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In this episode of Menopause, Meltdowns and Magic, Tanya and Emma explore a complicated topic for many neurodivergent families:
What happens when the “support” being offered actually causes more harm?
Together, they unpack the long middle of burnout recovery, that messy, uncertain stage where things may appear to be improving on the surface, while nervous systems are still overwhelmed underneath.
This conversation explores:
- Why the wrong support can prolong burnout.
- How even “good” support can become overwhelming during deep nervous system exhaustion.
- The pressure parents feel to accept therapies, interventions, and professional advice.
- Medical-model thinking versus relational and nervous-system-informed approaches.
- The grief, guilt and vulnerability of learning to trust ourselves again as parents.
- Why body autonomy and consent matter deeply for neurodivergent children.
- The difference between fitting in and true belonging.
- How compliance-based systems can disconnect children from themselves.
- The hidden trauma many parents carry while advocating for their children.
This episode also touches on masking, chronic fatigue, accommodations in schools, interdependence versus independence, and the powerful ripple effects of cycle-breaking parenting.
As always, the conversation weaves between personal stories, deep reflection, humour, nervous system wisdom, and moments of everyday magic.Resources & References Mentioned
- Dr. Emmi Pikler and respectful caregiving.
- Amanda Diekman and Low Demand Parenting.
- Brené Brown’s work on belonging versus fitting in.
- Internal Family Systems and No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz.
- Peter Levine and nervous system trauma work.
Podcast: Meltdowns, Menopause and Magic
Hosts: Tanya Valentin & Emma Gilmour
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