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00:00:24.800I'm about to get Jason a voice box because I didn't hear that.
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00:00:36.799Is that what it is?
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00:00:39.520I mean, but you're still in the room.
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00:01:01.840Now anyway, we're back.
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00:01:03.600We are back.
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00:01:12.239We've been out of here for what, y'all?
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00:01:40.000So tonight, our title was Everything's on the Table.
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00:01:57.599We're gonna have to get we're gonna have to drink one day and play space sitting right here.
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00:02:00.799I'm very serious with my spades.
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00:02:06.640I'm not even gonna sing that because I don't want y'all to roast me.
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00:02:15.919Oh my gosh, Keila.
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00:02:18.879I'm sorry.
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00:02:20.879I was gonna say what?
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00:02:27.840That's the only no, I play I know how to play tunk.
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00:02:30.560I don't remember that.
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00:02:34.639So because of that, we are looking for a fourth member.
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00:02:38.879Keila is oh that day.
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00:02:43.680You can just make us some drinks.
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00:02:58.560Tigger and his wife.
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00:03:00.960Oh bigger is really on the bigger.
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00:03:02.960Why y'all keep calling that man Tigger?
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00:03:03.919What is this man?
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00:03:12.159Like that's just such much of a different thing.
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00:03:19.120If you Google Tigger, it's not gonna come up.
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00:03:25.759I realized he's rubbing that grass in his 50s.
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00:03:28.560Yeah, I did not realize that man was in his 50s.
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00:03:47.520I wouldn't know what was in that phone.
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00:03:49.599That video was hilarious.
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00:03:50.240I'm sorry.
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00:03:57.759The girl got kidnapped.
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00:04:02.479Yeah, the daughter missed.
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00:04:04.319But the day I says she kidnapped.
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00:04:05.280I heard that too.
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00:04:06.479I heard something about the indication.
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00:04:08.560That's what I'm saying.
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00:04:13.439So this was an old case apparently that she kidnapped her daughter from her father.
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00:04:20.240I guess so, yeah.
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00:04:21.600But now she's 17, right?
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00:04:36.160Don't leave behold us to that information because please don't.
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00:04:46.720That's that's Play.
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00:04:48.639Who don't know how to play space?
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00:04:49.759That video was funny.
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00:04:52.560Who is the y'all know who the person was that was recording?
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00:04:57.279No, it was somebody who was it?
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00:05:03.680So she has a son too.
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00:05:13.519And it's not stepping on her.
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00:05:24.000Yeah, because he originally did the kid say that arrested.
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00:05:37.040I mean, no, that's why the camera got released, the footage.
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00:05:49.920So I think she came.
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00:06:03.120So wait, that that none of the paperwork said that she said her husband abused her.
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00:06:09.600Oh no, well, when she said her own personal video.
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00:06:17.360No, before she went on her story and she said her husband was abusive.
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00:06:21.920So if you said your husband is abusive, then she came back and cleared it up.
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00:06:38.480But why?
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00:06:53.519I'm gonna need y'all to know that if somebody called the police, you or him is coming out.
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00:07:03.120He went, he came back home, tried to get his phone, and now you're making it seem like he's abusing you again.
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00:07:06.319No, and I'm glad that was on camera because that baby.
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00:07:20.560The baby, the boy, whoever was recording, was like, get off of her, get off of her, Mr.
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00:07:22.560That's what I'm saying.
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00:07:24.639The reason why he called him Mr.
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00:07:27.199Tigger is because that's his stepdad.
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00:07:35.839I'm laughing at your talking about Mr.
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00:07:38.240That's what I'm saying.
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00:07:43.839I mean, but he had kids because the kids are no kids.
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00:07:44.639Well, why you recording?
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00:07:46.800I mean that you had that problem.
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00:07:52.079My six-year-old beat the but not paying attention.
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00:08:01.040Tigger is beating on his mama, but not understanding that it fucked because you helped.
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00:08:02.639But you were trying to prove that he didn't know.
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00:08:04.560So y'all think it was pre-planned?
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00:08:05.600No, baby.
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00:08:08.639Oh, but that's some people said it was old footage, but I don't understand.
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00:08:10.639I mean, it was not pre-planned.
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00:08:13.920The thing about it is, you know what I'm saying?
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00:08:17.600I think whatever she posted on the internet got everybody involved.
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00:08:33.440That's what I was saying.
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00:08:50.559I don't understand that.
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00:08:56.559I mean, we never know what type of relationships people have.
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00:09:01.440So his co- so his co-worker on the radio showing her suing her.
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00:09:07.039Because she was that they were messing around and that they wasn't.
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00:09:13.440So I also saw there was a lot of interviews that apparently he did that a lot of people were warning him about this particular woman.
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00:09:14.720Did y'all see that?
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00:09:16.000Like, who is she?
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00:09:19.440Okay, that's what I'm saying.
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00:09:24.159Like, is it somebody they warning her about because of what she did about the baby, or was there a lot more to it?
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00:09:30.159From what I heard, I don't know what her background is, but what I heard was her ex warned him.
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00:09:42.080But can you get in trouble for taking your child and taking them?
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00:09:42.720I don't think you can.
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00:09:49.600And if they custody, but if they keep saying she's missing, that's why they're saying she's missing.
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00:09:50.879Right, so they don't have no proof.
00:09:51.360 -->
00:09:52.240I don't think she's missing either.
00:09:54.000 -->
00:09:55.679She gotta be because she locked up right now.
00:09:55.919 -->
00:09:58.639So I saw not only was she locked up because of that, they saying.
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00:10:00.000Because they all uh suffered.
00:10:00.159 -->
00:10:01.279Her daughter is missing over suffering.
00:10:01.519 -->
00:10:03.039So she's been missing for years.
00:10:03.279 -->
00:10:06.480No, so she had a a warrant or something in Maryland.
00:10:06.720 -->
00:10:09.120They live in Atlanta, so that's why she's arrested.
00:10:10.399 -->
00:10:16.320So the warrant is apparently she was she had a miscarriage and she was having postpartum, so that's her excuse.
00:10:16.480 -->
00:10:20.000But she went to a casino, went gambling somewhere, and left her child in the car for eight hours.
00:10:20.159 -->
00:10:20.480Hold on.
00:10:20.559 -->
00:10:21.440So it's not his own.
00:10:22.799 -->
00:10:23.120That's missing.
00:10:23.600 -->
00:10:24.960That's her original warrant for, right?
00:10:25.279 -->
00:10:28.320So why do I keep reading stories about they say it's so many stories?
00:10:29.360 -->
00:10:30.480It's so many insane stories.
00:10:31.679 -->
00:10:32.879Let's see what we love stuff.
00:10:33.120 -->
00:10:34.240No, yeah, it's a lot of not.
00:10:34.480 -->
00:10:37.120They got a baby, so they baby is not missing.
00:10:37.200 -->
00:10:39.200They have a baby together, so it's her child right now.
00:10:40.080 -->
00:10:41.120That's her child.
00:10:41.360 -->
00:10:42.080That's what they were saying.
00:10:42.159 -->
00:10:43.759And he should have done background checks on her.
00:10:43.919 -->
00:10:44.240A lot of people.
00:10:44.559 -->
00:10:49.519I mean, we know background checks on people, but when somebody showed us who they is, we gotta believe them.
00:10:49.679 -->
00:10:50.879And that's what we don't do.
00:10:51.039 -->
00:10:56.240We give chance after chance after chance, and then be like, okay, you already showed us so background checks.
00:10:56.320 -->
00:10:59.279So that was another question that came from this story.
00:10:59.519 -->
00:11:02.960How often are y'all outside actually doing background checks on the people y'all dating?
00:11:03.120 -->
00:11:05.600And is that they're not dating, they married.
00:11:05.759 -->
00:11:06.399No, not them.
00:11:06.639 -->
00:11:07.519I'm just saying that was a question.
00:11:07.600 -->
00:11:11.519So when you start dating somebody, are you not doing a thorough check background check?
00:11:11.759 -->
00:11:12.000I don't know.
00:11:12.399 -->
00:11:16.000I'm not going on no internet looking at the nowadays.
00:11:16.080 -->
00:11:21.120People probably check their social media and try to see what, but that's the farthest that you really go.
00:11:21.519 -->
00:11:23.120I say that too, so I don't I don't remember the story.
00:11:23.200 -->
00:11:25.039I mean, I remember the story, but I don't remember the names.
00:11:25.120 -->
00:11:30.399But I think this was in Flint somewhere where the girl was with the man, they were married and had three kids in the whole time.
00:11:30.559 -->
00:11:37.759He had just got released from prison from raping for rape, and he was in prison a couple times for rape, and she would have had no idea because she didn't do a thorough background check on him.
00:11:37.840 -->
00:11:40.960Yeah, that's why they say, like, y'all might want to start investing in stuff like that.
00:11:41.120 -->
00:11:42.399You might want to check it.
00:11:42.480 -->
00:11:48.720A lot of people have a lot of them are registered sex offenders, and you just have no idea because you social media are not gonna tell you that.
00:11:49.919 -->
00:11:51.759So you might want to start doing some background checks on these folks.
00:11:51.840 -->
00:11:52.879I ain't gonna tell me that you crazy.
00:11:53.600 -->
00:11:57.759I mean, nowadays it's so much going on, but just think about it back in the day.
00:11:58.240 -->
00:12:00.639You ain't about to Google no guy and try to see.
00:12:01.759 -->
00:12:03.200I mean, that's we didn't do all that.
00:12:03.440 -->
00:12:04.480That's a lot to do.
00:12:04.639 -->
00:12:06.159It is, it's it's vibes.
00:12:06.320 -->
00:12:07.519Either I like you or I don't.
00:12:07.600 -->
00:12:11.600If you give me a vibe, vibe, it's like, oh, something off, or they make me feel some type of way.
00:12:12.080 -->
00:12:13.919It's something that has to happen that pushes.
00:12:14.399 -->
00:12:17.200I mean, you will know too, like the family-wise the kids where's the kids.
00:12:17.919 -->
00:12:18.879Yeah, you just don't know.
00:12:18.960 -->
00:12:28.799Yeah, like you don't know right why he don't get to see his kids, why he ain't got his family, why they you know, of course they can give you stories still, but eventually something's gonna come out.
00:12:29.120 -->
00:12:32.240Yeah, so I'm gonna open up a business to do background checks for everybody.
00:12:32.320 -->
00:12:33.279Y'all can just send them to me.
00:12:33.600 -->
00:12:35.039Oh, well, that might be a good business.
00:12:35.360 -->
00:12:35.840No, for real.
00:12:36.080 -->
00:12:37.840We do dating background checks around here.
00:12:38.639 -->
00:12:43.279I mean, you might need to say she did a background check on somebody I was dating once before.
00:12:43.360 -->
00:12:44.399Oh, she was he okay?
00:12:44.799 -->
00:12:45.919I bet you he gave her a vibe.
00:12:48.639 -->
00:12:49.679She just like that.
00:12:49.759 -->
00:12:50.879They just like, no, I need to know.
00:12:51.919 -->
00:12:54.240All right, so we're gonna move on to spin that shit.
00:12:55.679 -->
00:12:57.039Oh spin that shit.
00:12:57.279 -->
00:12:57.919Spin it.
00:13:00.080 -->
00:13:00.879I ain't gonna lie.
00:13:00.960 -->
00:13:05.759Every time I every time I hear that song, I'll be wanting to say that's catchy, it's very catchy.
00:13:05.919 -->
00:13:18.080It is so y'all see the inner was talking about it recently because there were some words that were said from Indy I re and a lot of other people, and then they misunderstood, I think, what she was trying to say, but they were saying that well who Indy Iree.
00:13:18.399 -->
00:13:23.919They thought that she was trying to say boycott the song, and she made it very clear when she came back on her and they said that's not what she was saying.
00:13:24.000 -->
00:13:28.080She was just saying that that type of music we promote any.
00:13:28.879 -->
00:13:30.559Yeah, it's not good for our use, basically.
00:13:30.639 -->
00:13:31.200You know what I'm saying?
00:13:31.279 -->
00:13:32.960It it destroys the whatever.
00:13:33.039 -->
00:13:33.360Yeah, like that.
00:13:33.440 -->
00:13:34.159But it's not for her.
00:13:34.320 -->
00:13:36.080She was saying it's not for her, like that's for you.
00:13:36.159 -->
00:13:36.799Go ahead and do that.
00:13:36.879 -->
00:13:40.480But that's not something that I will listen to or go by and blah blah blah.
00:13:40.720 -->
00:13:43.679So a lot of people was talking about castling, a lot of people took the for it.
00:13:43.759 -->
00:13:46.000I saw a lot of people having uh Miami back though.
00:13:46.240 -->
00:13:48.639Out of out of every song, why did you come for this song?
00:13:48.720 -->
00:13:49.279Why did you come?
00:13:49.440 -->
00:13:54.960It's not like we're gonna go out there and just do get a scammer and do all it's not like we're gonna go out and do it.
00:13:55.279 -->
00:13:58.639But I think what she's saying is that's what the youth is doing now.
00:13:58.720 -->
00:14:06.879So it's like back then we didn't look at rappers and um celebrities as we wanted to live their lives.
00:14:07.120 -->
00:14:09.919But why did she pick this song out of all the songs in the world?
00:14:10.639 -->
00:14:12.080Maybe because what it's saying.
00:14:12.480 -->
00:14:14.720Out of all the songs in the world, I mean, but a lot of people.
00:14:18.080 -->
00:14:18.960No, it is, right?
00:14:19.120 -->
00:14:23.440It is a lot of songs, but I think I think that was a woman.
00:14:23.519 -->
00:14:25.519Yes, it's she was a topic right now.
00:14:28.960 -->
00:14:31.759And I believe she probably would say the same thing about sexy red.
00:14:32.240 -->
00:14:42.960So I don't, I think a pe a lot of people got a problem with it because they feel like she singled out young Miami, but I think it was because everybody is speaking on everything now.
00:14:43.039 -->
00:14:50.639So it's like when those other songs was coming out, everybody didn't have this vocalization that we have now where you can just no, they didn't.
00:14:50.799 -->
00:14:53.279They still talked about songs, but it's getting more and more.
00:14:53.519 -->
00:14:56.720Just think about but just think about 2020.
00:14:56.799 -->
00:14:58.480It wasn't no podcast like that.
00:14:58.639 -->
00:15:00.080That was just six years ago.
00:15:00.159 -->
00:15:02.960It was, but it was but not like how it is now.
00:15:03.279 -->
00:15:10.159So now with so many people talking about everything, TikTok wasn't doing what it's doing now because that was for the kids.
00:15:10.559 -->
00:15:17.759So it's like it's so many things that celebrities get to chime in on now that they never really chimed in on before she's caught.
00:15:17.840 -->
00:15:20.399So you would feel like she commented on it because it just was popping right now.
00:15:22.559 -->
00:15:24.399Not that it's it was a hottest song right now.
00:15:24.559 -->
00:15:27.919So maybe if she was in an interview, she probably would collide a lot a lot more.
00:15:28.159 -->
00:15:29.279But right now, because that's popping out.
00:15:29.519 -->
00:15:31.840Because what she was saying is it's about the youth.
00:15:32.000 -->
00:15:36.720So I feel like she wasn't just the people really just made it about young Miami.
00:15:36.879 -->
00:15:40.240I think she was just saying that we gotta be careful was what's being put out there.
00:15:40.399 -->
00:15:40.639She did.
00:15:40.720 -->
00:15:44.399She was being said she wasn't really just singling out her.
00:15:44.639 -->
00:15:44.799Okay.
00:15:45.120 -->
00:15:46.559It was just that's what everybody else is.
00:15:46.879 -->
00:15:49.120Okay, but if I feel like that, I don't feel like I would have said that.
00:15:49.440 -->
00:15:54.559But it was one thing that she did say that I tell my kids all the time.
00:15:54.799 -->
00:15:58.639You have to guard your ear gate, and you have to guard your eye gate.
00:15:59.440 -->
00:16:01.120Because it's what you take in.
00:16:01.200 -->
00:16:02.159This is exactly what she said.
00:16:02.240 -->
00:16:04.879It's it's what you take in, it's what you do.
00:16:05.120 -->
00:16:10.799And a lot of times, and what's happening is it's not a lot of times, what's happening is is these kids are imitating.
00:16:10.879 -->
00:16:11.840We didn't imitate these things.
00:16:11.919 -->
00:16:12.559That's what I just said.
00:16:12.720 -->
00:16:22.399Well, I ain't gonna say we didn't, all of us did not do that, but you had some kids that imitated the things that we were going through back in the day, you know, all the music and stuff, you know what I'm saying?
00:16:22.480 -->
00:16:26.000Like everything is hyper, like sexually hyper now.
00:16:26.080 -->
00:16:26.639You know what I'm saying?
00:16:26.799 -->
00:16:28.399Now everything is shooting.
00:16:29.360 -->
00:16:30.000You know what I'm saying?
00:16:30.159 -->
00:16:31.440Again, what's happening?
00:16:31.840 -->
00:16:32.559That's what they're doing.
00:16:34.480 -->
00:16:36.879I also think, oh she's my pussy pink, my booty home.
00:16:37.039 -->
00:16:37.919I mean, that's a song.
00:16:38.080 -->
00:16:40.799Yeah, like I don't like, I don't like none of that stuff.
00:16:41.279 -->
00:16:43.120So you know what I think too?
00:16:43.279 -->
00:16:51.919Because we regardless of I saw somebody else was explaining how this was because the music is just getting, I guess it's just getting more outright.
00:16:52.080 -->
00:16:52.879It's outright, yeah.
00:16:53.120 -->
00:16:53.600It's getting that way.
00:16:53.840 -->
00:16:54.480It's more selling.
00:16:54.559 -->
00:16:55.519I feel like it's been outright.
00:16:55.759 -->
00:16:56.480It's not been that way.
00:16:57.919 -->
00:16:59.360It was worse, but I gotta comment on that.
00:17:03.120 -->
00:17:03.919You know what it was?
00:17:04.240 -->
00:17:05.599So Lily, it was out there.
00:17:07.039 -->
00:17:07.920It was a lot worse back then.
00:17:08.720 -->
00:17:12.480I'm not even gonna say a lot worse, but the songs was horrible back then.
00:17:12.640 -->
00:17:15.200Yeah, they were they wasn't at your reach.
00:17:15.440 -->
00:17:19.519You couldn't just wake up in the morning and hear my boom on the radio.
00:17:20.559 -->
00:17:22.559You have to wait until out of time.
00:17:22.960 -->
00:17:26.480Like you have to go on a special channel that had locks to see these things.
00:17:27.519 -->
00:17:28.799Now it's it's just access.
00:17:30.400 -->
00:17:30.960No, the other one.
00:17:31.519 -->
00:17:40.079BT after dark, BNC after so it's like now our kids have access to all of the there's no limits, okay?
00:17:40.319 -->
00:17:41.359It's no blocking them.
00:17:41.440 -->
00:17:43.680They be like, oh, well, don't let them have social media.
00:17:43.759 -->
00:17:45.200They're gonna sneak and do it anyway.
00:17:45.759 -->
00:17:49.119So everything is out of our control, and that's what she's saying.
00:17:49.279 -->
00:17:50.720How do we get control back?
00:17:50.880 -->
00:17:56.960Yeah, we can't get control back if this is what's being put out.
00:17:57.200 -->
00:17:57.839That's that's nothing.
00:17:58.240 -->
00:17:59.440You do gotta have control of your own.
00:17:59.759 -->
00:18:06.240But you can't say it just because mine might be good, the next one might not be, but I can't get mad at that one because that one ain't in my household.
00:18:06.319 -->
00:18:08.240Yeah, so I'm not about to go crazy over here.
00:18:08.400 -->
00:18:09.039Somebody I cannot.
00:18:09.279 -->
00:18:09.920That's all I'm gonna say.
00:18:11.599 -->
00:18:15.599I already somebody said something, and this is true because Cardi B said her kids ain't listening to her music.
00:18:15.920 -->
00:18:16.079Right.
00:18:16.640 -->
00:18:21.279You have to you have to guard your own kids, you have to make sure that your kids ain't listening to this type of stuff.
00:18:21.359 -->
00:18:22.799Like my kids know they better not play money.
00:18:22.880 -->
00:18:23.920That mess in my house.
00:18:24.400 -->
00:18:27.119You can't do it, you just can't do it because I don't want to hear it.
00:18:27.279 -->
00:18:28.319I don't want to hear it now.
00:18:28.400 -->
00:18:31.920If you put your headphones on and you listen to your own music, my child.
00:18:32.960 -->
00:18:40.079I'm gonna say I'll tell you what's right, but they don't tell you what's right and wrong about it, but you know, you're still gonna grow up and do whatever you want to do.
00:18:40.240 -->
00:18:40.400Right.
00:18:40.960 -->
00:18:42.559I can only teach everyone so much.
00:18:42.880 -->
00:18:44.640There's another thing that bothered me about this whole situation.
00:18:44.720 -->
00:18:45.920I don't care if nobody say, I don't care.
00:18:46.079 -->
00:18:47.519Nobody say I'm gonna keep saying it.
00:18:47.599 -->
00:18:49.119The black woman is the most hated.
00:18:49.200 -->
00:18:56.319Now I'm not saying that because the NRA came for her, but it'd be the people, for example, homeboy Trick Daddy.
00:18:56.559 -->
00:18:58.319He had so much to say about this situation.
00:18:59.200 -->
00:18:59.599Oh, did he?
00:18:59.680 -->
00:19:00.720Yes, yes, he went on.
00:19:00.880 -->
00:19:01.759He don't need older women.
00:19:02.319 -->
00:19:03.119Older women, yeah.
00:19:03.200 -->
00:19:07.279But what all but India is brought out with Trina?
00:19:07.599 -->
00:19:09.519No, the baddest bitch.
00:19:09.759 -->
00:19:11.119No, he's on Miami Sad.
00:19:11.279 -->
00:19:11.759He had so much.
00:19:14.880 -->
00:19:16.799Yes, yes, he had a lot to say to India I re.
00:19:17.039 -->
00:19:23.119Yeah, he was just you know calling her uh O B, just jealous, because look at her body and look at yours.
00:19:23.440 -->
00:19:24.799Okay, but we tell you Trick Daddy is.
00:19:24.960 -->
00:19:25.359See what I'm saying?
00:19:25.440 -->
00:19:26.640But this is the part I've been talking about.
00:19:26.720 -->
00:19:28.720Like it's so much stuff that was.
00:19:28.880 -->
00:19:29.519But that's what you say.
00:19:29.680 -->
00:19:36.079It's so many things that these men who have platforms, men and women have platforms that y'all can use to go be outraged on.
00:19:36.480 -->
00:19:42.160But y'all wait until one of us black women can do something that you're annoyed at and y'all just go crazy.
00:19:42.319 -->
00:19:47.039Because whenever, like I said, India I re and then he who else was at uh Uncle Luke.
00:19:47.200 -->
00:19:48.480He had something to say about it too.
00:19:48.559 -->
00:19:56.640He said, Oh, yeah, he said if the world was full of at Afrocentric music like Jill Scott and India I re the world be boring as fuck.
00:19:56.799 -->
00:19:57.039I don't know.
00:19:59.039 -->
00:20:00.000That's basically what he said.
00:20:00.319 -->
00:20:02.160So that's what that's what gets on my nerves.
00:20:02.240 -->
00:20:07.039Like where YouTube dig up the fucking dirt from to come call it, and then he said, Whoever Indy I Ree is, he don't know who she is.
00:20:07.119 -->
00:20:07.680You see what I'm saying?
00:20:09.119 -->
00:20:11.519Everybody knows that's the part that kills me.
00:20:11.599 -->
00:20:14.319That lets me know the education level and the wisdom that you already have, anyway.
00:20:14.559 -->
00:20:16.319If you don't know her, that's a problem for you.
00:20:16.480 -->
00:20:20.799Because if you only know my young Miami music and Trina music, all that kind of music, that's a problem for you.
00:20:20.880 -->
00:20:21.759You should know a lot more.
00:20:21.839 -->
00:20:23.920Okay, different strokes for different folks.
00:20:24.559 -->
00:20:28.319So some people thrive off this music, some people like this type of music.
00:20:28.400 -->
00:20:36.960Yeah, the music is put out for certain things, but at the same time, it's like, okay, when I guess what she's saying is, when are we gonna do better?
00:20:37.039 -->
00:20:38.640Yeah, and the culture, and that's all she's doing.
00:20:38.799 -->
00:20:40.079And that's all she was saying.
00:20:40.160 -->
00:20:43.599So it's like when people speak on it, they gotta get attacked.
00:20:43.680 -->
00:20:46.480It's like you gotta agree, or it's something wrong with it.
00:20:46.799 -->
00:20:55.359But you gotta get yeah, so it's like if it's something wrong with me because I don't agree with it, and it's like it's not nothing wrong with me because I don't agree with it.
00:20:55.519 -->
00:20:58.720She's not saying, Oh, stop listening to the music, she made that very clear.
00:20:58.799 -->
00:21:02.160Yes, she just said that we have to be mindful.
00:21:02.319 -->
00:21:07.359And the thing I said is if she said where all my working niggas at, the song wouldn't have been as hot.
00:21:07.599 -->
00:21:11.680And the world will be a better place if everybody stops thinking we all gotta agree with the same person.
00:21:12.400 -->
00:21:13.839This is what sells.
00:21:14.400 -->
00:21:16.000This is it's the money tree.
00:21:16.400 -->
00:21:17.599So that's what they're doing.
00:21:17.920 -->
00:21:20.880Everything is all about money, and and it's hard to do that.
00:21:21.039 -->
00:21:23.440I'm trying to say music ain't I I hate it.
00:21:24.559 -->
00:21:27.440I ain't saying music music is not the blame of everything that's wrong.
00:21:27.599 -->
00:21:28.079You all black.
00:21:28.400 -->
00:21:30.880It's not we have always a lot to do with it.
00:21:31.039 -->
00:21:34.000It is, but we've always had that fun juke music, you know what I'm saying?
00:21:34.079 -->
00:21:38.319It's who's raised, went out there in the is the problem, and it's not a lot of stand-up people.
00:21:38.400 -->
00:21:38.880That's the problem.
00:21:38.960 -->
00:21:40.000It's not necessarily music.
00:21:40.079 -->
00:21:43.359You don't have a lot of Malcolm X and Michael Luther Kings walking around here no more.
00:21:43.440 -->
00:21:44.799There is some, and I'm wrong.
00:21:44.880 -->
00:21:46.000But do y'all not highlighting them?
00:21:46.079 -->
00:21:47.599Y'all keep highlighting this type of thing.
00:21:48.079 -->
00:21:50.240So let's highlight it all so we can get some balance around the biggest.
00:21:53.039 -->
00:21:55.599Yeah, it's like let's let's talk about the positive.
00:21:56.000 -->
00:21:59.519Let's talk about let's talk about one or next and all maybe.
00:22:00.240 -->
00:22:00.640About money, right?
00:22:00.880 -->
00:22:03.200It's not, they're not, and that's what everybody gotta realize.
00:22:03.599 -->
00:22:05.759It's all about money, I mean that's just like with the internet.
00:22:06.079 -->
00:22:09.359If you talk about positive things, it's not gonna go.
00:22:10.480 -->
00:22:21.039You gotta go on there, talk crazy, be crazy, be wild, and in order for it to do something, it's just the world thrive off of negativity, and all she was saying was why.
00:22:21.279 -->
00:22:22.799She just was asking the question.
00:22:23.119 -->
00:22:27.920So when he said the world would be boring if it was only Afrocentric music, how do y'all really feel about that?
00:22:28.000 -->
00:22:36.000So erase everything, erase your crop music, erase your shoot 'em up, bang bang, uh gay music, whatever.
00:22:36.400 -->
00:22:40.640Erase all of that, and we just don't erase all of it.
00:22:40.799 -->
00:22:42.160So erase all of that, right?
00:22:45.279 -->
00:22:45.359No.
00:22:45.759 -->
00:22:48.160I think it'd be more love, more we're gonna have a vibe.
00:22:48.400 -->
00:23:00.240So at work, but it's it's I don't like to put anything on the TV or any music on that I feel like gonna have people talking or thinking, okay?
00:23:00.319 -->
00:23:07.839I put HGTV on the TV because the commercial's gonna be about renovation, everything, because I don't want to talk about politics with nobody at work or nothing.
00:23:08.480 -->
00:23:13.279But the music station I chose is Disney Kids Pop.
00:23:13.519 -->
00:23:14.000Why?
00:23:14.160 -->
00:23:16.480Because it gives everybody a vibe, okay?
00:23:16.640 -->
00:23:20.480No matter who comes in there, white, black, Chinese, and it's Disney Pop.
00:23:20.559 -->
00:23:25.680I think if we took a way to shoot them up bang, bang, oil, the world would be a better place.
00:23:26.640 -->
00:23:27.440And it wouldn't be boring.
00:23:27.519 -->
00:23:28.079It wouldn't be boring.
00:23:28.400 -->
00:23:28.720I don't agree.
00:23:29.119 -->
00:23:29.839You don't think it would be boring?
00:23:30.079 -->
00:23:30.240No.
00:23:30.319 -->
00:23:31.119I don't think it would be boring.
00:23:31.359 -->
00:23:31.759I was jamming.
00:23:31.920 -->
00:23:32.240It's nothing.
00:23:34.640 -->
00:23:36.720Everybody don't like the same thing, so we don't know what it'll be.
00:23:37.039 -->
00:23:37.759But it's nothing wrong with it.
00:23:38.480 -->
00:23:39.920It's nothing wrong with dancing music.
00:23:40.240 -->
00:23:40.960I'm gonna say that.
00:23:41.440 -->
00:23:44.319It was another thing before, it was a reason for that music back then.
00:23:44.400 -->
00:23:47.440Y'all just took it for another thing.
00:23:48.240 -->
00:23:55.039Remember back then, we only may have three or four rappers that talk crazy like that, okay?
00:23:55.200 -->
00:23:57.200Yeah, you got Tupac and Biggie.
00:23:57.359 -->
00:23:59.920I don't I don't really listen to rap, so I don't really know.
00:24:00.160 -->
00:24:03.759But now you got everybody 60,000 rappers.
00:24:04.160 -->
00:24:08.079Everybody is on the shooting, banking the pill, uh link.
00:24:08.960 -->
00:24:14.720What makes you hard having sex and so it's like it's too much to ignore?
00:24:14.880 -->
00:24:15.599You know what I'm saying?
00:24:15.759 -->
00:24:17.519I think that's that's the problem now.
00:24:17.680 -->
00:24:19.279It's just so it's too much to ignore.
00:24:19.599 -->
00:24:20.079Me too much.
00:24:20.480 -->
00:24:21.680I'm gonna find sometimes.
00:24:22.079 -->
00:24:23.839I mean, sometimes you get in your mood.
00:24:24.720 -->
00:24:25.759But it's listening.
00:24:26.000 -->
00:24:26.720What do it do?
00:24:26.880 -->
00:24:27.599What do it do?
00:24:27.839 -->
00:24:28.720It puts you in a mood.
00:24:28.960 -->
00:24:29.519In a better mood.
00:24:31.839 -->
00:24:32.559So what do you think?
00:24:34.559 -->
00:24:35.119But what do you think?
00:24:36.799 -->
00:24:38.640I had to stop acting like music don't wrong music.
00:24:38.880 -->
00:24:40.079So I know y'all was not in the line.
00:24:40.559 -->
00:24:42.960When Ducky the Book came on, y'all weren't ready to knock somebody damn here.
00:24:43.200 -->
00:24:44.480And it was a fight every time.
00:24:45.119 -->
00:24:45.759That's your first thing.
00:24:46.240 -->
00:24:47.359That's your first thing you're doing.
00:24:48.000 -->
00:24:49.039You know at somebody.
00:24:51.680 -->
00:24:56.720You know how many times me and my sister didn't get it to off a nut and you if you bumped in the club.
00:24:56.960 -->
00:24:57.440You see what I'm saying?
00:24:57.599 -->
00:24:58.640Because a female wanna try you.
00:24:58.799 -->
00:25:02.640Because somebody wants to try us, like or they just walking around bumping you.
00:25:02.720 -->
00:25:03.039Yeah, yeah.
00:25:03.440 -->
00:25:04.880It's it's the music.
00:25:05.039 -->
00:25:06.640It's always been the music.
00:25:06.880 -->
00:25:07.839I was one of the people.
00:25:08.160 -->
00:25:15.119Now I was not that bad, but I was the people who were like, when they're doing this, I'm like, now I gotta be ready because she's gonna bump you and she's gonna be upset.
00:25:15.359 -->
00:25:16.880I'm gonna fight because she's about to fight.
00:25:17.039 -->
00:25:17.440Yeah, yeah.
00:25:17.920 -->
00:25:19.519So the music control, everything.
00:25:19.680 -->
00:25:21.279But think about these young kids, right?
00:25:21.359 -->
00:25:24.559They on so many different drugs, they on lean, they on fields, they on.
00:25:24.799 -->
00:25:28.160Then you get in the car that say, Rad out, kill everybody, shoot, shoot.
00:25:28.240 -->
00:25:30.000What you think that's what you supposed to do.
00:25:30.319 -->
00:25:30.720Supposed to do.
00:25:30.799 -->
00:25:31.440That's when you were younger.
00:25:31.680 -->
00:25:32.640I could say that's when I was younger.
00:25:32.720 -->
00:25:34.880Now, if I hear knock if you buck, you know, I'm just right.
00:25:35.119 -->
00:25:36.000I'm not about to go back to the back of the book.
00:25:36.160 -->
00:25:39.200But now with the younger generation, that's that old lady.
00:25:39.440 -->
00:25:43.440Imagine if they play enough if you buck.
00:25:44.559 -->
00:25:46.559Imagine if they played that in 2026.
00:25:47.839 -->
00:25:49.599No, at a club with young people.
00:25:49.920 -->
00:25:51.039That ain't that crazy.
00:25:51.359 -->
00:25:54.720Our music is what our younger kids actually still listen to.
00:25:54.880 -->
00:25:58.400My kids be like talking about everybody I grew up on.
00:25:58.559 -->
00:25:59.839RB, yes, but not.
00:26:00.559 -->
00:26:03.519I don't think they really listen to you like that.
00:26:03.839 -->
00:26:07.599Not that kind of 27 that morning when they still be cleaning up.
00:26:07.839 -->
00:26:14.559I think they play it at clubs we be at on the ones our genre, but I don't think if you went to an 18 and up club, they're gonna play nothing.
00:26:14.720 -->
00:26:15.440Okay, am I tripping?
00:26:15.680 -->
00:26:17.519Is our younger youth even going to the club?
00:26:17.599 -->
00:26:17.759No.
00:26:18.160 -->
00:26:19.119My baby ain't thought to be called.
00:26:19.279 -->
00:26:20.160They don't go to the club.
00:26:21.440 -->
00:26:21.599I know.
00:26:22.000 -->
00:26:24.079I mean, they go to a hookah lounge or something.
00:26:25.440 -->
00:26:26.160They don't dance.
00:26:26.319 -->
00:26:26.960No, it's the club.
00:26:28.799 -->
00:26:29.599They go to house parties.
00:26:29.920 -->
00:26:32.480The clubs like when we that we went to, they can go there.
00:26:32.559 -->
00:26:33.519They 18 and up now.
00:26:33.599 -->
00:26:34.160They still can be going.
00:26:35.119 -->
00:26:37.759A lot of them are far as I go to downtown.
00:26:38.319 -->
00:26:39.200No, what is it called?
00:26:39.279 -->
00:26:40.480It is Nikki.
00:26:41.200 -->
00:26:42.400Oh, that might be the only one.
00:26:42.559 -->
00:26:43.920That might be something that's the only one that's gonna be.
00:26:44.079 -->
00:26:44.480And guess what?
00:26:44.559 -->
00:26:46.319They be shooting outside of Nikki Sue.
00:26:46.720 -->
00:26:47.359What about Floods?
00:26:47.519 -->
00:26:48.000That's what I'm saying.
00:26:48.559 -->
00:26:50.400These kids ain't gonna be 21.
00:26:50.480 -->
00:26:51.039Oh, yeah, I don't know.
00:26:56.319 -->
00:26:58.480You used to have to be 25 when you were coming up.
00:26:59.039 -->
00:27:03.359But I don't think the young kids are really even interested for real though, like how we were because I know I was in the club at 18.
00:27:03.680 -->
00:27:04.079I was in the club.
00:27:07.200 -->
00:27:07.359Yes.
00:27:07.440 -->
00:27:08.079See, that's what I'm saying.
00:27:08.160 -->
00:27:09.200So they're not really interested.
00:27:09.359 -->
00:27:11.279And I still wasn't acting all wild and doing all the things.
00:27:11.759 -->
00:27:13.440I was listening to their music to the radio.
00:27:13.680 -->
00:27:15.279They they don't even they don't even listen to the radio.
00:27:15.440 -->
00:27:17.519Yeah, they don't listen to the radio.
00:27:18.400 -->
00:27:19.039I listen to the music.
00:27:19.200 -->
00:27:19.839They don't do nothing.
00:27:21.440 -->
00:27:22.400They put their playlists on.
00:27:22.480 -->
00:27:23.359Yeah, yeah.
00:27:23.519 -->
00:27:23.759I don't know.
00:27:23.920 -->
00:27:24.799These new kids scare me.
00:27:26.079 -->
00:27:27.039These new kids scare me.
00:27:27.119 -->
00:27:30.400They don't have enough going on because now you that's they don't have enough going on for me.
00:27:30.559 -->
00:27:32.640But they got the potential to have it all.
00:27:33.839 -->
00:27:37.200But they don't have it, and they don't even under they don't have the knowledge to use.
00:27:37.279 -->
00:27:38.240They too, I don't know.
00:27:38.559 -->
00:27:39.680It's too weird.
00:27:40.160 -->
00:27:40.720It is a lot.
00:27:40.880 -->
00:27:41.599It's a lot too much.
00:27:41.759 -->
00:27:42.880Because it's too much for me.
00:27:43.039 -->
00:27:43.519It's a lot.
00:27:43.920 -->
00:27:44.559It's too much.
00:27:44.640 -->
00:27:45.839Like this internet stuff.
00:27:45.920 -->
00:27:47.039This is too much.
00:27:47.279 -->
00:27:47.519It is.
00:27:47.680 -->
00:27:48.240It's a lot.
00:27:48.400 -->
00:27:50.160Like when Chris be, y'all gotta post your page.
00:27:50.319 -->
00:27:54.079My Facebook pagebook page to make my post to go on tomorrow.
00:27:54.480 -->
00:27:54.720Negative.
00:27:54.880 -->
00:28:00.559When I say half of the friends on my Facebook page is so negative, it's about a baby daddy, it's about a man.
00:28:01.359 -->
00:28:07.359Then they post stuff about and they say stuff that'd be like you feel like it's direct, and you be like, Well, I ain't talking about nobody.
00:28:07.599 -->
00:28:08.559Well, why did you post it?
00:28:08.720 -->
00:28:09.680Or that's not about me.
00:28:09.759 -->
00:28:11.119Like, it's just soul draining.
00:28:11.680 -->
00:28:12.799Everybody passed away.
00:28:13.279 -->
00:28:17.599I told Crystal like she's for me because I hate it now.
00:28:17.680 -->
00:28:18.079Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:28:18.720 -->
00:28:21.599My face is before the podcast, I've tried y'all, I promise.
00:28:21.680 -->
00:28:24.319But it's like y'all didn't take already, I'm stuck over there.
00:28:24.640 -->
00:28:25.279On there, yeah.
00:28:25.440 -->
00:28:26.319I'm so happy you over there.
00:28:26.559 -->
00:28:27.599It puts you in the mood.
00:28:28.559 -->
00:28:34.480It puts you in the mood every time you is right now, is it's damn near an obituary.
00:28:34.559 -->
00:28:34.799Okay.
00:28:35.759 -->
00:28:40.880Every time you go on there, it's just death after death after death.
00:28:41.119 -->
00:28:42.880My anxiety cannot handle that.
00:28:42.960 -->
00:28:45.119Yeah, I don't want to go on there TikTok.
00:28:45.359 -->
00:28:46.640I'm laughing to my stomach.
00:28:47.039 -->
00:28:48.319To my stomach, yeah.
00:28:48.480 -->
00:28:49.440Like that's what I need.
00:28:49.519 -->
00:28:51.599I cannot be in that dramafied world.
00:28:51.839 -->
00:28:52.720That's what I'm telling me.
00:28:54.640 -->
00:28:54.880Okay.
00:28:55.119 -->
00:28:55.599Or a story.
00:28:55.839 -->
00:28:58.799I go down a whole rabbit hole or something, and that's my whole timeline.
00:28:58.880 -->
00:29:00.960I'd be like, I'd rather do that though.
00:29:01.279 -->
00:29:01.759I can't do that.
00:29:02.480 -->
00:29:03.359But that's your own control.
00:29:03.680 -->
00:29:04.240That's my control.
00:29:04.720 -->
00:29:06.880I learned Facebook maintenance on Facebook.
00:29:07.039 -->
00:29:08.480I learned to schedule these posts.
00:29:08.559 -->
00:29:10.640So that way, like on Saturday mornings when I'm free.
00:29:11.440 -->
00:29:12.720Yes, I'll go make a bunch of satisfactions.
00:29:14.240 -->
00:29:15.680You can pitch what days you want to post them.
00:29:15.920 -->
00:29:16.640So I don't do it.
00:29:17.119 -->
00:29:17.599That's just tweeting.
00:29:18.079 -->
00:29:19.920That's what you do on the content side of stuff.
00:29:20.000 -->
00:29:21.039Because I don't want to go over there.
00:29:21.119 -->
00:29:23.279So I'll schedule our posts and stuff like that.
00:29:23.359 -->
00:29:25.359I'll schedule it and I can keep it moving.
00:29:26.079 -->
00:29:28.400So yes, that's it.
00:29:28.480 -->
00:29:29.200We're gonna keep it moving.
00:29:29.440 -->
00:29:32.799So our third topic was it was a question, y'all.
00:29:33.039 -->
00:29:38.640The question was what is the disconnect with black consumers supporting black-owned businesses?
00:29:39.359 -->
00:29:41.200Meaning customer service.
00:29:41.839 -->
00:29:44.559That's the number that's number one for me.
00:29:46.799 -->
00:29:50.319Customer service, attitudes, the stank look when you walk in.
00:29:50.400 -->
00:29:58.000Like, what is and I'm gonna tell y'all the number one reason why I haven't just all the way pushed my scrubs yet.
00:29:58.160 -->
00:30:00.160Because I feel like this is my baby.
00:30:00.240 -->
00:30:10.799This is something that so until I can have everything perfect, which I know every everything can be perfect, but it's like you deal with so much negativity, you have to be on point.
00:30:12.640 -->
00:30:13.359Consistency.
00:30:13.519 -->
00:30:17.359So somebody making an order, placing a they'll leave you on red for eight days.
00:30:18.240 -->
00:30:18.799They'll take your money.
00:30:19.039 -->
00:30:23.359Why did that happen for prime and have you waited for something for 60 days?
00:30:23.599 -->
00:30:24.640I would never do that.
00:30:24.720 -->
00:30:25.119I can't.
00:30:26.880 -->
00:30:29.039The miscommunication and I saw you read the message.
00:30:29.440 -->
00:30:31.440You said I can do it, but don't you do another?
00:30:31.759 -->
00:30:32.480That's so irritating.
00:30:34.720 -->
00:30:35.039It's a lie.
00:30:35.359 -->
00:30:38.960Black people, seriously, black people, their customer service, it's so horrible.
00:30:39.440 -->
00:30:40.319Especially around prime.
00:30:40.480 -->
00:30:41.839You know, you don't play around your baby.
00:30:41.920 -->
00:30:43.119Don't play me around prime.
00:30:43.519 -->
00:30:44.880I'm so happy that shit over with.
00:30:45.039 -->
00:30:46.000It's everybody though.
00:30:46.160 -->
00:30:50.960Okay, I don't even think it's just everybody.
00:30:51.119 -->
00:30:53.200So I'm saying it's so the business.
00:30:53.440 -->
00:30:54.079I think it's both sides.
00:30:54.480 -->
00:30:55.759Something that we're in a part.
00:30:56.079 -->
00:30:56.240True.
00:30:56.319 -->
00:30:56.480Okay.
00:30:56.640 -->
00:30:57.440I think it's both sides.
00:30:57.519 -->
00:31:00.880When you think of the black consumers, you know, the customers and the black owned businesses.
00:31:00.960 -->
00:31:03.680I think everybody has a part to play in the dysfunction of it.
00:31:03.839 -->
00:31:07.440When I say that, when on the black business side, we was talking about the customer.
00:31:07.680 -->
00:31:18.000No, first off, on the consumer side, we actually have to want to support black-owned and stop acting like we're doing them a favor because we don't pull up at Walmart and tell that I'm here to shop in here, yeah, doing you a favor.
00:31:18.079 -->
00:31:18.480You know what I mean?
00:31:18.799 -->
00:31:24.799And we don't come in there with that ego and that shoulder chip because when we go into some black-owned business, they be looking like what you got and make sure it's legal.
00:31:25.359 -->
00:31:30.160We don't go everybody, it's not, but a lot of people experience that like we're doing them a favor.
00:31:30.240 -->
00:31:35.279So we gotta, you know, so I need you to come to this particular grocery store which needed because you don't go a lot of times.
00:31:35.359 -->
00:31:38.480We will experience bad customer service from the other people as well.
00:31:38.640 -->
00:31:41.119We do not take it to the internet as much.
00:31:41.200 -->
00:31:44.559Y'all don't go to their websites and go, I had the worst service of my life.
00:31:44.640 -->
00:31:46.480But let a black-owned business give you something bad.
00:31:47.920 -->
00:31:50.799I just understand, you know, but this happens more than it should.
00:31:51.119 -->
00:31:57.599We will go, you will go in target, you will go on Walmart, you'll go over here, you pull up at this black lady who sold them dinners, and she gave you a little attitude.
00:31:57.680 -->
00:31:59.839This bit, you all on her, you all on social media.
00:31:59.920 -->
00:32:04.880Yeah, but you got that but you got that bad customer service from every person you had saw today.
00:32:05.039 -->
00:32:06.480So I think we have to be consistent.
00:32:06.559 -->
00:32:10.160And if you feel bad customer service need a bad review, do it for everybody.
00:32:10.319 -->
00:32:12.319Don't just yeah, go off on Lakeisha.
00:32:12.400 -->
00:32:17.359Now, on the other side of things with black businesses, they have to take your own business seriously.
00:32:17.759 -->
00:32:20.000You need to provide the proper customer service.
00:32:20.160 -->
00:32:24.559When I come to your restaurant, I shouldn't have to deal with Homegirl and her attitude serving me.
00:32:24.799 -->
00:32:25.680Yeah, I don't want to deal with that.
00:32:25.839 -->
00:32:28.160But unfortunately, when I go over there, I I probably didn't deal with it.
00:32:28.240 -->
00:32:28.720And guess what?
00:32:28.799 -->
00:32:31.279If they probably talking shit behind the door, but I ain't see it in front of my face.
00:32:31.920 -->
00:32:32.400You know what I'm saying?
00:32:32.480 -->
00:32:34.160They're not treating me a certain kind of way in my case.
00:32:34.400 -->
00:32:34.640Exactly.
00:32:34.799 -->
00:32:38.079And two, yeah, y'all have to be serious about your business, be consistent.
00:32:38.160 -->
00:32:42.480There's no reason why your website should say you close on Monday and Tuesday, but I put up on a Wednesday, it's still closed.
00:32:43.039 -->
00:32:43.519Be consistent.
00:32:45.200 -->
00:32:45.759Be consistent.
00:32:46.000 -->
00:32:46.720So I think a lot of people.
00:32:48.000 -->
00:32:49.839I'm leaving in an hour, so you gotta hurry up.
00:32:50.480 -->
00:32:53.119I'm trying to shop and you're telling me it's three o'clock.
00:32:53.279 -->
00:32:54.480Yes, it's like a job.
00:32:55.039 -->
00:32:55.839We both close.
00:32:56.240 -->
00:32:57.119And you do get it from the case.
00:32:58.000 -->
00:32:58.640You get it from both sides.
00:32:58.799 -->
00:33:02.640Everybody who's comfortable, you get it from both sides, most definitely.
00:33:02.880 -->
00:33:09.359But with Walmart and all that, I think it is more of you're not really dealing with who's in charge.
00:33:09.519 -->
00:33:09.680Right.
00:33:09.839 -->
00:33:14.079So I think not dealing with her who's in charge, yeah, it plays a part in it.
00:33:14.319 -->
00:33:18.000When you're dealing with a small business or whatever, you know who in charge.
00:33:18.160 -->
00:33:20.400You dealing with exactly who's in charge.
00:33:20.480 -->
00:33:21.920So I think that's play a part in it.
00:33:22.079 -->
00:33:22.960True, but y'all go to Coney.
00:33:23.039 -->
00:33:25.920I didn't get horror service sometimes too, and still gonna go on the website and go complain.
00:33:26.000 -->
00:33:26.720I'm not getting it.
00:33:26.880 -->
00:33:28.400I don't like to be complaining on nothing.
00:33:28.559 -->
00:33:32.480I know, I'm barely ever but I but I want to do word of mouth to start.
00:33:33.519 -->
00:33:35.519I'll do word of mouth, and I'll be like, I want to start.
00:33:35.680 -->
00:33:38.240Yeah, don't mess with them, but you can go at your own risk.
00:33:38.640 -->
00:33:39.759But this is what I experience.
00:33:40.000 -->
00:33:42.799But I just want us black people to keep that same energy across the board.
00:33:43.039 -->
00:33:44.000And you know what else is messed up?
00:33:44.400 -->
00:33:45.279Whatever I do, it don't matter.
00:33:47.200 -->
00:33:49.680With each other, stop being in competition with each other.
00:33:49.839 -->
00:33:51.200It's so much money out here to get.
00:33:51.279 -->
00:33:53.519We do not everybody it's enough.
00:33:53.839 -->
00:33:56.799It's enough, it's enough to get your 500,000 Walmarts.
00:33:56.960 -->
00:33:57.359And guess what?
00:33:57.440 -->
00:34:01.599It's always gonna be another female prettier than you, it's always gonna be another guy better than you.
00:34:01.680 -->
00:34:08.320So if I walk in a restaurant with a dude and you give him better service than me because you think I'm gonna be the man, oh, it piss me off.
00:34:08.800 -->
00:34:09.679And they say on my age.
00:34:11.199 -->
00:34:12.239She done said what happened.
00:34:12.480 -->
00:34:13.679It happened to me all the time.
00:34:14.320 -->
00:34:19.280All the time, all the time they treat Corey so, and we're not, they'd be like, Treat my homeboy like a king.
00:34:19.360 -->
00:34:22.079He didn't even know he was just my homeboy, and she just dismissed me off.
00:34:22.159 -->
00:34:23.599I'm like, baby, you can get his number.
00:34:23.679 -->
00:34:24.960I don't care, just give me a drink.
00:34:25.840 -->
00:34:25.920Right.
00:34:26.400 -->
00:34:26.960That's what they gotta be.
00:34:27.039 -->
00:34:28.719That's why I said both sides need to be held accountable.
00:34:28.800 -->
00:34:30.000Y'all gotta get the customer service.
00:34:30.239 -->
00:34:33.440This is it is crazy, most definitely.
00:34:33.519 -->
00:34:34.800Yeah, it's crazy.
00:34:35.039 -->
00:34:36.880So, yeah, we we we need to do better.
00:34:37.039 -->
00:34:39.440Black people need to do better with customer service.
00:34:39.679 -->
00:34:41.280If if you can't do it, guess what?
00:34:41.360 -->
00:34:44.559It's okay with saying, I'm overbooked, I'm not able to do it.
00:34:44.719 -->
00:34:47.920Maybe next time, yes, communication is a two-way street.
00:34:48.079 -->
00:34:49.599If you can't do it, just say so.
00:34:49.760 -->
00:34:50.320Just say so.
00:34:50.400 -->
00:34:50.639Yep.
00:34:50.719 -->
00:34:53.039Or how about it'd be if you make the money.
00:34:54.800 -->
00:34:56.320So the money be spent already.
00:34:56.480 -->
00:34:58.719So people collect the money, we spend what we don't have.
00:34:59.039 -->
00:35:05.280We spend what we don't have, and also when you a small business, everything is really paid for itself.
00:35:05.519 -->
00:35:10.960So it's like you might order 50 things, and now you need this money from this person.
00:35:11.119 -->
00:35:15.360Now you don't have all her stuff together, the prime dresses by the black exactly.
00:35:15.440 -->
00:35:19.519So it's like taking on more than you can chew instead of turning down stuff.
00:35:19.920 -->
00:35:21.440It's okay to say it's not right.
00:35:21.920 -->
00:35:29.920You can't really like you saying, Can we stop getting mad at your cousins or your mama or your sister or your brother if they don't support you?
00:35:30.079 -->
00:35:30.480Uh-huh.
00:35:31.039 -->
00:35:32.320Everybody ain't gonna support you.
00:35:33.360 -->
00:35:43.440Strangers, strangers can't tell you family, do and you know exactly they will if it's your business, then but I think people get mad because it depends on the relationship.
00:35:43.599 -->
00:35:46.079But I'm learning more and more that you can't expect you to be able to do.
00:35:46.239 -->
00:35:47.360I'll just say you compete.
00:35:47.599 -->
00:35:47.920No body.
00:35:48.239 -->
00:35:50.960So it's like, come on, I'm not gonna get what I give.
00:35:51.039 -->
00:35:55.519So either I'm just gonna genuinely give it and expect nothing or nothing at all.
00:35:55.760 -->
00:35:56.960You know what else kills me?
00:35:57.039 -->
00:35:58.960You know your cousin Pookie did wrong.
00:35:59.039 -->
00:36:05.360Do not get on there trying to come for me, and you know your cousin ain't doing his business right because I was shot that I done messed it up.
00:36:05.440 -->
00:36:06.800You know this business ain't ran right.
00:36:07.519 -->
00:36:08.159Do not get on there.
00:36:08.239 -->
00:36:08.960That's my cousin.
00:36:09.039 -->
00:36:11.599I don't care if it was your mama, it ain't ran right.
00:36:11.840 -->
00:36:12.239Exactly.
00:36:12.480 -->
00:36:13.599Stop, please stop.
00:36:13.840 -->
00:36:17.920When it comes to the people are not gonna put you can't expect a you from other people.
00:36:18.239 -->
00:36:25.199I think a lot of that still happens to because when you finally get to that phase, because I finally get to that phase where I'm not gonna get a me from other people, right?
00:36:25.760 -->
00:36:31.920But when I start giving less of myself, that's when the problem came because now you're looking for more of me.
00:36:32.400 -->
00:36:33.119So now that's the problem.
00:36:34.079 -->
00:36:35.119Now now it's a problem.
00:36:35.360 -->
00:36:38.320Yeah, I didn't expect you to do that, but you keep expecting me to do that.
00:36:38.639 -->
00:36:40.320So now we that doesn't work.
00:36:40.719 -->
00:36:45.519Like I feel like we even us experiencing this like with this podcast, like we experiencing that too.
00:36:45.599 -->
00:36:46.079You know what I'm saying?
00:36:46.239 -->
00:36:46.719Oh, baby, yeah.
00:36:46.800 -->
00:36:52.960I get people, I'm not like I I don't like other people, you know what I'm saying?
00:36:53.199 -->
00:36:53.760Supporting me.
00:36:54.079 -->
00:37:03.840Well, what be if we maintained it really just on there with the kept up with the negativity, but it's like that's not what like family.
00:37:04.400 -->
00:37:05.760No, I'm saying family and friends.
00:37:05.840 -->
00:37:09.360Like you don't have all your families and friends supporting you.
00:37:09.440 -->
00:37:11.199Oh no, we have more outside people.
00:37:11.280 -->
00:37:13.199So of course that's what I'm saying.
00:37:13.280 -->
00:37:14.960Like that's why I'm saying we expect.
00:37:15.199 -->
00:37:17.599I went to a graduation party a couple times ago.
00:37:19.039 -->
00:37:21.199I mean doing this.
00:37:23.199 -->
00:37:24.320If they watch, they watch it.
00:37:24.480 -->
00:37:25.920If they don't, they don't watch it.
00:37:26.079 -->
00:37:28.880I literally don't hear don't mean that they don't be watching.
00:37:29.119 -->
00:37:30.400Y'all watch it, they stay watching.
00:37:30.639 -->
00:37:32.800Yeah, I think that's why we okay with working.
00:37:33.039 -->
00:37:34.239But I get y'all don't even know.
00:37:34.320 -->
00:37:37.280When I was at this graduation party, I was sitting here and a girl was crushing me.
00:37:37.360 -->
00:37:38.639She goes, I know you're from somewhere.
00:37:38.800 -->
00:37:39.599And I was like, Me?
00:37:39.760 -->
00:37:40.400She goes, Yeah.
00:37:40.559 -->
00:37:42.800And then the other girl started like, We watch her podcast.
00:37:42.960 -->
00:37:49.119I was just like, Oh no! Like, yes, oh my god, where y'all where y'all been?
00:37:49.360 -->
00:37:51.039We I mean was really in tune.
00:37:51.119 -->
00:37:52.559I was just like, Oh my god, thank you.
00:37:52.639 -->
00:37:53.119I appreciate it.
00:37:53.599 -->
00:37:54.079That's what I'm saying.
00:37:54.400 -->
00:37:54.960I get that a lot.
00:37:55.119 -->
00:38:04.159That's why I just be like, but I told you how to go see the watch versus the so when you see it like that, it'd be like, Okay, I know y'all was watching it later.
00:38:04.719 -->
00:38:06.800And also, I like to say thank you so much for supporting.
00:38:06.960 -->
00:38:10.880Yeah, you want to say something different every time.
00:38:10.960 -->
00:38:12.480We're trying to build and get better every time.
00:38:12.559 -->
00:38:16.960So you watching us and helping us helps, yes, and we're gonna get better, right?
00:38:17.360 -->
00:38:19.119And we will build and we got more on it.
00:38:19.280 -->
00:38:19.920I love that.
00:38:20.239 -->
00:38:22.239Okay, it's coming, it's coming.
00:38:22.400 -->
00:38:24.559Okay, so we had another question.
00:38:24.639 -->
00:38:26.079We're just gonna go ahead and move on.
00:38:26.320 -->
00:38:31.920Can you tell the difference between genuine compliments and envious compliment from a woman?
00:38:32.159 -->
00:38:33.119All the time, yes.
00:38:33.280 -->
00:38:34.320I like your little hair.
00:38:34.639 -->
00:38:36.159Yes, there you go.
00:38:36.400 -->
00:38:37.920That's not a genuine compliment.
00:38:38.239 -->
00:38:38.880No, listen.
00:38:39.119 -->
00:38:39.760Oh, wait.
00:38:41.440 -->
00:38:44.239I used to say that too, but that was very genuine.
00:38:44.800 -->
00:38:49.199No, the word little just I didn't even let it took my word.
00:38:49.760 -->
00:38:51.440Okay, wait, y'all, they gotta be right here, y'all.
00:38:51.679 -->
00:38:52.079Oh, sorry.
00:38:52.719 -->
00:38:53.440I apologize for that.
00:38:53.519 -->
00:38:55.679Don't never let nobody say I like your little something.
00:38:55.760 -->
00:38:57.280Okay, no, don't tell me nothing about it.
00:38:57.360 -->
00:38:58.719Remember, I put that on our very first podcast.
00:38:59.519 -->
00:39:00.320I like your little podcast.
00:39:00.400 -->
00:39:01.360No, this big podcast.
00:39:01.599 -->
00:39:01.840Exactly.
00:39:02.480 -->
00:39:07.119But that's why I don't get offended by that word, depending on what they're saying.
00:39:07.280 -->
00:39:08.000You know what I'm saying?
00:39:08.159 -->
00:39:14.079Because it's like it's a figure of speech for some people, but I can most definitely tell the difference.
00:39:16.719 -->
00:39:18.159That's what I'm saying, Marlin.
00:39:18.400 -->
00:39:20.559It's always gonna come from my hair every time it's something.
00:39:20.880 -->
00:39:21.199For real?
00:39:21.760 -->
00:39:23.119So go hair deeper.
00:39:23.440 -->
00:39:25.039Go a little deeper, go outside the word.
00:39:25.119 -->
00:39:29.519And can you tell by a genuine confident envious copy by the demeanor of how they do it?
00:39:29.599 -->
00:39:30.639I'm gonna give you an example.
00:39:30.719 -->
00:39:32.559So, dang, this is like last week.
00:39:32.719 -->
00:39:33.599This is so creepy.
00:39:33.760 -->
00:39:35.519Somebody had, I was, I had got real cute.
00:39:35.599 -->
00:39:36.320I don't know where I was going.
00:39:36.400 -->
00:39:37.760I think I was trying to irritate Marlin.
00:39:38.079 -->
00:39:38.480You know what?
00:39:38.800 -->
00:39:39.199Marlin.
00:39:39.599 -->
00:39:41.280Marlon, why you know what the beat are up?
00:39:41.440 -->
00:39:42.239Now you know what type of parents.
00:39:42.480 -->
00:39:43.599I'm gonna get cute and go outside.
00:39:43.760 -->
00:39:46.400I ain't going to grocery stuff, and I'm not beating a boy like that.
00:39:46.639 -->
00:39:49.280Like, no, I think I went to the store or something.
00:39:49.599 -->
00:39:50.320So no plan.
00:39:50.559 -->
00:39:51.599But no, I had was real cute.
00:39:51.679 -->
00:39:52.559No, we was leaving church.
00:39:52.639 -->
00:39:53.599That's what it was.
00:39:53.679 -->
00:39:54.239We was leaving church.
00:39:54.400 -->
00:39:55.760And I had on this looky lap and whatever.
00:39:55.840 -->
00:39:57.280Me and T2 went up some ice cream.
00:39:57.440 -->
00:40:01.199So a person, can't say that.
00:40:01.599 -->
00:40:02.719They're gonna know it's him.
00:40:03.039 -->
00:40:07.360Anyway, personally, I thought we was giving up caring.
00:40:07.679 -->
00:40:08.559Giving up caring.
00:40:08.639 -->
00:40:09.599I don't know who's caring.
00:40:10.559 -->
00:40:10.960Caring.
00:40:11.199 -->
00:40:11.760Oh, caring.
00:40:12.880 -->
00:40:16.559I thought this person at church was like if they come across it, I mean.
00:40:16.880 -->
00:40:19.199So they noticed in the weight loss, right?
00:40:19.599 -->
00:40:23.360Anybody, I tell Ronnie think this is hilarious because he was waiting on people to say stuff like this.
00:40:23.519 -->
00:40:30.400Anybody who actually knows me and has followed me on social media anywhere, I post me all day.
00:40:30.719 -->
00:40:32.079I'm always in the stories.
00:40:32.800 -->
00:40:35.360Big body's little body was always gonna be there, right?
00:40:35.599 -->
00:40:38.079So somebody now it always was there.
00:40:38.239 -->
00:40:39.840Yeah, always been there, right?
00:40:39.920 -->
00:40:46.480So such that girl, like I see you've been posting and being cute lately or whatever, or something.
00:40:46.639 -->
00:40:47.039You look cute.
00:40:47.280 -->
00:40:48.320You've been doing a little something different.
00:40:48.400 -->
00:40:48.639I see.
00:40:50.239 -->
00:40:57.920It was something how they say I can't say the word from word, but it was like, I kept it to myself, and then later on, that's the envious compliment, right?
00:40:58.239 -->
00:40:59.760Yeah, later on, I was at the grocery store.
00:40:59.840 -->
00:41:00.639I'm walking to the store.
00:41:00.719 -->
00:41:03.119I mean, I walk into the car to put my bags in the car, and it was another girl walking.
00:41:03.280 -->
00:41:06.239She on the phone, she just yapping, she's going off on somebody like because I don't like that helper.
00:41:06.639 -->
00:41:09.199Oh shit, girl, you doing that.
00:41:09.280 -->
00:41:10.079You look real cute.
00:41:10.159 -->
00:41:11.599Yeah, I had to tell this girl she was real cute.
00:41:11.679 -->
00:41:12.480Telling me how cute I was.
00:41:12.719 -->
00:41:13.840Now that was a genuine compliment.
00:41:15.519 -->
00:41:20.159I was like, I wonder how often do we get compliments from people, and y'all don't even know half of it is not G.
00:41:20.400 -->
00:41:21.840I got one of my son Prime sent off.
00:41:22.000 -->
00:41:22.719Y'all want to know what she said?
00:41:24.480 -->
00:41:24.800No.
00:41:26.800 -->
00:41:29.679It's usually somebody close from you when it's like that.
00:41:30.079 -->
00:41:30.159Yeah.
00:41:30.400 -->
00:41:32.000You gained all that way back.
00:41:32.079 -->
00:41:33.599Oh he was cute though.
00:41:33.679 -->
00:41:34.400He was so pretty.
00:41:34.480 -->
00:41:35.360Your hair is cute.
00:41:35.519 -->
00:41:36.880But you gained all your weight back.
00:41:36.960 -->
00:41:38.480It looked good though, on you.
00:41:39.119 -->
00:41:40.320I said, oh, okay.
00:41:40.400 -->
00:41:42.239It's happy weight and walked away.
00:41:42.400 -->
00:41:45.119That's one of my biggest pet peeves in life is weight.
00:41:45.280 -->
00:41:46.079Speaking on it.
00:41:46.159 -->
00:41:48.639I don't like when people tell me I'm gaining weight or losing weight.
00:41:48.719 -->
00:41:49.119Because I already know.
00:41:49.360 -->
00:41:50.880Because I go up and down all the time.
00:41:51.039 -->
00:41:51.119Okay.
00:41:51.440 -->
00:41:52.559In the summer I get thick.
00:41:52.719 -->
00:41:54.880In the winter time, I lose weight.
00:41:54.960 -->
00:41:56.639Okay, I don't need to remind me all the time.
00:41:57.440 -->
00:42:00.000So I don't need nobody to be like, oh, you gained weight.
00:42:00.159 -->
00:42:00.960Oh, you lost weight.
00:42:01.039 -->
00:42:01.760Oh, you gained weight.
00:42:02.480 -->
00:42:04.639I know I put my own pants on and my own panties.
00:42:05.199 -->
00:42:05.440Thank you.
00:42:05.679 -->
00:42:06.960I'll be back from it, though.
00:42:07.199 -->
00:42:07.519It's not.
00:42:07.599 -->
00:42:08.159I don't like it.
00:42:08.960 -->
00:42:09.440It's irritating.
00:42:11.679 -->
00:42:12.000That's okay.
00:42:12.400 -->
00:42:12.880What are you doing?
00:42:13.039 -->
00:42:14.079You ain't no drug, y'all.
00:42:15.199 -->
00:42:16.719Look, I was stressed out last week.
00:42:18.719 -->
00:42:20.000This week I ate everything.
00:42:20.159 -->
00:42:20.639Like, what?
00:42:20.960 -->
00:42:21.199Okay.
00:42:22.559 -->
00:42:27.760But when you when you lose two or three pounds as a woman, it's showing your face.
00:42:28.159 -->
00:42:30.800So then you gain it back, it's showing your face.
00:42:30.960 -->
00:42:32.480Even if it don't change in your body.
00:42:32.559 -->
00:42:35.280So it's like I don't need you to tell me.
00:42:35.599 -->
00:42:35.840Yeah.
00:42:36.480 -->
00:42:36.800Thank you.
00:42:37.119 -->
00:42:37.360Yeah.
00:42:38.320 -->
00:42:40.719Even skinny people, they don't want to hear, oh, you skinny skin.
00:42:41.840 -->
00:42:43.039She'll have no business telling.
00:42:43.119 -->
00:42:43.599No problem.
00:42:44.159 -->
00:42:46.559Tell me your mama, baby.
00:42:47.840 -->
00:42:49.360Cory told me down and through there, okay?
00:42:49.760 -->
00:42:52.000Everything homegirl gave me, she took me down and through there.
00:42:52.159 -->
00:42:53.440My mama will come click.
00:42:53.599 -->
00:42:56.480Oh you wouldn't work out today?
00:42:57.119 -->
00:42:58.320No, I did not.
00:42:59.119 -->
00:43:00.639Well, that's your mama, she can do it.
00:43:00.800 -->
00:43:01.280Back up.
00:43:01.440 -->
00:43:02.800She the only one that does it.
00:43:02.960 -->
00:43:04.800My grand was like, they know hey with it.
00:43:04.880 -->
00:43:06.800It's a girl, you're getting big there.
00:43:07.519 -->
00:43:08.320That was my grandma.
00:43:08.719 -->
00:43:10.239But you know they're gonna tell your name.
00:43:11.440 -->
00:43:12.719Your family gonna tell you the truth.
00:43:13.440 -->
00:43:17.280I know where you're coming from and who really wants.
00:43:17.440 -->
00:43:18.800You know he being malice.
00:43:19.039 -->
00:43:21.599Like, you know, they're not being malice when they're trying to be mean.
00:43:21.679 -->
00:43:22.880But some family members are.
00:43:23.039 -->
00:43:23.360I don't know.
00:43:23.440 -->
00:43:24.559I walked to my grandma's house.
00:43:24.639 -->
00:43:26.800She was like, ooh, I don't like that dress.
00:43:29.920 -->
00:43:36.079I got in the car, I was like, Corey, what's wrong with my second guess yourself?
00:43:36.480 -->
00:43:40.079He was like, I'm like, is it appropriate for the wickedness?
00:43:40.559 -->
00:43:42.000She was up in there tripping.
00:43:42.079 -->
00:43:43.599She act like I was naked.
00:43:44.159 -->
00:43:45.679Like, golly.
00:43:46.159 -->
00:43:47.440No problem telling you the truth.
00:43:48.960 -->
00:43:50.880Throw me up and down, baby.
00:43:51.119 -->
00:43:52.079She looked up.
00:43:53.119 -->
00:43:54.079I'm like, damn.
00:43:54.639 -->
00:43:55.119All right.
00:43:55.519 -->
00:43:56.159Just like.
00:44:00.239 -->
00:44:01.280All though, give it to me.
00:44:02.400 -->
00:44:03.679So I don't care because I'm a clunk.
00:44:04.079 -->
00:44:08.320But if a person don't give me compliments, I'm gonna tell you right now, and they stare at me and they got new stuff going on.
00:44:08.400 -->
00:44:09.440I will not compliment them back.
00:44:09.599 -->
00:44:10.480I'll do just like they did me.
00:44:10.639 -->
00:44:12.400Stare at them and be like, what's going on?
00:44:12.880 -->
00:44:15.360Now I'm not gonna compliment you back.
00:44:15.679 -->
00:44:16.000Exactly.
00:44:16.079 -->
00:44:17.039I know it's shade.
00:44:17.280 -->
00:44:20.480But if I if you know how I do y'all, I'll be okay.
00:44:20.639 -->
00:44:26.880But I wouldn't sit there and throw no shade and be like, girl, you look good with the new, you know that no, no, I'd rather not say nothing.
00:44:27.119 -->
00:44:29.039Just but y'all need to stop that for real.
00:44:29.760 -->
00:44:31.440Because me and my little hair look good.
00:44:41.679 -->
00:44:42.880Listen, because y'all heard what I just said.
00:44:42.960 -->
00:44:45.679I said, okay, right, big hair, big cure, curious.
00:44:47.920 -->
00:44:49.119I guarantee you, homeboy.
00:44:49.599 -->
00:44:49.760Gay.
00:44:50.000 -->
00:44:51.360Does he call me gay every time?
00:44:52.239 -->
00:44:53.679Oh my gosh, Marlon.
00:44:53.840 -->
00:44:56.639Oh, but he was having me bag y'all bags up, but he gonna fix it.
00:44:57.119 -->
00:44:58.239Kira with the big booty.
00:44:58.320 -->
00:45:01.119Marlin, no, not straight gay.
00:45:01.199 -->
00:45:03.119I mean, shut up, not gay.
00:45:05.199 -->
00:45:05.440Okay.
00:45:06.159 -->
00:45:08.320Moving on to our last one.
00:45:08.719 -->
00:45:12.960Do you believe everything that hurts you shaped you?
00:45:13.440 -->
00:45:13.840Yes.
00:45:14.880 -->
00:45:16.719Everything and good or bad.
00:45:17.280 -->
00:45:18.400I'll go ahead.
00:45:19.599 -->
00:45:22.400Everything made me who I am, good or bad.
00:45:22.639 -->
00:45:28.239No matter all the bad situations, something good still came out of it.
00:45:28.400 -->
00:45:31.679Like a lesson was learned or something.
00:45:31.840 -->
00:45:34.960Like I I know not to go back and revisit something.
00:45:35.039 -->
00:45:36.559Like it's a lesson.
00:45:37.199 -->
00:45:38.639I take it all on the chin.
00:45:38.880 -->
00:45:39.280Yeah.
00:45:39.519 -->
00:45:39.760Yeah.
00:45:39.920 -->
00:45:41.119I have no regrets.
00:45:41.360 -->
00:45:42.000I used to.
00:45:42.239 -->
00:45:42.880I ain't gonna lie.
00:45:42.960 -->
00:45:44.320I go, oh, I should have waited.
00:45:44.400 -->
00:45:45.280Oh, I should have done this.
00:45:46.000 -->
00:45:50.400Like, and now that I'm like in my big 40s, like I don't regret nothing.
00:45:50.559 -->
00:45:56.800Periodically without everything that I've been through because I am who I am today.
00:45:57.039 -->
00:46:00.800I give no applicts for real.
00:46:01.039 -->
00:46:03.199Because who would you be without all of that?
00:46:03.440 -->
00:46:08.320Without every single chapter that I the good, the bad, the ugly, though.
00:46:08.639 -->
00:46:10.000Well, who would I be without all of that?
00:46:10.079 -->
00:46:12.719I wouldn't have learned anything without those bad things.
00:46:12.960 -->
00:46:16.559I don't, yeah, like I don't regret anything, and I am not looking back.
00:46:16.800 -->
00:46:17.440Me neither.
00:46:17.679 -->
00:46:20.239That past is that past for a reason.
00:46:20.480 -->
00:46:23.599Yes, I'm gonna tell y'all right now, like Crystal said, I'm big Hira.
00:46:23.840 -->
00:46:33.599Let me tell y'all my first level, my confidence, my everything, my worst ethics, everything I got going on is really big, and I don't doubt nothing.
00:46:33.760 -->
00:46:37.199I don't, I don't care if you don't even like me because the way my attitude is now.
00:46:37.280 -->
00:46:38.400Just don't disrespect me.
00:46:38.559 -->
00:46:40.480You ain't gotta like me, but you better respect it.
00:46:40.559 -->
00:46:41.840And that's just how I am in life.
00:46:41.920 -->
00:46:43.519You ain't gotta like it, but respect it.
00:46:43.679 -->
00:46:44.800Everything is big around here.
00:46:44.960 -->
00:46:49.440I think people could use that confidence and they're so mad about it.
00:46:52.239 -->
00:46:52.719My whole life.
00:46:53.039 -->
00:46:54.000People like who you were.
00:46:54.800 -->
00:46:55.519I'm not mine.
00:46:56.000 -->
00:46:58.559I just went in the room like I owned it because I knew it.
00:46:59.679 -->
00:47:00.320So I don't know.
00:47:00.400 -->
00:47:02.000I'm not gonna shrink myself never on that.
00:47:02.239 -->
00:47:03.920I only love this version of me.
00:47:04.000 -->
00:47:04.639And I say it all the time.
00:47:06.400 -->
00:47:07.519Well, I wake up in the morning.
00:47:07.840 -->
00:47:08.400I love this version.
00:47:08.559 -->
00:47:09.679I think it's the age.
00:47:09.920 -->
00:47:10.719I think it's the age.
00:47:11.840 -->
00:47:13.599When you grow in the world, yeah, maturity.
00:47:13.760 -->
00:47:14.400Yes, it's the age.
00:47:14.480 -->
00:47:16.000The owner of the super gay.
00:47:16.159 -->
00:47:18.159I told you you're gonna say that.
00:47:19.840 -->
00:47:20.559Ignorant, mom.
00:47:20.880 -->
00:47:22.159Okay, what about you, Crystal?
00:47:22.559 -->
00:47:23.039The same.
00:47:23.119 -->
00:47:28.159I don't think I'm well, I think y'all a little ahead of me when it comes to that.
00:47:28.480 -->
00:47:30.400True, because I think I love this.
00:47:30.480 -->
00:47:31.840Is probably my best version.
00:47:32.000 -->
00:47:33.440I love who I am right now.
00:47:33.599 -->
00:47:34.639Like, oh my god.
00:47:34.800 -->
00:47:48.800And it's not a it's a lot that has changed, but not too much because I've always have just loved my own personality, I've always loved myself and always love like what I stood for, but just because none of the fake, the shade, none of the other people could have never changed who I was as a person, right?
00:47:49.199 -->
00:47:52.800And then I think the person I'm becoming now is just people somebody with boundaries.
00:47:53.360 -->
00:47:57.199And I'm accept I'm loving it because now I'm like, okay, nobody tell me I can't say you know.
00:47:57.360 -->
00:47:59.280Like I'm saying it now, and it's super hard.
00:47:59.360 -->
00:48:02.480And I'm also learning how to like we were talking about the other day.
00:48:02.559 -->
00:48:03.599I'm learning how to take compliments.
00:48:03.679 -->
00:48:04.800Somebody in here told me that too.
00:48:04.880 -->
00:48:06.000Me, I have a it was you.
00:48:06.159 -->
00:48:08.480I have a bad problem with actually taking a compliment.
00:48:08.719 -->
00:48:09.039Do I?
00:48:09.119 -->
00:48:10.639Yes, you know, girl, it's all bad.
00:48:10.800 -->
00:48:13.440Like, I did it today earlier.
00:48:13.519 -->
00:48:14.719I do it all day and it's bad.
00:48:14.800 -->
00:48:16.400Like somebody be like, Oh my god, I like your dress.
00:48:16.480 -->
00:48:18.880Oh, I had this point seven years ago and it got a hole right here.
00:48:19.440 -->
00:48:22.639It's just like I hate that.
00:48:22.880 -->
00:48:27.199So somebody was telling me my cousin, I think she had told me and was like, Does people please please stop doing that?
00:48:27.280 -->
00:48:28.719Yeah, make somebody else comfortable.
00:48:28.800 -->
00:48:29.679Yes, let them confidence.
00:48:29.840 -->
00:48:30.079Thank you.
00:48:30.480 -->
00:48:31.360And it happens all day.
00:48:31.440 -->
00:48:32.639I'm gonna thank you.
00:48:32.719 -->
00:48:34.239Oh my god, I hear oh, it's a week.
00:48:34.639 -->
00:48:35.599No, nobody needs to know.
00:48:35.920 -->
00:48:37.199Everybody gotta hear every damn thing.
00:48:37.599 -->
00:48:38.960But I can't, I'm I'm this old.
00:48:39.280 -->
00:48:40.000You're working on it.
00:48:40.320 -->
00:48:41.440I'm working on it, and it's so hard.
00:48:41.519 -->
00:48:44.800So it was so funny as I read head was like, Oh my life and piss like TC.
00:48:44.880 -->
00:48:47.360I had this like three eight years and I bought it for three dollars.
00:48:47.440 -->
00:48:48.400And he like, God, Chris.
00:48:48.719 -->
00:48:52.159All you had to do was say, I'm like, okay, my bad, my bad.
00:48:53.440 -->
00:48:54.800Like, so I'm working on that, yeah.
00:48:54.960 -->
00:48:58.880But yeah, I don't have no regrets, but I am still working on not living in the past too.
00:48:58.960 -->
00:49:04.960Like, because whatever hurt me then, I don't allow it to like still hurt me, but I still I don't want to keep replaying things.
00:49:05.039 -->
00:49:05.840Like, I hate that about it.
00:49:06.000 -->
00:49:06.480But you know what?
00:49:06.559 -->
00:49:08.880That's a part of healing and grieving the situation.
00:49:09.199 -->
00:49:11.039You're gonna replay it, just don't react on it.
00:49:11.119 -->
00:49:11.280Right.
00:49:11.440 -->
00:49:12.960And you gotta give yourself grace.
00:49:13.199 -->
00:49:14.079Yes, you gotta give it to you.
00:49:14.239 -->
00:49:15.039It's not gonna go away.
00:49:15.280 -->
00:49:16.159You can't erase your mind.
00:49:17.360 -->
00:49:18.719That's what people feel to realize.
00:49:18.800 -->
00:49:23.840You cannot erase your mind, you only can't react, you only can erase the way you react to.
00:49:24.639 -->
00:49:28.400So the way that it makes you feel now, you can't get in those feelings.
00:49:28.480 -->
00:49:28.639Right.
00:49:28.800 -->
00:49:37.519So it's like, oh, I can have this thought in my head, but long as I don't act on it, as long as I don't allow it to put me in a place and make me sit there, it's okay.
00:49:37.679 -->
00:49:42.320That's why the 24-hour thing is like, okay, if something bothered me, I need 24 hours.
00:49:42.400 -->
00:49:43.519Yeah, I'm working on it.
00:49:43.599 -->
00:49:56.559I need 24 hours to process it before I react because I learned that in that moment, I'ma go zero to 10, but then tomorrow I'ma feel bad and be like, okay, I didn't have to react like that.
00:49:56.639 -->
00:49:59.119So now I'm doing the 24 hours, I'll be like, That is over.
00:49:59.360 -->
00:50:06.480I'm not saying nothing until 24 hours and see if I still feel the way I felt.
00:50:07.679 -->
00:50:08.239And it's working.
00:50:09.199 -->
00:50:11.039I won't even text back.
00:50:11.119 -->
00:50:12.239I'm gonna get it once or twice.
00:50:12.480 -->
00:50:13.679I just I'll ignore it.
00:50:14.800 -->
00:50:14.880Yeah.
00:50:15.039 -->
00:50:16.239I said he said something like that to me.
00:50:16.320 -->
00:50:18.960He had one off on me at work and then go come over to me because I stopped talking to him.
00:50:19.119 -->
00:50:19.920Like, is you okay, baby?
00:50:20.000 -->
00:50:21.280I said, Is you bipolar?
00:50:22.480 -->
00:50:26.159I just thought about it, you know, and I just thought like Kira ain't gonna have to go that hard on you.
00:50:31.360 -->
00:50:32.639We ain't gonna have you on the podcast.
00:50:34.239 -->
00:50:35.760Wait, is that from the podcast though?
00:50:35.920 -->
00:50:37.360You couldn't have got it with the one.
00:50:40.159 -->
00:50:42.400I just like it.
00:50:42.559 -->
00:50:47.840You know, one thing I'm gonna share with you though, Crystal, because I once was you in that season, right?
00:50:48.079 -->
00:50:57.280Um, one thing that I had to learn with me being, you know, when I started studying and being in the Bible is that you have to repent.
00:50:57.679 -->
00:51:00.639You have to repent and then forgive yourself.
00:51:01.039 -->
00:51:04.239Forgive yourself and then give us grace today.
00:51:04.400 -->
00:51:08.000Yes, give yourself grace because baby, it don't it works.
00:51:08.480 -->
00:51:09.039It worked.
00:51:09.119 -->
00:51:11.840And stop trying to control the situation out of your mind.
00:51:12.159 -->
00:51:13.119That's what gets us.
00:51:13.519 -->
00:51:31.920When you don't have no control, especially when you don't have no control over like like J just said, you can only control you, yeah, right, and the way you do the situation as long as you keep allowing things and people and people's negative energies and stuff to rub off on you, then that's you giving it life.
00:51:32.400 -->
00:51:33.360You get what I'm saying?
00:51:34.000 -->
00:51:37.360Love on you, love on you, love once you first make yourself a priority.
00:51:37.760 -->
00:51:46.480Everything else falls into place because if you giving yourself all this love and you making yourself happy, nothing nobody else do can change that.
00:51:46.559 -->
00:51:55.840So it's like not depending on nobody else to keep you uplifted, and it's like being with yourself is only can be somebody's if you're not there for you.
00:51:56.079 -->
00:51:57.280That's what If I'm being with yourself.
00:51:57.679 -->
00:52:00.719I say I'm doing the real work of it, it's not rewarding.
00:52:00.960 -->
00:52:01.360I love it.
00:52:01.440 -->
00:52:03.360It's the rewarding, it's your own cup.
00:52:05.039 -->
00:52:06.159I love crystal scontent.
00:52:06.320 -->
00:52:08.480Yeah, I want to grow to be like crystal scontent.
00:52:10.159 -->
00:52:14.960Yeah, no, that's I am when I say working on that, I mean really doing the work, and it is really working.
00:52:15.039 -->
00:52:18.400Because they they say where as you get older, you get that you don't give an F no more.
00:52:18.480 -->
00:52:20.079That's the only way that really works.
00:52:20.159 -->
00:52:21.440It's that's literally the only way.
00:52:22.159 -->
00:52:23.119Because I don't really be caring.
00:52:23.440 -->
00:52:26.800If I want to wait, it's the only way, I promise you.
00:52:26.880 -->
00:52:27.599It's the only thing.
00:52:27.679 -->
00:52:32.400Like you see me doing care that much think about your own household.
00:52:32.719 -->
00:52:37.119Just think about the people you said it or I'm letting it go, and you bye.
00:52:37.360 -->
00:52:47.039If you gotta worry about you, T T Marlin, the baby, all that's already six people ahead of you that you before you.
00:52:47.360 -->
00:52:50.960So it's like now I gotta deal with this person, this person, that person, this person.
00:52:51.119 -->
00:52:52.159Oh, that's too much.
00:52:52.239 -->
00:53:02.559We're not meant to take in all that, and I think that's why social media got everybody so messed up because we're taking in too much that the brain was not meant to take in.
00:53:02.639 -->
00:53:04.320Like now I know your problems.
00:53:04.400 -->
00:53:08.320This person got a heart problem, this person just got uh cancer.
00:53:08.480 -->
00:53:10.159Now I think my son got cancer.
00:53:10.400 -->
00:53:11.519I got a heart problem.
00:53:11.679 -->
00:53:13.440My grandma's gonna wake up dead tomorrow.
00:53:13.679 -->
00:53:14.639That's what I'm like.
00:53:16.559 -->
00:53:22.960All of everybody's problems and issues and thought it's something that's coming into your head.
00:53:23.119 -->
00:53:25.360It's very that's what messes up my anxiety at nighttime.
00:53:25.599 -->
00:53:28.559Facebook before you come back.
00:53:29.599 -->
00:53:32.880Like she said, what you put in here, I learned that.
00:53:33.119 -->
00:53:35.760What goes inside my head faster?
00:53:36.239 -->
00:53:40.239Whatever I'm thinking, all the way down to the type of shows I watch.
00:53:40.400 -->
00:53:43.119It's certain things that I don't watch because it put me in the mood.
00:53:43.280 -->
00:53:47.599So it's like I'm not watching that because if I watch this, I'm gonna be in the mood.
00:53:47.679 -->
00:53:49.519And my husband would just like don't watch that.
00:53:50.639 -->
00:53:57.440It just puts you in a place in a tiny bad certain areas, certain places that I think certain people you be around.
00:53:57.599 -->
00:54:00.639Certain people are always bad and depressed and want to cry.
00:54:01.519 -->
00:54:02.800Don't come around me with the city.
00:54:02.960 -->
00:54:05.599I'm somebody on the childhood.
00:54:06.239 -->
00:54:07.360You gotta know you can't be around.
00:54:10.800 -->
00:54:14.480Never so it's like every time you're going into this space that is dumping all that energy.
00:54:15.679 -->
00:54:19.519Energy trip return, yes, and that's exactly what I'm working with.
00:54:20.000 -->
00:54:22.239I'm so conscious about what I take in.
00:54:22.320 -->
00:54:24.159Yeah, I let everything go.
00:54:24.320 -->
00:54:26.000I really, I literally do not care.
00:54:26.079 -->
00:54:28.000I yeah, I don't care who likes me, who talk to me.
00:54:28.320 -->
00:54:29.760I've been worrying that feeling for so long.
00:54:29.840 -->
00:54:31.280Now that I'm starting to like, I've been worrying about it.
00:54:31.360 -->
00:54:32.800I don't even know that I'm like the bad.
00:54:33.599 -->
00:54:34.320It's no going back.
00:54:35.119 -->
00:54:36.000You just gotta put yourself back.
00:54:36.239 -->
00:54:40.400You're putting yourself back because why should I be unhappy to make everybody else happy?
00:54:40.639 -->
00:54:41.039That's not good.
00:54:41.119 -->
00:54:42.159This don't make me feel good.
00:54:42.559 -->
00:54:43.920So why am I doing it to make somebody feel?
00:54:44.320 -->
00:54:46.400Stop doing what you like doing because somebody else don't like it.
00:54:47.199 -->
00:54:48.159Don't exactly.
00:54:48.320 -->
00:54:49.119This is your life.
00:54:49.519 -->
00:54:56.960And your starts with learning you, yes, it's because you gotta know what you're able to take in and what you able to put out, what you're able to take.
00:54:57.840 -->
00:54:58.960What you able to put up with.
00:54:59.119 -->
00:54:59.519Yes, yes.
00:54:59.679 -->
00:55:02.320Because, like we I think we talked about this on one of our shows.
00:55:02.400 -->
00:55:03.440Is we all crazy.
00:55:03.679 -->
00:55:05.119But what crazy we gonna put up with?
00:55:05.360 -->
00:55:05.840What crazy is that?
00:55:06.000 -->
00:55:06.639It's certainly crazy.
00:55:06.960 -->
00:55:10.320I'm just not about to put up with yeah, point blank period.
00:55:10.400 -->
00:55:11.599I don't care who you mean.
00:55:12.800 -->
00:55:15.119I don't have the energy, I'm tired already.
00:55:16.639 -->
00:55:17.440I say that all the time.
00:55:17.599 -->
00:55:19.679Telling y'all, my energy changed for a little tiny person.
00:55:19.760 -->
00:55:20.559She saw it all.
00:55:20.639 -->
00:55:24.239And I tell people all the time, I know I'm not the friend of who I was five years ago.
00:55:24.400 -->
00:55:25.440I ain't got it no more.
00:55:27.920 -->
00:55:28.880I'm not the same friend.
00:55:29.119 -->
00:55:29.920I done got my kids.
00:55:30.559 -->
00:55:32.559If I ever be there for you, I will never be the same friend.
00:55:32.639 -->
00:55:33.840I'm not, I'm not sure.
00:55:33.920 -->
00:55:34.719I'm not the same friend.
00:55:34.880 -->
00:55:36.320I'm sorry if you can't respect it.
00:55:36.400 -->
00:55:39.679Yes, but I can't be there for you because I gotta be there for me and mine.
00:55:39.920 -->
00:55:40.639Not 24-7.
00:55:40.960 -->
00:55:42.07924-7 is too much.
00:55:42.159 -->
00:55:42.880You got your own life.
00:55:43.280 -->
00:55:46.159People want to say, you know, you gotta make people make time for the friends and stuff like that.
00:55:46.239 -->
00:55:46.639Okay, that's it.
00:55:47.119 -->
00:55:48.159And I and I understand that.
00:55:48.239 -->
00:55:48.639I understand that.
00:55:48.800 -->
00:55:49.840That's why I said not 24-7.
00:55:50.880 -->
00:55:52.320You can't put that on me if I don't have to be able to do that.
00:55:52.480 -->
00:55:53.280And please, let's have fun.
00:55:53.360 -->
00:55:53.920Let's just be fun.
00:55:54.239 -->
00:55:56.800I was just about to say I don't want to be drained with you.
00:55:56.960 -->
00:55:59.280I was just about to say, I don't have to anything.
00:56:00.960 -->
00:56:01.360Exactly.
00:56:01.760 -->
00:56:04.320Anything that I do now, I gotta get something out.
00:56:05.119 -->
00:56:07.440That's how you have to give me something.
00:56:07.760 -->
00:56:10.719Why would I want to pay money and do all this and just go out?
00:56:12.000 -->
00:56:14.320When we went out last week, we had so much fun.
00:56:14.719 -->
00:56:16.239Oh my god, I have so much fun.
00:56:16.719 -->
00:56:20.159Y'all because we just time, we kind of chill.
00:56:20.480 -->
00:56:21.199But that's what I'm saying.
00:56:21.280 -->
00:56:22.719It's like giving your energy.
00:56:22.960 -->
00:56:25.760And we didn't work, and being like, I made her leave her workbook in the car.
00:56:27.199 -->
00:56:27.840You know what I'm saying?
00:56:28.079 -->
00:56:29.760It's just I got learning.
00:56:30.400 -->
00:56:30.639You're right.
00:56:30.719 -->
00:56:33.440You gotta be able to get something out of there because I did something out of that.
00:56:34.079 -->
00:56:35.840I was gonna cancel on y'all that day because I wasn't gonna go.
00:56:38.320 -->
00:56:39.360I knew she was gonna say that.
00:56:39.440 -->
00:56:40.800I had so much going on, y'all.
00:56:42.480 -->
00:56:45.199I don't know working, and I had so much on my mind.
00:56:45.280 -->
00:56:46.960I started to cancel so much on y'all.
00:56:48.480 -->
00:56:50.880But look how you didn't, but look how you didn't.
00:56:51.280 -->
00:56:54.159Everything definitely brought everybody needed it.
00:56:54.320 -->
00:56:55.360We all needed that.
00:56:55.519 -->
00:56:57.920Everybody gave each other what was needed.
00:56:59.199 -->
00:57:04.559So them the them the type of relationships, those are the only type of relationships that you can be in.
00:57:04.880 -->
00:57:07.679I can't be in a relationship when I leave you, I got a headache.
00:57:08.079 -->
00:57:14.000I can't be in a relationship where when I go with you, my whole mind is racing because I don't know what's about to happen.
00:57:14.159 -->
00:57:16.400We might be about to get into altercation.
00:57:17.119 -->
00:57:19.039I can't be around those things no more.
00:57:19.280 -->
00:57:19.679I can't do that.
00:57:20.239 -->
00:57:21.679I want to talk about Billy all the time.
00:57:22.239 -->
00:57:23.119I didn't even tell y'all.
00:57:23.519 -->
00:57:25.840I had just came from my friend's memorial that day.
00:57:28.880 -->
00:57:30.000Y'all know I was taking that risk.
00:57:30.159 -->
00:57:32.639I was I just turned that far.
00:57:33.280 -->
00:57:44.800But if I change your try to get it to change your move, I needed to change our world, and then it it mended us, it happened, it helped everybody because my we all needed the move.
00:57:45.440 -->
00:57:49.119We all needed a little bit of what each other could give, and we gave it to each other.
00:57:49.199 -->
00:57:50.000And that's what I said.
00:57:51.119 -->
00:57:52.320So let me give now.
00:57:52.559 -->
00:57:54.719And I'm I don't know how to keep a secret, y'all.
00:57:54.800 -->
00:57:56.480So I can't I don't even know how to be a little fake.
00:57:56.559 -->
00:58:00.320So, yes, we tried this earlier, but we had technical difficulty, so I'm gonna try it again.
00:58:00.400 -->
00:58:02.639They're gonna act like this is their first time seeing me.
00:58:03.599 -->
00:58:04.320What y'all?
00:58:04.880 -->
00:58:05.519I got y'all.
00:58:08.320 -->
00:58:09.440Okay, who would that?
00:58:10.159 -->
00:58:11.599Look at that, girl.
00:58:12.960 -->
00:58:15.440Look at that, oh my goodness.
00:58:16.480 -->
00:58:17.519Jean, open it up.
00:58:17.760 -->
00:58:19.199Did she make him look at the party?
00:58:19.519 -->
00:58:20.079No, it was.
00:58:29.360 -->
00:58:30.400I'm our party promoter.
00:58:36.559 -->
00:58:37.599Come and holler at us.
00:58:37.679 -->
00:58:38.239What is called?
00:58:38.480 -->
00:58:38.960Double shot.
00:58:39.280 -->
00:58:40.159Double shot Friday, y'all.
00:58:40.400 -->
00:58:42.400They make it another double shot Friday, Marlin.
00:58:42.960 -->
00:58:43.599And our cups.
00:58:44.559 -->
00:58:46.079So I got them some cups, y'all.
00:58:46.159 -->
00:58:48.000With their QR code and they name.
00:58:48.320 -->
00:58:48.960It's so cute.
00:58:49.119 -->
00:58:50.480Ah, y'all know I love me a cook.
00:58:51.119 -->
00:58:51.599Look at our pin.
00:58:51.760 -->
00:58:53.039It's a perfect size outfit on the mouth.
00:58:53.599 -->
00:58:56.639So one by one, I want y'all to show y'all y'all uh look, picture.
00:58:56.719 -->
00:59:00.239Um with the booty.
00:59:00.480 -->
00:59:02.880These are his patches that's gonna go on a jacket.
00:59:03.199 -->
00:59:03.920Wait, what is it saying?
00:59:04.239 -->
00:59:05.119So cura with the booty.
00:59:05.360 -->
00:59:07.519If my mouth doesn't say it, my face definitely will be.
00:59:07.599 -->
00:59:07.920And it does.
00:59:10.480 -->
00:59:11.199And hustler.
00:59:11.519 -->
00:59:13.119Because she is gonna feel out here.
00:59:13.440 -->
00:59:14.639She is the other one.
00:59:15.280 -->
00:59:16.559Oh, and then she got the one.
00:59:18.079 -->
00:59:18.400Oh, okay.
00:59:18.639 -->
00:59:18.960So cute.
00:59:19.119 -->
00:59:19.920Okay, go ahead, Keila.
00:59:20.159 -->
00:59:21.199What you got?
00:59:21.440 -->
00:59:22.239Because I'm locked up.
00:59:22.400 -->
00:59:22.800And she is.
00:59:22.960 -->
00:59:23.440I'm locked up.
00:59:23.760 -->
00:59:25.039Why I got your hairstyle right now.
00:59:25.280 -->
00:59:26.880No, that is my hairstyle for real.
00:59:27.119 -->
00:59:28.320She happened up to that like a hair.
00:59:28.480 -->
00:59:29.360And then I got us.
00:59:31.599 -->
00:59:32.719And then because what?
00:59:33.199 -->
00:59:34.079I'm limited.
00:59:37.440 -->
00:59:39.199And then she got me this all love this.
00:59:39.280 -->
00:59:41.360It says she's oh she opens her mouth.
00:59:41.519 -->
00:59:47.440She yeah, she opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
00:59:47.679 -->
00:59:50.239Proverbs 31 and 26.
00:59:50.480 -->
00:59:51.599Oh, that is clear.
00:59:51.840 -->
00:59:53.760Come on, let me know.
00:59:54.400 -->
00:59:57.519And though she really handpicked it, she did.
00:59:57.679 -->
00:59:58.000I did.
00:59:58.239 -->
00:59:58.400Really.
00:59:58.960 -->
00:59:59.119Okay.
01:00:03.039 -->
01:00:03.840Okay, GN.
01:00:04.079 -->
01:00:05.360I got my picture.
01:00:05.760 -->
01:00:07.519And I got the because I'm the biggest.
01:00:07.679 -->
01:00:12.320And she's eating beats all around.
01:00:12.880 -->
01:00:13.519That's me.
01:00:13.760 -->
01:00:14.880And I most definitely.
01:00:18.960 -->
01:00:22.400And I most definitely said what I thought I said.
01:00:24.960 -->
01:00:26.079She said what you do.
01:00:26.559 -->
01:00:28.159But thanks y'all for tuning in with us tonight.
01:00:28.239 -->
01:00:29.280This is our first episode back.
01:00:29.360 -->
01:00:31.599We'll see y'all not the next Wednesday, but the following Wednesday.
01:00:31.679 -->
01:00:32.480Thanks for tuning in with us.
01:00:32.639 -->
01:00:33.119We know y'all.
01:00:33.199 -->
01:00:34.480We podcast on Wednesday.
01:00:35.039 -->
01:00:36.320Thanks for coming.
01:00:39.440 -->
01:00:40.400Is he not even here?
01:00:40.559 -->
01:00:42.159He's just gonna end it here.
