Regular Good Stuff about Halloween costumes, coffee, and loud neighbors

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Welcome back, nap time hustle.
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This one's different.
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This one's a little bit more nerve-wracking because we are technically on the clock.
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We are very much.
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We've got the staring at the baby monitor.
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Um to jump right into it.
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There a funny quality of our baby is that her sleep cycles, sleep at least this first one is exactly 36 minutes long, and she will lay exactly how she fell asleep for 36 minutes and then roll over and decide if she wants to be awake or be asleep.
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So uh we have what 10 minutes until that happens because it takes us a minute to set up everything.
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No bad.
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So if this like totally goes.
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Hazel has decided that we're not podcasting today.
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That's fine.
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But I think as a parent you learn uh very quickly to utilize the time when the baby's sleeping.
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Right.
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Um sleep when the baby's sleeping doesn't really apply when your baby doesn't podcast when your baby podcasts.
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So here we are.
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Uh I'm Iz.
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And I'm Joe.
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Um welcome back.
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Um, this is our third episode.
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Right.
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Um Naptime Hustle is actually not a bad, not not a bad name.
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And it and it describes what we're doing.
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It does actually describe what I'm doing.
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Um we did think of a different name.
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Um, we might be reconsidering it in this moment.
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But do we just come up with a better name?
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Um but this podcast is is which we haven't really talked about yet, is called Regular Good Stuff.
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Um growing up, my dad always, whenever we had like a big challenge or event or anything really, track me soccer game for me, bike racing later in life, um, he would always tell us, just go do your regular good stuff.
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Um, and that was kind of his way of telling us like, take a breath, don't get nervous, don't get overly nervous.
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Um, you've prepared, you're ready to do this, and all you have to do, go out there and do what you know how to do.
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Um I think it's a it's a really good motto to have, and it's a good reminder when you put a lot of stress on these big events that you train for and things like that, that all of the little puzzle pieces and chips that have gone into it make it so that you can just take a deep breath going into that.
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Um, so I think this podcast is exploring a little bit of all the the building blocks and the different parts of life that are your regular good stuff.
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Yeah.
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And we're not doing anything special here.
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We're just giving people uh insight into our life.
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Yeah.
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And hopefully it's similar to other people's you know, challenges and it's a little bit more chaotic than it used to be, and I think that's a good thing.
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Um But yeah, this morning was pretty good.
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You got your coffee?
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Got my finally got the pretty well last night.
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I don't want to brag.
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I will put it on the record.
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Joe got his best sleep score.
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I think since she's been born for sure.
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Yeah.
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Um she did wake up once, but it was kind of like uh we call them unicorn wake-ups because she just lets me like rub her back and she goes back to sleep, and it's awesome.
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It's one of those like she wakes up and you're like, either I'm up for the next two hours or she's gonna go right back to sleep at like three in the morning.
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I just want to see you.
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Yeah, it's just like just checking to make sure you're still there, which honestly is very cute, and I'm okay with it.
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And then when I woke up, uh she heard me making coffee.
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Oh Dad.
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I will say I'm still impressed.
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You have stuck with the hand grinding, mocha potting, the full thing.
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I Well, I don't know if you remember, my brother shamed me.
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He did in COVID.
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So that since COVID since COVID.
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Okay.
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Because he came up to see us, and we were, I don't even know what we're doing.
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What kind of pocket coffee people were we then?
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We were like we were pour over people.
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It wasn't that bad.
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We were like chemic people, which feels pretty fancy.
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Yeah, and he was not impressed.
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You didn't buy ground beans.
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This was like, for anyone that doesn't know, we started dating two months before COVID, and then we moved in together after two months, which is a fun experiment with your partner.
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Go slow, go slow.
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Yeah, super take it easy.
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Um, but it was fun.
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It was dare I say fun.
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Um, just to kind of like get to know each other in kind of an extreme situation.
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And I think we both agreed that it was the first time somebody hadn't driven us totally crazy when they were just in our space.
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I agree.
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Which was a good sign.
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Which was a great sign.
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Um I I think I said that in my vows.
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I'm like very honored that you're someone that I think likes to do life alone a lot of it or enjoys it.
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Okay, okay.
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Um but I do think like I'm gonna be able to do that.
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This is an interesting image we're picking.
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Joe would just be in the woods by himself.
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You know, actually I take it back.
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That's fair.
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As every text message on mute ever.
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So I'm always, I'm like, wow, you answered my text, it's pretty good.
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So good.
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Just send a picture of the baby and I'll pretty immediate.
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You got those are on pop-up still.
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But yeah, I always say like I'm incredibly honored that I haven't driven you insane yet.
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Yet.
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It right back at you.
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But yes, your brother in COVID, I think, shamed us for having a regular grinder where you push the buttons.
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Right.
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And then like to shake it.
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And he was he hated that.
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So you had to get um a fancy hand grinder.
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In the in the category of things that are also too expensive.
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Uh yeah, hand grinders.
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Hand grinders.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So um and you haven't gone back since, despite kind of We did do those taste tests.
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And I and I do think it tastes different.
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Yes.
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As we research, the coffee grounds were not in shards.
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They were in more it wasn't it like it's yeah, uniform.
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And I would say, as someone that has no forearm muscles, it's kind of hard to grind that thing.
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You have to kind of like wrench it.
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And our little girl sees us doing it and she wants to help, and you're like, no babies are required here.
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No babies can help here either.
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We have learned something that every time a task requires zero babies, um, Hazel definitely wants to get involved.
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So what does she do?
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She does grind power tools.
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Loves a power tool.
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Loves a good power tool.
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Loves a good vacuum.
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Yep.
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Uh health.
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Grinding coffee.
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Yeah, grinding coffee.
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TV stuff.
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Loves TV stuff.
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Yeah.
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Um driving, not so much.
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She's not sure.
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She's locked in, so she can't quite actually see that anything's happening, but she does resist the car seat a little bit.
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It's okay.
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It's okay.
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So do you.
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So it's fine.
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I also, yes.
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Isla and I have that in common.
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We're not great with long drives, which as we made fun of Joe for like getting out of social events and blaming the baby.
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I will get out of long drives for blaming the baby a hundred percent.
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Which is fine.
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We can't do that.
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We have to take a plane.
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We must fly.
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San Francisco?
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We must fly.
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It's way too far.
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Well, it's okay.
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Yeah.
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I'm in for that.
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Yeah, it's great.
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Yeah.
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Um, so frequent flyers because of the baby.
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Sorry.
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Right.
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And the baby is me in this case.
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I am the baby.
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I am the I am the baby.
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Um but yeah, we had a pretty good morning.
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Joe got his coffee's ground until Hazel heard him and then woke up.
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Um, and then once Hazel wakes up, I also get up.
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Um, but we supper, like again, all in all, it's one of those I think you realize pretty quickly that you can function on very little sleep.
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And so even now on nights that are kind of hard, you're like, it's okay.
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Like it's gonna be fine.
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And I think I'm like forgetting You forget the actual chaos.
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We were like pumped about like a five-hour cumulative, and now we're like, you and I are still we still operate in fear.
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I think we still we still I am afraid for many things.
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But this specifically.
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Yeah, I have lots of fears.
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But one of them being that we don't know if our night is gonna like she's started consistently sleeping a little bit better, but we still don't know which nights that's gonna be.
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And I do think we're still like putting her down and sitting on the couch and watching Netflix or something is not something that we're It's so far away.
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It's so far away from anything that we would do.
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Um, we get her to sleep at 7 30 and immediately look at each other and you answer emails and do some work, and then I'm like, when's he gonna come to sleep?
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Because I can't go to sleep until he's here.
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And you get there at like eight and we're like obvious.
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But like again, one so if last night was eight to six, that feels pretty good.
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It's totally yeah.
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And then sometimes she like when she doesn't have a good night, it is it is it is significant.
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Yeah, it's like every two hours you're up, so that's okay.
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Um But she's she's a baby, like she's allowed to do that.
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Yeah.
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Is it good?
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That's always been your mentality.
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I think I've been kind of I get flustered more easily than you do.
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Um and I'll say stuff like, oh, she's being annoying.
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You're like, she can't be being annoying, she's a baby.
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And I'm like, you should you see what she's doing?
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She's being annoying.
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Right.
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You're right.
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I yeah, that's a tough better view.
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Yeah, it's fair.
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It's a tough word to describe your baby as because you're like, I can't be she's not she doesn't have the autonomy to be annoying, in your view.
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And I'm like, look what she's doing.
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She's throwing all the food on the floor.
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That's objective.
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When I'm home, she's on her best behavior.
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She is when I'm not home.
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That does here.
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Right.
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Honestly, because well, I don't know.
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We've talked a little bit about like who's gonna be like the disciplinarian.
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And I think it's probably gonna be me.
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It's gotta be me.
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I think I am more lax in terms of like my view is like she's gonna run around and like occasionally bump her head and she's gonna have to learn and stuff, and you are very much more like protect my little girl with all my heart, 100%.
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But I don't know if if my like chillness with her blasting her face at the splash pad is like gonna then translate into like I think discipline.
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We'll see.
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Maybe it's both of us.
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I think both of us agree that like there is a certain amount of discipline that you have to do.
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And as we've discussed, we are perfect parents because we've never had a two-year-old child.
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Our baby is perfect.
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She's never resented a thought.
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And there there have been moments where like we clearly make a mistake and it's hard for me to recognize that we're not perfect parents at that point.
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Yeah, we were uh maybe like a few moments in because we hadn't done anything yet.
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Had made zero mistakes.
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Zero mistakes.
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There was a perfect batting average for the first few moments.
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We're zero for zero.
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Although, to be fair, it was wide a C-section, and your only job or potential job was that you could cut the umbilical cord like when they were like, Okay, dad, are you ready?
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And you're like, Nope.
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Absolutely not.
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I'm over here.
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So I guess we started off over one.
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Eve did actually.
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She was out of gate in moments alive, and you were like, Nope.
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Dodging responsibility already.
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I'll stay right here.
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You were staying next to your wife.
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It was for me.
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It was for you.
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It was for me.
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Yeah.
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And it was very scary for me.
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You're like, I'm good.
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Stay here in my little scrub slippers.
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Overwhelmed.
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Yeah, that was an overwhelming process.
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But I don't know if there's a way to get a bot a baby out of your body without it being overwhelming for the mom andor the dad or the partner.
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Yes, true.
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Especially hard for you.
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Especially hard for you.
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To see your wife cut up and terrible.
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Didn't see it.
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You take it.
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Didn't look.
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Did not look.
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Which I think I probably appreciate because it would be maybe you would look at me differently if you're like, oh, I've seen your internal organs.
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Okay.
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Maybe.
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Maybe you don't like it.
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Yeah.
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We'll never know.
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Cool drink.
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Yeah, we'll never know.
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I'll never look.
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Anyway, so that's a long way of saying.
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We had a good morning so far.
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Here we are.
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Here we are.
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Welcome to episode three.
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Uh we're not we have a topic list.
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Um we've had one for the last three episodes and we've gotten through approximately one bullet point each day.
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Yes, yes.
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So we set the name of the podcast, which is good.
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Oh yeah, we're we're through one.
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Fantastic.
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Great.
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Um but I mean, yeah, we had a good morning this morning.
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And she's been asleep for 30 seven minutes.
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So we're Are we in the clear?
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We got time.
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We do three hour, three-hour deal here.
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Sorry, you guys are stuck with us.
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Um we had a good morning.
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I think the shift is um we'll kind of compare and trust kind of our morning this morning to maybe like leading into a Gravel Worlds or an unbound.
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Um, I think those kind of events put a lot more stress on the family unit as a whole.
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Um, unbound was an individual event, like in terms of who was riding their bike, but it was very much more of a family event.
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Um and then Gravel Worlds was a family event where you were running 32 miles and I was riding 150 miles.
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And so with that, I think weekends before having a baby, we would wake up, eat our breakfast quietly, you'd grind your coffee, like go to the group ride, ride our bikes for literally as long as we wanted, because like the only two people that are like the other person we were gonna hang out with that weekend was with us.
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Um and that was actually a pretty unique thing.
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I think it's one of those where even our friends, like a lot of their partners, don't ride.
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And so it would be like, oh, I have to get back by this certain time to like hang out with my wife or my girlfriend, or things like that.
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And I was always super thankful that you were okay with being the only guy with their, you know, girlfriend or wife on the ride.
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But it did make it really nice with our our weekends were ride our bikes with our friends, stop for coffee, um, come back whenever we felt like it.
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And now they look a little bit different.
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Um, and I think the first few rides that you or I showed up to, it was interesting to have people ask and be like, ask you, like, where's Is?
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And you were like, Well, you see, there's this other thing that now depends on us that she has to be home with our baby.
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And same happened with me.
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Like, if I would show up to the group ride, people ask me, like, oh, where's Joe?
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Or like, when's Joe coming back?
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And you're like, Well, see, if I'm here, someone has to be with the baby.
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Um, so it becomes more of a little baby has to be able to be able to be able to do that.
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Yeah, she's gotta be there.
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Unless, again, like unless we have childcare, but we've kind of chosen to take weekends as as a family thing.
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Um so I think going into Gravel Worlds, we alluded to it a little bit previously, but that was a that was a tiny bit of peer pressure on my part to sign you up uh for that race and volunteer you to be the runner in our team.
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Yes.
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Um which I happily accepted.
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Yes, you did.
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Yes.
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That's my story.
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Sticking to it.
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Sticking to it.
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Was really, really excited to run 32 miles in a hundred degree heat and humidity.
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Lincoln, Nebraska in July.
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August.
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August.
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Yeah.
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Late August, you know.
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Uh but would you you but you had originally said I want to do the whole thing.
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And then we compromised and you're compromised and we said, we're gonna make a team thick.
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Joe, you do the right.
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Um, and then with that, I think that requires a fair amount of training, where you're like, if I don't actually train for this thing, it's gonna be five hours of walking, and that's gonna be more than that.
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Six hours of walking, and that's not gonna be like super enjoyable for anybody.
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Farmroads walking.
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Yeah.
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Um and so you have a full-time job.
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I know you go to an office five days a week, and so with that, like you're able to do little runs in the morning.
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Um, but other than that, like weekends are your training ground.
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And I think kind of the compromise that we had made was I get time when our nanny's here on the weeks, um, and I can work out when she naps on days that our nanny is not there.
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Um, so weekends kind of become like it's it's your day.
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Um and so with that one one of the two days.
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Yeah, one of the day.
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Yeah, your day.
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Saturday.
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Yeah, thank you.
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Saturday.
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It was Saturday.
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Your day.
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To train for this 30-mile thing.
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So that was stressful because you were like, I have one day, and like if she sleeps terribly, or if that night is rough, like that's still kind of my day.
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Um, and I need to go out and do this.
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Um which is funny because you have been dealing with that since the beginning.
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Like your your job, your job is to perform in these ultra-endurance bike races.
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And you don't get the day off when she has a tough night, and it's like, well, Wednesday is my big day, and she didn't sleep super well.
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So, like, I guess I'm just gonna tough through it.
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And so I I will say, as much as I complained, and I did.
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I I I do recognize that it was easier for me because you you were on a different level of fitness and you didn't get to have the excuses that I got to have.
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Uh yes and no.
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I think, yes, like I had certain days where our nanny was there and those were the days to do stuff.
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Um, but I think I got a little bit better at like giving myself grace if you're like, okay, if Monday's bad, then like hopefully, yes, if like Monday was bad and then Wednesday was also bad and then also Friday was bad, yes, it was not a great training quality week, and you do have to kind of tough through it.
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But I think for you, um it was just more of a team effort, at least on my side, where I'd be like, okay, going into Friday night, like, can I take more of these wakeups tonight?
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Because Joe's gonna have to do a big long run tomorrow.
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And then I think the biggest thing is like you had to run for what, three hours, probably.
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Yeah.
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Um, so Hazel and I would hang out and then I would put her to sleep and like do my trainer rides.
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Um and then Oh, she's squirreling.
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She's squirreling around.
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She lifts her head up a little bit.
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But I think we're okay.
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Heavy breathing.
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I think it's okay.
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I think we're okay.
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She's in the room next to us, so she's she is fine.
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We're not being irresponsible parents.
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We're not like off somewhere else.
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Um, we don't have the sound on, so that the entire background isn't just her noise machine, like the the best part about that noise machine is when I'm in the room, it works so well on me.
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Oh, yeah.
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I'm like, this is the cozy environment ever.
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So dark, cool, sound machine going.
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How are you still awake?
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Welcome back to Naptime Hustle.
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I know.
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See, that is more of an issue if I'm working out on the trainer.
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That's true.
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And and just to be clear.
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Happens quite a bit.
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My idea of building a big wall between our driveway and their driveway.
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Are you you're logging this as a as a valid point?
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Because right now the way they build these San Juan Chouses, they the two driveways are basically right next to each other, and then we've got a big hedge in the middle, which is great.
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Fantastic.
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The hedge is great for privacy, not great for bouncing basketballs and yelling.
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They like to play outside.
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And Joe likes that less.
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They just like to play outside specifically when Hazel's trying to snooze.
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Which is you know, maybe they play outside all the time.
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I I just only notice we don't care unless she's sleeping.
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Yeah.
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Oh, when you were pregnant and you were not taking a nap at noon.
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So we didn't notice.
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Uh but just getting back to kind of how our weekends look now, that they are different than they used to be.
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And I think when you went on those big old runs, um, it honestly was probably five weekends in a row.
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You didn't have that long.
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I mean, like we knew that we were doing it, but I think you kind of buckled down kind of the last five, six weeks into it.
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And it was interesting.
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I'm thinking from just like a parenthood, and I bet we have probably a lot of male listeners that are active and wanting to do their thing.
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And if their wife is not the one that's signed them up for an incredibly long endurance event, I could see how being the person that's at home with the baby and also tired, and like you'd get home from these runs and be arguably like pretty messed up.
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It was a pretty good, like, dry run for the race.
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Um and you were kind of like, hey, like you were very wanting to be involved, but also I could tell, like, you just kind of nothing behind your eyes.
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It was like, here's some water, here's some food, and you need to go take a nap.
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Um, and I think I could see me, my own self, I knew there was nothing I couldn't be frustrated by that.
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It was literally I was the reason that you were having to go do these.
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You were arguably not really enjoying it.
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Um go outside for three hours when it's really hot.
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Come back later.
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Uh, bring no water.
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But I don't know that a lot of this was your fault, but not the heat wave.
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It's fine.
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It's fine.
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Um everything else.
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I I do think though that it's just indicative of um my fitness is just gonna be different after this than it was before that.
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And and that's okay.
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Um I I think that the way that I've kind of phrased it is I just need to focus on shorter stuff for myself.
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Like, I'm not gonna run marathons anymore, but I'll run half marathons, and that's okay.
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Like a an hour and 15-minute effort is a lot different than a two-hour and 40-minute effort.
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And and I think that that's a lot more attainable from the time that we now have.
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And it's it's just because like you only have 100% of your time, and whereas before it was kind of like work probably takes up 70%, and then everything else takes up 30.
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Now it's like work probably takes up 65.
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Yeah.
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And Hazel takes up a lot of the rest.
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Four.
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And you have like five percent less.
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Right, exactly.
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And you just and you just try to figure out um how to go from there.
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Sorry, 30 and then five percent just for the math check.
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Just in case I do want to just in case anyone was checking my calculator and excuse me, your addition to 100 was not correct.
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I give 110%.
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Actually, you do.
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So that was my math was correct.
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I was just going off the 110% scale.
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But I think it's it is, it's true.
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I think it's one of those where we have realized this is gonna be more challenging as it.
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Team because it is my job to train and work out and um yeah, be ready for these long events.
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And I think you enjoy them, but your mentality has kind of shifted to I'm gonna have to focus on shorter stuff.
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And luckily, like you have already run a hundred miles and you've already done a two sub-240 marathon and things like that, where you're like you kind of did like you focused on those things.
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And I think one of the things that I admire about you a lot is you're very good at setting goals and then putting the work to achieve those goals.
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Um and it's really cool as a partner to see.
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And I think it's something that we're now figuring out the balance of like, how do we do this where it's still important to you to be able to work out?
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I think it's one of those, it's really both of us are more enjoyable as a partner if we have a little bit of time to move our bodies.
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Um this morning was a good example.
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Like, I think I wasn't able to run during pregnancy and then after my C-section, obviously couldn't run for a while and then got really excited when I could run, overdid it, and pinched a nerve in my back because all the ligaments are still really loose because they were preparing for childbirth.
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Um, and that was kind of a brutal setback because I again like couldn't walk for a month.
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Um, and that was in December of this year.
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Um, but I've really been enjoying running with the stroller because, first of all, running has always been different to me because it's not part of my job.
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Like it's kind of job adjacent.
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Um, I think arguably it might work against you when you're training 25, 30 hours a week because you don't have the extra energy.
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But I think now because I'm spending less time on the bike, it really does feel good to get my heart rate up and do something else.
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And I think unlocking the ability to work out while she's awake is huge.
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Um and running is uh I think initially very uncomfortable for a lot of people.
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Yeah.
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But it it is time efficient.
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Yeah.
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And when and when you get to the point where you can run for like an extended period of time, it I think it's enjoyable.
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Yeah.
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But not too long.
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Oh yeah.
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Extended period of time, but less than three hours.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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What was this morning?
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An hour and 15?
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Hour and 15.
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And that's like, and by the way, I watched A lot of running.
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Yeah, a lot of walk.
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So it's great.
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It was great.
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It was it was nice.
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It is, I think, still brutal because on nights that we have good sleep, you're like, hell yeah, I'm gonna be like a superhero.
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But I do think we have to remember that we're in like a year of sleep debt where you're like, I don't know if this happens to you too, but like I'll go out and I'll like have this workout in my head.
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I'm like, I'm gonna go do two by two miles.
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Yeah.
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And I'm gonna try to like do the threshold and it's gonna be great.
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Because I used to be able to do this.
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I just get squished.
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And it's it's so embarrassing.
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I'm like on the strand, like dying in front of all these people playing volleyball.
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And you're like, yeah, this is who I am now, somebody who can't complete workout.
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And that's okay.
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I think squished is the right word.
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You always say that, and I do like that because you're like, it is it's the feeling of a foot coming down on you and being like, Yeah.
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We're not doing that today.
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You're halfway through your workout and you're squished, and that's okay.
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I think it's one of those I've almost gone the opposite direction where you've encouraged me to kind of get back out and do more intervals and try them because I think because I felt bad for so long, I kind of went back into like, okay, I'm just gonna ride my bike.
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And you're like, that's great, but I think you're gonna get bored by just riding your bike in a circle, um, kind of switching up the routes.
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But I think you're like, I think you need to like try some harder intervals.
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And I tried some last week and they actually like went way better than I expected.
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And so it's one of those I almost like I think after Gravel Worlds, you're like, man, I just slow and I'm blah blah blah.
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And then I like went out and you do kind of an interval and look at the power numbers after, and you're like, those aren't they're not bad.
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Like they're arguably good.
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Um and it's a good, it was kind of like a good reminder of like, don't, I don't know, get in the kind of the spiral like feeling sorry for yourself, um, and kind of get back out there.
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And and I generally do have a really positive attitude on this all, but it's easy to kind of just be like, oh, whoa was me, I'm tired again.
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Like, let me just go slow.
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And yeah, it's easy to put on a t-shirt and go slow, but it's also kind of fun to like rip it sometimes.
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Do you think there's an element of lifetime fitness in there?
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Like you've been doing this for a long time.
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Yeah, I agree with that.
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I think interestingly, this the C-section was the most the longest period that I've ever not worked out or trained in my life, probably since I was probably Hazel's age and started running.
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Like knock on wood, I've never had a broken leg or anything crazy, like collarbones and broken back, like despite it all, I was And you were and you were off the bike for a good two months.
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Yeah.
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And even then it was like, I don't know, I think then the comeback, you were like, I'm so thankful to have like wind in my face.
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Yeah.
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Um, like I still remember the first ride I did outside, and I was not even, you know, like didn't even all of my garments that had been so long weren't charged, and I was like, I'm doing it, like rolled out with like my watch and like some sunglasses, and that was it.
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Um but was just like uh yeah, the feeling of after you've been on the trainer like riding slowly, right?
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Um the feeling of going outside and and just moving again is is awesome.
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Yeah.
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Um and and the fitness came back, I think it didn't feel good when it came back, but it did come back pretty quickly.
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Yeah, I agree with that.
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It was one of those I think I was pleasantly surprised by how I won't say bounce back, but how like the build back into fitness um came.
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And again, it's one of those, I think I did a lot of the training by myself.
00:27:47.839 --> 00:27:51.359
And you're kind of just going off power numbers and that's it.
00:27:51.359 --> 00:27:57.200
But uh you have to kind of trust that that your body is doing the right thing and you're kind of managing what you have.
00:27:57.599 --> 00:28:01.440
And you had had a coach before you got pregnant.
00:28:01.440 --> 00:28:07.200
And then after you got pregnant, you kind of said, I don't necessarily need a coach to tell me to like to take it easy.
00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:13.759
Have you found that you've been able to structure your workouts post this period?
00:28:13.759 --> 00:28:18.720
The kids next door continue to be absolute maniacs.
00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:20.400
But we're gonna persevere.
00:28:20.400 --> 00:28:22.240
It's very funny.
00:28:22.240 --> 00:28:29.440
Um but just in terms of coaching, like you've you've seen uh a a lot of workouts over the course of your career.
00:28:29.440 --> 00:28:32.319
How are you structuring that now that you don't officially have a coach?
00:28:32.319 --> 00:28:34.000
But I feel like you're getting back into the intensity.
00:28:34.319 --> 00:28:47.599
Yeah, I think it's one of those it used to be so simple before it was like Monday and Friday are recovery days, and Tuesday and Thursday are interval days, and Wednesday is long endurance, and Saturday and Sunday are like a hard, one hard group ride, and then kind of whatever you wanted.
00:28:47.599 --> 00:29:01.359
And now I have Monday, Wednesday, and kind of Friday as like longer days to do stuff, and I've tried to kind of at least do one day that's harder intensity stuff and one day that's longer.
00:29:01.359 --> 00:29:04.880
Um and you just kind of have to.
00:29:04.880 --> 00:29:15.759
I have the reason that I haven't gotten a coach again is because I don't want to waste someone's time where they're putting in workouts and then I can't do it either because something happened or because we didn't sleep or things like that.
00:29:15.759 --> 00:29:17.440
So I think it's been more self-coaching.
00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:23.359
But yeah, you can kind of like select from either the Garmin workouts or kind of workouts that I used to do.
00:29:23.440 --> 00:29:26.079
And you've I think you've thought a coach has been helpful.
00:29:26.079 --> 00:29:26.799
Oh my gosh.
00:29:26.960 --> 00:29:28.880
No, Simon was like the best.
00:29:28.880 --> 00:29:38.400
The best in that he I think was very good at both pushing me and then also telling me to slow down.
00:29:38.400 --> 00:29:48.720
It was a good balance, I think, for a long time without a coach I operated in the like everything was kind of too hard and never being able to go hard enough with because I wasn't going easy enough.
00:29:48.720 --> 00:29:56.240
I think it's one of those where you really become a better athlete the moment that you realize you must slow down some days.
00:29:56.400 --> 00:30:06.559
Um there's a question that the the question that I always pose to you is that before you had a baby, all you really had not all you really had, but like your life was All you had.
00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:07.200
All you had.
00:30:07.440 --> 00:30:09.039
You mean the bike.
00:30:09.039 --> 00:30:15.680
Uh but like you your job was your uh the thing you like to do.
00:30:15.680 --> 00:30:16.160
Yes.
00:30:16.160 --> 00:30:19.680
And um when that wasn't going well, it was really hard.
00:30:19.680 --> 00:30:25.359
And now I think that there are more pieces in your life, which in my opinion is really good.
00:30:25.359 --> 00:30:32.640
Because like for me, when my job isn't going great, I can at least, you know, exercise and feel good about that.
00:30:32.640 --> 00:30:36.799
Or like when I'm hurt, I can at least focus on my job and like focus on my relationship.
00:30:36.799 --> 00:30:39.119
But I'm always focused on it.
00:30:39.119 --> 00:30:44.400
Um but has that has that changed since you got it?
00:30:44.400 --> 00:30:51.279
Like, has it made it almost easier because you've got more things to look at, or is it just this is just an additional thing and it's difficult?
00:30:51.519 --> 00:30:52.240
No, I think so.
00:30:52.240 --> 00:30:59.119
I think the probably darkest time for me was kind of after my dad passed away.
00:30:59.119 --> 00:31:05.920
I realized it the most where it was the job, or my bike was my happiness outlet.
00:31:05.920 --> 00:31:07.599
It was the thing that we did together.
00:31:07.599 --> 00:31:12.960
So it was my relationship, it was my social life, it was also my grief outlet, and then it was also my job.
00:31:12.960 --> 00:31:16.720
And I stopped enjoying riding my bike.
00:31:16.720 --> 00:31:19.839
And so I stopped enjoying all of those things.
00:31:19.839 --> 00:31:29.200
And I think that that was a really challenging time because I think, and we we did talk about that where you're like, do you want to do, you know, like what else are you gonna add into your life?
00:31:29.200 --> 00:31:33.519
Because if everything is the bike and you're not enjoying it, it's it's really dark really fast.
00:31:33.519 --> 00:31:38.799
Um and so I think that was a good made me realize I wanted to have a kid.
00:31:38.799 --> 00:31:39.440
No, I'm just kidding.
00:31:39.440 --> 00:31:42.079
You're like, So let's let's add a baby into the body.
00:31:42.079 --> 00:31:42.799
So let's add a baby.
00:31:42.799 --> 00:31:47.359
No, that was a few years uh before.
00:31:47.359 --> 00:31:52.559
So that was not the uh Hazel, you were not a band-aid baby, you were very much on purpose and planned.
00:31:53.039 --> 00:31:54.319
We want you, we continue to want you.
00:31:54.720 --> 00:31:55.119
We do.
00:31:55.119 --> 00:32:00.799
Um and no, if if at that time we had added a baby into mix, I do think like it would have been catastrophic.
00:32:00.799 --> 00:32:08.079
So I think it's also um timing is very important, and it took a lot of therapy and working through kind of everything that I had.
00:32:08.079 --> 00:32:21.680
I think for a while I was overwhelmed with like, I need a sports psychologist and a grief counselor, and you know, figuring out how to communicate my relationship and also, you know, a regular therapist and how am I possibly gonna find one?
00:32:21.680 --> 00:32:24.160
So I'll just not do therapy at all and not talk about anything.
00:32:24.160 --> 00:32:28.799
And I think it kind of boiled over um in a different way.
00:32:28.799 --> 00:32:40.880
Um so yeah, thankful to kind of have worked through all that and taken the time to do that um and be in a better place now um than I was probably four years ago, five years ago.
00:32:41.119 --> 00:32:41.519
Yeah.
00:32:41.759 --> 00:32:42.559
Um yeah.
00:32:42.960 --> 00:32:44.160
So Halloween's coming up.
00:32:44.319 --> 00:32:45.359
Oh my gosh, I was uh thank you.
00:32:45.359 --> 00:32:47.119
I was thinking about when I was with Hazel.
00:32:47.119 --> 00:32:48.559
I was like, wait, we teased it last time.
00:32:48.559 --> 00:32:49.920
Halloween is coming up.
00:32:49.920 --> 00:32:53.200
You make fun of me because I get super excited for Halloween.
00:32:53.599 --> 00:32:53.839
Yes.
00:32:53.839 --> 00:32:55.759
It's your favorite.
00:32:56.960 --> 00:32:58.240
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday.
00:32:58.720 --> 00:33:00.160
Thanksgiving's my favorite holiday.
00:33:00.480 --> 00:33:01.759
Um, Halloween's close.
00:33:02.079 --> 00:33:02.880
Close second.
00:33:02.880 --> 00:33:05.680
Uh Halloween might be my least favorite holiday.
00:33:05.920 --> 00:33:07.519
You asked me, and I still remember this.
00:33:07.519 --> 00:33:09.599
You were like, what day do they trick-or-treat on?
00:33:09.599 --> 00:33:14.720
It's like the close weekend, and I was like, no, you trigger treat on the day.
00:33:14.720 --> 00:33:16.480
Like, if it's a school night, it doesn't matter.
00:33:16.720 --> 00:33:17.359
It was a tough question.
00:33:17.519 --> 00:33:18.160
That was a tough question.
00:33:18.160 --> 00:33:25.680
That was like I've been in college, was my last Halloween experience, and you just you drink on the day that the weekend is the closest.
00:33:25.680 --> 00:33:34.400
So um, yeah, that was a and we live in a fantastic dare I say the Mecca of Santa Monica.
00:33:34.400 --> 00:33:35.279
The Mecca.
00:33:35.279 --> 00:33:45.039
There's a few Meccas, but uh one of the hot spots of Santa Monica trick-or-treating, but we don't live on the main drag, which is a total bummer.
00:33:45.039 --> 00:33:54.240
So the first year that we lived here, we got like a lot of candy because we had heard that it was crazy, and we live five houses off the main road.
00:33:54.240 --> 00:33:59.680
So we had like some straggly teenagers that came and took all of our candy, and then we ate the rest.
00:33:59.920 --> 00:34:00.640
Like trigger treat.
00:34:00.640 --> 00:34:02.319
What are you dressed as?
00:34:02.319 --> 00:34:03.359
Yeah, like yeah.
00:34:03.599 --> 00:34:05.519
You have cargo pants on that doesn't count.
00:34:05.519 --> 00:34:11.679
Yeah, so I have been stressed about what will hazel be, and in turn, what will we be?
00:34:11.679 --> 00:34:12.800
We have a few ideas.
00:34:12.800 --> 00:34:13.920
We do have a few ideas.
00:34:13.920 --> 00:34:21.599
Last year, she was so we called her hazelnut, and so she was a jar of Nutella, and we were a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
00:34:22.000 --> 00:34:25.199
She was the hazelnut and we were the bread in the sandwich.
00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:25.760
Yes.
00:34:25.760 --> 00:34:29.360
Which we want to continue a family costume.
00:34:30.079 --> 00:34:31.119
We could do something different.
00:34:31.119 --> 00:34:33.679
She could be her own her own She could be her own woman.
00:34:33.679 --> 00:34:35.840
She is she is an independent woman at this point.
00:34:35.840 --> 00:34:36.400
Yes.
00:34:36.400 --> 00:34:42.719
But I if I feel like if we don't have a family costume, you're not gonna dress up.
00:34:42.719 --> 00:34:46.159
So you'll be the one in the cargo pants.
00:34:46.320 --> 00:34:46.800
This is true.
00:34:47.039 --> 00:34:47.760
Getting candy.
00:34:48.000 --> 00:34:48.800
This is all about me.
00:34:48.800 --> 00:34:49.679
Okay, that's great.
00:34:49.679 --> 00:34:55.280
So her favorite foods are blueberries and shredded cheese.
00:34:55.280 --> 00:34:56.559
God bless her.
00:34:56.880 --> 00:34:58.079
Are fantastic choice.
00:34:58.400 --> 00:34:59.199
Both great outfits.
00:34:59.440 --> 00:35:00.159
Both great outfits.
00:35:00.159 --> 00:35:03.360
Shredded cheese, harder to execute, but could be fantastic.
00:35:03.599 --> 00:35:03.679
Yep.
00:35:03.679 --> 00:35:04.639
Blueberry easy.
00:35:04.639 --> 00:35:05.760
Blueberry super easy.
00:35:05.760 --> 00:35:06.639
Store-bought.
00:35:06.639 --> 00:35:07.519
Store-bot.
00:35:07.519 --> 00:35:10.239
But if we want to do a family cut, and what would we be?
00:35:10.239 --> 00:35:12.639
What is your I'm in on being a blueberry too?
00:35:12.639 --> 00:35:14.239
We could be family blueberries.
00:35:14.239 --> 00:35:14.639
You never know.
00:35:14.800 --> 00:35:15.840
Just a pack of blueberries.
00:35:16.159 --> 00:35:17.840
Package of blueberries.
00:35:17.840 --> 00:35:20.079
If you paint your face on it.
00:35:20.480 --> 00:35:21.519
Loose blueberries.
00:35:22.719 --> 00:35:23.360
Like some blueberry.
00:35:23.360 --> 00:35:24.480
You get to be the jumbo.
00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:27.119
The super organic one.
00:35:27.119 --> 00:35:28.559
No, not super organic.
00:35:28.559 --> 00:35:32.079
Super jumbo injected.
00:35:32.079 --> 00:35:34.239
So you're the jumbo blueberry.
00:35:34.239 --> 00:35:35.119
Hazel's the little rush.
00:35:35.360 --> 00:35:36.480
But you did have a good idea.
00:35:36.880 --> 00:35:43.840
But I think we should be the Incredibles because Hazel looks like Jack Jack and her hair has always been Jack Jack-esque.
00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:44.159
Right.
00:35:44.159 --> 00:35:44.719
Dare I say.
00:35:45.199 --> 00:35:45.840
Because of you.
00:35:46.239 --> 00:35:47.280
Yeah, because it was cute.
00:35:47.280 --> 00:35:48.480
And I always did that.
00:35:48.480 --> 00:35:52.400
Um my only hesitation is do we need to save that?
00:35:52.400 --> 00:35:58.159
Because what if there was another chance later if we had more kids that we would be a fan.
00:35:58.239 --> 00:36:03.440
But we could always recycle too, like again, coming back to the last time I had around Melanie experience.
00:36:03.440 --> 00:36:04.800
What were you every year for?
00:36:04.800 --> 00:36:09.280
It was easy to be like the top gun characters in college.
00:36:09.280 --> 00:36:10.400
Characters?
00:36:10.400 --> 00:36:11.039
Are there multiple?
00:36:11.039 --> 00:36:13.440
Well, like you could have a mustache if you're mustache.
00:36:13.440 --> 00:36:14.079
Yeah, or not a mustache.
00:36:14.079 --> 00:36:14.960
Ray bands or not.
00:36:14.960 --> 00:36:15.679
Right, exactly.
00:36:15.679 --> 00:36:17.360
Do you are you able to grow a mustache or not?
00:36:17.360 --> 00:36:18.960
Depends on what was your verdict.
00:36:18.960 --> 00:36:20.239
I can't grow a mustache.
00:36:20.239 --> 00:36:21.199
Do you remember?
00:36:21.199 --> 00:36:23.679
I have tried to grow facial hair.
00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:24.159
Yeah.
00:36:24.320 --> 00:36:26.320
And it just ends very poorly.
00:36:26.320 --> 00:36:27.280
It looks fantastic.
00:36:27.280 --> 00:36:30.159
It's too scratchy on my face, though.
00:36:30.159 --> 00:36:32.480
It's like patchy and thin.
00:36:32.480 --> 00:36:35.199
And you're like, you just look mildly homeless.
00:36:35.519 --> 00:36:36.719
We could maybe shave this off.
00:36:36.800 --> 00:36:36.960
Yeah.
00:36:37.119 --> 00:36:38.159
You just look good, clean shaven.
00:36:38.400 --> 00:36:38.719
So yeah.
00:36:38.719 --> 00:36:39.599
I was never the muscle.
00:36:39.599 --> 00:36:42.960
So you were but you can buy like sure.
00:36:42.960 --> 00:36:43.280
Yeah.
00:36:43.280 --> 00:36:49.599
Um but you can like buy a flight suit and uh sunglasses and think you look pretty cool.
00:36:49.679 --> 00:36:50.320
I think it would look like that.
00:36:50.400 --> 00:36:53.360
So we could we could do that with Is Hazel the beach ball?
00:36:53.440 --> 00:36:54.400
Oh no, that's Castaway.
00:36:54.400 --> 00:36:55.280
Wrong one.
00:36:55.280 --> 00:36:58.559
But uh but also the volleyball, there is a volleyball scene.
00:36:58.559 --> 00:36:59.519
She could be the volleyball.
00:36:59.679 --> 00:37:00.000
Yeah.
00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:01.840
The gay volleyball scene.
00:37:03.039 --> 00:37:04.880
We just wear jeans and no shirt.
00:37:05.760 --> 00:37:06.960
Like, why are you playing volleyball?
00:37:06.960 --> 00:37:08.559
In jeans.
00:37:08.559 --> 00:37:09.519
It's okay.
00:37:09.519 --> 00:37:10.800
It was the 80s, baby.
00:37:11.119 --> 00:37:13.039
My Halloween story in college.
00:37:13.039 --> 00:37:22.639
Um, so Halloween, we took it very seriously growing up, and the rule in our family was no box costumes because you had to be agile enough to like get through the crowds.
00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:28.320
And again, we in San Francisco like kind of lived in a hot spot and it was very fun and it was crowded, and you had to be like agile.
00:37:28.320 --> 00:37:38.079
So, like one year I was a water skier and I wore like a full wetsuit and I had a rope and had a and I remember it was so hot running around in my wetsuit, and like, but it was a good costume.
00:37:38.079 --> 00:37:38.400
Yep.
00:37:38.400 --> 00:37:45.519
And our cousin Honro was always a box, he was like ran through the like microwave toast, he was just always a square for some reason.
00:37:45.519 --> 00:37:48.559
And we were always like, Honro, you're I gotta keep up.
00:37:48.559 --> 00:37:50.639
And he's like, I can't really get to the door.
00:37:50.639 --> 00:37:54.239
Anyway, so sorry, Honro, your only shout out in this.
00:37:54.639 --> 00:37:56.400
Just catching strays on it.
00:37:57.440 --> 00:38:12.159
But anyway, so when we went to college, our soccer team, like each class had to choose like a theme, and then like so our first year, the freshman soccer girls, someone had chosen for us that we were superheroes.
00:38:12.159 --> 00:38:17.360
So it was my first time like buying like a costume that like kind of risque costumes.
00:38:17.360 --> 00:38:18.239
Yes, yes.
00:38:18.239 --> 00:38:22.960
So I like put it in, I'm gonna be poison ivy.
00:38:22.960 --> 00:38:23.840
I think that was it.
00:38:23.840 --> 00:38:24.639
I don't know, whatever.
00:38:24.639 --> 00:38:27.519
I'm gonna be one of this kind of slutty superhero costumes.
00:38:27.519 --> 00:38:28.079
Nice.
00:38:28.079 --> 00:38:33.519
This I put it in the stuff and it autofills to my home address.
00:38:33.519 --> 00:38:35.280
And I get a call from my dad.
00:38:35.280 --> 00:38:36.400
Not New York City.
00:38:36.400 --> 00:38:38.719
Fly this costume goes to San Francisco.
00:38:38.719 --> 00:38:44.559
And I get a call from my dad, and he goes, Is your costume showed up here?
00:38:44.559 --> 00:38:56.239
And I was like, Oh my god, not only is it store-bought, but it's not enough fabric to be allowed to go out anywhere, much less New York City in October.
00:38:56.239 --> 00:39:14.079
And what my dad used to always say when we like, so he raised three girls, um, and he wasn't ever comfortable being like I like that's that like that outfit is not as as a father of a as a father of a few-year-old baby.
00:39:14.239 --> 00:39:15.119
I feel this.
00:39:15.360 --> 00:39:18.159
He would always ask us, Do you have enough sunscreen for that outfit?
00:39:18.159 --> 00:39:20.800
Which said, You're showing too much skin.
00:39:20.800 --> 00:39:25.440
Because like you live in San Francisco, like you had enough sunscreen for anything, it was fine.
00:39:25.440 --> 00:39:33.519
Um, but that was his way, and so I remember him being like, I'm not sure if you have enough sunscreen for this Halloween costume, and he refused to send it to me.
00:39:33.519 --> 00:39:37.760
So I was not allowed to be Green Lantern that year.
00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:42.320
And we switched and we had to be cow people, cow cowgirls, cowgirls.
00:39:42.320 --> 00:39:43.280
Way better, yeah.
00:39:43.280 --> 00:39:46.000
Way, way more clothing.
00:39:48.320 --> 00:39:53.840
So that was my experience with like I'm like mortified for Halloween for little hazelbazil now.
00:39:55.440 --> 00:40:00.320
But uh yeah, so that was uh not a great first college experience, but funny now.
00:40:00.320 --> 00:40:00.960
Yeah.
00:40:00.960 --> 00:40:06.000
Yeah, so we're probably gonna be the Incredibles, which I was in high school, and my dad made us awesome costumes.
00:40:06.000 --> 00:40:12.079
Then we convinced our guy friend to wear a full Spandex outfit, which in high school is a guy like kudos to Nate.
00:40:12.079 --> 00:40:13.920
Shout out to Nate who wore that with three other girls.
00:40:13.920 --> 00:40:14.800
Sorry, Andrew.
00:40:14.800 --> 00:40:17.920
Your costumes were not fantastic.
00:40:17.920 --> 00:40:21.440
But Nate's costume was great because my dad made it for him.
00:40:21.440 --> 00:40:27.920
Uh yeah, we're thinking about being the Incredibles.
00:40:27.920 --> 00:40:30.000
That's our best uh family costume that we have so far.
00:40:30.559 --> 00:40:32.239
Taking better suggestions, but this is pretty good.
00:40:32.559 --> 00:40:33.840
Throw your suggestions in the comments.
00:40:33.840 --> 00:40:39.039
Um, the last thing that we did tease was your kettlebell routine that you have to get your backs.
00:40:39.920 --> 00:40:41.039
Maybe we just keep pushing that one.
00:40:41.199 --> 00:40:41.840
Ooh, superstry.
00:40:41.840 --> 00:40:44.800
Sorry, episode four.
00:40:44.800 --> 00:40:45.920
Joe doesn't want to talk about it.
00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:48.559
That would require too much of Joe speaking.
00:40:49.519 --> 00:40:51.360
I'll still be a wallflower over here.
00:40:51.360 --> 00:40:52.079
But this was great.
00:40:52.079 --> 00:40:55.360
And next time we won't have crazy kids next door.
00:40:55.360 --> 00:40:55.599
Maybe.
00:40:55.599 --> 00:40:56.159
Hopefully.
00:40:56.159 --> 00:40:56.639
We probably will.
00:40:56.639 --> 00:40:57.360
Or we will.
00:40:57.440 --> 00:40:57.599
Yeah.
00:40:57.760 --> 00:40:58.079
That's okay.
00:40:58.239 --> 00:40:59.360
Um thank you for listening.
00:40:59.360 --> 00:41:01.599
Happy uh it's not Halloween yet.
00:41:01.599 --> 00:41:02.239
This will come out.
00:41:02.239 --> 00:41:03.280
Well maybe soon.
00:41:03.440 --> 00:41:05.119
Um No boxes.
00:41:05.360 --> 00:41:06.239
No boxes allowed.
00:41:06.239 --> 00:41:10.880
If you're making costumes for your children, allow them to be agile and hostile.
00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:12.800
See you later.