Beyond Mindset Limits - Tisha Marie Cain JD, CHt September 09, 2026 Your Story is Evidence

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Welcome to Beyond Mindset Limits with Tisha Marie Kane. Here,
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we explore how unlocking your mindset can pave the way
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for unlimited success. Discover how to create opportunities through legal
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challenges and transform your business and life with effective public
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relations strategies. Get ready to elevate your journey and maximize
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your potential. Now, let's welcome your host, Tisha Marie Kane.
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Oh my goodness, you guys, we are back for another
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week of Beyond Mindset Limits. And this is where we
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go beyond surface level thinking and into real transformation, the
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kind that changes your life, your business, and who you
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want to become.
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I'm your host, Tisha Marie Kane.
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I'm a CEO and founder of Beyond Mindset Limits.
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I'm a publicist, publisher, transformational expert.
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And I've gone from the courtroom to the microphone, helping
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people win in life, helping people win in their business
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and helping people win way beyond that. I help you
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win in the courtroom, in the boardroom, and in life.
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And this platform is about elevating voices, expanding perspectives, and
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bringing you tools to truly step into your power. And today,
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this is gonna be good. We're talking about your story
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is evidence. And before we begin, I started out today
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with some major wins. And I just wanna share with
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you guys today because I am so joyous. I have
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gone from happiness to joy to bliss. And the number
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one win is we have a eight-time champion, Tiger Lily. Reina,
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who is a PGA golf champion. She just published her
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book today. She is out on Amazon and she utilized
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Kane and Company Publishing to get her story out into
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the world. And she has just hit the best selling chart.
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So she is a bestseller.
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If you're a golfer, this book is Golf Fundamentals. It
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is a basic pocket guide that you will want to
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get to.
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Put in your golf bag because she.
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Knows the ins and outs about everything. So I want
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to just celebrate Tiger Lily today.
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Go to Amazon, look up her book.
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We helped her publish her book and get her story
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out to the world. This book is so fantastic and
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you're going to want it.
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So that's number one.
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Number two, right before this radio station, I just found
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out that my Cane's Legal Support Company just went number
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one on... Yelp in California. So my legal company just
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went number one. So when you go and you run
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a little Google.
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Search, I come up.
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So, and I don't know, I guess all the algorithms
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had to like come together.
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I don't know how I won, but they just said,
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you are top 10.
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And not only are you top 10, you are number one.
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And I'm like, yes, I am. Because you know what?
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I'm here to serve. And I'm here to serve on
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a bigger scale. And today, this talk is about your
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story is evidence. And we're going to dive into that.
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But celebrating Tiger today, celebrating that Kane's legal support went
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number one, celebrating I got a new client. My son
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had an amazing day at school today.
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And guess what? We're getting treated to a supper tonight.
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So my family is being treated to dinner tonight to
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go out.
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With some friends. And that's also a blessing and a win.
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So congratulations.
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I don't know if you guys do this, but every year,
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the start of the new year, my husband and I
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do a goal drop.
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Like, what do we want the new year to reflect or.
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What do we want to drive this next coming year?
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In 2026, we named it New Heights, New Sites. And
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every month we go in and put our wins there.
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So we're nine days into September and we just put.
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Our wins, no matter how big, no matter how small.
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We put them in there and we just celebrate because
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it raises our vibration. It raises our consciousness, all the things. Uh,
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I'm celebrating today and I feel so good. And let
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me tell you why.
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Let me give you a little backup story though. Over
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the weekend, I had a little bit of a wobble.
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And so what I decided to do today, and it
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was just simply a decision.
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This is what I write about.
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And this is what I teach is that you can
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just simply wake up and decide that you're.
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Going to have a good day.
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So I woke up before the family this morning and
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I did my epic morning routine.
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I put on my little affirmations. I journaled. I did art.
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I did yoga.
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I got ready before the family was even ready to go.
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And I started my day out with, you know what?
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Today is the day that everything comes together. And I'm
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going to get rid of this.
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Wobble over the weekend. And we'll dive into that. Why
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I had a wobble. And today is the day we're
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just going to put that behind us.
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And we're going to just simply decide that today is
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going to.
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Be a good day. And we're going to move forward.
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So what if your story is just not something that
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just happened to you?
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What if your story is evidence?
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Evidence of what you believe and evidence of what you tolerate,
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what you survive, what you're.
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Here to teach, right? Evidence of where humanity still needs healing.
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And what if your speech or your post or your
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books or.
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Your business or your testimony or your lived experiences are
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are all exhibits in a case that you're building for
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your own life. And you see how my mind goes.
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I go from mindset to legal to publishing. This is
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how I work because I am one of those unicorns
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that can keep track of all the balls in the air.
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So I'm building a case for my life. And what
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if you're doing the same thing? So today on Beyond
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Mindset Limits, we're talking about your story is evidence. This
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episode brings together three worlds that I live in every day, legal, mindset,
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and publishing. Because legally, evidence matters. Mentally, stories we collect
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shape our identity. And through publishing, our stories become messages, books, movements,
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and legacies.
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Leaving to your family.
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But today, I want to take it a bit deeper
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because that's exactly Miss Tisha Marie Kane style. I want
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to go deeper with you. I want to talk about
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the freedom of speech. I want to talk about the
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freedom of religion, the freedom of press, the right to
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assemble and the right to petition the government for redress
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of grievances. And I want to ask you a real
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question and lean in for this, okay?
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How are we supposed to hold.
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Our governments accountable to if we cannot even honor.
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Each other's right to speak? So that's a big question.
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Right.
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How do we hold everybody else accountable if we cannot
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even honor each.
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Other's right to speak?
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So I I do these secret social experiments.
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I think I do them for my life experience on
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planet Earth.
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Right.
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It's kind of spiritual and woo woo and all the things.
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And I'm bringing you all the energy today because I
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just feel so amazing and elevated because I know that
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I take radical responsibility for my life and I want
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to teach you that you can, too. So over the
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weekend during my wobble, I had a social experiment take place.
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And so what I did is I made a social
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media post.
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Imagine that. And some people, it may have looked like
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just a post, but.
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For me, it was a social experiment secret. And I
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wanted to observe something in this post. I wanted to
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test in real time what people would do when someone
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openly supported an NFL team and.
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A political party.
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So I did this post not to poke the bear.
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I am not that type of person. I'm not here
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to like razz people up and like, or my son,
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my 11 year old son, he says, mom, you're, you know,
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you're rage baiting me.
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And I'm like, no, I don't even know that terminology.
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So I'm not here to attack anyone or harm anyone.
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I'm not demanding that anybody agree with me. No, I
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was simply exercising something that we talk about all the
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time in America, right?
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Freedom of speech.
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And me, 17 years of college and law school, freedom.
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Of speech is really important to me.
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And guess what? The responses became evidence. And I watched
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the comments come in when I bridged the gap between
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the political party and the NFL. And some were real
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people and And some look like AI bots or fake accounts.
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They had no followers.
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They had strange names, no profile picture and no real
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identity attached.
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Then came the hate comments on my posts.
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Then came people calling my phone and leaving hate messages.
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While blocking their phone numbers. At first, I'm going to
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be honest. It was funny to watch.
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It really was like it was raising my vibration. I
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was laughing so hard because If you know who I am,
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you know, I'm not poking the bear.
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You know, that's not who I am.
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I'm just I'm just doing a social experiment about freedom
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of speech. And at first it was funny, not because,
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you know, it was funny, but just because it was funny.
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Ha ha. Right. Because the experiment was working for me
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and I was watching people expose themselves in real time.
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I was watching people use their life source energy to
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go out on all the way to attack something or
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someone that that they simply could have ignored. And then
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after a while, after I watched over probably 400 comments
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of attacking, it stopped being funny and it started to
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become annoying. And then for me, I was sad because
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what I really was seeing was not just disagreement. I
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was seeing evidence that many people do not know how
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to communicate. And I was seeing evidence that people want
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freedom for themselves, but not always for others. I was
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seeing evidence that people want to bend over other people's
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will or they want to bend me on their will. Right.
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I was seeing evidence that instead of saying this is
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not my truth and I can just let it pass.
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They choose to use horrible language, ridicule, judgment, and aggression.
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And this morning, after my meditation, it dawned on me,
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of course, Miss Tisha Marie Kane style, I had to
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shut my mouth and get quiet and just, you know, meditate.
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I believe meditation is listening to God. And I believe
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prayer is talking to God. I'm, I'm very much in
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the word every day. And again, you know, I'm not
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religious by all means, but again, our bills of rights,
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the first amendment says that I have a freedom of religion,
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but I'm not, I mean, I believe in Gus, God, universe,
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and spirit, but In my meditation this morning, it dawned
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on me. This is exactly why I do the work
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that I do. Because I could have made meaning of,
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you know, the attacks and the ridicule and the bad language.
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I could have made meaning of this. Like, how can
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people be so ugly? But you know what I made
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meaning of? I started to say, oh, my gosh, thank you, God,
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for showing me that I'm an expert communicator. I teach
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people how to communicate. I mediate conflict. I write about
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this in all of my books. I speak about this
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on my radio show. And I help people come back
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into right relationship with themselves and with their words and
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their behaviors and their own truth. And so my story
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became evidenced. Not just evidence that people disagree, but evidence
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that people are struggling to communicate with emotional maturity. And
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I thought, oh my goodness, this is exactly why I
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have a radio show, Beyond Mindset Limits. This is, you know,
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in today's news, I'm teaching people how to communicate because
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I am an expert communicator. And me doing this social experiment,
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bridging the gap between the NFL and.
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A political party, man, you guys should have seen it, right?
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The First Amendment is so powerful.
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And people don't even read this.
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I carry the United States Constitution, knowing that that's all
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fraud too, just be real.
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I carry it in my purse every day.
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I do. And so nobody even reads this. Congress shall
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make no law respecting an establishment or religion or prohibiting
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the free exercise thereof. So let's talk about respecting. Congress
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shall make no law respecting, like meaning concerning. So let
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me reword that for you. Congress... shall make no law
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concerning an establishment of religion or prohibiting the free exercise
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thereof or abridging the freedom of speech or of the
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press or the right of the people to peacefully assemble.
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Thank you, Martin Luther King.
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And to petition the government for redress of grievances. And
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I tell you, I have had my share of petitioning
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the government for redress of grievance. Now, that's a whole
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private story, not for radio, but it's pretty comical too.
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But the First Amendment right protects us, right? It preserves
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our Freedom of speech, because religion matters, press matters, assembly matters,
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petition matters. The founding fathers understood something that we still
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have not fully mastered.
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A free people must be able to speak.
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And here is where mindset comes in. The Constitution can
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protect your legal right to speech, but it cannot force
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another human being to have the emotional maturity to hear you.
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And that's the deeper issue here. Legally, people have the
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right to speak, but emotionally, many people cannot tolerate another
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person holding a different truth. So they attack and mock
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and label and shame and gang up, right? And then
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they call you names and then they threaten you. Or
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in my case, they called my phone and from a
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block number.
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Like, no, call my phone.
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Let's have an intelligent conversation without, you know, bad words,
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without vulgar language.
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Because I want to see... Maybe I'm missing something.
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You know, maybe I love the Raiders. Let's just be true.
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But maybe the Steelers have something to offer that I
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never was able to see.
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Who knows? I don't care.
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But I'm not so closed minded that I'm not going
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to be able to look at that stuff. Right. And
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that's not communication when you call names or you game
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up or you shame on something.
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That's dysregulation with a keyboard.
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Right.
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And we need to tell the truth about that.
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Because if we cannot honor each other's right to speak,
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how are we supposed to preserve the larger freedoms we
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claim to value? I remember there I was in a
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small coffee shop down in Modesto, California, one time, and
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it was like open mic night.
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Right. It was a great night.
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And you got three minutes to get up in front
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of the mic to say whatever you needed to say.
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And this guy gets up there and he starts spewing
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all of this nonsense that I did not agree with.
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And I can't even remember what he was saying.
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But I just took a moment. I'm like, OK, I
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don't believe in that. I don't I don't really believe
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in that. No, that that doesn't sound right. That doesn't
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go along with my value system. And then, you know,
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what I did is I just put my chin to
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my chest and I put my hands in my lap.
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And I just begin to simply pray for this child.
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I'm like, thank you.
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Thank you for the blessing of the free speech. I'm
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witnessing free speech right now. Thank you to this man.
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Thank you that he had the courage to get up
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and tell his truth. I did not agree with anything
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this young child was saying.
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I say young. I think he was like 18 years old.
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Let's be real.
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But he got up there and he was speaking his truth.
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And you know what he was done? I clapped. Because
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the reality is, if he had the courage.
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To get up there and speak, and I believe in
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The First Amendment, freedom of religion and speech and the press.
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I was going to clap him on and cheer him on.
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And I was going to celebrate him, even though I
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didn't agree with it. Right. So here's the teaching. Sometimes
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the government is not the only threat to free speech.
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Sometimes people become the censorship system. not legally, but behaviorally.
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People may not be writing legislation, but they are trying
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to punish speech socially. They try to shame people into
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silence and bully people into agreement and make disagreement feel dangerous,
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all this stuff.
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They try to.
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Turn differences into disrespect. And this is where we need
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to grow, you guys, because if you only believe in
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free speech when someone agrees with you, then you don't
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really believe in free speech.
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You believe in control.
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And if you only support someone's right to speak, when
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they say what you approve.
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Of, then that's not freedom. That's emotional dictatorship. And I
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know that's a strong phrase. Okay. Give it to me.
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It's a strong phrase, but we need strong language for
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weak behavior because too many people are not communicating.
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They're reacting.
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And I saw it over the weekend with this post, right?
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You do not have to agree with someone to honor
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their right to hold their own truth.
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And that's maturity. And that's communication. And that's freedom. And
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that's the lens I teach from.
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Everything.
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My highest value is freedom. Go back to freedom.
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So if you post something on social media that I
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don't simply agree with, I'm just going to scan over
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it and neutralize it in my body.
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That's not my truth.
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But I'm not going to send you some bad hate
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emojis and all the stuff and vulgar language. No, no, no, no.
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I'm not going to use my life source energy around that.
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Now let's bring this into mindset. When someone posts something
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that you don't like, what happens inside of you?
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Do you become curious? I know I do that for me.
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I'm like, why did they post that?
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What does she mean when she says that? And then
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I go down a journey to, you know, uh, nugget
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out on, right. I become very curious. I'm like, Ooh,
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someone said once. And, and it, for my teachings and
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my learnings, because I believe that I am a, I'm
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a forever disciple, right. I'm teach me the next phase
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of where my soul growth is, right?
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And I believe that Jesus Christ is my life coach
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and I follow that teachings.
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But when I look at that, I become very, very
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curious and I go on a journey to say, okay,
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why did they say that? Someone said this once. Love
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your creators with all your heart and soul. And I thought,
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what the heck is going on?
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Why did they put S at the end of that?
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And I had to stop for a minute. Am I
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in my box? Am I closed off? Am I not?
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Am I unwilling to see? Have I been indoctrinated with all?
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And trust me, I was raised in all the churches.
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You know, my parents told me, Miss Tisha Marie Kane,
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never talk about money, religion, or politics. And you know
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what's so funny? This is the work that I do.
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I talk about money, and I talk about religion, and
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I talk about politics. Because reality is, it's.
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All here for our entertainment purposes. It's all here. It's
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whatever you make meaning of, right? And so... When they
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said creators, I was like, what the heck is going on?
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And of course I had to go on a journey
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on that. And of course I found my own truth
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on what that means to me.
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And I felt, you know, I did enough research to comprehend,
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not understand.
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We don't use that word, but I did enough research
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to comprehend what that truth means for me.
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Right?
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So your comments are evidence. Your language are evidence. Silence
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is evidence. The restraint is evidence. You need to correct
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everyone is evidence. You need to shame someone is evidence.
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And this is the real work. If you do not
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like something, neutralize it. Do not worship it with your attention.
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Do not feed it with your energy. Do not make
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it stronger by.
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Obsessing over it. I had one guy go on every
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one of my... He hated my post so much.
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He went on every one of my posts and gave
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me a little laughing emoji.
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And I was like... Wow. And I just looked at
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that and I.
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Thought, wow, this guy gave me like a couple hours
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of his time. Great.
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Thank you so much for tickling my algorithms, right?
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Because what he did is he just pushed me up
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the ladder so I can get in front of more
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people to help people communicate and help people neutralize this
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inside their body. Your nervous system does not need to
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respond to every opinion as it's an emergency. Some things
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are just not yours. Some posts are not yours. Some
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conversations are not yours.
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Some beliefs are not yours. Some rooms, some battles, some
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people are not your people. So let it pass.
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You know how many times I see something, I'm like, oh, okay.
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I don't even make judgment of it anymore. I'm just like, huh, interesting, bye.
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And then I let it pass.
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Over me because at the end of the day, I'm
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driving my impact.
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I have a north star.
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I have this North Star that drives my whole entire life.
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And if you think about a star, it's five points
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on a star, the good star, let's be real. And
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that's my North Star. And so I have family and
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impact and travel and wealth and health on this North Star.
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So if it does not push me towards success, One
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of those five points of light. Thank you, Miss Dr.
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Dream Kelly Sullivan Walden out of L.A.
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She's amazing.
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You know, she gave me this this tool. She gave
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me this tool to be able to have a guiding
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light for myself.
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What are my values?
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If it's not guiding me towards my family or wealth
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or health or travel or impact, I'm not doing it.
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And this guy gave me freaking two hours of his
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time and laughing all over my page.
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And I just said, thank you. Thank you. We love you.
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And I was just in this child so much love, right?
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Cause I'm like, I must've been bored. So we're going
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to come back. We're going to pause right here for
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bow on this and we're going to short up and we're.
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Welcome back to Beyond Mindset Limits. My name is Tisha
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Marie Kane.
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I am your.
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Radio show host for this segment in this time space continuum.
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I just want to reach out to you. I just
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want to wrap your heart in so much love because
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what I'm talking about today is an opinion. What I'm
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talking about is freedom of speech. What I'm talking about
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is everyone has to have their opinion. If I like
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oranges and you hate them, you can just say, wow,
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I don't like oranges and pass on by. Or, you know,
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you could show me who you are, who your evidence
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is and go on and leave some, you know, um,
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strawberry emojis on my social media posts. You could do
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whatever you want, but it's just evidence to who you are.
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And if you're spending so much of your life, I
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can tell you right now, because of the thousands of
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clients I've worked with over the years, I can tell
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you right now, if you're using that life source energy
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to spiel hate speech and leave bad emojis and do
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all of that stuff, I can, I can guarantee you,
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I'll bet you a hundred bucks that that you're not
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making the money that you need to be making.
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You're not healthy.
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You're not physically healthy.
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You're probably overweight.
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You're not, not meeting your mental goals. You're not meeting
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your physical goals because if you're using all of your
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life source energy to, to hurt someone else, it's evidence
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that you're hurting.
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And I just want to, I just.
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Want to wrap your heart in so much love today,
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because if you're hurting that bad that you have to
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go out and hurt someone else, I'm sorry. I'm really
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sorry that that happened to you. And you might want
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to set up a session with me. This is the
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exact reason that I do what I do and the
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work that I do and the books that I publish.
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If this conversation activates something in you, this is exactly
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the work that I do beyond mindset limits in a
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breakthrough session.
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You know, you don't need more information.
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You need a clean mirror, a safe room, or someone
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that can help you identify the patterns and help you move.
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So schedule a private session with me and go to
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my website. We can do a free discovery call and
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I can help you through because it's like I can
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find how language is driving your life. And I'll give
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you another example. Over the weekend, I had a lady,
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she was an advocate for her buddy. And her buddy
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was 45 years old. And at 17, he was in
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the foster system. And then they just, I guess the
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foster family like just kicked him out at 17. And
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he hasn't really been able to, you know, get on
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his feet and get the things that he needed and
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the resources that he needed. And she was calling me
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for help. And I said, yeah, you know, I'd love
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to be able to help. And I said, well, tell
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me more about your friend. And she said, well, he's
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45 and he's been through the system and he was
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a foster child. I said, well, I'm a CASA advocate,
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a court appointed special advocate. I said, did he have
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one of those? She goes, oh, I just don't know. But,
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you know, he's 45 and he's struggling. And, you know,
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he had some bad stuff happen in the past. And,
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you know, are there any services.
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Available to him? And I'm like, you know what?
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California is the most liberal state in all of the
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50 states. I said, I'm sure there is. I said,
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we can go down to the county and just, you know,
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tell them our story.
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This is where we are. We don't have a job yet.
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We don't have an ability.
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To feed ourselves. Are there any resources available to her?
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So what I did is I gave her a few hotlines.
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I gave her a few addresses so she could take
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her buddy down and get the services.
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That he needed.
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But what I what I really did for her is
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give her the language to give to him. And basically
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what I said as an expert communicator, I said, you
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know what? I am sorry that happened to your friend.
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But I'm telling you right now with the language that
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you're using, you're telling me that when he was 17,
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he had all of this language. harm happened to him.
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And now he's 45 and he's still holding on to
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the victim consciousness, right?
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I'm a victim. I've been harmed. You know, I can't
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believe it, right?
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Justice, you know, is slow if it ever comes. And
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I tell you, there's parts in my life, I had
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to go down in the trenches, the hurting. It was
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disgusting that I still haven't got justice. for a few
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things that I tried to get justice for. But I'm
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telling you right now, Dr. Wayne Dyer talks about erasing.
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Your personal story.
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If you keep identifying with that old version of the
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harmed you, you're gonna continue to see evidence of that, right?
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And so this is what I teach is to neutralize that.
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If your story continues to become, I was harmed, I
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was harmed, I was harmed, hey, You guys, we are back,
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and it looks like we are having some weather today.
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I apologize, but we are here, and we're coming back,
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and we don't give up. You know, no matter what happens,
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the systems go down. I lost all power in the office.
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coming back, right? And we neutralize it. Hey, we don't
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judge it. Hey, whatever reason, we just keep on coming back.
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So our story is evidence for what we believe in, right?
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I write about.
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Communication because communication is just not talking. Communication is behavior.
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It's your energy. It's your self-regulation. It's your responsibility, right?
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And this is the difference. I've seen this in mediation
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and my legal work. I've seen this in family conflict
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and business and clients. And I've seen this in social media.
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But most conflict does not start because people don't have
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the words because we all have a lot of words.
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Most conflict starts because people don't have regulation. And they
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don't know how to pause. And they don't know how
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to listen. And they don't know how to separate perception
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from fact. And they don't know how to separate disagreement
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from danger. And they don't know how to say, this
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is your truth and this is mine and we don't
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have to destroy each other. So interesting how I saw
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a wobble this weekend, how people went out of their
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way to try to bend me on their truth or
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bend me on their will. That's evidence that someone is
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not truly healed. And that's evidence for someone who's hurting.
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So we're going to just send those people light and love,
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and we're not going to pay any attention to them.
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We're going to keep on keeping on, right? And this
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is why the topic, your story, is evidence is so powerful.
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because it works in every lane. In the legal realm,
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in the legal world, your story needs evidence. It needs
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documentation and receipts and timelines and contracts and proof, right?
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In mindset work, your story becomes evidence of what you're believing, right?
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I could make meaning of this whole little power outage
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going out. I can say, woo, you know, some juju
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and need to get some sage.
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And palo alto.
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No, I'm just going to blame it on the weather.
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We're going to keep on keeping on and we're going
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to come back and we're going to keep getting up
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because you know what? I'm here to serve and I'm
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here to teach people that there's a better way to
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behave and act and show up, right? Are you collecting
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evidence that people are cruel or are you collecting evidence
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that humanity needs deeper communication tools? Are you collecting evidence
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that you should hide or are you collecting evidence that
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you're here to teach? Same facts, different meaning. And that's mindset.
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And when I woke up today and I had that
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download in my meditation, I was So I looked at it.
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There was about 400 hate speeches, right? Hate comments. And
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I looked at them. I'm like, it's only 400. I
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didn't make meaning of it. I just said, oh, there's 8.2
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billion people on planet Earth and only 400 were angry?
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I'm doing something good, you know? I didn't make meaning
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of it. And then I thought, again, was, okay. This
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is exactly why I do the work that I do
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is to teach people how to communicate. Because if you
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got triggered by that post this weekend, it's evidence that
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that's information for you to look at. If it just,
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you know, tanned your hide, then you need to look
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at that, right? Someone can't say, I love bananas, and
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you get all angry. Like, why could she say I
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love bananas? No. You can say, hey, I never really
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liked bananas in my life, but if she likes it,
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good for her i'm keeping on keeping on and i'm
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gonna go build my business and i'm gonna go build
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my body and i'm gonna go help my neighbor right
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i'm gonna do all those things to add to humanity's
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awakening versus taking away are you taking or are you
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giving are you adding are you subtracting Because everything I do,
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I add value. That's why my sessions, you get one
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hypnotherapy appointment with me. I give you two integration calls.
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You get my free book, Successful Women Show Up Differently.
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I give you a couple of money mindset coloring books
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to work on your relationship with money. I add so
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much value because I want to stack value and give
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back because I know that the work that I do,
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I'm passionate about the work that I do that we
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need to elevate humanity and elevate elevate consciousness. So if
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you're operating in that low density, that low, and we've
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talked about this on past radio shows about that map
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of the consciousness, anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shame, not good enough.
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Those are all low density vibrations. If you're still in,
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if you're angry, I can't remember. I don't get angry.
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I hardly ever get angry these days. I I go
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to because it slows me down but I don't really
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get angry these days because I'm like watch there's nothing
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to be so angry about if someone posts a social
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media post about their political party or their NFL football
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team I love me some football do I have any
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listeners out there who love some football you know I
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just love now I get it I went down the
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journey of researching football back in the day of Rome
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And King Ferdinand, you know, developed the circus and gave everybody,
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you know, sports and breadcrumbs to steal the gold. Okay,
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I did all that. I knew it's a distraction. But
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I got so rigid and so upset. That they did
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that to us. They gave us sports as a distraction
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not to concentrate on our lives. And then I wouldn't
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watch sports. It was like a year and a half.
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I didn't even watch me some football until I had
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to ask myself some questions. Is that expanding me or
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is that keeping me in a box? Can I allow
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myself to let the rains out a little bit and
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watch a football game? You know, it's four hours once
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a month. Can I allow myself during season? You know,
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it's 24 weeks now. I don't watch all the football
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games because I have my own certain team that I watch.
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But can I allow myself to enjoy a football game?
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And I talked about this yesterday. This whole life is
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here for entertainment purposes. It's whatever you make meaning of, right?
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Are you making meaning... Oh my gosh, she likes this
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football team. How could she? She's a dirty, rotten scoundrel.
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Right?
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I wouldn't even give anybody my energy on that. Heck no.
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Heck no. I'm like, okay, you like those?
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That's why.
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In this world And there's a bunch of women that
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get together monthly and they go out to supper and
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they go out to like bingo or game night or
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something like that. And one of the girls in the
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chat said, hey, do we have any NFL ladies? And
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I said, yep, over here. I love me some football.
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And one lady said, well, I'm a diehard Steelers fan.
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And one lady said, well, I'm a diehard 49er fan.
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And I'm like, well, good for you. I'm cheering you
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guys on. I said, I love me some football. And so, like,
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everybody gave little hearts in the chat because we weren't
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there to, like... bend them on my will to come
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over to my team. I don't care. I don't care
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what team you got. You want to watch some football and,
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you know, have some hors d'oeuvres and drink some sweet
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tea together? That's what I want to do.
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I want to get around people.
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Who enjoy the sports of the game, you know? I
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don't want to get around those people who yell and
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throw things at the TV. That's not what I want
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to do. But, you know, just like, hey, that was
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a good play or, hey, that was a good run.
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Just something to add some enjoyment into our life, right?
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So we got to come correct. We got to come
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correct on our behavior. If you're harming someone, you got
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to look at that. I don't harm anyone, you know.
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By me posting a social media post about bridging the
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gap between a political party and an NFL team, that
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shouldn't have harmed anyone. And if you think I was
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harming you, you got some work to do, honey. You
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got some work to do. And you can come to me.
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I'm not judgy. You can come to me and I
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can show you where you need to come correct. Pause
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before you respond. A pause can save your character. And
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ask yourself, is this response clean? Separate fact from story. Fact,
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someone posted something I disagree with. Story, they're evil, they're dumb,
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they're dangerous, they need to be silenced. No, we have
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a First Amendment right. That's freedom of speech for a reason, right?
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You can disagree firmly without using horrible language. Say, oh,
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I see it differently.
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Yeah.
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Or you can say, yeah, here's my concern. Or, you know,
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I don't align with that values, but thank you. That's communication.
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Know when to disengage. Not every conversation deserves access to
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your nervous system. You can mute them. You can unfollow them.
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You can scroll. You can leave. You can block them.
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You can unfriend them, right? I've had people unfriend me,
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and I've unfriended people because they just weren't kind. And
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one of the comments in my social media post, it
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had all this bad language, bad language over and over
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and over, like three sentences. And I was like, huh.
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That's interesting. I just got really curious, and I clicked
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on the little profile, and her profile said, be kind
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and do the right thing. And I thought, huh, that's
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out of congruence, but.
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Okay, blocked.
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Right?
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And I didn't make any meaning. It doesn't affect me.
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You get to have.
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Your own opinions. Your story is evidence for the life
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that you're leading. I'm leading this amazing life because I'm
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growing my impact, teaching people that you get to decide
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the life that you want. And I'm deciding to not
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make meaning out of all of that baloney. Because at
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the end of the day, you know what? I got
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my family. I got my health. I got my wealth.
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I look at it all. So today, I want to
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ask you this. to ask yourself something. What case am
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I building with my life? Are you building a case
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that people cannot be trusted? Are you building a case
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that everyone is against you? Are you building a case
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that your voice does not matter? Are you building a
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case that the world is too dangerous? Or are you
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building a case that you are resistant? What are you building?
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I don't want to build that. Every reaction is evidence.
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Every post is evidence. Every boundary is evidence. And here's
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the teaching. Here's the teaching. We are living in a
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time where people have more platforms than ever and less
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communication mastery than ever. People can post instantly, but they
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can't always pause. So I want to leave you with this.
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Your story is evidence, but you get to decide what
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it proves. It can prove that you're hurt, or it
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can prove that you're healed. My name is Tisha Marie Cain,
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and this is my radio show, Beyond Mindset Limits. Thank
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you for tuning in, and I hope this helped you.
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And if you're hurting right now, I'm sending you so
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much love. Find me at www.TishaMarieCain.com. Thanks, guys, for tuning
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in today. Have a good evening.
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Thank you for joining Tisha Marie Cain for Beyond Mindset Limits.
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Tune in every Wednesday at 4 p.m. as the conversation
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continues around mindset, legal insight, and publishing as a strategic
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tool for business positioning. Visit TishaMarieCain.com or CainsLegalSupport.com for more
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