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Life is a winding road?
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No telling where it goes?
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Driving through days and nights?
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Won't stop for traffic lights?
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And I, I really want to
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know, really want to know?
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If I let me figure
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out where the road goes?
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Even if I'm falling down? I will keep on searching for
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my highs?
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You can say I lost my mind? I will keep on holding my
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head high? Even if the sky is
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falling down.
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Foreign
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hey, hey, hey. And welcome to
16
00:01:06,170 --> 00:01:09,930
another episode. We're diving into this new
17
00:01:09,930 --> 00:01:13,770
series unapologetically, you. And I'm excited about it
18
00:01:13,770 --> 00:01:16,850
because, you know, being yourself
19
00:01:17,490 --> 00:01:21,170
obviously is. Is the most amazing thing ever. And I don't know
20
00:01:21,170 --> 00:01:24,210
why it is that we feel that we have to
21
00:01:25,090 --> 00:01:28,930
wait to give ourselves permission to be ourselves. And,
22
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you know, that's one thing that I'm really loving about the series
23
00:01:33,170 --> 00:01:36,810
as we're working on it, because, you know, we should have
24
00:01:36,810 --> 00:01:39,610
never put those masks on to begin with, and a lot of us did, and
25
00:01:39,610 --> 00:01:43,450
there's a million reasons why that happened. But, you know, within
26
00:01:43,450 --> 00:01:47,090
this series, we're talking about ditching the masks and ditching the should
27
00:01:47,090 --> 00:01:50,610
haves, would haves, could haves, and talking about
28
00:01:51,180 --> 00:01:54,940
real life. You know, we're talking about messy growth as
29
00:01:54,940 --> 00:01:58,380
it actually happens and not the Pinterest perfect version.
30
00:01:59,180 --> 00:02:02,980
And, you know, today on this episode, we're going to
31
00:02:02,980 --> 00:02:06,660
go there. We are going to talk about what it means to
32
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be labeled too much, too loud, too driven,
33
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too sensitive, too direct, and why those things are
34
00:02:14,140 --> 00:02:17,660
actually your superpower. So go ahead, grab that cup of
35
00:02:17,660 --> 00:02:21,160
coffee, that cup of tea, or just throw this on during
36
00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:24,960
your, you know, school drop off, because this is
37
00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:28,480
the pep talk that I definitely needed a few years ago,
38
00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:31,360
and I want to kind of bring that to you all today.
39
00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:34,960
So, first of all, let's step into
40
00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:39,920
the realness of this topic because we
41
00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:43,800
live in a world that loves to box us
42
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in, especially women. You know, be strong, but not
43
00:02:47,640 --> 00:02:51,360
too strong. Don't be too bold. Speak up, but not
44
00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:54,960
too loud. Work hard, but don't forget to be
45
00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:57,640
perfectly present for every moment of motherhood.
46
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It's like, who even made these rules? I remember
47
00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,680
constantly shrinking myself, laughing quieter,
48
00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:10,840
trying to smooth my edges, trying to, you know, chill
49
00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:14,620
out a little bit. And spoiler alert, it didn't
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make me more successful. It didn't make me more loved. It actually made
51
00:03:18,420 --> 00:03:21,980
me tired, burnout, resentful, and all of those yucky,
52
00:03:21,980 --> 00:03:25,820
yucky emotions. And I hit a moment, and maybe
53
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if you're listening to this right now, you've had one exactly like
54
00:03:29,580 --> 00:03:33,260
this. But I Hit this moment where I thought, I
55
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can't do this anymore and if I'm going to burn out, I
56
00:03:37,700 --> 00:03:41,460
might as well burn out as me. So I decided I was
57
00:03:41,460 --> 00:03:45,260
going to stop apologizing for taking up space. I
58
00:03:45,260 --> 00:03:48,820
was going to stop explaining why I dreamed big. And I
59
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laughed loud. And once I let all of those parts of me
60
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out, the right people started to lean in and the wrong
61
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people started to see themselves out. Right.
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My people didn't need a filtered version of me.
63
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They needed the wild, fully present, multi
64
00:04:08,830 --> 00:04:12,470
passionate, Messy bun at 3pm version of me.
65
00:04:13,430 --> 00:04:17,270
So if you're sitting there feeling like maybe you're too much,
66
00:04:18,150 --> 00:04:21,790
let me just say this. You're not too much. You're just
67
00:04:21,790 --> 00:04:25,350
not meant for small spaces. You know,
68
00:04:25,430 --> 00:04:28,790
you're meant to do more things, and that doesn't always mean
69
00:04:28,790 --> 00:04:32,640
bigger and louder. That just means sometimes different, more
70
00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:36,320
purposeful. Something that your innate gifts and
71
00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:40,160
talents. And they're appreciated. They're
72
00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:43,360
needed. They're. They're needed so badly, actually,
73
00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:48,640
you know, this series, it's
74
00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:52,080
not about being polished and perfect.
75
00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:57,010
It's about being raw and real and radically
76
00:04:57,010 --> 00:04:59,930
honest with who you are and what you want.
77
00:05:01,370 --> 00:05:05,210
So let that too much energy out. Laugh loud.
78
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Let it echo those big ideas, Say
79
00:05:09,290 --> 00:05:13,010
them, do them, try them, fall down, pick yourself back
80
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up, try again. Because this is your space, and we don't
81
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do boxes here. All right, friend,
82
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I am also gonna throw this out here with this
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unapologetically you series. I've also challenged myself to dive back into
84
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doing these live streams like I did before. So I will be
85
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peppering in some of these solo episodes along with
86
00:05:36,020 --> 00:05:39,780
bringing on some amazing guests because that's something that I've missed. I love doing
87
00:05:39,780 --> 00:05:43,340
these series where we're talking about a specific topic, but I miss having my guests
88
00:05:43,340 --> 00:05:47,140
on because I want to hear your stories. I love them. And you all
89
00:05:47,140 --> 00:05:50,850
have so much to share. So if you're interested in being a
90
00:05:50,850 --> 00:05:53,410
guest on the show, shoot me an email.
91
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Infouccessfullychaotic.com I'd love to have you
92
00:05:57,130 --> 00:06:00,690
on. All right, friend, that's it for today. We're
93
00:06:00,690 --> 00:06:04,090
keeping this series honest, soulful, a little bit spicy
94
00:06:04,090 --> 00:06:07,170
sometimes. And hey, if it's in your heart,
95
00:06:07,650 --> 00:06:11,410
shoot me a dm. You know, drop a comment, shoot me that
96
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email, even if it's just to tell me about a moment that you stopped
97
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shrinking. And if you've got that story that you
98
00:06:19,060 --> 00:06:22,900
want to share on an upcoming live, you know, go ahead
99
00:06:22,900 --> 00:06:26,620
and shoot me that email. Or you can even go to successfullychaotic.com
100
00:06:27,180 --> 00:06:31,020
and, you know, fill out the form to be a guest there because you're
101
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not too much and you're just getting started. So let's talk soon.
102
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Life is a winding road
103
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no telling where it goes
104
00:06:50,310 --> 00:06:52,950
Driving through days and nights
105
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Won't stop for traffic lights
106
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and. I, I really want to
107
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know really want to know.
00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:09,520
Life is a winding road?
2
00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:13,680
No telling where it goes?
3
00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:17,920
Driving through days and nights?
4
00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,840
Won't stop for traffic lights?
5
00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:26,840
And I, I really want to
6
00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:28,160
know, really want to know?
7
00:00:31,270 --> 00:00:34,870
If I let me figure
8
00:00:34,870 --> 00:00:36,710
out where the road goes?
9
00:00:39,350 --> 00:00:43,150
Even if I'm falling down? I will keep on searching for
10
00:00:43,150 --> 00:00:44,630
my highs?
11
00:00:47,350 --> 00:00:51,190
You can say I lost my mind? I will keep on holding my
12
00:00:51,190 --> 00:00:54,950
head high? Even if the sky is
13
00:00:54,950 --> 00:00:56,310
falling down.
14
00:00:58,930 --> 00:00:59,250
Foreign
15
00:01:02,610 --> 00:01:06,170
hey, hey, hey. And welcome to
16
00:01:06,170 --> 00:01:09,930
another episode. We're diving into this new
17
00:01:09,930 --> 00:01:13,770
series unapologetically, you. And I'm excited about it
18
00:01:13,770 --> 00:01:16,850
because, you know, being yourself
19
00:01:17,490 --> 00:01:21,170
obviously is. Is the most amazing thing ever. And I don't know
20
00:01:21,170 --> 00:01:24,210
why it is that we feel that we have to
21
00:01:25,090 --> 00:01:28,930
wait to give ourselves permission to be ourselves. And,
22
00:01:29,330 --> 00:01:33,170
you know, that's one thing that I'm really loving about the series
23
00:01:33,170 --> 00:01:36,810
as we're working on it, because, you know, we should have
24
00:01:36,810 --> 00:01:39,610
never put those masks on to begin with, and a lot of us did, and
25
00:01:39,610 --> 00:01:43,450
there's a million reasons why that happened. But, you know, within
26
00:01:43,450 --> 00:01:47,090
this series, we're talking about ditching the masks and ditching the should
27
00:01:47,090 --> 00:01:50,610
haves, would haves, could haves, and talking about
28
00:01:51,180 --> 00:01:54,940
real life. You know, we're talking about messy growth as
29
00:01:54,940 --> 00:01:58,380
it actually happens and not the Pinterest perfect version.
30
00:01:59,180 --> 00:02:02,980
And, you know, today on this episode, we're going to
31
00:02:02,980 --> 00:02:06,660
go there. We are going to talk about what it means to
32
00:02:06,660 --> 00:02:10,300
be labeled too much, too loud, too driven,
33
00:02:10,380 --> 00:02:14,140
too sensitive, too direct, and why those things are
34
00:02:14,140 --> 00:02:17,660
actually your superpower. So go ahead, grab that cup of
35
00:02:17,660 --> 00:02:21,160
coffee, that cup of tea, or just throw this on during
36
00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:24,960
your, you know, school drop off, because this is
37
00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:28,480
the pep talk that I definitely needed a few years ago,
38
00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:31,360
and I want to kind of bring that to you all today.
39
00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:34,960
So, first of all, let's step into
40
00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:39,920
the realness of this topic because we
41
00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:43,800
live in a world that loves to box us
42
00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:47,640
in, especially women. You know, be strong, but not
43
00:02:47,640 --> 00:02:51,360
too strong. Don't be too bold. Speak up, but not
44
00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:54,960
too loud. Work hard, but don't forget to be
45
00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:57,640
perfectly present for every moment of motherhood.
46
00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:02,440
It's like, who even made these rules? I remember
47
00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,680
constantly shrinking myself, laughing quieter,
48
00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:10,840
trying to smooth my edges, trying to, you know, chill
49
00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:14,620
out a little bit. And spoiler alert, it didn't
50
00:03:14,620 --> 00:03:18,420
make me more successful. It didn't make me more loved. It actually made
51
00:03:18,420 --> 00:03:21,980
me tired, burnout, resentful, and all of those yucky,
52
00:03:21,980 --> 00:03:25,820
yucky emotions. And I hit a moment, and maybe
53
00:03:25,820 --> 00:03:29,580
if you're listening to this right now, you've had one exactly like
54
00:03:29,580 --> 00:03:33,260
this. But I Hit this moment where I thought, I
55
00:03:33,980 --> 00:03:37,700
can't do this anymore and if I'm going to burn out, I
56
00:03:37,700 --> 00:03:41,460
might as well burn out as me. So I decided I was
57
00:03:41,460 --> 00:03:45,260
going to stop apologizing for taking up space. I
58
00:03:45,260 --> 00:03:48,820
was going to stop explaining why I dreamed big. And I
59
00:03:48,820 --> 00:03:52,380
laughed loud. And once I let all of those parts of me
60
00:03:52,380 --> 00:03:56,100
out, the right people started to lean in and the wrong
61
00:03:56,100 --> 00:03:59,100
people started to see themselves out. Right.
62
00:04:00,540 --> 00:04:04,380
My people didn't need a filtered version of me.
63
00:04:05,590 --> 00:04:08,830
They needed the wild, fully present, multi
64
00:04:08,830 --> 00:04:12,470
passionate, Messy bun at 3pm version of me.
65
00:04:13,430 --> 00:04:17,270
So if you're sitting there feeling like maybe you're too much,
66
00:04:18,150 --> 00:04:21,790
let me just say this. You're not too much. You're just
67
00:04:21,790 --> 00:04:25,350
not meant for small spaces. You know,
68
00:04:25,430 --> 00:04:28,790
you're meant to do more things, and that doesn't always mean
69
00:04:28,790 --> 00:04:32,640
bigger and louder. That just means sometimes different, more
70
00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:36,320
purposeful. Something that your innate gifts and
71
00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:40,160
talents. And they're appreciated. They're
72
00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:43,360
needed. They're. They're needed so badly, actually,
73
00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:48,640
you know, this series, it's
74
00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:52,080
not about being polished and perfect.
75
00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:57,010
It's about being raw and real and radically
76
00:04:57,010 --> 00:04:59,930
honest with who you are and what you want.
77
00:05:01,370 --> 00:05:05,210
So let that too much energy out. Laugh loud.
78
00:05:05,450 --> 00:05:09,290
Let it echo those big ideas, Say
79
00:05:09,290 --> 00:05:13,010
them, do them, try them, fall down, pick yourself back
80
00:05:13,010 --> 00:05:16,810
up, try again. Because this is your space, and we don't
81
00:05:16,810 --> 00:05:20,250
do boxes here. All right, friend,
82
00:05:22,020 --> 00:05:24,820
I am also gonna throw this out here with this
83
00:05:24,820 --> 00:05:28,660
unapologetically you series. I've also challenged myself to dive back into
84
00:05:28,660 --> 00:05:32,180
doing these live streams like I did before. So I will be
85
00:05:32,180 --> 00:05:35,540
peppering in some of these solo episodes along with
86
00:05:36,020 --> 00:05:39,780
bringing on some amazing guests because that's something that I've missed. I love doing
87
00:05:39,780 --> 00:05:43,340
these series where we're talking about a specific topic, but I miss having my guests
88
00:05:43,340 --> 00:05:47,140
on because I want to hear your stories. I love them. And you all
89
00:05:47,140 --> 00:05:50,850
have so much to share. So if you're interested in being a
90
00:05:50,850 --> 00:05:53,410
guest on the show, shoot me an email.
91
00:05:53,410 --> 00:05:57,130
Infouccessfullychaotic.com I'd love to have you
92
00:05:57,130 --> 00:06:00,690
on. All right, friend, that's it for today. We're
93
00:06:00,690 --> 00:06:04,090
keeping this series honest, soulful, a little bit spicy
94
00:06:04,090 --> 00:06:07,170
sometimes. And hey, if it's in your heart,
95
00:06:07,650 --> 00:06:11,410
shoot me a dm. You know, drop a comment, shoot me that
96
00:06:11,410 --> 00:06:15,210
email, even if it's just to tell me about a moment that you stopped
97
00:06:15,210 --> 00:06:19,060
shrinking. And if you've got that story that you
98
00:06:19,060 --> 00:06:22,900
want to share on an upcoming live, you know, go ahead
99
00:06:22,900 --> 00:06:26,620
and shoot me that email. Or you can even go to successfullychaotic.com
100
00:06:27,180 --> 00:06:31,020
and, you know, fill out the form to be a guest there because you're
101
00:06:31,020 --> 00:06:34,380
not too much and you're just getting started. So let's talk soon.
102
00:06:42,550 --> 00:06:44,550
Life is a winding road
103
00:06:46,390 --> 00:06:48,630
no telling where it goes
104
00:06:50,310 --> 00:06:52,950
Driving through days and nights
105
00:06:54,310 --> 00:06:56,870
Won't stop for traffic lights
106
00:06:58,070 --> 00:07:01,790
and. I, I really want to
107
00:07:01,790 --> 00:07:03,110
know really want to know.
