Home Room - Week 2: Values & Priorities

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Every day, middle schoolers have countless choices competing for their attention. Learning how to determine what matters most is an important part of developing executive function skills and becoming a more independent learner.

In Week 2 of Home Room, students are focusing on prioritization and decision-making. They’re learning how their personal values can help guide their choices, manage their time, and stay focused on what matters.

In This Episode

We’re talking about:

• Prioritization and executive function skills
• Understanding personal values
• Identifying your Top 3 values
• Using values to guide everyday decisions
• Decision-making skills for middle schoolers
• The “Pause & Prioritize” strategy
• Reflection and self-monitoring
• Helping students make decisions independently
• Supporting executive function development at home
• Moving the thinking from parent to student

What Are Values?

Values are the beliefs, qualities, and ideas that are important to us.

Students are learning to identify the values that matter most to them and narrow those down to their Top 3.

But knowing your values is only the beginning.

The real executive function skill is learning to use those values when making decisions.

For example, if responsibility is an important value, a student might choose to spend time working on an assignment before moving on to something more enjoyable.

Try “Pause & Prioritize”

Students are practicing a simple strategy before making a decision:

Pause & Prioritize

Ask:

1. Is this important?
2. Does this match my values?
3. Is this the best choice right now?

That brief pause gives students an opportunity to slow down, think through their options, and make a more intentional choice.

3 Ways Parents Can Support at Home

1. Ask about priorities.

When your student has several things competing for their attention, try:

“What is most important right now?”

Give them time to think through the answer instead of immediately providing it.

1. Use the pause.

When your student is facing a decision, remind them:

“Pause and prioritize.”

Then let them work through the questions themselves.

1. Reflect on decisions.

Afterward, ask:

“Did that choice work out the way you hoped?”

or

“What might you do differently next time?”

These conversations help your middle schooler practice decision-making, reflection, and self-monitoring without you making the decision for them.

One Thing to Avoid

Try not to turn prioritization into parent-controlled prioritizing.

It can be tempting to tell your student exactly what should come first, especially when you can already see the consequences of a choice.

Instead, try asking:

“What do you think should come first, and why?”

The goal is to gradually move the thinking from parent to student.

A Question for Parents

This week, notice a moment when your student has a choice to make.

Instead of immediately stepping in, ask:

“What matters most here?”

Then give them space to think.

Every opportunity to pause, consider, choose, and reflect helps your student build the executive function skills they need for greater independence.

Key Takeaway

Your middle schooler doesn't need to make perfect decisions.

They need opportunities to practice making decisions, learn from the results, and make adjustments along the way.

At Latter Up, we believe the goal isn't perfection. It's progress, one step at a time.

Keep learning, keep growing, and Latter Up.