahs that can be done from the grave.
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So Hashem says, if you're sick, if God forbid there's a chance that you could end up in serious, serious trouble from this illness or accident, put the Torah on the shelf.
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Put it away.
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Doesn't exist.
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Today is not Shabbat, it's Wednesday.
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You go out and do whatever you need to do to make sure that you survive.
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Obviously, you need to speak to a rabbi over here because you need to know how to do this and make sure that you're doing it correctly.
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But the idea being that Hashem says, I'm willing to put everything on hold for you to become healthy and happy.
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Hashem says, Why are you depressed?
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That is the problem.
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Not why did you do the sin?
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Not why didn't you pray more?
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None of those things were what he complained about.
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The only complaint was, why are you sad?
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Let's move forward.
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Because the opposite of that is what we need to be striving for.
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And that's what he starts with.
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He says, Penitence is joy.
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Here's another important rule.
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You ready?
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Penitence, thuva, is only possible when done in joy.
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Nachman of Brezlev teaches that a sad person loses control over his thought process.
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We've talked about this.
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He cannot attain a measure of mental composure where he can take stock of himself.
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If you're so wrapped up in the negative that's surrounding you, your mind is simply too preoccupied that you cannot function properly.
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A person must compose himself and ponder where all the lusts and physical amenities that he seeks to gratify are taking him.
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What's going on over here?
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Why am I sad?
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Why am I feeling this way?
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Once he is happy, he can properly assess himself and get close to the Creator.
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That's why joy is the key that releases him from the mental and emotional prison that he's in.
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I want to give you an example, a real life example.
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Many, many years ago, 20 years ago, I had a close family member who was dealing with a lot of emotional difficulties, challenges, depression, anxiety, severe, to the point where I had to take him to a hospital, a mental health facility in Toronto.
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And I remember going there and he was in a very, very bad state.
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And when we got to the hospital, I was concerned that the doctor wasn't properly assessing him.
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The doctor was sitting in his office.
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This individual who I was with was having a complete breakdown.
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Face was red, beat red, couldn't control himself, was on pins and needles, couldn't sit still for a second, and the doctor wasn't addressing him.
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And I said to the doctor, doc, maybe you could do something over here.
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Maybe you can have a conversation with him.
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And so the first thing the doctor did was he gave a medication, a very, very powerful sedative.
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And only afterwards I understood, because the doctor told me that there is no sense in even trying, in even attempting to help this individual in the state that he's currently in.
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Why?
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Because you will not penetrate, you cannot get through.
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There will be zero progress.
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You simply can't do it.
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First, you need to bring him down.
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First, you need to bring him into a place where he can absorb the information, where he's in control of his faculties.
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Only then can you have a reasonable conversation with him.
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It's exactly what he's saying over here.
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Now, we're not always in a state of panic.
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We're not always in a state where we can't control our emotions.
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But anytime you're dealing with some challenge that brings on a state of fear or anxiety or makes you sad, all you want to do is get out of that state.
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So you're constantly just thinking, how do I get out of this?
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So you can't focus on all the good that's coming your way.
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You can't do a real assessment of your life that has any real quality to it.
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Why?
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Because it is impacted, it is impeded by those negative thoughts.
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I don't care who you are, I don't care how powerful your thought processes are, I don't care how in control you are on every other day, any other given day.
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But when you are in a state of depression, anxiety, and despair, forget about it.
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Don't even try.
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So first you have to get yourself into a position of joy.
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When you find yourself in that position of joy, when you realize that I'm in a good place right now, that is precisely when you start to build, not when you're in a state of despair.
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You can't build.
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So when you find yourself in that position, know that that's your opportunity.
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Now I'm in a good place.
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So now let me work on myself.
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You're never going to do it when you're in a state of depression.
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By way of joy, he is a free man and no longer a slave to the evil inclination.
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Think about it.
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We said not long ago that the number one tool that the evil inclination has to keep us under his thumb, to keep us in a state of constant misery, to keep us from growing, is what?
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Depression is taking your failures or your perceived failures and making them plentiful so that eventually you throw in the towel and say, I'm no good, and remain in a depressed state.
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That's his number one tool that gives him a victory over us.
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So what's the opposite?
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So what's the sword that we can use to chop his head off?
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It's very simple.
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It's joy.
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As long as you're happy, which is the opposite of depressed, he has no power over you.
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He cannot control you.
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If you're not happy, then he has an opening.
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That's the opportunity that you're giving him.
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You want to keep him away, remain happy.
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Joy terminates his emotional exile.
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With the above in mind, Nachman of Brazil testifies that even if he would commit the worst sin in the world, he wouldn't fall into despair and depression.
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He simply picks himself up, repents, and moves forward with joy.
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Now, very important to stop over here and give you a caveat.
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Very, very important.
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A lot of people, a lot of rabbis, big rabbis, will take exception to this.
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A lot of people have a real problem with this.
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Why?
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What's so bad about it?
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That you're encouraging somebody that no matter how bad the sin is that you've done, you can always recover, you can always bounce back from it and move forward.
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Should be nothing wrong with that.
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A lot of people have a hard time with it.
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Why?
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Because this suggestion can be taken to an extreme.
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I want to clarify.
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We're not talking about extreme scenarios.
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There are people in the world who have sick souls.
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They're called cholenefish.
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Their soul is sick.
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It's unfortunately very common.
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How does a soul become sick if you avoid Torah?
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If you don't learn, if you're not trying to grow, if you're not actively pursuing the goodness that we find in the Torah and you're avoiding it, that means you're depleting your soul of its nourishment, of the food, the fuel that it needs in order to be healthy, eventually your soul becomes sick.
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That's why you see people later on in life where things are falling apart around them and they become morally decrepit.
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Why?
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Because their soul is sick.
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It's called a cholet nefesh.
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So we're not talking about a cholet nefesh.
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We're not talking about somebody who's operating in the extremes.
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Those people need to seek help and they need to do it quickly.
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They need to seek help for their soul.
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They need to find a qualified rabbi who is not so easy to find because this rabbi has to be somebody who specializes in healing the soul.
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There are many out there, but you have to know where to find them, and work on healing your soul.
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If you're a chalene afish, and again, there are many, you have to focus on fixing and healing your soul.
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That's number one.
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So we're not talking about those people.
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We're talking about the masses, which, thank God, are not sick souls.
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We're talking about most people who are having a hard time, who have neglected their nishamas, they haven't been doing the right things.
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Maybe they've been dabbling a little bit, but generally they're good people, they're pointed in the right direction, but they're having a hard time.
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They're not being guided by the Torah, they're being guided by secular principles.
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So there's nishamah are suffering.
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There's no question.
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And the nishama is not getting the nourishment that it needs.
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Maybe it gets a little bit here, a little bit there, maybe it gets a different form of nourishment, but it's not the right kind of nourishment.
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Those are the people that we're talking about.
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How do we take your life to the next level?
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How do we put you on the right rails?
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That's exactly what this book is talking about and referring to.
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So, yeah, so if you're generally a good person, if you're generally the type of person who wants to do good and wants to avoid bad, you want to seek out truth and you want to avoid the lies, that's the life that you want to live.
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When you hear that, it's it gets something stirring inside of you.
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And when you see negativity and cheating and scam artists and liars and cheaters, you want to go the other way.
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That's who you are, that's how you're programmed.
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So now the book comes to tell you, of Nachman of Brezlev comes to tell you, you made a mistake and it was a bad mistake.
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It was a terrible mistake, and you should have avoided it at all costs.
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But you know what?
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It happened.
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It happened.
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It's not who you are, it's not what you're programmed like, it's the exact opposite.
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It happens, it happens to everybody.
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It doesn't matter, he says, how bad it is, you pick yourself up and you move forward.
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You remind yourself who you are, who Hashem is, that you have an evil inclination, and that Hashem wants you to pick yourself up.
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And if he didn't want you to pick yourself up and dust yourself off, he simply would have not woken you up today.
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There's a million different ways for him to make sure that you don't exist today.
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If he woke you up, it's because you need to be here.
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There is something that you need to do.
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And if you're busy carrying around the baggage from the thing that you did that was so bad, you're never going to achieve what you need to do.
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So again, even if he would commit the worst sin in the world, he would not fall into despair and depression.
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If you're constantly repeating the same evil sin, if you're constantly doing the worst thing in the world, time for reflection.
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Maybe you do have a sick soul.
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Maybe it's time to seek out real professional help.
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But we're not talking about that.
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We're talking about the good person who generally wants to do good, who made a mistake.
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And it doesn't matter how bad that mistake is.
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You pick up and you move forward.
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More than anything, people have difficulty in dealing with their setbacks and lack of success.
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Nachman's advice is once again to focus on the good that we find in ourselves, for there's no one alive that doesn't have good points.
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This helps us to uplift ourselves and joy.
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Focus on the good in your life.
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Hyper focus on the good in your life.
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Hyper focus on the good character traits that you have.
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Don't belittle them.
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Don't think everybody else can do this.
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Everybody else has this ability.
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Everybody else can do what I can do.
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No.
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You can do it, and that's enough for you to be grateful, eternally grateful for the amazing character traits that you have and that you employ in this world.
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By bringing that good into the world, you are changing the world.
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You're creating good positive angels that will come to not only your defense in the next world after 120 years, but will actively help to improve the state of this world for generations to come.
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Have an amazing day, my friends.
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We'll chat again tomorrow.
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I'm Jesse Revivo, and this has been the Trust Factor Podcast.
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Thanks for listening.
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We're not always in a state of panic.
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We're not always in a state where we can't control our emotions.
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But anytime you're dealing with some challenge that brings on a state of fear or anxiety or makes you sad, all you want to do is get out of that state.
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So you're constantly just thinking, how do I get out of this?
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You can't do a real assessment of your life that has any real quality to it.
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Why?
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Because it is impacted, it is impeded by those negative thoughts.
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I don't care who you are, I don't care how powerful your thought processes are, I don't care how in control you are on every other day.
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But when you are in a state of depression, anxiety, and despair, forget about it.
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Don't even try.
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First, you have to get yourself into a position of joy.
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Not when you're in a state of despair.
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You can't build.
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Now I'm in a good place.
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So now let me work on myself.
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The trust factor is a ticket to a better life.
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The trust factor shows you how to get through the life.
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Good morning, everybody.
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Welcome to another episode of the Trust Factor Podcast.
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Yesterday we had some unbelievable lessons worth repeating.
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Repetition is key, by the way.
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I want to give you a little bit of insight.
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I told you yesterday, and I've told you many times, Gemara for me, learning Gemara, is spectacularly difficult, as it is for so many people, and for good reason, because it's an entirely new language, there's no punctuation, it's high-level ideas, it's it's verbiage that stems from thousands of years ago, where people generally spoke differently.
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So it's very, very difficult to get these ideas.
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And for me, I'm no exception.
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Now, there was one program that I became a part of called Kenyan Masekta in Toronto.
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And it was easily the most progress that I had ever made in learning Gemara.
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What's the key?
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What's the difference between Kenyan Masekta and all the other times that I've tried to learn by so many different people?
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Here it is.
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Repetition.
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That's it.
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The whole idea behind Kenyan Masekta, the whole idea behind Gemara, the whole idea behind learning is that after you've learned a principle, you need to take it home with you and review.
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Every time I would learn with somebody, that person would ultimately finish the class by saying, go home and review.
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And what would happen?
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Nothing.
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Nobody would go home and review because we're too busy.
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Life gets in the way.
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If we're not going to review it there and then, it's never going to be reviewed.
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So this whole program is built on repetition.
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This whole program starts by coming in, learning the idea, not a lot, not quantity, but quality.
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Learn a few lines, learn it in the Aramaic, the text that it's written in, then translate it to Hebrew or English, whatever you're comfortable with, and then repeat it again.
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This is somebody who's leading the class.
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Repeat it a few times so that everybody gets it, explaining it.
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Then we would break off into groups, two at a time, and each person would give it over in the original text, the language, and then in English, and explain it.
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So one person would give it over, the other person would give it over, then the other person, and it'd go back and forth a couple times each person.
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Then they would come back together as a group and repeat it again.
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Okay, so you've had the leader of the group read it and explain it in Aramaic and in English at least two or three times.
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Then again, four or five times one-on-one with another person, and then again as a group once we review it.
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Now, that was one day over an hour.
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Think about how many repetitions you had there.
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Then we would come back again and review it the next day.
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Before we would get into the new content, we would review yesterday's content.
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All that repetition was the only reason why I had so much success.
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And you look around today, that program is massively, massively successful.
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The idea being, just like homework, when you go to school and you learn, your teacher gives you homework.
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Why?
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So you can go home and repeat, review.
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It's critically important.
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So we're talking about unbelievable ideas over here.
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We can't just let them pass.
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Can't just let these gems of ideas that are life-changing ideas pass without reviewing them again and again and again, which we've done generally in this book, right?
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A lot of the ideas aren't novel.
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We're just reviewing them or repeating them in different contexts.
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Let's review what we talked about yesterday because it was unbelievable.
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The creator's principal complaint against a person is why are you sad?
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Think about that.
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We talked about Cain and Abel.
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The guy just committed the first murder in human history that came out of despair and depression.
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Hashem could have had serious complaints against him.
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Why didn't you bring the right sacrifice?
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Why didn't you take time and be more careful?
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Why didn't you give the choicest of your offerings?
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Why didn't you pray to me?
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Why didn't you connect with me?
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Why didn't you do all these different things?
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Why didn't you learn more?
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There could have been so many different complaints that Hashem could have had against him, but his number one complaint was, why has your countenance fallen?
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Why are you depressed?
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That is the danger.
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The danger is not that you're going to sin.
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Nobody wants to sin.
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Nobody wants to do anything bad.
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But we've learnt already many times that it's unavoidable.
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I don't care who you are, I don't care how big a rabbi you are, I don't care how righteous you are and how long you've been learning for.
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Every human being is going to make mistakes on a regular basis.
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The more you learn, the more you grow, the harder you try, the fewer you will make.
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But it takes time.
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That means you're going to spend a lifetime making mistakes.
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And it's perfectly normal as long as we recover, as long as we do chuva and we come back from it, we feel bad about it and we make plans to never repeat it.
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And when you do repeat it, you get right back up because the risk is that you fall and you stay down.
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You become depressed and despondent.
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And Hashem will have a major complaint against you to say, why are you not getting up?
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Why have you fallen and become depressed?
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What is with the sadness?
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That is the major complaint that Hashem has.
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It's an unbelievable lesson for every single one of us.
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What does it tell you?
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It tells you that Hashem is much more concerned with you as an individual, with your emotional and physical well-being than he is with any single mitzvah.
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As important as the mitzvahs are, as important as the commandments are, they are the bedrock of our existence.
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As important as they are, they all go by the wayside when?
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When Hashem is worried about you and your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.
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How do we know this?
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Aside from what I just told you, there's an idea in Torah, pikuach nefeshtochat kolha Torah kulah, that a life risk, a threat that somebody may die as a result of an illness or an injury, takes the entire Torah and puts it on hold.
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The idea being that Hashem says, I'm giving you these mitzvahs so that you should live by them, not die by them, that somebody should be foolish enough to think I'm not going to drive myself to the hospital or drop, jump in a car and get driven to the hospital when God forbid I have a major illness or injury that happens on Shabbat or on a Yom Kippur.
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It's ridiculous.
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Hashem says, get in the car and get to the hospital.
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Not only do you need to do it, but it's a mitzvah.
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What would normally become an averah, a sin, gets turned into a mitzvah.
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Why?
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Because you're going to live another day, to be able to do more of the commandments, to be able to become a better individual in this life.
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If you're dead, you're not good to anybody, including yourself and to Hashem.
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There's no mitzvahs that can be done from the grave.
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So Hashem says, if you're sick, if God forbid there's a chance that you could end up in serious, serious trouble from this illness or accident, put the Torah on the shelf.
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Put it away.
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Doesn't exist.
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Today is not Shabbat, it's Wednesday.
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You go out and do whatever you need to do to make sure that you survive.
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Obviously, you need to speak to a rabbi over here because you need to know how to do this and make sure that you're doing it correctly.
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But the idea being that Hashem says, I'm willing to put everything on hold for you to become healthy and happy.
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Hashem says, Why are you depressed?
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That is the problem.
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Not why did you do the sin?
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Not why didn't you pray more?
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None of those things were what he complained about.
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The only complaint was, why are you sad?
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Let's move forward.
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Because the opposite of that is what we need to be striving for.
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And that's what he starts with.
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He says, Penitence is joy.
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Here's another important rule.
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You ready?
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Penitence, thuva, is only possible when done in joy.
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Nachman of Brezlev teaches that a sad person loses control over his thought process.
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We've talked about this.
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He cannot attain a measure of mental composure where he can take stock of himself.
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If you're so wrapped up in the negative that's surrounding you, your mind is simply too preoccupied that you cannot function properly.
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A person must compose himself and ponder where all the lusts and physical amenities that he seeks to gratify are taking him.
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What's going on over here?
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Why am I sad?
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Why am I feeling this way?
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Once he is happy, he can properly assess himself and get close to the Creator.
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That's why joy is the key that releases him from the mental and emotional prison that he's in.
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I want to give you an example, a real life example.
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Many, many years ago, 20 years ago, I had a close family member who was dealing with a lot of emotional difficulties, challenges, depression, anxiety, severe, to the point where I had to take him to a hospital, a mental health facility in Toronto.
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And I remember going there and he was in a very, very bad state.
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And when we got to the hospital, I was concerned that the doctor wasn't properly assessing him.
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The doctor was sitting in his office.
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This individual who I was with was having a complete breakdown.
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Face was red, beat red, couldn't control himself, was on pins and needles, couldn't sit still for a second, and the doctor wasn't addressing him.
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And I said to the doctor, doc, maybe you could do something over here.
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Maybe you can have a conversation with him.
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And so the first thing the doctor did was he gave a medication, a very, very powerful sedative.
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And only afterwards I understood, because the doctor told me that there is no sense in even trying, in even attempting to help this individual in the state that he's currently in.
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Why?
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Because you will not penetrate, you cannot get through.
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There will be zero progress.
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You simply can't do it.
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First, you need to bring him down.
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First, you need to bring him into a place where he can absorb the information, where he's in control of his faculties.
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Only then can you have a reasonable conversation with him.
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It's exactly what he's saying over here.
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Now, we're not always in a state of panic.
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We're not always in a state where we can't control our emotions.
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But anytime you're dealing with some challenge that brings on a state of fear or anxiety or makes you sad, all you want to do is get out of that state.
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So you're constantly just thinking, how do I get out of this?
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So you can't focus on all the good that's coming your way.
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You can't do a real assessment of your life that has any real quality to it.
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Why?
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Because it is impacted, it is impeded by those negative thoughts.
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I don't care who you are, I don't care how powerful your thought processes are, I don't care how in control you are on every other day, any other given day.
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But when you are in a state of depression, anxiety, and despair, forget about it.
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Don't even try.
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So first you have to get yourself into a position of joy.
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When you find yourself in that position of joy, when you realize that I'm in a good place right now, that is precisely when you start to build, not when you're in a state of despair.
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You can't build.
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So when you find yourself in that position, know that that's your opportunity.
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Now I'm in a good place.
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So now let me work on myself.
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You're never going to do it when you're in a state of depression.
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By way of joy, he is a free man and no longer a slave to the evil inclination.
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Think about it.
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We said not long ago that the number one tool that the evil inclination has to keep us under his thumb, to keep us in a state of constant misery, to keep us from growing, is what?
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Depression is taking your failures or your perceived failures and making them plentiful so that eventually you throw in the towel and say, I'm no good, and remain in a depressed state.
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That's his number one tool that gives him a victory over us.
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So what's the opposite?
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So what's the sword that we can use to chop his head off?
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It's very simple.
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It's joy.
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As long as you're happy, which is the opposite of depressed, he has no power over you.
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He cannot control you.
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If you're not happy, then he has an opening.
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That's the opportunity that you're giving him.
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You want to keep him away, remain happy.
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Joy terminates his emotional exile.
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With the above in mind, Nachman of Brazil testifies that even if he would commit the worst sin in the world, he wouldn't fall into despair and depression.
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He simply picks himself up, repents, and moves forward with joy.
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Now, very important to stop over here and give you a caveat.
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Very, very important.
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A lot of people, a lot of rabbis, big rabbis, will take exception to this.
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A lot of people have a real problem with this.
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Why?
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What's so bad about it?
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That you're encouraging somebody that no matter how bad the sin is that you've done, you can always recover, you can always bounce back from it and move forward.
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Should be nothing wrong with that.
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A lot of people have a hard time with it.
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Why?
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Because this suggestion can be taken to an extreme.
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I want to clarify.
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We're not talking about extreme scenarios.
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There are people in the world who have sick souls.
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They're called cholenefish.
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Their soul is sick.
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It's unfortunately very common.
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How does a soul become sick if you avoid Torah?
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If you don't learn, if you're not trying to grow, if you're not actively pursuing the goodness that we find in the Torah and you're avoiding it, that means you're depleting your soul of its nourishment, of the food, the fuel that it needs in order to be healthy, eventually your soul becomes sick.
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That's why you see people later on in life where things are falling apart around them and they become morally decrepit.
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Why?
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Because their soul is sick.
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It's called a cholet nefesh.
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So we're not talking about a cholet nefesh.
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We're not talking about somebody who's operating in the extremes.
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Those people need to seek help and they need to do it quickly.
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They need to seek help for their soul.
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They need to find a qualified rabbi who is not so easy to find because this rabbi has to be somebody who specializes in healing the soul.
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There are many out there, but you have to know where to find them, and work on healing your soul.
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If you're a chalene afish, and again, there are many, you have to focus on fixing and healing your soul.
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That's number one.
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So we're not talking about those people.
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We're talking about the masses, which, thank God, are not sick souls.
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We're talking about most people who are having a hard time, who have neglected their nishamas, they haven't been doing the right things.
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Maybe they've been dabbling a little bit, but generally they're good people, they're pointed in the right direction, but they're having a hard time.
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They're not being guided by the Torah, they're being guided by secular principles.
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So there's nishamah are suffering.
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There's no question.
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And the nishama is not getting the nourishment that it needs.
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Maybe it gets a little bit here, a little bit there, maybe it gets a different form of nourishment, but it's not the right kind of nourishment.
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Those are the people that we're talking about.
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How do we take your life to the next level?
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How do we put you on the right rails?
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That's exactly what this book is talking about and referring to.
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So, yeah, so if you're generally a good person, if you're generally the type of person who wants to do good and wants to avoid bad, you want to seek out truth and you want to avoid the lies, that's the life that you want to live.
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When you hear that, it's it gets something stirring inside of you.
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And when you see negativity and cheating and scam artists and liars and cheaters, you want to go the other way.
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That's who you are, that's how you're programmed.
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So now the book comes to tell you, of Nachman of Brezlev comes to tell you, you made a mistake and it was a bad mistake.
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It was a terrible mistake, and you should have avoided it at all costs.
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But you know what?
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It happened.
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It happened.
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It's not who you are, it's not what you're programmed like, it's the exact opposite.
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It happens, it happens to everybody.
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It doesn't matter, he says, how bad it is, you pick yourself up and you move forward.
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You remind yourself who you are, who Hashem is, that you have an evil inclination, and that Hashem wants you to pick yourself up.
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And if he didn't want you to pick yourself up and dust yourself off, he simply would have not woken you up today.
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There's a million different ways for him to make sure that you don't exist today.
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If he woke you up, it's because you need to be here.
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There is something that you need to do.
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And if you're busy carrying around the baggage from the thing that you did that was so bad, you're never going to achieve what you need to do.
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So again, even if he would commit the worst sin in the world, he would not fall into despair and depression.
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If you're constantly repeating the same evil sin, if you're constantly doing the worst thing in the world, time for reflection.
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Maybe you do have a sick soul.
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Maybe it's time to seek out real professional help.
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But we're not talking about that.
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We're talking about the good person who generally wants to do good, who made a mistake.
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And it doesn't matter how bad that mistake is.
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You pick up and you move forward.
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More than anything, people have difficulty in dealing with their setbacks and lack of success.
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Nachman's advice is once again to focus on the good that we find in ourselves, for there's no one alive that doesn't have good points.
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This helps us to uplift ourselves and joy.
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Focus on the good in your life.
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Hyper focus on the good in your life.
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Hyper focus on the good character traits that you have.
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Don't belittle them.
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Don't think everybody else can do this.
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Everybody else has this ability.
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Everybody else can do what I can do.
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No.
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You can do it, and that's enough for you to be grateful, eternally grateful for the amazing character traits that you have and that you employ in this world.
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By bringing that good into the world, you are changing the world.
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You're creating good positive angels that will come to not only your defense in the next world after 120 years, but will actively help to improve the state of this world for generations to come.
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Have an amazing day, my friends.
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