ABOUT THIS EPISODE
You didn't choose to become the one who holds it all together. You just got very good at it, and somewhere along the way, that version of you started feeling like the real you.
In this episode, Dr. Tanya Berfield gets personal about the quiet, uncomfortable work of recognizing an identity you built around what the room needed from you, and what it costs when the room stays the same but you don't. She talks about navigating grown kids, changing family dynamics, a mother who still calls to tell her what to do, and the particular exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from managing yourself so efficiently around everyone else that you've lost track of what you actually need.
This isn't burnout as a deficiency. It's burnout as a message. And the starting point isn't a strategy. It's seeing the contract clearly enough to know it was built, not born.
If you've ever said yes before your brain joined the meeting, stayed in a dynamic longer than it deserved, or felt guilty after a perfectly reasonable boundary, this one is for you.
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