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Good morning you too. How are you doing good?
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How are you were good?
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Fantastic?
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Tell me how this idea for this podcast came into being,
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because so many times when you sit down with other podcasters,
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it comes from out of a whim or it's just like, well,
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I was driving down the road and I thought, well,
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what the heck, let's go for it.
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Well, John and I had been on a couple different
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shows together and they had canceled our last show and
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were like, what are we going to do? And we
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had this idea to give good advice goofly on the
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relationships that matter most. Posted that little clip of us
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giving advice on a listener submitted story, and it got
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like a million views on TikTok, and we've posted a
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video every day since that day in twenty twenty one.
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That's right.
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Are you shocked by the reaction that people are giving you, because,
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I mean, this is the kind of stuff that people
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tap into and then they and then they take your
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stories and grow with them.
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Yeah. I mean I think initially we were like a
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little surprised.
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Pretty pretty florid.
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I mean, a very first video posted getting like a
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million views was kind of a shock.
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Arrow we kind of ran with it. I feel like,
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you know, the John Sam team is a pretty strong team,
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and we've just been going through crazy story trying to
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give like the best advice we can. We actually have
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a crazy story to share with you from a recent episode.
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We jump him. If you're ready for it, let's go
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for it man, all right? Well, one listener submission was
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kind of crazy. They asked, my husband cheated on me
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with two women. He wants to stay together because he
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has cancer? Should I say arrow?
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I've got to ask, what do you say? No? Way?
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More to this story, but more contexts. But my partner
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told me when we first got back together that he
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has cancer and his operation doesn't go well, it could
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be terminal. He's currently living with his mom while he's
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in recovery, so that takes the pressure off me caring
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for both him and our baby until he is well
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enough to move into our new home with us. So
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I feel like, you know, they're kind of working around
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some bad news.
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Yeah, trying to make it work. Well.
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Last week he had an attempted breaking. I asked my husband,
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who was supposed to be at his mom's to come
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over and change the locks, but he wouldn't because again
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break and you want to make sure you're home safe.
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Then his mom told me he wasn't with her. I
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went to Facebook and it took me less than an
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hour to find the first two women he was cheating
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on me with.
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Now Erro, I hope it's a lot.
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Do you think there's more? Do you think there's more
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under the iceberg of insanity here?
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Yes?
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Yeah, yeah, there's more than two. I you know, in
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my heart, I feel that there's This has been going
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on for a while.
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Well, we have a segment on Okay Storytime called the
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conspiracy Theory.
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Do you have a quick conspiracy.
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Theory that you or an ICU as we call it,
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do you want to throw out a quick one for us?
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Codependent?
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I believe he's codependent and he needs to be surrounded
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by people at all times.
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I think you may be right.
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I think he may be right.
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Saved wisdom from arrow, but we got more from this listener.
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So they say. One thing my paranoia just wouldn't let
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up about was his cancer and his treatments. I asked
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his mom about it, who told me he doesn't have cancer. Me.
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He was in rehab, not the hospital. He suffered from
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addiction and was trying to recover for me and our baby.
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What are you thinking right now? Arrow?
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We just got.
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Once again. Guys are scumb I mean, he's proven it
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right there. Man, he's given us all a bad name.
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I know, I know. Maybe it'll get better, Arrow, I'm
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not hopeful. But the listener goes on to say, I
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never mentioned to him that I knew about the cancer.
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I assumed it was the embarrassment of wanting to get
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clean without me knowing we could be a good partner
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and dad. I was so proud of him for getting
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that help that I never spoke about the fact that
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I knew he was lying about the cancer.
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I mean, Aaron, do you think that's something that we
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should be proud of right now?
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That he's not not proud, well not proud.
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But the thing about it is is that that he's
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not this this relationship is not all by itself. I mean,
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how many families are really going through this?
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This isn't a he knew, no, no, no. I mean
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we get stories like this on Okay story time. I mean, evdays,
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It's so many people are going through this, and I
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think a lot of this stuff, you know, a lot
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of these these relationshipships happen because it's not that you
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don't have clear communication. You have people with low self
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esteem that are willing to accept love that they do
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not deserve. You know, like I think you need to
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accept love that you do deserve, not a bunch of
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lies being fun as love.
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Yeah, because forgiveness is everything. And and you know when
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you can't forgive anymore, what happens? I mean, oh my god,
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that that right there, those the towers are coming down.
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Oh yeah, oh yeah, but we got we got more
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to the story.
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There's more, Wait, there's more.
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More.
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So with his autoimmune disease, his mom explained how brutal
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it has been for him. Then he did have chemo
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a few years back, so maybe that's why he's confused. Confused,
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you know, it's just cheating. Yeah, I don't know what
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I don't know.
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Oh my god.
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You know what you're proving here, guys, you're proving that
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that that to be in his present place of now,
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there has to be a story beforehand, and you're bringing
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that out and so that we can all go really
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and I mean, I mean it's and then then you go, whoa, Well,
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how is he going to live? Happily ever after, I.
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Don't know if this man will live after hoping the
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author will. I'm hoping the author will put up some
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boundaries and say, I am not going to accept this
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kind of love.
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That's right, learn learning.
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From the mistakes, and you know, self respecting, self care
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our way to a better life.
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If the author goes on to say pregnancy brain is
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a real thing, or maybe I'm just too blindly loved
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because I accepted this and never questioned again. But after
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discovering the first two women, I sent my partner a
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message telling him to let his other girlfriend know I'm
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asking after her and to not bother coming home anymore.
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Oh my goodness, my good, my god. This could be
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a soup opera. Do you send this into general hospital?
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I mean, Sam kind of looks like George Clooney movie
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Nights are.
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Coming, Sue. Yes, But yeah, just saying she's confused, I mean,
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I'm glad that she's finally putting up some boundaries.
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This is great, starting to see the growth here.
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Yeah, So she goes on to say, I've had the
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locks changed from the break in, so we can't get in.
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When he panicked and started begging me to answer, the
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phone and let him see me so he could explain everything.
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He's got a lot to explain, you know, you can
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explain it all away. I started to see everything through
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clear eyes for the first time and realize how long
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he had been gaslighting me, and for the first time
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told him, no.
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Oh my god, my god, my god.
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You don't you think he got it here in the
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South that nobody would have put up with this.
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I mean she would have had him out or dead
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by now.
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So crazy thing er is, Like Sam said on Okay Storytime,
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we get submit story submitted every single day with people
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in this same scenario where it's so hard for.
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Them break out of the reality, you know, like their
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reality is warped around them by this person that maybe
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is good with words, can like kind of manipulate them
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into a corner and they often for the first time
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see how bad it is when posting the story or
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getting feedback from the show. And so we're kind of
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trying to pull people out of these bad situations.
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Oh, the story continues to grow. Don't move.
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We've got more with Samuel and John coming up next. Hey,
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welcome back to my conversation with Samuel and John from
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the podcast Okay Storytime. You know what I love about
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what you guys are doing with with Okay story is
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the fact that it really does come across as a
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radio bit. But the thing about radio is we only
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have so many minutes to put this thing together, where
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with you guys, we're getting the full story, We're getting
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the full experience. I would love to see how people
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are reacting to what you guys are doing in the
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car or at work, because I'm sure they're not keeping
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it to themselves. They're sitting there making sounds that are
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just unbelievably funny.
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Well, you know what's awesome about Okay story Time is
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it's not just a podcast. It's a live show that
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you can watch on ihar. You could watch on YouTube.
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We go live every single weekday for like six to
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eight hours. So we get some reactions from our fans,
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and don't worry, they are similar to what we're dispressing
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right now.
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Wow.
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So are you guys going to be on the comedy
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circuit in the way that because the Comedy Zone here
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in Charlotte allows the podcasters to come in and they
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do their shows from their stage.
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We have thought about doing live shows. It is something
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that we're looking at in the future. But right now
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we got our virtual stage on the live on YouTube
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and then we have this beautiful podcast with iHeart. So
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if any of our listeners are interested, go check out
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Okay Storytime podcast wherever you get your podcasts.
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Where do you how do you prep? Let's go that round?
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Where do you prep?
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In?
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How do you prep? Because I'm a propriate a show
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prep whore. I've got to be ready to go at
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all times. How are you guys doing this?
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Honestly, I feel like we've at this point going live.
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You know, I don't know the radio world, but in
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the live stream world like we do on the Okay
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Storytime YouTube again, six to eight hours straight sometimes, so
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I think we've just learned. You know, it's seven am
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over here right now.
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I think we just learned to.
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Turn this off snap in. We channel it through a
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higher power. It speeps through us. But if we have
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more time, we have more of this story.
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But wait, there's even more.
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Basically an our.
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Episode on the podcast. There are updates upon updates. But
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realizing he couldn't get through to me and now where
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I was trying to contact his girlfriend, he panicked and
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went to her instead. During that time, I found a
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photo she had shared of the two of them and
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shared it to my profile with the caption can someone
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please ask this woman to contact me? She instantly blocked me,
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but her sister got in touch with me instead. Family affair,
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family affair. Apparently the whole family never trusted him and
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knew something was wrong. The affair is serious enough to
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have met the family.
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She says.
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He has told her not to speak to me as
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I'm a deranged stalker. He slept with once years ago,
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and I've been hunting him down, trying to convince people
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my baby his well. I sent her a photo of
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the birth certificate in US in the hospital gather to
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show her sister before he can lie to her anymore.
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We got the receipts.
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We got the receipts important to carry, the receipts for
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manipulators and gas. Language like this, the.
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Most critical tool in your arsenal, the arrow in the satchel.
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The paper trail. I mean, my god, I mean, it's
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it's all there. And then and then to unveil it.
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What there's got to be more, guys.
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There is so during this also messaging another woman, another
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woman again, another woman that is in this cheating Webb
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who is furious at what he has done and is
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helping me with all the information she is aware of.
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her without even knowing he was cheating on me too.
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years back, and so this is the current timeline. So
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he had Key and March question mark, and there was
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woman of an appropriate age this time, but also cheating
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on her August to now his twenty year old girlfriend.
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he had to leave while I was in the middle
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of labor. He had to get this cancer medication while
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she was in the middle of labor, had two failed epidurals.
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rushing in to place extra monitors on our baby in distress,
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cancer medication. Well, leaving to get the cancer medication was
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actually to go sleep with a twenty year old before
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making it back just in time to kiss me before
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I went into emergency surgery.
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right here? Yeah?
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Anyone want this guy?
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out my partner for his actions with photographs, medical notes,
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and evidence, and asking people to leave me alone until Tuesday,
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after forty eight hours of no sleep, multiple calls to
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crisis teams, and a barrage of harassment from his friends
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and family who want to sue me for defamation of character.
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Oh my god, they want to sue there. Can you imagine, Arrow?
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No, no, no, it just keeps getting deeper and deeper here.
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It's almost like a war zone.
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you know, this affects me, but what about all these
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other women? That's but what is there?
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More? So goes on.
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I think I think be there on the head. If
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this was a regular affair, I'd lick my wounds and
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move on. But I have now learned I have been
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leaving my daughter alone with an addict who is claiming
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he doesn't know me or his daughter, but demanding custody.
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Writes to me, now, tens of women ten that's what. No,
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not ten women, tens of women I've now coming forward
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who have also dated him during our relationship, with no
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idea of me or each other. This is obviously really upsetting,
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to notice a very worrying pattern. He has told every
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single one of these women that he has cancer and
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can't get them pregnant.
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Playing off the emotions. There you go, Okay, the.
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Emotion gas lighting with nuclear fuel. The flame is engulfing
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cities at this point.
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Yeah, this guy's dangerous.
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Yeah, he's like, I can't get you. I'm only with you,
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no protection. I think that's how this baby ended up
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in the mix. Man is the the worst. So I said, what.
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Was the one thing that kept You know?
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He had to have felt something inside his heart to
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to stray out so far and then to keep coming back.
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I think he just wants to have as many options
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as possible. I'm curs He went back to our author initially,
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but then as soon as she shut him down, he
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was like, onto the next.
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One, Who's who's available.
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I think that's all he's doing. That's all he's doing.
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So the author says, I said my labor and delivery
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was difficult. I was induced to an infection I had.
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I understood and took the treatment and was induced by
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madly loved pregnancy, brain never accepted it was an SDI
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until I went back this week and checked my hospital
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discharge notes and some big bold letters sensitive partner SDI.
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So the hospital knew where else would I would have
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come from?
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Wow? From walking around the hospital? You know you can
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pick up things on the floor.
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So apparently he's been telling women that he has cancer
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and can't get the pregnant so they don't need protection,
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which led to an STI which almost killed me and
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his daughter in labor, and he wasn't even there to
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be with us because also he has cancer.
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What was his dude's career? Was he in radio?
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I don't know, spending up a story, spending up a story?
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And also the time management?
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Oh, I mean one thing he can do is advantaged time.
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Yeah, that secret. Everything else let's let's get rid of
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but that secret we can learn from.
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Wow, where can people go to find out more about
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what you guys are doing? Because this is brilliant, this,
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this is emotional, this is drama.
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Oh yeah, yeah, this is drama. But also again we
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try to give good advice, goofully on some of these
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really dramatic places and really let people end up just
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so we can like increase people's self esteem and also
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make sure few people communicate early and often. But yeah,
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if you want to find us, you can go to
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the Okay Storytime podcast.
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Yeah, we're on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts wherever you
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listen to your podcast Okay Storytime Podcasts were we're there
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for you guys.
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We're try to help you out. Yeah, navigate life and
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all it's crazy nos Hi love it?
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Well, Please come back to this show anytime to share
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more stories.
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We would love to arrow. That would be awesome.
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We appreciate.
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Will you guys be brilliant today? Okay, we'll do I'm
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How are you were good?
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Fantastic?
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Tell me how this idea for this podcast came into being,
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because so many times when you sit down with other podcasters,
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had this idea to give good advice goofly on the
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relationships that matter most. Posted that little clip of us
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giving advice on a listener submitted story, and it got
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like a million views on TikTok, and we've posted a
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video every day since that day in twenty twenty one.
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Are you shocked by the reaction that people are giving you, because,
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I mean, this is the kind of stuff that people
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tap into and then they and then they take your
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stories and grow with them.
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Yeah. I mean I think initially we were like a
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I mean, a very first video posted getting like a
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million views was kind of a shock.
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Arrow we kind of ran with it. I feel like,
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you know, the John Sam team is a pretty strong team,
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and we've just been going through crazy story trying to
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give like the best advice we can. We actually have
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We jump him. If you're ready for it, let's go
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for it man, all right? Well, one listener submission was
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kind of crazy. They asked, my husband cheated on me
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with two women. He wants to stay together because he
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has cancer? Should I say arrow?
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I've got to ask, what do you say? No? Way?
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More to this story, but more contexts. But my partner
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told me when we first got back together that he
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has cancer and his operation doesn't go well, it could
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be terminal. He's currently living with his mom while he's
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in recovery, so that takes the pressure off me caring
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for both him and our baby until he is well
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enough to move into our new home with us. So
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Yeah, trying to make it work. Well.
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Last week he had an attempted breaking. I asked my husband,
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who was supposed to be at his mom's to come
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over and change the locks, but he wouldn't because again
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break and you want to make sure you're home safe.
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went to Facebook and it took me less than an
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hour to find the first two women he was cheating
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Now Erro, I hope it's a lot.
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Do you think there's more? Do you think there's more
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under the iceberg of insanity here?
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Yes?
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my heart, I feel that there's This has been going
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Do you have a quick conspiracy.
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Theory that you or an ICU as we call it,
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do you want to throw out a quick one for us?
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I believe he's codependent and he needs to be surrounded
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by people at all times.
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I think you may be right.
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I think he may be right.
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Saved wisdom from arrow, but we got more from this listener.
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So they say. One thing my paranoia just wouldn't let
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up about was his cancer and his treatments. I asked
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his mom about it, who told me he doesn't have cancer. Me.
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We just got.
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right there. Man, he's given us all a bad name.
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I know, I know. Maybe it'll get better, Arrow, I'm
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not hopeful. But the listener goes on to say, I
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never mentioned to him that I knew about the cancer.
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I assumed it was the embarrassment of wanting to get
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clean without me knowing we could be a good partner
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and dad. I was so proud of him for getting
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that help that I never spoke about the fact that
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I knew he was lying about the cancer.
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I mean, Aaron, do you think that's something that we
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should be proud of right now?
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That he's not not proud, well not proud.
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not this this relationship is not all by itself. I mean,
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how many families are really going through this?
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we get stories like this on Okay story time. I mean, evdays,
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think a lot of this stuff, you know, a lot
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of these these relationshipships happen because it's not that you
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don't have clear communication. You have people with low self
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esteem that are willing to accept love that they do
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not deserve. You know, like I think you need to
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accept love that you do deserve, not a bunch of
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lies being fun as love.
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you can't forgive anymore, what happens? I mean, oh my god,
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that that right there, those the towers are coming down.
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There's more, Wait, there's more.
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it has been for him. Then he did have chemo
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a few years back, so maybe that's why he's confused. Confused,
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you know, it's just cheating. Yeah, I don't know what
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Oh my god.
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You know what you're proving here, guys, you're proving that
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that that to be in his present place of now,
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there has to be a story beforehand, and you're bringing
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that out and so that we can all go really
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and I mean, I mean it's and then then you go, whoa, Well,
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how is he going to live? Happily ever after, I.
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Don't know if this man will live after hoping the
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author will. I'm hoping the author will put up some
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boundaries and say, I am not going to accept this
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kind of love.
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That's right, learn learning.
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From the mistakes, and you know, self respecting, self care
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our way to a better life.
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If the author goes on to say pregnancy brain is
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discovering the first two women, I sent my partner a
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message telling him to let his other girlfriend know I'm
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a soup opera. Do you send this into general hospital?
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explain it all away. I started to see everything through
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clear eyes for the first time and realize how long
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he had been gaslighting me, and for the first time
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in this same scenario where it's so hard for.
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reality is warped around them by this person that maybe
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is good with words, can like kind of manipulate them
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see how bad it is when posting the story or
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Oh, the story continues to grow. Don't move.
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We've got more with Samuel and John coming up next. Hey,
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welcome back to my conversation with Samuel and John from
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the podcast Okay Storytime. You know what I love about
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the fact that it really does come across as a
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the full experience. I would love to see how people
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car or at work, because I'm sure they're not keeping
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it to themselves. They're sitting there making sounds that are
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it's not just a podcast. It's a live show that
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and don't worry, they are similar to what we're dispressing
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So are you guys going to be on the comedy
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circuit in the way that because the Comedy Zone here
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Where do you how do you prep? Let's go that round?
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Where do you prep?
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How do you prep? Because I'm a propriate a show
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prep whore. I've got to be ready to go at
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all times. How are you guys doing this?
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Turn this off snap in. We channel it through a
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higher power. It speeps through us. But if we have
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more time, we have more of this story.
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realizing he couldn't get through to me and now where
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went to her instead. During that time, I found a
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photo she had shared of the two of them and
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shared it to my profile with the caption can someone
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please ask this woman to contact me? She instantly blocked me,
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but her sister got in touch with me instead. Family affair,
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family affair. Apparently the whole family never trusted him and
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knew something was wrong. The affair is serious enough to
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have met the family.
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He has told her not to speak to me as
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I'm a deranged stalker. He slept with once years ago,
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my baby his well. I sent her a photo of
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the birth certificate in US in the hospital gather to
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show her sister before he can lie to her anymore.
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We got the receipts.
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We got the receipts important to carry, the receipts for
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manipulators and gas. Language like this, the.
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Most critical tool in your arsenal, the arrow in the satchel.
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The paper trail. I mean, my god, I mean, it's
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it's all there. And then and then to unveil it.
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What there's got to be more, guys.
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There is so during this also messaging another woman, another
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woman again, another woman that is in this cheating Webb
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who is furious at what he has done and is
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helping me with all the information she is aware of.
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her without even knowing he was cheating on me too.
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years back, and so this is the current timeline. So
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he had Key and March question mark, and there was
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a nineteen year old rehab in April through July, a
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woman of an appropriate age this time, but also cheating
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on her August to now his twenty year old girlfriend.
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he had to leave while I was in the middle
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of labor. He had to get this cancer medication while
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she was in the middle of labor, had two failed epidurals.
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rushing in to place extra monitors on our baby in distress,
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cancer medication. Well, leaving to get the cancer medication was
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actually to go sleep with a twenty year old before
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making it back just in time to kiss me before
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I went into emergency surgery.
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right here? Yeah?
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Anyone want this guy?
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So this was Sunday, it is now Saturday in the
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following week, and I made a post on Facebook calling
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out my partner for his actions with photographs, medical notes,
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and evidence, and asking people to leave me alone until Tuesday,
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after forty eight hours of no sleep, multiple calls to
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crisis teams, and a barrage of harassment from his friends
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and family who want to sue me for defamation of character.
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Oh my god, they want to sue there. Can you imagine, Arrow?
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No, no, no, it just keeps getting deeper and deeper here.
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It's almost like a war zone.
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you know, this affects me, but what about all these
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other women? That's but what is there?
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More? So goes on.
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I think I think be there on the head. If
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this was a regular affair, I'd lick my wounds and
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move on. But I have now learned I have been
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leaving my daughter alone with an addict who is claiming
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he doesn't know me or his daughter, but demanding custody.
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Writes to me, now, tens of women ten that's what. No,
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not ten women, tens of women I've now coming forward
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who have also dated him during our relationship, with no
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idea of me or each other. This is obviously really upsetting,
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to notice a very worrying pattern. He has told every
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single one of these women that he has cancer and
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can't get them pregnant.
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Playing off the emotions. There you go, Okay, the.
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Emotion gas lighting with nuclear fuel. The flame is engulfing
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cities at this point.
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Yeah, this guy's dangerous.
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Yeah, he's like, I can't get you. I'm only with you,
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no protection. I think that's how this baby ended up
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in the mix. Man is the the worst. So I said, what.
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Was the one thing that kept You know?
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He had to have felt something inside his heart to
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go back to the original woman, you know, I mean,
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to stray out so far and then to keep coming back.
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as possible. I'm curs He went back to our author initially,
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but then as soon as she shut him down, he
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was like, onto the next.
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One, Who's who's available.
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I think that's all he's doing. That's all he's doing.
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So the author says, I said my labor and delivery
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was difficult. I was induced to an infection I had.
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My GP told me I had an SDI, and though
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I understood and took the treatment and was induced by
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madly loved pregnancy, brain never accepted it was an SDI
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until I went back this week and checked my hospital
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discharge notes and some big bold letters sensitive partner SDI.
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So the hospital knew where else would I would have
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come from?
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Wow? From walking around the hospital? You know you can
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pick up things on the floor.
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and can't get the pregnant so they don't need protection,
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which led to an STI which almost killed me and
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his daughter in labor, and he wasn't even there to
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be with us because also he has cancer.
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What was his dude's career? Was he in radio?
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I don't know, spending up a story, spending up a story?
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And also the time management?
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Oh, I mean one thing he can do is advantaged time.
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Yeah, that secret. Everything else let's let's get rid of
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but that secret we can learn from.
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Wow, where can people go to find out more about
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what you guys are doing? Because this is brilliant, this,
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this is emotional, this is drama.
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Oh yeah, yeah, this is drama. But also again we
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try to give good advice, goofully on some of these
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really dramatic places and really let people end up just
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so we can like increase people's self esteem and also
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make sure few people communicate early and often. But yeah,
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if you want to find us, you can go to
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the Okay Storytime podcast.
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Yeah, we're on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts wherever you
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listen to your podcast Okay Storytime Podcasts were we're there
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for you guys.
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We're try to help you out. Yeah, navigate life and
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all it's crazy nos Hi love it?
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Well, Please come back to this show anytime to share
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more stories.
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We would love to arrow. That would be awesome.
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We appreciate.
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Will you guys be brilliant today? Okay, we'll do I'm
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