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You've heard that communication is the key to a healthy relationship. But what if the way you communicate is actually creating distance between you and your partner?
In Part 2 of this conversation on ChosenSA, Jirzia Blackmon joins Pastor Cindy Agodwin to continue exploring the Gottman Method and the relationship research of Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman.
This time, they take a deeper look at the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse—communication patterns that can create conflict, disconnection, and emotional distance in relationships.
Jirzia breaks down how these patterns show up in everyday conversations and shares practical ways couples can begin moving from conflict to connection.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE DISCUSS:
Criticism: How attacking your partner's character instead of addressing their behavior creates defensiveness.
Contempt: How belittling, superiority, and condescending communication damage emotional connection.
Defensiveness: Why protecting yourself from blame can prevent you from taking responsibility for your part.
Gentle Startups: How to bring up difficult conversations without attacking your partner.
Taking Responsibility: Why acknowledging your part in a disagreement can reduce tension.
Validation and Empathy: How to help your partner feel heard, even when you don't agree.
Healing Past Wounds: How childhood experiences and feelings of inadequacy can influence how we respond to conflict.
Jirzia also shares a reminder that couples need to hear:
You can love someone deeply and still have patterns that hurt your relationship.
The good news? Patterns can change when we're willing to recognize them and do the work.
If you're navigating recurring arguments, communication challenges, or emotional disconnection in your relationship, this conversation offers practical insights to help you start looking within.
🎙️ Watch Part 2 of Jirzia Blackmon's conversation with Pastor Cindy Agodwin on ChosenSA.
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