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Well, hello everyone and welcome to Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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It is so great to be with everyone
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here today.
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It is June 2nd.
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It is 2026.
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If this is the very first time that
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you're joining me here, well, I want to
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take the opportunity to say thank you.
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And I also want to say welcome.
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Yes.
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Welcome.
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Welcome.
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Thank you so much for being here with
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me.
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It is a Tuesday guys, excuse me, a
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Yes.
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Wednesday, June 3rd, 2026.
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And again, great to have you.
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This is your very first time with me.
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I want to take the opportunity to say
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thank you.
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And I want to say the words, welcome.
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Welcome to the show.
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If you've been here one time, five times,
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thank you, but I also want to say
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the words, welcome back.
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Great to have everyone here that really appreciates
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the quality and content of the show and
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information that I produce here.
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All right, guys.
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So, um, if you have, uh, been here
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creations, which is available 24 hours a day,
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uh, which incidentally you can, um, basically check
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on right after the show is over.
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You can get my short form content, long
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form content, articles, reels, and so much more
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Go check that out.
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That is after the show is over.
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Uh, I encourage you to check that out.
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A lot of great information, even articles on
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there.
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There's just so much great information that you
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can, um, you know, ascertain from that.
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If you're thirsty, if you're hungry or whatever,
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feel free to go grab something and, uh,
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come on back to the show, but I
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don't further do guys, let's kick this show
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off.
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So welcome my friends to inspirations for your
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life, where we're building success from the ground
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up with tools that matter when pressure is
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high.
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And I'm your host.
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Yes.
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John Seymour late.
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And I want to introduce myself properly because
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who you learn from matters.
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Uh, a lot.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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Um, was built businesses from scratch, understanding that
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every great venture starts with a single, uh,
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courageous decision to begin.
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I'm an engineer by training, uh, which means
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I approach life with systems thinking and understand
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that solid foundations determine how high you can
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I'm a marketing specialist who knows that the
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most powerful message you will ever share is
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a story of who you truly are when
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no one is watching.
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I'm a video producer who believes that visual
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storytelling transforms abstract concepts into actionable wisdom that
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changes lives.
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I'm a podcast host who has sat across
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some hundreds of thought leaders, extracting the raw
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truth about what creates lasting success versus temporary
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I'm a coach who has walked alongside entrepreneurs
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and executives as they transform potential into performance.
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I'm a keynote speaker who has stood before
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thousands of sharing messages that resonate because they
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come from.
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Lived experiences of mine, not textbooks, a theory.
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I am a graduate student because I believe
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education never ends.
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And the moment you think, you know, everything
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is the moment you stop growing.
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I'm a passionate lifelong learner who devours books
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and conversations and that challenging thinking, uh, even
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more because the comfort is basically the enemy
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of progress.
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I am so now deeply grateful, uh, to
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be standing or sitting here before you as
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a published author who has poured years of
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hard one, uh, wisdom onto pages that now
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travel further than my voice alone can.
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And, uh, reach and don't worry, there's more
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books coming.
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This isn't the, uh, the only end, uh,
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next year there'll be a book coming out
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about the truth about AI.
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No one's going to tell you, and there's
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a lot more going to happen.
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My tour is kicked off.
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So, you know, maybe you'll see me in
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a city near you, uh, real soon.
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So today I want to dive deep into
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understanding integrity through our character and our values.
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And I want to walk through 30 essential
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elements that will transform how you show up
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in every day life in the areas of
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your life.
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So let's kick it off with number one.
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All right.
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If you got that beverage, you got that
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juice, you got that snack.
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Get comfy and let's get started.
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All right.
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Cause, uh, there is a lot of information
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here, uh, that I want to share with
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you.
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So let's go to number one.
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Number one is doing the right thing.
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Means choosing action that aligns with your deepest
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values, your core values.
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Even when those choices cost you money, time
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or convenience, and especially when no one would
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ever know if you compromised, that's a key
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guys, right?
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That's a big, big key.
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Number two, staying honest requires you to recognize,
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It requires you to recognize, um, basically the
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truth and, um, it's not flexible.
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It's a concept that bends based on circumstances,
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but rather a fixed point that guides every
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interaction.
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And I think the other important to think
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about that is not only that interaction, but
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the thing about it is that it helps
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us with the decisions that you're going to
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make.
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I don't want to be saying, oh, you
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know, I don't have time for this, but
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then they grovel and complain and cry that
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they're not where they want to be.
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I said before, if you fail to plan,
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Um, you plan to fail.
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So plan.
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Number three, keeping your word becomes your most
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valuable currency in a world where promises are
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made lightly and broken easily, because when you
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say you will do something, others can bank
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on that commitment.
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And I think that comes back to what
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I like to talk a lot about, and
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that's our integrity.
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alone and who we are when we are,
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um, with other people, number four guys, building
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trust is not something that happens overnight.
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It happens through or through, I'd say through
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grand gestures, but rather it accumulates slowly through
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countless small moments where you prove yourself worthy
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and, you know, being worthy, even though you
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are, doesn't sometimes resonate with us immediately.
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So we have to be kind to ourself.
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Number five, being reliable means showing up exactly
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as you promised exactly when you promised and
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with the quality you promised, even when life
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throws, well, unexpected challenges your way, number six,
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acting with integrity becomes your default setting rather
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than a costume you put on for specific
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situations, which means your private choices match your
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public persona.
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So what we're really saying is the way
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you act in private is the way you
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should be acting in public.
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Now, what a lot of people you'll find
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will do is they will act great when
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things are going well, but the minute things
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get a little chaotic, well, the true colors
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come out.
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I think that's something we have to know
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is, is that we need to get to
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know people, not just from when they're good,
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but knowing how they act when they're having
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challenges, right?
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How do they handle things?
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How do they treat people and situations?
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Number seven, stay accountable requires you to own
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your outcomes completely without deflecting blame on a
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circumstances, other people or bad luck.
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When things do not go as planned, we're
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not here to nitpick or say, gee, that's
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not my fault.
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That's somebody else's problem.
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I always say, if you're not part of
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the solution, you are the problem.
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Number eight, admitting mistakes quickly and honestly becomes
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a superpower that separates confident professionals from insecure
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pretenders because see the ability to say I
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was wrong demonstrates a strength and that's a
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quality that a lot of leaders have.
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I don't care whether they have billions of
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dollars to their name or they're penniless.
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That characteristic is a key that will stay
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with you your whole life.
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Number nine, fixing your errors goes beyond mere
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apologies into the territory of making concrete restitutions
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and ensuring that the damage caused by your
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misstep is repaired.
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Not because you have to do it guys,
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but because you should want to do it.
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Number 10, respecting others flows naturally from respecting
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yourself and it means honoring the dignity, time
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and boundaries of every person you encounter, regardless
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of their status or their situation.
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I think a lot of people make a
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decision about whether they want to help somebody
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based on what they have, what they could
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do with somebody else, but that's not what
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life is about.
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Life is about how we can help others.
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And even though that person may not be
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able to help us, it's still karma, it
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still comes back to us.
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Number 11 guys, staying fair in your dealings
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means applying consistent standards, even when you have
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the power or opportunity to tip scales in
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your favor at someone else's expense.
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And I know people that have done this.
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And when they do this, it eventually bites
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them in the back end.
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They're not aware of it.
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Suddenly something changes and they find themselves not
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being able to put their head on the
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pillow at night because they're not living a
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true life.
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Number 12 guys, avoiding manipulation requires you to
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influence others through genuine value and authentic connection
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rather than through pressure, guilt, or psychological tactics.
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I'm going to share one, a personal story.
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So many years ago, I was friends with
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a flat or suite mate that was in
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my unit.
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And he was one of these people is
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very arrogant financial person.
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I have nothing against financial people, but there's
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been a characteristic.
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A lot of financial people are more about
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me centered than you.
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Now, again, that may not be every financial
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person out there, but I have found that
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a lot of the millennials are basically me
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centered.
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Now that may not be you, but I've
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just happened to have that experience where several
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I've met seem to be all about me
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first.
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Let me see if I can, you know,
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beat the boss.
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Let me get out of the job.
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Let me, you know, increase my worth, but
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not doing it with a spirit of compassion,
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not doing it with a spirit to help
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and aid others.
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So I remember this person that I was
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friends with for a while, very arrogant person,
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the person would literally like trip me and
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anybody else in their way.
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And finally I was like, Hey, you know,
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you know, didn't know my name for a
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while.
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And, uh, we finally became friends and I
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was at some community meeting.
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I was like, Hey, you're the guy that
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always trips me every morning.
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Oh, you're always in a rush.
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You know what to say?
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I was like, uh, yeah.
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And then he said something very interesting to
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me.
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He said, John, he says, you know, I
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hate people.
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I said, well, I guess, uh, I should
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leave.
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He said, no, no, no, no.
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He said, you're different.
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So how am I different?
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He said, just are, I can't explain.
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He said, you just are.
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And people are a waste of my time
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unless they're making me money.
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He's a, right now he is the vice
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president of a company that does pharmaceutical research
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and he's the risk vice president analysis.
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Number 13, guys, building strong principles gives you
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an internal compass that points true North.
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When external circumstances become confusing or when you
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face complex ethical dilemmas and trust me guys,
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you're going to face these dilemmas.
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It's going to happen, but it's how we
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deal with these cards, how we deal with
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these situations that empowers or disempowers us, gets
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people to like us or hate us.
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Number 14, staying consistent in your core values
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means that your Monday morning choices should match
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your Sunday evening promises and you do not
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become a different person when tired or you're
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tempted, I know this sounds easy, right?
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Uh, many nights, you know, I'm tired.
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I didn't want to actually do my exercises,
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but like, you know, I got to do
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some exercises.
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And my body knows that I want to
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do this.
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So I do something, I do some type
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of exercise.
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I don't skip.
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Maybe I don't do the full, um, battery
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of tests, but I still do some exercises
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and I keep true to myself.
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Number 15, guys, never compromising your character for
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temporary comfort, pleasure, or profit, because see the
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reputation you build over decades can just snap
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or crumble in a single fraction of a
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second, and that can be a weakness.
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So let's work on building a high quality
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of character.
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So this way others can regard us, but
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so that we can feel well, because see,
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when we have a strong character of who
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we are, we feel so good about ourselves.
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Number 16, leading by example means embodying the
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standards you wish others would follow.
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Rather than merely announcing those standards from a
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distance while exempting yourself.
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The key guys is I can roll my
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sleeves up.
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Okay.
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I can show you what needs to be
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done.
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And then you're going to go do it.
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I always love leaders.
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They say, well, this is what you need
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to do.
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It's like, have you ever done that before?
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No, but I know how to do it.
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Well, how?
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Well, I've watched YouTube videos.
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Just like you watch YouTube videos.
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Okay.
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And their advice is, let's just say very
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shallow.
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Number 17, guys, being transparent about your process
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and your progress creates an environment where others
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feel safe to be authentic rather than feeling
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pressured to project perfection.
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And I think perfection is something that a
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lot of people, um, you know, they strive
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to do this and it's good, but it
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shouldn't be there at the cost of knocking
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others down or let's say disrespecting others, right?
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Number 18, avoiding shortcuts, uh, becomes a point
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of pride.
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Because you understand that anything worth building deserves
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the time effort and attention required to make
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it last.
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You could always have a shortcut, but then
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do you really feel that you have earned
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it now?
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And when you don't feel you've earned something,
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usually not going to stay around you very
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long.
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Number 19, staying grounded, keeps you connected to
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your roots and your values, even when success
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tempts you to believe your own hype or
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disconnect from those who helped you rise.
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And I think that's another important point is
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a lot of times you're going to see
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people going up and you're here.
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And then the tables flip and suddenly you're
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going up and they're coming down.
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So I always say, be nice to people
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because you never know if you're going to
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meet them on the way down.
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You never know, but if you're humble, that
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won't happen, right?
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Number 20, building credibility happens one kept promise
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at a time and one establishment to become
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one of your most valuable assets that opens
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doors.
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Money cannot buy.
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Now I'm going to share one.
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Um, one of my aspirations is to do
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a Ted talk someday, but I can tell
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you there's people out there trying to sell
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these programs to rip people off.
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One guy claims he has a credibility machine.
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He wants to charge you a lot of
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money.
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The truth is you don't need any of
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those things.
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You need to believe in yourself and then
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you need to actually have social proof that
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you've done something.
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Once you've done that, you don't need a
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program.
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You don't need to use somebody's this.
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You need to be credible in your own
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eyes and be credible with a few friends.
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Once you start doing that, it's like, Hey,
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wait, this guy actually knows what he's talking
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about.
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I remember a lot of my talks, people
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say, Oh, John, you know, I can't stay
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the whole time.
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Like, okay, no problem.
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We have things we have to do.
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No problem.
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Yet.
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I find them staying the entire time.
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Number 21 being dependable means becoming the person
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others know they can count on when a
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crisis hits.
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And the easy choice would be to disappear
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or make excuses.
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I know lots of people that leave companies.
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I'm not going to name names, but we
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got CEOs.
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We got presidents and they all leave the
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company when it gets too hot in the
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kitchen, maybe their way of operating.
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It's not about truth.
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Maybe they can't handle the crisis and they
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don't know what to do.
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So what do they do?
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They jump ship or jump out of the
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plane.
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Number 22 guys choosing a long-term reputation
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over a short-term gain requires you to
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play the infinite game.
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We're winning means maintaining your integrity for decades.
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A lot of people will wow you and
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all that, right?
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The, the, the fancy term is wine and
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dine you.
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But when the end of the day comes,
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there's no value.
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They bought you dinner.
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Great.
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They did something else for you.
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Great.
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But where is their value to you?
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Right.
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Is everything they're doing a facade?
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How many of you ever seen a TV
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sets?
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I know I've seen this as a producer
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many times where I used to think the
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sets were all full.
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They're not, they're facades.
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You only see the front.
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There is no back.
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There is no side.
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You just see what angle the camera is
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going to see.
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So if that works like that, now, if
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we suddenly get a crisis, if we suddenly
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pivot you and somebody sees your other side,
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Oh no, you can't see that side.
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That doesn't seem like somebody who's living a
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life that's built around integrity and trust and
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accountability.
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They're making excuses for why you can't see
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the other side, right?
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Number 23, staying true to yourself demands that
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you know who you are at your core
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and refuse to contort yourself into shapes that
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please others, but violate your own spirit and
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your core values.
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I remember, uh, being a longtime fan of
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Mr. Rogers, a neighborhood on channel 13.
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And I remember, um, in one of the
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shows, they had a special where they were
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going to show you how actually Fred was
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going to show us how this was a
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television studio.
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And he says, you know, this all here
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is what you're seeing here is all kind
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of, uh, pretend he says, this is not
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really a house I'm going to show you.
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Okay.
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And so if we look over here and
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we look to the right, you're going to
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see that.
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This is a set.
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Okay.
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This is a set, even though I go
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out the door, right?
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But this is a set.
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There is no wall.
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You see the camera never shows you the
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site because that's where the cameras are.
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That's all open, you know?
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And so when he showed things like that,
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and we call it behind the scenes, right?
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It gave a transparency to him and the
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show.
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I think a lot of people feel that
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if you are transparent, that the magic is
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going to go away, that you're not going
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to be as impressive.
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I got news for you.
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If you can be transparent, even if you
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let go a secret or you let somebody
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see something that's not meant to be seen,
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you're not going to lose respect.
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You're going to get the heckler.
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Sure.
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But more of the people that respect you
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are going to respect you more because you
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were transparent.
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I remember the first I'm like, Oh, this
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is all a scam.
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Whatever show I was watching.
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This is a set set.
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Yeah.
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This isn't a real house.
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This is a set they made up cheaper.
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Number 24, guys, aligning your actions with your
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goals.
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Your core values means that your daily behaviors
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move you close to the person you claim
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you want to become rather than contradicting that
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vision of what you're expecting.
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I know this is a lot of information
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for one shot.
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That's why I encourage you to definitely go
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back after it's over and watch the replay,
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because if you do that, you'll be like,
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Oh, wait a minute, John, this makes a
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lot of sense.
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It does.
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It makes a lot of sense.
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Number 25 guys ready for number 25.
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Avoiding hypocrisy requires you to live the advice
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you give others and model the standards you
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expect, even when no one would call you
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out for doing otherwise.
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So if it's something you'd be doing and
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you're being transparent about it, if the advice
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is what you'd be doing yourself, you're transparent.
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Number 26, building strong relationships on foundations of
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integrity creates bonds that withstand pressure, conflict, and
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time.
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Because you see both parties know that trust
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exists.
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When trust exists, the give can stretch a
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little bit more.
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Number 27, respectful is important.
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Staying respectful during conflict means maintaining your dignity
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and theirs when emotions get high and the
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temptation to attack personally becomes strongest.
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An example I want to use on this
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is there was a Facebook I was in.
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It was a low voltage tech group.
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We're talking about something and the person adamantly
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disagreed rather than just being professional and disagreeing
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with what I said, he decided to personally
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attack me, I just said to him, hey,
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I don't think that's right.
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I'm just stating my point.
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And then he's being more insulting.
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And I say, you know what?
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I don't have time for this.
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I'm leaving the group and I'm blocking you.
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And I did.
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Some people have this ego in their head
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and they feel that if the ego stays
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there, okay, that they're in control.
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But the truth of the matter is that
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ego is nothing but an illusion.
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That's all it is guys.
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It's an illusion.
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It's an illusion.
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What it's doing is it's manipulating you.
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And many people, when they get manipulated, don't
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know it.
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And they just kind of follow along, you
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know, like a dog on a leash.
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But when we experience this and when we
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know what manipulation looks like, feels like, like,
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hey, wait a minute, I don't want to
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be manipulated just so you've heard the thing,
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I don't want to be sold.
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How many of you gone to a car
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place?
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Like, well, let me tell you, like, I
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don't want to be sold.
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I just want to research.
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Nobody wants to be sold on anything.
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People want it to be their ideas.
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Right.
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Number 28, taking responsibility before seeking credit means
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you're the first to own the problem and
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the last to claim the victory because the
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leadership is about service, it's not about status.
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But when this ego gets involved, Mr. Ego
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up here, changes the story.
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It says, hey, I want, I want credibility
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now.
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I want credit now.
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And then other people start to realize, well,
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hey, is this person being transparent or is
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this really just a game?
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Is it just a game?
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And that can be something that a lot
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of people, I'm going to say they wrestle
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with.
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Right.
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They wrestle with it.
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And I know that can be hard.
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Number 29, guys earning respect through basically daily
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discipline proves you're committed to the process, not
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just the outcomes and the fact that you
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value the journey as much as the destination
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will gain you more respect and a greater
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appreciation for what you're doing.
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Number 30 guys, maintaining standards that elevate everyone
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means refusing to participate in gossip or toxic
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behaviors, even when they are common in your
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environment.
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What did I do the other day when
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that was happening?
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I said, you know, I've asked you to
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stop.
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I don't wish to be part of this
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toxic environment.
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I'm leaving.
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Don't invite me back.
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And I'm blocking you.
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Some people just get their jollies out of
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exerting their inflated egos.
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My friends, integrity is not a destination.
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You see, you arrive at it, but a
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practice you engage in every single moment, it
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is the sum of choices that seems small
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in isolation, but compound into the character that
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defines your leg, legacy, whether you master integrity,
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whether you master integrity, you build a life
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that requires no explanation, no apology, no hiding.
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And I think that's a hard thing for
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a lot of people to understand.
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It's not a destination you arrive at, but
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a practice you engage in every single moment,
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and it's the sum of choices that seems
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small in isolation, but compounded the character that
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define your legacy.
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When you master integrity, you build a life
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that requires no explanation, no apology, no hiding.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this has been Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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And I am John Seymour, a serial entrepreneur.
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And I am reminding you that you're building
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your life with every decision.
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So build it with discipline, growth, and ownership.
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Remember guys, every thought becomes a reality.
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I will see you or hear you, well,
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tomorrow on another episode.
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In the meantime, check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for
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more of my amazing, inspiring creations, and we'll
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continue helping you become even better versions of
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yourself, take care and be well, everyone.
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Well, hello everyone and welcome to Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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It is so great to be with everyone
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here today.
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It is June 2nd.
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It is 2026.
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If this is the very first time that
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you're joining me here, well, I want to
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take the opportunity to say thank you.
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And I also want to say welcome.
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Yes.
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Welcome.
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Welcome.
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Welcome.
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Thank you so much for being here with
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me.
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It is a Tuesday guys, excuse me, a
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Wednesday.
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Yes.
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Wednesday, June 3rd, 2026.
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And again, great to have you.
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This is your very first time with me.
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I want to take the opportunity to say
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thank you.
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And I want to say the words, welcome.
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Welcome to the show.
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If you've been here one time, five times,
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10 times, a hundred times or even more,
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I want to take the time to say
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thank you, but I also want to say
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the words, welcome back.
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Yes.
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Great to have everyone here that really appreciates
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the quality and content of the show and
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information that I produce here.
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All right, guys.
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So, um, if you have, uh, been here
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before or not, don't forget to check out
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believemeachieved.com for more of my amazing, inspiring
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creations, which is available 24 hours a day,
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uh, which incidentally you can, um, basically check
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on right after the show is over.
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You can get my short form content, long
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form content, articles, reels, and so much more
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guys.
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So what are you waiting for?
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Go check that out.
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That is after the show is over.
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Uh, I encourage you to check that out.
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A lot of great information, even articles on
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there.
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There's just so much great information that you
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can, um, you know, ascertain from that.
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All right.
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If you're thirsty, if you're hungry or whatever,
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feel free to go grab something and, uh,
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come on back to the show, but I
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don't further do guys, let's kick this show
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off.
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So welcome my friends to inspirations for your
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life, where we're building success from the ground
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up with tools that matter when pressure is
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high.
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And I'm your host.
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Yes.
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John Seymour late.
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And I want to introduce myself properly because
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who you learn from matters.
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Uh, a lot.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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Um, was built businesses from scratch, understanding that
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every great venture starts with a single, uh,
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courageous decision to begin.
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I'm an engineer by training, uh, which means
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I approach life with systems thinking and understand
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that solid foundations determine how high you can
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I'm a marketing specialist who knows that the
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most powerful message you will ever share is
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a story of who you truly are when
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no one is watching.
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I'm a video producer who believes that visual
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storytelling transforms abstract concepts into actionable wisdom that
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changes lives.
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I'm a podcast host who has sat across
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some hundreds of thought leaders, extracting the raw
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truth about what creates lasting success versus temporary
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I'm a coach who has walked alongside entrepreneurs
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and executives as they transform potential into performance.
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I'm a keynote speaker who has stood before
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thousands of sharing messages that resonate because they
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come from.
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Lived experiences of mine, not textbooks, a theory.
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I am a graduate student because I believe
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education never ends.
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And the moment you think, you know, everything
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is the moment you stop growing.
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I'm a passionate lifelong learner who devours books
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and conversations and that challenging thinking, uh, even
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more because the comfort is basically the enemy
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of progress.
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I am so now deeply grateful, uh, to
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be standing or sitting here before you as
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a published author who has poured years of
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hard one, uh, wisdom onto pages that now
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travel further than my voice alone can.
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And, uh, reach and don't worry, there's more
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books coming.
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This isn't the, uh, the only end, uh,
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next year there'll be a book coming out
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about the truth about AI.
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No one's going to tell you, and there's
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a lot more going to happen.
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My tour is kicked off.
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So, you know, maybe you'll see me in
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a city near you, uh, real soon.
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So today I want to dive deep into
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understanding integrity through our character and our values.
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And I want to walk through 30 essential
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elements that will transform how you show up
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in every day life in the areas of
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your life.
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So let's kick it off with number one.
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All right.
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If you got that beverage, you got that
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juice, you got that snack.
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Get comfy and let's get started.
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Cause, uh, there is a lot of information
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here, uh, that I want to share with
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you.
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So let's go to number one.
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Number one is doing the right thing.
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Means choosing action that aligns with your deepest
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values, your core values.
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Even when those choices cost you money, time
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or convenience, and especially when no one would
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ever know if you compromised, that's a key
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guys, right?
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That's a big, big key.
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Number two, staying honest requires you to recognize,
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okay.
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It requires you to recognize, um, basically the
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truth and, um, it's not flexible.
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It's a concept that bends based on circumstances,
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but rather a fixed point that guides every
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interaction.
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about that is not only that interaction, but
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the thing about it is that it helps
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us with the decisions that you're going to
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make.
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All right.
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I don't want to be saying, oh, you
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know, I don't have time for this, but
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then they grovel and complain and cry that
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they're not where they want to be.
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Right?
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I said before, if you fail to plan,
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okay.
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Um, you plan to fail.
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So plan.
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Number three, keeping your word becomes your most
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valuable currency in a world where promises are
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made lightly and broken easily, because when you
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say you will do something, others can bank
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on that commitment.
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And I think that comes back to what
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I like to talk a lot about, and
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that's our integrity.
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And that's about who we are when we're
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alone and who we are when we are,
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um, with other people, number four guys, building
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trust is not something that happens overnight.
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It happens through or through, I'd say through
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grand gestures, but rather it accumulates slowly through
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countless small moments where you prove yourself worthy
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and, you know, being worthy, even though you
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are, doesn't sometimes resonate with us immediately.
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So we have to be kind to ourself.
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Number five, being reliable means showing up exactly
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as you promised exactly when you promised and
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with the quality you promised, even when life
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throws, well, unexpected challenges your way, number six,
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acting with integrity becomes your default setting rather
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than a costume you put on for specific
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situations, which means your private choices match your
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public persona.
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So what we're really saying is the way
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you act in private is the way you
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should be acting in public.
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Now, what a lot of people you'll find
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will do is they will act great when
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things are going well, but the minute things
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get a little chaotic, well, the true colors
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come out.
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I think that's something we have to know
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is, is that we need to get to
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know people, not just from when they're good,
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but knowing how they act when they're having
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challenges, right?
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How do they handle things?
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How do they treat people and situations?
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Number seven, stay accountable requires you to own
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your outcomes completely without deflecting blame on a
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circumstances, other people or bad luck.
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When things do not go as planned, we're
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not here to nitpick or say, gee, that's
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not my fault.
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That's somebody else's problem.
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I always say, if you're not part of
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the solution, you are the problem.
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Number eight, admitting mistakes quickly and honestly becomes
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a superpower that separates confident professionals from insecure
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pretenders because see the ability to say I
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was wrong demonstrates a strength and that's a
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quality that a lot of leaders have.
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I don't care whether they have billions of
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dollars to their name or they're penniless.
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That characteristic is a key that will stay
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with you your whole life.
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Number nine, fixing your errors goes beyond mere
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apologies into the territory of making concrete restitutions
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and ensuring that the damage caused by your
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misstep is repaired.
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Not because you have to do it guys,
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but because you should want to do it.
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Number 10, respecting others flows naturally from respecting
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yourself and it means honoring the dignity, time
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and boundaries of every person you encounter, regardless
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of their status or their situation.
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I think a lot of people make a
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decision about whether they want to help somebody
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based on what they have, what they could
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do with somebody else, but that's not what
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life is about.
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Life is about how we can help others.
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able to help us, it's still karma, it
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still comes back to us.
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Number 11 guys, staying fair in your dealings
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means applying consistent standards, even when you have
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the power or opportunity to tip scales in
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your favor at someone else's expense.
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And I know people that have done this.
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And when they do this, it eventually bites
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them in the back end.
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They're not aware of it.
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Suddenly something changes and they find themselves not
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being able to put their head on the
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pillow at night because they're not living a
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true life.
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Number 12 guys, avoiding manipulation requires you to
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influence others through genuine value and authentic connection
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rather than through pressure, guilt, or psychological tactics.
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I'm going to share one, a personal story.
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So many years ago, I was friends with
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a flat or suite mate that was in
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my unit.
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And he was one of these people is
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very arrogant financial person.
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I have nothing against financial people, but there's
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been a characteristic.
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A lot of financial people are more about
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me centered than you.
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Now, again, that may not be every financial
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person out there, but I have found that
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a lot of the millennials are basically me
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centered.
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Now that may not be you, but I've
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just happened to have that experience where several
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I've met seem to be all about me
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first.
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Let me see if I can, you know,
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beat the boss.
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Let me get out of the job.
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Let me, you know, increase my worth, but
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not doing it with a spirit of compassion,
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not doing it with a spirit to help
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and aid others.
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So I remember this person that I was
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friends with for a while, very arrogant person,
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the person would literally like trip me and
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anybody else in their way.
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And finally I was like, Hey, you know,
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you know, didn't know my name for a
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while.
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And, uh, we finally became friends and I
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was at some community meeting.
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I was like, Hey, you're the guy that
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always trips me every morning.
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Oh, you're always in a rush.
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You know what to say?
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I was like, uh, yeah.
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And then he said something very interesting to
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me.
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He said, John, he says, you know, I
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hate people.
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I said, well, I guess, uh, I should
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leave.
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He said, no, no, no, no.
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He said, you're different.
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So how am I different?
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He said, just are, I can't explain.
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He said, you just are.
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And people are a waste of my time
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unless they're making me money.
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He's a, right now he is the vice
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president of a company that does pharmaceutical research
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and he's the risk vice president analysis.
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Number 13, guys, building strong principles gives you
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an internal compass that points true North.
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When external circumstances become confusing or when you
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face complex ethical dilemmas and trust me guys,
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you're going to face these dilemmas.
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It's going to happen, but it's how we
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deal with these cards, how we deal with
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these situations that empowers or disempowers us, gets
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people to like us or hate us.
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Number 14, staying consistent in your core values
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means that your Monday morning choices should match
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your Sunday evening promises and you do not
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become a different person when tired or you're
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tempted, I know this sounds easy, right?
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Uh, many nights, you know, I'm tired.
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I didn't want to actually do my exercises,
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but like, you know, I got to do
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some exercises.
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And my body knows that I want to
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do this.
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So I do something, I do some type
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of exercise.
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I don't skip.
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Maybe I don't do the full, um, battery
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of tests, but I still do some exercises
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and I keep true to myself.
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Number 15, guys, never compromising your character for
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temporary comfort, pleasure, or profit, because see the
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reputation you build over decades can just snap
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or crumble in a single fraction of a
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second, and that can be a weakness.
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So let's work on building a high quality
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of character.
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So this way others can regard us, but
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so that we can feel well, because see,
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when we have a strong character of who
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we are, we feel so good about ourselves.
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Number 16, leading by example means embodying the
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standards you wish others would follow.
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Rather than merely announcing those standards from a
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distance while exempting yourself.
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The key guys is I can roll my
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sleeves up.
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Okay.
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I can show you what needs to be
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done.
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And then you're going to go do it.
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I always love leaders.
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They say, well, this is what you need
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to do.
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It's like, have you ever done that before?
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No, but I know how to do it.
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Well, how?
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Well, I've watched YouTube videos.
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Just like you watch YouTube videos.
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Okay.
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And their advice is, let's just say very
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shallow.
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Number 17, guys, being transparent about your process
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and your progress creates an environment where others
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feel safe to be authentic rather than feeling
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pressured to project perfection.
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And I think perfection is something that a
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lot of people, um, you know, they strive
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to do this and it's good, but it
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shouldn't be there at the cost of knocking
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others down or let's say disrespecting others, right?
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Number 18, avoiding shortcuts, uh, becomes a point
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of pride.
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Because you understand that anything worth building deserves
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the time effort and attention required to make
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it last.
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You could always have a shortcut, but then
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do you really feel that you have earned
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it now?
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And when you don't feel you've earned something,
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usually not going to stay around you very
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long.
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Number 19, staying grounded, keeps you connected to
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your roots and your values, even when success
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tempts you to believe your own hype or
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disconnect from those who helped you rise.
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And I think that's another important point is
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a lot of times you're going to see
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people going up and you're here.
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And then the tables flip and suddenly you're
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going up and they're coming down.
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So I always say, be nice to people
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because you never know if you're going to
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meet them on the way down.
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You never know, but if you're humble, that
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won't happen, right?
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Number 20, building credibility happens one kept promise
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at a time and one establishment to become
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one of your most valuable assets that opens
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doors.
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00:16:38,980 --> 00:16:39,620
Money cannot buy.
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Now I'm going to share one.
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00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:43,600
Um, one of my aspirations is to do
411
00:16:43,600 --> 00:16:45,980
a Ted talk someday, but I can tell
412
00:16:45,980 --> 00:16:47,240
you there's people out there trying to sell
413
00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:49,200
these programs to rip people off.
414
00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:53,360
One guy claims he has a credibility machine.
415
00:16:53,940 --> 00:16:55,060
He wants to charge you a lot of
416
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money.
417
00:16:55,700 --> 00:16:57,140
The truth is you don't need any of
418
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those things.
419
00:16:58,120 --> 00:17:01,100
You need to believe in yourself and then
420
00:17:01,100 --> 00:17:04,060
you need to actually have social proof that
421
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you've done something.
422
00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:08,740
Once you've done that, you don't need a
423
00:17:08,740 --> 00:17:09,200
program.
424
00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:11,339
You don't need to use somebody's this.
425
00:17:11,640 --> 00:17:14,460
You need to be credible in your own
426
00:17:14,460 --> 00:17:16,839
eyes and be credible with a few friends.
427
00:17:16,839 --> 00:17:19,599
Once you start doing that, it's like, Hey,
428
00:17:19,660 --> 00:17:21,140
wait, this guy actually knows what he's talking
429
00:17:21,140 --> 00:17:21,480
about.
430
00:17:24,369 --> 00:17:26,230
I remember a lot of my talks, people
431
00:17:26,230 --> 00:17:27,349
say, Oh, John, you know, I can't stay
432
00:17:27,349 --> 00:17:27,890
the whole time.
433
00:17:27,910 --> 00:17:28,610
Like, okay, no problem.
434
00:17:28,830 --> 00:17:29,730
We have things we have to do.
435
00:17:29,790 --> 00:17:30,190
No problem.
436
00:17:30,910 --> 00:17:31,090
Yet.
437
00:17:31,170 --> 00:17:33,370
I find them staying the entire time.
438
00:17:34,770 --> 00:17:39,690
Number 21 being dependable means becoming the person
439
00:17:39,690 --> 00:17:42,750
others know they can count on when a
440
00:17:42,750 --> 00:17:43,530
crisis hits.
441
00:17:43,850 --> 00:17:46,390
And the easy choice would be to disappear
442
00:17:46,390 --> 00:17:47,650
or make excuses.
443
00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:51,770
I know lots of people that leave companies.
444
00:17:52,110 --> 00:17:53,850
I'm not going to name names, but we
445
00:17:53,850 --> 00:17:54,610
got CEOs.
446
00:17:54,970 --> 00:17:57,690
We got presidents and they all leave the
447
00:17:57,690 --> 00:18:00,690
company when it gets too hot in the
448
00:18:00,690 --> 00:18:05,670
kitchen, maybe their way of operating.
449
00:18:05,850 --> 00:18:06,850
It's not about truth.
450
00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:11,860
Maybe they can't handle the crisis and they
451
00:18:11,860 --> 00:18:12,600
don't know what to do.
452
00:18:12,700 --> 00:18:13,540
So what do they do?
453
00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:16,660
They jump ship or jump out of the
454
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plane.
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Number 22 guys choosing a long-term reputation
456
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over a short-term gain requires you to
457
00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:27,120
play the infinite game.
458
00:18:28,080 --> 00:18:31,140
We're winning means maintaining your integrity for decades.
459
00:18:31,380 --> 00:18:35,400
A lot of people will wow you and
460
00:18:35,400 --> 00:18:36,260
all that, right?
461
00:18:36,860 --> 00:18:38,780
The, the, the fancy term is wine and
462
00:18:38,780 --> 00:18:39,260
dine you.
463
00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:42,780
But when the end of the day comes,
464
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there's no value.
465
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They bought you dinner.
466
00:18:49,130 --> 00:18:49,350
Great.
467
00:18:49,350 --> 00:18:53,010
They did something else for you.
468
00:18:53,070 --> 00:18:53,230
Great.
469
00:18:53,790 --> 00:18:55,830
But where is their value to you?
470
00:18:56,670 --> 00:18:56,870
Right.
471
00:18:57,350 --> 00:18:59,470
Is everything they're doing a facade?
472
00:19:01,030 --> 00:19:02,650
How many of you ever seen a TV
473
00:19:02,650 --> 00:19:03,150
sets?
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00:19:03,470 --> 00:19:04,690
I know I've seen this as a producer
475
00:19:04,690 --> 00:19:06,490
many times where I used to think the
476
00:19:06,490 --> 00:19:07,430
sets were all full.
477
00:19:07,790 --> 00:19:09,750
They're not, they're facades.
478
00:19:10,190 --> 00:19:11,390
You only see the front.
479
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There is no back.
480
00:19:12,710 --> 00:19:13,350
There is no side.
481
00:19:13,450 --> 00:19:15,010
You just see what angle the camera is
482
00:19:15,010 --> 00:19:15,350
going to see.
483
00:19:16,950 --> 00:19:18,930
So if that works like that, now, if
484
00:19:18,930 --> 00:19:19,450
we suddenly get a crisis, if we suddenly
485
00:19:19,450 --> 00:19:22,130
pivot you and somebody sees your other side,
486
00:19:22,250 --> 00:19:23,370
Oh no, you can't see that side.
487
00:19:25,230 --> 00:19:28,390
That doesn't seem like somebody who's living a
488
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life that's built around integrity and trust and
489
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accountability.
490
00:19:34,010 --> 00:19:36,850
They're making excuses for why you can't see
491
00:19:36,850 --> 00:19:37,990
the other side, right?
492
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Number 23, staying true to yourself demands that
493
00:19:44,390 --> 00:19:46,790
you know who you are at your core
494
00:19:46,790 --> 00:19:51,370
and refuse to contort yourself into shapes that
495
00:19:51,370 --> 00:19:54,230
please others, but violate your own spirit and
496
00:19:54,230 --> 00:19:55,070
your core values.
497
00:19:55,470 --> 00:19:58,250
I remember, uh, being a longtime fan of
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00:19:58,250 --> 00:20:00,970
Mr. Rogers, a neighborhood on channel 13.
499
00:20:01,130 --> 00:20:04,090
And I remember, um, in one of the
500
00:20:04,090 --> 00:20:06,330
shows, they had a special where they were
501
00:20:06,330 --> 00:20:09,530
going to show you how actually Fred was
502
00:20:09,530 --> 00:20:10,970
going to show us how this was a
503
00:20:10,970 --> 00:20:11,730
television studio.
504
00:20:13,090 --> 00:20:15,190
And he says, you know, this all here
505
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is what you're seeing here is all kind
506
00:20:17,890 --> 00:20:21,110
of, uh, pretend he says, this is not
507
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really a house I'm going to show you.
508
00:20:24,110 --> 00:20:24,470
Okay.
509
00:20:24,690 --> 00:20:26,930
And so if we look over here and
510
00:20:26,930 --> 00:20:28,110
we look to the right, you're going to
511
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see that.
512
00:20:29,410 --> 00:20:30,190
This is a set.
513
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Okay.
514
00:20:31,090 --> 00:20:32,490
This is a set, even though I go
515
00:20:32,490 --> 00:20:33,650
out the door, right?
516
00:20:33,770 --> 00:20:34,790
But this is a set.
517
00:20:34,970 --> 00:20:36,350
There is no wall.
518
00:20:36,390 --> 00:20:38,030
You see the camera never shows you the
519
00:20:38,030 --> 00:20:40,010
site because that's where the cameras are.
520
00:20:40,570 --> 00:20:43,710
That's all open, you know?
521
00:20:43,890 --> 00:20:47,170
And so when he showed things like that,
522
00:20:47,710 --> 00:20:49,870
and we call it behind the scenes, right?
523
00:20:51,510 --> 00:20:56,030
It gave a transparency to him and the
524
00:20:56,030 --> 00:20:56,450
show.
525
00:20:56,690 --> 00:20:58,190
I think a lot of people feel that
526
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if you are transparent, that the magic is
527
00:21:00,990 --> 00:21:02,390
going to go away, that you're not going
528
00:21:02,390 --> 00:21:03,690
to be as impressive.
529
00:21:04,090 --> 00:21:05,230
I got news for you.
530
00:21:05,230 --> 00:21:08,590
If you can be transparent, even if you
531
00:21:08,590 --> 00:21:10,470
let go a secret or you let somebody
532
00:21:10,470 --> 00:21:12,170
see something that's not meant to be seen,
533
00:21:12,810 --> 00:21:14,710
you're not going to lose respect.
534
00:21:15,610 --> 00:21:17,010
You're going to get the heckler.
535
00:21:17,150 --> 00:21:17,330
Sure.
536
00:21:17,950 --> 00:21:20,330
But more of the people that respect you
537
00:21:20,330 --> 00:21:22,490
are going to respect you more because you
538
00:21:22,490 --> 00:21:23,210
were transparent.
539
00:21:23,530 --> 00:21:25,030
I remember the first I'm like, Oh, this
540
00:21:25,030 --> 00:21:25,770
is all a scam.
541
00:21:26,030 --> 00:21:26,830
Whatever show I was watching.
542
00:21:27,110 --> 00:21:29,530
This is a set set.
543
00:21:30,070 --> 00:21:30,330
Yeah.
544
00:21:30,330 --> 00:21:31,330
This isn't a real house.
545
00:21:31,390 --> 00:21:34,570
This is a set they made up cheaper.
546
00:21:36,610 --> 00:21:41,090
Number 24, guys, aligning your actions with your
547
00:21:41,090 --> 00:21:41,490
goals.
548
00:21:41,690 --> 00:21:44,190
Your core values means that your daily behaviors
549
00:21:44,190 --> 00:21:47,430
move you close to the person you claim
550
00:21:47,430 --> 00:21:51,110
you want to become rather than contradicting that
551
00:21:51,110 --> 00:21:54,370
vision of what you're expecting.
552
00:21:56,910 --> 00:21:58,890
I know this is a lot of information
553
00:21:58,890 --> 00:21:59,550
for one shot.
554
00:22:00,770 --> 00:22:02,390
That's why I encourage you to definitely go
555
00:22:02,390 --> 00:22:05,510
back after it's over and watch the replay,
556
00:22:05,630 --> 00:22:06,830
because if you do that, you'll be like,
557
00:22:06,890 --> 00:22:08,270
Oh, wait a minute, John, this makes a
558
00:22:08,270 --> 00:22:09,190
lot of sense.
559
00:22:09,410 --> 00:22:10,230
It does.
560
00:22:10,690 --> 00:22:12,230
It makes a lot of sense.
561
00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:16,840
Number 25 guys ready for number 25.
562
00:22:19,580 --> 00:22:22,760
Avoiding hypocrisy requires you to live the advice
563
00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:26,580
you give others and model the standards you
564
00:22:26,580 --> 00:22:28,820
expect, even when no one would call you
565
00:22:28,820 --> 00:22:30,080
out for doing otherwise.
566
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:34,740
So if it's something you'd be doing and
567
00:22:34,740 --> 00:22:37,560
you're being transparent about it, if the advice
568
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:39,860
is what you'd be doing yourself, you're transparent.
569
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:44,580
Number 26, building strong relationships on foundations of
570
00:22:44,580 --> 00:22:50,220
integrity creates bonds that withstand pressure, conflict, and
571
00:22:50,220 --> 00:22:50,600
time.
572
00:22:51,120 --> 00:22:54,040
Because you see both parties know that trust
573
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:54,440
exists.
574
00:22:54,880 --> 00:23:01,020
When trust exists, the give can stretch a
575
00:23:01,020 --> 00:23:01,620
little bit more.
576
00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:06,600
Number 27, respectful is important.
577
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:10,280
Staying respectful during conflict means maintaining your dignity
578
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:14,560
and theirs when emotions get high and the
579
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,120
temptation to attack personally becomes strongest.
580
00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:20,420
An example I want to use on this
581
00:23:20,420 --> 00:23:22,780
is there was a Facebook I was in.
582
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:25,560
It was a low voltage tech group.
583
00:23:25,860 --> 00:23:30,200
We're talking about something and the person adamantly
584
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,920
disagreed rather than just being professional and disagreeing
585
00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:36,060
with what I said, he decided to personally
586
00:23:36,060 --> 00:23:38,740
attack me, I just said to him, hey,
587
00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:39,940
I don't think that's right.
588
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:41,620
I'm just stating my point.
589
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:43,720
And then he's being more insulting.
590
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:44,660
And I say, you know what?
591
00:23:44,900 --> 00:23:46,240
I don't have time for this.
592
00:23:46,940 --> 00:23:48,820
I'm leaving the group and I'm blocking you.
593
00:23:49,060 --> 00:23:49,720
And I did.
594
00:23:50,100 --> 00:23:52,900
Some people have this ego in their head
595
00:23:52,900 --> 00:23:55,180
and they feel that if the ego stays
596
00:23:55,180 --> 00:23:57,680
there, okay, that they're in control.
597
00:23:57,900 --> 00:23:59,480
But the truth of the matter is that
598
00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:01,220
ego is nothing but an illusion.
599
00:24:01,700 --> 00:24:02,540
That's all it is guys.
600
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:03,660
It's an illusion.
601
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:05,680
It's an illusion.
602
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,740
What it's doing is it's manipulating you.
603
00:24:09,380 --> 00:24:13,760
And many people, when they get manipulated, don't
604
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:14,340
know it.
605
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:18,180
And they just kind of follow along, you
606
00:24:18,180 --> 00:24:19,640
know, like a dog on a leash.
607
00:24:21,220 --> 00:24:24,480
But when we experience this and when we
608
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:29,300
know what manipulation looks like, feels like, like,
609
00:24:29,360 --> 00:24:32,160
hey, wait a minute, I don't want to
610
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:33,760
be manipulated just so you've heard the thing,
611
00:24:33,820 --> 00:24:34,760
I don't want to be sold.
612
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:36,320
How many of you gone to a car
613
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:36,580
place?
614
00:24:36,700 --> 00:24:37,880
Like, well, let me tell you, like, I
615
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:38,520
don't want to be sold.
616
00:24:38,660 --> 00:24:39,720
I just want to research.
617
00:24:41,180 --> 00:24:43,380
Nobody wants to be sold on anything.
618
00:24:44,020 --> 00:24:46,120
People want it to be their ideas.
619
00:24:47,360 --> 00:24:47,740
Right.
620
00:24:48,460 --> 00:24:53,780
Number 28, taking responsibility before seeking credit means
621
00:24:53,780 --> 00:24:56,720
you're the first to own the problem and
622
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,640
the last to claim the victory because the
623
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:02,080
leadership is about service, it's not about status.
624
00:25:02,540 --> 00:25:05,180
But when this ego gets involved, Mr. Ego
625
00:25:05,180 --> 00:25:08,540
up here, changes the story.
626
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,260
It says, hey, I want, I want credibility
627
00:25:10,260 --> 00:25:10,700
now.
628
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:11,960
I want credit now.
629
00:25:13,380 --> 00:25:15,480
And then other people start to realize, well,
630
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,980
hey, is this person being transparent or is
631
00:25:17,980 --> 00:25:19,280
this really just a game?
632
00:25:21,740 --> 00:25:22,720
Is it just a game?
633
00:25:24,180 --> 00:25:25,840
And that can be something that a lot
634
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:27,720
of people, I'm going to say they wrestle
635
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:28,040
with.
636
00:25:29,120 --> 00:25:29,420
Right.
637
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:34,880
They wrestle with it.
638
00:25:37,170 --> 00:25:38,810
And I know that can be hard.
639
00:25:40,970 --> 00:25:46,810
Number 29, guys earning respect through basically daily
640
00:25:46,810 --> 00:25:50,710
discipline proves you're committed to the process, not
641
00:25:50,710 --> 00:25:53,350
just the outcomes and the fact that you
642
00:25:53,350 --> 00:25:56,210
value the journey as much as the destination
643
00:25:56,210 --> 00:26:00,570
will gain you more respect and a greater
644
00:26:00,570 --> 00:26:02,170
appreciation for what you're doing.
645
00:26:02,470 --> 00:26:06,010
Number 30 guys, maintaining standards that elevate everyone
646
00:26:06,010 --> 00:26:09,050
means refusing to participate in gossip or toxic
647
00:26:09,050 --> 00:26:11,290
behaviors, even when they are common in your
648
00:26:11,290 --> 00:26:11,730
environment.
649
00:26:13,050 --> 00:26:14,590
What did I do the other day when
650
00:26:14,590 --> 00:26:15,130
that was happening?
651
00:26:15,530 --> 00:26:18,250
I said, you know, I've asked you to
652
00:26:18,250 --> 00:26:18,530
stop.
653
00:26:18,830 --> 00:26:20,150
I don't wish to be part of this
654
00:26:20,150 --> 00:26:21,030
toxic environment.
655
00:26:22,130 --> 00:26:22,890
I'm leaving.
656
00:26:23,010 --> 00:26:23,790
Don't invite me back.
657
00:26:23,870 --> 00:26:24,870
And I'm blocking you.
658
00:26:25,590 --> 00:26:29,670
Some people just get their jollies out of
659
00:26:29,670 --> 00:26:32,310
exerting their inflated egos.
660
00:26:33,550 --> 00:26:38,650
My friends, integrity is not a destination.
661
00:26:39,210 --> 00:26:42,570
You see, you arrive at it, but a
662
00:26:42,570 --> 00:26:47,470
practice you engage in every single moment, it
663
00:26:47,470 --> 00:26:53,210
is the sum of choices that seems small
664
00:26:53,210 --> 00:26:58,470
in isolation, but compound into the character that
665
00:26:58,470 --> 00:27:02,070
defines your leg, legacy, whether you master integrity,
666
00:27:02,290 --> 00:27:03,490
whether you master integrity, you build a life
667
00:27:03,490 --> 00:27:07,190
that requires no explanation, no apology, no hiding.
668
00:27:08,010 --> 00:27:09,890
And I think that's a hard thing for
669
00:27:09,890 --> 00:27:11,270
a lot of people to understand.
670
00:27:12,250 --> 00:27:18,010
It's not a destination you arrive at, but
671
00:27:18,010 --> 00:27:20,490
a practice you engage in every single moment,
672
00:27:20,970 --> 00:27:23,850
and it's the sum of choices that seems
673
00:27:23,850 --> 00:27:27,310
small in isolation, but compounded the character that
674
00:27:27,310 --> 00:27:28,210
define your legacy.
675
00:27:28,570 --> 00:27:30,770
When you master integrity, you build a life
676
00:27:30,770 --> 00:27:33,910
that requires no explanation, no apology, no hiding.
677
00:27:34,730 --> 00:27:39,730
Ladies and gentlemen, this has been Inspirations for
678
00:27:39,730 --> 00:27:40,390
Your Life.
679
00:27:40,830 --> 00:27:43,670
And I am John Seymour, a serial entrepreneur.
680
00:27:43,670 --> 00:27:48,070
And I am reminding you that you're building
681
00:27:48,070 --> 00:27:49,810
your life with every decision.
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So build it with discipline, growth, and ownership.
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Remember guys, every thought becomes a reality.
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I will see you or hear you, well,
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tomorrow on another episode.
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In the meantime, check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for
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more of my amazing, inspiring creations, and we'll
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continue helping you become even better versions of
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yourself, take care and be well, everyone.
