The Things We Don’t Say

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Is it them… or is it you? You've replayed the conversation. You've wondered if you're overreacting. You've asked yourself whether it's time to walk away, or if you're just being too sensitive. Life Coach Jen Stovall has one question that cuts through all of it. Once yo…

Boundaries aren't always walls. Most of the time, they're how you get to stay: in your family, your job, your church, the thing your kid loves. This week I'm talking about the boundaries that let you stay without losing yourself, why "forgive and forget" isn't actually…

Do you put mayonnaise on your hot dog? Apparently that's controversial. And it got me thinking about how the places we spend our time quietly shape what we call normal...yes, from a hot dog. This week we're talking about culture — at work, at church, at school, in the studio, on the team.…

What happens when something I do becomes part of who I am—and then it changes? In this episode, I’m talking about the identities we pick up along the way: the roles we fill, the activities we love, the relationships that shape us, the choices we make, and even the things other people say about us. …

What’s taking up space in your brain right now? The mental load isn’t just everything we’re doing. It’s everything we’re remembering, anticipating, monitoring, preventing, waiting on—and trying not to forget. In this episode, we’re talking about the invisible tabs running in the background, why han…

What if the problem isn’t that our calendars are full—but that we’ve gotten really good at making everything fit? In this episode, we’re talking about overscheduling, rest, the pressure to keep up, and the cost of saying yes—even to really good things. Because just because we can make it work doesn…

After almost 12 years together, you’d think Trey and I would know exactly what the other person needs by now. Newsflash: we don’t. In this episode, Trey joins me for a conversation about what happens when “you should know” quietly becomes the standard in our closest relationships. We talk about mar…

What happens when someone else gets the thing you wanted? It’s easy to celebrate people when their success doesn’t bump up against our own disappointment. But what about when it does? In this episode, Nicole talks competitive dance, the scoreboards we create for ourselves and our kids, a painful co…

Who did you think you’d be by now? On her 40th birthday, Nicole looks back at the versions of herself she thought she’d become—and the expectations, disappointments, and unexpected turns that shaped who she actually is. From a questionable relationship with anti-aging cream to career changes, churc…