67. What Am I Missing?

When someone does something that makes absolutely no sense to us, it’s easy to jump straight to some version of...What is WRONG with you? But what if we got curious instead? In this episode, I share one simple question that can completely change how we respond to other people, ourselves, and the situations we don’t fully understand: What am I missing? We’re constantly filling in gaps with our own interpretations...what someone meant, why they behaved a certain way, what their actions say about them, or even what our own behavior says about us. And then we respond to those interpretations as though they’re facts. But what we can see is rarely the whole story. I talk about how this creates unnecessary friction in our relationships and work, why we’re often halfway through fixing a problem before we actually understand it, and how asking better questions can give us access to information we might otherwise miss. Because... Curiosity gives us access to information that certainty does not. And this applies to how we see ourselves, too. Before deciding you need to be more disciplined, more consistent, or simply try harder...what might you be missing? Sometimes the answer really IS to get off your butt and do the thing.  But sometimes there’s something underneath the behavior that’s worth understanding first. In this episode, I also share more about Navigate Your Dash, my new small-group experience starting at the end of September. We’ll explore ourselves, the people around us, and the patterns shaping how we experience life and work...not so we can find more things to fix, but so we can better understand what’s actually happening and navigate it differently. Learn more about Navigate Your Dash:
Navigate Your Dash...the details ATD Hawkeye Chapter Conference on September 30th in my session, Teams from the Inside Out: Creating Shared Context for Greater Impact. Learn more and register for the conference:
ATD Hawkeye Chapter Conference The next time you find yourself thinking, What is wrong with you?...or What is wrong with me?...try interrupting that thought with a different question: What am I missing? That little bit of curiosity might just change what happens next. Here’s where you can find me…

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