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Speaker 1: Hey team, welcome back to the Building Better Humans Project podcast brought to you by Adventure Professionals, www.adventureprofessionals.com.au. Today I want to share something personal and this is the five values that I try to live by. Resilience, knowledge, loyalty, courage and passion. Now you might hear those words and think they sound pretty good, but what do they actually mean? Because writing down a list of values is fairly easy. The harder part comes when you make a decision that costs you something. When telling the truth might damage your position. When someone you care about disappoints you. When the thing you've worked hard to build starts falling apart. When you're tired, frustrated and looking for someone else to blame. Those are the moments when your values become useful. They give you something to come back to. A standard against which you can measure your behavior. And I want to make something really clear from the start. Sharing my values doesn't mean I believe I get them right all the time. I promise you I don't. They describe the person I'm working to be and when my behavior falls short, they give me a reason to recognize and make an adjustment. So as I walk you through mine today, I want you to think about yours. What matters to you and what would the people who spend the most time around you say that you stand for? So let's start with resilience. My statement around resilience is There is nothing that I cannot come back from. I will always get up and fight on. See, that's a commitment that I make to myself. I know there are going to be setbacks. I know there'll be things I don't see coming. I know that caring deeply about people, building businesses and taking on challenges means accepting the possibility of disappointment. I also know I have a responsibility to decide how I respond. Sometimes we can spend so much energy arguing with what has happened that that we have nothing left to deal with what comes next. We replay the conversation. We go over the decision. We think about what someone should have done, what we should have said, and how unfair the whole thing feels. And sometimes it is unfair. We don't have to pretend otherwise. But eventually there's a question you have to ask. What can I do from here? You might not be able to repair everything. You might not get an apology. You might have to build something different from what you originally wanted. You can still take a step. And getting up and fighting on can look different on different days. Sometimes it means having a difficult conversation. Sometimes it means starting again. Sometimes it means accepting that you need help. There's room for recovery in resilience. There's room for grief. There's room for someone else to put a hand on your shoulder and help you through a difficult period. If you're struggling today, don't measure yourself against somebody else's highlight reel. Ask yourself what your next useful step looks like. Make the phone call, keep the appointment, go for the walk, deal with the one thing that you have enough capacity to deal with today. That's something you can build on. The second value is knowledge. And my statement is applied knowledge will overcome adversity and past history. And the word I want you to pay attention to is applied. Because I know people who consume enormous amounts of information, books, podcasts, courses, seminars. They can tell you what all the experts say. They know the terminology. They've got a quote for every situation. But their behavior hasn't changed. At some point, you have to give what you've learned a job. If you've learned something about communication, use it in your next conversation. If you've learned something about managing your time, change the way you organize tomorrow. If you've learned that you get defensive when someone gives you feedback, practice listening long enough to understand what they're saying. We can get very comfortable preparing to change. Applying knowledge asks us to actually change something. I also believe learning gives us a chance to question the stories that we carry about ourselves. This is just how I am. I've always been bad at that. People don't like me or people like me don't do things like that. Well, perhaps you've never learned how. Perhaps you've been repeating an approach that isn't working. Perhaps there's someone you could ask, a skill you could practice or a belief that you need to examine. Your history matters. It can explain a lot about how you arrived where you are, and you can still learn something that helps you choose your next direction. Knowledge doesn't guarantee success, but applying useful knowledge gives you more options than repeating the same behavior and hoping for a different outcome. So here's a question. What do you already know that you need to start doing? You might already have enough information to take the first step. My third value is loyalty. I may not agree with you, but I'll always stand by you. Loyalty matters deeply to me. I want people close to me to know they can have a difficult day, make a mistake or disagree with me without automatically losing the relationship. We need people in our lives who can see us at our worst and still believe we're capable of doing better. But there's a responsibility that comes with standing beside someone. You have to be prepared to tell them the truth. If you're making a poor decision, and I can see the damage it might cause, then I should care enough to have that conversation with you. Even if you don't particularly like me for it at the time, this might sound like, I care about you, and I think you're getting this wrong. Or, I'll help you work through this, but you need to take responsibility for what happened. That can be a difficult conversation, especially when you know the other person wants agreement. But helping someone grow sometimes involves saying something they don't want to hear, Loyalty also needs boundaries. You can care about someone and refuse to accept ongoing mistreatment. You can support them in making things right without covering up what they've done. In everyday life, loyalty is, to be honest, quite often pretty ordinary. It's just keeping your word, showing up when you said you would, giving someone credit when they've earned it, speaking directly to a person about a problem instead of making them the topic of everyone else's conversation. Those behaviours build trust over time. And I think there's a question worth asking ourselves. Are the people I care about able to rely on me? Think about your actions when they need something from you, your patience when you disagree with them, your honesty when the conversation becomes a little bit uncomfortable. That's where loyalty starts to take shape. The fourth value is courage. And my statement is there is never a wrong time to do the right thing, but it may take some courage. See, we often associate courage with something dramatic, military service, emergency situations, climbing mountains, taking a physical risk. But some of the most important acts of courage happen in ordinary conversations. I got that wrong. I'm sorry. I need help. The way we're treating this person isn't acceptable. I've changed my mind. Those words can ask a lot of us, especially if we're worried about how we'll look. Sometimes we know what needs doing, but we keep putting it off because we want to avoid the discomfort. We hope the issue will resolve itself. We wait for a better mood, a quieter week, or a moment when the other person will somehow be pleased to hear it. Meanwhile, the problem gets bigger. If you lead people, you'll understand this. When an expectation is unclear or a behavior goes unaddressed, the rest of the team still has to live with it. Your reluctance to have a difficult conversation is can become their daily frustration. Courage asks you to accept your share of that discomfort. It also asks you for judgment. Get the facts. Listen. Consider the consequences. Choose an appropriate time and way to react. And be prepared to discover that you were wrong. There's courage in changing your position when you learn something new. There's courage in turning around on an adventure when conditions demand it. There's courage in admitting that a decision you were certain about needs another look. So think about your life right now. What conversations have you been avoiding? What decision keeps coming back to you? What would a responsible first step look like? And the final one is passion. And my statement is simple. Passion is an amazing alarm clock. I love having something in my life that makes me want to get up and get into the day. Adventure does that for me. Personal development does that for me. A meaningful moment. any meaningful work that helps you understand why you're prepared to put in the effort. That's what it's about. Passion still involves ordinary days. There's preparation, administration, repetition, problems to solve. You won't feel enthusiastic about every task. That's where discipline helps you to keep your commitment and where looking after yourself helps you sustain the effort. You can care deeply about something and still need a break. I also don't believe everyone needs one enormous life-defining calling. You might find meaning in being a parent, coaching a local team, learning a skill, building something, helping someone, training for an adventure you've wanted to do for years. Pay attention to what interests you. Try things. Give yourself permission to be a beginner. Sometimes we sit around waiting to discover our passion when we could be getting out into the world and finding out what we enjoy. That's closely connected to the whole not dead yet, and what that means to myself and my team. I want to live the depth and breadth of my life as well as its length. I want experiences, relationships, memories, challenges that are something of me. I want to encourage other people to make room for those things too. So what gives you something to look forward to? And have you actually made room for it? So those are my five main values. Of course, we all have more, but the five main ones I really try to live by and I don't always get right. Resilience, knowledge, loyalty, courage, passion. They help me think about how I respond to setbacks, what I do with what I learn, how I treat people, what I'm prepared to act on and where I put my energy. Now I want to leave you with a practical challenge. Write down three to five values of your own. Take a little time with it. Choose words that matter enough to influence your decisions. Then beside each one, write down a behavior. If you value family, what will you do that demonstrates it? If you value health, what commitment will you make? If you value honesty, where do you need to have a truthful conversation? Make the behavior specific. I'll be more patient is difficult to measure. I'll put my phone away while we have dinner gives you something you can actually do. Then choose one action for the next seven days. Just one to begin with. At the end of the week, ask yourself whether you followed through. If you did, keep building. If you didn't, be honest about what got in the way and decide what you'll change. That's the work. Learning to bring your actions into line with what you say matters to you. That's it, team. I'm Glen Azar. This is the Building Better Humans Project podcast. Have a great week ahead. Look after the people around you. Hold yourself accountable and keep building. Because we're not dead yet.
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Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to this episode of the Building Better Humans podcast with your host, Glenn Azar. For feedback, to stay up to date, or go back and find an old episode, head over to 180.net.au. Yeah, the Building Better Humans project podcast.
00:11:46
Speaker 1: Let's go.
Speaker 1: Hey team, welcome back to the Building Better Humans Project podcast brought to you by Adventure Professionals, www.adventureprofessionals.com.au. Today I want to share something personal and this is the five values that I try to live by. Resilience, knowledge, loyalty, courage and passion. Now you might hear those words and think they sound pretty good, but what do they actually mean? Because writing down a list of values is fairly easy. The harder part comes when you make a decision that costs you something. When telling the truth might damage your position. When someone you care about disappoints you. When the thing you've worked hard to build starts falling apart. When you're tired, frustrated and looking for someone else to blame. Those are the moments when your values become useful. They give you something to come back to. A standard against which you can measure your behavior. And I want to make something really clear from the start. Sharing my values doesn't mean I believe I get them right all the time. I promise you I don't. They describe the person I'm working to be and when my behavior falls short, they give me a reason to recognize and make an adjustment. So as I walk you through mine today, I want you to think about yours. What matters to you and what would the people who spend the most time around you say that you stand for? So let's start with resilience. My statement around resilience is There is nothing that I cannot come back from. I will always get up and fight on. See, that's a commitment that I make to myself. I know there are going to be setbacks. I know there'll be things I don't see coming. I know that caring deeply about people, building businesses and taking on challenges means accepting the possibility of disappointment. I also know I have a responsibility to decide how I respond. Sometimes we can spend so much energy arguing with what has happened that that we have nothing left to deal with what comes next. We replay the conversation. We go over the decision. We think about what someone should have done, what we should have said, and how unfair the whole thing feels. And sometimes it is unfair. We don't have to pretend otherwise. But eventually there's a question you have to ask. What can I do from here? You might not be able to repair everything. You might not get an apology. You might have to build something different from what you originally wanted. You can still take a step. And getting up and fighting on can look different on different days. Sometimes it means having a difficult conversation. Sometimes it means starting again. Sometimes it means accepting that you need help. There's room for recovery in resilience. There's room for grief. There's room for someone else to put a hand on your shoulder and help you through a difficult period. If you're struggling today, don't measure yourself against somebody else's highlight reel. Ask yourself what your next useful step looks like. Make the phone call, keep the appointment, go for the walk, deal with the one thing that you have enough capacity to deal with today. That's something you can build on. The second value is knowledge. And my statement is applied knowledge will overcome adversity and past history. And the word I want you to pay attention to is applied. Because I know people who consume enormous amounts of information, books, podcasts, courses, seminars. They can tell you what all the experts say. They know the terminology. They've got a quote for every situation. But their behavior hasn't changed. At some point, you have to give what you've learned a job. If you've learned something about communication, use it in your next conversation. If you've learned something about managing your time, change the way you organize tomorrow. If you've learned that you get defensive when someone gives you feedback, practice listening long enough to understand what they're saying. We can get very comfortable preparing to change. Applying knowledge asks us to actually change something. I also believe learning gives us a chance to question the stories that we carry about ourselves. This is just how I am. I've always been bad at that. People don't like me or people like me don't do things like that. Well, perhaps you've never learned how. Perhaps you've been repeating an approach that isn't working. Perhaps there's someone you could ask, a skill you could practice or a belief that you need to examine. Your history matters. It can explain a lot about how you arrived where you are, and you can still learn something that helps you choose your next direction. Knowledge doesn't guarantee success, but applying useful knowledge gives you more options than repeating the same behavior and hoping for a different outcome. So here's a question. What do you already know that you need to start doing? You might already have enough information to take the first step. My third value is loyalty. I may not agree with you, but I'll always stand by you. Loyalty matters deeply to me. I want people close to me to know they can have a difficult day, make a mistake or disagree with me without automatically losing the relationship. We need people in our lives who can see us at our worst and still believe we're capable of doing better. But there's a responsibility that comes with standing beside someone. You have to be prepared to tell them the truth. If you're making a poor decision, and I can see the damage it might cause, then I should care enough to have that conversation with you. Even if you don't particularly like me for it at the time, this might sound like, I care about you, and I think you're getting this wrong. Or, I'll help you work through this, but you need to take responsibility for what happened. That can be a difficult conversation, especially when you know the other person wants agreement. But helping someone grow sometimes involves saying something they don't want to hear, Loyalty also needs boundaries. You can care about someone and refuse to accept ongoing mistreatment. You can support them in making things right without covering up what they've done. In everyday life, loyalty is, to be honest, quite often pretty ordinary. It's just keeping your word, showing up when you said you would, giving someone credit when they've earned it, speaking directly to a person about a problem instead of making them the topic of everyone else's conversation. Those behaviours build trust over time. And I think there's a question worth asking ourselves. Are the people I care about able to rely on me? Think about your actions when they need something from you, your patience when you disagree with them, your honesty when the conversation becomes a little bit uncomfortable. That's where loyalty starts to take shape. The fourth value is courage. And my statement is there is never a wrong time to do the right thing, but it may take some courage. See, we often associate courage with something dramatic, military service, emergency situations, climbing mountains, taking a physical risk. But some of the most important acts of courage happen in ordinary conversations. I got that wrong. I'm sorry. I need help. The way we're treating this person isn't acceptable. I've changed my mind. Those words can ask a lot of us, especially if we're worried about how we'll look. Sometimes we know what needs doing, but we keep putting it off because we want to avoid the discomfort. We hope the issue will resolve itself. We wait for a better mood, a quieter week, or a moment when the other person will somehow be pleased to hear it. Meanwhile, the problem gets bigger. If you lead people, you'll understand this. When an expectation is unclear or a behavior goes unaddressed, the rest of the team still has to live with it. Your reluctance to have a difficult conversation is can become their daily frustration. Courage asks you to accept your share of that discomfort. It also asks you for judgment. Get the facts. Listen. Consider the consequences. Choose an appropriate time and way to react. And be prepared to discover that you were wrong. There's courage in changing your position when you learn something new. There's courage in turning around on an adventure when conditions demand it. There's courage in admitting that a decision you were certain about needs another look. So think about your life right now. What conversations have you been avoiding? What decision keeps coming back to you? What would a responsible first step look like? And the final one is passion. And my statement is simple. Passion is an amazing alarm clock. I love having something in my life that makes me want to get up and get into the day. Adventure does that for me. Personal development does that for me. A meaningful moment. any meaningful work that helps you understand why you're prepared to put in the effort. That's what it's about. Passion still involves ordinary days. There's preparation, administration, repetition, problems to solve. You won't feel enthusiastic about every task. That's where discipline helps you to keep your commitment and where looking after yourself helps you sustain the effort. You can care deeply about something and still need a break. I also don't believe everyone needs one enormous life-defining calling. You might find meaning in being a parent, coaching a local team, learning a skill, building something, helping someone, training for an adventure you've wanted to do for years. Pay attention to what interests you. Try things. Give yourself permission to be a beginner. Sometimes we sit around waiting to discover our passion when we could be getting out into the world and finding out what we enjoy. That's closely connected to the whole not dead yet, and what that means to myself and my team. I want to live the depth and breadth of my life as well as its length. I want experiences, relationships, memories, challenges that are something of me. I want to encourage other people to make room for those things too. So what gives you something to look forward to? And have you actually made room for it? So those are my five main values. Of course, we all have more, but the five main ones I really try to live by and I don't always get right. Resilience, knowledge, loyalty, courage, passion. They help me think about how I respond to setbacks, what I do with what I learn, how I treat people, what I'm prepared to act on and where I put my energy. Now I want to leave you with a practical challenge. Write down three to five values of your own. Take a little time with it. Choose words that matter enough to influence your decisions. Then beside each one, write down a behavior. If you value family, what will you do that demonstrates it? If you value health, what commitment will you make? If you value honesty, where do you need to have a truthful conversation? Make the behavior specific. I'll be more patient is difficult to measure. I'll put my phone away while we have dinner gives you something you can actually do. Then choose one action for the next seven days. Just one to begin with. At the end of the week, ask yourself whether you followed through. If you did, keep building. If you didn't, be honest about what got in the way and decide what you'll change. That's the work. Learning to bring your actions into line with what you say matters to you. That's it, team. I'm Glen Azar. This is the Building Better Humans Project podcast. Have a great week ahead. Look after the people around you. Hold yourself accountable and keep building. Because we're not dead yet.
00:11:29
Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to this episode of the Building Better Humans podcast with your host, Glenn Azar. For feedback, to stay up to date, or go back and find an old episode, head over to 180.net.au. Yeah, the Building Better Humans project podcast.
00:11:46
Speaker 1: Let's go.
