When jealousy shows up (even when you trust your partner)

Have you ever felt jealous in your relationship... even though you genuinely trust your partner? In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most vulnerable stories I’ve told on the podcast.

A moment with Justin that brought up unexpected jealousy, led to one of the biggest ruptures we’ve experienced, and ultimately taught me that jealousy is rarely about what we think it’s about.

Together, we’ll explore what jealousy is actually pointing toward, why it often has very little to do with your partner, and how asking one simple question can help you move from reactivity to self-understanding.

In this episode, you’ll learn…

* The hidden fears that commonly live underneath jealousy

* How insecure attachment can shape conflict and repair

* The mistake I made when trying to repair too soon

* A shadow work question to help you understand what’s really happening beneath the trigger

This episode is for you if...

* You find yourself overthinking interactions between your partner and other people.

* Jealousy quickly turns into anxiety, anger, or self-doubt.

* You want to respond to triggers with more curiosity instead of shame.

Your invitation…

In the comments, share your reflections to this shadow work prompt:

When you felt jealous, what were you actually afraid would happen?

Then notice what lives underneath that answer. Jealousy isn’t asking to be judged, it’s asking to be understood.

You can read my original post from when this event happened here: "I don't want to be with you anymore"

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