Everything’s Perfect Except… You Banned My Kid’s Oreos

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We're talking about like five-year-olds. One of the moms posted
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in the group, hey, can we all agree not to
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send Oreos to school? The mom will not say why.
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She's making it sound very dramatic. She's like, I have
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my reasons and I'm not going to say what they are.
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And one day, Michelle, this is the mom, goes to
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the school and looks in one of the little girl's
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lunch boxes to see if there were Oreos. And she's like,
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I saw on so-and-so's lunch box. And so then that
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girl's mom chimes in and she's like, you went in
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my daughter's lunch box. She was like, please. It was
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sitting right there in the hallway. And she was like,
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if you go into my daughter's lunch box again, there's
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gonna be a whole other conversation to have.
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It's wild.
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You can't make this shit up. Okay.
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Okay, girl.
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I am excited for this one because it has been
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entertaining me for the last several days. And by the time... Hey.
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Oh.
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They're supposed to be like that. I was literally like,
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it's so hot in here. What can I wear that
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I'm not going to be hot in? This topic has
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been entertaining me. I keep sending you these reels. Have
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you watched them?
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Yes.
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Oreo Gate?
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Mm-hmm.
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It's... It's wild.
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So good. So good.
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You can't make this shit up.
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I'm saying.
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Okay.
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Tell the people.
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So, Oreo Gate. This is where the algorithm every once
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in a while gives you just a nice little gem.
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I don't know how I got served this up. But
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if you don't know what Oreo Gate is, first of all,
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you're missing out. So, search the hashtag. It's a mom's group. Like,
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their daughters all go to the same school. They're all
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in the same grade. We're talking about, like, five-year-olds. And
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it started maybe a week or so ago. And one
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of the moms posted in the group, hey, can we
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all agree not to send Oreos to school? And so
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one of the other moms chimes in right away and
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she was like, oh my gosh, yes. Like, is it
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an allergy we should be aware of? Just, you know,
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what's the allergy so we don't send anything else? And
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so the mom says, no, it's just that, I think,
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I hope I get the two little girls' names right.
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Like Isla brought Oreos and my daughter Ava isn't allowed
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to have Oreos. And so she came up home upset,
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crying that Isla had Oreos at school and she wasn't
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allowed to have Oreos. So you can tell the mom group,
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the chat. This is crazy.
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I already have questions.
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Is already like, wait, what? Because they were expecting it
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to be a thing, like a serious issue if you're
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saying Oreos. And so they're like, well, you can't really
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dictate what other kids get to have just because your
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kid can't have it. And the mom, Michelle, is like
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now kind of on like a tangent about, I don't
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want my daughter to have it. And why can't you
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guys just respect what I want and not send Oreos
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to school? And so now it's gotten to the point
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where this mom group– It's not funny to bully because
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now they're all sort of like purposefully sending Oreos in
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their kids. And they're not sending like huge packs. They're
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sending like two Oreos. So then you see like the
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next chat is like, and today somebody brought double stuff.
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And Ava didn't even know what those were until today.
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It's nuts.
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And one mom chimes in and she's like, that was me.
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And so like they're obviously like owning it, that they're
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doing it. And they're going on and there's like celebrities
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commenting on this stuff. Like they're being reached out to
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by like news outlets. And this one woman that I
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follow keeps putting the group texts to song, to music
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through an app.
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I'm obsessed with that.
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It just is killing me. But it does bring up
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a bigger question. That's why we're talking about it. I mean,
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it is a little funny because the mom won't say
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what her issue is.
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Is the mom who doesn't want Oreos to come, is
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she mad that people are sharing it and stuff?
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Okay, she doesn't have social media. She does not realize
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that it is a big thing yet.
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Oh, wow.
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So they're waiting for her to find out. But there's
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all these celebrities commenting and fully invested in it, and
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then they're like, oh my God, when's Michelle going to
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find out? And then one day, Michelle, this is the mom,
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goes to the school and looks in one of the
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little girls' lunchboxes to see if there were Oreos. And
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she's like, she says it in the group chat, like
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I saw in so-and-so's lunchbox. And so then that girl's
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mom chimes in and she's like, you went in my
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daughter's lunchbox. She was like, please, it was sitting right
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there in the hallway. And she was like, if you
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go into my daughter's lunchbox again, there's going to be
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a whole other conversation to have. Like, and, uh, In
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the meantime, the two little five-year-olds, so the girl I
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like tried to give Ava an Oreo because Ava asked
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for one. And the teacher saw and was like, no, no, no, Ava,
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you're not allowed to have those. The mom will not
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say why. She's making it sound very dramatic. She's like,
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I have my reasons and I'm not going to say
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what they are. And they're like, okay, this is really dramatic. Like,
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why won't you tell us? And she's like, I'm not
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saying it in here. So it's weird. So then the
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little kids decided like, she's not allowed to, The mom
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said you're not allowed to have one. This is some
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genius shit. These kids are the next future leaders. The
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two little girls decide they're going to have a relay
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race or like a race. Whoever gets to the tree
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first gets the second Oreo. So Ava gets to the
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tree first and they give her an Oreo. And she
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was like, I didn't give it to her. That's hers.
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She won it. Oh.
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Genius.
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Fucking genius.
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I mean, that's a loophole I wouldn't have even come
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up with.
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I was like, at five years old, they found the
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political work.
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Exactly.
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They found the loophole.
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Like, no, we didn't give it to her. It belongs
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to her. Fair and square.
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Belongs to her. She won that. I can't keep that
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from her. That was the trophy.
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Oh, my God.
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Can I just play a clip?
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Yes.
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We'll put this clip in there, but I just have to,
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for shits and giggles... Play it. Wait, where is it?
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What?
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Oh, there it is.
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Okay.
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Biscuit crumbs in Ava's lunchbox. What kind of biscuits?
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Have a guess. Dark crumbs? White filling?
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Oh, no.
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Surely not.
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I'm asking Mia. Please do. I know what happens. And?
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Remember their plan to find another way?
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Yes.
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Apparently Mia brought an Oreo to school and told Ava
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she could win it.
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Stop.
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Win it how? Raise first one to the big tree
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and back these two. And apparently this distinction is very
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important to them. Mia says she didn't give Ava anything.
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Ava won it, so it belonged to Ava. They've actually
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fought this through. So my daughter has.
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Eaten another Oreo because they decided winning one somehow doesn't count.
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That appears to be their legal position.
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Yes, I cannot believe this actually works.
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Well, it won't be hot.
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Okay, so it's Mia and Ava at this point now.
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So like, no, the mom asked, is that your whole plan?
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And she said, no, that was the easy one for
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getting her the Oreo.
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That is wild.
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Hilarious.
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Genius, honestly.
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Five-year-old.
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Because you're not giving it. She earned it. Anyone could
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have earned it.
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Whoever won the race. I mean, maybe one of them
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didn't actually run, but.
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So have you ever, when Dom was going to school,
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a little kid, would you ever have even thought about
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sending a text like that?
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Unless it was something that he was severely allergic to.
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Yes.
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I would never send a group chat text saying, can
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we all agree that we won't? Here's the thing. It's
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specifically Oreos. It's not, can we all agree we won't
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send cookies?
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I was wondering if it's like, I know nothing about this,
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but I was wondering if maybe, you know how some
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people think that companies have some kind of political stand
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or maybe the company, maybe the CEO of Oreo donated something.
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And that's why she doesn't want to talk about it
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because it's something that some people would perceive as ridiculous.
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But that's crazy which by the way that's fine if
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that's your opinion and if that's you don't want to
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support that but first of all welcome to life's not
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fair so you need to teach your kid at five
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years old that sometimes people are going to have things
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that they want that they can't have for one reason
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or another so you can't you can't try to control
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the environment around your kid and go like well my
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kid can't well also your kid can't have a five
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carat diamond but if What if somebody else is Ken?
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Is she not allowed to wear it?
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Is a five-year-old kindergarten or first grade? Kindergarten.
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Yeah.
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In kindergarten, definitely first grade, I knew that I was
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allergic to dairy.
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And five could even be quasi-preschool.
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I was going to say, my four-year-old niece, she's four
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and a half and she's in pre-K. So it's like
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an in-between thing.
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Because I think I started kindergarten when I was five,
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but I turned six like a week later, and I
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technically had missed the cutoff, but my dad was like, uh-huh,
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you're taking it.
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But I feel like my eight-year-old niece might be in
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like second or third grade.
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Because it depends on some parents will maybe wait, depending
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on if they feel their kid is ready or not.
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So let's just say it's like pre-KK at five years old.
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We're not entirely sure, but like... Mm-hmm.
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Yeah. I bet it's K.
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Yeah.
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I just did a quick math on my head. You
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know how accurate that is?
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Obviously.
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The number, the math is mathing. Anyways. So even if
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you have an, like, so the reason I say that
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is because we grew up with allergies and we were
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homeschooled most of our life, but I did go to
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school in kindergarten and first grade and my, whatever, my
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mom packed our lunch. We had peanut butter jelly, which.
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You can't send peanuts anymore.
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Exactly.
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But that's a real allergy thing. Like a lot of
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schools just say no peanuts or no nuts because of
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the allergies.
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Which is understandable because that's a severe allergy. If I
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got into some dairy, I'd get a little sick, but
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it was mostly like.
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Phlegm.
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Exactly. Like cold symptoms. It wasn't like I was going to...
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My throat was... Exactly. So it is interesting of how...
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So my brother, I told you, my four and a
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half year old niece, this is her first time going
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to school.
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Okay.
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And for me, it's the first time to hear my
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brother talk about how strange it is for them to
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drop their kid off. Because up to this point of
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her life, Every moment, they've pretty much controlled and observed
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other than small moments where there was a babysitter that
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they knew.
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Yeah.
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Because she didn't have other kids. She wasn't out there
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in the real world making friends.
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She wasn't in the streets.
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Exactly. Like having to defend herself amongst a bunch of assholes,
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which is basically what kindergarten and first grade is.
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Absolutely. Survival of the fittest.
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Survival of the fittest. Bitch, you better be ready.
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This girl figured out how to get her Oreo. She said,
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my mom said, but whatevs.
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Exactly. She was like, look how fast I can run.
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I'm making it to that tree. So it is interesting
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because some people have like such, if it's not an allergy,
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why would someone think that their rule should apply to
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other children?
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Like, I just, because I'm not, I was never really
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like super strict with food in our house. I have
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healthy food in the house. I don't bring a lot
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of junk food into the house, especially when Dom was younger,
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but I was never the parent that was like, oh
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my gosh, he can't eat an M & M because
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of food dye. Even though I'm aware of that and
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it's not something I would let him have on a
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regular basis if it was Halloween or whatever or a
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school party, fine, whatever. But like, I wouldn't expect if
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I had some sort of guideline around that, that I
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would like message the whole class. Like, can you make
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sure you don't bring anything with red dye because I
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don't let Dom eat red dye?
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Right.
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No, it would be, you have to tell your kid.
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We don't eat that.
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Yeah.
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Maybe give them some sort of explanation so that they
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have some context around it.
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Yeah. Like it's made with dog poop. Like you got
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a lot of little kids. It's terrifying.
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You gotta give them a little something to believe in. Like,
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except then they're going to be like, that's made with
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dog poop. And then somebody would be like, no, it's not.
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You're like, yes, it is. My mom wouldn't lie. But
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we find out later. Lots of lies. I know.
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I was about to say something. I was like, what?
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Somebody's listening in the car. Don't say that.
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Don't worry. No spoilers.
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No spoilers here. But I think it's ballsy to message
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the group if it's not a serious situation and be like,
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your kid can't have da-da-da because my kid can't have da-da-da.
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It is beyond. So my family, my aunt... when I
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was growing up was a health fanatic. Like you can't
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even imagine how crunchy granola she was. Okay. Like, And
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so one time I spent the night at her house
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and her house actually was the first time I ever
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spent the night someplace. And this is one of my
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earliest memories because I remember my mom pulling away and
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me being like, no, like losing my shit. And one
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of the biggest struggles I had when I was there
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is everything she tried to get me to eat. I
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was like, this is nasty. Well, I went to church
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with them.
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What was she trying to get you to eat?
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Like everything. She would say for breakfast, she would make honestly,
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I guess grits, but she didn't put any butter or
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salt or anything. It was cornmeal. And she would sometimes
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let us use syrup on it, but we couldn't have
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maple syrup. It was always brown rice syrup because that
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didn't elevate your... But at my house, Like we ate healthy,
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but I also did get pancakes with regular syrup. You
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know what I mean? So I'm like, this shit is
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not the same. This is literally slop that I felt
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like I had. It was so hard for me to
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choke down.
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Grits were not good. My grandparents would make grits, but
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same thing. It was like they wouldn't put a lot
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in it. I'm like, okay, if you're going to make
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me eat this, you're going to need a pound of sugar.
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Doctor it. Oh, honey.
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I need a little something.
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Something, something here. Well, she would make like, she'd call
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it jello, but she got like all natural fruit, like
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apple cider. And she'd put some like, fruit in it
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sometimes and she put this root in it that makes
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it sort of hard but it's not actually it's not
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gelatin it's not the texture of jello and as me
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as someone who again my mom didn't keep jello in
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the house but if we were at a birthday party
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or someone had jello because it wasn't dairy and we
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already could never have dairy she'd let us have a
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little bit right My aunt would just like give things
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the name of things that I had that I liked,
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but then I'd eat it and it was disgusting. It
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was like, is kuzu a root that you can put
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in things that will solidify them? It was some kind
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of- Maybe. Or there's another word I'm thinking, but it'll
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maybe come to me. Or like just so much of that. Well,
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I went to church with her once and my cousins
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and we went to kids' church. And since it was
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my first time, they gave me a sucker. And it
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was this blue. sucker with gum in the middle. And
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so I was so excited. I was enjoying that thing.
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Church was over and they lived next door to the church.
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So we just walked from the church to the house
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and we're walking and everyone's like happy. And my cousin says, mom,
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I can't believe you're not saying anything about Donald having.
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What a bitch your cousin. She just didn't want you
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to have that sucker.
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My aunt said, what? And she grabbed this sucker, pulled
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it out of my mouth and said, this is disgusting.
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You can't eat this and threw it on the ground.
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And she was like, I'm going to say something to
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them because this, and honestly, this sounds like such a
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sad story, but it was like, oh yeah, that that's,
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that's the aunt I know in love. Like I knew,
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I knew something was not right here. Um, and it was,
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it is wild. Like, you know, those suckers, it's like
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you smile and your whole mouth.
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It's like blue lake. That's the name of the dye.
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It's sugar and food dye.
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So, It was like, I knew as a kid, I'm
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not supposed to have that stuff. But even my aunt,
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she might, I wouldn't be surprised if she said something like,
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you really should ask parents before you give, you adults
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give children this candy. Because in her mind, it's like,
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that's a ton of sugar. This is a little child
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and it's going to, he's going to crash from it.
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And then I have to deal with it, you know?
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But my whole life, I don't think any of my
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relatives called ahead and said, don't let your kids to parents. Right.
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It's one thing to say to a teacher, I don't
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think you should be giving all the kids candy. It's
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not Halloween or something like that.
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But even then you can't really say to the teacher, Hey,
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everybody else is okay with their kid getting done.
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But I'm not.
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So what you have to say is I'm at okay
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with it. And your kid is going to have to
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deal with it. Or you, you need to send something
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that they can have.
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Yeah.
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But like, It's just crazy to me to once say
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you can't have like, oh, they can't bring it. Not
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give any reason other than just I said so. It's
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like you're talking to other grown adults. Now, the other
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grown adults all sort of ganging up and starting to
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send Oreos on purpose. Probably a little immature.
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Yeah, I struggle with that, though, because it really is like,
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there is a little like, You're going to tell me
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I can't send Oreos at my kids' lunch?
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Well, I know, but if they weren't all sending Oreos already,
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it was like one mom sent two Oreos in one
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daughter's lunchbox. So then to have everybody sending them every
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single day. Yeah, you're right.
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What you're saying is the mature, correct thing.
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Yeah, like whatever. If somebody wants to send Oreos, send
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your freaking Oreos. But I think to gang up and
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do it continuously.
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Proof of point, yeah. Yes. Because it does just like
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put the kids in like a totally different way of
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looking at it. Okay, so my mom is allergic to
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scented things. Yes. Nell, for example, like when, and I
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gotta say, I think I'm allergic to this bullshit too.
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And I'm allergic to bullshit.
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He used to, he loved the plugins that you bought
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from Bath and Body Works. I would start getting headaches when,
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when he first moved in LA, he was so excited
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to go to Bath and Body and get these new
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plug them in. He's like, I just love it. And
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I was like, I feel like I can't breathe. This is,
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we didn't grow up because of my mom's issue with
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scented candles, nothing like that. And, and I can handle
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a scented candle, especially if it's a scent that I like,
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or I like some perfume and some cologne, but those,
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I think there's going to be some class action lawsuits
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one day for employees who had to work at Bath
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and Body Works. Because you.
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Your hormones are just rusted.
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You gotta be fucked.
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You're just.
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Good lord. I'm like, I'm saying. It's like the only
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thing worse than.
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Working at Abercrombie back in the day. I was just
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going to say that worked at Abercrombie, our generation. Fierce?
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What was it? I don't know.
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But it was literally just... You like hate it.
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Literally. It's like... You can taste it when you went in.
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But so if my mom's coming over, she we have
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to make sure no candles were burning we don't do
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the plugins anymore thank god and Nell actually now understands
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that they're toxic and if you love them and you're
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listening more power to you but I don't recommend. So
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the other day, actually, because I put on this, I
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live in Arizona. And now as you know, and I'm
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trying to make sure I don't turn into a raisin.
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So I didn't use body lotion regularly when I lived here. Okay.
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But There, I tried to lather up all the time
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just to keep everything hydrated to some degree. So I
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had this body butter that I got from Trader Joe's
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and it scented, but it didn't even occur to me.
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So we go to my mom's and just to say
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how sensitive she is, before I walked in, we opened
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the door. No hazard on video. My mom said, oh,
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you smell like you bathed in perfume. What is that?
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She had me go to her bathroom and use her
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flushable wipes and wipe my whole body down. Bitch, I
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was itchy afterwards.
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You should have just gotten a shower.
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That's what I said. I was like, maybe I should
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just shower. That's how sensitive she is. So I give
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all that background to say, When she was working before,
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she actually, she was working at a small office and
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it was a production office. So people weren't like working
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with directly with customers. Most people, people would show up
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in sweats and work. It wasn't like something that works
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with the public. She asked for there to be a
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rule for the employees not to be able to wear perfume.
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Hmm.
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And some people had a real, one specific woman had
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a real issue with that.
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See, I feel like she probably had an issue because
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she probably has triggers about being told what to do.
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Yeah.
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Which I can understand that because I have that too.
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But at the same time, I feel like if you
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just know the person and you're like, oh, they're super
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sensitive to it.
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Okay.
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Yes, I like to wear perfume. So maybe I'll bring
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it like if you're going to go somewhere after work
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and you want to be able to spray it on.
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But that to me seems like to take such an
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issue with it.
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Yeah, when it's an allergy. I guess that's the biggest
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defining difference.
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Yeah, what happens to your mom when she is around it?
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She has reactions like a headache. Her mouth feels itchy,
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kind of, like dry and itchy. And she starts having
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phlegm in her throat. I think the headache is the
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biggest one. And my mom has, you know... HIPAA be damned.
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Go down her medical. But she like has some chronic
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pain and things and it affects all of that. It
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makes everything worse. And so to me, like I'm used
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to it. So I can wear cologne, as you know,
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because last time I came, you said, damn. I was like, sorry,
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a little too many sprays. But I'm fine not wearing
492
00:22:51.460 --> 00:22:53.599
it if it bothers someone.
493
00:22:54.039 --> 00:22:56.960
Well, so it's interesting because I do have a very
494
00:22:57.019 --> 00:23:01.789
heightened sense of smell. Certain things don't bother me at all.
495
00:23:01.930 --> 00:23:04.609
And other things literally make me want to lose my shit.
496
00:23:05.410 --> 00:23:10.369
So the one Louis Vuitton cologne that everybody likes to
497
00:23:10.390 --> 00:23:14.440
wear right now, it's all over Europe.
498
00:23:14.819 --> 00:23:15.079
Yeah.
499
00:23:15.259 --> 00:23:16.859
Like when Dom and I were in France, we would
500
00:23:16.900 --> 00:23:20.119
just constantly, France and Italy, we're just like, oh, everywhere
501
00:23:20.140 --> 00:23:21.720
you go, you're just walking through clouds of it. And
502
00:23:21.740 --> 00:23:25.660
it just is like, just lingers. Like some just, linger
503
00:23:25.740 --> 00:23:27.750
and they stick and it's not that it smells bad
504
00:23:27.829 --> 00:23:33.410
it's that it's so aggressive right i cannot stand fake
505
00:23:33.450 --> 00:23:35.970
laundry detergent can't.
506
00:23:35.170 --> 00:23:37.630
Stand it what do you mean by fake laundry detergent
507
00:23:37.650 --> 00:23:41.819
tied okay no i use fake ones no well sometimes
508
00:23:41.880 --> 00:23:46.259
i use the clean brand of them does that count
509
00:23:47.279 --> 00:23:49.079
like tied ever clear or.
510
00:23:49.000 --> 00:23:52.319
Whatever I don't like, not only do I not like
511
00:23:52.339 --> 00:23:56.220
the smell, I can feel the film. So like if
512
00:23:56.319 --> 00:23:58.599
I stay at somebody's house and they use Tide and
513
00:23:58.700 --> 00:24:00.119
I like use their towels.
514
00:24:00.220 --> 00:24:01.650
Or sleep in their sheets or something.
515
00:24:01.670 --> 00:24:04.569
Or sleep in their sheets. My skin itches. The smell
516
00:24:04.609 --> 00:24:06.990
drives me crazy. I could smell it in my hair.
517
00:24:07.009 --> 00:24:11.769
It's a really like weird sensitive. I know that I
518
00:24:11.829 --> 00:24:14.670
have it. So I try to be aware of it.
519
00:24:14.829 --> 00:24:17.549
But like also there's like, I have had times where
520
00:24:17.670 --> 00:24:20.200
at certain friends' houses, I've showered, I dried off with
521
00:24:20.259 --> 00:24:22.799
a towel, realized that my body is now coated in film,
522
00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:25.599
got back in the shower, washed back off, got out
523
00:24:25.640 --> 00:24:29.619
and stood there and air dried. Because I'm like, I can't.
524
00:24:29.740 --> 00:24:37.089
I'm so uncomfortable by it. But I wouldn't ask somebody
525
00:24:37.109 --> 00:24:39.069
to not.
526
00:24:40.950 --> 00:24:42.089
Yeah.
527
00:24:42.710 --> 00:24:44.500
I might make a joke about how strong it is.
528
00:24:45.289 --> 00:24:45.549
Uh-huh.
529
00:24:45.630 --> 00:24:47.309
Which might be my way of letting you know. It's
530
00:24:47.849 --> 00:24:48.650
a little aggressive.
531
00:24:48.750 --> 00:24:52.480
It's a nice way of me saying, bitch, that's too much. Yes.
532
00:24:53.000 --> 00:24:56.460
My high school boyfriend used to wear, like, the bottle.
533
00:24:57.640 --> 00:25:00.319
I put a lot on sometimes, but it's because in
534
00:25:00.359 --> 00:25:00.980
an hour.
535
00:25:01.009 --> 00:25:04.230
You don't smell it, but that doesn't mean other people
536
00:25:04.269 --> 00:25:04.819
don't smell it.
537
00:25:05.369 --> 00:25:05.509
Oh.
538
00:25:05.589 --> 00:25:09.630
You adjust to it. Mm-hmm. But then when they walk up,
539
00:25:09.670 --> 00:25:10.250
they're like, what?
540
00:25:11.869 --> 00:25:14.269
I really do like to use some, if I find
541
00:25:14.329 --> 00:25:18.910
a good smelling essential oil, that's really what I like
542
00:25:18.950 --> 00:25:20.599
to use the most. Just put a little on my
543
00:25:20.619 --> 00:25:20.990
neck or something.
544
00:25:21.019 --> 00:25:22.099
You have one that I love.
545
00:25:22.150 --> 00:25:25.319
Yeah. But I did. I got a clone in Europe
546
00:25:25.400 --> 00:25:28.420
and took me to the dark side for a second.
547
00:25:28.859 --> 00:25:33.960
My cousin can't handle peppermint. The smell of it. If
548
00:25:34.319 --> 00:25:35.799
she was in this room with us and one of
549
00:25:35.859 --> 00:25:37.759
us put a mint in our mouth, she would have
550
00:25:37.779 --> 00:25:38.099
to leave.
551
00:25:38.700 --> 00:25:41.420
Okay. So Bobby's wife is like that, my sister-in-law, but
552
00:25:41.480 --> 00:25:45.380
like for real mint, any mint, she gets massive migraines instantly.
553
00:25:45.559 --> 00:25:47.039
Oh, that's so interesting.
554
00:25:47.059 --> 00:25:49.869
You can't make anything that has mint even in the kitchen.
555
00:25:50.109 --> 00:25:51.490
Like she'll, she could be in the other room and
556
00:25:51.509 --> 00:25:52.089
she'll get a migraine.
557
00:25:52.329 --> 00:25:55.289
Yeah. I don't know if a migraine is my cousin's
558
00:25:55.329 --> 00:25:59.069
immediate reaction or if it's almost like a bunch of
559
00:25:59.150 --> 00:26:02.690
like severe nausea, but it really is so severe. It's like,
560
00:26:02.730 --> 00:26:05.369
this is some kind of weird allergic reaction that I
561
00:26:05.390 --> 00:26:08.140
don't like don't even know how to describe. Yeah.
562
00:26:08.660 --> 00:26:10.359
Well, it just goes back to the point of like,
563
00:26:10.779 --> 00:26:13.720
what is a, what, where is the line that is appropriate?
564
00:26:15.160 --> 00:26:18.720
Whether it's a work situation, friends, groups, it's like going
565
00:26:18.740 --> 00:26:20.970
to be at a house or an event or school
566
00:26:21.369 --> 00:26:27.910
where you can try to impose your will on a
567
00:26:27.970 --> 00:26:28.930
larger group.
568
00:26:29.470 --> 00:26:31.190
Yeah.
569
00:26:31.210 --> 00:26:34.190
I do think if it's severe allergy, I think it's
570
00:26:34.309 --> 00:26:38.599
perfectly acceptable to ask. and explain why and be nice
571
00:26:38.660 --> 00:26:42.359
about it. And just like, Hey, if it's possible, if
572
00:26:42.400 --> 00:26:45.849
you don't mind, well, first of all, if it's a
573
00:26:45.880 --> 00:26:47.890
severe allergy where you're going to have like throat closing,
574
00:26:47.930 --> 00:26:50.910
that's not a nice, that's like a, Hey, I'm going
575
00:26:51.230 --> 00:26:54.990
to die. So can we not like, like we have
576
00:26:55.029 --> 00:26:57.150
a friend whose daughter's allergic to peanuts. We have to
577
00:26:57.190 --> 00:27:02.799
be so careful. And they were actually just in town. And, um,
578
00:27:03.289 --> 00:27:05.380
I had gotten ice cream and I made sure that
579
00:27:05.400 --> 00:27:07.369
it didn't have any peanuts in it or anything. And
580
00:27:07.390 --> 00:27:08.849
I was like, Dylan, can she have some? And he said,
581
00:27:09.289 --> 00:27:11.470
he's like, yeah. And then he was like, I said, okay,
582
00:27:11.490 --> 00:27:13.049
it's this, this, this. And he's like, well, here, let
583
00:27:13.069 --> 00:27:14.130
me look at it. And he looked at the carton
584
00:27:14.150 --> 00:27:17.710
and it says made in a facility that has peanuts.
585
00:27:17.730 --> 00:27:18.609
She's that sensitive.
586
00:27:18.670 --> 00:27:20.109
And he was like, she can't have it. I was like,
587
00:27:20.269 --> 00:27:23.990
I felt so bad because I was already like, I
588
00:27:24.730 --> 00:27:26.589
was eating mine when they came in the door, they
589
00:27:26.609 --> 00:27:28.650
had gotten home. And so I was like, oh, could
590
00:27:28.670 --> 00:27:30.809
she have some? And then he was like, oh, she can't.
591
00:27:30.849 --> 00:27:32.650
I was just like, oh God, I'm such an asshole. Like,
592
00:27:33.500 --> 00:27:35.160
How old is she? She's six.
593
00:27:35.740 --> 00:27:37.460
Does she know she can't have nuts? Oh, yeah.
594
00:27:38.029 --> 00:27:38.369
She knows.
595
00:27:39.089 --> 00:27:39.309
Yeah.
596
00:27:39.329 --> 00:27:41.630
And she's aware of it. She's known this since she
597
00:27:41.670 --> 00:27:43.130
was a little kid because she's had to go to
598
00:27:43.150 --> 00:27:45.569
the hospital a few times. So she knows to ask
599
00:27:45.769 --> 00:27:49.670
always to check. She gets frustrated sometimes because she's six.
600
00:27:50.269 --> 00:27:50.670
Yeah.
601
00:27:51.490 --> 00:27:53.289
So I kind of was like, let me put this away.
602
00:27:53.329 --> 00:27:55.390
I felt really bad because I thought I did good
603
00:27:55.430 --> 00:27:57.910
by checking and making sure it didn't have peanuts in it.
604
00:27:57.950 --> 00:28:01.500
So those are situations where it's like, oh, shoot. It
605
00:28:01.519 --> 00:28:04.000
can't even be made in a facility.
606
00:28:04.119 --> 00:28:04.440
Right.
607
00:28:04.960 --> 00:28:07.279
But he wasn't like, hey, you have to stop eating it. Like,
608
00:28:07.299 --> 00:28:09.440
that wasn't going to affect her. He just was like, no,
609
00:28:09.460 --> 00:28:10.759
she can't have it. Mm-hmm.
610
00:28:11.579 --> 00:28:14.940
Yeah, I think the line is, well, first of all,
611
00:28:16.440 --> 00:28:21.109
I would say asking, telling parents not to send things
612
00:28:21.119 --> 00:28:24.869
with their kids at school, Oreo gate situation, that is beyond.
613
00:28:25.369 --> 00:28:25.990
That's crazy.
614
00:28:26.029 --> 00:28:27.890
Hilarious. I really want to know what the issue is
615
00:28:27.910 --> 00:28:28.490
with the Oreos.
616
00:28:29.049 --> 00:28:29.970
Yeah, exactly.
617
00:28:29.990 --> 00:28:30.470
I really want to know.
618
00:28:31.170 --> 00:28:34.009
My favorite Oreo is the Oreo Thins. Have you ever had?
619
00:28:34.029 --> 00:28:34.089
No.
620
00:28:35.690 --> 00:28:36.309
They're real good.
621
00:28:36.490 --> 00:28:38.250
I love a double stuff, but you know what I got?
622
00:28:38.269 --> 00:28:42.869
Oh. Mm-mm. What? I like a double stuff, but not
623
00:28:42.890 --> 00:28:45.710
in my cookies. I'm sorry. Love it.
624
00:28:45.730 --> 00:28:52.170
I don't even want to finish that sentence. A double
625
00:28:52.210 --> 00:28:57.559
stuff in the cookie. In the cookie? Have you had
626
00:28:57.599 --> 00:29:00.420
the vanilla Oreos, like where it's like the vanilla wafer
627
00:29:00.460 --> 00:29:02.329
with the– cream in the middle.
628
00:29:03.690 --> 00:29:06.670
Girl if you want an oreo you need to have
629
00:29:06.730 --> 00:29:09.170
the oreo thin.
630
00:29:09.470 --> 00:29:12.390
Mint yeah the mint is good but no just a
631
00:29:12.470 --> 00:29:15.269
double stuff break that sucker open give it a few
632
00:29:15.289 --> 00:29:17.599
little licks put it back together dip it in some
633
00:29:17.640 --> 00:29:23.579
milk and then that's all the whole routine choreography yeah
634
00:29:24.640 --> 00:29:28.740
um you just bite an oreo I don't... You gotta
635
00:29:28.759 --> 00:29:29.420
drag it across your teeth.
636
00:29:29.440 --> 00:29:31.170
But I don't like a lot of the... I don't
637
00:29:31.170 --> 00:29:34.369
like double stuffed. The reason I like the thin ones
638
00:29:34.369 --> 00:29:37.950
is because... You don't want the cream? Everything's thinner. I
639
00:29:37.950 --> 00:29:41.240
i like the cream but but what.
640
00:29:41.460 --> 00:29:42.400
Are we talking about right.
641
00:29:42.339 --> 00:29:48.119
Now i have no idea um but no i'm more
642
00:29:48.140 --> 00:29:50.559
of the cookie don't get me wrong.
643
00:29:50.640 --> 00:29:54.640
I love a cookie Like if you're talking about a
644
00:29:54.630 --> 00:29:56.220
chocolate chip cookie, yes. But if you're going to have
645
00:29:56.240 --> 00:29:58.460
an Oreo, it's got to be a double stuffed and
646
00:29:58.480 --> 00:30:00.039
you got to break it. Oh, you got to twist
647
00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:03.900
it off. He's got to scrape it across the bottom teeth.
648
00:30:04.779 --> 00:30:06.339
Then you put it back together. So you don't have
649
00:30:06.359 --> 00:30:07.759
all the cream because you already ate the cream.
650
00:30:08.720 --> 00:30:12.700
Since we're on this subject, what is your favorite packaged cookie?
651
00:30:12.720 --> 00:30:15.619
Because mine, I think might be, as someone said, you
652
00:30:15.660 --> 00:30:20.369
can go to like a Kroger, like that kind of store, Fry's, Ralph's, whatever,
653
00:30:20.609 --> 00:30:22.230
go to the aisle and you get one of like
654
00:30:22.269 --> 00:30:27.829
the name brand cookies. I think Oreo might be the
655
00:30:27.890 --> 00:30:28.650
one I would choose.
656
00:30:28.950 --> 00:30:31.410
Oreo is up there and it might be. So it's
657
00:30:31.430 --> 00:30:33.809
been a very long time since I've gone down the
658
00:30:33.829 --> 00:30:38.160
cookie aisle and bought a cookie like that. Because for
659
00:30:38.220 --> 00:30:42.039
a while, the soft, is it soft batch? Like the
660
00:30:42.119 --> 00:30:45.750
Keebler Elf soft batch chocolate chip cookies. It would probably
661
00:30:45.789 --> 00:30:48.769
not taste good to me today. Yeah. But I love
662
00:30:48.809 --> 00:30:52.930
a soft chocolate chip cookie. Mm-hmm. I'm trying to think
663
00:30:52.970 --> 00:30:54.630
of what else is in the cookie aisle.
664
00:30:54.869 --> 00:30:56.359
I used to love a Chips Ahoy.
665
00:30:56.410 --> 00:30:57.940
I used to love a Chips Ahoy, but now I'm like,
666
00:30:58.000 --> 00:30:59.220
nobody wants a cracker as a cookie.
667
00:30:59.400 --> 00:31:01.019
See, I like it crispy like that.
668
00:31:01.079 --> 00:31:02.579
I liked it if I dipped it in milk.
669
00:31:02.880 --> 00:31:06.220
Uh-huh. If it's fresh baked, I like a very soft cookie.
670
00:31:06.259 --> 00:31:08.720
But then Chips Ahoy started making ones that were soft,
671
00:31:08.859 --> 00:31:10.420
like a soft batch Chips Ahoy.
672
00:31:10.440 --> 00:31:14.369
All right. Favorite Girl Scout cookie.
673
00:31:14.690 --> 00:31:20.049
Oh. It's a toss-up between a Samoa and a Thin Mint.
674
00:31:20.369 --> 00:31:23.589
But if I really had to go for it, I
675
00:31:23.809 --> 00:31:24.809
do love a Samoa.
676
00:31:25.309 --> 00:31:27.390
Mine is the one that looks like an Oreo, but
677
00:31:27.430 --> 00:31:29.470
it's the white one. What are those called? Or a
678
00:31:29.490 --> 00:31:30.839
peanut butter. Do they have a peanut butter? Those are
679
00:31:30.859 --> 00:31:31.299
my favorite.
680
00:31:31.319 --> 00:31:33.000
The ones that look like a peanut shell.
681
00:31:33.019 --> 00:31:34.140
Yeah. Yeah.
682
00:31:35.279 --> 00:31:37.000
We're not fat kids at all.
683
00:31:37.099 --> 00:31:39.279
Exactly. I'm like, let's wrap this up and go to
684
00:31:39.299 --> 00:31:39.960
the cookie aisle.
685
00:31:41.319 --> 00:31:43.099
Now you know why every time we take a gummy,
686
00:31:43.140 --> 00:31:44.500
there's cookies here.
687
00:31:44.539 --> 00:31:45.660
Yeah, exactly. Exactly.
688
00:31:47.140 --> 00:31:48.880
So you said Oreos would be yours.
689
00:31:49.160 --> 00:31:51.859
I think in the, yeah, Girl Scout aside, in the
690
00:31:51.900 --> 00:31:56.819
cookie aisle, I do think Oreos would be my favorite.
691
00:31:57.579 --> 00:31:59.380
I really enjoy them.
692
00:31:59.619 --> 00:32:01.069
Feel the taste test coming on, guys.
693
00:32:01.960 --> 00:32:08.109
Oh, gotta say. Anyways, so I think though, what my
694
00:32:08.150 --> 00:32:10.210
mom was always really good at doing because we couldn't
695
00:32:10.250 --> 00:32:12.549
have things because our allergies were slight. Our throat wasn't
696
00:32:12.569 --> 00:32:13.910
going to close. It wasn't the end of the world
697
00:32:13.930 --> 00:32:18.619
if we got something. But She would make sure that
698
00:32:18.839 --> 00:32:22.039
either if, you know, when you're going to a social,
699
00:32:22.079 --> 00:32:24.859
like a birthday party, she would bring us cupcakes or
700
00:32:24.900 --> 00:32:29.220
something that was really good that we could have or
701
00:32:29.269 --> 00:32:32.880
non-dairy ice cream that we loved because we didn't know
702
00:32:32.900 --> 00:32:34.890
the difference. That shit was called Rice Dream back in
703
00:32:34.930 --> 00:32:36.710
the day, though, and it was bullshit. Yeah, it is.
704
00:32:36.950 --> 00:32:40.450
It really is bullshit. Like looking at it now, you're like, God, they've.
705
00:32:40.289 --> 00:32:44.009
Really come up with their non-dairy options. Yeah.
706
00:32:45.910 --> 00:32:48.220
Here's what I want to know. I'm going to have
707
00:32:48.240 --> 00:32:52.920
to do more research into Oreo gate. Is it the
708
00:32:53.019 --> 00:32:54.240
brand Oreo?
709
00:32:54.339 --> 00:32:54.700
Right.
710
00:32:55.160 --> 00:33:00.819
Because if it's just the brand Oreo, there's healthier options.
711
00:33:01.519 --> 00:33:02.799
Yeah. Center with some healthy.
712
00:33:03.319 --> 00:33:04.400
Like that you can get.
713
00:33:04.440 --> 00:33:04.640
Yeah.
714
00:33:04.759 --> 00:33:07.019
That it still looks like an Oreo and probably tastes
715
00:33:07.039 --> 00:33:09.920
like an Oreo. So like if your issues with the company,
716
00:33:11.539 --> 00:33:13.559
then just go to the company that makes a healthier
717
00:33:13.599 --> 00:33:16.690
version is your issue with it. Like, I don't know
718
00:33:16.730 --> 00:33:19.349
what her issue... I don't know what the mom's issue
719
00:33:19.750 --> 00:33:24.019
could be about Oreos specifically.
720
00:33:24.799 --> 00:33:28.859
I don't know. But the real issue is the audacity...
721
00:33:28.279 --> 00:33:32.319
To ask the group not to send them. With their kids. Yes. Like,
722
00:33:32.880 --> 00:33:34.579
all the... You know, when I was growing up, most
723
00:33:34.619 --> 00:33:37.839
of my childhood, we didn't go trick-or-treating. But if we
724
00:33:37.859 --> 00:33:40.819
went to... Like, if my mom wouldn't be like, can
725
00:33:40.859 --> 00:33:43.079
your kids not dress in their costumes if my kids
726
00:33:43.119 --> 00:33:44.920
are coming around? You know what I mean? Right. It's
727
00:33:44.980 --> 00:33:47.630
just so... Okay, so.
728
00:33:47.509 --> 00:33:50.349
Here's another question, though. So some parents are way more
729
00:33:50.430 --> 00:33:52.190
lenient with what they'll let their kids watch.
730
00:33:52.849 --> 00:33:53.009
Uh-huh.
731
00:33:54.049 --> 00:33:57.069
So some kids, when they're younger, they're allowed to watch
732
00:33:57.109 --> 00:34:00.710
PG-13 or rated R. So if you're sending your kid
733
00:34:00.789 --> 00:34:04.339
over to somebody's house and you don't let them watch...
734
00:34:04.970 --> 00:34:06.500
My dad let us watch stuff that we should not
735
00:34:06.539 --> 00:34:09.679
have been probably watching. Pretty sure we went and saw
736
00:34:09.699 --> 00:34:12.159
Pretty Woman in the movie theater. I was probably a
737
00:34:12.159 --> 00:34:13.659
little young to be watching a movie about a hooker.
738
00:34:13.739 --> 00:34:14.280
Yeah, right.
739
00:34:15.190 --> 00:34:17.369
He also let us watch Bachelor Party. Have you ever
740
00:34:17.409 --> 00:34:18.070
seen that movie?
741
00:34:18.170 --> 00:34:23.349
No. Oh, my God. We're watching it tonight. What was
742
00:34:23.409 --> 00:34:24.320
it from? It's the 80s.
743
00:34:24.690 --> 00:34:28.889
It's the 80s, and it's so inappropriate. So inappropriate. And
744
00:34:28.929 --> 00:34:31.630
we were kids watching this. Like, kids.
745
00:34:32.289 --> 00:34:36.360
Wow. I wasn't even allowed to watch Hocus Pocus. Why?
746
00:34:37.380 --> 00:34:42.400
Because it had witchcraft in it. Okay. Okay, Mom. Yeah.
747
00:34:42.440 --> 00:34:44.670
But... Okay, so if you're sending your kid over to
748
00:34:44.710 --> 00:34:48.489
somebody else's house, do you say, hey, my kid's not
749
00:34:48.510 --> 00:34:50.230
allowed to watch Hocus Pocus?
750
00:34:50.289 --> 00:34:53.170
When I was 10 years old, I have this memory
751
00:34:53.530 --> 00:34:57.769
because it embarrassed me of going to a pool party
752
00:34:58.090 --> 00:35:02.130
at this family who went to our church. Okay. And
753
00:35:02.210 --> 00:35:05.070
they had kids and I was like younger, but old
754
00:35:05.110 --> 00:35:06.750
enough to be invited and whatever. It was a big
755
00:35:06.769 --> 00:35:09.159
pool party. And in Ohio, if you had a friend
756
00:35:09.179 --> 00:35:10.469
with an in-ground pool, bitch.
757
00:35:10.610 --> 00:35:11.639
You- In-ground?
758
00:35:11.880 --> 00:35:15.880
Oh. It was everything. Those summer days at the pool
759
00:35:15.900 --> 00:35:18.519
were so fun. I was like, this is amazing. So
760
00:35:19.320 --> 00:35:23.679
my mom said, what kind of music are you playing?
761
00:35:24.280 --> 00:35:28.820
Because we weren't allowed to listen to non-Christian music. Oh,
762
00:35:28.860 --> 00:35:29.130
like at all?
763
00:35:29.179 --> 00:35:29.610
At all.
764
00:35:31.309 --> 00:35:35.449
And the woman, but we also would be in public places.
765
00:35:35.510 --> 00:35:37.110
Like when we went to a public pool, they'd be
766
00:35:37.130 --> 00:35:40.070
playing the radio and stuff like that. So she understood
767
00:35:40.130 --> 00:35:42.630
that it's not that we never heard it. And my
768
00:35:42.670 --> 00:35:44.289
dad listened to it. So if we were all in
769
00:35:44.329 --> 00:35:47.389
the car, my dad did his own thing. But the church,
770
00:35:47.449 --> 00:35:48.880
side note, the church I went to when I was
771
00:35:48.920 --> 00:35:52.159
a teenager, the youth leaders told us the next Sunday.
772
00:35:52.179 --> 00:35:53.739
Trying to make sure I'm not showing all of the things.
773
00:35:53.760 --> 00:35:54.719
Girl, I don't even know.
774
00:35:54.739 --> 00:35:57.019
Because these pants are getting twisted the more I sit here.
775
00:35:57.039 --> 00:35:57.159
Yeah.
776
00:35:59.500 --> 00:36:04.880
I was like, that is my cheek hanging out. You're welcome.
777
00:36:05.440 --> 00:36:07.500
But the church I went to, they told us to
778
00:36:07.559 --> 00:36:11.610
get our, like if our parents had CDs and stuff
779
00:36:11.699 --> 00:36:13.969
that were secular music to bring them and burn them
780
00:36:14.050 --> 00:36:15.570
the next Sunday. Like that's how.
781
00:36:15.650 --> 00:36:16.349
You really did.
782
00:36:16.769 --> 00:36:22.909
I'm telling you. So anyways, the station that she said, well,
783
00:36:22.949 --> 00:36:26.170
we have Z93 playing. My mom was like, okay, yeah,
784
00:36:26.190 --> 00:36:29.550
that's okay. Which Z93 was just like a regular station.
785
00:36:30.010 --> 00:36:33.179
But I was so embarrassed because I was like, you
786
00:36:33.199 --> 00:36:34.920
really are going to try to tell them that I
787
00:36:34.940 --> 00:36:38.469
can't listen to certain music? You know? Yeah.
788
00:36:38.730 --> 00:36:40.670
Like, oh, he can't come because you're playing.
789
00:36:40.809 --> 00:36:43.170
Which she still let me go, but maybe she just
790
00:36:43.190 --> 00:36:45.690
wanted to make sure it wasn't going to be like
791
00:36:46.190 --> 00:36:47.010
music with a lot of.
792
00:36:47.289 --> 00:36:50.969
Cuss words on CDs that.
793
00:36:50.030 --> 00:36:52.219
Wasn't on a radio station or something like that.
794
00:36:52.440 --> 00:36:57.300
She didn't want you listening to, let's talk about sex, baby. Oh, okay.
795
00:36:57.480 --> 00:36:58.780
Or, you know?
796
00:36:59.719 --> 00:37:01.699
We were at pool parties at the neighborhood pool where
797
00:37:01.719 --> 00:37:03.019
they would have a DJ and there would be dance
798
00:37:03.059 --> 00:37:04.690
contests with those songs. I was like eight years old.
799
00:37:05.630 --> 00:37:08.130
They had DJs at your pool parties? Wow.
800
00:37:08.550 --> 00:37:10.989
They would like, throughout the summer, they would do events,
801
00:37:11.070 --> 00:37:12.849
like a little thing. And like, I remember a very
802
00:37:12.889 --> 00:37:15.269
big one and it was like, they were, yeah.
803
00:37:15.750 --> 00:37:17.670
But I am the oldest and my mom was very
804
00:37:17.730 --> 00:37:20.340
young when she had me. So we're talking about someone
805
00:37:20.449 --> 00:37:23.909
in her, she would have been close to 30. So
806
00:37:23.929 --> 00:37:26.820
I guess that's not young, young, but it's also, you know,
807
00:37:27.159 --> 00:37:28.659
she was doing the best she could. And she just
808
00:37:29.219 --> 00:37:33.420
was worried about me being corrupted. But it's a fine line.
809
00:37:33.440 --> 00:37:34.480
If only she knew it was coming.
810
00:37:34.500 --> 00:37:36.980
It's probably why her ass can't handle perfume anymore. God said,
811
00:37:37.059 --> 00:37:38.639
I'm going to show you. You tell people what kind
812
00:37:38.659 --> 00:37:39.840
of music they have to listen to.
813
00:37:41.019 --> 00:37:41.699
You can't smell shit.
814
00:37:41.719 --> 00:37:44.920
Plug your nose. Just kidding. I'm totally kidding, mom.
815
00:37:45.320 --> 00:37:46.019
Love you, mom.
816
00:37:46.219 --> 00:37:51.820
Yeah. But it is like also movies. I remember I
817
00:37:51.840 --> 00:37:54.250
was little and I watched this. I don't remember what
818
00:37:54.269 --> 00:37:55.090
the movie is called.
819
00:37:55.389 --> 00:37:55.989
What was it about?
820
00:37:56.630 --> 00:37:59.449
It was about this guy who wanted to kill the president,
821
00:37:59.469 --> 00:38:01.769
but he killed a bunch of other people also. And
822
00:38:01.809 --> 00:38:04.110
he ended up How he did it, he made a
823
00:38:04.190 --> 00:38:07.500
gun out of plastic and he put metal bullets inside.
824
00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:10.800
if anyone listening knows what movie I'm talking about, please
825
00:38:10.880 --> 00:38:12.050
message us and let me know.
826
00:38:12.070 --> 00:38:13.260
I thought for sure I'd be able to tell.
827
00:38:13.320 --> 00:38:16.869
He put metal bullets in his key chain that had a,
828
00:38:17.030 --> 00:38:19.889
remember when people would have the lucky rabbit's foot on there,
829
00:38:19.949 --> 00:38:22.670
which is also so weird. Like what was that? But
830
00:38:23.130 --> 00:38:25.269
he put the bullets in there because since your keys
831
00:38:25.309 --> 00:38:28.090
are metal, you put them aside. And so that's how
832
00:38:28.110 --> 00:38:30.630
he did it. But he like killed an old lady
833
00:38:30.730 --> 00:38:34.030
and he shot somebody's dog. And he just like, I
834
00:38:34.050 --> 00:38:37.510
remember watching that movie and I was like, this is crazy.
835
00:38:37.610 --> 00:38:40.590
And my, I was at my aunt's house, the one
836
00:38:40.610 --> 00:38:41.750
that didn't want me out of the sucker, but she
837
00:38:41.789 --> 00:38:45.869
was gone. And my oldest cousin is her son. And
838
00:38:45.909 --> 00:38:47.179
so he was like there and he was like, let's
839
00:38:47.199 --> 00:38:48.599
watch a movie. He didn't give a shit what I
840
00:38:48.639 --> 00:38:51.340
was allowed or not allowed to watch. So we watched it.
841
00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:53.800
And when I tell you, I had nightmares for like
842
00:38:53.820 --> 00:38:56.800
a month. I was like, this is a big leap
843
00:38:56.860 --> 00:39:00.500
from VeggieTales. This is scary.
844
00:39:00.639 --> 00:39:06.309
Yeah. I couldn't watch, like I don't like horror movies,
845
00:39:06.510 --> 00:39:10.110
never have, never will. I remember like my cousins and
846
00:39:10.130 --> 00:39:13.559
my siblings would watch like, you know, Friday the 13th
847
00:39:13.619 --> 00:39:16.079
and all that stuff. And I would like try to,
848
00:39:16.219 --> 00:39:18.300
and I couldn't make it past like the first few minutes.
849
00:39:18.340 --> 00:39:20.260
I was like, nope, not for me, out of the room.
850
00:39:20.820 --> 00:39:23.429
But there are certain ones like, okay, did you ever
851
00:39:23.449 --> 00:39:25.050
watch Cloak and Dagger as a kid?
852
00:39:25.329 --> 00:39:25.530
No.
853
00:39:26.429 --> 00:39:28.230
I can't watch it now because I know that it
854
00:39:28.269 --> 00:39:30.179
would just ruin it, like the memory of it. it
855
00:39:30.260 --> 00:39:33.500
for me because it was it was good quality back
856
00:39:33.619 --> 00:39:35.940
then but like we've come so far in terms of
857
00:39:35.960 --> 00:39:37.840
technology and stuff it would just be like what are
858
00:39:37.860 --> 00:39:40.150
we watching But it was like these two kids and
859
00:39:40.170 --> 00:39:42.269
they were solving a mystery because like they were doing
860
00:39:42.309 --> 00:39:44.110
something on a computer and they realized like there was
861
00:39:44.130 --> 00:39:45.630
a back door and then they go to their friend
862
00:39:45.670 --> 00:39:48.309
who's like an adult and they're trying to help him
863
00:39:48.349 --> 00:39:50.230
figure it out and get it to like the government
864
00:39:50.309 --> 00:39:53.349
and then he gets killed and they're like walkie-talkie each other.
865
00:39:53.389 --> 00:39:54.789
I wonder if I have seen this.
866
00:39:54.809 --> 00:39:56.750
We used to play cloak and dagger because we loved
867
00:39:56.809 --> 00:39:57.469
it so much.
868
00:39:57.869 --> 00:39:59.199
Oh, I want to check it out and see if
869
00:39:59.239 --> 00:40:01.340
I've seen it because there's a few like while we're talking.
870
00:40:04.019 --> 00:40:06.429
I love how our conversations just take a turn. But
871
00:40:06.469 --> 00:40:12.269
there's these nostalgic movies that scared me when I was little,
872
00:40:12.289 --> 00:40:14.949
but also I was like, I can't stop watching. You
873
00:40:14.969 --> 00:40:16.710
know what show scared me, but I could get away
874
00:40:16.750 --> 00:40:18.769
with watching when I wasn't allowed to watch scary things
875
00:40:18.789 --> 00:40:22.239
because it was on Nickelodeon? Are You Afraid of the Dark.
876
00:40:22.300 --> 00:40:23.360
Did you ever watch that?
877
00:40:23.639 --> 00:40:26.320
No, I was never a huge... I'm a little older
878
00:40:26.340 --> 00:40:30.300
than you, and I was never a huge Nickelodeon... Not
879
00:40:30.340 --> 00:40:33.369
that I wasn't. There were certain shows I watched on it.
880
00:40:33.400 --> 00:40:35.079
But no, Are You Afraid of the Dark wasn't one
881
00:40:35.099 --> 00:40:35.619
that I would watch.
882
00:40:35.639 --> 00:40:39.030
Well, I was afraid of the dark. And that was scary.
883
00:40:39.119 --> 00:40:40.170
And that messed with you.
884
00:40:40.989 --> 00:40:43.809
But yes. But I don't know. You know, it's something
885
00:40:43.909 --> 00:40:46.010
like when you mentioned Oreo Gate, I was like, I've
886
00:40:46.050 --> 00:40:49.849
never considered this because I don't have kids. But I
887
00:40:50.570 --> 00:40:54.090
can't imagine. But I guess it is like a parent's
888
00:40:54.170 --> 00:40:56.510
instinct to want to shelter their kids even when they're
889
00:40:56.550 --> 00:40:59.530
not around. But that doesn't mean you can tell other
890
00:40:59.550 --> 00:41:01.710
parents they have to shelter theirs. Right.
891
00:41:02.420 --> 00:41:04.619
If you're going to send them to a school and
892
00:41:04.659 --> 00:41:07.659
not homeschool them, there's only so much you can say.
893
00:41:08.280 --> 00:41:08.840
That's true.
894
00:41:09.239 --> 00:41:14.190
Like, sorry, unless it's life or death, it just feels
895
00:41:14.489 --> 00:41:17.989
so ballsy, like I said, to be like, can we not?
896
00:41:18.590 --> 00:41:18.869
Yeah.
897
00:41:19.590 --> 00:41:21.789
And also to not give your reason. If you're going
898
00:41:21.809 --> 00:41:23.510
to give your reason and maybe it's a good one,
899
00:41:23.550 --> 00:41:25.780
we don't know because she won't give the reason. If
900
00:41:25.820 --> 00:41:28.119
the reason was good, maybe the parents would all be like.
901
00:41:28.300 --> 00:41:31.590
Oh, yeah. And it's also like, At this point, you've
902
00:41:31.630 --> 00:41:33.409
made such a big deal out of it. No matter
903
00:41:33.449 --> 00:41:37.219
what the reason is, if it's not an allergy, it's bullshit. Right.
904
00:41:37.239 --> 00:41:38.900
Because you can say you don't want her to have
905
00:41:38.940 --> 00:41:42.340
the sugar or be, you know what I mean? Right.
906
00:41:42.860 --> 00:41:45.059
Which I almost wonder if it is something like that.
907
00:41:45.079 --> 00:41:46.820
And it's just kind of like blown up so much
908
00:41:46.840 --> 00:41:49.639
that she really doesn't want to say now. Like, I
909
00:41:49.679 --> 00:41:53.050
just don't let her have processed food like that. I
910
00:41:53.070 --> 00:41:57.739
don't know. It just, I'm like, listen. For all you
911
00:41:57.780 --> 00:41:59.550
do in Oreo gate, I need you to send some
912
00:41:59.570 --> 00:42:01.550
chips ahoy and we need to see if the reaction
913
00:42:01.610 --> 00:42:02.130
is the same.
914
00:42:02.409 --> 00:42:02.730
Right.
915
00:42:02.889 --> 00:42:04.369
I need to know if this is just an Oreo
916
00:42:04.449 --> 00:42:07.190
or if this is a cookie situation. Yeah.
917
00:42:07.809 --> 00:42:09.949
Maybe throw a healthy version of the Oreo.
918
00:42:09.969 --> 00:42:11.590
Can I send crumbles to the classroom?
919
00:42:13.730 --> 00:42:14.760
You would be the hero.
920
00:42:15.050 --> 00:42:16.699
I just want to see. I just want to know
921
00:42:16.719 --> 00:42:17.500
where the line is.
922
00:42:17.860 --> 00:42:18.960
There's no Oreos.
923
00:42:19.000 --> 00:42:20.800
There's no Oreos in this one. I just want to
924
00:42:20.820 --> 00:42:24.579
know what the issue is with the Oreo cookies.
925
00:42:25.860 --> 00:42:28.059
Oh, bless Ava. She's going to run fast to get
926
00:42:28.099 --> 00:42:30.000
herself some, or whatever her name is, Mia.
927
00:42:30.079 --> 00:42:33.340
Her name is Ava. Also, I'm like this poor kids.
928
00:42:33.659 --> 00:42:35.250
The moms are in on it. The kids are in
929
00:42:35.309 --> 00:42:37.050
on it. This kid just wants a damn Oreo cookie.
930
00:42:37.469 --> 00:42:39.889
And I feel like stuff like that is where like, God,
931
00:42:39.929 --> 00:42:43.710
this little five-year-old is like fighting to get a cookie. Careful.
932
00:42:44.090 --> 00:42:45.610
I'm going to go down a whole different tangent. But
933
00:42:45.650 --> 00:42:48.280
that's where you could really start to cause some food,
934
00:42:48.429 --> 00:42:52.179
like issues around food later. Whatever you're being protective about
935
00:42:52.219 --> 00:42:54.559
with this Oreo with no explanation.
936
00:42:54.579 --> 00:42:55.239
Mm-hmm.
937
00:42:57.179 --> 00:43:01.039
You're building some things up in a five-year-old's mind that
938
00:43:01.260 --> 00:43:04.840
could be very hard to unwind later, especially if you're
939
00:43:04.860 --> 00:43:06.579
not telling the five-year-old what the issue is.
940
00:43:07.719 --> 00:43:11.760
Yeah. You know what's so interesting to your point? Because
941
00:43:11.820 --> 00:43:14.989
I grew up with that really health fanatic. And my household,
942
00:43:15.030 --> 00:43:17.730
I think, was very balanced. I was homeschooled. And my
943
00:43:17.789 --> 00:43:21.829
mom was able to cook most of our meals. So
944
00:43:22.489 --> 00:43:24.170
even though we didn't have a lot of money, I
945
00:43:24.190 --> 00:43:27.550
feel like I grew up. with such a privilege around
946
00:43:27.630 --> 00:43:30.030
food because a lot of people don't get most days,
947
00:43:30.110 --> 00:43:38.880
three home cooked meals. Um, but I started eating unhealthy
948
00:43:39.360 --> 00:43:44.099
when I got turned 16, got my own job, got my,
949
00:43:44.119 --> 00:43:46.760
started getting my own money. But what's interesting is I
950
00:43:46.860 --> 00:43:50.139
really didn't think about it that much. And I think
951
00:43:50.159 --> 00:43:52.800
that my mom and my parents, my mom did a
952
00:43:52.840 --> 00:43:56.719
really good job of I was always eating vegetables. Like
953
00:43:56.760 --> 00:44:00.239
growing up, we ate cabbage and kale and collard greens
954
00:44:00.320 --> 00:44:03.119
and broccoli and every meal had vegetables. And I just
955
00:44:03.139 --> 00:44:05.539
didn't think about it. But I also didn't have these
956
00:44:05.619 --> 00:44:10.500
huge like, finally, I can eat fried food or finally
957
00:44:10.579 --> 00:44:12.460
I can have... Because I could pretty much always have
958
00:44:12.500 --> 00:44:12.960
a little of.
959
00:44:13.500 --> 00:44:14.440
A little of this or a little of that.
960
00:44:14.480 --> 00:44:17.260
Yeah, like within reason. And I think that just to
961
00:44:17.320 --> 00:44:20.619
your point, thinking of it, that's true. Because you can
962
00:44:20.639 --> 00:44:24.769
create some big... issues around food if you're not careful.
963
00:44:24.929 --> 00:44:26.349
There was a girl I was friends with in high
964
00:44:26.409 --> 00:44:32.050
school whose mom was super fanatic about candy. Never let
965
00:44:32.070 --> 00:44:34.329
her have anything. The second this girl had a job
966
00:44:34.369 --> 00:44:36.360
in a car, she would literally go to the convenience
967
00:44:36.380 --> 00:44:38.619
store constantly and she would never bring it home, but
968
00:44:38.639 --> 00:44:39.880
she would eat it in the car. And it was
969
00:44:39.920 --> 00:44:43.559
like just the worst of the worst candy. And she
970
00:44:43.599 --> 00:44:47.710
was like so... just like gluttonous about it. Cause she
971
00:44:47.750 --> 00:44:49.070
was like, and she would say, she would be like,
972
00:44:49.090 --> 00:44:50.559
my mom never let me have it. So I love it.
973
00:44:50.670 --> 00:44:52.429
I eat it. I eat it in the car before
974
00:44:52.469 --> 00:44:55.250
I go home. I throw the wrappers out and I'm like, okay,
975
00:44:55.269 --> 00:44:58.610
so we're like closet eating in the car, bags of
976
00:44:58.670 --> 00:45:02.960
candy because you weren't allowed. It was so, it was
977
00:45:03.079 --> 00:45:05.699
so taboo. It was so restricted that it's not just like,
978
00:45:06.039 --> 00:45:07.860
she never learned to just like, yeah, you could have
979
00:45:07.880 --> 00:45:09.800
a couple of pieces and that's plenty.
980
00:45:09.920 --> 00:45:10.239
Right.
981
00:45:10.400 --> 00:45:12.340
And let's not make it a regular thing that when
982
00:45:12.360 --> 00:45:13.940
she could finally do it on her own, it was like,
983
00:45:14.780 --> 00:45:18.010
You can't get enough. Not to mention sugar is so addictive,
984
00:45:18.050 --> 00:45:21.550
so you haven't learned how to manage that.
985
00:45:22.369 --> 00:45:24.789
I always thought it was wild how I had friends
986
00:45:24.829 --> 00:45:27.190
who could open the fridge and grab a soda. Like
987
00:45:27.610 --> 00:45:31.179
kids who could just drink soda. Depends on what age. Well,
988
00:45:31.280 --> 00:45:35.159
I guess by the time I was 15, 16, I
989
00:45:35.300 --> 00:45:37.300
was with friends, places, and stuff. I guess if I
990
00:45:37.340 --> 00:45:40.179
wanted something, I could get it. But at that point,
991
00:45:40.219 --> 00:45:42.590
I also... If I was spending my own money, it
992
00:45:42.610 --> 00:45:44.929
was very choosy on where I was spending it. But
993
00:45:45.670 --> 00:45:50.989
when I was younger, I'd say 13 and below, 14
994
00:45:50.989 --> 00:45:56.369
and younger, we definitely got soda on the holidays. And
995
00:45:56.409 --> 00:45:58.889
sometimes we could have two. My favorite was root beer,
996
00:45:58.949 --> 00:46:01.219
so I never cared about other soda. I just always
997
00:46:01.559 --> 00:46:05.159
had root beer. And then, but growing up, we didn't.
998
00:46:05.860 --> 00:46:08.750
My mom, and she gave us juice. She always diluted it. And...
999
00:46:10.610 --> 00:46:13.570
Which was bullshit. I didn't like that. But she would,
1000
00:46:13.630 --> 00:46:16.030
like on movie nights, they would get root beer and
1001
00:46:16.070 --> 00:46:18.829
some of that rice dream and like make us root
1002
00:46:18.849 --> 00:46:22.039
beer floats. So I feel like it was a balance
1003
00:46:22.079 --> 00:46:24.099
and that worked for me. Everyone's different, but that really
1004
00:46:24.139 --> 00:46:24.579
worked for me.
1005
00:46:24.860 --> 00:46:29.980
We were allowed to have soda. I mean, let's not
1006
00:46:30.019 --> 00:46:31.719
forget my dad owned a restaurant. So there was like
1007
00:46:31.760 --> 00:46:33.760
a whole cooler full of sodas and all the things.
1008
00:46:35.119 --> 00:46:38.650
We did ask. Like I remember asking, but also I
1009
00:46:38.690 --> 00:46:41.590
don't really remember it being like– it was very rare
1010
00:46:41.630 --> 00:46:42.530
when it was no.
1011
00:46:42.630 --> 00:46:42.909
Yeah.
1012
00:46:42.929 --> 00:46:45.750
We had milk with dinner a lot or water. I
1013
00:46:45.750 --> 00:46:48.210
don't really remember a lot of water. We would have
1014
00:46:48.289 --> 00:46:50.550
orange juice with breakfast. We would have milk with dinner
1015
00:46:50.590 --> 00:46:53.039
like if we were having pizza. I look at it
1016
00:46:53.099 --> 00:46:53.480
now and I'm.
1017
00:46:53.420 --> 00:46:56.980
Like– Psycho. Yeah.
1018
00:46:57.099 --> 00:46:59.059
It was milk with pizza.
1019
00:46:59.579 --> 00:47:00.199
But yeah. Yeah.
1020
00:47:00.829 --> 00:47:02.590
But we were allowed to have soda or we would
1021
00:47:02.610 --> 00:47:04.510
be like, we have chips dad. Cause chips were always
1022
00:47:04.530 --> 00:47:09.079
hanging there. So you grab chips and a soda, but he,
1023
00:47:09.179 --> 00:47:11.699
he did cook. I mean, you know, he owned the restaurant.
1024
00:47:11.719 --> 00:47:13.480
So we were eating pizza and pasta and subs, but
1025
00:47:13.500 --> 00:47:16.880
the pizza dough was made by hand. Like we had
1026
00:47:16.960 --> 00:47:20.070
salad pasta. My grandma's was homemade meat, but like a
1027
00:47:20.110 --> 00:47:22.849
lot of our food was homemade, even though it was
1028
00:47:23.190 --> 00:47:24.980
at a restaurant, my dad was still the one making it.
1029
00:47:25.030 --> 00:47:28.400
He knew what was going into it. Um, I do
1030
00:47:28.440 --> 00:47:30.380
think it is weird though at a certain age. This
1031
00:47:30.440 --> 00:47:33.980
is just like, I'm not throwing shade. At a certain
1032
00:47:34.039 --> 00:47:35.679
age though, like when a kid's a teenager and they
1033
00:47:35.719 --> 00:47:37.860
go into the fridge and they have to ask permission
1034
00:47:37.960 --> 00:47:42.960
to get something, I find that weird. Like if Dom
1035
00:47:42.980 --> 00:47:45.699
was going into the, like, now if he's going in
1036
00:47:45.719 --> 00:47:47.219
there and getting a bunch of ice cream at like
1037
00:47:47.219 --> 00:47:49.679
12 or 13, no, that like, mom, can I have
1038
00:47:49.739 --> 00:47:52.659
ice cream? Okay, yeah, fine. But like, I don't know.
1039
00:47:52.699 --> 00:47:54.579
I just feel like when you get into your teenage years,
1040
00:47:54.599 --> 00:47:57.880
you shouldn't be asking if you can have cheese or,
1041
00:47:58.510 --> 00:48:01.809
If you can have, because you got to start teaching
1042
00:48:01.849 --> 00:48:05.090
independence for them to make those decisions. I guess if
1043
00:48:05.110 --> 00:48:08.090
you see them choosing the unhealthy all the time, then
1044
00:48:08.130 --> 00:48:10.389
maybe you have conversations.
1045
00:48:11.159 --> 00:48:13.360
I think in our, I'm trying to remember. First of all,
1046
00:48:13.900 --> 00:48:17.980
it's so hard. I remember my younger years and I
1047
00:48:18.039 --> 00:48:23.320
remember like coming into adulthood, but somewhere between 11 and
1048
00:48:23.320 --> 00:48:25.889
15 is a big fucking blur. Like I don't really
1049
00:48:25.949 --> 00:48:28.420
know what was happening in there. But I think for
1050
00:48:28.599 --> 00:48:31.780
us too, there were things in the fridge that belonged
1051
00:48:31.900 --> 00:48:37.059
to my dad. Because we didn't have cans of soda.
1052
00:48:37.500 --> 00:48:40.159
He always had two liters in there. And that was his.
1053
00:48:40.800 --> 00:48:43.079
So I don't think the asking was as much like,
1054
00:48:43.460 --> 00:48:45.980
am I allowed to consume this? It was, can I
1055
00:48:46.019 --> 00:48:48.739
have some of your soda? Okay.
1056
00:48:48.760 --> 00:48:52.610
This leads to another question I have for you. My
1057
00:48:52.690 --> 00:48:54.409
grandpa was like that. So if we were at my
1058
00:48:54.429 --> 00:48:57.550
grandma's house, same thing. RC Cola was there. That was
1059
00:48:58.039 --> 00:49:01.260
technically grandpa's, or like grandpa always had blueberry muffins in
1060
00:49:01.280 --> 00:49:03.619
the fridge when we were a little bit older. So
1061
00:49:03.659 --> 00:49:05.059
like if you wanted a blueberry muffin, you had to
1062
00:49:05.179 --> 00:49:07.159
ask if you could have one of grandpa's blueberry muffins.
1063
00:49:08.360 --> 00:49:12.469
Looking at it now, do you think it's weird that
1064
00:49:12.670 --> 00:49:16.650
your dad had things that you guys couldn't have? And
1065
00:49:16.690 --> 00:49:18.429
that as a teen, you had to ask permission to
1066
00:49:18.469 --> 00:49:21.449
have like... some of your dad's thing?
1067
00:49:22.400 --> 00:49:26.900
I have, the answer is no, but it might change
1068
00:49:26.940 --> 00:49:28.639
if I think about it more. But that was so
1069
00:49:28.699 --> 00:49:33.079
normal to me. I've never even considered the other one.
1070
00:49:33.360 --> 00:49:36.119
I mean, I, just to be clear, obviously when I
1071
00:49:36.179 --> 00:49:39.369
was sick, I started working like I had a job
1072
00:49:39.429 --> 00:49:43.010
lined up when I turned 16. And so I also
1073
00:49:43.050 --> 00:49:45.420
got a car immediately. I paid for my driving school
1074
00:49:45.440 --> 00:49:47.659
and driver's license. So I was pretty independent in having
1075
00:49:47.719 --> 00:49:51.400
what I wanted. My work shift started, I was like,
1076
00:49:51.480 --> 00:49:53.039
I want to work as much as possible. They were like,
1077
00:49:53.059 --> 00:49:54.960
let's start with four nights a week. You're a child.
1078
00:49:55.719 --> 00:49:58.420
So I was, and I would get, if I, then
1079
00:49:58.480 --> 00:50:01.179
when I'm there, I would have soda and stuff and
1080
00:50:01.199 --> 00:50:03.670
I'm sure I would bring it home. So we're really
1081
00:50:03.730 --> 00:50:06.190
talking about more like the ages of 12, 13, when
1082
00:50:06.210 --> 00:50:10.719
you're like, Coming from being the younger kid that has
1083
00:50:10.739 --> 00:50:13.110
to ask for something to be made for you to
1084
00:50:13.780 --> 00:50:16.090
having that, I'm going to open the fridge and decide
1085
00:50:16.170 --> 00:50:19.690
what I want to consume. So I don't know. Okay.
1086
00:50:19.730 --> 00:50:22.489
So I'm just curious. And by the way, there's like, no,
1087
00:50:22.530 --> 00:50:24.750
I'm super just curious. Like I don't have judgment. I'm
1088
00:50:24.829 --> 00:50:27.590
curious because like if you were in the kitchen with
1089
00:50:27.659 --> 00:50:30.599
me and Dom came in and I had something in
1090
00:50:30.619 --> 00:50:35.739
the fridge that was quote unquote mine, my milk or
1091
00:50:35.800 --> 00:50:39.340
my whatever. And like, Would you think it was weird
1092
00:50:39.380 --> 00:50:41.019
if Dom was like, mom, can I have some of
1093
00:50:41.059 --> 00:50:43.460
your almond milk?
1094
00:50:44.940 --> 00:50:49.929
That wouldn't... Because in my mind, now I guess if
1095
00:50:49.969 --> 00:50:52.510
I go to my mom's house for dinner or something,
1096
00:50:52.530 --> 00:50:56.590
I know I'm welcome to grab a LaCroix or a beer.
1097
00:50:56.630 --> 00:50:58.429
My dad always has Miller High Life's in there and
1098
00:50:58.449 --> 00:51:01.820
they're the champagne and beer. But I know I can
1099
00:51:01.840 --> 00:51:05.230
grab something, but It's still– because in my mind, I'm like,
1100
00:51:05.269 --> 00:51:08.289
what if you have a plan for this? I grew
1101
00:51:08.409 --> 00:51:11.030
up in a world where like the– and I know
1102
00:51:11.070 --> 00:51:13.369
you didn't grow up rich. No, I definitely– The stuff
1103
00:51:13.389 --> 00:51:17.179
in the fridge was allotted for. Yes. And so in
1104
00:51:17.239 --> 00:51:19.760
my mind, even now, like if Dom was like, mom,
1105
00:51:19.800 --> 00:51:22.719
can I have whatever? I don't think it would clock
1106
00:51:22.800 --> 00:51:23.039
to me.
1107
00:51:23.079 --> 00:51:26.219
He'll ask me because of that. He'll ask me because
1108
00:51:26.260 --> 00:51:29.619
sometimes things are in there for filming or something. But
1109
00:51:29.679 --> 00:51:32.550
he knows– like that's why he's asking me. But he
1110
00:51:32.710 --> 00:51:37.710
also knows, Dom, this is your house. You're 17. You
1111
00:51:38.989 --> 00:51:40.789
can have whatever you want. I might question you a
1112
00:51:40.809 --> 00:51:42.789
little bit if I see you keep going. I give
1113
00:51:42.809 --> 00:51:45.130
him a hard time because me or his dad will
1114
00:51:45.170 --> 00:51:47.610
make him a meal and we'll literally set the meal
1115
00:51:47.639 --> 00:51:49.489
in front of him. And the first thing he does
1116
00:51:49.510 --> 00:51:51.840
is open the pantry. And I'm like, what are you doing?
1117
00:51:51.880 --> 00:51:53.980
That is just a habit of yours that you just
1118
00:51:54.079 --> 00:51:57.780
keep opening the pantry like there's a whole meal, which
1119
00:51:57.840 --> 00:51:59.940
is the meal you asked for. And he's like, I
1120
00:51:59.960 --> 00:52:03.489
was just looking and I'm like, Dom, Break that habit. Uh-huh.
1121
00:52:03.650 --> 00:52:04.949
But at the same time, I'm not telling them you
1122
00:52:04.969 --> 00:52:06.989
can't have it. It's just... And I'm not saying it's
1123
00:52:07.010 --> 00:52:09.550
weird because there were, I guess, yes, like you said,
1124
00:52:09.570 --> 00:52:12.579
there were things that were allotted for. It wasn't like, oh,
1125
00:52:12.599 --> 00:52:15.139
you could just have free-flowing soda or anything.
1126
00:52:15.320 --> 00:52:17.800
Yeah. And I'm not taking it like... I don't feel
1127
00:52:17.840 --> 00:52:19.139
defensive about it at all.
1128
00:52:19.159 --> 00:52:20.320
I'm just thinking about it more as I like.
1129
00:52:20.489 --> 00:52:24.199
Because I feel like I would ask, but... But I
1130
00:52:24.260 --> 00:52:26.039
do think a lot of times it might be like
1131
00:52:26.219 --> 00:52:30.039
maybe this bag of chips is because they're having burgers
1132
00:52:30.079 --> 00:52:32.809
tomorrow and they're going to have burgers with chips. Right.
1133
00:52:33.050 --> 00:52:36.269
So I think maybe that's why I would ask. Soda, though,
1134
00:52:36.449 --> 00:52:39.489
when we were kids, soda was a grown-up beverage like beer.
1135
00:52:39.690 --> 00:52:41.909
I mean, that really is. I knew it wasn't alcohol.
1136
00:52:41.949 --> 00:52:44.260
I knew we could have a special occasion. But we
1137
00:52:44.300 --> 00:52:48.760
couldn't just help ourselves to soda. We could with juice,
1138
00:52:48.800 --> 00:52:50.860
but sometimes my mom would say, you've had enough juice.
1139
00:52:51.500 --> 00:52:54.320
Yes, same. Usually we could kind of help ourselves with
1140
00:52:54.360 --> 00:52:56.579
a soda, but we also knew that we couldn't have
1141
00:52:57.360 --> 00:53:00.179
endless sodas. So we would ask, and usually it was like, yes,
1142
00:53:00.219 --> 00:53:01.599
but it would be like, or it would be like,
1143
00:53:01.619 --> 00:53:05.610
have you already had one today? Yes. Okay, then no.
1144
00:53:05.909 --> 00:53:09.159
Have something else. Yeah. Okay, fine. We'd have something else.
1145
00:53:09.719 --> 00:53:11.769
But I was thinking more just because you were like, oh,
1146
00:53:11.829 --> 00:53:13.769
my dad could listen to the music, but we couldn't.
1147
00:53:14.269 --> 00:53:16.210
My dad could have the soda, but we couldn't. So
1148
00:53:16.250 --> 00:53:19.090
was it weird that mom and kids.
1149
00:53:19.929 --> 00:53:23.150
Only because it was my world. It wasn't weird. My dad,
1150
00:53:23.550 --> 00:53:25.989
he could eat dairy. No, none of us could. So
1151
00:53:26.030 --> 00:53:28.289
that made a normal thing. If my dad had a
1152
00:53:28.329 --> 00:53:31.010
frozen pizza, none of us could eat that pizza.
1153
00:53:31.030 --> 00:53:32.489
Because he wasn't allergic. Exactly.
1154
00:53:32.530 --> 00:53:35.019
So my mom would maybe make us our own version
1155
00:53:35.059 --> 00:53:37.960
of pizza. And sometimes that was really extreme. Like my
1156
00:53:38.000 --> 00:53:39.900
dad was more of a picky eater. My mom wanted
1157
00:53:39.940 --> 00:53:42.159
us to eat vegetables and everythings. So our meals would
1158
00:53:42.179 --> 00:53:43.079
look totally different.
1159
00:53:43.239 --> 00:53:43.610
Got it.
1160
00:53:43.820 --> 00:53:47.590
But sometimes they wouldn't. So maybe in like a lot
1161
00:53:47.630 --> 00:53:49.710
of normal households, it would be weird. But I have
1162
00:53:49.750 --> 00:53:52.110
a lot of memories of my dad having a totally
1163
00:53:52.170 --> 00:53:56.130
different dinner at the dinner table with from what the
1164
00:53:56.250 --> 00:54:00.530
rest of us are eating. Oh, bless.
1165
00:54:00.659 --> 00:54:02.179
Couldn't hold that one in like I tried.
1166
00:54:02.239 --> 00:54:04.199
He said, ah!
1167
00:54:04.539 --> 00:54:07.320
It hurt. You know when you're like trying to hold
1168
00:54:07.380 --> 00:54:08.900
it in and it goes across the roof of your mouth?
1169
00:54:09.039 --> 00:54:10.420
You're about to shoot your eyeball out.
1170
00:54:13.829 --> 00:54:16.010
I don't think it's actually abnormal. I think I've heard
1171
00:54:16.030 --> 00:54:19.130
about a lot of families, especially in my, you know,
1172
00:54:19.409 --> 00:54:22.650
years as being in the fitness industry where I would
1173
00:54:22.670 --> 00:54:25.940
get so many messages from usually women saying like, you know,
1174
00:54:25.960 --> 00:54:29.090
I'm exhausted because I– make myself i'm trying to eat
1175
00:54:29.159 --> 00:54:32.480
healthy but then my husband doesn't eat the same way
1176
00:54:32.579 --> 00:54:34.119
and so the kids want to eat like their dad
1177
00:54:34.139 --> 00:54:35.860
but i'm trying to teach them to eat healthy so
1178
00:54:35.880 --> 00:54:37.920
that the house is divided i'm also tired of making
1179
00:54:37.960 --> 00:54:40.650
multiple meals for everybody and the kids are like well
1180
00:54:40.670 --> 00:54:41.989
you make something different for dad so why don't you
1181
00:54:42.010 --> 00:54:45.150
make something different for me right so i've definitely so
1182
00:54:45.170 --> 00:54:47.070
i wouldn't say any of it is quote unquote normal
1183
00:54:47.170 --> 00:54:50.019
or not normal i think it's just or like how
1184
00:54:50.039 --> 00:54:50.960
the household goes.
1185
00:54:51.119 --> 00:54:53.519
And also generationally, when we went to my grandparents to
1186
00:54:53.599 --> 00:54:58.119
eat dinner, my grandmother would ration like the chips we
1187
00:54:58.159 --> 00:55:00.659
were allowed to have. And there were some things that
1188
00:55:00.699 --> 00:55:03.639
were for grandpa. Yes. And then there were some things
1189
00:55:03.679 --> 00:55:05.159
that the rest of us peasants could eat.
1190
00:55:05.320 --> 00:55:07.780
Yeah, no, same at my grandparents' house.
1191
00:55:08.199 --> 00:55:10.340
Like, okay. So I think it wasn't like that at
1192
00:55:10.360 --> 00:55:13.420
my house, but I think more, I think to a
1193
00:55:13.639 --> 00:55:17.599
lesser degree, it was still, that's how my parents grew up.
1194
00:55:18.119 --> 00:55:21.530
My grandpa kept the RC Cola. The two-liter on Sundays?
1195
00:55:22.469 --> 00:55:23.949
On the floor by his chair. You had to ask
1196
00:55:23.989 --> 00:55:25.090
him for it. Oh, wow.
1197
00:55:25.789 --> 00:55:26.610
Guarded that shit.
1198
00:55:26.650 --> 00:55:29.889
He guarded that RC Cola. And you got to remember,
1199
00:55:29.909 --> 00:55:31.530
there was like 15 of us around the table.
1200
00:55:31.750 --> 00:55:32.050
Uh-huh.
1201
00:55:32.190 --> 00:55:35.760
Because it was my grandparents, their four kids, and then
1202
00:55:35.800 --> 00:55:36.510
all of their kids.
1203
00:55:36.889 --> 00:55:37.179
Mm-hmm.
1204
00:55:37.380 --> 00:55:40.260
So, you know, you're like trying to get, Grandpa, can
1205
00:55:40.300 --> 00:55:42.920
I have soda? Or you'd ask, Dad, can I have soda?
1206
00:55:42.960 --> 00:55:44.659
Then my dad would have to ask Grandpa for the soda.
1207
00:55:45.320 --> 00:55:45.860
You know, you're like.
1208
00:55:45.900 --> 00:55:46.079
Yep.
1209
00:55:46.469 --> 00:55:50.590
You better sip that shit. You weren't allowed to necessarily
1210
00:55:50.630 --> 00:55:53.650
have a refill always because there wasn't always enough for everybody.
1211
00:55:54.829 --> 00:55:57.050
Sometimes there would be and he'd go crack open another one.
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But it was like you had to ask. It wasn't
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just on the table for everybody to pour from.
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That's interesting. I wonder what kind of studies there have
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been about like how your eating, drinking, food availability, limitations,
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like how those habits in childhood affect It's huge.
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There's studies. There was in the first 21 Day Fix
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test group we did, there was one of the guys
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who had amazing results doing 21 Day Fix. He was
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in it for the long haul. He did 11 or
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12 rounds and he lost like 110 pounds. But he
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had been raised by his grandparents. He was the one
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at 10 years old who found his grandpa passed away.
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And then he got put into foster care for a
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little while until somebody in the family could take him.
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But when he was in foster care, they would put
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a padlock on the refrigerator. And so he would– when
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the refrigerator was open, he would kind of like grab
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and hide and hoard food because he couldn't get it
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when he was hungry necessarily. And that unfortunately carried with
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him for so– like into his adulthood and he ended
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up 100 pounds overweight and really battling that– I mean,
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like I said, he did great following 21 Day Fix.
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But even then, like, he would still very much battle
1235
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the mentality of, what if I'm going to be hungry?
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He was never hungry. Like, he would always say it. Like,
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I'm not hungry. I feel good. But I have this, like,
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it's this childhood fear that hasn't been addressed of, what
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if I'm hungry and I can't eat?
1240
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So interesting.
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So it carried with him.
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When I was in first grade, before I was taken
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out to be homeschooled, I remember... there was this kid
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who was overweight. And the only reason I point that
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00:57:49.130 --> 00:57:51.210
out is because I felt bad for him because the
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teacher one time in front of the whole class was pulling,
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looked at his desk and caused the whole scene. It
1248
00:57:57.480 --> 00:57:58.760
was like, why do you have all this? And he
1249
00:57:58.820 --> 00:58:03.320
had bags like full of opened, half eaten, full size
1250
00:58:03.360 --> 00:58:06.579
bag of chips. and candy and some other thing. Cause
1251
00:58:06.599 --> 00:58:09.239
there were like the desks that like, yeah, that had like.
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The opening where you put your folder and stuff.
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00:58:10.800 --> 00:58:13.380
And I remember like kids were laughing about it. And
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so I felt really, really bad for him, but it is,
1255
00:58:16.619 --> 00:58:20.269
it is interesting to think like it's about food security
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for a lot.
1257
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Of security for a lot of people.
1258
00:58:23.250 --> 00:58:25.570
Well, This has been fun. I'd love to hear what
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you guys think, whether it's about Oreo gate, where you
1260
00:58:29.050 --> 00:58:31.610
think the line is from asking other people to bend
1261
00:58:31.650 --> 00:58:34.489
a little bit to your preferences. If it's at the allergy,
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00:58:34.510 --> 00:58:38.119
if there's someplace, you know, if you've had an experience
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00:58:38.159 --> 00:58:40.400
like this, let us know your thoughts. You can email
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00:58:40.460 --> 00:58:43.840
us at everything's perfect podcast at gmail.com. Yes.
1265
00:58:43.860 --> 00:58:47.659
You can find us on Instagram. Everything's perfect. Official. If
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00:58:47.699 --> 00:58:50.679
y'all have been following Oreo gate closer than I have,
1267
00:58:50.780 --> 00:58:52.659
or if Oreo gate has come to a resolution at
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00:58:52.679 --> 00:58:56.849
this point of airing, And we know why she's not
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00:58:56.869 --> 00:58:57.789
allowed to have the Oreos.
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00:58:58.590 --> 00:59:01.840
Please let us know. Fill us in.
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I got a mystery that really needs to be solved.
1272
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And with that, we'll talk to you guys next time.
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See you guys next time.
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Let's get out of this. For real.