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All right, everybody.
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Well, welcome back to another episode of the Flying Monkey Podcast.
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Uh, today we have a father, he's in Nebraska, and we're gonna talk a little bit to him about his uh his story and situation and what he's been going through.
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How are you doing today, Jaden?
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I'm well, I'm well.
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How are you?
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Good, good.
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It looks beautiful where you are.
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You got the big white puffy clouds and the blue sunny sky.
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Yes, it's it's great here.
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It's about uh 81 degrees and and uh just beautiful, man.
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I'm but couldn't ask for a better day.
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That's great.
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So, what you've been going through?
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You were mentioning to me, I guess we talked a little bit earlier.
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You had you have three children.
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Yep.
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And so do you have custody or are you visitations, or maybe just tell us your story?
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What's going on?
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Yeah, so you know, I went in the service from 09 to 13.
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While in service, I met another service member, and we end up getting married and had a child in 2012.
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And my daughter's now 12, she's turned 12 in April.
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Um some years ago, we tried to fight for her, but it was an out-of-state thing.
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She was in Florida, I was in Nebraska, I was dealing with mental health stuff because I just got out of service, and basically they took me for child support, and they ended up taking my rights away behind my back.
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I just got served with a documentation that said your rights have been taken from you.
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So um, we haven't touched base back on that one yet.
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So then I got healthy again.
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I was ready to uh, you know, felt like I was ready to get back on the dating game with the intention of finding a spouse and you know having a family.
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Then I met my son's mom.
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Things were okay in the very beginning.
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You know, uh my son is going to well, he just turned seven on the and so he just recently had a birthday.
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Things went really south on that.
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Ended up going to court for some criminal activity uh in the sense of she was being manipulative, and I fell for her, for her stuff that she had going on, and it got me a felony and it got me a misdemeanor.
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And it had nothing to do with drugs, it was all because one of her sons was getting abused by the other biological father, and I stood up for that, you know, being in the military, being a dad, being in believing all that stuff, it was I fell for it very easy.
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Did I learn my lesson?
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Absolutely.
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And it's in fact to this day I've seen the biological dad.
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We've smiled and waved at each other.
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Like it was no big deal.
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I mean, so I don't think uh two right are two wrongs make a right.
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I don't believe that, but I also believe standing up for what is right.
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And you know, and and and going through this as well.
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I mean, you we get lied to, we get misled, and and people always tend, even you know, even the court situation can create the the frustration and the anger make it harder.
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And it it's trauma, it's traumatizing to all of us.
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And so then sometimes you you think you know you're but you're standing up for something what you've been misled completely, and you're just trying to do what's right.
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And it the other person's going through the same thing that that most of us are going through, and then they're like, What the heck is this?
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And it just causes this whole big thing over absolutely nothing because it really isn't the way it's been portrayed to be.
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So but I I think that's awesome that you guys can wave to each other.
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That shows how good of a guy you are and him as well, you know.
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Yeah, yeah, for sure.
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And you know, it just goes to show that you know, the mentality, the victim mentality, and then you know, the males or the or the fathers have to they automatically get drawn into the villain position in the narrative because in order to be a victim, there has to be a villain in the narrative.
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So the same thing happened with my youngest daughter's mom.
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She, in fact, moved forward with another man before we even separated.
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The crazy thing is, she's now pregnant with his child, and they haven't been together six months yet.
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Wow.
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But I'm the I'm the bad father, I'm the one fighting for my kid, I'm the one going out and spending the money to make sure everything's right and make sure my daughter has everything that she needs.
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She'll be 10 months on the 15th, and you know, when someone is so toxic with within themselves and they dislike themselves, they like to create that chaos for other people.
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Misery loves company, right?
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So, um, with that theory, that's what's been happening.
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Like three or three or four Saturdays ago when we had a pickup drop-off at the police station, this man assaulted my mother.
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He was she was trying to he was trying to come at me because he took offense to what I was doing.
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I was just standing there with my arms crossed, and he they went to drive by the girl, the ex slammed on the brakes, he jumped out of the car and wanted to come after me.
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My mom was recording and got in the way and and hurt her hands.
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She's a nurse of 24 years, so she used her hands to work, and we tried to press charges.
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My mom tried to file a um protection order.
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The protection order got denied.
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Wow.
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That's insane.
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Straight up got denied because they said it was the first offense.
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That's BS.
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That's very usually they give them to you at least temporarily till they can give you because they're supposed to do that and give you an evidentiary hearing.
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Um that's just that's insane.
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But see, I see again now he's getting fed a bunch of baloney.
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So he's where you were, you know, back in that other situation.
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Just it's so hard.
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It it escalates and and it gets pretty nasty.
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I've seen, I mean, we've had a father, but yeah, he uh South Dakota drove to Idaho to see his kids finally, and then he got shot by the by the the ex's father and killed over what?
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Over lies again.
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You know, so I mean it's just open the door, let the kids out, open the other door, let the kids get in.
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It's so easy to do, you know.
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And but everyone today is so hostile and angry and and instigating, and I don't I I don't understand it.
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I mean I've lived through it as well.
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I mean, I've been, you know, yeah, I've I've been through it, I've been attacked too.
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So it's it's it's so unnecessary and so it's just it's it's it's horrible.
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I mean, look at the world we live in.
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I mean, the tensions high, we are surviving more than we're living.
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When it comes to being a man, we're our one of our innate behaviors is to protect, right?
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To protect our family, to protect ourselves.
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Um, but at the end of the day, I know that my love for my kids is way stronger than doing the wrong thing.
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And but it doesn't mean that I'm not human about it.
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It means I'm gonna feel those, you know, I'm gonna feel those emotions and feel those things.
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And that's what makes it difficult, is because there's a lot of things conflicting.
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Want to do the right thing, they're doing the wrong things, why aren't they held being held accountable for the same reasons I am?
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And it feels like I'm being misled and and and just not it feels like I'm being accountable for everything and they're not being accounted for anything at all, you know?
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Well, exactly.
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And the and the the the problem is that there's another entity that that instigates, causes this, and allows us to continue.
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So when you have bad actors or people that are just can't act properly, you know, when you go to back to court and say, look at you know, I was I was attacked, the child was attacked, there was violence, and it was perpetrated by another.
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All I did was want to come and pick up my kid and go go go out for ice cream, or go to the park and play, or go fishing, or go play baseball, or whatever, or just go back to my house and watch cartoons and build forts.
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You know, all the fun stuff was dads we get to do with our kids, and and we're not allowed to see them every day or talk to them every day.
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And it's it's that in itself is completely against everything natural, and then you got civil rights, constitutional rights, and everything else behind that.
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But just it's just you get so much little, so little time with them, you just want to be with them.
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And then so the courts are the ones allowing like they're sitting there putting two two dogs, you know, getting them all riled up at each other, and they'll let go of the leashes and say, Well, look at these, look at these people.
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They got the you know, you're the problem, you're the one that did it, and you're not.
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It's like, you know, I all I want to do is see my kids, so why can't they follow through with their orders?
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And when someone's bad, you stop it because all it does is hurts the kid, hurts the parents, hurts the extended family, and then and then the whole thing hurts society because if look at the way this has been going on when divorce became you know, allowed or cool, it's what we got 70 years of it now or 60 years of it happening, and look what's going on.
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It's worse than ever.
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Nobody can have a relationship, no one can stay in a relationship, everyone's selfish and insecure and angry, and it's just all caused by what they're and they're just worse at doing it now than they ever have been, and they're more blatant and and they're in your face and they don't care.
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And it's all it's about well, it's about money, and I think that's something too that you wanted to talk about was I think the child support and and the the federal funding for that, which kind of influences the courts to do what they do.
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Yeah.
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Well, I did some digging and I was able to find that the judges make money through the state off of child support.
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The the lawyers are there just to they're like the referees in the boxing match, you know, because I feel like my lawyer has done a lot of good, but I feel like my lawyer has also kind of just kind of like walked around things and not really addressed it like he like I thought like I like like I basically I would.
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Well, of course, you know now this it's no different than you know, basically I guess they make it sound like the way that you talk to judges is no different than how you and I talk, except for just saying you're honored.
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They're just as human as you as we are, and if you think that you're higher or better than somebody else, then you need to be taken to be taken down from your position.
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Because when you s when you're when the head starts getting big, bad decisions get made.
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Just like if we're being, you know, we're civilians in this world and we're like, you know, um, you know, we get say we get arrogant or something, we end up making bad decisions because we're not using our right mind or a wise mind, we're using our arrogancy, thinking we're better than everybody else.
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Well, now it's become a contest in which nobody's gonna win in.
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It's a revolving cycle of toxicity.
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That's right.
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So I just I know I I come on this podcast, I reached out, my mom had had uh seen you, and I'm like, you know what?
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I gotta reach out to this man.
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I heard a lot of good things, and to finally be here is it's an honor.
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So I I really appreciate that.
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Yeah, well, thanks for coming on.
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It's and it's good to talk to you and tell your mom I said to say hi.
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Oh, I will, most definitely.
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I will, yes.
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I will.
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All right, there's another question I wanted to ask is what would you think or feel that would be a good change for the system?
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What could be done to make things better for both parents and for the children, especially?
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Well, I think that you know, the laws that were created back in say the 50s when when times were different, these laws have to be changed, and we have to stand up against the system.
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And most people don't want to stand up against the system because they're scared they're gonna get in trouble, that they're gonna not be able to see their kids.
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That's so true.
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That's true.
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You know, and it's and it's it's kind of sad that at this point, and in this country, the way it was uh originally established is people were escaping tyranny and control and all that, and that's why they fled to this country.
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Um you know, but then you know, humans just keep doing the same thing over and over again.
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History repeats itself.
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So it's happened to the people that were here prior to them coming over, they did it to them.
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I mean, and they over and over and over.
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And then, you know, like the you talked about the family unit, how we're designed to do certain things, you know, women and men.
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And when we're we're all forced to do to go out and have to work now to survive, and and and so you can't it it makes it almost impossible to have that the way things were made to be or the way things used to be.
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Because we're all have you have to have two people working, and even at this point right now, you can't you can't still can't afford to do it, you know, with two people working.
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So it's tough.
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But the change can be made and and laws can be taken down and erased and taken off the books.
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Um and it doesn't i and it's such common sense and it's such a simple situation.
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They treat you like a criminal for for not having a relationship that worked out.
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And it that's not the deal.
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I mean, none of us were getting accused of things prior to that.
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I mean, maybe one or two.
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I mean, a small percentage, yeah, people can't control themselves, they have bad behavior and they they're not cool.
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But for uh maybe 90 to 95 percent of the cases, it's just people aren't gonna they decided they're not gonna be together anymore.
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So it's simple.
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Okay, that's fine.
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Divide everything half 50-50, you and the kid, you know, you get to see him and talk to him every single day.
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That's what I like to see.
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A mom or because the other thing is too, sometimes, you know, as men, we're thinking we're the ones that are totally being screwed over.
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And and a lot of and and I don't know, it's 90% of the time that's the case in family court that the dads do not get custody.
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But more and more people that I talk to and interview, it's happening to moms too, and I think that's important.
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Uh and I think as a whole, when we talk about unity, we need to stop worrying about father's rights and mother's rights because we're then you're still divided and conquered.
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It's parents' rights and children's rights or family rights, and and and that's all there is to it.
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And you know, we created children, children need two parents to grow up and be trained and taught and loved and cared for, and and and and the man and a woman do different things and they bring different things to the table.
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And the kid needs to see that.
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But the most important thing that the kids need to see is the mom and dad working together so that they learn how to have a good relationship.
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Because when they see this constant crushing and battling and arguing and bickering, then they get that gets put in their that's how it's put into their their system, and that's how and they're they're gonna end up in the same situation, and it just perpetuates it over and over, and that's where we are today.
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It's just multiplied by millions.
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And it's an easy fix, but again, you've got people with that are making money off of this, and that's what they want.
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And they're very dangerous and in the what in what they do and how they do it, and they put a lot of people's lives in danger, especially the children, because they're damaging the children by not allowing them to see their parents, you know.
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And it it's an easy fix, but they don't want to fix it.
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So we need to we need to keep talking about it, and we need to unite, we need to have a big, big force of people and say that hey, this is gonna stop right now.
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You know, you're getting divorced, you didn't kill someone, you didn't run over, you didn't, you know, do something bad.
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You just don't want to be together anymore.
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It's not a crime.
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So stop treating it like it, you know, and the false allegations and all that stuff that it you know is just it's out of control.
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It's just way out of control.
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I'd like to touch this base on the child support aspect of it.
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Okay, so whether the whether it's mother or father that go into this and whoever the person has to pay child support, right?
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So I'm not against paying child support, okay?
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I'm not against paying for my children's needs and some of their wants.
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What I am against is whoever is receiving the child support not taking accountability because I don't know if the if the money that I'm sending over there is going for the child or if it's going to your habits or whatever's going on.
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I'm not trying to make your life better off my dime.
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That's not my job.
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We've separated.
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Yeah.
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My obligation is to take care of my children, right?
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So, you know, where's the accountability in that?
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Yeah, no, exactly.
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And you know, and it's funny because again, that can probably be pretty, that could be even that could be rearranged as well because we're paying, you know, with over the phone, you know, with the phone, you can say, okay, here's the grocery store.
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We're gonna put a grocery store card, we're gonna get a clothing card, we got this allotment and allowance for everything the child needs for the month, and you just the money you could just directly send it.
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You don't even need to send it to the government or to the court.
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You know, here's the receipts, send them in.
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I got them, you proved it.
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And you know, and that's the way that it's that simple.
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And you just could take care of all the all the you take care of the child, and then we'll you know, let's put 10% away for college, both of you.
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You know, why nobody ever talks about that?
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But yeah, it I know it just it's crazy.
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Or give me my kid and I'll pay for it.
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I'll pay for half of the week, you know, that he needs, and she pays for half of the week, vice versa, you know.
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And yeah, you know, but they want to make money off it, because what is it, Title IV?
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Is that what this the they take the money out of the Social Security and it's what 66 cents on the dollar that the federal government funds these states through the child support system?
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It sounds pretty sounds pretty familiar, you know, especially with you know, like I don't work a regular job, I get uh SSDI, which is Social Security Disability Income, and then I get VA disability.
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And so for one, I think it's wrong to take somebody's disability money.
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For one, and two, uh you know, I believe that there should be something implemented where like it could be 50-50, no child support, and whoever takes care of the the child um that week, they're responsible for.
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Yeah, and then you know, if they're if if one parent has the child on let's say Medicaid or something, which for example, you know, my my uh youngest daughter's mom has her on Medicaid, which is a state-funded um insurance.
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But I also did time in in uh the military, so I have federal uh insurance that I can also apply to her insurance, which that would actually take primary and Medicaid would be secondary.
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There's no reason why it can't be 50-50, no cut no child support.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I know, but they want to make money off of destroying families, and it's it's pretty bad.
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So you know, for the people that get to hear what you and I've uh talking about, any viewers that are watching, um, you know, um we need to unite, we need to do things the right way, we need to be knowledgeable and come correct.
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So we can't go to these people and say, hey, you know, I don't want to pay child support because of this, this, this.
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We need to hit them with actual statutes, laws, and how we can actually change this stuff.
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Yeah, yeah.
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It needs, yeah, there's a lot of change that needs to be done.
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And you know, you know, if they can take employees out of the small businesses and put robots and computers in, well, you know, those people lost their jobs and taxi drivers lost their jobs to Uber.
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But you know what?
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I think that it the same thing can happen to the family court system because it's it there's no even reason to even go to a court for that.
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You know, you didn't have to go to court to sign that marriage license, but you gotta go to court there, and then they just take and they just they tear you apart.
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And who are they?
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And they're our representatives, they're servants of the public, and they're supposed to follow the law and be just and be fair and be honest and be ethical.
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And that's not even the case.
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So um it needs to change, and it needs to change soon because you're just creating an ad more generations of of damaged children, which is it it it's destructive to society as a whole.
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And yeah, it just it causes more chaos.
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And you know, you know, sad to say, it seems that that's what they want, but that's the result.
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And if you can't put two and two together, then you know you need to go find another way to make a living because this is an easy fix.
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It really is.
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You know, so yeah, yeah, it's and and if you if you noticed, I mean, I I know I'm sure you have that there the common sense in in law is backwards.
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So why that is, I have no idea.
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It doesn't make any sense to me.
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But um, hopefully one day you can kind of go back to more having more common sense and being able to work for the people and not work against the people.
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Yeah, no, exactly.
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I think Georgia, I heard someone talking about it.
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They went to uh it was one of the guests I had on the show, I think she was taught Angel Law.
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So one of the it might have been the the alienation day.
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uh episode she was talking about how Georgia went to an online divorce.
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So you just go online, you fill out everything and it just and then it's filed and you know there's no lawyers, there's no headaches.
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And when they went to that it was the the false allegations and the you know the the the the false protective orders and all that violence and chaos nearly disappeared.
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Because there's nobody you know there's nobody telling hey you know you need to give me something I can use against this person, you know, so we can win this case.
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It's not about winning.
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It's just about a dissolving the property and the finances and then setting up a a a parenting situation where the child can enjoy both as parents because that's a God given right.
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I mean that we created the child nobody owns that child but us.
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And I don't even know if own is the proper word but the there are there are children.
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We created that life and we're entitled to to have the right to raise them and love them and care for them protect them and take care of them and and enjoy them and have childhood is supposed to be a magical time.
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Yeah it's not supposed to be a time when you're sitting in a room missing your mom or your dad and being told a bunch of stuff that you know isn't true and then being forced to lie and then act badly towards them too if it gets to that stage where it's the the alienation which is violence against a child.
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It's abusive so it's yeah a lot of things need to change and quick because it's it's really bad.
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It's really really bad.
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Yeah well I think this is exactly where it starts it starts about talking about it it starts about gaining knowledge about it you know start developing bigger and better things within each state and finding people that are reliable to be able to take on that responsibility to be able to withhold that advocacy for themselves but for other people as well because this is a big deal and if it gets any bigger I mean I don't know I think it's at its prime it's at its peak where we need to handle it now.
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If we wait any longer I mean we're just gonna it's just gonna keep getting worse.
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Yeah oh yeah I was reading numbers of uh like 25 million parents are alienated um and I was then I was seeing someone posting something about the Census Bureau with 24 million kids are without a father in the home and I'm like that number seems way off because if there's 25 million people being alienated from their children in this country you and you figure how many kids do people have let's just go 1.5 to be a low average that's you know you're into 40 fifty you know 35 million kids and those are the ones that are just being alienated from their parents then a let then you add the ones that are just divorced and they didn't add those numbers in so I don't I think the numbers are very low and I saw a number of alienated kids in the world being 300 million worldwide.
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So it's it's something you know with a lot of things that that's been going on in general about everything it's just part of the trend of it's not not it's not working folks.
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So let's fix it.
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And and for those folks that do watch us who aren't going through a divorce or aren't going through their child being kept for them we need you to help as well folks we need you to listen to us to share our podcast to share the groups that you know the father's rights the mother's rights the children's rights the alienated parents groups we we need everyone to come to come together and and and to say have a voice and say this is stop we're we're you're abusing p children and it's you know it seems as if you could even say it's crimes against humanity because it's really it's not legal it's not fair it's not just and it's it's it's completely wrong.
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So it's it's unconstitutional the civil rights are being you know you know uh hit you know so yeah why do we even have those rights if they're not going to be protecting us right well we do have those rights and they we need to be able to utilize them.
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So well Jaden it was awesome to talk to you and you know yeah there's other things I'd like to talk to you too about after the show for a second too um that that maybe it'll help you in your situation.
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Um so and then again anytime you want to come on and talk or give us an update um you know or even your mom wants to come on and talk you know anybody because parents like my you know grandparents can't see their kids either that and see it's just this chain reaction of it's not just the mom or the dad it's the grandparents and the aunts and the uncles and the the the cousins and all the whole family get is suffering by a child that they love they can't be with for what what did they do to them you know you want to keep putting blame on a mom or a dad for being this or that well what did grandma do what did grandpa do what did uncle Bob and Aunt Mary do nothing so why are you know they have the rights to see that child as well too so it's it's it's yeah but what I think we know I'd love to talk to you again and have you on again so and get an update on how see things how things are going for you.
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So yeah I'd love to be back and uh we'll definitely set something up.
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All right, everybody.
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Well, welcome back to another episode of the Flying Monkey Podcast.
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Uh, today we have a father, he's in Nebraska, and we're gonna talk a little bit to him about his uh his story and situation and what he's been going through.
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How are you doing today, Jaden?
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I'm well, I'm well.
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How are you?
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Good, good.
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It looks beautiful where you are.
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You got the big white puffy clouds and the blue sunny sky.
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Yes, it's it's great here.
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It's about uh 81 degrees and and uh just beautiful, man.
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I'm but couldn't ask for a better day.
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That's great.
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So, what you've been going through?
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You were mentioning to me, I guess we talked a little bit earlier.
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You had you have three children.
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Yep.
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And so do you have custody or are you visitations, or maybe just tell us your story?
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What's going on?
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Yeah, so you know, I went in the service from 09 to 13.
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While in service, I met another service member, and we end up getting married and had a child in 2012.
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And my daughter's now 12, she's turned 12 in April.
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Um some years ago, we tried to fight for her, but it was an out-of-state thing.
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She was in Florida, I was in Nebraska, I was dealing with mental health stuff because I just got out of service, and basically they took me for child support, and they ended up taking my rights away behind my back.
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I just got served with a documentation that said your rights have been taken from you.
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So um, we haven't touched base back on that one yet.
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So then I got healthy again.
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I was ready to uh, you know, felt like I was ready to get back on the dating game with the intention of finding a spouse and you know having a family.
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Then I met my son's mom.
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Things were okay in the very beginning.
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You know, uh my son is going to well, he just turned seven on the and so he just recently had a birthday.
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Things went really south on that.
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Ended up going to court for some criminal activity uh in the sense of she was being manipulative, and I fell for her, for her stuff that she had going on, and it got me a felony and it got me a misdemeanor.
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And it had nothing to do with drugs, it was all because one of her sons was getting abused by the other biological father, and I stood up for that, you know, being in the military, being a dad, being in believing all that stuff, it was I fell for it very easy.
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Did I learn my lesson?
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Absolutely.
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And it's in fact to this day I've seen the biological dad.
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We've smiled and waved at each other.
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Like it was no big deal.
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I mean, so I don't think uh two right are two wrongs make a right.
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I don't believe that, but I also believe standing up for what is right.
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And you know, and and and going through this as well.
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I mean, you we get lied to, we get misled, and and people always tend, even you know, even the court situation can create the the frustration and the anger make it harder.
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And it it's trauma, it's traumatizing to all of us.
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And so then sometimes you you think you know you're but you're standing up for something what you've been misled completely, and you're just trying to do what's right.
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And it the other person's going through the same thing that that most of us are going through, and then they're like, What the heck is this?
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And it just causes this whole big thing over absolutely nothing because it really isn't the way it's been portrayed to be.
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So but I I think that's awesome that you guys can wave to each other.
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That shows how good of a guy you are and him as well, you know.
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Yeah, yeah, for sure.
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And you know, it just goes to show that you know, the mentality, the victim mentality, and then you know, the males or the or the fathers have to they automatically get drawn into the villain position in the narrative because in order to be a victim, there has to be a villain in the narrative.
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So the same thing happened with my youngest daughter's mom.
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She, in fact, moved forward with another man before we even separated.
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The crazy thing is, she's now pregnant with his child, and they haven't been together six months yet.
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Wow.
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But I'm the I'm the bad father, I'm the one fighting for my kid, I'm the one going out and spending the money to make sure everything's right and make sure my daughter has everything that she needs.
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She'll be 10 months on the 15th, and you know, when someone is so toxic with within themselves and they dislike themselves, they like to create that chaos for other people.
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Misery loves company, right?
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So, um, with that theory, that's what's been happening.
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Like three or three or four Saturdays ago when we had a pickup drop-off at the police station, this man assaulted my mother.
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He was she was trying to he was trying to come at me because he took offense to what I was doing.
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I was just standing there with my arms crossed, and he they went to drive by the girl, the ex slammed on the brakes, he jumped out of the car and wanted to come after me.
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My mom was recording and got in the way and and hurt her hands.
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She's a nurse of 24 years, so she used her hands to work, and we tried to press charges.
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My mom tried to file a um protection order.
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The protection order got denied.
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Wow.
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That's insane.
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Straight up got denied because they said it was the first offense.
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That's BS.
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That's very usually they give them to you at least temporarily till they can give you because they're supposed to do that and give you an evidentiary hearing.
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Um that's just that's insane.
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But see, I see again now he's getting fed a bunch of baloney.
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So he's where you were, you know, back in that other situation.
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Just it's so hard.
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It it escalates and and it gets pretty nasty.
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I've seen, I mean, we've had a father, but yeah, he uh South Dakota drove to Idaho to see his kids finally, and then he got shot by the by the the ex's father and killed over what?
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Over lies again.
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You know, so I mean it's just open the door, let the kids out, open the other door, let the kids get in.
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It's so easy to do, you know.
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And but everyone today is so hostile and angry and and instigating, and I don't I I don't understand it.
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I mean I've lived through it as well.
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I mean, I've been, you know, yeah, I've I've been through it, I've been attacked too.
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So it's it's it's so unnecessary and so it's just it's it's it's horrible.
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I mean, look at the world we live in.
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I mean, the tensions high, we are surviving more than we're living.
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When it comes to being a man, we're our one of our innate behaviors is to protect, right?
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To protect our family, to protect ourselves.
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Um, but at the end of the day, I know that my love for my kids is way stronger than doing the wrong thing.
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And but it doesn't mean that I'm not human about it.
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It means I'm gonna feel those, you know, I'm gonna feel those emotions and feel those things.
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And that's what makes it difficult, is because there's a lot of things conflicting.
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Want to do the right thing, they're doing the wrong things, why aren't they held being held accountable for the same reasons I am?
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And it feels like I'm being misled and and and just not it feels like I'm being accountable for everything and they're not being accounted for anything at all, you know?
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Well, exactly.
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And the and the the the problem is that there's another entity that that instigates, causes this, and allows us to continue.
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So when you have bad actors or people that are just can't act properly, you know, when you go to back to court and say, look at you know, I was I was attacked, the child was attacked, there was violence, and it was perpetrated by another.
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All I did was want to come and pick up my kid and go go go out for ice cream, or go to the park and play, or go fishing, or go play baseball, or whatever, or just go back to my house and watch cartoons and build forts.
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You know, all the fun stuff was dads we get to do with our kids, and and we're not allowed to see them every day or talk to them every day.
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And it's it's that in itself is completely against everything natural, and then you got civil rights, constitutional rights, and everything else behind that.
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But just it's just you get so much little, so little time with them, you just want to be with them.
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And then so the courts are the ones allowing like they're sitting there putting two two dogs, you know, getting them all riled up at each other, and they'll let go of the leashes and say, Well, look at these, look at these people.
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They got the you know, you're the problem, you're the one that did it, and you're not.
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It's like, you know, I all I want to do is see my kids, so why can't they follow through with their orders?
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And when someone's bad, you stop it because all it does is hurts the kid, hurts the parents, hurts the extended family, and then and then the whole thing hurts society because if look at the way this has been going on when divorce became you know, allowed or cool, it's what we got 70 years of it now or 60 years of it happening, and look what's going on.
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It's worse than ever.
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Nobody can have a relationship, no one can stay in a relationship, everyone's selfish and insecure and angry, and it's just all caused by what they're and they're just worse at doing it now than they ever have been, and they're more blatant and and they're in your face and they don't care.
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And it's all it's about well, it's about money, and I think that's something too that you wanted to talk about was I think the child support and and the the federal funding for that, which kind of influences the courts to do what they do.
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Yeah.
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Well, I did some digging and I was able to find that the judges make money through the state off of child support.
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The the lawyers are there just to they're like the referees in the boxing match, you know, because I feel like my lawyer has done a lot of good, but I feel like my lawyer has also kind of just kind of like walked around things and not really addressed it like he like I thought like I like like I basically I would.
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Well, of course, you know now this it's no different than you know, basically I guess they make it sound like the way that you talk to judges is no different than how you and I talk, except for just saying you're honored.
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They're just as human as you as we are, and if you think that you're higher or better than somebody else, then you need to be taken to be taken down from your position.
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Because when you s when you're when the head starts getting big, bad decisions get made.
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Just like if we're being, you know, we're civilians in this world and we're like, you know, um, you know, we get say we get arrogant or something, we end up making bad decisions because we're not using our right mind or a wise mind, we're using our arrogancy, thinking we're better than everybody else.
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Well, now it's become a contest in which nobody's gonna win in.
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It's a revolving cycle of toxicity.
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That's right.
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So I just I know I I come on this podcast, I reached out, my mom had had uh seen you, and I'm like, you know what?
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I gotta reach out to this man.
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I heard a lot of good things, and to finally be here is it's an honor.
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So I I really appreciate that.
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Yeah, well, thanks for coming on.
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It's and it's good to talk to you and tell your mom I said to say hi.
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Oh, I will, most definitely.
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I will, yes.
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I will.
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All right, there's another question I wanted to ask is what would you think or feel that would be a good change for the system?
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What could be done to make things better for both parents and for the children, especially?
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Well, I think that you know, the laws that were created back in say the 50s when when times were different, these laws have to be changed, and we have to stand up against the system.
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And most people don't want to stand up against the system because they're scared they're gonna get in trouble, that they're gonna not be able to see their kids.
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That's so true.
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That's true.
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You know, and it's and it's it's kind of sad that at this point, and in this country, the way it was uh originally established is people were escaping tyranny and control and all that, and that's why they fled to this country.
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Um you know, but then you know, humans just keep doing the same thing over and over again.
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History repeats itself.
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So it's happened to the people that were here prior to them coming over, they did it to them.
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I mean, and they over and over and over.
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And then, you know, like the you talked about the family unit, how we're designed to do certain things, you know, women and men.
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And when we're we're all forced to do to go out and have to work now to survive, and and and so you can't it it makes it almost impossible to have that the way things were made to be or the way things used to be.
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Because we're all have you have to have two people working, and even at this point right now, you can't you can't still can't afford to do it, you know, with two people working.
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So it's tough.
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But the change can be made and and laws can be taken down and erased and taken off the books.
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Um and it doesn't i and it's such common sense and it's such a simple situation.
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They treat you like a criminal for for not having a relationship that worked out.
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And it that's not the deal.
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I mean, none of us were getting accused of things prior to that.
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I mean, maybe one or two.
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I mean, a small percentage, yeah, people can't control themselves, they have bad behavior and they they're not cool.
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But for uh maybe 90 to 95 percent of the cases, it's just people aren't gonna they decided they're not gonna be together anymore.
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So it's simple.
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Okay, that's fine.
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Divide everything half 50-50, you and the kid, you know, you get to see him and talk to him every single day.
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That's what I like to see.
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A mom or because the other thing is too, sometimes, you know, as men, we're thinking we're the ones that are totally being screwed over.
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And and a lot of and and I don't know, it's 90% of the time that's the case in family court that the dads do not get custody.
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But more and more people that I talk to and interview, it's happening to moms too, and I think that's important.
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Uh and I think as a whole, when we talk about unity, we need to stop worrying about father's rights and mother's rights because we're then you're still divided and conquered.
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It's parents' rights and children's rights or family rights, and and and that's all there is to it.
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And you know, we created children, children need two parents to grow up and be trained and taught and loved and cared for, and and and and the man and a woman do different things and they bring different things to the table.
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And the kid needs to see that.
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But the most important thing that the kids need to see is the mom and dad working together so that they learn how to have a good relationship.
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Because when they see this constant crushing and battling and arguing and bickering, then they get that gets put in their that's how it's put into their their system, and that's how and they're they're gonna end up in the same situation, and it just perpetuates it over and over, and that's where we are today.
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It's just multiplied by millions.
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And it's an easy fix, but again, you've got people with that are making money off of this, and that's what they want.
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And they're very dangerous and in the what in what they do and how they do it, and they put a lot of people's lives in danger, especially the children, because they're damaging the children by not allowing them to see their parents, you know.
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And it it's an easy fix, but they don't want to fix it.
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So we need to we need to keep talking about it, and we need to unite, we need to have a big, big force of people and say that hey, this is gonna stop right now.
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You know, you're getting divorced, you didn't kill someone, you didn't run over, you didn't, you know, do something bad.
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You just don't want to be together anymore.
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It's not a crime.
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So stop treating it like it, you know, and the false allegations and all that stuff that it you know is just it's out of control.
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It's just way out of control.
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I'd like to touch this base on the child support aspect of it.
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Okay, so whether the whether it's mother or father that go into this and whoever the person has to pay child support, right?
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So I'm not against paying child support, okay?
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I'm not against paying for my children's needs and some of their wants.
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What I am against is whoever is receiving the child support not taking accountability because I don't know if the if the money that I'm sending over there is going for the child or if it's going to your habits or whatever's going on.
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I'm not trying to make your life better off my dime.
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That's not my job.
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We've separated.
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Yeah.
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My obligation is to take care of my children, right?
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So, you know, where's the accountability in that?
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Yeah, no, exactly.
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And you know, and it's funny because again, that can probably be pretty, that could be even that could be rearranged as well because we're paying, you know, with over the phone, you know, with the phone, you can say, okay, here's the grocery store.
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We're gonna put a grocery store card, we're gonna get a clothing card, we got this allotment and allowance for everything the child needs for the month, and you just the money you could just directly send it.
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You don't even need to send it to the government or to the court.
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You know, here's the receipts, send them in.
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I got them, you proved it.
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And you know, and that's the way that it's that simple.
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And you just could take care of all the all the you take care of the child, and then we'll you know, let's put 10% away for college, both of you.
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You know, why nobody ever talks about that?
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But yeah, it I know it just it's crazy.
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Or give me my kid and I'll pay for it.
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I'll pay for half of the week, you know, that he needs, and she pays for half of the week, vice versa, you know.
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And yeah, you know, but they want to make money off it, because what is it, Title IV?
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Is that what this the they take the money out of the Social Security and it's what 66 cents on the dollar that the federal government funds these states through the child support system?
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It sounds pretty sounds pretty familiar, you know, especially with you know, like I don't work a regular job, I get uh SSDI, which is Social Security Disability Income, and then I get VA disability.
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And so for one, I think it's wrong to take somebody's disability money.
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For one, and two, uh you know, I believe that there should be something implemented where like it could be 50-50, no child support, and whoever takes care of the the child um that week, they're responsible for.
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Yeah, and then you know, if they're if if one parent has the child on let's say Medicaid or something, which for example, you know, my my uh youngest daughter's mom has her on Medicaid, which is a state-funded um insurance.
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But I also did time in in uh the military, so I have federal uh insurance that I can also apply to her insurance, which that would actually take primary and Medicaid would be secondary.
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There's no reason why it can't be 50-50, no cut no child support.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I know, but they want to make money off of destroying families, and it's it's pretty bad.
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So you know, for the people that get to hear what you and I've uh talking about, any viewers that are watching, um, you know, um we need to unite, we need to do things the right way, we need to be knowledgeable and come correct.
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So we can't go to these people and say, hey, you know, I don't want to pay child support because of this, this, this.
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We need to hit them with actual statutes, laws, and how we can actually change this stuff.
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Yeah, yeah.
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It needs, yeah, there's a lot of change that needs to be done.
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And you know, you know, if they can take employees out of the small businesses and put robots and computers in, well, you know, those people lost their jobs and taxi drivers lost their jobs to Uber.
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But you know what?
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I think that it the same thing can happen to the family court system because it's it there's no even reason to even go to a court for that.
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You know, you didn't have to go to court to sign that marriage license, but you gotta go to court there, and then they just take and they just they tear you apart.
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And who are they?
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And they're our representatives, they're servants of the public, and they're supposed to follow the law and be just and be fair and be honest and be ethical.
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And that's not even the case.
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So um it needs to change, and it needs to change soon because you're just creating an ad more generations of of damaged children, which is it it it's destructive to society as a whole.
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And yeah, it just it causes more chaos.
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And you know, you know, sad to say, it seems that that's what they want, but that's the result.
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And if you can't put two and two together, then you know you need to go find another way to make a living because this is an easy fix.
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It really is.
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You know, so yeah, yeah, it's and and if you if you noticed, I mean, I I know I'm sure you have that there the common sense in in law is backwards.
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So why that is, I have no idea.
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It doesn't make any sense to me.
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But um, hopefully one day you can kind of go back to more having more common sense and being able to work for the people and not work against the people.
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Yeah, no, exactly.
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I think Georgia, I heard someone talking about it.
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They went to uh it was one of the guests I had on the show, I think she was taught Angel Law.
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So one of the it might have been the the alienation day.
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uh episode she was talking about how Georgia went to an online divorce.
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So you just go online, you fill out everything and it just and then it's filed and you know there's no lawyers, there's no headaches.
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And when they went to that it was the the false allegations and the you know the the the the false protective orders and all that violence and chaos nearly disappeared.
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Because there's nobody you know there's nobody telling hey you know you need to give me something I can use against this person, you know, so we can win this case.
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It's not about winning.
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It's just about a dissolving the property and the finances and then setting up a a a parenting situation where the child can enjoy both as parents because that's a God given right.
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I mean that we created the child nobody owns that child but us.
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And I don't even know if own is the proper word but the there are there are children.
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We created that life and we're entitled to to have the right to raise them and love them and care for them protect them and take care of them and and enjoy them and have childhood is supposed to be a magical time.
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Yeah it's not supposed to be a time when you're sitting in a room missing your mom or your dad and being told a bunch of stuff that you know isn't true and then being forced to lie and then act badly towards them too if it gets to that stage where it's the the alienation which is violence against a child.
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It's abusive so it's yeah a lot of things need to change and quick because it's it's really bad.
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It's really really bad.
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Yeah well I think this is exactly where it starts it starts about talking about it it starts about gaining knowledge about it you know start developing bigger and better things within each state and finding people that are reliable to be able to take on that responsibility to be able to withhold that advocacy for themselves but for other people as well because this is a big deal and if it gets any bigger I mean I don't know I think it's at its prime it's at its peak where we need to handle it now.
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If we wait any longer I mean we're just gonna it's just gonna keep getting worse.
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Yeah oh yeah I was reading numbers of uh like 25 million parents are alienated um and I was then I was seeing someone posting something about the Census Bureau with 24 million kids are without a father in the home and I'm like that number seems way off because if there's 25 million people being alienated from their children in this country you and you figure how many kids do people have let's just go 1.5 to be a low average that's you know you're into 40 fifty you know 35 million kids and those are the ones that are just being alienated from their parents then a let then you add the ones that are just divorced and they didn't add those numbers in so I don't I think the numbers are very low and I saw a number of alienated kids in the world being 300 million worldwide.
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So it's it's something you know with a lot of things that that's been going on in general about everything it's just part of the trend of it's not not it's not working folks.
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So let's fix it.
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And and for those folks that do watch us who aren't going through a divorce or aren't going through their child being kept for them we need you to help as well folks we need you to listen to us to share our podcast to share the groups that you know the father's rights the mother's rights the children's rights the alienated parents groups we we need everyone to come to come together and and and to say have a voice and say this is stop we're we're you're abusing p children and it's you know it seems as if you could even say it's crimes against humanity because it's really it's not legal it's not fair it's not just and it's it's it's completely wrong.
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So it's it's unconstitutional the civil rights are being you know you know uh hit you know so yeah why do we even have those rights if they're not going to be protecting us right well we do have those rights and they we need to be able to utilize them.
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So well Jaden it was awesome to talk to you and you know yeah there's other things I'd like to talk to you too about after the show for a second too um that that maybe it'll help you in your situation.
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Um so and then again anytime you want to come on and talk or give us an update um you know or even your mom wants to come on and talk you know anybody because parents like my you know grandparents can't see their kids either that and see it's just this chain reaction of it's not just the mom or the dad it's the grandparents and the aunts and the uncles and the the the cousins and all the whole family get is suffering by a child that they love they can't be with for what what did they do to them you know you want to keep putting blame on a mom or a dad for being this or that well what did grandma do what did grandpa do what did uncle Bob and Aunt Mary do nothing so why are you know they have the rights to see that child as well too so it's it's it's yeah but what I think we know I'd love to talk to you again and have you on again so and get an update on how see things how things are going for you.
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So yeah I'd love to be back and uh we'll definitely set something up.
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Yeah all right folks well that's the end of this episode for the Flying Monkey podcast.
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