286. Preparing for Birth Fearlessly: Replace Anxiety with Confidence

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Hey, mamas, and welcome to the Entering Motherhood podcast. I'm your host,
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Sarah Marie Bilger, a birth and postpartum doula who is passionate about helping
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Hello, hello, and welcome back to another episode of Entering Motherhood.
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I'm so excited you're here, and I'm really excited to get into this conversation
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today because we are talking about how we can be preparing for birth fearlessly.
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And this is something that has really been
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coming up lately and something that I have had
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conversations with clients and friends and
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family and just this idea of all
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these thoughts and scenarios and fears
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that surround birth and what outside
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influences are kind of generating and creating to cause us to have fears and
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then just our own personal anxieties and beliefs and situations that are also
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bringing up a lot of fear surrounding birth.
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And not only birth, but then into motherhood and just, you know, am I doing it right?
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What am I doing wrong? Like all of these different things that come up.
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And so specifically, I really wanted to dedicate this episode to discuss preparing
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for birth in a fearless way.
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And this is true for any birth, but specifically, especially if you are hoping to go unmedicated.
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I think that this is something that's really important to consider and prepare for.
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And I also just want to start by saying too, and stating this very clearly,
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that if you're choosing to go unmedicated, that does not make you any stronger than anybody else.
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Choosing to get pain medication does not make you weaker.
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I feel like all birth is equal in that respect.
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I have had an epidural, I had a cesarean, I had unmedicated births,
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I've had home birth, and so I've had a range of different experiences, and I can say that.
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All of them are unique and special in their own way, and however you are preparing.
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Whatever kind of birth you are envisioning is valid and perfect and exactly what's right for you.
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So this episode isn't about proving anything.
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It's really truly just about preparation, confidence, and understanding what
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it actually takes to walk into labor feeling steady and grounded.
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Because the truth is fear
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doesn't just disappear on its own but it can
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be replaced with preparation so let's
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talk about how we can do that and I
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want to start off by saying what does fearless actually mean
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and so when I say fearless I don't
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mean you feel zero fear that
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the fear is completely gone that we have
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eliminated and completely wiped the
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fear away and you know even in my
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third pregnancy I still felt nerves I still felt
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worried about different things and
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what could happen because honestly like birth is big birth is really intense
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there's a lot of unknown factors even after attending as many births as I have
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as having my own personal birth experiences as well And just hearing so many birth stories,
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there's still a lot of different things that uniquely happens for each individual
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and each different birth.
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And so fearless doesn't mean no fear.
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Really just means that fear isn't the one that's in charge.
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It means you understand what's happening to your body, you've prepared mentally
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and physically, you trust yourself, and it means that you know your options.
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And the biggest reason that birth feels scary is because it feels unpredictable. We can't control it.
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We can't predict exactly what's going to happen.
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But birth is physiological, and birth follows a design.
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So your body releases oxytocin to create your contractions. It has endorphins
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that help you cope and navigate labor.
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Your body builds this intensity gradually. It's not all at once.
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It doesn't just come at you.
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And so your body's designed to give birth and it's doing all of the things naturally.
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And when you understand that labor has this rhythm and it has this purpose, it's
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it becomes a lot less chaotic and a lot more intentional.
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And so education about all of this process really helps reduce fear dramatically.
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Once we understand what's happening and what to expect, even if the unexpected might happen,
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it allows us to be more aware of the possibilities and really reduce that fear.
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And then specifically, if you're planning on going on Medicaid it,
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I really feel like preparation is not optional. You need to be doing something to prepare for this.
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And, you know, you've probably heard the comparison of you wouldn't run a marathon without any training.
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Labor is physical. It's hormonal. It's very deeply mental.
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It has all of these different factors that we need to be preparing for.
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And the families that I attend who go unmedicated confidently have usually done these three things.
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One, they understand the stages of labor.
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Two, they've practiced different coping mechanisms and techniques.
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And three, they have strong support. So not only am I there,
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but they have a partner or somebody else. They have a provider who they know and they trust.
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And they are well aware of who is there in the room and supporting them.
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And truly, unmedicated birth isn't necessarily about pain tolerance.
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It's more so about coping skills
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and your environment and so if you
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walk into labor thinking i'll just see how it goes that's usually when fear
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is going to take over so instead we need to be asking ourselves how will i breathe
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when the contractions build up what positions will feel good or are available to me?
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What words can really help me stay grounded and aligned with the birth that I want?
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And then how is your partner going to support you? If you have a doula,
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how are they going to support you?
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What is your provider doing in all of this?
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So confidence really comes from rehearsal and speaking things out into existence
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and really kind of playing this game of, well, what if this happens?
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You know, what if that does happen? What if I need a cesarean? What does that mean?
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How am I going to work through that? What if baby's not in ideal position?
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How are we going to move forward?
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What if I have to be induced? What does that look like? And let me just backtrack
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a little bit there and not necessarily have to get induced. What if I choose to get induced?
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What if I choose to move forward and have a cesarean?
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What if I decide that I actually do want the epidural and I no longer want to go on Medicaid it?
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What if? What does that look like?
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What's your best case scenario? What's your worst case scenario?
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Just keep talking through all of these different situations.
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And I really feel like when we speak it into
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existence when we say it out loud it helps
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diminish that fear and it helps reduce a
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lot of these thoughts that are circulating in our head because we
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say it out loud and we're like actually that wouldn't be that
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big of a deal or actually I think I know exactly how I would work through that
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and so there's a lot of this mental shift that's required this really isn't
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talked enough about there's there's definitely conversations about the mental
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side of birth and needing to prepare mentally,
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but I don't think a lot of people preparing for birth go as deep into it as
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they probably should before the time comes.
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And so we need to really look at things in perspective, even something as viewing
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contractions as something to escape.
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We need to flip that around and we need to view them as something to work with.
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Something to work through, something to navigate and lean into.
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And this shift in perspective really has the ability to change everything.
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So instead of saying something like, how long will this last?
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That thought process now becomes, this contraction is bringing me closer to meeting my baby.
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Instead of thinking, this hurts, I can't do this anymore.
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We can flip that and say, this is really intense, but I can handle the intensity.
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And so language really matters. And that's why also choosing the people that
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you surround yourself with really matters.
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Because when you say, I can't do this, or this hurts, or this is too much,
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what are those people around you saying to you?
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What are they pouring back into you? I've watched women
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completely transform their labor just
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by changing how they're talking to themselves and that can
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happen when me as a doula or
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your doula or your partner is speaking positively to you yes you can do this
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you're already doing this look at you look at how far you've come oh my goodness
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you're bringing your baby closer
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and closer to you I had a lot of these self-talks with my third birth.
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I had to sit with myself and say, let's go.
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Let's bring on every single contraction and give it all you got because it's go time.
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Baby's coming. I see it time and time again.
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We have the ability to flip that switch and we have the ability to zone in and just embrace it.
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Reduce those fears and push through it. Because your nervous system responds to your thoughts.
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Your brain feels panic. It has the ability to feel that fear.
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It causes your body to tighten up. And when your body tightens up,
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labor often feels harder.
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It can be longer. and we really need to bring that calming presence we really
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need to get to our safe space.
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And so I really wanted to bring up five different techniques and practical ways
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that we can work on preparing fearlessly.
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I want to make this really tangible. I want to make this really practical.
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And I want this to be something that you can feel ready to walk away with and
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ready to implement into your birth plan.
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And the first one is practice breathing now.
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We don't want to wait until labor to figure
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out how to breathe we obviously yes you
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know how to breathe in and out things like that but we
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want to practice these awkward breathing the horse lips the controlled slow
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breaths the long exhales and we want to get into that pattern of understanding
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how that works and training our
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nervous system and our body for what that might look like during labor.
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And so slow controlled breathing during pregnancy really helps prepare you for
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when you're actually in labor.
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So that might look something like inhaling for four counts and exhaling for six counts.
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That long exhale is really signifying to your body that it's safe.
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And this can be really beneficial when we want to clear out that fear.
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Just taking a breath sometimes can reset things and allow you to see things
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differently. Number two would be to move your body.
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I'm talking walking, squats, hip circles, maybe do a little prenatal yoga.
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Any sort of strength and mobility exercises really matter.
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There's different labor positions that you can look up and exercise.
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Hear about and practice and having that endurance to hold some of those labor
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positions and having the flexibility to get into some of those positions is
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going to make all the difference.
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Number three is creating a calm environment and this could look different for everybody.
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Most of the time a calming environment has to do with dim lightings,
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very minimal interruptions, some music that helps ground you, relax you, calm you.
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And then, of course, the people who are supporting you, maybe some different
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smells, some different sensations, comfort items, like a specific blanket or pillow.
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But our birth hormones really thrive in a sense of privacy and safety.
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And so when we're able to create that environment and we have a plan on how
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we're going to create that, no matter what our setting is,
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that's going to be super helpful in letting us feel safe and lowering the fears that might come up.
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Number four, I'm going to say is understand the why behind the pain.
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I say this is pain with purpose.
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Pain during labor is very different than an injury pain or sickness pain or
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anything along those lines.
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It's purposeful. It rises, it peaks, it falls. It's not continuous.
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And knowing that, knowing that contractions end and every single time it's working
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for you and doing what it needs to do,
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it's a really powerful experience that we can allow our bodies to navigate through.
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And so understanding that and knowing why it's happening and knowing that it's
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helping dilate us, It's helping you face us. It's helping bringing your baby down.
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And all of these different sensations and all of the different things that are
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going on while we might associate.
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Those sensations with what we know as pain,
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we can redirect that and push through it and relax when we're not having that
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sensation so that we can jump back in and be ready for the next time it comes.
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And then number five is preparing for that mental dip, that drop,
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that moment that most moms that are going on Medicaid are going to say, I can't do this.
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That is usually when transition is happening. That's usually when you are so, so, so close to the end.
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And we really want to prepare for how we're going to handle this and what that's
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going to look like when it's actually in that moment.
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Because it doesn't mean failure when you say you can't do this.
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And most the time it just means that you're really really
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close and knowing that ahead of time helps
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prevent any kind of panic or worry
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or fear that might be coming up in that moment and so again just going back
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to that education aspect of it and knowing all of our options and knowing what
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birth looks like what birth sounds like what experiences and sensations and
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different things going on might look like,
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it can really help lower that fear because you're like, you're saying like,
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oh, I've heard about this.
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I know what this is triggering. I know what this is. And we're not.
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As fearful of it, we're allowing it to happen.
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We're stepping into it, and we're welcoming it and embracing it.
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And that's really what's giving us that fearless aspect moving forward.
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And so again, just going into what fearlessly does not mean,
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and when we say fearless, we're not saying that we're refusing help.
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We're not ignoring any sort of exhaustion. we're not
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forcing an outcome feeling shame
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if if plans change but instead
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when we're saying fearless it might
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mean saying i need support i need help i want pain relief this is what feels
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right you know understanding and listening to your body and saying what it needs
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in the moment can really help create that fearless mentality.
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And confidence is truly flexibility,
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and an empowered birth is one where you feel informed and supported,
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and not one that's fitting any sort of labels or restrictions,
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or is not aligned with how you envision it to be.
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And this, again, is where the role of our support really comes in.
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I can almost always tell which families are more prepared and have done their homework, if you will,
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and have really put in the work beforehand and thought about all these scenarios
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than those who maybe have not really fully stepped into it.
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And this is their partner actually knows what to do too.
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Their partner is calm. Their partner is involved.
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And their partner is not panicking when things intensify and when things get real.
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So support people also help set the tone. If your partner is anxious and unsure,
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that energy is going to transfer to you.
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Obviously, you have the ability to control what's coming in and what's coming out,
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but when you're feeling this uneasiness, when you're feeling the anxiousness,
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when you're not feeling like things are safe because of your partner or your
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support team or the people around you,
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you're in a very vulnerable state when you're in labor and all of the outside
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influences and all of that energy has the ability to transfer to you and cause
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you to also feel those things.
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So it really is a team effort. It really is understanding who's in the room
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and how all those different emotions and feelings are making you adjust and navigate birth.
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So it's important to have conversations like, what should my partner say if I ask for the epidural?
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What helps me feel safe? How will my support team advocate for me during different times?
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And this is really where our confidence can build because we've had those hard
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conversations. We've had those deep discussions.
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We know the what-if scenarios. And so if it comes to it, we're prepared, we're set.
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And so a lot of those things that we're fearing and a lot of the things that
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we're nervous about have the ability to really just get stripped away because
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we know a little bit more of what to expect.
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Even if it's an unpredictable scenario we
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can navigate knowing that
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there is roughly a plan and that the people around us have the ability to advocate
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for us so again if you're planning to go for an unmedicated birth this is super
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super super important and vital but also just any kind of birth,
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any kind of scenario to leave feeling like it was a great experience and knowing
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that you did all that you wanted to and you really had a more fearless birth.
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This is also super important.
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And it's important to understand that your body is capable, your mind is super
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powerful, and that birth is intense.
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But that intensity does not translate to danger.
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We can prepare for it. We can practice. You can educate yourself.
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You can surround yourself with the support that you need.
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And then we can have these plans that we can create, but then hold on to them
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loosely. You know, have them in open hands and really just let it be what it is and what it will be.
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Because a fearless birth isn't about controlling the outcome.
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It's about walking into labor and saying, I trust myself to handle whatever
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comes and I trust the process.
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And that's truly the kind of confidence that has the ability to carry into your
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motherhood experience as well when we're building this foundation when we're
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creating trust in ourselves when we are letting go of the outcome and just,
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staying in what we can control.
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That's what we can bring into motherhood and that's what we can utilize.
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And that same preparation that we use for birth has the ability to trickle into how we parent.
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How we navigate tough moments, and how we move forward into motherhood.
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So that's what I really wanted to touch on and
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really wanted to talk about in this episode if
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it resonated with you and you want to go deeper if you
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want more structured preparation if you want to
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be walking through the stages of labor different coping techniques
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partner support advocacy mindset this
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is all exactly what we cover inside of the
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own your birth childbirth education course it is
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there and readily available for you me
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and this other doula caitlin who was actually
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one of my past clients created this because we
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saw so many women walking into birth
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feeling unprepared and overwhelmed and there's only
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so much that you can do as a doula working with your
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clients and having that one-on-one time but having
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a self-led course that they can
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really work through navigate through share with their partner it's something
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that creates calm and balanced
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and empowered knowledge that they
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can take with them and go into
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the birth experience and go into motherhood with and
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so it'll be linked in the show notes as always thank you so much for being here
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thank you for caring about your birthing experience and thank you for choosing
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preparation over fear and really stepping into this with all that you can.
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And so with that, I'll see you next time.
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Thank you, mamas, so much for listening. Remember, you are a rock star. I believe in you.
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