Everything's Perfect Except...Nobody Warns You About THIS Part of Motherhood

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Recording. I turned the air off, so if it gets
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Autumn the producer.
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You guys, welcome back to another episode of Everything's Perfect.
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We've got a fun little guest sitting in Donald's chair today.
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Surprise, not Donald, not d you. I wasn't gonna venture
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to say Donald doesn't have a toddler.
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Donald does not chondler.
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I'm pretty sure we're a very highly produced podcast, can
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you tell. Yeah, everybody who's here helping out?
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Oh wait, no one. This is my girlfriend Natalie. We
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have been friends for fifteen years.
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It seems like maybe more than that. Don was two, okay,
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and he's now seeventeen, Okay.
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It does seem like it's been longer.
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Well, not that fifteen is not, but but fifteen years
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is a long time.
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It's a long time. We met at Equinox.
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Yeah, do you want to tell that story?
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Natalie was I was a trainer and she was in
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the mirror doing some very light bicep girls and I
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was like, you're stronger than that. And so my manager,
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because they would push us to get new clients.
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And I was like manager to actually, he was like,
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go talk to her.
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She could do more than that. And so I was like, hey,
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what made you think that you were? And I'm sure
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still are a beast in your workouts, but.
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Like when we trained, oh my gosh, yes, and it
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wasn't like common for back then for women to be
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lifting that much.
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And I know that doesn't seem like that.
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Long ago, but now everyone's lifting heavy, right, And we
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were like, I mean I would squat.
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We would squat each other.
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Yeah, literally, like because I was training as a competitor
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and you were just a beast of a workout person.
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It's so funny and out they're running constantly.
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Yeah, okay, so you approached me, yes, which everyone loves
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at the gym.
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I know, I was forced in my defense.
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Nobody likes it at the gym headphones. You're like can
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I help you?
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I said something like, hey, like can I give you
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some tips or something? But you had just had a surgery.
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Yeah, well no, I just got my boobs.
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Okay, I gonna say so.
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I was like, obviously I'm not lifting and probably protocol
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from the doctor, I'm not supposed to be here at all.
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No exactly, but I didn't know that obviously, but you
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told me that, And I was like, oh, actually, I've
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had mine done too, So I know.
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There you go, and that is the common bond you
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need in friendships. Boob job.
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Recent plastic surgery really brings people together.
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Maybe in LA well, I feel like everywhere everywhere these days.
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Yeah, because you also want to know. Everyone wants to know,
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well what did you get and who did you go to?
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And like, because if you're a plastic surgery person, that
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is what you are. And even if you don't share
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with people, that is your true self. That is who
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you are, and so you connect with like like.
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Like I got people. Yeah, yeah, so let's talk about it. Yeah,
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so we did. And then before you knew it, we
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were together all the time.
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When we say all the time, I think you guys
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don't understand all the time so much.
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So my mom was like, are you a lesbian? I
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was like, no, Autumn is just like a.
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Really good friend.
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Oh that was like way or because we were together. I
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was like, you met a new girl and you're hanging
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out with her every day.
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You know what's interesting now that you say that though, like, Okay,
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I was in my thirties, you were in your twenties,
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but like now being I'm forty five or forty, Yeah,
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I was thinking about this the other day. I was like,
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you don't meet a lot of new friends in your forties.
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Absolutely not.
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It's so hard.
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Yeah, you don't like either got him or you either
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got him or you don't.
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So guess what or you have like you're a life forgets.
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Don't go trust me.
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I know that you either get them and they're like acquaintances.
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But like you're also way more picky.
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Yeah, so if someone does something like that gives you
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the dick, You're like, I'm just not going to call this.
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I'm good.
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I need to handle that. Yeah, but it is so funny,
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like you think about it, because yeah, we did become
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friends so fast, so fast, and then we were like
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doing all the things, like we were going out and
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we are going on trips.
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It's like you're going to Miami. We were doing all
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the things that you would you that.
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The first person I went to Miami with and I
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Lily was.
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Just like, also, we.
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Love that story.
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The scerned alcohol a lot during that time.
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We were young. It was fifteen years ago. We are
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of the generation we went it was Listen, I can't
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believe these kids don't go out anymore. If I it
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was not on nights I had Dom. It was on
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nights that Dom was it was his dad. Yeah, but yeah,
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it is crazy because I had a two year.
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Old, which I currently would you now have a two
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year old? Yeah, she's gonna be two in October.
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And I was driving here and I was like, oh
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my god, driving to autumns without a child in the.
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Back seat was like a freedom vacation. Like I was like,
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I was going to tell you, like, without an anxious
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kid in the back, I was like, Oh, to take
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my time.
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I don't need to go through every light, get there
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as fast as I can to get her out of
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the car.
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And I'm like, oh, this is so interesting. I don't
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think i've been to your house since i've had her without.
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Her, isn't it so funny? People like, do not tell you, like,
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let's talk parenthood for real, for real?
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Yeah, well, I can't believe you did.
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Like I said to you earlier, I'm like, I'm so
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proud of you because I can like barely do base
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level shit.
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No, you're doing amazing with a kid.
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And you were doing like you have like an empire.
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You built well while having a psycho and they're all psycho,
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so don't come for me, and that all toddlers are
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on some other shit.
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Dom was on ball Dder, Mackie cheese.
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That's all I remember from him being too and he
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doesn't even know that he's a monster man.
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Now it's really do you remember that?
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Yes?
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I remember him very distinctly and not understanding until I had.
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A kid that you had a kid.
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Yeah.
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Does that makes sense?
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Yes, because you don't really know. You can't. You can't
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put yourself if you've never had a kid. You can't
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put yourself in the shoes of somebody. No that is
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that has a kid and is like trying to keep
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all the balls in the area. But like, people don't
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tell you about so many different things, like all my
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girlfriends now when they get pregnant. I I say it
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over and over it, and I'm like, you don't understand.
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Do everything right now? Yes, for these next nine months,
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I'm like, sleep in yep, take a trip, Appreciate going
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to the grocery store whenever you feel like it. I
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remember the first time I had to take down to
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the grocery store as a newborn, because you're used to
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just getting in the car. Yeah, and you go and
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you get what you need, and all of a sudden
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you need a diaper bag full of shit.
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Yep, but you're really in the car twenty minutes early
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for the grocery store and it's gonna take you an hour,
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and then you're frantic in there and you're.
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Hoping that your boobs just don't start leaking mill in
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the middle of the grocery is.
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A crazy is a crazy thing when you're a first
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time parent. And now I think if I ever had
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another kid, I'm like, I'm low at them everywhere, because like,
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now you realize they're just blobs. But before I was like,
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oh my god, and now I have a topic that
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I'm chasing, and I'm like.
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You were so much easier when you couldn't move. You're
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always like it's always you're waiting for them to get
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to the next stage, and then you realize that next
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age is actually just stressful in a different way. You're like,
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I can't wait until you could do something, and then
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they do something.
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You're like, oh my god, yes, old still yeah, and.
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They're like I can't wait for you to talk, and
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then they just don't shut up. Oh my god, why
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but why? All day?
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And then I have a parent at home.
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Yeah, and then you gotta be careful about what you say.
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Oh no, I was shit yesterday and I was like,
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damn it. And then damn it's like damn it. I'm like,
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oh fuck, oh fuck.
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You're like, oh, you're like no, it's if you don't.
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And I hate to be this person because like the
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just you wait ladies out there were so annoying in
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just you wait.
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I mean, just you wait.
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It's just it is what it is, and people say
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it all the time because it is a true thing.
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And like it's not nice to say to somebod who's
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pregnant and you're because they want to enjoy this. And
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so you're like, I don't want to be a just
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you wait woman.
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But like just you wait, because that's my whole point
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is enjoy the pregnancy part, even if you're sick, even
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if you're.
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Tired, like because you're without child, because.
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Right now that child is inside you and can go
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with you and it's not dictating the schedule for the
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next rest of your life. By the way, because even
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now Dom's seventeen, like he went to Disneyland yesterday, him
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his girlfriend and his girlfriend's twins siblings. Yeah, he has
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a girlfriend, and.
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He rewinds, so I've not met some girlfriend, so he
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doesn't have one.
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She's leaving for college in like two weeks.
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Oh, are they just going to call it quits in
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two weeks?
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No?
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I think they think they're going to keep it going.
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This is public that you're telling you.
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I know, think they think.
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They will and when it doesn't, maybe not work.
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Maybe I am not okay where your skills aren't the best?
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I said to him actually, because they were friends and
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they were hanging out for a while, and he's like,
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I'm going to ask her to be my girlfriend, and
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he had already said he wasn't sure because he knew
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she was leaving and like he wants to focus on
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his music. And when he said it, I was like,
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just remember what you said.
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And he was like, what are you saying?
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That he wanted to focus on his music and things,
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and you know, like he knew she was leaving, and
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so I don't know. We were talking about it one
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night and I was like, Dom, do you really think
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that's a good idea? Right now? She's leaving in literally
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two months. You're gonna end up with a broken heart
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and you're gonna be miserable to be around. And he
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got so mad at me and he's like, I'm not
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gonna not live my life because my heart might get broken.
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And I was like, douche valid point.
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He's a lifetime movie.
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Kid, I know. But also I was just like, oh god,
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I was saying it because listen, you're trying to protect him.
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Also, I don't want to do what you know you
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don't want to deal.
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I'm like, I don't need the last two weeks of
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my summer to be like him in his room.
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All where's she going?
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Is it far?
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I mean, you have to tell me where.
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I like, she's going to Arkansas.
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Oh okay, well that's a toughie. It's not like she's
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leaving to like Santa Barbara. No.
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And he's friends with her, her siblings that are like
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two years younger than her, and she'll be back. What
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do I know? Like, I haven't exactly made relationships like work,
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so maybe I.
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the shower. I'm like, what are we gonna talk about?
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And obviously being a mom is is a good one,
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Was like, wow, we should talk about like all the
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failed all my failed relationships, not all of yours, all
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of both of us, all of our I've only been
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married for three years and I'm gonna be forty two
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this year.
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Sometimes I think that you made the right choice.
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Yeah, no, that's got to wait.
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Sure. I have a two year old, so I didn't
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have my baby until I was forty, and so I'm like,
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I'm living this other part of life. And I think
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it's different when you have kids younger like you had.
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We're total polar opposites, like twenty eight. You're now in
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your forties and you have an adult and I'm in
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my forties with a kid, and I watched you young,
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and it's like it's very different because I have so
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much life experience now that like this adjustment. And I
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don't know if there's like older moms out there. I
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hate calling us that, but your like whole world gets
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I think more rocked when you're waited.
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I would think that too, because I would think like, like,
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if you don't have your first child till you're forty, fine,
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Like people are doing that more and more. Yeah, and
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you do have all that life experience and that time
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and job and career, but energy is different. But also
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you've had forty years of life to yourself. Now you're
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on somebody else's timetable a little bit. But as twenty eight,
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it's like, okay, well, you know, well the first eighteen
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years was just growing up yourself. Yeah, and then you
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had okay, five or ten years in their high school, college,
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all those things. But now you're like, okay, great, I'm
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a parent.
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Yeah, but no, you lived a whole Like me and
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my husband both were like, and he's older than me,
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were like an Adam Baum went off in our house.
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And it's hard.
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Oh my god, it's so hard because we don't have
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a frame of reference, like like we're just both in
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the shits together. Also, I'm trying to figure out how
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to be a mom, which is like a different thing
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than being a dad. This thing has come out of
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my body. I like don't know who I am. All
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the hormones drop out of you and then they're like
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also take care of them and be happy, and you're
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like what the fuck?
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Yeah? What? What the fuck? Yeah?
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Why did you guys have a party for this? Yeah?
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A fucking party?
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Do you even want to sit me down? Ands?
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And like nobody was like hey, and so here's what's
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gonna happen. First of all, no one was like, here's
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what's gonna go out of the hospital, which I was,
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Oh my god, peta, does everyone.
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Have birth trauma?
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Like I've never there's a There's like a lot of
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times where the story is not smooth.
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I mean mine wasn't. I thought it was gonna be
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and it wasn't.
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Oh, we all thought it was gonna be.
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Like I did to get a hospital.
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I packed my bag, taking I took skincare with me,
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Like what was I doing?
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Like I had time? I was so I was.
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I was disgusted with myself.
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I know that's terrible to say, because giving birth is beautiful,
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but like, you know, you swell so much. Oh that
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I was like, I never got like big big when
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I was pregnant, but I was like, what is that happening?
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I felt like the marshmallow man.
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Yeah, because well, depending on how long you're labor and everything,
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they're pumping you full of fluids.
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It'd hurt. I like could not move and I was
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like my foot like it was. I remember going to
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the shower for the first time and be like crying.
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Was gonna be like this forever?
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Like everything's like bleeding and like, yes, non they're telling
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you you can't leave until you actually can shit on your.
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Own, but nobody tells you that they're coming in every hour.
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Every hour. I was like, I'll have this baby, I'll
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get a good night sleep.
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We didn't have her till midnight, so I didn't get
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to the hospital like the room until like two am.
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And this nurse tries to come in and is like, okay,
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so here's what we're gonna do it.
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And I was like, ma'am. Even Tim, my husband, was like, okay,
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what is she? What is happening right now?
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She was more a caffeinet. It just came in for
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her shift probably, and you're just like, I'm in labor.
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But she's like running on those things. I'm my, I cannot, Like.
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This is horrible.
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And then an hour later, Hi, Mama, checking on you.
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I'm like, mama wants to sleep.
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I got one I got twenty four hours left, and
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you send me home by the way you send us home, and.
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It's like terrifying, baby, You're terrifying, terrifying.
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I have to keep this human alive.
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We took like these ranking ink online classes that were
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like here's what it sounds like when they're hungry, and I'm.
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Like, okay, what if they cry like all day?
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Because Sloan was callic, so I was like, no one
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said this was a thing, and they're like, some babies
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get this. I'm like, some well, nobody told me that
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this was going to be an eight hour cry session
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for three months. Oh yeah, that's why I have I
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have really bad PTSD about when she was texting the
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other day like I don't know, I should I have
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another one that ship sales, I.
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Was like, we should talk about this.
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Yeah, well, I feel like only only children get a
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bad rap, but they're somehow more well adjusted to adulthood and.
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Like because they have to be with all the adults.
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Yeah exactly, And so like I'm like, why is that
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in our society such a negative thing?
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They need a sibling.
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I got a lot of siblings any given day.
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We just.
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Literally before this was hopefully wasn't recording, went on our
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rant about our own siblings.
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So love them, also sometimes hate them.
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And I know it's like because we have them, so
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I've lived that experience, right, I know it's beautiful for
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people to have like really alone families and siblings.
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I get along.
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It's a lot more work for the parent undeniable, right,
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It's like you have to manage a bunch of.
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Schedules a newborn with a toddler not get my ideal vacation.
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I think when they're younger, they probably help entertain each
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other at a certain age, yes, not newborn and toddler, yeah,
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but probably around like the five yeah, like five and
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seven or whatever. You do it for the further investment, yes,
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and then you know they're there for each other later
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in life or sometimes, which I'm like.
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Totally here for.
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But I also know there's this like this new I
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think because we're having kids older, like there's a very
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new section of like one and done's yes and very
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proud of it.
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And I don't think that was the narrative before.
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It was like, oh, you only have one only only
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she takes up my whole life.
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Yeah, only, and then they're like not cheap.
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No, And that's the other thing nowadays is like do
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I I think the conversation is like do I want
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to give her this life where I have so much
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extra to give or give her the sibling and like
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not have as much or it's it was very stressful
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for me and my husband, I think obviously because it
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was later to have a child.
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Yeah, and that stress does not go.
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Away, and like adding another one seems like, I don't know,
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it's hard because I like love babies, but same, you
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have to make like an adult. I feel like I
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have to make like an adult decision, and adult decisions
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are hard because once you make them, you have to
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be like, I know the pros and cons and I'm
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still making them.
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I'm choosing it. Yeah, I mean I had wanted a
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second child for Dom and for like, I always wanted
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another baby. Yeah, and then you know, Kent and I
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ended up divorced when Dom was two, or getting divorced
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when Dom was two, and then I just you know,
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we can go down failed relationships.
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Especially a very happy you did not have another child
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with any of the.
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Following, none of them we won't name names.
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No, we won't name names.
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But him no him, no, definitely not nope. Yeah, and
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it worked out.
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In your favor.
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Yeah. And actually for a while, I had, like there
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was a time where I considered, like should I adopt
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or foster just to like cause I but when when
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I had Dom, we had nothing like Kent and I
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had nothing. Dom was about four when I signed my
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beach Body contract and then things, you know, started to
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do well, and then it was like, oh great, But
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then I was working so much that you know, there
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was like no time to meet anybody anyways. Yeah, and
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then I went into perimenopause fairly early, Like I went
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into perrimenopause I think at like forty forty one now
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that I was still having cycles and stuff, so I
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could have probably still gotten pregnant. Yeah, but now I'm
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forty five and I'm nine months into no cycle.
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Oh you're saying nine months pregnant.
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Would you imagine if I just dropped on the five
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and I've decided I'm having that having baby? Oh my god,
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I would be fun.
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Actually after the hard party, it's weird. Yeah, well when
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my kid would happen.
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But then, like two years ago, like a year or
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two ago, Don was like I want a sibling, and
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I was like, go talk to your dad and he
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was like, Dan older than you, mom, And I was
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like his story still works, you what? Yeah, Like he
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was literally Dom was like on me for a minute
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that he wanted me to have a sibling, and I
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was like from where, from who?
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I know, and what an age gap that would be
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for him?
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Yeah. Yeah, he just thought it would be fun. I
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was like, well, guess what, remember like six years ago
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when I said, oh, what if mom, like what if
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we talk about adopting? And you melted down for a week?
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I said, what if we foster?
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Yeah?
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I was thinking about doing foster, like maybe being a
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foster home. Yeah, And my kid literally melted down for
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why because he was younger then. You know, he was
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like ten, and I think he really like you know,
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he goes. He would would go back and forth between
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me and his dad. So I think there was like
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this thought of like, well, that person would get all
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of my moms.
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I was gonna say, you'd have to share, yeah, yeah,
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and he would have to shield her.
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Yeah they don't. They don't like go sure, but I don't.
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I mean, it's obviously like a personal choice. But I
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think like more and more it makes me and probably
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a lot of other people like happy that there are
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a lot of like proud one and done. Yeah, because
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like sometimes it's just a financial like the yearning for
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another child like maybe doesn't go away, But like my
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logical mind is like how much did that stress me?
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Out and how much is it worth it for me
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to be a depleted mom just to give her a sibling.
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So like that that's where I and.
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Like, you know, if things, if situations were changed or whatever, Like.
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I don't know.
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I came from a really really good job back on
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the East Coast to come here to have her, to
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be close to my family and without that job too. Like,
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finances are a thing, is real, Like I don't think
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we should do not like they're a thing. They they
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You either have the help or support, which I'm happy
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I have, Like my family, Like listen to grandparents are
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like some full stop the best right some yeah, some
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well you know the ones I'm talking.
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About, you know.
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That's her mom and dad.
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Yeah, Like so that is a big thing for me
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because I'm like I do have the support. Yeah, but
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you know, it's like it's it's hard. It is definitely
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00:19:57.640 --> 00:19:59.039
not an easy choice.
496
00:19:58.960 --> 00:19:59.400
Yeah, to make.
497
00:19:59.400 --> 00:20:01.279
I think about my raising the three of us, because
498
00:20:01.279 --> 00:20:03.559
he raised us as a single parent, and like, see
499
00:20:03.559 --> 00:20:05.920
that's crazy. And I had my grandparents and my aunts
500
00:20:05.960 --> 00:20:09.039
around for help. Yeah, but like at the end of
501
00:20:09.039 --> 00:20:11.720
the day, financially, he was the one taking care of
502
00:20:11.759 --> 00:20:15.079
us and there were some very hard struggles along the way.
503
00:20:15.319 --> 00:20:19.440
Yeah, but I feel like, you know, do people know
504
00:20:19.599 --> 00:20:20.559
that you come from that.
505
00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:22.920
I've talked about it. I feel like people that have
506
00:20:22.960 --> 00:20:25.200
been on my journey with me from the beginning though,
507
00:20:25.240 --> 00:20:28.720
but people that have maybe found me later in my journey, yeah,
508
00:20:28.839 --> 00:20:32.119
don't understand. Like how blue collar? I don't know you're
509
00:20:32.119 --> 00:20:33.480
allowed to say blue collar anymore.
510
00:20:33.559 --> 00:20:38.880
Yeah, well, I mean you you just say Ohio, which
511
00:20:38.960 --> 00:20:40.839
I've lived there, so you can't.
512
00:20:41.480 --> 00:20:43.440
And Donald and I joke about it to because donalds
513
00:20:43.440 --> 00:20:46.960
of Ohio too. But no, like literally, I've shared like
514
00:20:47.640 --> 00:20:49.680
video of the neighborhood I grew up in, Like I mean,
515
00:20:49.680 --> 00:20:52.640
it's it was this cute little Italian neighborhood, but it
516
00:20:52.680 --> 00:20:56.119
was very working class, like at best, I mean, yes,
517
00:20:56.319 --> 00:21:00.920
we like I don't there were really times of all
518
00:21:01.160 --> 00:21:02.359
like no, I don't want to say that. I was
519
00:21:02.359 --> 00:21:04.200
gonna say like I wasn't like wanting for anything, but
520
00:21:04.240 --> 00:21:07.079
that's not true. Like I was fourteen, lying about my
521
00:21:07.200 --> 00:21:08.880
age so I could get a job, so I could
522
00:21:08.880 --> 00:21:11.839
pay for my dance lessons and my competition clothes. Because
523
00:21:12.519 --> 00:21:15.559
my brother and sister were at private Catholic schools, I
524
00:21:15.599 --> 00:21:18.480
was at a public school by choice, but they were
525
00:21:18.480 --> 00:21:20.400
at private Catholic, which was very expensive.
526
00:21:20.559 --> 00:21:22.759
Yeah, of course, Kaylee that that's crazy.
527
00:21:22.920 --> 00:21:25.839
Kaylee was on the crew team. Bobby did karate.
528
00:21:27.279 --> 00:21:28.240
Crew.
529
00:21:28.440 --> 00:21:32.480
Yeah, she wrote crew And I'm gonna make a statement
530
00:21:32.519 --> 00:21:34.240
and I don't know if it's one hundred percent accurate.
531
00:21:34.279 --> 00:21:36.440
I would have editing if you really need to, Well,
532
00:21:36.720 --> 00:21:38.240
you're just gonna say what I mean is, I don't
533
00:21:38.240 --> 00:21:39.559
know if it's one hundred percent, I'd have to ask
534
00:21:39.599 --> 00:21:45.279
the Yeah. But I feel like for the most part,
535
00:21:45.839 --> 00:21:49.799
my brother and sisters extracurriculars were taken care of by
536
00:21:49.839 --> 00:21:50.200
my dad.
537
00:21:50.519 --> 00:21:51.839
Oh, I see, and yours were not.
538
00:21:53.359 --> 00:21:56.599
The young could help when he He helped when he could. Yeah.
539
00:21:56.640 --> 00:22:00.599
In general, No, I started paying for most of my
540
00:22:00.680 --> 00:22:02.240
stuff by the time I was fourteen.
541
00:22:02.319 --> 00:22:05.400
This is a pattern of your life currently.
542
00:22:05.400 --> 00:22:06.640
This is a pattern of my life.
543
00:22:06.680 --> 00:22:08.240
But I didn't know that because I don't think you
544
00:22:08.279 --> 00:22:11.440
get enough credit for like how you're very intelligent, and
545
00:22:11.440 --> 00:22:16.039
you're very you're very smart, and you're very like you're
546
00:22:16.079 --> 00:22:19.279
an entrepreneur to like the fullest extent of like doing
547
00:22:19.359 --> 00:22:19.920
it yourself.
548
00:22:20.200 --> 00:22:24.480
Probably but probably honestly, probably because of that, I think
549
00:22:24.480 --> 00:22:26.079
you do more than you realize.
550
00:22:25.759 --> 00:22:26.400
I don't really think.
551
00:22:26.440 --> 00:22:28.240
I like, I don't know if I have it in me,
552
00:22:28.279 --> 00:22:31.039
because I mean, my job is different. I'm a news anchor,
553
00:22:31.279 --> 00:22:34.880
so like I rely on the big corporations and so
554
00:22:35.000 --> 00:22:38.640
like I've always been like that and I've never like,
555
00:22:39.119 --> 00:22:40.599
I don't know, I don't think I think outside of
556
00:22:40.599 --> 00:22:43.240
the box as much as you do, like how.
557
00:22:43.079 --> 00:22:46.359
To maybe do it? Maybe I think, yeah, But because
558
00:22:46.400 --> 00:22:48.279
I had to start like so young, and it was
559
00:22:48.319 --> 00:22:50.200
like there were things that I just want, Like I
560
00:22:50.279 --> 00:22:52.359
wanted my dance lesson so bad. So it was like
561
00:22:53.000 --> 00:22:55.200
what will it take? Yeah, yeah, like what do I
562
00:22:55.279 --> 00:22:59.119
have to do? Yeah, okay, I gotta lie about my age?
563
00:22:59.279 --> 00:23:01.960
Well yeah, be it. You know, it was the it
564
00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:03.920
was the early nineties, you were you could get away
565
00:23:03.920 --> 00:23:05.720
with it then you probably couldn't get away with it now.
566
00:23:07.480 --> 00:23:10.960
But yeah, because I had to. I think that's probably
567
00:23:11.000 --> 00:23:15.039
where a lot of my like driving, like just relentless
568
00:23:15.039 --> 00:23:18.920
work ethic probably comes from. Is it was either I
569
00:23:18.920 --> 00:23:21.480
couldn't have the things I wanted or I had to
570
00:23:21.480 --> 00:23:23.920
figure out how to get them. Because my dad was
571
00:23:23.960 --> 00:23:26.799
a single parent, I was the baby. They were the
572
00:23:26.839 --> 00:23:29.759
older ones, so they kind of got their stuff first, like, okay,
573
00:23:29.759 --> 00:23:31.799
well your sister's in high school wants to be on crew. Okay,
574
00:23:31.799 --> 00:23:33.279
well your brother's in high school wants to be in crew.
575
00:23:33.319 --> 00:23:35.160
Well you're you know, yeah, you're gonna have to help
576
00:23:35.160 --> 00:23:37.720
pay for your dance lessons. Like and when you're a
577
00:23:37.720 --> 00:23:40.559
competitive dancer, you can't just take one class a week.
578
00:23:40.680 --> 00:23:45.079
They have multiple classes are required to be it. Yeah yeah,
579
00:23:45.079 --> 00:23:47.599
and then when you're competing, you're on you're in multiple dances.
580
00:23:47.640 --> 00:23:49.880
You got to pay for costumes, costumes that are being handmade,
581
00:23:49.960 --> 00:23:52.240
Like you got to pay for travel and hotels.
582
00:23:52.279 --> 00:23:53.759
Like I'm not sure if I want someone to be
583
00:23:53.759 --> 00:23:55.319
a dancer. This sounds expensive.
584
00:23:56.000 --> 00:23:59.960
It's not too probably more now when oh god, now,
585
00:24:00.000 --> 00:24:02.799
oh my gosh, and these kids nowadays, it's like what
586
00:24:02.839 --> 00:24:05.240
they could do. Like now I'm like I was a
587
00:24:05.319 --> 00:24:07.319
dance major in college and now I'm like, yeah, I
588
00:24:07.359 --> 00:24:09.920
can't really dance actually, Like I watched these kids on
589
00:24:09.960 --> 00:24:11.799
TikTok and I'm like, I actually can't.
590
00:24:11.880 --> 00:24:14.599
Oh my got TikTok's like a whole other like I
591
00:24:14.720 --> 00:24:18.319
watch danced, did anyone else like guilty pleasure dance TikTok?
592
00:24:18.640 --> 00:24:22.319
It's like my guilty pleasure of watching like teenagers or
593
00:24:22.960 --> 00:24:25.960
really great dancers, and I have like so many My
594
00:24:26.000 --> 00:24:27.400
algorithm is so messed up.
595
00:24:27.440 --> 00:24:30.359
It is just like every hip hop dance studio in
596
00:24:30.400 --> 00:24:31.519
the Greater LA Area.
597
00:24:31.720 --> 00:24:33.680
It's so fun though, but it's like the life I
598
00:24:33.680 --> 00:24:35.559
would have. What would you have done if you weren't
599
00:24:35.640 --> 00:24:36.799
doing what you're doing now.
600
00:24:37.000 --> 00:24:39.359
I wanted, I mean, I wanted to be a professional dancer.
601
00:24:39.400 --> 00:24:41.759
I wanted to be out on tours. Yeah, like like
602
00:24:41.839 --> 00:24:45.200
my girlfriend Tory. Yeah, like I wanted to be Like
603
00:24:45.240 --> 00:24:46.880
I mean again, I'm a child of the eighties, so
604
00:24:47.000 --> 00:24:49.559
like at the time, it was Madonna, and it was
605
00:24:49.599 --> 00:24:52.720
like Will Smith, and it was Janet Jackson and Michael
606
00:24:52.799 --> 00:24:54.839
Jackson and like all of those, and then you got
607
00:24:54.839 --> 00:24:56.119
into Britney Spears and.
608
00:24:56.039 --> 00:24:58.400
In Sync and like really dancing. Then they got real
609
00:24:58.440 --> 00:24:59.079
world dancing.
610
00:24:59.279 --> 00:24:59.720
Yeah.
611
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.039
Actually had our formative years of like that pop era.
612
00:25:02.920 --> 00:25:06.319
Pop era. So what I probably should have done was
613
00:25:06.359 --> 00:25:08.839
not go to college, believe it or not. And I
614
00:25:08.839 --> 00:25:11.599
probably should have come straight to LA and started dance
615
00:25:11.720 --> 00:25:14.000
dancing and auditioning if Yeah, but I didn't know I
616
00:25:14.039 --> 00:25:14.799
was from Ohio.
617
00:25:15.039 --> 00:25:17.119
Yeah, but that's also true. But like the longevity in
618
00:25:17.160 --> 00:25:19.359
that is not no it's not there. Yeah.
619
00:25:19.519 --> 00:25:21.720
Yeah, for some you go on to be a choreographer
620
00:25:21.720 --> 00:25:23.599
and certain things like that. But like, yeah, at a
621
00:25:23.640 --> 00:25:25.359
certain point that kind of wear and tear. I mean,
622
00:25:25.400 --> 00:25:29.640
although fitness teaching in front of the camera, the wear
623
00:25:29.680 --> 00:25:32.559
and tears starting to add up at forty five, hence
624
00:25:32.599 --> 00:25:33.440
the beverage line.
625
00:25:33.440 --> 00:25:36.039
I'm like this spotty, which is very good, by the way,
626
00:25:36.079 --> 00:25:37.880
thank you, That's what I'm saying.
627
00:25:37.880 --> 00:25:41.640
But you have these ideas and you go all the way.
628
00:25:41.680 --> 00:25:44.599
A lot of people have ideas and don't go all
629
00:25:44.640 --> 00:25:45.519
the way to fruition.
630
00:25:46.839 --> 00:25:50.559
Yes, that is true. We could, we could brainstorm some
631
00:25:50.599 --> 00:25:51.200
ideas for you.
632
00:25:52.160 --> 00:25:57.880
I'm good. It's like, nah, that's where it comes from,
633
00:25:58.480 --> 00:25:58.839
you know what.
634
00:25:59.200 --> 00:26:02.480
I'm busy. She's like remember that in two year old
635
00:26:02.519 --> 00:26:03.359
I just told.
636
00:26:03.079 --> 00:26:05.680
You maniac maniac.
637
00:26:05.920 --> 00:26:07.599
No, I love her so much, you want it.
638
00:26:07.640 --> 00:26:10.000
The other day we went to like this brewery.
639
00:26:10.400 --> 00:26:14.200
We had friends in from the East coast, and somebody
640
00:26:14.319 --> 00:26:16.920
ordered like an a low Ta pizza and Sloan was
641
00:26:16.960 --> 00:26:19.880
eating her own food but wanted a slice. But she
642
00:26:19.880 --> 00:26:21.799
didn't want me to cut this, you know top.
643
00:26:21.720 --> 00:26:23.039
Yes you can't. You want it?
644
00:26:23.119 --> 00:26:24.079
Yeah, you want it? Like that?
645
00:26:24.279 --> 00:26:25.960
No, okay.
646
00:26:27.559 --> 00:26:29.519
To talk in another language and this, so you just
647
00:26:29.519 --> 00:26:32.920
said you wanted it. So I'm like, okay, avoid a meltout.
648
00:26:32.960 --> 00:26:34.200
I just gave her the whole slice.
649
00:26:34.400 --> 00:26:35.039
That's fine.
650
00:26:35.240 --> 00:26:38.359
No, no, no, she just wanted to carry it. Oh.
651
00:26:38.599 --> 00:26:42.799
So she was carrying it around the brewery, walking around
652
00:26:43.039 --> 00:26:46.480
with a slice love love and holding it and hugging it.
653
00:26:46.480 --> 00:26:49.480
And so now she has pizza and all whatever. And
654
00:26:49.519 --> 00:26:50.279
me and my husband were.
655
00:26:50.279 --> 00:26:55.880
Like, wait that what with chicken fingers?
656
00:26:55.960 --> 00:26:57.920
Give you chicken fingers to give you death? That is mine.
657
00:26:57.960 --> 00:26:59.279
So I'm gonna get that on a shirt.
658
00:27:00.000 --> 00:27:03.200
Well when we went when we went to Vegas this
659
00:27:03.279 --> 00:27:07.200
last time for Backstreet Boys, Yeah, did we go eat
660
00:27:07.240 --> 00:27:08.559
the chicken fingers at Fountain Blue?
661
00:27:08.720 --> 00:27:10.359
No we didn't. We didn't do any of the fun
662
00:27:10.519 --> 00:27:12.079
the we were old.
663
00:27:12.599 --> 00:27:14.480
Well, first of all, when I said the chicken fingers
664
00:27:14.759 --> 00:27:16.960
and her her hugging the pizza, loving it. Do you
665
00:27:17.000 --> 00:27:19.680
remember when we on a Fourth of July weekend on
666
00:27:19.720 --> 00:27:22.119
a whim because you know, somebody was pissing me.
667
00:27:22.079 --> 00:27:22.799
Off very much?
668
00:27:22.839 --> 00:27:25.480
Remember that I was in a blue like wrap around dress,
669
00:27:25.680 --> 00:27:26.400
remember the little thing.
670
00:27:26.920 --> 00:27:29.000
And we got into the clubs because I got broken
671
00:27:29.000 --> 00:27:31.079
away through a text. Yeah, and we told the bouncers
672
00:27:31.079 --> 00:27:32.359
and they were like, no, you didn't. We were like
673
00:27:32.480 --> 00:27:34.640
look and they're like let them in and they walked
674
00:27:34.720 --> 00:27:36.079
us to the basketball players tables.
675
00:27:36.240 --> 00:27:38.599
Yes, I remember all of this. And also we were like,
676
00:27:38.720 --> 00:27:39.240
let's just.
677
00:27:39.240 --> 00:27:41.759
Go and we were like and we sure did that
678
00:27:41.880 --> 00:27:43.359
said I'll meet you back here in an hour.
679
00:27:43.559 --> 00:27:45.880
Yeah, it was like we just went and we did.
680
00:27:45.920 --> 00:27:47.359
We sure did get in that car trip.
681
00:27:47.400 --> 00:27:49.359
But yeah, we spent was it just the night.
682
00:27:49.640 --> 00:27:51.559
I think we went, Yeah, maybe just one night.
683
00:27:52.319 --> 00:27:54.279
It was very fun. Remember the was like.
684
00:27:54.240 --> 00:27:56.000
Two in the morning and we were ordering chicken fingers
685
00:27:56.000 --> 00:27:58.240
and fries to the room obviously, and then we just
686
00:27:58.279 --> 00:28:00.640
like got so bad crawled into it. Yep.
687
00:28:00.839 --> 00:28:05.000
I I will never forget when I got When my
688
00:28:05.079 --> 00:28:07.319
husband and I were dating, we it was like during
689
00:28:07.359 --> 00:28:10.960
COVID and so we were gonna go to Hawaii because
690
00:28:10.960 --> 00:28:13.319
it was like the only place we could go and
691
00:28:13.920 --> 00:28:15.640
we had to layover in La So I was like,
692
00:28:15.680 --> 00:28:17.400
you should be my parents, and so like we got
693
00:28:17.440 --> 00:28:19.359
all this takeout, went out to Santa Monica, had a
694
00:28:19.400 --> 00:28:22.559
picnic or whatever. But my parents, bless their heart, are
695
00:28:22.640 --> 00:28:26.599
kind of low key partiers, so they were like low
696
00:28:26.640 --> 00:28:32.240
key my ass, So as their daughter also a partier.
697
00:28:32.839 --> 00:28:34.680
I was like, yeah, let's like they're like, want to
698
00:28:34.720 --> 00:28:37.039
go have drinks back at the hotel, and so Tim's like,
699
00:28:37.079 --> 00:28:38.920
this is great. Like my husband's like, that's not met
700
00:28:38.960 --> 00:28:40.680
my parents. They just want to have more wine. He's like,
701
00:28:40.680 --> 00:28:41.240
I'm fucking in.
702
00:28:41.319 --> 00:28:41.920
This is great.
703
00:28:42.279 --> 00:28:44.279
And so we're having more wine. We're like in our
704
00:28:44.359 --> 00:28:46.359
room and my parents were like, Okay, we're gonna go.
705
00:28:46.440 --> 00:28:50.640
Like they were back to the house and I woke.
706
00:28:50.759 --> 00:28:53.559
We were like, let's order food, and so we ordered
707
00:28:53.680 --> 00:28:57.000
like Mexican food and our flight from Lex was like
708
00:28:57.039 --> 00:28:59.599
eight am the next Dude like, but we're just you know,
709
00:28:59.599 --> 00:29:01.000
you're like you just started dating.
710
00:29:01.279 --> 00:29:06.240
We're like this is we're like dipping guawk. I woke
711
00:29:06.319 --> 00:29:09.680
up in the morning. Oh god, the food still in
712
00:29:09.720 --> 00:29:10.039
the bed.
713
00:29:10.839 --> 00:29:12.079
All of us were still good.
714
00:29:12.519 --> 00:29:15.440
We're like blind trying to get our stuff to get
715
00:29:15.480 --> 00:29:17.720
to Lax to go to Hawaii. And we get to
716
00:29:17.759 --> 00:29:20.440
the airport and my boyfriend husband now at the time,
717
00:29:20.559 --> 00:29:22.920
was like, your hair.
718
00:29:23.039 --> 00:29:24.759
Oh my god, did your hair? No?
719
00:29:24.799 --> 00:29:25.640
I had beans.
720
00:29:26.039 --> 00:29:32.319
I had beans coming out of my hair, black beats
721
00:29:32.319 --> 00:29:34.160
and I go like this and shake and like they
722
00:29:34.160 --> 00:29:39.960
come down out of my hair. So my legacy will
723
00:29:39.960 --> 00:29:43.440
be ordering food. And I one time also slept on
724
00:29:43.480 --> 00:29:44.880
a burger under my pillow.
725
00:29:45.519 --> 00:29:48.279
These are not moments I'm proud of, but I too
726
00:29:48.319 --> 00:29:49.319
wear them with pride.
727
00:29:50.079 --> 00:29:50.920
Under your pillow.
728
00:29:51.079 --> 00:29:53.759
I just forget and I'm like, this is gonna be great,
729
00:29:53.799 --> 00:29:54.640
and then I pass out.
730
00:29:54.680 --> 00:29:56.599
I mean, this is much younger, although the other one
731
00:29:56.640 --> 00:29:58.160
was like maybe just five years ago.
732
00:29:58.799 --> 00:30:00.359
But also I was with one.
733
00:30:00.279 --> 00:30:02.079
So I feel like it's better if you tell listen,
734
00:30:02.200 --> 00:30:04.000
I was like thirty five when we were doing that stuff,
735
00:30:04.000 --> 00:30:05.440
when we were going to Vegas and things like that,
736
00:30:05.640 --> 00:30:06.720
maybe thirty three.
737
00:30:06.839 --> 00:30:07.200
Who cares.
738
00:30:07.240 --> 00:30:09.799
There's no age you get eat fifty with your girlfriend.
739
00:30:10.200 --> 00:30:11.920
You gotta have fun. You gotta have fun exactly.
740
00:30:12.039 --> 00:30:14.720
So yeah, I've that that's happened to me before. I
741
00:30:14.759 --> 00:30:16.000
don't know, it's just like you love.
742
00:30:16.119 --> 00:30:19.079
I love an end of the night ordering food, And
743
00:30:19.160 --> 00:30:21.079
I remember when I was like really strict, like I
744
00:30:21.160 --> 00:30:23.759
won't do it, and then I was like, for why,
745
00:30:23.960 --> 00:30:25.200
Like because I'm not out.
746
00:30:25.039 --> 00:30:27.559
Here eating like yeah every day.
747
00:30:27.799 --> 00:30:29.839
Yeah, And I'm like, so I would.
748
00:30:29.920 --> 00:30:32.359
Just I feel like that also comes with your forties,
749
00:30:32.400 --> 00:30:37.119
where like I'm not too concerned anymore, Like sure, I'll
750
00:30:37.119 --> 00:30:38.640
like pick up on a like, oh I need to
751
00:30:38.680 --> 00:30:40.720
eat this about like protein. I think that's the only
752
00:30:40.759 --> 00:30:44.359
thing that I like consciously some days think about. But
753
00:30:44.759 --> 00:30:48.240
when you come from like the eighties, babies and like
754
00:30:48.319 --> 00:30:50.839
the nineties and then the super skinny two thousands and
755
00:30:50.920 --> 00:30:54.480
everything was just like really fucked up. Yeah, now I
756
00:30:54.480 --> 00:30:56.920
feel like in your forties, you're just like, do I
757
00:30:56.960 --> 00:30:57.599
go for walks?
758
00:30:57.720 --> 00:30:58.920
The Hawkrell Walk.
759
00:30:58.759 --> 00:31:01.759
In Covid is like something we should have been doing forever,
760
00:31:02.240 --> 00:31:04.160
but it didn't get like cute and popular.
761
00:31:04.240 --> 00:31:05.240
But walking is like.
762
00:31:05.319 --> 00:31:07.920
The shit hilarious. It's what I've always done. I grew
763
00:31:08.000 --> 00:31:09.839
up walking, grew up walking with my dad. That's how
764
00:31:09.880 --> 00:31:11.759
I lost most of my baby weight with tom Yeah,
765
00:31:11.799 --> 00:31:13.400
because I had a c section. I couldn't do anything
766
00:31:13.400 --> 00:31:14.599
else once I was cleared.
767
00:31:14.960 --> 00:31:16.119
Wasn't the plan. We would know.
768
00:31:16.720 --> 00:31:18.960
It was not the plan we would plan. We would
769
00:31:18.960 --> 00:31:20.359
go on walks, like I would take them on like
770
00:31:20.359 --> 00:31:22.160
three mile walks because I just needed to get out
771
00:31:22.200 --> 00:31:24.400
of throw that baby on the stroller and let's go.
772
00:31:24.640 --> 00:31:25.440
Walking is the ship.
773
00:31:25.640 --> 00:31:26.200
It's the best.
774
00:31:26.240 --> 00:31:26.839
It's the best.
775
00:31:26.880 --> 00:31:29.039
It's like, yeah, it's the best. My biggest thing I
776
00:31:29.039 --> 00:31:30.599
was always I'm like, did I get my veggies in,
777
00:31:30.680 --> 00:31:31.640
like I just need to make sure.
778
00:31:31.759 --> 00:31:32.359
Yeah, that's good.
779
00:31:32.440 --> 00:31:34.480
Veggies make me feel good. I've got my fiber.
780
00:31:35.759 --> 00:31:37.440
You took the F word out of my mouth. I
781
00:31:37.480 --> 00:31:40.920
was gonna say, fiber is so big because if you
782
00:31:41.000 --> 00:31:42.960
remember one of the things about being a mom and
783
00:31:43.000 --> 00:31:47.279
having a baby and being a postpartum after they muster.
784
00:31:47.119 --> 00:31:49.640
Up all the drums, yeah, you're you're like, literally, you.
785
00:31:49.519 --> 00:31:51.319
Have another baby and it needs to come.
786
00:31:51.680 --> 00:31:53.519
We'll let you leave the hospital until it does.
787
00:31:54.559 --> 00:31:57.880
I had to. I was like, what is happening? Yeah,
788
00:31:57.920 --> 00:32:01.119
you're like, and I was you'll go. I'm like, you
789
00:32:01.160 --> 00:32:01.839
don't understand.
790
00:32:02.240 --> 00:32:02.960
You feel like dying.
791
00:32:03.160 --> 00:32:04.880
Oh. I was like called a nurse and I was like,
792
00:32:04.920 --> 00:32:06.799
you need to give me an enemaup right now.
793
00:32:07.359 --> 00:32:08.119
And she's like, are you sure.
794
00:32:08.160 --> 00:32:11.359
I'm like right right this second, immediately, and so my
795
00:32:11.400 --> 00:32:12.240
eyes were just sitting in there.
796
00:32:12.240 --> 00:32:14.559
He's like to leave. I'm like, not at this point,
797
00:32:14.839 --> 00:32:16.920
and you're already here for the baby part.
798
00:32:17.440 --> 00:32:21.200
So I get it, and I'm like, all right, any
799
00:32:21.240 --> 00:32:25.359
time now I can. I can barely remember my baby
800
00:32:25.359 --> 00:32:28.079
being cut out of me, and I can vividly remember
801
00:32:28.119 --> 00:32:28.400
this ship.
802
00:32:29.559 --> 00:32:31.559
I'm telling you, wait, you know, I just had the
803
00:32:31.599 --> 00:32:34.920
face surgery stuff done, and that was actually the longest
804
00:32:34.960 --> 00:32:37.359
antistiage I've ever butt under. It was four hours because
805
00:32:37.680 --> 00:32:41.200
I was under longer than Yeah, they kind of anticipated
806
00:32:41.279 --> 00:32:43.000
just because they were going ham on my face with
807
00:32:43.039 --> 00:32:46.079
the laser apparently. But anyways, so then I'm at my
808
00:32:46.079 --> 00:32:48.400
friend Joel in Meghan's house for the next five days
809
00:32:48.440 --> 00:32:51.599
recovering and I'm like four days in and haven't gone
810
00:32:51.680 --> 00:32:54.440
and I'm like it is this is And by the way,
811
00:32:54.480 --> 00:32:57.920
I'm eating all the vegetables. I am pounding water like crazy.
812
00:32:58.480 --> 00:33:04.799
Finally I'm like okay, Instacart and basically like the baby animals, like,
813
00:33:04.839 --> 00:33:07.920
I can't believe I have to do this.
814
00:33:08.079 --> 00:33:10.720
It's it's call to sleep and I haven't because there
815
00:33:10.720 --> 00:33:11.319
are emergencies.
816
00:33:11.400 --> 00:33:12.920
It's like the glycerin stuff.
817
00:33:13.119 --> 00:33:13.400
Yep.
818
00:33:13.599 --> 00:33:17.119
But let me tell you you did it. You did it, yeah,
819
00:33:17.160 --> 00:33:19.079
because I was felt like I was like, I am
820
00:33:19.240 --> 00:33:23.960
getting so bitchy because nothing's coming out. It's so uncomfortable.
821
00:33:24.599 --> 00:33:26.480
We have this debate all the time, and you guys
822
00:33:26.480 --> 00:33:28.720
can listen and chime in and what you think is worse.
823
00:33:29.880 --> 00:33:33.279
My husband has stomach issues, so he's like, do you
824
00:33:33.440 --> 00:33:35.519
think not going.
825
00:33:35.640 --> 00:33:37.279
Is worse than having to go all the time.
826
00:33:37.359 --> 00:33:42.359
Yes, he's like cramping like he would like face, you know,
827
00:33:42.440 --> 00:33:43.880
like a would you rather kind of think it's like
828
00:33:43.920 --> 00:33:47.200
cramping diarrhea or constipated for four.
829
00:33:47.160 --> 00:33:48.319
Days cramping diarrhea.
830
00:33:48.480 --> 00:33:50.359
That's what I said. I was like, that one's so
831
00:33:50.440 --> 00:33:50.880
much better.
832
00:33:51.000 --> 00:33:53.000
It comes out, it's done, thank you.
833
00:33:53.480 --> 00:33:55.400
Having to sit and be like.
834
00:33:55.440 --> 00:33:58.200
Four days, there's like toxins building up and your body is.
835
00:34:00.000 --> 00:34:02.880
I didn't seen one is the giving first one is awful.
836
00:34:02.960 --> 00:34:03.400
It's bad.
837
00:34:03.599 --> 00:34:04.839
No one told me that at the shower.
838
00:34:04.960 --> 00:34:06.440
That's what I said. I was like, they need to
839
00:34:06.440 --> 00:34:08.679
write a real baby book. Should we write it? Yeah,
840
00:34:08.800 --> 00:34:09.800
this and we'll go on tour.
841
00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:11.199
No one would have to.
842
00:34:11.400 --> 00:34:16.119
Be like your body releases the chemical so you forget.
843
00:34:16.480 --> 00:34:19.400
Well, yeah, but oh I remember again.
844
00:34:19.679 --> 00:34:22.599
I remember enough that I was like, I remember, but
845
00:34:24.800 --> 00:34:27.599
you know I had gut health issues like yeah, five
846
00:34:27.639 --> 00:34:30.039
or well, I guess god. I always say five or
847
00:34:30.079 --> 00:34:32.159
six years ago, completely kind of forgetting like COVID in
848
00:34:32.239 --> 00:34:34.480
lockdown happened. So I'm like, it was really like eight
849
00:34:34.559 --> 00:34:38.920
years ago. Yeah, but so I've been speaking about fiber
850
00:34:39.159 --> 00:34:41.559
for eight years and gut health Like before it was
851
00:34:41.599 --> 00:34:44.320
like all the rage, and I was the one going, hey, guys,
852
00:34:44.320 --> 00:34:45.880
we got to focus on gut help. Like that's why
853
00:34:46.039 --> 00:34:47.559
with Beach Body, I was like, we need to do
854
00:34:47.559 --> 00:34:50.000
this gut health program. People need it. But like I
855
00:34:50.079 --> 00:34:52.760
was on that side where it was what went in
856
00:34:52.880 --> 00:34:56.000
came out very quickly. Yeah, don't get me wrong. That
857
00:34:56.119 --> 00:35:01.039
was miserable. Yeah, I bet, but nothing is more miserable
858
00:35:01.079 --> 00:35:03.280
compared to being constipated.
859
00:35:03.360 --> 00:35:05.800
No, no, And I will say again, the postpartum one
860
00:35:05.880 --> 00:35:06.360
is really bad.
861
00:35:06.519 --> 00:35:11.639
Yeah, things you probably didn't think are welcome on everything.
862
00:35:11.920 --> 00:35:14.199
Everything's perfect except when you fast forward through that part
863
00:35:14.199 --> 00:35:19.159
of you. Like, no, I know we're going to really
864
00:35:19.159 --> 00:35:20.320
deep on it, but it's terrible.
865
00:35:20.719 --> 00:35:21.400
It is terrible.
866
00:35:21.480 --> 00:35:23.360
And so that's why fiber, like you said, is one
867
00:35:23.360 --> 00:35:25.360
of the things that is like super important because I
868
00:35:25.360 --> 00:35:26.320
cannot be uncomfortable.
869
00:35:26.400 --> 00:35:28.920
Well, guess what, there's five grams of dietary fiber in
870
00:35:28.960 --> 00:35:31.280
your good mood? But oh there is, yes, So I
871
00:35:31.360 --> 00:35:34.880
actually you know what the one thing is, like I smooth, smooth, right,
872
00:35:35.679 --> 00:35:36.320
that's a tea.
873
00:35:36.840 --> 00:35:38.000
I used to do that all the time.
874
00:35:38.599 --> 00:35:42.159
Think about the things are bad weight loss tricks, guys, Yeah.
875
00:35:42.719 --> 00:35:45.280
Think of the wild things like I used to get
876
00:35:45.360 --> 00:35:46.320
colonics all the time.
877
00:35:46.360 --> 00:35:47.119
Do you remember doing that?
878
00:35:47.199 --> 00:35:48.920
I did one before my wedding, and that might have
879
00:35:49.000 --> 00:35:51.639
been the most awful experience of my life.
880
00:35:51.679 --> 00:35:54.000
That was like a whole trend, like you should get
881
00:35:54.039 --> 00:35:54.920
all the stuff out.
882
00:35:54.800 --> 00:35:57.440
Of your gut, like I know, no one told you
883
00:35:57.440 --> 00:36:01.280
you're washing out all the good bacteria. But also don't knock.
884
00:36:01.719 --> 00:36:04.800
Then it was like the smooth Moove teas like all
885
00:36:04.840 --> 00:36:07.599
these crazy things. And it's like still there's like very
886
00:36:07.679 --> 00:36:10.840
much an industry that pumps like quick fixes obviously, but
887
00:36:10.960 --> 00:36:14.760
like those were wild, Like you're not gonna lose weight
888
00:36:14.800 --> 00:36:16.760
by unloading your intestine.
889
00:36:16.800 --> 00:36:18.880
No, we can't speak well unless they've been backed up
890
00:36:18.880 --> 00:36:22.199
for like ten days. But yeah, no, because I'm so
891
00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:25.119
skinny now. It's so funny. I actually said this. I
892
00:36:25.119 --> 00:36:26.920
said this in one of my workout programs. I was like,
893
00:36:27.239 --> 00:36:28.599
I said it to my background cast. I was like,
894
00:36:28.599 --> 00:36:32.199
do you guys know like how you actually lose weight,
895
00:36:32.280 --> 00:36:34.599
like right, like when you're working out and eating right
896
00:36:34.679 --> 00:36:37.039
like and you're burning fat, how do you lose it? Like? Yeah,
897
00:36:37.039 --> 00:36:39.039
what is your thought? How does it get out of
898
00:36:39.079 --> 00:36:39.480
your bob?
899
00:36:39.719 --> 00:36:39.920
Yeah?
900
00:36:40.119 --> 00:36:43.039
And they were like, we'll go into the bathroom, like
901
00:36:43.360 --> 00:36:45.440
you know, some were like poops, some were pea like,
902
00:36:45.480 --> 00:36:47.679
they were like sweat, And I was like, all those
903
00:36:47.679 --> 00:36:50.599
are the most tiny bits of it. The way you
904
00:36:50.639 --> 00:36:53.519
lose weight the most is actually through your exhale.
905
00:36:53.880 --> 00:36:55.119
Oh really, that's where it.
906
00:36:55.079 --> 00:36:57.119
Goes out the most, Like seventy I think it's like
907
00:36:57.280 --> 00:36:58.559
I got to look at the stat again, but I
908
00:36:58.559 --> 00:37:01.159
want to say, it's like seventy percent is like through
909
00:37:01.199 --> 00:37:04.440
your exhale, really hyperventilate into it.
910
00:37:04.440 --> 00:37:07.960
You can be like that's but I never even thought
911
00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:09.039
about where yea.
912
00:37:09.000 --> 00:37:10.519
Everybody thinks like, oh, it's just when you go to
913
00:37:10.559 --> 00:37:12.679
the bathroom, like that's where the fat is just coming
914
00:37:12.719 --> 00:37:15.000
out that way. No, if your stool is greasy, that's
915
00:37:15.000 --> 00:37:16.800
actually a problem. And you got a gall bladder situation
916
00:37:16.840 --> 00:37:20.119
probably going on. So we're not done. We're we're just
917
00:37:20.159 --> 00:37:23.719
going deeper. But no, it's through your exhale, like so
918
00:37:23.840 --> 00:37:26.039
like when you're working out, breathe, don't hold your breath.
919
00:37:26.280 --> 00:37:28.239
Really, yeah, I did not know.
920
00:37:28.360 --> 00:37:30.559
Fascinating, So Big Joe is doing something right. Maybe we
921
00:37:30.599 --> 00:37:31.920
need some technique.
922
00:37:31.599 --> 00:37:35.079
Work stuff, but I've just I honestly never thought about
923
00:37:35.159 --> 00:37:38.480
where my like where fat would leave my body like
924
00:37:38.639 --> 00:37:39.079
out of that.
925
00:37:39.320 --> 00:37:40.079
Yeah, that's crazy.
926
00:37:40.119 --> 00:37:41.880
I think we all just think like, oh, you sweat
927
00:37:41.880 --> 00:37:43.199
it out, you go to the bathroom there.
928
00:37:43.920 --> 00:37:46.760
Yeah, well I know that's not like the key component
929
00:37:46.800 --> 00:37:47.880
when like you're losing weight.
930
00:37:47.960 --> 00:37:48.599
It's nice and.
931
00:37:48.599 --> 00:37:50.639
Helpful, but like it's good for detox.
932
00:37:50.760 --> 00:37:52.360
Yeah, I didn't. I didn't ever thought of that.
933
00:37:52.559 --> 00:37:56.079
Yeah, so five grams dietari fiber in there. But uh,
934
00:37:56.159 --> 00:37:58.679
I always say to people like I'm like, cause the
935
00:37:58.719 --> 00:38:02.440
beverages are new, I'm like, don't, guys, these are not.
936
00:38:02.559 --> 00:38:06.559
It's everything's in moderation always, like even beverages, right, yeah,
937
00:38:06.599 --> 00:38:08.360
Like don't drink three and four of them a day.
938
00:38:08.400 --> 00:38:10.000
I mean you could. It's not like the end of
939
00:38:10.039 --> 00:38:11.599
the world. But you're gonna be getting fifteen grams of
940
00:38:11.639 --> 00:38:14.000
dietary fiber if you drink three of those in a day.
941
00:38:14.119 --> 00:38:16.000
So just be prepared that like if all of a sudden,
942
00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:18.599
your tummy is like a little like because you drank three.
943
00:38:19.559 --> 00:38:21.159
Because I watched people do it at the fourth of July.
944
00:38:21.480 --> 00:38:22.079
Oh they did.
945
00:38:22.400 --> 00:38:24.480
Nell drank like four or five of them throughout the
946
00:38:24.559 --> 00:38:27.000
day because he was using them as mixers. Well, and
947
00:38:27.039 --> 00:38:28.960
then he was like, oh my stomach and I was like,
948
00:38:29.119 --> 00:38:30.840
well he did. He drank like four or five of
949
00:38:30.840 --> 00:38:33.119
the good Mood Bruise and then he ate a pack
950
00:38:33.239 --> 00:38:38.559
of the gummy candies, the shameless dummy case, which great
951
00:38:38.559 --> 00:38:40.039
if you eat like three or four of them, but
952
00:38:40.079 --> 00:38:42.039
he ate the whole pack and there's twenty seven grams
953
00:38:42.039 --> 00:38:42.840
of dietary fiber.
954
00:38:42.880 --> 00:38:47.280
And there this man was like, I the fourth of
955
00:38:47.360 --> 00:38:52.519
July at your house. Very fun I had too.
956
00:38:52.480 --> 00:38:55.960
Much tequila, did you, which is funny because one, I
957
00:38:56.000 --> 00:38:59.960
don't drink that much anymore prior to my post my story,
958
00:39:00.079 --> 00:39:03.320
and I earned some lessons in my life, and so
959
00:39:03.400 --> 00:39:05.800
I don't drink that much anymore. And I just had
960
00:39:05.880 --> 00:39:08.559
one cup the whole time that I was like putting
961
00:39:08.559 --> 00:39:09.840
more ice in and then.
962
00:39:09.760 --> 00:39:11.519
I would like go to like, this is the thing
963
00:39:11.559 --> 00:39:12.400
that I'll get you.
964
00:39:12.400 --> 00:39:13.119
You topped it off.
965
00:39:13.119 --> 00:39:15.880
This is how they get you is the jug thing
966
00:39:16.280 --> 00:39:18.559
is like it was like pre mixed margaritas. And I
967
00:39:18.599 --> 00:39:22.519
was like, oh, like I would do that. And that
968
00:39:22.679 --> 00:39:25.079
was the end of me because.
969
00:39:26.719 --> 00:39:29.840
Apparently I was ranting about how men have it harder
970
00:39:29.880 --> 00:39:32.199
than women. I mean, women have it harder than men.
971
00:39:32.360 --> 00:39:35.119
For the entire ride home, Oh my, and my husband was.
972
00:39:35.119 --> 00:39:37.119
Like I can't take you right now.
973
00:39:37.559 --> 00:39:39.800
And then I remember I had like a complete breakdown
974
00:39:39.800 --> 00:39:40.599
and was like crying.
975
00:39:41.280 --> 00:39:43.039
Yeah, and then I the next day, I was like.
976
00:39:43.199 --> 00:39:47.519
Sorry, my husband's like out of the blue, you just
977
00:39:47.599 --> 00:39:50.280
like it was like everything was fine, I was going
978
00:39:51.519 --> 00:39:53.119
all then he was like and then now he'll be like,
979
00:39:53.119 --> 00:39:54.960
oh when you were talking, were like you were ranting
980
00:39:55.000 --> 00:39:56.519
on the way home, like I just need to know
981
00:39:56.920 --> 00:39:58.480
zero recollection of that.
982
00:39:58.639 --> 00:40:00.960
And I mean I didn't even have that much. And
983
00:40:01.000 --> 00:40:02.880
this is why I don't drink That is.
984
00:40:02.800 --> 00:40:04.800
So funny, right, this is why nobody drinks it anymore.
985
00:40:05.320 --> 00:40:07.280
This is why my beverage.
986
00:40:07.119 --> 00:40:10.679
Does oh a holiday weekend, like you know. And I
987
00:40:10.719 --> 00:40:13.400
wasn't like looking or paying attention because there's no way,
988
00:40:13.440 --> 00:40:15.360
like in my real life, i'd be like, oh for
989
00:40:15.599 --> 00:40:18.159
Margarita's like that, Yeah, never gonna happen.
990
00:40:18.239 --> 00:40:22.840
No. And apparently whatever Nell made that was pre mixed
991
00:40:22.960 --> 00:40:23.760
or Dawn.
992
00:40:23.840 --> 00:40:27.280
Who's seat is here? Nell made him from cratch Well,
993
00:40:27.440 --> 00:40:30.599
that probably made him the Puerto Rican, probably made him strong.
994
00:40:31.159 --> 00:40:33.880
Never, and it's like I'm never.
995
00:40:33.920 --> 00:40:35.320
I remember I woke up in the next morning, I
996
00:40:35.360 --> 00:40:37.119
took a picture of myself and I was like, you'll
997
00:40:37.320 --> 00:40:38.519
never drinking again.
998
00:40:38.880 --> 00:40:42.400
Actually, Nell's margaritas usually are pretty strong. I usually drink.
999
00:40:42.400 --> 00:40:43.599
Thanks for the heads up.
1000
00:40:43.760 --> 00:40:45.320
I didn't realize you were topping off.
1001
00:40:45.679 --> 00:40:47.000
Well, it wasn't like it was.
1002
00:40:47.239 --> 00:40:48.920
It was like I'd have one, then leave it, then
1003
00:40:48.960 --> 00:40:50.599
get another one and get to ice. Like I was
1004
00:40:50.679 --> 00:40:54.199
never consistently like all finish a drink. So my mind
1005
00:40:54.320 --> 00:40:57.079
wasn't like, oh I'm consuming a lot. It was like, oh,
1006
00:40:57.159 --> 00:40:59.280
this word my DRINKO, I'll go get another, but like
1007
00:40:59.440 --> 00:41:02.920
maybe drink this much of each, which then obviously yeah, no,
1008
00:41:02.960 --> 00:41:03.519
I was fucked.
1009
00:41:03.719 --> 00:41:05.880
Yeah, life is different these days because I just think
1010
00:41:05.920 --> 00:41:07.920
back again to those those early days.
1011
00:41:07.960 --> 00:41:10.079
It's not had a drink since then.
1012
00:41:11.079 --> 00:41:14.280
Same. No, maybe I've had a glass of wine since.
1013
00:41:14.079 --> 00:41:18.039
Me maybe wine the brewery I went to, I had
1014
00:41:18.039 --> 00:41:19.920
two SIPs of a beer and I go, Tim, you
1015
00:41:19.920 --> 00:41:21.960
can have it, You're like, and it was like, what's wrong?
1016
00:41:21.960 --> 00:41:24.559
I was like, I just can't. I just like it
1017
00:41:24.639 --> 00:41:27.159
doesn't serve me like it used to. And I cannot
1018
00:41:27.199 --> 00:41:29.800
believe I'm one of those people saying that. But like,
1019
00:41:30.119 --> 00:41:33.199
obviously the older you get, but now I have like
1020
00:41:33.320 --> 00:41:35.760
complex thoughts about it where I'm like this is not
1021
00:41:35.840 --> 00:41:37.599
I like First of all, I will tell you this,
1022
00:41:37.639 --> 00:41:39.119
I'm like a sloth. I love sleep.
1023
00:41:39.639 --> 00:41:40.639
Yeah, you do love.
1024
00:41:41.719 --> 00:41:42.679
I get in bed and I.
1025
00:41:42.639 --> 00:41:46.599
Go and he's like, you want to keep up, Like no,
1026
00:41:46.800 --> 00:41:48.800
I just want to close my eyes. It's like I
1027
00:41:48.880 --> 00:41:50.800
can't wait to get in bed every day.
1028
00:41:50.880 --> 00:41:52.119
Funny. Yeah, no, I love sleep.
1029
00:41:52.719 --> 00:41:54.880
I mean to get in my bed actually quite excited.
1030
00:41:54.920 --> 00:41:56.559
But I'm also like a morning person.
1031
00:41:56.599 --> 00:41:59.280
I'm like, well, yeah, I mean I was anchored mornings
1032
00:41:59.320 --> 00:42:01.159
for like, and God at three am, so like.
1033
00:42:01.199 --> 00:42:02.800
That's not morning. That's been a little the night. That's
1034
00:42:02.880 --> 00:42:03.360
rue true.
1035
00:42:03.360 --> 00:42:05.039
I mean, but I'm a good morning person because it
1036
00:42:05.039 --> 00:42:07.480
never really bothered me. It's just like a crappy schedule.
1037
00:42:07.679 --> 00:42:10.239
But I oh, man at the end of the day
1038
00:42:10.280 --> 00:42:11.159
and I'm free.
1039
00:42:11.239 --> 00:42:14.679
Kid, same thing, same thing. You loved your sleep? Sleep
1040
00:42:14.840 --> 00:42:18.320
so much? Yeah, the best thing ever. I like sleep.
1041
00:42:18.960 --> 00:42:20.440
Like by the time I get into bed at eleven
1042
00:42:20.440 --> 00:42:21.920
o'clock at night and I've been going since six in
1043
00:42:21.960 --> 00:42:24.880
the morning, I'm just like, yeah, I've done now.
1044
00:42:25.119 --> 00:42:26.400
Yeah. It might be the relief.
1045
00:42:26.719 --> 00:42:27.159
Yeah.
1046
00:42:27.360 --> 00:42:29.880
And it's also like the brain can stop, and I'm like, oh,
1047
00:42:29.920 --> 00:42:31.079
I can't wait for the brain to stop.
1048
00:42:31.159 --> 00:42:33.719
Yeah, that's the well except unless you're like me, where
1049
00:42:33.719 --> 00:42:34.960
your brain just start.
1050
00:42:35.079 --> 00:42:38.159
I hate that you start, like do you start going over?
1051
00:42:38.280 --> 00:42:40.199
Like if it's been a day, that's when I start
1052
00:42:40.199 --> 00:42:42.719
going through things. But it's actually been pretty good lately.
1053
00:42:42.800 --> 00:42:44.400
But I you know what I'm even though I'm not
1054
00:42:44.440 --> 00:42:46.280
big on like, oh, don't watch a lot of TV
1055
00:42:46.360 --> 00:42:48.559
before bed, like right, like turn the screens off. But like,
1056
00:42:49.360 --> 00:42:51.639
if I know my brain's gonna ruminate on something, I'll
1057
00:42:51.639 --> 00:42:53.599
put on Friends because I've seen it enough times that
1058
00:42:53.639 --> 00:42:55.719
I don't actually have to listen to it. And my
1059
00:42:55.760 --> 00:42:58.239
TV is set to turn off in thirty minutes, so
1060
00:42:58.400 --> 00:43:01.159
like that'll be so like I could just listen to
1061
00:43:01.360 --> 00:43:04.480
them and it kind of distracts my brain and I'll
1062
00:43:04.480 --> 00:43:05.480
doze off and then I'm done.
1063
00:43:05.599 --> 00:43:06.960
Yeah, okay, if that makes sense.
1064
00:43:07.000 --> 00:43:13.599
Yeah, I feel like Also, if you're like I from
1065
00:43:13.719 --> 00:43:16.320
our podcast. I work for the Female Quotionent and we
1066
00:43:16.360 --> 00:43:18.360
have a podcast called Broadlines, which.
1067
00:43:18.199 --> 00:43:19.679
Just so good, Thank you.
1068
00:43:19.760 --> 00:43:22.400
We interview a lot of like really smart and powerful
1069
00:43:22.440 --> 00:43:25.000
women and one of the things that I've noticed the
1070
00:43:25.079 --> 00:43:28.039
most of, like the most productive, is like the nose
1071
00:43:28.039 --> 00:43:31.760
screens like rules for themselves, like either having the brick
1072
00:43:31.960 --> 00:43:35.840
at their house or like no before bed and no
1073
00:43:35.960 --> 00:43:38.760
in the morning until you're like functioning to turn on
1074
00:43:38.760 --> 00:43:39.159
your phone.
1075
00:43:39.159 --> 00:43:41.519
And I tell you, every day I set that goal, and.
1076
00:43:41.519 --> 00:43:45.239
Every day I feel I wouldn't say I'm that like
1077
00:43:45.360 --> 00:43:48.880
that strict about it. Like usually the second I wake up,
1078
00:43:48.920 --> 00:43:52.599
my phone's already going off, yeah, and I'll look at it. Now.
1079
00:43:52.679 --> 00:43:54.400
It doesn't mean I check the messages right away, but
1080
00:43:54.440 --> 00:43:56.159
I look at it and I'm like, okay, I'll respond
1081
00:43:56.159 --> 00:43:57.880
to them, like let me go well, brush my teeth
1082
00:43:57.920 --> 00:43:59.840
and wash my face, and then I'll go down. I'll
1083
00:43:59.840 --> 00:44:03.000
get my usually my macha sit down and then I'm like, okay,
1084
00:44:03.000 --> 00:44:05.000
now it's time to start checking messages. So like within
1085
00:44:05.000 --> 00:44:08.960
the first twenty minutes. Yeah, And I'm usually in front
1086
00:44:09.000 --> 00:44:11.159
of some screen until I'm going to bed. What it's not,
1087
00:44:11.400 --> 00:44:13.199
I'm not doom scrolling. I'm usually working.
1088
00:44:13.320 --> 00:44:16.519
Yeah, but it's so hard. Yeah, And I was like,
1089
00:44:16.559 --> 00:44:17.679
what did we do before this?
1090
00:44:18.599 --> 00:44:18.679
We?
1091
00:44:18.960 --> 00:44:20.719
So it's so different.
1092
00:44:20.840 --> 00:44:23.880
If I'm using my phone, I try to use it productively,
1093
00:44:23.920 --> 00:44:26.880
and I also try to like give my daughter undivided
1094
00:44:26.880 --> 00:44:28.920
attention and I have to like put it away, and
1095
00:44:28.960 --> 00:44:31.280
so I'll miss a lot until she's like sleeping or
1096
00:44:31.280 --> 00:44:33.320
my husband's home when like I can be like, hey,
1097
00:44:33.440 --> 00:44:37.239
let me check. But like I noticed a big difference
1098
00:44:37.480 --> 00:44:41.039
of not having it, and also it was a hard
1099
00:44:41.039 --> 00:44:43.360
adjustment for me. But like I enjoy her a lot
1100
00:44:43.400 --> 00:44:46.320
more because I don't feel like I'm trying to like
1101
00:44:46.480 --> 00:44:49.159
do two things because I'm like, I don't have it.
1102
00:44:49.159 --> 00:44:49.800
It's not with me.
1103
00:44:50.280 --> 00:44:52.760
You're like the center. You're like you're the focus. And
1104
00:44:52.840 --> 00:44:55.519
before I was like, I can notice in my brain
1105
00:44:55.559 --> 00:44:57.239
that I was like trying to juggle both at the
1106
00:44:57.280 --> 00:45:00.239
same time. Work will be there, those things will be there.
1107
00:45:00.440 --> 00:45:02.239
No one's in. That's not the end of the world.
1108
00:45:02.599 --> 00:45:05.679
And she is at the age now of noticing, like phone,
1109
00:45:05.719 --> 00:45:08.039
she'll be like away away and I'm like, yeah, She'll
1110
00:45:08.039 --> 00:45:08.880
tell me to put it away.
1111
00:45:09.159 --> 00:45:10.079
Oh that's funny.
1112
00:45:10.119 --> 00:45:12.039
Oh yeah, I have a little police at my house.
1113
00:45:13.159 --> 00:45:14.400
You're like, mind your business.
1114
00:45:14.639 --> 00:45:16.159
She told him the other day, was trying to help
1115
00:45:16.159 --> 00:45:21.199
her with something. She goes, no, away, peace, and he goes, oh,
1116
00:45:21.519 --> 00:45:23.559
your first fle sentence is gonna tell me to put
1117
00:45:23.639 --> 00:45:28.480
off and just say that, yeah, away peace.
1118
00:45:28.559 --> 00:45:29.760
Don't end it with a police.
1119
00:45:31.000 --> 00:45:33.000
Make her at everything with the police. This morning was
1120
00:45:33.000 --> 00:45:35.559
so funny. She wants. She thinks every place can play Alexa,
1121
00:45:36.239 --> 00:45:41.079
which is she'll be at a restaurant ask ask and
1122
00:45:41.079 --> 00:45:44.079
I'm like, I cannot ask to play to play mo
1123
00:45:44.199 --> 00:45:45.440
Wana in the restaurant.
1124
00:45:46.440 --> 00:45:48.679
She wants to wait wait oh wait.
1125
00:45:49.000 --> 00:45:51.880
I'm like, oh my gosh, I can't. I can't ask ask.
1126
00:45:51.960 --> 00:45:54.480
I'm like, so let me explain to you, like Target
1127
00:45:54.559 --> 00:45:57.719
doesn't have alexa for me to like change the grocery store.
1128
00:45:58.000 --> 00:46:01.320
Ask all the time. So like this morning, I said,
1129
00:46:01.320 --> 00:46:04.599
can you play this blah blah blah from Malana? Please?
1130
00:46:05.519 --> 00:46:07.079
And so she played it and I said she played
1131
00:46:07.119 --> 00:46:09.719
it because I said please. And then the two minutes
1132
00:46:09.760 --> 00:46:12.840
later she's like change, change, and I'm like, I have
1133
00:46:12.840 --> 00:46:13.599
to ask for a new song.
1134
00:46:13.960 --> 00:46:17.480
Peace. I said, okay, now that you said please, so
1135
00:46:17.559 --> 00:46:19.039
now everything is please.
1136
00:46:19.159 --> 00:46:20.880
Because she was like, that's the key, that's the key,
1137
00:46:20.960 --> 00:46:22.000
That's what gives me what I want.
1138
00:46:22.079 --> 00:46:25.159
Yeah, cracker piece, I'm like, you can't. She stuffs her
1139
00:46:25.159 --> 00:46:28.880
face all day. Did all toddlers do that? Yes, they're growing, sure,
1140
00:46:28.960 --> 00:46:31.480
But I'm like, you are, like, where is it going?
1141
00:46:31.800 --> 00:46:34.719
It's like like a bottom of Yeah, you cannot possibly
1142
00:46:34.760 --> 00:46:35.159
be hungry.
1143
00:46:35.239 --> 00:46:37.800
No, seriously, Yeah, it's just like endless and I'm not
1144
00:46:37.880 --> 00:46:39.719
like food police because I feel like that's how I
1145
00:46:39.719 --> 00:46:41.719
got an needy disorder. Right, You're like, I'm not gonna
1146
00:46:41.719 --> 00:46:43.480
put it on a taller I'm like, okay, here we go.
1147
00:46:43.599 --> 00:46:46.639
Mind you. We do not feed her like it's premium.
1148
00:46:46.800 --> 00:46:48.280
Yeah, right y, Yeah, it's a good quality.
1149
00:46:48.360 --> 00:46:51.440
Yeah. You know, we're getting like Quinwa crackers and like
1150
00:46:52.039 --> 00:46:55.159
whatever packets once upon a farm.
1151
00:46:55.239 --> 00:46:57.960
Like she's getting within reason. Yeah, I'm not growing or
1152
00:46:57.960 --> 00:47:01.480
making my own shit, but like it's nothing bad. But
1153
00:47:01.559 --> 00:47:03.519
at the same time, I'm like, how many fucking.
1154
00:47:03.199 --> 00:47:06.440
Berries can you eat? They need a lot whole field there.
1155
00:47:06.920 --> 00:47:10.320
You gotta remember there. They're like if you start to
1156
00:47:10.320 --> 00:47:13.639
think about it at that age, and like their bodies
1157
00:47:13.679 --> 00:47:16.519
are growing, their brains are developing, and how much energy,
1158
00:47:16.599 --> 00:47:19.840
like actual like energy nutrients they need for that, and
1159
00:47:19.880 --> 00:47:24.159
then they're so active they don't stop do stuff. It's like, yeah,
1160
00:47:24.199 --> 00:47:26.880
it's no wonder they're little bottomless pitts because they're they're
1161
00:47:26.960 --> 00:47:31.199
just burning through fuel so that they can. Yeah, and
1162
00:47:31.280 --> 00:47:33.400
I also like be a little human, I think too.
1163
00:47:33.440 --> 00:47:35.760
Before you have a kid, you're like very whimsical in
1164
00:47:35.880 --> 00:47:36.800
like what you're gonna do.
1165
00:47:38.039 --> 00:47:39.920
Yeah, you know what you're gonna do. You're gonna survive,
1166
00:47:40.320 --> 00:47:40.960
thank you.
1167
00:47:40.920 --> 00:47:44.880
Because we're never gonna do this and we're gonna and I'm.
1168
00:47:44.719 --> 00:47:47.280
Like, oh, they're gonna have an iPad in three seconds.
1169
00:47:47.400 --> 00:47:50.559
I was that person, and like I always my husband
1170
00:47:50.559 --> 00:47:52.119
and I joke because I always see someone pregnant, like
1171
00:47:52.119 --> 00:47:57.280
congratulations because we're like, oh god, you're calling cumbs and
1172
00:47:57.360 --> 00:47:58.800
so you adjust right.
1173
00:47:58.880 --> 00:48:00.719
She doesn't have any she doesn't do it. The only
1174
00:48:00.719 --> 00:48:02.920
screen she does is like on Sundays she wants well,
1175
00:48:03.000 --> 00:48:03.599
I try to.
1176
00:48:03.599 --> 00:48:05.760
Keep it to Sundays, but she does yoga. There's like
1177
00:48:05.800 --> 00:48:08.119
this like kid's yoga that she just loves. She does
1178
00:48:08.159 --> 00:48:10.880
like every post. Yeah, very cute, and I'm like that's
1179
00:48:10.960 --> 00:48:13.880
fifteen minutes. I don't have to worry about otherwise nothing.
1180
00:48:13.920 --> 00:48:17.039
She just has like music and like whatever. But she
1181
00:48:17.440 --> 00:48:20.440
it's just funny because it's it's like all these things
1182
00:48:20.440 --> 00:48:22.639
you say you aren't gonna do, and then like as
1183
00:48:22.639 --> 00:48:25.679
they get older and harder, you're like, you won't eat
1184
00:48:25.679 --> 00:48:26.679
the dirt, eat the fucking die.
1185
00:48:26.679 --> 00:48:27.159
I don't care.
1186
00:48:27.679 --> 00:48:29.760
You want to put a pizza on your head that
1187
00:48:29.880 --> 00:48:31.960
was in a low ta pizza that had, by the way,
1188
00:48:32.079 --> 00:48:33.199
hot Cheetos, crumbled on.
1189
00:48:33.239 --> 00:48:36.239
It, all up in her hair running around.
1190
00:48:36.320 --> 00:48:38.360
I said, I looked at my husband and he looked
1191
00:48:38.360 --> 00:48:40.559
at me and he goes, nah, And I was like, yeah,
1192
00:48:40.559 --> 00:48:41.239
she's not bothering.
1193
00:48:41.519 --> 00:48:44.039
Yeah, save the nose for things that actually matter.
1194
00:48:44.159 --> 00:48:45.599
And I had to It was like it was like
1195
00:48:45.639 --> 00:48:47.400
a stuffy Like I had to replace it when she
1196
00:48:47.440 --> 00:48:48.800
dropped it on the ground because I was like, da,
1197
00:48:49.599 --> 00:48:51.360
I'll give you another slice, and so that she would
1198
00:48:51.360 --> 00:48:54.519
have another emotional sports slice with her. A couple of
1199
00:48:54.559 --> 00:48:57.840
times ago she was just carrying it around. But I
1200
00:48:57.920 --> 00:48:59.880
was like, you start to just be like whatever.
1201
00:49:00.159 --> 00:49:03.239
Yeah, there's so many things, like my parents and like
1202
00:49:03.320 --> 00:49:05.000
they just said no for the sake of saying no.
1203
00:49:05.159 --> 00:49:07.599
I'm like, what was your reason? Like with Dom, Oh
1204
00:49:07.639 --> 00:49:11.760
you're a kid? Why yeah? Yeah, do you not know me?
1205
00:49:11.800 --> 00:49:14.920
In my mouth? Yeah, I'm gonna needs I'm gonna need
1206
00:49:14.920 --> 00:49:17.320
a good well because if you're and that's then that's
1207
00:49:17.320 --> 00:49:17.760
what happened.
1208
00:49:18.840 --> 00:49:19.719
We do not support that.
1209
00:49:19.960 --> 00:49:22.199
No, that's exactly what happened. I'm sure to get back
1210
00:49:22.199 --> 00:49:24.559
handed a lot. Oh my god, We've talked about this
1211
00:49:24.599 --> 00:49:27.039
on this podcast. It's fine, but no, Like with Dom,
1212
00:49:27.119 --> 00:49:30.480
he's such a good kid, like, yeah, I have to,
1213
00:49:30.719 --> 00:49:32.679
Like I don't say no to a lot like that
1214
00:49:32.760 --> 00:49:37.119
he's gonna do because I'm like, what if I know
1215
00:49:37.199 --> 00:49:39.280
he's behaving, I know he's not doing anything bad. Yeah,
1216
00:49:39.480 --> 00:49:43.480
what is doing no do? Yeah he's a he's six
1217
00:49:43.480 --> 00:49:45.639
months away from me, a full grown adult, and they
1218
00:49:45.679 --> 00:49:47.000
have to and he's got to learn.
1219
00:49:47.440 --> 00:49:48.639
I was just gonna say, they have to figure it
1220
00:49:48.679 --> 00:49:52.079
out for themselves, which includes failure. And I think a
1221
00:49:52.119 --> 00:49:56.559
lot of the like they've gone like gentle parenting and
1222
00:49:56.599 --> 00:50:00.280
now it's like something else and it's like the old
1223
00:50:00.360 --> 00:50:02.719
some of the old school ways of like you're gonna
1224
00:50:02.760 --> 00:50:07.000
have to fail and figure it out, yeah, because it'll
1225
00:50:07.159 --> 00:50:10.639
make you better. And like I understand though because I
1226
00:50:10.679 --> 00:50:13.039
didn't before, Like there is this yearning to.
1227
00:50:13.000 --> 00:50:15.079
Want to save them and like not be like I
1228
00:50:15.079 --> 00:50:16.400
don't want anything bad to happen to you, you know,
1229
00:50:16.519 --> 00:50:17.880
anything bad, But then you have.
1230
00:50:17.880 --> 00:50:20.079
To have like some kind of crappy things happen so
1231
00:50:20.119 --> 00:50:22.199
they understand, like this is how the world works. But
1232
00:50:22.320 --> 00:50:25.639
you'll be okay, Yes, yeah, you're not gonna self soothe.
1233
00:50:25.760 --> 00:50:27.559
Yes, it's not gonna be the end of the world.
1234
00:50:27.760 --> 00:50:27.960
Yeah.
1235
00:50:28.199 --> 00:50:31.880
And like also when bad things happen, come to me, yes,
1236
00:50:32.199 --> 00:50:35.480
don't try to hide back, like I think that's like
1237
00:50:35.800 --> 00:50:39.159
so important, and it's it's like feels so far in advance.
1238
00:50:39.239 --> 00:50:41.639
But like they say, with this was another just point,
1239
00:50:42.280 --> 00:50:44.440
they grew up fucking fast. There is it.
1240
00:50:45.320 --> 00:50:47.119
We blinked our eyes. It still feels like it was
1241
00:50:47.199 --> 00:50:48.920
last week that we were working out at Equinox, and
1242
00:50:48.960 --> 00:50:52.599
I'm like, oh, Dom's seventeen. Yeah, like I grow faster,
1243
00:50:52.639 --> 00:50:55.559
like yeah, sure, no, no, also true you blink your
1244
00:50:55.559 --> 00:50:58.039
eye and there they do. They just like car keys.
1245
00:50:58.280 --> 00:51:00.360
Every day seems long and then all the sudden and
1246
00:51:00.400 --> 00:51:02.719
I'm having a second birthday and I'm like, what happened?
1247
00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:06.599
Like where did that gear go? Yeah? The first one forever.
1248
00:51:06.360 --> 00:51:08.079
That's a long one. Yeah.
1249
00:51:08.119 --> 00:51:09.760
And then after that you're like, oh you're just on
1250
00:51:09.880 --> 00:51:10.639
and rocket now.
1251
00:51:10.760 --> 00:51:11.199
Yeah.
1252
00:51:11.320 --> 00:51:14.199
Yeah, it's it's too fast. And I get why people
1253
00:51:14.280 --> 00:51:15.800
have more kids because you're like, oh, you were just
1254
00:51:15.840 --> 00:51:17.159
a baby, and now I don't have a baby.
1255
00:51:17.199 --> 00:51:18.800
And that baby stage is so cute and they smell
1256
00:51:18.840 --> 00:51:20.239
so good and they sleep on your chest.
1257
00:51:20.280 --> 00:51:22.119
But they tell her all the time like no growing,
1258
00:51:22.840 --> 00:51:24.559
because like I need you to be She still has
1259
00:51:24.599 --> 00:51:27.599
baby like mannerisms and like a little chubby body and cheeks,
1260
00:51:27.639 --> 00:51:29.559
and I'm like, don't I just want.
1261
00:51:29.440 --> 00:51:31.280
To keep you as a baby. Yeah, wait till they
1262
00:51:31.360 --> 00:51:33.280
hit about six and then you're like, you're no longer
1263
00:51:33.360 --> 00:51:36.519
the baby cute funny face. Now you're just got an
1264
00:51:36.519 --> 00:51:37.400
attitude problem.
1265
00:51:37.519 --> 00:51:42.719
Well no, yeah, but peas, Yeah, it's.
1266
00:51:42.360 --> 00:51:43.719
Super cute when they're little, and then all of a
1267
00:51:43.719 --> 00:51:46.360
sudden they're like, like I said, six, seven, eight, You're like,
1268
00:51:47.119 --> 00:51:47.800
don't be an ass.
1269
00:51:47.840 --> 00:51:50.840
You're right. It's just a level of different challenges every time.
1270
00:51:50.960 --> 00:51:51.440
Every time.
1271
00:51:51.599 --> 00:51:53.679
Yeah, I mean, they're cute as shit, but it's really
1272
00:51:53.800 --> 00:51:56.079
it's like each when I thought we were done with
1273
00:51:56.119 --> 00:51:57.320
one thing, it was something else.
1274
00:51:57.400 --> 00:51:59.760
Now Dom cracks me up at seventeen, Like, I absolutely
1275
00:51:59.760 --> 00:52:01.159
love it. I love spending time with him. We have
1276
00:52:01.159 --> 00:52:02.719
the best time. He makes me laugh so hard. He's
1277
00:52:02.719 --> 00:52:06.159
like a full grown person, you know. Now we're navigating
1278
00:52:06.280 --> 00:52:08.880
the like he's got a job and he makes money,
1279
00:52:08.880 --> 00:52:10.480
but he's still always like mom, will you pay for?
1280
00:52:10.480 --> 00:52:11.519
Will you pay for? Will you pay for it? And
1281
00:52:11.559 --> 00:52:13.280
I'm like, hold on, you don't get to hoard your
1282
00:52:13.280 --> 00:52:16.440
moneyla a little squirrel and have mom pay for gas.
1283
00:52:16.519 --> 00:52:19.480
And you got to teach him how to manage money,
1284
00:52:20.360 --> 00:52:21.760
with even a little bit of money.
1285
00:52:21.800 --> 00:52:25.199
Yeah, So he was going to disney Land yesterday and
1286
00:52:25.239 --> 00:52:26.480
he asked me to pay for the ticket and I
1287
00:52:26.519 --> 00:52:31.239
was like no, and he was like good what yeah,
1288
00:52:31.280 --> 00:52:32.880
And I was like, dumb, honey, it's not that mom
1289
00:52:32.960 --> 00:52:35.239
doesn't want to and it's not that I can't. It's
1290
00:52:35.280 --> 00:52:38.480
that you work a job. You give me some money
1291
00:52:38.480 --> 00:52:41.280
for your car. That's to teach you some responsibility. But
1292
00:52:41.320 --> 00:52:43.079
that's it, that's all you like, you have no one
1293
00:52:43.119 --> 00:52:46.400
your bills, so I don't need to pay for you
1294
00:52:46.440 --> 00:52:49.760
to go to Disneyland. Yeah, now, my dumb ass, like
1295
00:52:51.119 --> 00:52:53.679
I didn't pay for the ticket. And then then he
1296
00:52:53.719 --> 00:52:55.360
asked if he could take the Range Rover because he
1297
00:52:55.360 --> 00:52:57.840
didn't want to take his car because my car is bigger,
1298
00:52:57.920 --> 00:53:00.320
and he wanted because he was driving everybody. And I
1299
00:53:00.400 --> 00:53:03.639
was like, okay, but he is right, his car is
1300
00:53:03.679 --> 00:53:07.480
said yes. I made him sweated for a few but
1301
00:53:07.599 --> 00:53:11.199
so we're okay. The car came. He's a good kid,
1302
00:53:11.239 --> 00:53:13.039
but I did let him. But sure, but it's still
1303
00:53:13.079 --> 00:53:15.760
a but your parent and you love him and they're
1304
00:53:15.840 --> 00:53:17.400
leaving and like as he's walking because he was going
1305
00:53:17.440 --> 00:53:18.880
to go spend the night at his dad's and then
1306
00:53:18.880 --> 00:53:20.239
they were going to go from there. So he's taking
1307
00:53:20.239 --> 00:53:23.199
the range to his dad's and uh, and I was like,
1308
00:53:23.199 --> 00:53:25.280
how much money do you have for tomorrow? And he
1309
00:53:25.400 --> 00:53:26.880
was like, well, you know, I move money from my
1310
00:53:26.880 --> 00:53:28.639
savings blah blah blah. And I was like, okay, like
1311
00:53:28.920 --> 00:53:31.639
he had planned and moved his money over. Yeah, and
1312
00:53:31.760 --> 00:53:33.440
Disneyland is expensive, like.
1313
00:53:33.400 --> 00:53:36.199
The food is justification for what's about to happen.
1314
00:53:36.280 --> 00:53:38.559
No, for real, but also no, a bottle of water
1315
00:53:38.599 --> 00:53:41.280
is like ten dollars and it was ninety seven degrees
1316
00:53:41.320 --> 00:53:44.480
and I'm like, you need to say hydrated, like you
1317
00:53:44.519 --> 00:53:45.159
need to eat.
1318
00:53:45.199 --> 00:53:46.960
Like how much did you give it?
1319
00:53:47.039 --> 00:53:48.239
I gave him one hundred bucks.
1320
00:53:48.400 --> 00:53:49.679
Oh that's nothing. That's good.
1321
00:53:49.800 --> 00:53:51.519
Yeah, no for a trip to Disneyland. But then the
1322
00:53:51.559 --> 00:53:54.039
funniest I get him two meals. Right then his dad
1323
00:53:54.039 --> 00:53:56.079
comes to work the next day and he was like, oh,
1324
00:53:56.119 --> 00:53:57.519
don left this morning, bah blah blah. And he's like,
1325
00:53:57.559 --> 00:53:58.440
so I gave him fifty bucks.
1326
00:53:58.480 --> 00:54:01.320
I was like, I get so, now he's made one
1327
00:54:01.360 --> 00:54:03.360
fifty off the deal there goes half.
1328
00:54:03.440 --> 00:54:05.719
I was like, there's this decade pride and basically I'm
1329
00:54:05.800 --> 00:54:07.760
ticket covered that's true, but you know.
1330
00:54:07.800 --> 00:54:09.880
I always like, it's not even gonna lie because I
1331
00:54:09.920 --> 00:54:11.800
like I was like that with my parents.
1332
00:54:11.480 --> 00:54:15.760
Too, And there's a there's like if you're I don't
1333
00:54:15.800 --> 00:54:16.599
know how to explain it.
1334
00:54:16.639 --> 00:54:23.000
Like I see like other people siblings of mine, and
1335
00:54:23.800 --> 00:54:27.440
they don't listen to my show, they like aren't as appreciative,
1336
00:54:27.519 --> 00:54:30.159
but I like am very like thank you.
1337
00:54:30.159 --> 00:54:30.400
Thinking.
1338
00:54:30.400 --> 00:54:32.760
There was like a meme that uh a TikTok that
1339
00:54:32.760 --> 00:54:34.159
I was going around was so funny. It's like when
1340
00:54:34.159 --> 00:54:35.639
you're the first person to say thank you to parents
1341
00:54:35.639 --> 00:54:36.960
for dinner and then you look at your brothers and
1342
00:54:37.000 --> 00:54:37.800
scissors and they're.
1343
00:54:37.639 --> 00:54:40.440
Like, I did it already, good luck.
1344
00:54:40.480 --> 00:54:41.960
So now you're the one doing it. But it just
1345
00:54:41.960 --> 00:54:43.280
looks like you.
1346
00:54:43.199 --> 00:54:45.920
Look ungrateful because I'm like, oh they think, and they're
1347
00:54:45.960 --> 00:54:48.559
like HL always said thank you, You're like sorry, blud
1348
00:54:48.559 --> 00:54:51.440
you gotta get in there. Yeah, you're the good I'm
1349
00:54:51.440 --> 00:54:52.079
the good kid.
1350
00:54:52.440 --> 00:54:55.880
So it's like I just make sure I say thank
1351
00:54:55.960 --> 00:54:58.679
you because it's not expected, right, And I think that's
1352
00:54:58.719 --> 00:55:00.800
the key is like he doesn't expect to give money.
1353
00:55:00.840 --> 00:55:02.880
He made the changes, he did the thing, and it's
1354
00:55:02.960 --> 00:55:04.760
just nice to be like you did it, and here
1355
00:55:05.239 --> 00:55:06.679
you can also have this hundred bucks.
1356
00:55:06.840 --> 00:55:08.840
Yes. So what's going to be interesting though, because I
1357
00:55:08.920 --> 00:55:11.039
was talking to him about the gas, like, so I
1358
00:55:11.039 --> 00:55:12.880
actually need to check and see if you put any
1359
00:55:12.920 --> 00:55:14.559
gas in the rainbow because I was like, oh, you're
1360
00:55:14.559 --> 00:55:16.199
gonna take my car. You're going to use all my gas.
1361
00:55:16.239 --> 00:55:19.039
And I was like he needs six hundred dollars for that, right, And.
1362
00:55:19.079 --> 00:55:20.960
I was like, so are you gonna put gas back
1363
00:55:21.000 --> 00:55:22.280
in my car? And he was like, you have to
1364
00:55:22.320 --> 00:55:24.199
put premium in your car and I was like, I
1365
00:55:24.199 --> 00:55:25.280
didn't say you to fill it up.
1366
00:55:25.440 --> 00:55:25.679
Yeah.
1367
00:55:25.760 --> 00:55:27.920
I was like, whatever, you are trying to use my
1368
00:55:28.039 --> 00:55:29.519
gas and yeave me with nothing.
1369
00:55:29.559 --> 00:55:30.079
That's smart.
1370
00:55:30.119 --> 00:55:32.679
So it'll be interesting because I guarantee he didn't because
1371
00:55:32.679 --> 00:55:34.000
they got home at like one in the morning and
1372
00:55:34.039 --> 00:55:35.679
then I know he came straight here, which is it's
1373
00:55:35.719 --> 00:55:37.559
not a big deal, but it is a thing that
1374
00:55:37.599 --> 00:55:40.079
I just want to teach him of, like, hey, you
1375
00:55:40.199 --> 00:55:42.239
use the car, yep, I don't care if you put
1376
00:55:42.239 --> 00:55:42.840
twenty bucks back.
1377
00:55:43.159 --> 00:55:43.679
That's a good one.
1378
00:55:43.760 --> 00:55:46.920
It's just go put twenty busy yeah, because you used
1379
00:55:47.000 --> 00:55:48.840
mom's car, yes, And I don't want to get in
1380
00:55:48.880 --> 00:55:50.960
now that you've taken an hour and a half drive
1381
00:55:51.000 --> 00:55:52.239
each direction. You have no gas.
1382
00:55:52.400 --> 00:55:54.000
Yeah, that's a good lesson.
1383
00:55:54.400 --> 00:55:56.119
So there it is you guys, there's all of our
1384
00:55:56.159 --> 00:55:57.960
life lessons on parenting.
1385
00:55:58.400 --> 00:56:03.159
I was just like, just PSA, we are not parenting experts. Clearly,
1386
00:56:03.800 --> 00:56:05.800
I don't want anybody to take any of my advice.
1387
00:56:06.519 --> 00:56:09.400
This is no Donald isn't always and I always say
1388
00:56:09.440 --> 00:56:13.280
this is like unhinged the uneducated advice.
1389
00:56:13.400 --> 00:56:16.079
Though I do recommend nimous.
1390
00:56:16.960 --> 00:56:17.920
When you need them.
1391
00:56:17.800 --> 00:56:19.119
That I can sign.
1392
00:56:18.880 --> 00:56:22.920
Off when you need them. Yes, still consult with your
1393
00:56:22.960 --> 00:56:24.280
doctor so we don't get sued.
1394
00:56:24.400 --> 00:56:26.079
Podcast not sponsored by fleet.
1395
00:56:29.440 --> 00:56:31.840
That's it. Hey, you guys want we didn't do a
1396
00:56:31.840 --> 00:56:33.320
phone a friend, but if you want to send us
1397
00:56:33.400 --> 00:56:35.960
your phone of friends, Donald will be back soon.
1398
00:56:36.280 --> 00:56:36.880
That's true.
1399
00:56:36.920 --> 00:56:39.039
And if you want to find me, yes, the Female
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Quotient it's a great company. Follow Female Quotient on Instagram.
1401
00:56:43.440 --> 00:56:46.480
And then Broadlines is my podcast where like I said,
1402
00:56:46.519 --> 00:56:49.239
if you are looking for like any career advice very
1403
00:56:49.280 --> 00:56:53.639
powerful women in all sorts of industries, like something you'll
1404
00:56:53.719 --> 00:56:58.440
relate to, and parenting as well too, far more certified
1405
00:56:58.480 --> 00:56:59.840
advice from experts.
1406
00:57:00.119 --> 00:57:02.840
Yeah, or I get a lot of my like, oh ship,
1407
00:57:02.880 --> 00:57:03.480
I'm not doing that.
1408
00:57:04.360 --> 00:57:07.639
This is you, this is your grant with your Girlfriendace,
1409
00:57:07.800 --> 00:57:10.800
this is this is this is like what did you do?
1410
00:57:10.960 --> 00:57:13.360
Did you do this because I start working out?
1411
00:57:13.519 --> 00:57:16.239
Yeah, Therida, you guys, that's another episode. Thank you for
1412
00:57:16.280 --> 00:57:18.480
tuning in. I will see you and next week