ABOUT THIS EPISODE
This week on Conflict Managed we welcome Maria Colacurcio. Together we explore:
- Empathy for the messenger
- The power in having a humanities based education
- The specific results of being curious
- Clarity in pay transparency and the ability to explain pay decisions
- Cognitive surrender and AI
- ‘Running at’ conflict
- Giving clear feedback
- What does leadership cost you?
- Change agility vs change management
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Maria Colacurcio is reshaping how enterprises govern their largest and most consequential investment: how they pay their people. As CEO of Syndio, she leads the company that defined the market for pay equity software and is now pioneering Decision Intelligence for Pay. Under her leadership, Syndio partners with global brands including Walmart, Microsoft, and Salesforce to make every pay decision compliant, optimized, and aligned with business strategy. Maria previously co-founded Smartsheet, which went public in 2018. She has built her career at the intersection of technology, policy, and purpose-driven leadership, earning recognition as one of the 100 most exceptional entrepreneurs by Goldman Sachs Builders + Innovators Summit.
Conflict Managed is produced by Third Party Workplace Conflict Restoration Services and hosted by Merry Brown.
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Welcome to Conflict Managed. I'm your host, Merry Brown.
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This week on Conflict Managed, we welcome Maria Colacurcio. Maria is reshaping
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how enterprises govern their largest and most consequential investment,
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how they pay their people.
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As CEO of Syndio, she leads the company that defined the market for pay equity
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software and is now pioneering decision intelligence for pay.
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Under her leadership, Syndio partners with global brands including Walmart,
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Microsoft, and Salesforce to make everyday pay decision compliant,
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optimized, and aligned with business strategy.
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Maria previously co-founded Smartsheet, which went public in 2018.
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She has built her career at the intersection of technology, policy,
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and purpose-driven leadership, earning recognition as one of the 100 Most Exceptional
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Entrepreneurs by Goldman Sachs Builders Innovators Summit.
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Good morning, Maria, and welcome to Conflict Managed.
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Thank you so much for having me. It's great to be here. Oh, we just had a wonderful
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little pre-recording conversation. I'm really looking forward to where this
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is going to be going today.
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So before we get to what you're currently doing and the role that you have,
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I would like to hear about the first job you ever had as a young person.
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Oh, my gosh. Well, okay. The first job I ever had, we're going way back.
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This was probably when I was 15 or 16. It was right before high school.
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And I had been a babysitter for a family in our neighborhood for a long time.
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So I guess technically that was the first job.
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But the first office job was that she also owned a talent agency.
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And so I got an hourly job there in the summer and my job was,
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calling all the parents who had signed up at this talent agency paid a grip
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of money for headshots and their child had never been casted and so here I am
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you know a 16 year old going into high school or 14 you know whatever I was 14 15 16,
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and having to call through this long list knowing that every single phone call
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was going to be an irate angry parent and I had my little script of what I said
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like Johnny wasn't hasn't been cast and here's why.
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And we still have hope for Johnny. And he did have interest in these four things.
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And I had a script for everyone.
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And remarkably, I made it through the full summer. But that was my first job was pure conflict.
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So I think it's interesting as it relates to all the things that you talk about
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and the psychology behind critical conversations that that was where I started
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my, quote, professional journey.
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That is so intense. Wow. Yeah, it was intense.
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I can, for a variety of reasons, it's like baptism by fire.
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Like, you know, maybe, maybe they thought that, you know, since you're young,
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then you could break the bad news the best.
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They won't give you as much grief or it's just, you know, low person on the
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totem pole gets the dirty jobs. But wow. How, how did you deal with,
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I imagine you got yelled at every once in a while?
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I mean, most calls I got yelled at because they had paid, the parents had paid
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so much for these professional headshots thinking
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and gone in with such high expectations thinking their kid was,
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you know, different and special when you hear the disclaimers,
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you know, only one and et cetera, because they had to give these legal disclaimers.
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But, you know, as I've grown up and I've had my own kids, you see it every day and it actually proves.
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Lives in my head rent free this idea that we all think our kid is different or special or you know,
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there's a little something wrong with everyone else's kids but our kids like
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you know and it's funny my brother and I had this conversation about when we
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were early days parenting because our kids are similar ages and when you go
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up to a group of kids where there's a conflict,
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and you know for certain a conflict is being initiated by your own child if
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you can't figure out where it's coming from.
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If you're like, what? I don't understand. Like, why is it? It's because your
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bias of not thinking it's coming from your own child is standing in the way
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of your ability to logically figure out where it's initiating.
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And I think that was true for these parents. Like they were just irate.
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And to me, I think what's really interesting in this ability to compartmentalize
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is from a very young age, I was just like, well, this is the job.
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I have to get through this many calls a day, and I say my script,
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and then I'm quiet, and they get mad at me, and then I move on to the next call.
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So it was actually great training for a professional career.
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Yeah. I mean, for all the reasons you just said.
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And what you gained, a sort of tenacity, a way to realize, I imagine,
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somebody else's bad behavior is about them.
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And you're not the cause of it, right? Of course, a lot of times we get upset
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with the person who's delivering the news, but mostly that person had no hand
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in developing the policy and making the decisions.
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And yet it is, you know, when we are the bearer of bad news, right?
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How do we stay healthy? How do we stay okay with ourselves when somebody is,
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they're frustrated, but they are giving it to us?
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That is I imagine that is really has helped you throughout your whole career
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of thinking that that is just a part of it it is I I definitely have a a keen sense whether it's,
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An interaction with the gate agent at an airline or something goes wrong and
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you're in an event for work and it's really important.
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I've always had this keen sense of empathy for the messenger.
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And I think that's been a great thing just to model for my kids and for people
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around me that typically the folks in these frontline service roles are just
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delivering messages that are far outside of their control.
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And so to get angry with them is just absolutely unreasonable.
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And, I don't know, I'm glad I learned that early. Because when you see people
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doing that, it's just, it's such a distasteful thing to watch. Yeah.
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I think it's also really, I just love this idea of my kid is the best.
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My kid's the most special.
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And it's true. Your kid is the best and the most special to you.
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And that is a truth. And you see something in your child that other people are not going to see.
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And nobody's going to love your child the way that you do. and that is just
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the way of things so there's that and when your child's not chosen and when,
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there's this disappointment out there and when other people don't see and or
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harm your child right there's there,
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is this there is this disconnect which is just as you as you already pointed
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out is such a good lesson if we learn it about our perspective our perspective
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and certainly when it comes to conflict or what we can see and who we're generous
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to and who we're not generous to.
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And a lot of it, many times with conflict, we think it's the issue.
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It's the issue itself. It's very rarely the issue. It's who are the people involved?
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Who's telling me this information? How am I perceiving that they are complicit
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in it or they are the cause of it or they're out to get me or they have my back? They're for me.
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And the same content, I understand it differently because of the relationships I'm in with the people.
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So all the way around, gosh, there's so much that you had the opportunity to learn as a young person.
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Yeah, it's true. So where did you go after that?
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So I spent a lot of time working in restaurants through college and out of college
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in order to pay the bills.
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And again, I learned so much as a waitress. It was funny. I was with a couple
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of girlfriends from college last weekend and we were all talking about our waitressing
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jobs and how much we still think about them and how much so many of those lessons
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have really stuck with us.
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I had a really interesting nonlinear career. So I was a history major in between,
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college and then moving on into the professional world. I moved to Galway and
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ran a bed and breakfast just for the experience.
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Then I moved to D.C., worked at the Smithsonian, the History Museum,
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worked on congressional campaigns, ultimately found myself working in marketing
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and communications for non-profits, sort of lobbying organizations in D.C.
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And the way I got into tech was just as non-linear. I was at a dinner party,
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it was the tech boom, and dinner party, you know, in those days it was sort
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of red cups and, you know, big pots of soup or something. It was very,
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you know, not as fancy as it might sound.
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And I was just in the middle of breaking up with a boyfriend and I met this
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woman and she was visiting her friend from San Francisco and she said,
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you got to come to the Bay Area where everything's happening.
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We have an opening at my company. You should fly out an interview.
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And so I did. And it was incredibly technical in retrospect.
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It was a hardware software company, Israeli based startup.
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And I got the offer and decided what the heck. And I flew out and restarted
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my career in tech. And I just I loved it. I fell in love with it.
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And my initial foray into tech was in product marketing.
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So really, what you have to do in that role is be good at synthesizing and storytelling
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and being the bridge between
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a very technical story and then what the teams on the ground,
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the sales teams, the business development folks, marketing, what they need in order to translate.
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It really is the translation layer.
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And because I'm just insanely curious, I think that is the characteristics that
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served me so well throughout my entire life.
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I would sit in the server room with a bunch of these Israeli guys who were,
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you know, they're all former military.
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They're all incredibly technical.
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And I would just ask them a million questions until I understood it.
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And they really indulged my curiosity. Looking back, I'm like,
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oh, my God, I was probably so annoying.
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But also, they were super gracious because I don't know that anyone from the
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go-to-market side had ever been as curious into the ins and outs and the nuts
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and bolts of what they were creating.
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And these guys are creators. And I say guys because it was all men at that time. Yeah.
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And so I started there, and then I just continued my journey in tech.
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I worked for a couple of startups. I worked at Microsoft. I co-founded Smartsheet,
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went to Starbucks, and then eventually landed, and really from the beginning,
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at Cendia, where I am now.
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But as you said, a nonlinear, interesting career trajectory,
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and yet this curiosity and curating people's experiences, it seems like that
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is through line all throughout, right?
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So even the bed and breakfast, how that is set up, the people's experience there,
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of course, being a server, it's all about what is their experience here and
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dealing with all of the technical issues of the food not being prepared the
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way somebody wants or being out of something or the wait times.
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And then, of course, dealing with hungry people, which is its own sort of level.
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But I can see that also relating to the storytelling of, you know,
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with tech, it can cause a lot of fear because people know they need it,
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but they don't know what they need.
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And if I get this product, is it going to solve this need? Am I going to be
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able to run it once I have it?
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I'm investing all of this. Is it the right thing to do? So there's a lot of,
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I'm sure, fear about adoption of certain kinds of.
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If I should adopt this or something else, how is it going to work?
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And so being able to bridge that so that people can have a clear picture as
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to whether or not this is the tech for them.
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And if you're not a tech person, which I am not, I'm going to have to rely on
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story and analogy to understand if this is the right thing.
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Yeah, exactly. I think so much of it is storytelling. And I do think,
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so it's interesting, right now I have several folks on my team,
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incredibly brilliant data scientists, folks in product, UX designers,
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who all majored in history.
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And I just, I think it's so interesting because I really do think the major,
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requires that you ask questions and see trend lines through information.
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You're looking at a series of events that happened and then predicting and analyzing
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and bringing to bear your thoughts and perspectives on how that could either repeat or not.
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And how do you see the confluence of things sort of coming together in a similar way?
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And anyway, I think the pattern matching is really interesting to see how that
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shows up in tech. But I talk with folks all the time and I'm never surprised
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to find out that that's their background.
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That is really interesting. The humanities, being able to be curious.
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How do we feed curiosity if we want innovation, if we want to be able to not
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only innovate, invent, and then being able to sell that, which is being able
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to translate whatever is innovated to innovation.
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Being creative as to who your market like you know who is your market and then
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being able to sell to them,
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takes a certain level of understanding story and what is history but a grand
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narrative right and being able to understand how it all goes together and what
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sources or who's telling you the truth or or how are they conveying a particular kind of message,
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yeah and oh it's to the humanities i always want to give a shout out if you
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if your child comes home and says they're majoring in history or philosophy
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or music or theater or art,
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that's they can be gainfully employed.
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There's lots of wonderful opportunities for them if that's something that they choose.
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Yeah, absolutely. So I want to hear more about curiosity.
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You know, children are naturally curious and many of us, it gets drummed out
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of us because in order to go through,
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traditional educational systems, you've got to streamline things and you learn
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this for this outcome, right?
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And so, you know, this whole test-based way that we think about quantifying education.
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So how did you retain this curiosity that has pulled you all the way through?
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How did I retain it? I think it's, you know, that's a great question.
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I'm thinking back to the way I was parented and whether it was something that
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was just naturally encouraged.
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You know, my dad was the youngest of nine kids. All my uncles were in some branch
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of the military. None of them went to college. My grandparents came over from Italy.
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And my dad's biggest goal in life was that his four kids would be the first
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to be college educated amongst all of his siblings and all the kids.
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And so it was something that he talked about constantly. He just constantly
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talked about, you've got to get an education, you've got to get an education.
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And so I honestly think that it's something that was just ingrained in me because
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I put those two things together, like curiosity and education,
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and what does it mean to be educated? What does it mean to get an education?
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So I really credit my parents for that because they never beat it out of me.
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And I think a lot of times, you know, that's the tendency with us as parents
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is that you see a spirited kid, you're exhausted, they're constantly asking
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questions and you're like, oh my God, I just, I can't answer any more of these questions.
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Or you say like, just get it done. Like instead of meandering around trying
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to figure, like you're reading them a book.
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You know, right now I'm reading The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe to my
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18-year-old. And you can't get through a chapter without like,
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well, what about this? And what about this? And what about this?
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And what about this? Yeah.
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Just as adults in normal life, your tendency is to be like, can we just read the book already?
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Like, I want to go to bed. I want you to go to bed.
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But I do think there's something really important about being intentional about
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letting those meandering questions
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sort of wind around because that is the signal that we sent to them.
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And now as a CEO of a company, particularly in this era of AI transformation,
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curiosity is the thing I screen for.
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So when you think about builders, when you think about the types of characteristics,
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experiences, and skills that really make for someone who is going to succeed
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in this era, curiosity is really important.
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Of course, execution combined with that is important, but it's somebody who
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sees a problem. They don't necessarily ask for permission. They just,
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they figure out a way to solve it.
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And you know just before this call I had a meeting with my applied expertise
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team sharing with me all the really cool and innovative things that they're building with AI,
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and it was so fun to be able to see how their curiosity meandered into a solution
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so I got this training because I put them there's a pilot group of 22 employees that I put through,
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a very specific training on agent building that I took myself and I found it
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so valuable and so this pilot group was sharing with me I took the same training you did.
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Here are the different things that I was able to achieve and build with it.
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And they're so specific to their function and their expertise.
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It's not generic. I taught myself to write better.
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If you do it right and you have curiosity and you have the right training and
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tools, it's really amazing what's possible.
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I love so much of what you just said. But one thing that you just said at the
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end is that curiosity, sometimes it's this big word, this big concept,
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and it sort of like looms.
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But it actually is very particular.
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The result of being curious is many times a specific end product, like in the workplace.
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Right i was able to do this because i was curious and i allowed myself to come
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down and drill down and i found this right it is actually very,
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the curious mindset is not just a nice to have it's it's integral of creating
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and thinking and innovating,
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being collaborative all of those sorts of things are they're not going to work
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if you're not innately or you don't have the ability or you aren't curious.
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You're not activating that.
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And another thing you said I thought was really telling because I definitely
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resonate with this, with reading a book, right? Let's get through it.
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And the question is, like, what is the goal? Is the goal to get through the
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book? Well, it's a good goal to get through the line in which the wardrobe, right?
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But as parents, like, we want to finish the chapter or the whatever it is so
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that we can go on to the next.
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But if we stop and think, well, what is the goal for the child here?
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Like, what do I want my child to get out? Yeah, I want them to have this experience
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of hearing this whole story.
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But that's maybe just one of the goals, right?
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And so if I think this is good because they get this wonderful story and it
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sparks curiosity, if curiosity is part of what I'm trying to instill,
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then why would I think we've got to get through this story this month, right?
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Instead of we'll get through it, but we get this added good, right?
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That's just sort of question about what is somebody else's experience.
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Why are they here like what is the the kid is getting a lot of things out at
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a time with their parents there's just so many good things they're getting out
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if you read to your children but that just was really I think about myself sometimes
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am I just trying to get through something,
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and that is an arresting thought what do you mean trying to get through as if,
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to get to the end the the whole journey really matters as to what the end actually
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is, what you actually got as you go through it.
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I think the intention is so interesting. And if I tie this notion of curiosity
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and asking questions back to the work that we do.
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So we do compensation analytics and we just actually a week ago released a white
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paper called the cost of ungoverned pay decisions. And what that means is,
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what's happening when you have a strategy for what you value as a company,
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but you don't tie it in real time to every single pay decision.
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And so it found basically there's three ways that these ungoverned decisions
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cost you money. Two are about the decisions itself.
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But the third one is my favorite because it actually reflects the total absence of curiosity.
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And the way that I'll explain that is nobody ever goes back to see whether a
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decision worked. So you're in the heat of it.
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You pay someone at the 99th percentile because they're a special snowflake.
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We're sure they would perform.
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They're ex-Google. They're really important. We know they're going to knock it out of the park.
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But that absence of curiosity is that you never close the loop.
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Every other capital decision in a company gets some sort of postmortem,
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but the largest line item on the P&L around headcount, doesn't.
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So if you're making those decisions 10,000 times a year and you're not learning
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from them, you're not asking the question, you're not using AI to analyze,
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well, did that work? Did that play out?
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It's just an organization that's not curious about its own judgment.
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So I found that to be really interesting in terms of curiosity at scale.
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And what does that look like when it's absent?
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Yeah, I love it. Let's talk a little bit more about that when it comes to workplace satisfaction.
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You know, the old mantra, and maybe it's still around, it is still around for
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a lot of people, is don't talk about what you get paid.
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And yet people do talk about it. And then there's this feeling of I'm not being
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compensated properly given what somebody else is doing, right?
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There's all these backroom conversations. And so if you tell people not to have
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a conversation, it just means you may not hear about it. It doesn't mean they're
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not having those conversations. And that can lead to, of course,
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when you're feeling like you're being unfairly compensated for a variety of sorts of reasons.
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If we decide not to bring clarity and transparency to that.
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How do you see clarity and transparency and having what you're up to helping
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with having a healthier work environment?
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Oh, my gosh. It's so connected. So this paper that just came out that I mentioned,
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we have employed an IOPHD.
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So it's truly science driven. And it's been so interesting to see how she thinks
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about this link between pay, transparency, employee satisfaction and performance.
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Because pay is a lens through which a company shows what it values.
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It's visceral. It's emotional.
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We're trading our labor and our time.
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And so when somebody wants to know not just what am I paid, but what am I paid,
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and this is the key component, as compared to what my peers,
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others' functions, other people doing the same job at a different company,
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it's if they can't get an answer the dissatisfaction is around like.
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Your question doesn't deserve an answer when this is this is the trade that
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we're making so i do think this confluence of pay transparency legislation and
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ai transformation is creating,
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this incredible moment where companies are now not only required to put good
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faith job ranges pay ranges on job advertisements to show, but it can't be so
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wide you can drive a truck through it.
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It has to be good faith. That's the reason it means good faith.
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But now with the EU Pay Transparency Directive, if you are a global company,
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you're required to adhere to something called right to information,
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which means an employee can request comparable pay.
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And these are all really important. And these are about that satisfaction piece and about the.
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I just want a company to be consistent with what it says it values.
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So a really interesting one around this that we've looked at a lot in terms of tenure.
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So tenure is basically how long somebody's worked for a company,
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right? So that's sort of how you think about tenure.
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And almost every company we've worked with still pays people partly for how
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long they've been there.
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But a lot of times when you look at does it predict someone's pay,
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it's actually not in the mix.
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So a company will say, we care about tenure, we value tenure.
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But then when you look at it and you analyze the compensation details,
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it doesn't actually explain anything.
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So when there's inconsistencies like that, that really sends a message to employees,
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not that the company isn't valuing them necessarily, but that there's confusion
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around, I don't know what it is that you value.
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And so, again, that consistency with what a company says they value,
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why they pay what they pay, and then actually doing that in practice is really
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important. And companies just haven't had the mechanism or the technology to
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be able to do that until now.
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So I think that's really critical because, again, it's not so much about the pay itself.
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It's about the explanation, the explainability, the ability for an employee
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to really understand, okay, I get it. So you pay for this. I don't have that
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yet. I got to work to get that. And when I get that, I'm going to get paid more. That's it.
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And it's so much more difficult than it should be. Yes.
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I mean, so much about having a healthy work environment is having proper expectations.
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And so sometimes people don't even know what they should be paid,
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but they think they should get paid more.
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So even, you know, that, having understanding industry standards,
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understanding all of these other sorts of things, if you equip people with knowledge,
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then you can help them right size their own expectations.
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And as you said, if I feel like I should be getting this promotion or a pay increase,
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but I don't have the certification or these years or this clientele or these
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sales it's it's clear oh this is why Sally is making more because she has these
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factors and I do not instead of they like her more,
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or whether or not that's true we have to consider how things land and how things
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feel and so the more we can give people information that they can look at and really understand,
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what they want to do, why they want to do it, what the organization is going to reward.
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You're just empowering people to make better choices, be more engaged,
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and not have those unnecessary backroom conversations.
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Yeah, and this was, it's so true. So this is something I talked about at the
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Fortune Workplace Innovation Summit because it was a panel around pay transparency.
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And one of the things that you have to address is the flattening of spans and
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layers right now in the manager premium that companies are starting to embark
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upon, which means managers are getting many, many more direct reports that they're responsible for.
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And so one of the things that we're doing is we're embedding that pay explainability
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into the tools they use every day, whether that's Slack or Microsoft Teams or
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Workday or whatever, because what happens is if a manager can't explain a pay decision,
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they'll just avoid the conversation until it becomes a grievance,
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until it becomes something that is impacting and creating attrition risk.
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And the fix is a really easy mechanism. It's capturing the decision and giving
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in the moment the conversation needs to happen, the manager a clear way to say,
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I promoted Andrea and now I need to explain to John why I promoted Andrea and
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what it's going to take for John to get on the same track.
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Like something like that, that's really a management conversation. Or,
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I'm in a conversation with Andrea and I need to know what her range should be for the promotion,
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giving them that information in the moment in the tools they already use today
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is the ability not only to provide explainability around pay, but it also gives these,
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managers the empowerment to not push things off.
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So that they become this sort of elephant in the room that ultimately becomes
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an attrition risk. I think that's really important.
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I think that's so So wonderfully said, very important, and also can help us
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get away from us versus them, right? So if I don't have any sort of explanation,
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I've just been told this is what the range is or this is what's going to happen,
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then I can say, well, I don't know.
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But once you have something that is clear, then you can also have conversations.
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You know, so this is what you're saying the metrics are.
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Are they right for 2026 or whatever year we have to be in?
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Can we have conversations about whether or not this is appropriate,
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given this is the thing that just happened in the marketplace?
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And so when you have them spelled out, then you can have these sorts of conversations.
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Or I can say, oh, I'm valuing something different than this organization.
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This is not a place where I'm going to be able to be moving up because I'm not
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willing to do what they want me to do.
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I'm going to focus someplace else or in a different place within the organization. Yeah.
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And also something that you brought up in a Fortune article,
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which I was surprised about because I think with equality, when it comes to
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women's pay, we think, well, certainly we're getting better or getting better.
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But is it the case that women are making up grounds as being paid for the same
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job and all the same sort of, you know, outliers that men are getting paid?
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Yeah, so let me make sure I understand the question so that we're making up
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ground in closing the gap.
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Closing the gap. It looked like from the article you were saying that we are
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losing ground between the pay gap between women and men.
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We have been. So we were making incremental progress, and then that progress
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started to slip in COVID and post-COVID.
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And I think a lot of this, again, is answering that core question as compared to what.
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Like a lot of what we do with our customers is it's not just about,
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pay, it's about pay as compared to what. So what are you using to make decisions?
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What percentage are you basing on market? What percentage are you basing on
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your policies? Whether that's we reward tenure, we reward education,
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we reward skills, we reward performance score.
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It's okay to reward things in a way that benefits your business and drives outcomes
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for your business, but you have to stay consistent with those things.
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So one of the things I say to customers all the time is that if we were merely
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consistent with the policies that we put in place at the beginning of every
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year when we're doing our headcount planning, so much of the pay gap would be eradicated.
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It is that once you have that strategy, it doesn't live on the shoulder of every
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single person in the organization as they're making decisions.
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So I think it's a really dangerous place to be to let pay decisions just run
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amok ungoverned because that is a huge reason why the pay gap still exists.
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And if we could build in pay equity as a constraint into every decision,
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which is what our customers are doing now, it's pretty remarkable what they're able to do.
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So when we've looked back at customers prior to implementing this technology,
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the variance on pay decisions away from policy was plus or minus about eight and a half percent.
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So if you think about that across thousands of decisions, that's,
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you know, seven percent of your annual headcount budget that you're wasting
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by overpaying as it relates to what your policies indicate you should pay.
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And in many cases, you don't need to be paying that in order to secure the candidate.
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So there's so much goodness in looking at and governing pay decisions as they
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happen in alignment with your strategy.
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And one of the goodnesses is to reduce those pay inequity gaps that are because
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of something like gender or race.
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Yeah. And I think, you know, when we don't have transparency,
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when we don't know what that side of the organization is doing or that side,
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then, you know, we'd have good intentions. But if we're not paying attention,
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then we may not notice. We may not.
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We think we're, because we have a value that we want to close that gap,
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we think we're doing it. But when they're not looking at the numbers to see,
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are we actually doing it?
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Why has it not happened? You know, asking all those really good questions.
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Or how can we, as an organization, make that go away in something like what you're talking about?
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Yeah. And I think also this mixed message. So the thing we've been talking about
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is this mixed message of what a company's value. How do we make sure their strategy
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is put into practice in every decision?
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The other one is the messages back to the content of your book and your work,
00:32:12.090 --> 00:32:17.918
is the messages, the inconsistent messages we are sending to our kids and to generations about AI.
00:32:18.313 --> 00:32:21.684
So when you look across the spectrum of messages, on one hand,
00:32:21.684 --> 00:32:25.122
we're saying AI is going to replace all the entry-level jobs.
00:32:25.743 --> 00:32:30.143
And so now we've created this culture in our kids. I have a 19-year-old,
00:32:30.282 --> 00:32:36.342
as you do as well, where the commencement speakers who mention AI get booed off the stage.
00:32:36.766 --> 00:32:39.724
They are very, very hesitant and reluctant to use AI.
00:32:39.724 --> 00:32:42.634
My daughter and I wrote companion pieces in Fortune about this.
00:32:42.634 --> 00:32:46.234
It's been fascinating to hear how she talks about cognitive surrender,
00:32:46.234 --> 00:32:52.784
and she doesn't want to give up her creativity and train a model to basically have that creativity.
00:32:52.784 --> 00:32:58.335
And she really believes in sort of human at the helm, which we do as well as a company.
00:32:58.823 --> 00:33:01.464
But we're sending this message that it's going to take all of your jobs.
00:33:02.039 --> 00:33:06.033
And so they have a reaction, totally normal and respectable.
00:33:06.625 --> 00:33:11.604
And then what we know as leaders in companies is the entry-level folks that
00:33:11.604 --> 00:33:15.604
will get picked up and get picked up for a really high price point,
00:33:15.604 --> 00:33:20.987
by the way, are the ones that have taught themselves how to harness and use these skills.
00:33:21.451 --> 00:33:25.230
So on one hand, we're sending a message that it's going to take your jobs,
00:33:25.398 --> 00:33:27.807
which is causing them to run from this technology.
00:33:28.069 --> 00:33:31.544
And then in reality, what's happening are the ones that actually embrace it
00:33:31.544 --> 00:33:34.135
are the ones that are going to get those roles.
00:33:34.489 --> 00:33:41.614
So how in the world can those inconsistencies of messages be consumed generationally
00:33:41.614 --> 00:33:46.404
and give people the right playbook as to what to learn and how to be curious
00:33:46.404 --> 00:33:48.490
because it's so bifurcated.
00:33:49.698 --> 00:33:52.734
That's really interesting so what do you think the solution is,
00:33:53.802 --> 00:33:57.732
I think the solution is having conversations. So one of the things that happened
00:33:57.732 --> 00:34:02.090
when my daughter and I, she did this project on the generational responses to AI.
00:34:02.386 --> 00:34:08.022
She knows that I'm an AI optimist. I use it tremendously in my work. I have a bunch of agents.
00:34:08.342 --> 00:34:12.722
I'm very big on keeping up and training my employees, giving them tools to actually
00:34:12.722 --> 00:34:15.572
harness the technology in a way that keeps the human judgment.
00:34:15.572 --> 00:34:19.592
I think that's critical because we can't let our brains atrophy in terms of
00:34:20.004 --> 00:34:22.611
surrendering all of our human judgment. and,
00:34:23.557 --> 00:34:27.954
But in having that conversation and actually through the process of publishing
00:34:27.954 --> 00:34:32.324
those pieces in Fortune, what was really interesting is I became a little more
00:34:32.324 --> 00:34:36.474
open to needing to rely more on my human judgment.
00:34:36.774 --> 00:34:41.694
And she became a little more AI curious. So she came down the stairs a week
00:34:41.694 --> 00:34:44.921
or two after we had published these pieces in Fortune. And she was like,
00:34:45.252 --> 00:34:47.364
I use Cloud Code to help me with
00:34:47.364 --> 00:34:51.010
this research that I needed to do for a Substack article I was writing.
00:34:51.480 --> 00:34:54.824
It was really cool, Mom. I built something. I felt like a coder.
00:34:54.824 --> 00:34:57.964
I felt like what an engineer might feel like because she built a thing that
00:34:57.964 --> 00:35:00.400
scraped websites and then populated a spreadsheet.
00:35:00.890 --> 00:35:07.181
And conversely, I had forced myself into having one call a day that was just,
00:35:07.686 --> 00:35:11.889
by cell that wasn't recorded where I didn't get the transcript because I started to notice.
00:35:12.519 --> 00:35:16.564
In the knowledge that every call was being recorded and I'd get the transcript
00:35:16.564 --> 00:35:20.904
to feed to my agents to analyze and get my level three listening.
00:35:20.904 --> 00:35:24.554
The listening that you do when you notice people's body language, are they leaning in?
00:35:24.554 --> 00:35:28.594
Are they leaning out? What's the tone of their voice? Like, even over a cell
00:35:28.594 --> 00:35:32.094
phone, you can figure some of that stuff out and then having to synthesize that.
00:35:32.094 --> 00:35:35.513
So even if I went back and reported to my agents what had happened,
00:35:36.018 --> 00:35:41.774
required a different human skill than just being on a call, knowing it was being
00:35:41.774 --> 00:35:46.974
recorded and sort of tuning out a bit, like not having that deep level of listening.
00:35:46.974 --> 00:35:51.894
So long story short, she sort of became a little more open-minded to using it,
00:35:52.294 --> 00:35:54.552
and I became a little more open-minded to not.
00:35:54.958 --> 00:35:58.834
So yeah, I think it was a really clear indication of how...
00:35:59.930 --> 00:36:06.511
We both kind of moved more to the open-minded way of thinking about something
00:36:06.511 --> 00:36:07.744
we had felt very strongly about.
00:36:07.999 --> 00:36:11.540
Yeah, that is so interesting, the mixed messages.
00:36:11.958 --> 00:36:17.111
And when we just talk to people who are like ourselves, then we're going to
00:36:17.111 --> 00:36:18.611
have those ideas reinforced.
00:36:18.611 --> 00:36:22.041
And I think that is, you know, something like AI, a lot of times we think,
00:36:22.041 --> 00:36:25.501
oh, the younger generation, they're more comfortable with technology,
00:36:25.501 --> 00:36:27.438
they're more willing to, the more this, that, and the other.
00:36:28.461 --> 00:36:32.552
In some ways, but in not always. And if we don't have those conversations.
00:36:34.482 --> 00:36:35.521
Then we're not even gonna be
00:36:35.521 --> 00:36:39.758
challenging ourself. Like, what have I offloaded that I should not have?
00:36:39.886 --> 00:36:43.811
Because it's taking away from what I want to be able to have,
00:36:43.811 --> 00:36:50.041
the elasticity of the brain and being able to be creative and to be innovative
00:36:50.041 --> 00:36:53.621
and not, how do I appropriately use it as a tool, right?
00:36:53.621 --> 00:36:57.611
And if we don't have those sort of right sizing and having your kid challenge
00:36:57.611 --> 00:37:01.828
you is a real i've had that too is a really good way to help you stop and think
00:37:02.130 --> 00:37:07.615
you know and how i justifying in the right way using this appropriately,
00:37:08.719 --> 00:37:13.131
so let me ask you about when i think about pay and how we're going to pay people
00:37:13.131 --> 00:37:20.125
or you know year end you know what someone's going to get what about,
00:37:21.241 --> 00:37:26.604
the untangibles so how somebody shows up how pleasant they are to work with.
00:37:27.659 --> 00:37:31.471
Do you think all that stuff can be captured? There's just some sort of formula number?
00:37:31.471 --> 00:37:35.432
Or is there this discretionary, human to human.
00:37:36.570 --> 00:37:42.211
How I feel, how you fit in, that is just not something that can be reduced and
00:37:42.211 --> 00:37:46.551
put in a spreadsheet and then put into exactly how we're going to pay everybody?
00:37:46.551 --> 00:37:47.714
What are your thoughts on that?
00:37:48.797 --> 00:37:54.344
My thoughts on that are that AI is giving us the opportunity to get closer and
00:37:54.344 --> 00:37:56.663
closer to measurement and,
00:37:57.286 --> 00:38:02.494
metrics around the delivery of business outcomes that we can start to track
00:38:02.494 --> 00:38:07.162
in a way that removes some of the bias, some of the proximity bias, some of the.
00:38:08.195 --> 00:38:13.244
Just bias that you see every day that we all have and is proven as part of the workplace.
00:38:13.244 --> 00:38:18.354
Because that's really the ideal. I mean, it has become a complete dirty word.
00:38:18.354 --> 00:38:22.844
But when you think about a meritocracy, to me, what that means is I am going
00:38:22.844 --> 00:38:25.123
to be valued for the things I deliver to the company.
00:38:25.804 --> 00:38:31.374
And I think that's what we all want. If you have a 10Xer buried somewhere in
00:38:31.374 --> 00:38:36.194
your organization and they're getting paid like a 2Xer, that's a problem because
00:38:36.194 --> 00:38:39.864
you don't know that that person is delivering remarkable results.
00:38:40.364 --> 00:38:45.604
And I would say every single CEO, if you said, would you pay a 10Xer what they're
00:38:45.604 --> 00:38:47.754
worth? Absolutely. You want those people.
00:38:48.369 --> 00:38:52.444
But the problem is, is the way we've organized around building these strategies
00:38:52.444 --> 00:38:56.114
sort of in a room and then having them stay there and not be on the shoulders
00:38:56.114 --> 00:38:57.610
of folks making the decisions,
00:38:58.052 --> 00:39:03.564
is you end up overpaying and underpaying instead of paying for the outcomes that you want.
00:39:03.564 --> 00:39:08.544
And that's never been available to us before because we haven't been able to
00:39:08.544 --> 00:39:13.734
plug into all the systems, capture the context, and understand what does it
00:39:13.734 --> 00:39:16.759
mean to have an employee that's actually delivering business outcomes.
00:39:17.160 --> 00:39:22.105
So my belief is we're moving into a world where we really can start to capture,
00:39:22.628 --> 00:39:27.341
the end of the feedback loop, which is, did that person who we paid up for,
00:39:27.876 --> 00:39:33.263
deliver against the business objectives that we were targeting and justifying that pay for?
00:39:33.588 --> 00:39:38.493
And conversely, do we have high-performing folks somewhere in our organization that are underpaid?
00:39:40.314 --> 00:39:44.975
Yeah. So, of course, there's so many different things that can cause conflict
00:39:44.975 --> 00:39:48.772
at work and certainly when people don't feel like they're being paid appropriately.
00:39:49.214 --> 00:39:51.524
So let's just pivot and talk about conflict.
00:39:52.099 --> 00:39:57.775
In your younger, your first professional jobs, how did you deal with conflict?
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Are you comfortable dealing with it at the work environment? Not comfortable?
00:40:01.955 --> 00:40:04.107
And how does that compare to where you are now?
00:40:06.371 --> 00:40:11.105
I'll start with now now I run toward it I've found that conflict is so much
00:40:11.105 --> 00:40:14.978
easier to address if you just run at it like a brick wall and I would say.
00:40:16.361 --> 00:40:22.400
Results that are not meeting expectations, anything that's tricky or difficult
00:40:22.400 --> 00:40:26.101
to explain, just that's sort of my phrase is like, just run at it.
00:40:26.548 --> 00:40:29.270
Because the more you try to avoid it, the worse it's going to get.
00:40:29.270 --> 00:40:32.010
And the more you try to sugarcoat it, the worse it's going to get.
00:40:32.010 --> 00:40:35.099
So a couple of things I did early in my career that I've really been.
00:40:35.753 --> 00:40:39.180
It's just, I don't do anymore because they don't serve anyone.
00:40:39.180 --> 00:40:43.800
Number one is the sugarcoating. So I have a board member who's an incredible
00:40:43.800 --> 00:40:49.000
mentor and friend, and she always says to me, clarity is kindness. And it's so true.
00:40:49.620 --> 00:40:57.668
It's that critical conversation. It's how do you give someone feedback that is clear?
00:40:57.824 --> 00:41:01.670
And a lot of times that's going to feel bad in the moment because you're telling
00:41:01.670 --> 00:41:03.403
them something maybe negative.
00:41:03.850 --> 00:41:08.128
But the more you sugarcoat that or work around it, they're not benefiting.
00:41:08.500 --> 00:41:13.680
And again, I always think about my role and responsibility is to prepare the
00:41:13.680 --> 00:41:18.592
folks that are in my employ today for roles outside of my organization.
00:41:19.115 --> 00:41:23.790
And if they kind of go through their career and they have some sort of flaw
00:41:23.790 --> 00:41:28.867
that is not addressed directly, we're going to launch them into another job with that same flaw.
00:41:29.047 --> 00:41:32.580
And so we're not serving them and we're not serving our organization either.
00:41:32.580 --> 00:41:36.621
So I would say early in my career, my first tech job that I told you about,
00:41:37.138 --> 00:41:42.330
I was working with a group of women who were also sort of my closest friends.
00:41:42.330 --> 00:41:45.560
I ended up being roommates with one. Like, it's that early career.
00:41:45.560 --> 00:41:47.018
You know, we all go out for happy hour.
00:41:47.575 --> 00:41:50.240
And I got promoted. And now I have to be their manager.
00:41:50.971 --> 00:41:56.530
Oh, my God. Like, if there was a book of, like, 101 mistakes to make as a first-time
00:41:56.530 --> 00:41:58.494
manager, I made 102 of them.
00:41:59.260 --> 00:42:03.130
I just, I wanted to still be their friend. I didn't want to be the boss.
00:42:03.130 --> 00:42:08.386
I didn't like and I was so hurt when I started to be left out of things because
00:42:08.589 --> 00:42:10.030
they saw me differently. They
00:42:10.030 --> 00:42:14.330
couldn't, you know, trash talk or do the things that we had been doing.
00:42:15.173 --> 00:42:20.341
And I just, I couldn't, I couldn't handle it. And I don't think I even learned my lesson in that job.
00:42:20.681 --> 00:42:22.011
Like, I wouldn't say I left that
00:42:22.011 --> 00:42:24.618
job like, oh, I learned all these great things that I'm going to apply.
00:42:24.856 --> 00:42:29.035
It took a while before I sort of figured out, oh, leadership is very different.
00:42:29.500 --> 00:42:34.521
Leadership can be lonely. Leadership is holding yourself and others accountable.
00:42:34.521 --> 00:42:37.631
Leadership is clarity, is kindness.
00:42:37.753 --> 00:42:42.188
And I think that's really tough for folks to learn when they're young.
00:42:43.102 --> 00:42:48.161
But we learn it eventually, hopefully. Was it anything in particular that happened
00:42:48.161 --> 00:42:53.448
or it's just a series of sort of misfires where you just eventually got the message?
00:42:54.166 --> 00:42:58.461
I think it was just a series of things that eventually you realize.
00:42:58.960 --> 00:43:05.281
Actually, I remember what it was. It was at the company after that one where I had to fire someone.
00:43:05.733 --> 00:43:10.251
And when I fired her, somebody else told me, you know, you could have avoided
00:43:10.251 --> 00:43:14.638
that had you given her feedback. And they asked me the question,
00:43:15.461 --> 00:43:18.864
the question that I ask people today, which is, will she be surprised?
00:43:19.914 --> 00:43:23.281
And if a leader is doing it right, when you have to let someone go,
00:43:23.681 --> 00:43:24.982
they should never be surprised.
00:43:25.220 --> 00:43:28.241
Because you've been giving them guidance and feedback all along,
00:43:28.241 --> 00:43:30.240
they know it's coming. They know they're not performing.
00:43:30.612 --> 00:43:34.054
And so when I had to answer that question, yes, I think she'll be surprised,
00:43:34.484 --> 00:43:37.398
it was so clear immediately that I had not done my job.
00:43:38.307 --> 00:43:42.736
And I think that's really important. Like if you're doing your job,
00:43:43.328 --> 00:43:46.956
nobody's going to be surprised by an outcome like that.
00:43:47.937 --> 00:43:54.137
So that was definitely a moment of, oh, yeah, I guess that's on me.
00:43:54.735 --> 00:43:58.927
That is a really great question and goes back to why we don't sugarcoat things.
00:43:58.927 --> 00:44:04.757
Because clarity is kindness. And that means that if I need to say something
00:44:04.757 --> 00:44:09.810
difficult or that might be difficult for somebody, they need to hear precisely what it is.
00:44:10.054 --> 00:44:12.440
What exactly? Instead of me trying to have to guess.
00:44:12.864 --> 00:44:15.887
So it's not that big of a deal. It is a big deal. You want this.
00:44:15.887 --> 00:44:16.857
I'm not really doing that.
00:44:17.415 --> 00:44:24.164
But coming out and say it. Sometimes people misunderstand what it means to be kind. So, right.
00:44:24.460 --> 00:44:29.027
Because I live in the South and there is, I love living in the South and people are very kind here.
00:44:29.027 --> 00:44:32.157
But then sometimes what needs to be said is that out of kindness and i think
00:44:32.157 --> 00:44:35.517
no that is selfishness and cowardice it's not kindness,
00:44:36.028 --> 00:44:42.195
it is kind to tell somebody something that is negatively impacting their professionalism
00:44:42.468 --> 00:44:45.202
or their whatever job it is that they're getting done,
00:44:46.102 --> 00:44:48.175
and and that's.
00:44:49.190 --> 00:44:53.059
And so the more touches we have with people, then we don't have to sandwich
00:44:53.059 --> 00:44:57.549
everything, right? So if people know how you feel about them and you tell them
00:44:57.549 --> 00:45:02.893
when they're doing good work, then you've, in a way, earned the right.
00:45:03.014 --> 00:45:05.889
Earned the right is kind of weird with your boss. But you can be heard in a
00:45:05.889 --> 00:45:08.469
certain kind of way and go with a certain kind of confidence because it's not
00:45:08.469 --> 00:45:12.849
the only time they're ever having contact with you, right? And so I can trust
00:45:12.849 --> 00:45:15.069
what you have to say that you're not trying to harm me, that you're trying to
00:45:15.069 --> 00:45:17.161
help me. I'm trying to help the business.
00:45:17.649 --> 00:45:21.929
Um and you right so the first time to have a difficult conversation is not the
00:45:21.929 --> 00:45:25.349
first time you have a conversation it should be way down the line because you've
00:45:25.349 --> 00:45:29.722
had all these other sorts of touches such that you are developing that person,
00:45:30.245 --> 00:45:34.019
it is clear that they're doing the right kinds of things and so then it would
00:45:34.019 --> 00:45:37.722
also be clear when they're not because they can trust that you'll tell them they don't have to,
00:45:38.399 --> 00:45:43.939
read your mind who wants to read their boss's mind yeah and it's so So it's
00:45:43.939 --> 00:45:47.754
so much easier said than done, particularly if you're,
00:45:48.845 --> 00:45:52.346
you know, in a startup, you're all in the trenches together and you're.
00:45:53.921 --> 00:46:01.810
It's really difficult to, I think, especially as women, overcome this desire to be liked.
00:46:02.611 --> 00:46:07.214
And I've seen it as a fatal flaw in many women who are trying to become executives
00:46:07.214 --> 00:46:12.464
because you really have to put that aside and do what's best for the business.
00:46:12.464 --> 00:46:16.544
And sometimes that means you are able to create and cultivate wonderful relationships,
00:46:16.544 --> 00:46:21.232
but you cannot put being liked ahead of doing what's right.
00:46:21.738 --> 00:46:27.344
And that's a hard lesson to learn. It really only is solvable when you realize
00:46:27.344 --> 00:46:31.954
that there can be disastrous outcomes for the people that you care about if
00:46:31.954 --> 00:46:33.963
you don't give them the right guidance.
00:46:34.715 --> 00:46:39.394
I think it's really, really important to note and also that we need to really
00:46:39.394 --> 00:46:42.204
tell people what it means to go into leadership. If you are now,
00:46:42.204 --> 00:46:45.544
I mean, so many people get promoted from a pool and now the people that they
00:46:45.544 --> 00:46:48.932
were at the break room with just like their experience, now you're in charge.
00:46:49.506 --> 00:46:53.664
And many times we just see oh i get this extra thing i get to do i get this
00:46:53.664 --> 00:46:58.794
increase in pay and very rarely will someone tell us this is what it's going to cost you.
00:46:59.654 --> 00:47:03.754
This is the the personal and it can be really big and can be devastating when
00:47:03.754 --> 00:47:05.052
people don't understand,
00:47:05.766 --> 00:47:10.364
because they feel like they're the same person but to misunderstand power dynamics
00:47:10.364 --> 00:47:14.719
at work to not understand the particular game that you're playing is a detriment to everybody,
00:47:15.207 --> 00:47:17.134
and so if you not everybody is
00:47:17.134 --> 00:47:20.917
should be a leader, right? Not everybody should be a manager or a leader.
00:47:21.201 --> 00:47:23.354
And that's, we should know that, right?
00:47:24.996 --> 00:47:27.889
But to really help people understand, if you're going to do this,
00:47:27.889 --> 00:47:29.779
this is what it's going to mean.
00:47:29.953 --> 00:47:33.181
And this is now what kindness looks like here. And this is what it looks like.
00:47:33.500 --> 00:47:35.949
If you really want to be liked, then you've got to deal with stuff,
00:47:35.949 --> 00:47:37.509
which can feel hard, right?
00:47:37.509 --> 00:47:42.959
That momentary discomfort for the reputation, the trust that you build.
00:47:42.959 --> 00:47:50.527
And it's a different kind of liking or peacemaking or just a different sort of view of success.
00:47:50.800 --> 00:47:54.625
I think very rarely people, women, don't get that message.
00:47:56.680 --> 00:48:02.102
I agree. And I think especially now we all have to be reassessing whether we're in the right job.
00:48:03.079 --> 00:48:07.349
I think AI transformation is changing so many things and it's making so many
00:48:07.349 --> 00:48:09.739
more roles accessible to folks. And.
00:48:11.942 --> 00:48:17.829
It requires tremendous change agility. It is the most important attribute.
00:48:17.829 --> 00:48:23.139
And I heard, you know, somebody that I really respect, Dee, he's the CHRO at AbbVie.
00:48:23.139 --> 00:48:27.129
He talked about this at a conference I was at. And he was just talking about
00:48:27.129 --> 00:48:32.649
the cultivation of change agility and how it really is the legacy ideal of change
00:48:32.649 --> 00:48:34.041
management in a new world.
00:48:34.953 --> 00:48:41.249
And management those two words the word that change change management to change
00:48:41.249 --> 00:48:47.053
agility like think about that word choice i love words i'm a history nerd i love writing,
00:48:47.546 --> 00:48:52.318
management to agility so something that is very sort of cut and dried clear
00:48:52.724 --> 00:48:57.299
concise concrete you manage the change there's a process by which you go through
00:48:57.299 --> 00:49:02.488
to manage the thing versus change agility that really signals and.
00:49:03.941 --> 00:49:07.032
It's going to, you got to check and adjust. You got to be curious.
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You don't know. You got to be nimble. You got to be able to roll with it.
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Very different processes for how people can transform in this new era and what
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it requires of us to be in certain jobs. So I think about that all the time.
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I think that's really wonderful because, yeah, change management denotes we're
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changing from this to that and now we're done, right? You've managed the change.
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You've gone through the process and now we can sit in this.
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But agility really is the name of the game. And change is not going away.
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And so while it is the case that humans crave stability, it's how do I find
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that stability in the change?
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How do I develop those skills to not only accept but expect this?
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And so being agile, I think that is a really beautiful, evocative way of helping
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people set their expectations as to what does it mean to be relevant in the
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age of work in which we find ourselves.
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All right. So my last question for you is this. As you look into the world,
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the future, what do you think needs to happen so that not only will all people
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be treated with dignity and respect at work, but that they'll be encouraged to thrive and flourish?
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I think organizations need to leverage this incredible opportunity of technology,
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to start analyzing and giving the ability for their strategy to be in every single room.
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And I think that's important because I think,
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In a lot of companies I talk to, the strategy is very thoughtful.
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It's not flawed. It takes into account a lot of the things they're trying to achieve.
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It's that gap between the development of this very thoughtful,
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intentional strategy and what happens in the day-to-day.
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So my advice would be do whatever you can do to make sure you're closing that
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gap because the tools exist now.
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The tools exist now to pull and push information in a way that it can be analyzed
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and it can actually bridge that So that every single conversation that's happening
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with your frontline, this
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ability to have manager readiness in a way that we couldn't have before.
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It's very transformational.
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And it can provide the transparency that links to not only better engagement
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and better happiness and productivity and safety and all of those things,
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transparency and trust are two sides of the same coin. So the more transparency
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that you're able to offer, the more linkage to that strategy in everyday conversations,
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the more trust you're going to garner from your people.
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And I think that's really an opportunity to build a durable, thriving company.
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Great answer. Well, Maria, thank you so much for being on Conflict Management
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and for this great conversation.
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Yeah, thank you. It was a pleasure.
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Well, take care. Take care.
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Maria, thank you for the conversation, for the work that you're doing.
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It sounds really interesting, and of course it's important.
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Because we're at work, we want to get paid. We want to be paid equitably,
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fairly, however we want to think about it.
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We want, in our organizations, want to treat their people well.
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But certainly, in larger organizations, it's really hard to get your arms around
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some of that information so that you can be consistent.
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So that's wonderful that we have these products available to help us do the
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thing that we want to do anyway, to treat our people well.
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