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Hello, and welcome back to the Healthy Sensitive. This is Leah,
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your hostess on the show.
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And last time I had done what I would say is an overview of the importance of
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or the value of knowing what our sense of purpose and our sense of meaning is.
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And so now what I'll be doing is kind of breaking it down and going a little
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bit deeper into each of the sort of bullet points I captured in the last podcast episode.
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So for today's episode, I'm talking about motivation.
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There's a connection, it appears, between purpose and motivation.
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But actually, I should back up a little bit here.
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There's a difference. A lot of times people use the words meaning and purpose interchangeably.
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It turns out they are distinct.
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So meaning is about having a larger context for our life, a sense that life makes sense.
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Purpose is about our role. So interestingly,
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those who had a sense of meaning were much more resilient, much more likely
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to exhibit signs of post-traumatic growth when they were faced with adversity,
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which we'll talk about in another episode, I promise.
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But versus those who had purpose, but no meaning, while it was still important,
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it was more vulnerable to stress.
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So that's just useful to know. A lot of times when we're talking about,
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okay, having purpose, what is your purpose?
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If you feel like you don't always know the answer to that question,
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number one, you're not alone.
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And number two, that might not necessarily mean that you wouldn't be resilient to stress.
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It's just that when you do have a sense of purpose, it gives you,
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it's more related to things like your goals, a sense of having a direction.
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So why would that have any tangible benefits on motivation?
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Motivation well maybe it would be helpful to begin talking about what it is
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that motivates us in general.
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And there's a couple of ways we can start here. I'm going into the realm of
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the neuroscience. So I'll start with this, I guess it's called affective neuroscience.
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And Jacques Ponsquep, I hope I'm pronouncing his name correctly,
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was a neuroscientist and coined the term affective neuroscience.
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And he found that what he called our desire to move towards something,
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like our curiosity, we want to seek out something new, we want to learn,
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called that seeking system.
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System it's like the the system it's a collection
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of neuropathways in our brain that leads us
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to want to seek something new and the
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seeking system involves both lower and upper parts of the brain
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and when we follow our seeking system that's what is likely likely to release
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dopamine which is a pleasure chemical linked to motivation and to reward okay
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so right there what that reveals to us is that when we are seeking when we are
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curious when we are moving towards something when we have direction,
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it lights up a dopamine pathway.
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All right, so dopamine, what is that? Now I'm going to go into the nitty gritty.
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So dopamine and motivation.
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Dopamine is what activates our sense of motivation.
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So when we feel lethargic, it doesn't seem like the goal we set for ourselves
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is really all that important, or to the extent it is important.
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It just isn't that we can't seem to get over the hump.
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It's like, ah, I want to want it. So it's the difference between I want to do
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a thing versus I want to want to do the thing.
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So if you kind of know what it is you want to do, but you don't feel like you
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have the motivation, there are, I guess you could call them hacks that are known
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to help increase the likelihood that you will produce dopamine.
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Examples of that that include viewing early morning sunlight,
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eating tyrosine-rich foods, avoiding melatonin supplements.
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And this is going to break the hearts of so many of my fellow HSPs,
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as I know many of us struggle with sleep.
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And a lot of people I know take a lot of melatonin, or at least some.
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One of my clients that I'm working with right now mentioned we were going through
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some of the challenges she was facing.
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And I said, well, what supplements are you taking? And she said, said, oh, melatonin.
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And then she mentioned it was 10 milligrams a night. I went, ooh, that is very high.
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So to give you a context, if I ever take melatonin, it's like 0.25 to 0.5 milligrams, just saying.
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So avoiding melatonin supplements unless you're trying to recover from jet lag.
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And then avoid viewing bright lights between 10 p.m. to 4 a.m.
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Super essential, as it is shown to activate a brain region called the hebenula.
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I never pronounced that right. Right. But basically, that reduces the amount
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of circulating dopamine in our system.
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So when you're having bright lights on late at night, that becomes a problem.
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So and then finally, you can ingest caffeine. So caffeine can be helpful in
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initiating a dopamine kick, or at least making our receptors more sensitive to dopamine.
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But when you do caffeine, you want to be from the 100 to 400 milligram range.
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So that's like, you know, maybe one to two cups of coffee, a couple of cups of green tea.
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So we're not talking about a whole pot of the caffeine mug, which highly sensitive
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people people need to be a little bit more discerning about because we tend
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to be much more sensitive to the effects of caffeine.
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And remember too, caffeine has a half-life of about 12 hours.
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So if you ingest caffeine and you're, if you're having problems with sleep,
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removing caffeine can be very helpful.
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But if you're not having any challenges with sleep and you're really wanting
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to get yourself going, a little bit of caffeine, if used strategically and with
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discernment can be very helpful.
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So then, all of that being said, those are sort of some hacks in general that can increase dopamine.
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But what's interesting is that there seems to be a connection between our ability
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to produce dopamine and a sense of having a life purpose.
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But now we're getting into this like airy, it's very nebulous.
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Because how do you define a life purpose?
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Who's getting to make the, you know, set the definition? Why is it helpful?
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So there's a number of people who have tried to kind of pull this apart more.
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I guess it's best to say that motivation and emotions are linked.
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And when we have a sense of purpose, that activates certain emotions in us.
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And those emotions can elicit a dopamine response and increase our motivation.
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That's the easiest way to say it.
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Okay, but then how do I find my purpose?
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Like, okay, great. It's good for motivation. That's helpful-ish to know.
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But how do I find it? it. So Joshua Friedman wrote an article on this,
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and he actually talks about this idea that there are myths about purpose and
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there are the myth busters.
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So one myth is your purpose is something out there and you're going to have
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to find it. It's waiting to be discovered.
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And what he argues is, no, no, you don't find it, you make it.
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So one place you can start with is asking, game.
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What am I good at? What are the things that come a little bit easier to me than perhaps to others?
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And how do I really lean into that skill? You might call it be staying in your zone of genius.
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You might call it engaging in the thing that makes you come alive.
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So you know how much I love that quote by Howard Thurman. I use it all the time.
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Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and then go do
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that. Because that's what the world needs is more people who have come alive.
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The thing that makes you come alive is likely linked to your purpose.
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But once you have that sense, it's not like, okay, I'm good at a thing.
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I know, ding, I'm done now.
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It's no, no, no, that's the starting point. Now you're going to work your butt
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off in that area, and you're going to get better and better and better at it.
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And that's what makes us feel like we have mastery. And that mastery gives us
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a sense of having purpose.
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Your purpose is another myth, your purpose is fully formed and neatly packaged.
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Not so much. Purpose can be felt, but it's not necessarily fully formed.
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It's more about leaning into, well, what is it that I'm feeling and how can
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those emotions and sensations give me clues to my sense of purpose?
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So for example, look at the things that make you angry.
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What is that trying to tell you? One person I know just gets infuriated anytime
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we have a conversation about homelessness.
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Okay, well, anger is an emotion that is activated when we feel like there is
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a threat or there's something that we need to protect.
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There's some kind of boundary getting crossed. There's some sense that there's been an injustice.
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So if you're getting angry about something, that's a good indicator to you that
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it means something to you. So now we're at meaning versus purpose.
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So if you know what it is that means something to you, that might be a clue
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as to what your purpose may be.
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Because the question may just become, well, if I know that I'm passionate about
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homelessness and that it gets me just really angry, how might I be a part of the solution?
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And then the third myth is discovering purpose makes everything easy.
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No, no, no. Discovering your purpose is the very first step.
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So once you have a sense of what your purpose is, my purpose is to help alleviate
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suffering in the homeless population.
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Good for you. Now you get the fun job of figuring out just how you want to contribute.
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So purpose is based on long-term goals and it's based on connection. connection.
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It's not often the case that the thing that we feel is our purpose is linked
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solely to our own pleasure.
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It can be linked to pleasure, but it's often linked with connection.
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And this, you know, some people might say, well, what if your purpose is to
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write? Writing is a solitary endeavor.
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Not necessarily. Perhaps the writing itself is solitary, but how do you get
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the content to write about? You have to go out into the world.
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You have to understand people.
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You might even go go to writing clubs. Even writers will get together and their
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communities like shut up and write where people will come together.
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They'll set a timer. They will write in their own space for a period of time.
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And yet there's something about being together that brings more of a sense of
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like a surge of energy around it.
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So if you're wanting to increase your ability to connect with your purpose.
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These are some things to consider. What are the things that.
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Well, what are the things that you're just good at? What are the things that
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when people say, wow, you're really good at this, you laugh it off and you say,
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yeah, but I mean, everybody is.
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That's usually the ding, ding, ding. That's your zone of genius.
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We often think that the thing we're good at, it translates, it's universal.
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Rarely is that true. So what is something that you're good at?
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What is it that you can think of that people have given you feedback about you being good at?
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Next thing you might consider consider when was the
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last time you experienced a really profound intense
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emotion maybe it was watching a movie
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perhaps it was conversation with a friend maybe it was connecting with an animal
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when is the last time you felt something intense it could have been intensely
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positive could have been intensely negative that might give you some clues about
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just how powerful because Because, you know, our motivation is often linked with our emotions.
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And then this final one is, what are some long-term goals that you can think
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of that are almost so big that they're scary?
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I would love to do blank, but I'm a little scared to. And how might you link
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that to having more connection?
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Just some things to ponder for yourself. Because especially when all of these
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things come together, that's when you're most likely to kind of see that the
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motivation within you get activated.
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Now, just to give a little bit more background to it, motivation,
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it turns out, because this was curiosity point from Daniel Pink,
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he wanted to understand what it is that drives people at work.
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And that's why he wrote a book called Drive.
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And what he discovered is that, I mean, unless the job that you have is very,
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I don't want to say simple in a derogatory way, but doesn't require critical thinking.
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So if your job, for example, is to just to stamp widgets, that's not going to
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require critical thinking.
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It does require muscle memory. It requires kind of rhythm.
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It's still very challenging, perhaps, but it's not asking your brain to be creative.
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It's asking your whole system to be efficient at a very specific task.
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Task what he daniel pink wanted to know is
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what is it that makes those folks who are
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in roles that require more critical thinking
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what what is it that drives them and what is it that makes them the most productive
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and he found there were three things autonomy having some control over their
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schedule mastery feeling like they were good at the thing they were doing and
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purpose you can can start to see now where,
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okay, well, if it's how mastery and purpose might be connected, for example.
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So if you know there's something you're good at and you get to refine it, that can kind of,
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give you insight to what your purpose is. But purpose is also about feeling
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as though the thing you're doing is contributing to a larger whole.
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Even if that contribution is simply, I'm activating my own joy and therefore
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getting out of everyone else's way.
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So and in terms of how all of this fits together with, you know,
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like if you're interested in going deeper into some of this research,
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for example, let's say the tidbits I was sharing about about dopamine you're
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like whoa that's a lot of stuff hold on slow down let me write that down.
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I'm gonna put in the show notes a link that a lot of that
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information was coming from andrew huberman from huberman labs if
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you're interested in doing a diver deep diver deep deeper dive into daniel pink's
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work i've put some links in for a couple of ted talks well a couple of my ted
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talk a podcast as well as his a link for his book when you're interested if
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you're interested in the connection between kind of the myths and the reality.
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A lot of that work came from Joshua Friedman. I'm putting a link to his work.
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I'm also going to put in what's called like a purpose checkup.
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This was crafted by people in the blue zones.
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I'll be talking about this area a little bit more when I dive deeper into the
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connection between purpose and longevity.
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But if you just just want to get a sense where am I
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starting from to what extent do I feel like I
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am living a purposeful life right now there's a marvelous it's
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a questionnaire it was put together by researchers for blue zones and
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for those who don't know blue zones are those areas where people are regularly
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living to their like 100th year and beyond so worth checking out because if
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you want want to live to your 100th year and beyond and feel like, yeah,
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I've not just surviving that long, but really living.
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Highly, highly recommend that you reach, like, take a look at some of that research.
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And again, I will be diving deeper into that content when I talk about purpose and longevity.
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But I want to end here with, now this work is coming from Daniel Goleman,
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where basically what he wrote is he,
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oh my, anyway, Daniel Goleman wrote, we humans are wired to be simultaneously
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driven towards something and pulled to it.
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Whether we call it inspiration or motivation, working with our innate desire
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to explore, understand, and make meaning is a clear way to think about igniting
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joy and the sense of purpose that comes with it.
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So I do want to say too, purpose and motivation is different than inspiration.
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This is now Wayne Dyer who talked about this. There's a difference,
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he said, between being motivated and being inspired.
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Motivation is when you have grabbed a hold of a goal in it that is so important
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to you, and you don't care how heavy it is, you are happy to drag Drag that
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thing across the finish line, even if it takes everything out of you to do it. You are motivated.
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Inspiration is when something hooks you and pulls you across the finish line.
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So inspiration is that thing that when a light bulb goes off and you go, ding, I am inspired.
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Inspiration is when you're listening to someone speak and you find yourself mesmerized.
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My God, you think to yourself, this person has just changed my life.
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Perhaps you heard someone speak at a TED Talk, or perhaps you heard a leader
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rally a crowd to do something positive for their community.
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And you think, now that is extraordinary.
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So it's good to know the difference between inspiration and motivation.
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Inspiration is often passive. It gets ignited within us.
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Inspiration there's no life hack for feeling inspired other
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than perhaps making sure that we are well
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rested and connected and like
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kind of juiced up so that we're more available for that sensation to kick in
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but what i was talking about mostly today is motivation because as a coach that's
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the thing so many of my clients come to me about and in frustration i'll say
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like i I know what I want to do, but I'm just not doing it. Why?
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Well, maybe some question to ponder for yourself is, well, to what extent is
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the thing you're trying to do linked with your purpose?
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And if you don't know what your purpose is, how might you go about exploring it?
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Not from a place of hurry up, got to figure it out, but more from a place of
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just, huh, what am I really good at?
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How could I cultivate that more deeply? How could I go about working hard in
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something and allow that to take me, which is, and I know I quote Elizabeth Gilbert a ton,
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but it's why I was so enamored with her insight with regard to,
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you know, maybe not having to follow your passion because lots of people talk
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about, you know, really intense emotions and passion, follow your passion, right?
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Well, that's not always available. And so she instead asked,
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well, what are you curious about?
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What's something that intrigues you? What's something that kind of tugs at you a little bit?
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Because that now kind of goes circles back to that affective neuroscience,
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where again, the seeker pathways, and again, these are just names that,
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you know, neuroscientists coined, But if you want to elicit a seeking mind and
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activate those seeker pathways,
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that's likely going to initiate a dopamine response.
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So don't feel like you have to have passion. If you have it,
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kudos. But if you don't have it, that's okay.
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All right, so I think that's enough for today. Lastly, while I just want to
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put that out there, if you are interested in diving more deeply into this,
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there are workshops that I host where you get an opportunity to connect with
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other people in real time.
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You can find us at my healthy sensitive meetup. You can also go to our online
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community, the link for that all of these things are going to be in the show notes.
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And finally, if you would like to take advantage of you know,
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anytime someone's interested in coaching with me, I always offer a complimentary session.
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And you're welcome to go to my calendar and just, you know, select the 60 minute
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session, I always do a complimentary again, 60 minute session.
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And a link for that on my calendar. It will also be in the show notes. Okay.
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Well, thank you, everybody. I so appreciate you. You got through it.
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And next time I'll be diving in more deeply to the link between purpose and
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like mental health and resiliency. So I'm very excited. Stay tuned.
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