How People Really Work | A Conversation with My Father - Bart Mc Enroe | E11

This episode is a little different.

I sat down with my dad for a quiet, honest conversation about life, people, and what he’s learned over 20 years as a leadership consultant and psychotherapist working with humans in all kinds of systems, families, and organisations.

We talk about how people really work. Why behaviour makes sense when you understand what’s going on underneath. How emotions shape everything. Why conflict usually isn’t about the thing we think it is. And what happens when we stop trying to fix people and start learning how to understand them.

Bart's approach has been extremely successful across both sport and business. In the Irish sporting world, he has worked closely with leading inter-county GAA managers, including Pat Gilroy, Mickey Harte, and Jack O’Connor, during periods that went on to produce multiple All-Ireland titles. His work has also extended into the business world, supporting some of Ireland's most senior and respected CEOs.

Recording this felt meaningful. These are conversations I’ve been learning from my whole life, and I’m grateful to finally share one with you.

More podcasts with Bart: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2NrnmJzsY8a97bcb5wNvk5?si=8eZcprWTSRWitAClDxzlZA

More on Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinder
Interested in a Free/Donation based Purpose Blueprint session? Contact me via website: ⁠www.humankinder.com.au⁠Chapters

00:00: Episode Overview 

01:16: Introduction: Bart McEnroe

02:09: Bart's Background and Career Journey

04:03: Challenges in Organizational Leadership

06:48: Effective Communication and Strategy Implementation

08:56: The Importance of Open Questions and Active Listening

22:09: Creating Conditions for Emergence and Flow

42:11: Understanding the Three Uncomfortable Emotions

43:17: The Fight, Flight, and Freeze Responses

44:14: Connecting Emotions to Physical Reactions

47:53 : The Importance of Naming Emotions

49:24:  Breathing Techniques for Emotional Regulation

52:40:  The Impact of Trauma on Emotions

54:46:  Differentiating Emotions and Feelings

01:07:09:  Comfort Eating and Emotional Triggers

01:12:32: Chronic Trauma and Attachment Theory

01:16:42: Understanding Implicit and Explicit Memories

01:17:42: The Power of Narrative Integration

01:18:43: Becoming Aware of Uncomfortable Sensations

01:19:49: Shifting Your Relationship with Emotions

01:20:17: The Role of Sensitivity and Abandonment

01:28:38: Practical Exercises for Emotional Integration

01:43:52: Applying the Techniques in Daily Life

01:48:20: Final Thoughts and Encouragement