The push-pull pattern you don’t realize you’re creating (and why it keeps happening)

Have you ever chased connection until you felt rejected one too many times... and then suddenly found yourself pulling away?

In this episode, we’re exploring the push-pull pattern that happens when our attempts to feel safe accidentally keep the cycle going. I’m sharing how I learned to use distance to get connection, why we can move between chasing and withdrawing, and the question that helped me understand why the same relationship dynamics kept showing up in my life.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I keep ending up in relationships like this?” this episode will give you a different question to ask.

This episode is for you if...

* You keep finding yourself in anxious/avoidant or push-pull relationships

* You chase connection until you feel rejected, then suddenly shut down

* You judge yourself for how you’ve behaved in past relationships

* You keep wondering why the same relationship dynamic follows you

Your invitation…

Instead of asking, “Why do I keep ending up in relationships like this?” try asking yourself:

“What is the lesson I’m being invited to learn when I find myself in this relationship dynamic?”

Actually write the answer down, and if you feel open to sharing, leave it in the comments.

Maybe this relationship isn’t proof that something is wrong with you. Maybe it’s illuminating something you’re finally ready to see.

And if you want to go beyond understanding the push-pull pattern and actually tend to the part of you living inside of it, last week’s members-only episode is a guided Shadow Work + Inner Child Healing practice specifically for this dynamic.

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