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Welcome back.
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Last week I shared something I had recently realized about decisiveness.
00:00:52.090 --> 00:01:09.370
And this week, decisiveness came up a lot during sessions with clients, so I realized there was something much larger underneath that conversation.
00:01:10.650 --> 00:01:25.609
And it's one thing to say be decisive, but it's another thing to just entirely understand why we struggle so much with making decisions.
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We can know something and we'll still go in circles around it.
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Why can we feel the answer in our body and then we spend three more days or three more weeks, sometimes three more years, trying to figure it out?
00:01:46.169 --> 00:01:57.449
And why do we ask more people what they think when if we're really being honest, we already know what we think?
00:01:58.090 --> 00:02:07.849
And so I started wondering: what if some of what we call confusion isn't actually confusion?
00:02:09.210 --> 00:02:11.129
What if we actually know?
00:02:12.330 --> 00:02:18.409
What if we actually know the answer and we just haven't decided?
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There's a difference between confusion and just not having decided.
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It's called indecision.
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There's a difference between decisiveness and indecision and confusion.
00:02:46.090 --> 00:02:56.330
And I want to make an important distinction here because I deeply believe that discernment is available to all of us.
00:02:57.129 --> 00:03:04.090
I believe in sitting with things, I even believe in listening.
00:03:04.810 --> 00:03:06.650
I believe in prayer.
00:03:07.849 --> 00:03:15.849
I believe in paying attention to what happens in our body when something is presented to us.
00:03:16.650 --> 00:03:22.250
And I don't think every decision should be made quickly.
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Sometimes we should wait.
00:03:26.810 --> 00:03:31.050
And sometimes we genuinely don't have enough information.
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But sometimes God reveals to us the next step, and we just haven't taken that next step.
00:03:45.610 --> 00:03:47.210
That's discernment.
00:03:49.530 --> 00:03:54.250
But there's another experience that can look a lot like discernment.
00:03:55.370 --> 00:04:06.969
It's when we already have enough information, but we keep going back over it over and over and over again.
00:04:07.210 --> 00:04:15.930
We're reconsidering, we're asking another person, we're imagining every possible outcome.
00:04:16.730 --> 00:04:23.370
We make the decision and then we make it again, and then eventually we say we're confused.
00:04:24.409 --> 00:04:33.449
But maybe we're not confused, maybe we're just afraid of what happens after we choose.
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Because there is something about a decision that we don't talk about enough, and maybe sometimes we don't even realize this is happening.
00:04:47.050 --> 00:04:56.810
But when we make a decision, we also are closing a door.
00:05:32.729 --> 00:05:33.209
Right?
00:05:33.449 --> 00:05:40.089
And there can actually be grief in decision making.
00:05:41.689 --> 00:05:58.889
Even when the decision is right, especially when the decision is right, because you can decide to leave something, and you can still grieve for what you hoped it would have become.
00:06:00.250 --> 00:06:08.089
You can decide to stay and grieve the life that you might have had if you left.
00:06:09.609 --> 00:06:20.009
You can actually choose one opportunity, and then wonder what would have happened if you had chosen the other.
00:06:23.609 --> 00:06:28.569
That's the power of decision making.
00:06:48.969 --> 00:07:00.889
So you can decide to set a boundary, and then you can still miss the person.
00:07:02.569 --> 00:07:10.409
You can say no to something and still feel the pull of yes.
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You can even say yes and still feel fear, and these feelings don't necessarily make the decision wrong, but that's what makes us not want to choose and make a decision.
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I think this is where we sometimes get ourselves tangled because we make a decision and then we feel the discomfort, and we interpret the discomfort as new information.
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Maybe I shouldn't have done that.
00:07:53.529 --> 00:08:09.529
Maybe, but maybe you're simply feeling the consequence of choosing because a clean decision doesn't guarantee that you're gonna have a comfortable nervous system.
00:08:11.129 --> 00:08:26.569
Sometimes your body needs time to catch up with what you already know, and there's a strange safety inside of indecision.
00:08:29.049 --> 00:08:35.930
A lot of times we feel safe because we haven't made a decision yet.
00:08:36.889 --> 00:08:44.330
Cause as long as I haven't chosen, every possibility still exists.
00:08:44.889 --> 00:08:53.529
I haven't disappointed anyone yet, I haven't risked being wrong, I haven't lost the other option.
00:08:55.210 --> 00:09:02.570
I haven't had to fully take responsibility for what happens next.
00:09:04.090 --> 00:09:22.650
So I can stay hovering in the hallway, or I can have one hand on one door and another hand on another door, and look back and forth.
00:09:24.330 --> 00:09:28.170
And we call that freedom.
00:09:30.170 --> 00:09:43.769
But eventually your arms get tired, your arms get exhausted because the body is tired of preparing for multiple outcomes.
00:09:46.250 --> 00:09:51.610
If I say this, then what if that?
00:09:52.970 --> 00:09:57.290
If I leave, then what about this?
00:09:57.530 --> 00:10:17.129
If I say yes, if I say no, if they respond this way, if they respond that way, the mind runs in circles with possible outcomes, and then there's this tremendous amount of energy required to remain undecided.
00:10:18.490 --> 00:10:22.810
Sometimes more energy than the actual decision itself.
00:10:25.610 --> 00:10:32.810
So I think many of us are waiting for certainty before we decide.
00:10:34.009 --> 00:10:37.210
We want to feel completely calm.
00:10:37.930 --> 00:10:45.129
We want to feel completely clear, we want to feel completely sure.
00:10:46.330 --> 00:10:54.090
We want the decision to arrive without there being any fear attached to it.
00:10:56.410 --> 00:11:00.410
But I don't know that life works that way.
00:11:03.050 --> 00:11:22.889
There are moments of absolute clarity, absolutely, but more than not, there are a lot of moments when you have to choose with the information that you have, and that requires something different than uncertainty.
00:11:23.850 --> 00:11:27.610
It requires something called self-trust.
00:11:29.129 --> 00:11:35.769
And this isn't the kind of self-trust that says I always make the right decision.
00:11:36.889 --> 00:11:38.650
Because we don't.
00:11:39.450 --> 00:11:40.889
Nobody does.
00:11:42.009 --> 00:11:56.490
Self-trust says, even if this decision doesn't unfold the way I hope, I trust myself to meet what comes next.
00:11:57.370 --> 00:11:58.650
And that's it.
00:12:00.490 --> 00:12:06.889
Because now I don't need the decision to protect me from life.
00:12:07.930 --> 00:12:11.850
I don't need to predict every possible outcome.
00:12:12.889 --> 00:12:18.810
I don't need God to hand me everything on a silver platter.
00:12:20.889 --> 00:12:25.850
I can just take one step and listen.
00:12:28.009 --> 00:12:32.330
I can take one step and pray.
00:12:33.610 --> 00:12:37.930
I can take one step and discern.
00:12:40.170 --> 00:12:42.090
And then I can move.
00:12:44.330 --> 00:12:59.610
And this is something that I've noticed in my own life is that sometimes my knowing arrives before my reasoning does.
00:13:01.370 --> 00:13:03.370
And this is called intuition.
00:13:05.370 --> 00:13:11.370
There is simply a yes or a no.
00:13:13.129 --> 00:13:19.610
And then my mind comes running in afterwards with all the documentation.
00:13:20.970 --> 00:13:21.610
Why?
00:13:22.330 --> 00:13:23.610
How do we know?
00:13:24.170 --> 00:13:26.250
What evidence do we have?
00:13:27.050 --> 00:13:28.170
What if you're wrong?
00:13:28.330 --> 00:13:30.250
What will everyone think?
00:13:30.570 --> 00:13:41.210
The mind will sometimes, like intuition, it tries to arrive with a PowerPoint presentation.
00:13:43.210 --> 00:13:45.290
But it doesn't work that way.
00:13:47.290 --> 00:13:50.090
Most times the knowing is quiet.
00:13:52.009 --> 00:14:11.610
And I want to be careful here because a lot of us can confuse anxiety and urgency and convincing, and fear can masquerade as intuition, just so you know.
00:14:14.090 --> 00:14:19.290
Fear can masquerade as intuition.
00:14:21.610 --> 00:14:26.570
So this isn't about blindly obeying every sensation.
00:14:28.170 --> 00:14:30.970
This is why discernment matters.
00:14:32.170 --> 00:14:43.290
But over time we can begin to recognize what our knowing looks and feels like.
00:14:56.090 --> 00:15:07.450
One is trying to convince me, and the other doesn't seem to particularly be interested in arguing.
00:15:08.009 --> 00:15:09.450
It just sits there.
00:15:12.250 --> 00:15:17.610
Intuition just sits and whispers quietly.
00:15:19.769 --> 00:15:21.050
And it waits.
00:15:22.970 --> 00:15:29.690
And so this is where decision making becomes devotional for me.
00:15:30.889 --> 00:15:38.250
Because devotion asks me to be present with what is true right now.
00:15:39.290 --> 00:15:53.050
Not what might be true in six months, not what somebody else wants to be true, not what would create the least amount of discomfort.
00:15:54.170 --> 00:15:56.730
What is true now?
00:15:59.450 --> 00:16:07.930
And then the question becomes: am I willing to stand inside that truth?
00:16:10.009 --> 00:16:14.730
And this is the difficult question.
00:16:16.410 --> 00:16:22.490
Because it asks us, how can I guarantee that this is the right decision?
00:16:23.769 --> 00:16:25.690
We can't guarantee.
00:16:26.570 --> 00:16:33.450
We're human beings moving through time, and we make decisions with partial information.
00:16:34.090 --> 00:16:39.290
We discover things, we change, new information arrives.
00:16:41.690 --> 00:16:52.650
You can make a clear decision today and remain for a new outcome tomorrow.
00:16:54.170 --> 00:16:59.370
That isn't wavering, that's just being responsive.
00:17:02.170 --> 00:17:15.769
But if we constantly abandon today's knowing because tomorrow might reveal something different, that's what creates wavering and instability.
00:17:16.089 --> 00:17:23.450
And at some point, we have to let the information we have right now be enough.
00:17:25.930 --> 00:17:29.129
So I want to leave you with something today.
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Think about an area of your life where you have been saying, I just don't know what to do.
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Don't force an answer.
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Don't analyze it.
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Just notice what happens in your body when I ask you this.
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If you didn't have to explain your decision to anyone, what would you choose?
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If you didn't have to explain your decision to anyone, what would you choose?
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And then ask yourself this.
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If no one could be disappointed by your decision, what would you choose?
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If no one could be disappointed by your decision, what would you choose?
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And then there's one more question.
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If you knew that you could handle whatever happens after you make this decision, what would you choose?
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If you knew you could handle whatever happens after this decision, what would you choose?
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Now notice whether it becomes clear.
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Were you waiting for permission?
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Were you waiting for permission to not disappoint someone?
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Were you waiting for permission to change your mind?
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Were you waiting for permission to choose something without knowing exactly where it leads?
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Were you waiting for permission to trust what you already know?
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So maybe decisiveness isn't about becoming someone who never questions themselves.
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Maybe it's not about certainty at all.
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Maybe it's just the willingness.
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Maybe it's just the willingness to say, this is what I know today.
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This is what I choose today, and I trust myself enough to meet whatever comes.
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That's devotion.
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Because eventually life asks us to stop standing in indecisiveness.
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So I'll leave you with one final question.
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What decision are you still trying to figure out that somewhere beneath all of that thinking, you may already have made the decision?
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I'll see you in the next episode.
00:00:41.130 --> 00:00:42.490
Welcome back.
00:00:43.929 --> 00:00:50.969
Last week I shared something I had recently realized about decisiveness.
00:00:52.090 --> 00:01:09.370
And this week, decisiveness came up a lot during sessions with clients, so I realized there was something much larger underneath that conversation.
00:01:10.650 --> 00:01:25.609
And it's one thing to say be decisive, but it's another thing to just entirely understand why we struggle so much with making decisions.
00:01:26.890 --> 00:01:33.370
We can know something and we'll still go in circles around it.
00:01:33.689 --> 00:01:45.689
Why can we feel the answer in our body and then we spend three more days or three more weeks, sometimes three more years, trying to figure it out?
00:01:46.169 --> 00:01:57.449
And why do we ask more people what they think when if we're really being honest, we already know what we think?
00:01:58.090 --> 00:02:07.849
And so I started wondering: what if some of what we call confusion isn't actually confusion?
00:02:09.210 --> 00:02:11.129
What if we actually know?
00:02:12.330 --> 00:02:18.409
What if we actually know the answer and we just haven't decided?
00:02:20.729 --> 00:02:31.770
There's a difference between confusion and just not having decided.
00:02:33.370 --> 00:02:35.370
It's called indecision.
00:02:36.009 --> 00:02:45.449
There's a difference between decisiveness and indecision and confusion.
00:02:46.090 --> 00:02:56.330
And I want to make an important distinction here because I deeply believe that discernment is available to all of us.
00:02:57.129 --> 00:03:04.090
I believe in sitting with things, I even believe in listening.
00:03:04.810 --> 00:03:06.650
I believe in prayer.
00:03:07.849 --> 00:03:15.849
I believe in paying attention to what happens in our body when something is presented to us.
00:03:16.650 --> 00:03:22.250
And I don't think every decision should be made quickly.
00:03:22.570 --> 00:03:26.570
Sometimes we should wait.
00:03:26.810 --> 00:03:31.050
And sometimes we genuinely don't have enough information.
00:03:32.890 --> 00:03:44.330
But sometimes God reveals to us the next step, and we just haven't taken that next step.
00:03:45.610 --> 00:03:47.210
That's discernment.
00:03:49.530 --> 00:03:54.250
But there's another experience that can look a lot like discernment.
00:03:55.370 --> 00:04:06.969
It's when we already have enough information, but we keep going back over it over and over and over again.
00:04:07.210 --> 00:04:15.930
We're reconsidering, we're asking another person, we're imagining every possible outcome.
00:04:16.730 --> 00:04:23.370
We make the decision and then we make it again, and then eventually we say we're confused.
00:04:24.409 --> 00:04:33.449
But maybe we're not confused, maybe we're just afraid of what happens after we choose.
00:04:35.529 --> 00:04:46.490
Because there is something about a decision that we don't talk about enough, and maybe sometimes we don't even realize this is happening.
00:04:47.050 --> 00:04:56.810
But when we make a decision, we also are closing a door.
00:05:32.729 --> 00:05:33.209
Right?
00:05:33.449 --> 00:05:40.089
And there can actually be grief in decision making.
00:05:41.689 --> 00:05:58.889
Even when the decision is right, especially when the decision is right, because you can decide to leave something, and you can still grieve for what you hoped it would have become.
00:06:00.250 --> 00:06:08.089
You can decide to stay and grieve the life that you might have had if you left.
00:06:09.609 --> 00:06:20.009
You can actually choose one opportunity, and then wonder what would have happened if you had chosen the other.
00:06:23.609 --> 00:06:28.569
That's the power of decision making.
00:06:48.969 --> 00:07:00.889
So you can decide to set a boundary, and then you can still miss the person.
00:07:02.569 --> 00:07:10.409
You can say no to something and still feel the pull of yes.
00:07:12.089 --> 00:07:31.609
You can even say yes and still feel fear, and these feelings don't necessarily make the decision wrong, but that's what makes us not want to choose and make a decision.
00:07:32.889 --> 00:07:49.289
I think this is where we sometimes get ourselves tangled because we make a decision and then we feel the discomfort, and we interpret the discomfort as new information.
00:07:50.649 --> 00:07:52.729
Maybe I shouldn't have done that.
00:07:53.529 --> 00:08:09.529
Maybe, but maybe you're simply feeling the consequence of choosing because a clean decision doesn't guarantee that you're gonna have a comfortable nervous system.
00:08:11.129 --> 00:08:26.569
Sometimes your body needs time to catch up with what you already know, and there's a strange safety inside of indecision.
00:08:29.049 --> 00:08:35.930
A lot of times we feel safe because we haven't made a decision yet.
00:08:36.889 --> 00:08:44.330
Cause as long as I haven't chosen, every possibility still exists.
00:08:44.889 --> 00:08:53.529
I haven't disappointed anyone yet, I haven't risked being wrong, I haven't lost the other option.
00:08:55.210 --> 00:09:02.570
I haven't had to fully take responsibility for what happens next.
00:09:04.090 --> 00:09:22.650
So I can stay hovering in the hallway, or I can have one hand on one door and another hand on another door, and look back and forth.
00:09:24.330 --> 00:09:28.170
And we call that freedom.
00:09:30.170 --> 00:09:43.769
But eventually your arms get tired, your arms get exhausted because the body is tired of preparing for multiple outcomes.
00:09:46.250 --> 00:09:51.610
If I say this, then what if that?
00:09:52.970 --> 00:09:57.290
If I leave, then what about this?
00:09:57.530 --> 00:10:17.129
If I say yes, if I say no, if they respond this way, if they respond that way, the mind runs in circles with possible outcomes, and then there's this tremendous amount of energy required to remain undecided.
00:10:18.490 --> 00:10:22.810
Sometimes more energy than the actual decision itself.
00:10:25.610 --> 00:10:32.810
So I think many of us are waiting for certainty before we decide.
00:10:34.009 --> 00:10:37.210
We want to feel completely calm.
00:10:37.930 --> 00:10:45.129
We want to feel completely clear, we want to feel completely sure.
00:10:46.330 --> 00:10:54.090
We want the decision to arrive without there being any fear attached to it.
00:10:56.410 --> 00:11:00.410
But I don't know that life works that way.
00:11:03.050 --> 00:11:22.889
There are moments of absolute clarity, absolutely, but more than not, there are a lot of moments when you have to choose with the information that you have, and that requires something different than uncertainty.
00:11:23.850 --> 00:11:27.610
It requires something called self-trust.
00:11:29.129 --> 00:11:35.769
And this isn't the kind of self-trust that says I always make the right decision.
00:11:36.889 --> 00:11:38.650
Because we don't.
00:11:39.450 --> 00:11:40.889
Nobody does.
00:11:42.009 --> 00:11:56.490
Self-trust says, even if this decision doesn't unfold the way I hope, I trust myself to meet what comes next.
00:11:57.370 --> 00:11:58.650
And that's it.
00:12:00.490 --> 00:12:06.889
Because now I don't need the decision to protect me from life.
00:12:07.930 --> 00:12:11.850
I don't need to predict every possible outcome.
00:12:12.889 --> 00:12:18.810
I don't need God to hand me everything on a silver platter.
00:12:20.889 --> 00:12:25.850
I can just take one step and listen.
00:12:28.009 --> 00:12:32.330
I can take one step and pray.
00:12:33.610 --> 00:12:37.930
I can take one step and discern.
00:12:40.170 --> 00:12:42.090
And then I can move.
00:12:44.330 --> 00:12:59.610
And this is something that I've noticed in my own life is that sometimes my knowing arrives before my reasoning does.
00:13:01.370 --> 00:13:03.370
And this is called intuition.
00:13:05.370 --> 00:13:11.370
There is simply a yes or a no.
00:13:13.129 --> 00:13:19.610
And then my mind comes running in afterwards with all the documentation.
00:13:20.970 --> 00:13:21.610
Why?
00:13:22.330 --> 00:13:23.610
How do we know?
00:13:24.170 --> 00:13:26.250
What evidence do we have?
00:13:27.050 --> 00:13:28.170
What if you're wrong?
00:13:28.330 --> 00:13:30.250
What will everyone think?
00:13:30.570 --> 00:13:41.210
The mind will sometimes, like intuition, it tries to arrive with a PowerPoint presentation.
00:13:43.210 --> 00:13:45.290
But it doesn't work that way.
00:13:47.290 --> 00:13:50.090
Most times the knowing is quiet.
00:13:52.009 --> 00:14:11.610
And I want to be careful here because a lot of us can confuse anxiety and urgency and convincing, and fear can masquerade as intuition, just so you know.
00:14:14.090 --> 00:14:19.290
Fear can masquerade as intuition.
00:14:21.610 --> 00:14:26.570
So this isn't about blindly obeying every sensation.
00:14:28.170 --> 00:14:30.970
This is why discernment matters.
00:14:32.170 --> 00:14:43.290
But over time we can begin to recognize what our knowing looks and feels like.
00:14:56.090 --> 00:15:07.450
One is trying to convince me, and the other doesn't seem to particularly be interested in arguing.
00:15:08.009 --> 00:15:09.450
It just sits there.
00:15:12.250 --> 00:15:17.610
Intuition just sits and whispers quietly.
00:15:19.769 --> 00:15:21.050
And it waits.
00:15:22.970 --> 00:15:29.690
And so this is where decision making becomes devotional for me.
00:15:30.889 --> 00:15:38.250
Because devotion asks me to be present with what is true right now.
00:15:39.290 --> 00:15:53.050
Not what might be true in six months, not what somebody else wants to be true, not what would create the least amount of discomfort.
00:15:54.170 --> 00:15:56.730
What is true now?
00:15:59.450 --> 00:16:07.930
And then the question becomes: am I willing to stand inside that truth?
00:16:10.009 --> 00:16:14.730
And this is the difficult question.
00:16:16.410 --> 00:16:22.490
Because it asks us, how can I guarantee that this is the right decision?
00:16:23.769 --> 00:16:25.690
We can't guarantee.
00:16:26.570 --> 00:16:33.450
We're human beings moving through time, and we make decisions with partial information.
00:16:34.090 --> 00:16:39.290
We discover things, we change, new information arrives.
00:16:41.690 --> 00:16:52.650
You can make a clear decision today and remain for a new outcome tomorrow.
00:16:54.170 --> 00:16:59.370
That isn't wavering, that's just being responsive.
00:17:02.170 --> 00:17:15.769
But if we constantly abandon today's knowing because tomorrow might reveal something different, that's what creates wavering and instability.
00:17:16.089 --> 00:17:23.450
And at some point, we have to let the information we have right now be enough.
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So I want to leave you with something today.
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Think about an area of your life where you have been saying, I just don't know what to do.
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Don't force an answer.
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Don't analyze it.
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Just notice what happens in your body when I ask you this.
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If you didn't have to explain your decision to anyone, what would you choose?
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If you didn't have to explain your decision to anyone, what would you choose?
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And then ask yourself this.
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If no one could be disappointed by your decision, what would you choose?
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If no one could be disappointed by your decision, what would you choose?
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And then there's one more question.
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If you knew that you could handle whatever happens after you make this decision, what would you choose?
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If you knew you could handle whatever happens after this decision, what would you choose?
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Now notice whether it becomes clear.
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Were you waiting for permission?
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Were you waiting for permission to not disappoint someone?
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Were you waiting for permission to change your mind?
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Were you waiting for permission to choose something without knowing exactly where it leads?
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Were you waiting for permission to trust what you already know?
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So maybe decisiveness isn't about becoming someone who never questions themselves.
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Maybe it's not about certainty at all.
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Maybe it's just the willingness.
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Maybe it's just the willingness to say, this is what I know today.
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This is what I choose today, and I trust myself enough to meet whatever comes.
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That's devotion.
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Because eventually life asks us to stop standing in indecisiveness.
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So I'll leave you with one final question.
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What decision are you still trying to figure out that somewhere beneath all of that thinking, you may already have made the decision?
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I'll see you in the next episode.
