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You're kind of easy to deal with.
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No one has to brace for you.
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Conversations stay on the level.
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Nothing sharp.
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Nothing that sticks.
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Because you never push things.
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You don't press people.
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You just let it move.
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You say it's fine.
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People stay comfortable around you.
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And nothing ever changes.
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You're the one who keeps it smooth.
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You can you can feel where it might go before it gets there.
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But you're so inclined to take the edge off.
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And you do it early.
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You may leave the room.
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So it lands easier.
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It just blows past.
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Because you don't let it get there, and that's the comfort bargain.
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It holds together around you.
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Because nothing ever escalates.
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No one needs to hold it.
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Because you just keep it moving.
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You keep it balanced.
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And if it gets close, you shift it just slightly.
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You might change the tone or add something, or you may take something out.
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It stays easy.
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Nothing sticks long enough to change.
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You've been here before.
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The same pattern.
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The same outcome.
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You don't carry it.
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You let it pass.
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Again.
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It doesn't stay anywhere.
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And there's always a payoff, and this works.
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Because there's no friction, there's no reaction.
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No weight to hold.
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You stay easy to be around.
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Easy to deal with.
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And nothing turns on you.
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Nothing lands on you.
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It moves without asking anything of you.
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You get through it.
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You go clean.
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It stays light.
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But there's always a consequence and it shows up somewhere else.
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Not then, not in the moment.
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Later.
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In how you sound shorter, less space.
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You pull back without saying you've pulled back.
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They feel something has changed.
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Just not what.
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It shows up everywhere.
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Except where it started.
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You don't stay where you were, you move.
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Quietly.
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And the distance starts there.
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It doesn't stay in one place.
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I didn't keep it smooth once.
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Same kind of moment.
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Same place.
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It would usually pass.
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And I left it as it was and didn't adjust it.
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I didn't take anything out.
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It sat there.
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You could feel it.
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They didn't like it.
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That was clear.
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No one moved it though.
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No one softened it.
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It stayed.
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And it didn't pass.
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You feel it now when you smooth it before it lands.
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When you take something out, you know what you've removed.
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You can feel it while you're doing it.
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Sometimes what you call kindness is just avoidance with good PR.
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You can still do it, still keep it easy, still let it move.
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It just doesn't feel the same.
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You'll do it again.
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Same role.
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Same way of holding things.
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You can feel where it might go before it gets there.
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You already know what you'll take out.
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What do you keep removing so nothing changes?
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You're kind of easy to deal with.
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No one has to brace for you.
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Conversations stay on the level.
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Nothing sharp.
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Nothing that sticks.
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Because you never push things.
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You don't press people.
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You just let it move.
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You say it's fine.
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People stay comfortable around you.
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And nothing ever changes.
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You're the one who keeps it smooth.
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You can you can feel where it might go before it gets there.
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But you're so inclined to take the edge off.
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And you do it early.
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You may leave the room.
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So it lands easier.
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It just blows past.
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Because you don't let it get there, and that's the comfort bargain.
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It holds together around you.
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Because nothing ever escalates.
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No one needs to hold it.
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Because you just keep it moving.
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You keep it balanced.
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And if it gets close, you shift it just slightly.
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You might change the tone or add something, or you may take something out.
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It stays easy.
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Nothing sticks long enough to change.
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You've been here before.
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The same pattern.
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The same outcome.
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You don't carry it.
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You let it pass.
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Again.
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It doesn't stay anywhere.
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And there's always a payoff, and this works.
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Because there's no friction, there's no reaction.
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No weight to hold.
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You stay easy to be around.
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Easy to deal with.
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And nothing turns on you.
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Nothing lands on you.
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It moves without asking anything of you.
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You get through it.
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You go clean.
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It stays light.
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But there's always a consequence and it shows up somewhere else.
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Not then, not in the moment.
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Later.
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In how you sound shorter, less space.
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You pull back without saying you've pulled back.
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They feel something has changed.
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Just not what.
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It shows up everywhere.
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Except where it started.
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You don't stay where you were, you move.
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Quietly.
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And the distance starts there.
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It doesn't stay in one place.
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I didn't keep it smooth once.
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Same kind of moment.
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Same place.
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It would usually pass.
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And I left it as it was and didn't adjust it.
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I didn't take anything out.
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It sat there.
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You could feel it.
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They didn't like it.
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That was clear.
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No one moved it though.
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No one softened it.
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It stayed.
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And it didn't pass.
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You feel it now when you smooth it before it lands.
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When you take something out, you know what you've removed.
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You can feel it while you're doing it.
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Sometimes what you call kindness is just avoidance with good PR.
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You can still do it, still keep it easy, still let it move.
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It just doesn't feel the same.
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You'll do it again.
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Same role.
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Same way of holding things.
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You can feel where it might go before it gets there.
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You already know what you'll take out.
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What do you keep removing so nothing changes?
