SOBRE ESTE EPISÓDIO
Dr. George Vergolias introduces The Unstressed Exec and outlines his focus on helping high-achieving professionals navigate transitions, conflict, and resilience.
The episode explains the “fawn response,” a trauma/stress survival strategy first articulated by Pete Walker in complex PTSD work, in which perceived relational threat triggers appeasement and fear-based compliance when fight or flight feel unsafe. Dr. Vergolias describes how fawning can be rewarded in leadership and corporate contexts yet leads to burnout, resentment, and loss of identity. He summarizes the neuroscience through Stephen Porges’s polyvagal ventral vagal social engagement system being co-opted by threat, with costs such as elevated cortisol and dissociation.
He lists behavioral markers (difficulty saying no, over-apologizing, anxiety about disappointing others, conflict-smoothing, resentment) and offers four practices: pause before agreeing, reconnect to body signals, separate values from fears, and tolerate others’ disappointment through gradual exposure.
00:00 Welcome to the Show
01:00 Workbook Quick Plug
01:26 What Is the Fawn Response
05:25 High Achievers and Burnout
07:19 Neuroscience of Fawning
10:22 Spotting Your Fawn Patterns
15:53 From Compliance to Choice
16:29 Four Practices to Recover
20:43 Recap and Closing Reflections
23:10 Next Steps and Farewell
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About the Host – The Unstressed Exec
Meet Dr. George Vergolias - a clinical and forensic corporate psychologist turned executive coach with 20+ years at the intersection of leadership, mental resilience, and high performance. George has advised Fortune 500 companies, guided C-suite leaders through crisis, and coached high-achievers to reclaim clarity, calm, and purpose without losing their edge.
On The Unstressed Exec, George brings powerful insights from the boardroom to the mic - helping leaders navigate stress, burnout, conflict, and transformation with practical tools and no-BS wisdom.
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