Becoming an Irreplaceable Husband with Meredith & Ian Lobas - Episode 302

Marriage is not just about two people living together. When you’re married, you don’t have a housemate, you have a partner that you have made a commitment to. Not just to provide for or take care of, your commitment also has to do with who you are and who you become. Constant personal evolution and growth is a must. 

For the first couple years of our marriage, I wasnt following those rules. In my mind, because I was providing financially at a high level and we were living a great life, thats all the contribution that was necessary. 

Yeah, I was a fucking failure as a husband and then the day came when Mere had enough. She gave me an ultimatum that hit me square between the eyes. It broke me and knocked me onto a course of deep level personal growth and development. The fact that not only was I replaceable in my marriage, I also realized that like most men, I was also replaceable as a leader in my business, as a professional and sadly, as a father. 

Everything changed when the fear of her being with someone else kicked in and I would have let her go knowing that I could have done something however I remained selfish and in my ego. It was beyone fear, I felt and sensed the immense regret I would feel later on in life knowing that I had the chance to make it better and didnt. 

So the first commitment was to me, to put me first in a serving way and focus on my growth while I learned about what she needed and who she needed me to be. 

In this special episode, my wife (Meredith) and I put everything on the table and talk about our relationship from the beginning. We are vulnerable and honest about the ins and outs of our marriage in hopes of helping every man out there to transform into their best selves and finally become The Irreplaceable Man & Husband that they need to be, the one their wives want to be with and the one their wives will never leave.. Yes, brother, its all on you! 

Now that we have switched over to The Irreplaceable Man podcast, you can expect 2x episodes a month with Meredith and I digging into a new topic that stop marriages from being amazing and stop men from being irreplaceable. 

TIMESTAMPS:

00:03:07 Ian’s Fear: His wife never getting over the resentment from who he used to be

00:04:30 Great Partnership = Great Marriage

00:06:22 Moving Past Resentment to Instill Good Communication

00:07:57 Meredith & Ian’s Story

00:10:07 Wanting to Be the Provider

00:11:12 Making Money Your Identity Could Destroy You

00:11:55 Angles of Avoidance

00:14:29 Creating A Curriculum for Yourself

00:16:29 What It Means to Be Replaced

00:19:05 Take It All On You

00:21:24 The Feeling of Stability

00:23:29 Rushing into Relationships and Feeling Obligated

00:28:04 Creating Time for Just You and Your Spouse

00:29:05 Seeking Approval Externally

00:33:51 Change Before She Pulls the Switch

00:35:55 Postpartum Depression & Anxiety

00:38:02 Men Having the Fear to be Vulnerable

00:38:13 Feminine Flow Energy

00:41:38 The Fear of Loving Too Much

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