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00:06:17.199So uh I've been through a lot of emails, and I've um come across one that I got received an email about maybe a couple weeks ago, and a guy was asking me if I was ever gonna get to it, so I pulled his up and I decided to go ahead and go with this one.
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00:06:24.079So before we get started, um just want to say thank you to you guys.
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00:06:33.680So, in any event, this guy, Mr.
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00:06:41.519Jeffrey, is um found a love that he didn't quite think he was going to find ever again.
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00:06:57.439You know, fate's had plans for other for had other plans for me or Mr.
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00:07:05.439Jeffrey or people like us, you know, but that doesn't stop that doesn't stop us from being who we are, you know.
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00:07:13.360I think we're putting the search for a reason, we're put on here as a purpose, and and I know in my lifetime I want to fulfill that destiny.
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00:07:18.560Jeffrey can fulfill his destiny too, as well as others out there.
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00:07:25.519Um, but we're gonna dive into his letter and we're going to see if we can give Mr.
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00:07:29.680Jeffrey some advice or you know, whatever he's looking for.
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00:07:38.000This letter, I'm sorry, this email is entitled An Unknown Love.
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00:07:39.920Icon, hello.
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00:07:46.800My name is Jeffrey, I'm 40 years old, and though I thought love had given up on me until I met a woman that changed my world and my life.
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00:07:52.399I was married for 10 years, and my wife decided that I wasn't the man for her anymore.
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00:08:00.639I took it very bad because I loved her, but clearly she didn't feel the same about me anymore.
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00:08:12.000She was seeing a man from prison that she found on PinPal.com, so I thought that was odd considering that he was in jail and that he couldn't provide that kind of life that I provided for her.
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00:08:15.680I mean, and I mean that respectfully, in a respectful way.
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00:08:23.199Not rich or snob or something, but or something, but I worked hard for my family, and I was a great provider.
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00:08:30.560I honestly don't know where I went wrong, but we have two kids together that took the divorce almost as bad as I did.
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00:08:34.480Here I am two years later, and I thought that I would never find love again.
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00:08:41.679But I have what I have and I need some advice because I honestly don't want to make the same mistake in my first marriage.
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00:08:57.919My kids are in therapy, though they have just entered adulthood, they they have some serious resentment towards their mother, and I told them to let it go because she has made her choice and I want and I want to move on and be happy in life, and I want the same for my kids.
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00:09:09.440They don't talk to their mother since Since they found out her new man is getting out of prison in October, and they refuse to stay with her, knowing that she's just knowing that he's just getting out of prison.
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00:09:23.440And that don't and that that they don't know what he was in for, so I just told them that it's her decision, and though it took some time, I have since forgiving her, and I wish her well and wish her the best.
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00:09:30.720I'm done being angry and hurt, but it's time for me to move on and restart my life and be happy, which brings it to this young lady that I met.
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00:09:32.000Please don't judge me.
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00:09:33.200This is new for me.
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00:09:37.600So I met a young lady by the name of Samantha, Sam for short, she's 34.
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00:09:40.799And it's really odd how we met, but here it goes.
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00:09:47.360I was at a low point in my life and thought that I wouldn't find love again, so I went out and got ways to fell asleep for my car.
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00:09:50.399But when I came to, I woke up in the parking lot of a Winco.
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00:09:52.080The hell's a Winco?
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00:09:52.720Huh.
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00:09:57.519Upon me leaving and going home, there was a lady asked for money and panhandling.
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00:10:04.000So she didn't look homeless, but she was dressed she was dressed fairly decent.
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00:10:15.120So I went home, decided to come back and asked if she wanted to have lunch with me, but she was very hesitant and didn't trust me, and I didn't understand why, but nevertheless, I asked if I could bring her some lunch, and she said yes.
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00:10:22.320Then I asked if I could eat lunch with her, again, very hesitant, and this was new to me, and I'm sure it was new to her.
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00:10:28.720So I went to Ano Hawaiian restaurant and bought us some food where we sat there and had lunch.
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00:10:37.840She was nervous, I could tell, but but I was too because I'd never done this before, but I figured out this could be something good for me.
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00:10:41.519So since then we started chatting more and getting to know each other better.
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00:10:44.000I would visit her almost every day after work.
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00:10:50.399She told me she doesn't stay in the same place long because she's really trying to get her life back on track.
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00:11:04.320She told me that she wasn't homeless, but she told me that she wasn't always homeless, but she ended up like this because she followed a man out here but left her and she has a son that is 10 years old.
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00:11:06.879But he doesn't live with her, obviously.
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00:11:10.960She had she had a job, but her wait.
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00:11:13.120But he doesn't live with her, obviously.
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00:11:20.080She had a job, but when her ex left all of a sudden it was it was to move back home to Michigan.
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00:11:26.240She said that they were having problems like major problems that dealt with money and his lack of keeping a job.
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00:11:30.399So I found out that he went back to his ex and they have a child together.
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00:11:44.639But he just left her left he just left me here in Arizona, and she said that she wants to go back to Michigan to get her son, but it wasn't easy.
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00:11:47.840She's wait, hold on for a minute.
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00:11:50.240Hang on.
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00:11:54.879Okay, she said that she wants to go back to Michigan to get her son, but it has been easy.
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00:12:06.960She's pretty much lost everything, and when he left her job, her son, when when she lost everything, when he left her job, and her son is the only family that she has.
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00:12:17.440I can see it really hurt her, so I didn't ask too many questions because I felt like she felt all over again, and it's just sad that this beautiful young lady is going through what she's going through.
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00:12:26.240But I asked her about finding a job, she said she's tried places that she's hired that that she is hired at, doesn't offer good hours, though she worked for them.
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00:12:31.120Some of the men like would try to take advantage of when they found out she doesn't have a stable place to stay.
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00:12:35.600I didn't want to make her feel that way, because I'm not that way.
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00:12:39.600So I approached her with caution every time we chat or meet.
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00:12:44.720She told me her goal was to get home and to be with her son or file custody for now.
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00:12:46.720But she said that was a long road.
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00:12:53.600She has a cell phone to keep in contact with him, and in my heart icon, I would be a fool not to do something to try to help her.
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00:12:56.720So it's been six months since we've been seeing or chatting each other.
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00:13:01.600At one point I did offer her a place to stay with me, but she refused, and I understand why.
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00:13:09.039So I told her that if she found a hotel room or a hotel, I would give her the money so she could have a place to sleep instead of sleeping in her car.
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00:13:14.720She did instead of in her car, and she didn't have to tell me where it was.
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00:13:23.759Again, I wanted her to feel comfortable, but with no pressure coming from me, she accepted that and she found a place that she could stay in, and I didn't want to know.
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00:13:38.960I gave I gave her a prepaid debit card so she could use and so she could be safe and not carry around cash.
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00:13:44.720I have to say Icon, I was impressed by her because she didn't want to take it at first, and she cried and asked me, Why are you doing this for me?
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00:13:47.519I'm nobody but a homeless girl trying to give back to my son.
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00:13:49.759Surely you don't have to worry about me.
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00:14:00.159I responded that in life sometimes we all need I responded in life sometimes we all need someone to help us, and that I was just trying to help a woman that was clearly in need of help.
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00:14:04.960I told her you don't need to repay me anything, just keep getting yourself together for your son.
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00:14:08.559I also left my number just in case you need to talk to me about anything.
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00:14:19.120I paid for the room for a month, and we've really been getting to know each other uh each each other better, so so much icon that we're spending a lot of time together.
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00:14:22.399She's a really good she's a really good woman.
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00:14:29.759She doesn't ask for much, she's been really earning her keep, she works at the hotel where she sleeps, earns a decent salary, not much, but it's something for her.
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00:14:33.759But at times I can see that she really misses her son, and her eating X is just the worst.
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00:14:40.399He asked her for money for the son the other day because he doesn't work, still just odds and end jobs.
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00:14:44.799I had a surprise for her, but didn't want to lose her.
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00:14:49.840But I understand that I couldn't be selfish because I would hope someone would do this for me.
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00:14:57.919I surprised Sam with dinner at the restaurant where I bought her food from, and I told her that we was going that I was going to pay for her to go back to see her son.
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00:15:00.799Her eyes filled with tears of happiness and joy.
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00:15:03.120She jumped into my arms and didn't let me go.
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00:15:07.679She said that she was forever deader to me, and I said, No, no, never that.
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00:15:10.080And then she asked me to come with her icon.
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00:15:12.879I was completely shocked but happy at the same time.
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00:15:14.960I asked her, Are you sure?
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00:15:22.879She said yes, you have been there for me, and I said she and she said that she has developed feelings for me and my heart just overflow with emotion.
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00:15:26.240So we've set a date for October the 16th.
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00:15:38.399I'm excited I'm excited, Sam really has worn up to me, and I'm really enjoying her company, but I hope that this can develop into something more, but if not I understand, but for now I will just enjoy the moment and be grateful.
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00:15:43.600Icon, please share with me your thoughts, good and bad, because I will update you after the trip.
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00:15:44.960Pray for me and Sam.
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00:15:46.399Thank you, sign Jeffrey.
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00:15:49.120Well Mr.
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00:15:50.720Jeffrey, Mr.
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00:15:59.600Jeffrey, I think I think what you're doing is not only admirable, but honorable.
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00:16:04.799Because there's a lot of men out here that wouldn't do what you're doing without a price, if you know what I mean.
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00:16:12.480And that price usually tends to sexual favors or any sexual things any male deviant can think of.
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00:16:14.240Now I'm not made that way.
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00:16:20.000So if I see somebody in need, man or woman, I will try to help you out with the best way that I can.
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00:16:23.440I'm not rich, I'm not poor, but I'm somewhere in between.
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00:16:30.000So I think what you're doing is it's it's very it's very admirable, it's very honorable.
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00:16:39.200And you have been through it, you were with a woman for 10 years, and that she decided to call it quits.
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00:16:42.080It's gonna be her loss, not yours.
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00:16:47.120Because I don't know how to say this, but I'm gonna say this respectfully.
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00:16:53.120Anytime we we have a good thing going, why would we ruin a good thing to go to something something that's bad?
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00:17:05.039Now I don't know the the the young man that's getting out of prison, I don't know what he's in for, you don't know what he's in for, but I hope that it's something like, well, I don't even sure how much time he spent in prison, but whatever.
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00:17:12.480In any event, I think that what is happening is that when one door closes, another one's gonna open for you.
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00:17:15.200So the hardest lesson.
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00:17:18.240Oh crap.
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00:17:30.640The hardest lesson that we must learn is that when somebody leaves us and we feel like we're doing something wrong, generally it's not it's not you, it's probably them.
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00:17:42.240Now, you sound like you're a good provider of your family, you have two kids um who are currently in therapy, and that you don't want to harvest any resentment towards your ex.
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00:17:46.799And that's good, that's admirable because there's a lot of men that wouldn't do that, a lot of women wouldn't do that.
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00:17:49.759Once those feelings are there, they're gonna they're not gonna stay there.
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00:18:03.359But you're showing your kids and this young lady that there's a whole different way, and that's good, you know, because we can't be afraid when somebody breaks our heart, we can't be afraid to go back out there and try it all over again.
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00:18:17.519Yes, I know it's hard, I know it's difficult, I know we want to sit and be bitter and be angry that that person's left because we thought we were gonna be with that person for forever, and we love that person, we provided for that person, and sometimes it's not always like that.
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00:18:22.480I don't know why your ex got bored with you or whatever, or if she got bored with you.
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00:18:26.000I don't know, we don't know that, and I probably we probably won't ever know.
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00:18:30.400But like you said, you wish her well and that you wish her the best in life.
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00:18:31.680And I'm wishing the same thing.
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00:18:41.359I hope nothing bad comes of this situation because she decided that she wanted to date a guy from jail on pinpoul.com, which I was unheard of until now.
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00:18:44.799I mean I've heard of Pinfoul.com, but I didn't think it was like related to jail.
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00:18:59.759But you know, they got this thing now, it's this site that you can like these inmates post like videos of themselves, and if you want to chat with them, you gotta like pay for some credit, and then you can like talk to them, and then they can send you a message back.
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00:19:02.480I thought that's the most weirdest shit ever.
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00:19:06.319And then these people actually tell you what they're in for, which I found was kind of odd.
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00:19:11.279And I'm like, and then they tell you, like, well, I'm getting out in like 15 years, so if you want to wait for me, wait for me.
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00:19:12.480I'm like, damn, really, what the hell?
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00:19:13.27915 years?
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00:19:19.839It's who's gonna be crazy enough to wait 15 years for you on a damn video phone call.
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00:19:24.480It's weird, it's damn weird, but whatever, you know, whatever works for them, it works for them.
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00:19:34.240I didn't think they can have phones in prison, but apparently that's a whole lie because there's a guy on Instagram who broadcasts from prison, which I'm I'm thinking it's a prison, or maybe it is, maybe it isn't.
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00:19:36.480But whatever, you know what, anything's possible.
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00:19:39.200But let me not let me get back on point here.
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00:19:45.920I think that you found somebody, and I think you're not trying to rush into things, and that's good.
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00:19:54.880That's good because you don't want this to seem like a rebound thing, you want to take things slow, you want to go in the direction that's beneficial for you and Miss Sam, and that's good.
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00:19:59.920And when you do that, you know the chips fall where they're gonna fall.
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00:20:05.200So if you guys have developed feelings for each other, that's a good thing.
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00:20:17.200And your kids seem to be pretty understanding, so I think they're gonna understand that when the time is right, and you decide to introduce um Sam to your kids, I think it's gonna go well for you.
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00:20:20.799Now, you sound like you're a put-together guy.
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00:20:27.680Um, you work, you work hard, you provide well for your family, as well as many other people do, and there's nothing wrong with that.
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00:20:30.799Like you said, you're not rich, you're not a stock, you're probably someone like me.
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00:20:33.119You're not rich, you're not poor, but you're somewhere in between.
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00:20:33.920And that's good.
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00:20:35.440There's nothing wrong with that.
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00:20:50.480So I think what you're doing is a good thing, and if you can find love in someone that you just met, that you know, clearly, clearly is a diamond in the rough because this is unheard of.
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00:20:51.920I've never really heard of this before.
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00:21:05.519I mean, I see this shit on TV where you know, you find a homeless girl, you know, you turn into like a pretty woman or something, and something like that, but never what I thought uh that you could find love in somebody that's you know homeless.
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00:21:07.200I mean, I don't know.
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00:21:11.119I just never I guess I never really tried it that way or whatever.
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00:21:21.519I mean, don't get me wrong, I've seen a lot of people on the street that's homeless, and I thought to myself, maybe there's a chance, but then when I'm thinking, like, okay, is there really a chance or is it just me being desperate?
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00:21:25.440Yeah, I think it's just me being desperate, and that's a bad thing for me.
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00:21:32.960But I'm not talking about desperation as in you know affection, not for sex or anything like that, but don't get it twisted, y'all.
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00:21:36.079But I'm just thinking, like, could this be something good for me?
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00:21:37.759But I've never really took that chance.
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00:21:39.920I mean, you took here's here you are.
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00:21:46.480You saw a young lady, you offered her by her dinner or lunch or whatever, and you bought it for her, you sat with her, and you ate with her.
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00:21:52.000To her, is it's her dude went back to Michigan and left her there in Arizona.
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00:21:57.359This was probably the first best interaction that she's had with the male in a very long time.
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00:21:59.519And there's nothing wrong with that, you know.
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00:22:03.279I think the hardest part was for her is she didn't know where you were going.
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00:22:28.960So she felt that she wanted to stay outside in the open and not you know thinking that you were like all the other rests because I'm pretty sure she's been through or she's probably had some some scary some scary instances where these guys come up to her and this that another, but you know you gotta you gotta understand she's just trying to protect herself, but you did the right thing, you didn't force anything on her, you didn't force, you didn't do anything wrong, or nothing like that.
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00:22:33.359That's why I can't understand why you're talking about what you did wrong in your first in your first marriage.
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00:22:36.400Listen, if marriage is gonna work, it's gonna work.
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00:22:43.680Like I said, when a person leaves in a relationship, sometimes it is not you, it's them.
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00:22:49.759You'll know if it's you because you have to take a step back and look in the mirror, which I'm pretty sure you've already done that.
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00:22:56.480I'm pretty sure you st you stuck it, you you look back, and you was like, hmm, was it me or is it her?
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00:22:57.680Huh.
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00:23:05.039But you came to the conclusion that, and with the help of therapy, that it probably wasn't you, you know.
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00:23:08.720I used to blame myself for my wife's passing.
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00:23:10.720You know, nobody knows this.
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00:23:19.039Um, I sought therapy for it, and I thought, well, if I could have been here and not gone to work, then I probably could have saved her.
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00:23:29.519But when she got to the hospital, either way or go was bound to happen, you know, and I took it hard, my kids took it hard, and we were all uh doing therapy.
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00:23:46.799And it was just recently until my twins got done with therapy, and everybody seems to be a little bit okay, but you know, we have moments every now and then where we sit and reflect and we think about the woman that created this family, you know, because I never would have thought it would have been like this way.
00:23:46.960 -->
00:23:49.039I never would have thought it would have ended up like this.
00:23:49.200 -->
00:23:53.359I never would have thought that I would be alone, well, not technically alone, but be without her.
00:23:53.440 -->
00:23:55.440I thought we were gonna be married for forever.
00:23:55.680 -->
00:24:00.720I mean, we met in high school, we fell in love in high school, we had our kids, we had all six of our beautiful kids.
00:24:00.880 -->
00:24:06.400I mean, we had a good life together, you know, and there were some bad things in there, but you know what, that's what a relationship is.
00:24:06.559 -->
00:24:09.039A relationship can be either good or bad.
00:24:09.359 -->
00:24:13.599But when you take the good, if the good outweighs the bad, then you got a good relationship.
00:24:13.759 -->
00:24:16.880If the bad outweighs the good, then you got some work to do.
00:24:17.039 -->
00:24:19.519Uh, clearly, you guys probably shouldn't even really be together.
00:24:19.680 -->
00:24:20.640I'm just saying.
00:24:20.880 -->
00:24:30.799In any event, I think that what you're doing is not only commendable, but again, it's admirable and it's honorable.
00:24:30.960 -->
00:24:34.240Because again, you don't see men like this who would take that kind of risk.
00:24:34.319 -->
00:24:43.839Because most men like this would probably take her and probably try to do some stupid things with her, or try to say, well, you know, try to let the streets take over or whatever.
00:24:44.079 -->
00:24:48.720But you didn't do that, you saw a young woman in need, and you're helping this young woman.
00:24:49.039 -->
00:25:02.880Now, when you get back to Michigan, um, the only thing I will caution you on is if she's telling you everything about her ex, um, don't go looking for a fight.
00:25:03.359 -->
00:25:06.960If I was you, I would play it like this.
00:25:07.279 -->
00:25:13.359I would tell Miss Sam, listen, I'm gonna drive you up to your to your dude's house or your ex's house.
00:25:13.599 -->
00:25:16.000If he's agreeing to let you get the sun, you can get the sun.
00:25:16.079 -->
00:25:27.039I will wait for you in the car, and you can I mean you can pretend like you're an Uber driver or a lift driver, so that way he won't get the wrong impression, even though he's already at somebody, or if he's that way, I'm not really sure.
00:25:27.279 -->
00:25:30.160In any event, you don't want no beef.
00:25:30.319 -->
00:25:36.960That's not how we want to do things here because you're putting yourself in a situation already because you're going back there with her.
00:25:37.039 -->
00:25:46.799Now, I'm not saying it's a bad situation, because I think the situation can be good, and I think that Sam wants you there for protection, and that she wants to make sure everything goes okay.
00:25:46.960 -->
00:25:57.839That is my understanding of it because I think he's a harmless fly, I just think he's an idiot, and that's a guy that mooches off women that he can't hold his own down, so he's got to have women to help him try to hold it down.
00:25:58.400 -->
00:26:00.319So that's just my opinion.
00:26:00.559 -->
00:26:12.319I mean, look, listen, any man that can't provide for his woman, and that just gets odds and end jobs, and this is what I mean by odds and end jobs.
00:26:12.559 -->
00:26:27.119I mean by odds and end jobs, I mean by jobs that you know you're working here one day, and then two days later you quit, and then you gotta go find another job two or three weeks later, and then you start that job, you work about one or two more weeks, and then you quit.
00:26:27.279 -->
00:26:29.680That's not stability, that's just stupidity.
00:26:29.920 -->
00:26:33.200And I'm pretty sure the reason why you're quitting is probably just dumb.
00:26:33.359 -->
00:26:40.640Maybe that you're lazy, maybe that you just don't want to work, or maybe you just think you have women that could just take care of you because you got it like that.
00:26:40.720 -->
00:26:43.599Whatever the case may be, that doesn't fly in my book.
00:26:43.759 -->
00:26:44.720It doesn't.
00:26:45.039 -->
00:26:50.960I think that a man should provide for his family and provide for his woman at any given time.
00:26:51.119 -->
00:26:53.920And I'm not saying no shade on the women to say, well, why?
00:26:54.000 -->
00:26:55.920But you can't think of a woman can provide for a man.
00:26:56.000 -->
00:26:59.839Yes, you can, but I feel a lot better if it's equal.
00:27:00.000 -->
00:27:03.680And if you don't want it equal, if that's the life that you want, then that's the life that you want.
00:27:04.160 -->
00:27:04.400Mr.
00:27:04.559 -->
00:27:07.680Jeffrey, I'm not saying you're like that, I'm just trying to laying it out there.
00:27:08.559 -->
00:27:12.720Because I think her dude, I don't really think it's gonna cause an issue.
00:27:12.880 -->
00:27:16.799Uh, because of what I can gather, he's just some low-life bum.
00:27:17.440 -->
00:27:21.279You know, he's just a guy that's just like booches off women, you know.
00:27:21.440 -->
00:27:22.720We've all seen those types.
00:27:22.880 -->
00:27:26.880You know, we've seen the types that the man takes care of the woman, just trying to keep him happy.
00:27:27.039 -->
00:27:29.200Well, he went back to his ex and he had a baby.
00:27:29.359 -->
00:27:32.160I don't know what that happens, is even what that's even about.
00:27:32.319 -->
00:27:40.720I don't really want to know where they want to l where they live because I can got a picture in my head where it's pretty much not gonna be the best explanation that I can come up with.
00:27:41.279 -->
00:27:45.920So, and I'm not gonna say that because this is gonna put other people in that stereotype, so I'm not gonna even go there.
00:27:46.160 -->
00:27:56.559In any event, I'm thinking that you hang back, you stay in the car, uh, she goes and gets her son, they talk and her hash it out or whatever.
00:27:56.799 -->
00:27:59.920Um, I really would like an update from you to know how this went.
00:28:00.000 -->
00:28:01.599If it went well, then it went well.
00:28:01.839 -->
00:28:06.640Your trip is on October the 16th, I believe, is what you said in the letter.
00:28:08.960 -->
00:28:12.319Uh that's on that's that's on a Friday.
00:28:12.480 -->
00:28:15.440So, and I hope that you go and have a good time.
00:28:15.519 -->
00:28:16.880I hope that everything goes well.
00:28:17.039 -->
00:28:19.039I hope everything goes according to plan.
00:28:19.759 -->
00:28:26.079So, I don't think that you want any trouble with her, with her ex or with her, with the child's father.
00:28:26.240 -->
00:28:29.920I just think you want to go there and be supporter, be that support system for her.
00:28:30.160 -->
00:28:34.640You know, show her that a man can be you, and that is you, Mr.
00:28:34.720 -->
00:28:35.119Jeffrey.
00:28:35.279 -->
00:28:40.240Show her that a man can be mature enough just to go there, have her back, support her.
00:28:41.279 -->
00:28:56.240So, my guess is that there's no custody agreement, so they have joint custody, and if she's going back, she's probably gonna want to file uh custody, um, so she can bring the kid, or I don't know where she's gonna.
00:28:56.319 -->
00:28:57.759Well, she says she's from Michigan.
00:28:57.920 -->
00:28:59.440I think they're from Michigan.
00:28:59.680 -->
00:29:01.599Okay, so they may be from Michigan.
00:29:01.759 -->
00:29:03.759So I mean she said she didn't really have any.
00:29:04.240 -->
00:29:05.359Did she say she had family?
00:29:05.440 -->
00:29:06.319I don't know.
00:29:09.440 -->
00:29:12.240Her son is the only family that she has, okay.
00:29:13.440 -->
00:29:21.680Okay, so her son is the only family that you have, so she may be an only child, or she just may her family just may not be around, or they may be in better places.
00:29:21.839 -->
00:29:31.440So that's just something you gotta get to know her on because I would try to find out as much information as you guys didn't say if you were driving or if you're flying.
00:29:31.519 -->
00:29:34.160I hope that you're flying, because if you're flying, that's even cheaper.
00:29:34.240 -->
00:29:42.640You know, I gotta say flying is like the best thing ever because you know you get there at the record time, you know, you in the sky, you know, ain't no stoplights, ain't no traffic.
00:29:42.720 -->
00:29:46.319You know, I'm just saying, I'm just saying, let me get back on point.
00:29:46.480 -->
00:30:10.880I'm just saying, so I'm thinking, even if you guys fly, kind of ease yourself into the conversation, kind of get to know a little bit more about her than what you already know, and you're not trying to, you know, pry into her life, but you want to know what happened to her family, you know, if there's family that she has or that she doesn't have, or she's an orphan or only child or whatever.
00:30:10.960 -->
00:30:16.319I don't mean to say orphan, but she could be a product of the system, which is not bad, nothing's wrong with that.
00:30:16.559 -->
00:30:24.160She just could be alone in this world, and you know, she might need a good support system, and then that support system is where you come in at.
00:30:24.319 -->
00:30:33.680But don't try to go too hard on her, don't try to press her for information um that she may be willing or maybe not be willing to share that may make her uncomfortable.
00:30:33.920 -->
00:30:41.440Because if you're already reading her body language and you can tell that things that make her uncomfortable, I mean ask about her family, you know, you never know.
00:30:41.599 -->
00:30:46.480So it could be a rough patch for her, it could be uh, I don't know.
00:30:47.200 -->
00:30:52.079But in any event, it could be something good for her, it could be something bad for her.
00:30:52.319 -->
00:31:06.799So I'm thinking that it's gonna be good for her because she's got a good person by her side who has been just amazing, and you didn't say that she and you say she's been working at this hotel, and she's so she's saving up some money.
00:31:07.119 -->
00:31:11.839So I don't know what your plans is when you guys go up to Michigan.
00:31:11.920 -->
00:31:18.720I don't know if you're gonna come back or she's gonna come back with you, or you know, maybe start a life in Arizona with you.
00:31:18.960 -->
00:31:19.920Who knows?
00:31:20.240 -->
00:31:22.559I am really hoping the best for you, sir.
00:31:22.640 -->
00:31:23.279I really am.
00:31:23.440 -->
00:31:33.599I hope that this this new relationship puts a new new release on life, and know that just because it ended doesn't necessarily mean it's your it's your fault.
00:31:33.759 -->
00:31:43.599I just hope you get a new outlook on life and a new outlook on love because again, I know that sometimes when we feel like a person is wrong as we think we're never gonna get back up there and find love.
00:31:43.680 -->
00:31:49.039So we gotta go out there, we gotta make try to make the world angry because we're angry, and there's no need to be angry.
00:31:49.200 -->
00:31:54.079You know, what's the point of being angry at somebody when they're gonna go on and live their life?
00:31:54.240 -->
00:31:56.960So, why would you want to keep yourself down and be angry about it?
00:31:57.039 -->
00:31:58.319There's no point of doing that.
00:31:58.640 -->
00:32:05.200So, in any event, it's going to be okay.
00:32:05.519 -->
00:32:19.519I think that, like I said, when you guys go there, if she you guys really should talk about this, how what role that you're gonna play when when he when you get there, you know.
00:32:19.759 -->
00:32:21.920But I think I you should go with the Uber thing, you know.
00:32:22.000 -->
00:32:26.880I'm just saying, I don't know if y'all gonna have a car or whatever, or if y'all gonna take a car there, but you know, whatever.
00:32:27.119 -->
00:32:29.279In any event, I would try to play that role.
00:32:29.519 -->
00:32:36.240And if he asks, who's this, then if she wants to introduce you as her friend or boyfriend, hey, roll with it.
00:32:36.480 -->
00:32:38.240I don't think nothing's gonna become of this.
00:32:38.319 -->
00:32:40.640I don't think it's gonna not gonna be a fight or anything like that.
00:32:40.799 -->
00:32:47.759I think it's just him gonna be jealous because he's seen he's finally seen what a man looks like and what a man does and how a man treats a woman.
00:32:48.000 -->
00:32:55.759You don't leave your child's mother in Arizona and you want to go back to Michigan and try to shack it out and hash out with your ex and then have a baby by your ex.
00:32:55.920 -->
00:32:57.359I don't even know what the hell that's about.
00:32:57.519 -->
00:32:58.720That's stupidity.
00:32:58.960 -->
00:33:00.720I would never do something that low.
00:33:00.880 -->
00:33:03.279Never, never do something that low.
00:33:03.519 -->
00:33:16.079You know, so I understand, but if you go, like I said, you guys should establish this beforehand, before you leave out on the 16, establish this beforehand.
00:33:16.400 -->
00:33:18.559Say, hey, this is what I'm gonna do.
00:33:18.799 -->
00:33:22.799If you know, if you're more comfortable with it, if you want to go by yourself, that's fine.
00:33:22.960 -->
00:33:24.880If not, I can be this to support you.
00:33:25.119 -->
00:33:27.039I'm gonna guess you guys are gonna rent a car.
00:33:27.200 -->
00:33:35.039I think you guys are gonna rent a car because if something were to go completely wrong, and what I mean by completely wrong, you know, an argument breaks out or whatever, you guys want to get the hell out of here.
00:33:35.119 -->
00:33:37.440I'm not talking about fighting or shooting or nothing like that.
00:33:37.599 -->
00:33:50.640You know, an argument can ensue while she's going to pick up her son, and then he could probably try to want to throw hands or whatever, but I don't think nobody wants that because especially if there's kids involved, I wouldn't want that for none of you guys.
00:33:50.880 -->
00:33:54.160So I hope that when you go there, you go there with a clear level head.
00:33:54.480 -->
00:33:56.720And Jeffrey, you sound like a good man, you sound like a really good dude.
00:33:56.799 -->
00:33:58.160You're 40 years old.
00:33:58.400 -->
00:34:01.279Um, Samantha's 34.
00:34:01.599 -->
00:34:04.960So I think that you're on the right track.
00:34:05.039 -->
00:34:10.559I don't think that you're gonna try to put yourself in anybody's harm's way or try to even put Sam in harm's way.
00:34:10.880 -->
00:34:13.519Listen, when these two talk, let them talk.
00:34:13.840 -->
00:34:26.159Because again, I know you mean well, and I know you're just now coming to the situation, but if you can offer some kind of relief or some kind of compromise, then I would suggest that.
00:34:26.400 -->
00:34:38.800But don't try to put in too much information of your own thoughts and try to turn the conversation back on you and say, Well, when me and my wife were together, this is what happened, because then it's gonna bring up old feelings, and he's gonna be like, Well, why did she leave you?
00:34:38.880 -->
00:34:39.840Why are you with my girl?
00:34:40.079 -->
00:34:40.960Wait, your girl?
00:34:41.119 -->
00:34:42.159What do you mean, your girl?
00:34:42.239 -->
00:34:44.800No, I'm just joking, but you know what I'm trying to say.
00:34:45.119 -->
00:34:49.280So, I would just leave it at that.
00:34:49.440 -->
00:34:51.119You know, let these two talk.
00:34:51.280 -->
00:34:57.920If you want to offer, if she wants to ask you a question or offer some kind of guidance, offer a simple solution to a problem.
00:34:58.000 -->
00:35:00.639Let's not make this problem bigger than what it is.
00:35:00.880 -->
00:35:07.679Because again, you don't really have any claim to their son, as painful as that sounds.
00:35:07.840 -->
00:35:21.760It's true, you don't really have a claim, so they have to figure this out, and if they can figure it out with being two speaking mature, well, one mature speaking adult, meaning Sam, not the other guy, anyways.
00:35:21.920 -->
00:35:24.719But if they can figure this out like two adults, then they can figure it out.
00:35:24.880 -->
00:35:38.000If you want to offer a suggestion, offer suggestion, but let's not get the conversation lost and kind of turn it back on you because then it's gonna cause a whole kerfuffle, you guys are gonna go back and forth, and eventually, somebody's not gonna be happy.
00:35:38.159 -->
00:35:45.440I mean, I'm pretty sure that he knows that she's coming to see her boy or to get her son.
00:35:45.760 -->
00:36:00.079I'm pretty sure he knows that, but and I'm pretty sure she's gonna probably file for full custody, so and that's her right, because if he's not working, and who's taking care of this child?
00:36:00.239 -->
00:36:15.920It couldn't be his current baby mama, but he doesn't have anything to show for it, so and if you can prove to the courts that he doesn't keep a steady job or that he works odds and end jobs, then by all means do that.
00:36:17.199 -->
00:36:19.840So, but like I said, Mr.
00:36:20.000 -->
00:36:23.119Jeffrey, I think what you're doing is a good is a good thing.
00:36:23.199 -->
00:36:31.519She doesn't sound like the kind of person that's gonna take advantage of you, she sounds like somebody who generally wants just to be happy and just wants to get her life back on track.
00:36:31.760 -->
00:36:33.440Offer that support system for her.
00:36:33.519 -->
00:36:36.960If you want to be that support system, you guys need to sit down and talk about it.
00:36:37.119 -->
00:36:48.320Talk about you know the support, talk about the love that you have for each other, talk about how everything is going to be okay, you know, not talk about as if you're like a couple.
00:36:48.400 -->
00:37:00.639If she wants to take it there, and then I would say this let her do the asking about the relationship because I know you're not trying to force this quickly, I know you want to be in love, but make sure you keep the focus on her.
00:37:01.280 -->
00:37:07.760So ask her what she tends to do and how she plans to do it, and if you fit into that equation, that's a good thing.
00:37:07.920 -->
00:37:14.880If she says, Well, I just want to wait, I want to try to get myself established, and she wants to get herself her own place so her and her son can live.
00:37:15.039 -->
00:37:16.719Hey, you gotta respect it.
00:37:16.800 -->
00:37:20.320I'm pretty sure you will, but that doesn't mean you have to lose her.
00:37:20.639 -->
00:37:33.760Now, if you want to help her and she needs help along the way, then by all means, and the type of help I'm talking about is just you know, somebody that needs help with trying to find his housing or jobs or job placement or you know, stuff like that.
00:37:34.159 -->
00:37:37.119But you seem like a very patient man.
00:37:37.199 -->
00:37:39.119I would be patient for this one, I really would.
00:37:39.199 -->
00:37:44.079She really seems like a diamond in a row, really does, and that's a good thing.
00:37:44.400 -->
00:37:52.320So, like I said, I think that you're going to be a good support system for her.
00:37:52.480 -->
00:38:05.280I think in time, you guys too, you you two may either end up being together, or if you're not together, or whatever, but either way it goes, I know you don't want to lose her friendship and lose her trust.
00:38:05.599 -->
00:38:10.719Keep that same bond that you had for your wife.
00:38:11.119 -->
00:38:13.119I'm sorry, that didn't sound right.
00:38:14.239 -->
00:38:18.639Keep that same energy that you had for your ex-wife or this young lady.
00:38:18.960 -->
00:38:25.280Because love is love, and if you love her and she loves you, then I'm pretty sure it's gonna be meant to be.
00:38:25.440 -->
00:38:30.800And if not, then it's all good.
00:38:30.960 -->
00:38:33.920It's all good, but I think it's gonna be something more than this.
00:38:34.400 -->
00:38:43.119But your mind has to be stronger than your feelings.
00:38:44.239 -->
00:38:47.280So keep your mind intact.
00:38:47.519 -->
00:38:54.400Don't and I'm not saying you're forcing yourself on her, but just remember what she's coming through and what she's dealing with.
00:38:54.719 -->
00:39:03.920Because even though your situations are somewhat similar, but they're not really exactly similar, because she was left in Arizona homeless.
00:39:04.079 -->
00:39:09.119You, on the other hand, had a place to stay, and you still have two two kids.
00:39:09.360 -->
00:39:12.480So your wife just left you for a minute's in prison.
00:39:13.599 -->
00:39:23.679A positive attitude doesn't mean ignoring the struggle, it means face can head on with the courage, the faith, and the mindset that says, This won't break me, it will build me.
00:39:24.719 -->
00:39:26.960And I think that's what it's gonna do for both of you guys.
00:39:27.119 -->
00:39:28.239I think it really is.
00:39:28.480 -->
00:39:36.320So I think that you found somebody that is really good, I think you found somebody that is amazing, and I think you should hang on to that.
00:39:36.480 -->
00:39:45.280Now, again, I'm not saying you're gonna scare away, and I know you're not trying to do that, you're trying to do as respectful as a way as possible, but you gotta understand what she's working with.
00:39:46.000 -->
00:39:55.119She's trying to get herself together, she has a 10-year-old son that's trying to get custody from from her silly ex-boyfriend, ex-husband, or what it's gotta be an ex-boyfriend.
00:39:55.440 -->
00:39:58.320Um, so you gotta be patient with her.
00:39:58.719 -->
00:40:04.320So, and if she decides that she wants to go back to Arizona, hey, I wish you guys the best.
00:40:04.480 -->
00:40:06.559I really do, I really do.
00:40:06.880 -->
00:40:21.360So, I hope that this can be something good for you because you can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start wherever you change where you are and change the ending.
00:40:22.000 -->
00:40:24.320So, this can be a happy ending for both of you guys.
00:40:24.400 -->
00:40:25.599I really think it can be.
00:40:25.920 -->
00:40:40.639But like I said, when you guys are traveling up to Michigan, I think you guys should have that talk, you know, not a talk about relationship, but talk about where your role is and everything and how this is gonna play out, or how this is gonna fan out.
00:40:40.800 -->
00:40:50.719And like I said, if she tells you that this is what she wants, like, okay, let's just say hypothetically, she says, Well, I'm not looking for a relationship right now.
00:40:50.880 -->
00:40:53.679However, I want to I still want to remain friends with you.
00:40:53.920 -->
00:41:00.079If she says that to you, you can't be mad at her because look at what she's been through.
00:41:00.400 -->
00:41:03.280And will you be mad at her if she does say that to you?
00:41:04.159 -->
00:41:05.599Or will you be understanding?
00:41:05.760 -->
00:41:09.280Will you be the understanding guy that she has never come across?
00:41:09.760 -->
00:41:11.519I'd probably take option number two.
00:41:11.679 -->
00:41:13.679I'm gonna be the understanding guy.
00:41:14.719 -->
00:41:23.920So, and if she comes back and says, Well, listen, over these last weeks, months, we have really shared some good times together.
00:41:24.159 -->
00:41:30.559I want to get my son, I want to get my own place, and then I want to establish a relationship with you, and that's all you can ask for.
00:41:30.880 -->
00:41:34.400So you understand, Miss Jeffrey, she's coming from being homeless.
00:41:34.559 -->
00:41:36.559I don't know how long she was homeless, you don't know.
00:41:36.719 -->
00:41:42.400Well, if you do know, she you didn't put in the letter, but um I don't know how long she's been homeless.
00:41:42.480 -->
00:41:47.920I don't know if she's been living on the street or living in her car or living wherever she's living, but it's gotta be rough for her.
00:41:48.159 -->
00:41:51.519So she's a single female out in Arizona.
00:41:51.679 -->
00:41:58.320Thank God she's in Arizona and not some other uh place that's kind of rough because that's gonna be a lot a lot worse.
00:41:58.960 -->
00:42:03.119But she's had men try to take advantage of her because of her homeless status.
00:42:03.760 -->
00:42:04.159Why?
00:42:04.320 -->
00:42:04.880I have no idea.
00:42:04.960 -->
00:42:06.079I don't know why men are like that.
00:42:06.159 -->
00:42:14.400I don't I don't get it, and I can't apologize for every minute just saying sorry, but I do want to say I'm sorry to miss Sam because I don't think any woman should have to go through that.
00:42:14.719 -->
00:42:21.119I think there are just some men out there that are just downright evil.
00:42:22.400 -->
00:42:27.119But I think if if Sam hears this podcast, I think I'm gonna tell her this.
00:42:27.280 -->
00:42:28.800Sam, you found a good one.
00:42:29.280 -->
00:42:31.599What you choose to do with him is all up to you.
00:42:31.760 -->
00:42:35.920There's no pressure, there's no timeline, there's no nothing.
00:42:36.000 -->
00:42:37.519It's all on your decision.
00:42:37.679 -->
00:42:42.079But I know he's gonna stand by you and help you out the best way he possibly humanly can.
00:42:42.320 -->
00:42:45.280And when he does that, it's all gonna be up to you.
00:42:45.360 -->
00:42:50.239Now I'm not saying you reward him and do nothing like that, and I'm not saying that you're using him.
00:42:50.320 -->
00:43:00.719I'm just saying that, you know, he's gonna be somebody that's gonna be in your corner, sound like he's gonna stay in your corner, and there's nothing wrong with that.
00:43:01.039 -->
00:43:05.679So Cherish this day, cherish this moment, you know.
00:43:05.760 -->
00:43:20.639I'm just saying, life becomes beautiful when you learn to value yourself, and I think that's what you're both doing because even though hard times last forever, tough people don't.
00:43:21.280 -->
00:43:22.559I said it right.
00:43:23.039 -->
00:43:24.639Tough times last forever, tough people don't.
00:43:24.719 -->
00:43:25.199Yeah, they don't.
00:43:25.280 -->
00:43:27.280Okay, so Mr.
00:43:27.440 -->
00:43:35.920Jeffrey, you have found someone that is going to probably make you happy, and I wish the best for you.
00:43:36.000 -->
00:43:37.440I really do, I really do.
00:43:37.599 -->
00:43:41.599I hope that when you guys send me a follow up that you guys have better news to report.
00:43:41.679 -->
00:43:45.679I'm not saying this news isn't bad, but I wanted you know some positivity, you know.
00:43:45.760 -->
00:43:47.599But like I said, it's gonna be alright.
00:43:47.679 -->
00:43:49.119You guys are gonna be good.
00:43:49.440 -->
00:43:55.519I think that this relationship is the start of something very good, and I think you guys have a chance to be happy.
00:43:55.760 -->
00:43:58.000If you choose to be happy with each other, that's all good.
00:43:58.159 -->
00:43:59.599If not, that's still all good.
00:44:00.159 -->
00:44:03.840But as I said before, she's a diamond in the rough.
00:44:04.079 -->
00:44:05.840I probably wouldn't let this one go.
00:44:06.079 -->
00:44:12.960So, but I know that there's some things that Miss Sam has to work through in reference to getting her son and getting her ex.
00:44:13.119 -->
00:44:15.599I'm not sure what her ex wants or whatever.
00:44:16.159 -->
00:44:17.119I don't get it.
00:44:17.199 -->
00:44:24.559I mean, clearly, if if her ex is with his new baby mama, he really shouldn't want for anything.
00:44:24.719 -->
00:44:25.599I know he's got a son.
00:44:25.679 -->
00:44:27.519I don't know if you didn't say what the other child was.
00:44:27.599 -->
00:44:29.599I don't know if the other child was a boy or a girl.
00:44:29.760 -->
00:44:39.280But in any event, I think that um I think that her ex should just leave her alone.
00:44:39.440 -->
00:44:50.000If you guys are gonna remain, if you guys if he wants to remain the child's life, which I'm sure he does, hey, either get a custody order or try to figure out something, because clearly you're not gonna get nothing out of him anyways.
00:44:50.239 -->
00:44:57.440So my suggested thing is you probably shouldn't put him on child support that would force his ass to get a job and gonna be able to take care of his child.
00:44:57.599 -->
00:45:02.320Because I think if this is his first child with you and second with the baby mom.
00:45:02.400 -->
00:45:03.599Okay, yeah, okay, I got it.
00:45:03.760 -->
00:45:06.719So I would force his hand and make him get a job.
00:45:06.880 -->
00:45:10.239Because I know in some states, if you don't pay child support, they'll put your ass in jail.
00:45:10.400 -->
00:45:12.000They did that in Alabama, which I didn't.
00:45:12.159 -->
00:45:14.000That was like one of the first things I noticed.
00:45:14.239 -->
00:45:15.920I was like, hey, well, someone's going to jail for what?
00:45:16.000 -->
00:45:17.920For child support, really they do that?
00:45:18.559 -->
00:45:19.840Huh, that's interesting.
00:45:20.079 -->
00:45:20.800That kind of thing.
00:45:20.880 -->
00:45:21.840We for a loot.
00:45:22.239 -->
00:45:24.079But I know some states do that.
00:45:24.239 -->
00:45:31.440I'm not sure what the laws are in Michigan or in Arizona, but or where your child was conceived, but you know it is what it is.
00:45:31.679 -->
00:45:33.440So I hope that you're gonna be happy.
00:45:33.519 -->
00:45:36.800I hope that you're going to be positive about it.
00:45:36.880 -->
00:45:50.719I hope that everything is going to be alright, and that you two can find some kind of common ground with each other, and that you two can find love and happiness with each other within each other, and that you can find the trust and the love that you once had, Mr.
00:45:50.880 -->
00:45:51.760Jeffrey.
00:45:52.079 -->
00:45:54.159Um I wish the same for Sam.
00:45:54.239 -->
00:45:56.400I hope that she finds what she's looking for.
00:45:56.639 -->
00:45:57.679I hope that Mr.
00:45:57.760 -->
00:46:02.239Jeffrey, if you are the one for her, again, I don't think you're gonna screw this up.
00:46:02.400 -->
00:46:05.599I mean, I think you're a good provider, I think you're a great person.
00:46:05.760 -->
00:46:07.760Uh, just gathered from the letter that I read.
00:46:07.920 -->
00:46:14.239I mean, you clearly want the best for your ex-wife, which again is not unheard of.
00:46:14.320 -->
00:46:15.199It's it's okay.
00:46:15.360 -->
00:46:16.159It's okay.
00:46:16.320 -->
00:46:20.159Some people might think it's diabolical, but I don't, but I think it's okay.
00:46:20.400 -->
00:46:22.800But I we I wish even your ex-wife the best.
00:46:22.880 -->
00:46:31.199I hope nothing happens to her because she decided she wants to hook up on pinpoul.com and find love on pinfile.com, even though there's like a million one dating apps.
00:46:31.280 -->
00:46:32.480Why don't we have to go to this one?
00:46:32.559 -->
00:46:33.119I don't know.
00:46:33.280 -->
00:46:36.159Anyway, that's down point here.
00:46:39.039 -->
00:46:53.760Uh so in any event, sometimes the strongest women are the ones who love beyond all faults, cry behind closed doors, and fight battles that nobody knows about.
00:46:54.960 -->
00:46:56.800And let that sink in, Mr.
00:46:56.880 -->
00:47:00.480Jeffy, because that's what Sam is going through.
00:47:00.800 -->
00:47:05.280So again, don't force anything on her, talk to her, and just try to get understanding.
00:47:05.360 -->
00:47:07.519You just want to know as much you can know.
00:47:07.599 -->
00:47:11.920I mean, you're not it's not like you're asking for her and her ex status.
00:47:12.000 -->
00:47:21.360You just want to know if she's got parents or is she really alone in this world, or does she have anybody that you know just just for conversation?
00:47:21.599 -->
00:47:23.360So it's all good.
00:47:24.239 -->
00:47:26.719So as we get ready to close the show out.
00:47:27.360 -->
00:47:30.000Oh my goodness, I want to say thank you guys.
00:47:30.239 -->
00:47:34.800Thank you guys for keeping me going, keeping me listening, you know.
00:47:34.880 -->
00:47:41.760Y'all responding to me on the social media sites, you know, sending me these emails, and I still got a lot of emails to go through.
00:47:41.840 -->
00:47:51.360I got about oh, I want to say about maybe 15 to 20 letters to go through, which is not bad, that's pretty good for me, and I like that.
00:47:51.599 -->
00:47:56.559So, I mean, I'm not a really hot, I'm not really a hard broad podcaster, I just like doing this.
00:47:56.639 -->
00:48:04.079But I do appreciate the letters that you guys send me, and though I've gone through some and trying to figure out the best way that I can, you know, get them all out there.
00:48:04.159 -->
00:48:15.599I'm gonna get them out there, you know, some a little bit predated, because you know, I went to the Philippines and had a good time in the Philippines, so and I go there every August, just so y'all know, you know, have a good time, you know.
00:48:15.679 -->
00:48:21.039But and then when I get back, I gotta kind of get myself back on the grind again because I'm kind of slushing through.
00:48:21.119 -->
00:48:25.280Oh my god, when I got back, I was like so, so freaking jet lagged.
00:48:25.519 -->
00:48:30.239Jeez, I was like, oh my gosh, but the flight was nevertheless still good flight.
00:48:30.320 -->
00:48:32.800Traveled Philippines Airline, which I love.
00:48:33.039 -->
00:48:45.920Um, and that's what I told my mom because I don't really eat processed foods that much if I'm out and about, but I forgot the Philippines don't have processed food, everything they have is made from freaking scratch.
00:48:46.239 -->
00:48:50.000So I told my mom, I was like, you know, I'm gonna try this food.
00:48:50.320 -->
00:48:55.199And they had like a Philly cheesesteak sandwich, and it was good.
00:48:55.599 -->
00:49:00.480Um the dinner I had, it was like pork and uh was it pork and rice?
00:49:00.800 -->
00:49:02.719It might have been pork and rice.
00:49:02.960 -->
00:49:05.440Yeah, because they served us lunch and they showed us dinner.
00:49:05.599 -->
00:49:09.280I think for lunch it was more like chicken and rice.
00:49:09.519 -->
00:49:12.639And again, the Philippines don't have processed food.
00:49:12.800 -->
00:49:16.880All they should all their food is like real, it's a real deal, you know.
00:49:16.960 -->
00:49:21.679So I cracked it open, ate the rice, had the fish, and then the chicken.
00:49:21.760 -->
00:49:25.920No, no, no, I don't think I think it was I don't know, it might have been fish, might have been chicken, whatever.
00:49:26.079 -->
00:49:27.280Anyways, it was good.
00:49:27.440 -->
00:49:28.320That was the first meal.
00:49:28.400 -->
00:49:35.679The second meal came around, which was dinner time, so I had this um pork and rice, and again, the rice is always on point.
00:49:35.840 -->
00:49:46.400God, I love rice, and I only started loving rice because I went to the Philippines, and my girl um told me about the rice, so I've been eating jasmine rice ever since.
00:49:46.719 -->
00:49:48.719But it was good.
00:49:49.199 -->
00:49:56.480Um now I am gonna try to do something different than I didn't do the last three times I went to the Philippines.
00:49:56.639 -->
00:49:58.719That's gonna try to upgrade my flight to first class.
00:49:58.800 -->
00:50:01.360I know I ain't gonna have the money, but damn it, somebody gonna help me out.
00:50:01.599 -->
00:50:05.840Might start to go fun me or you know, fake slip or fall injury at the store.
00:50:05.920 -->
00:50:06.880No, I'm just joking.
00:50:08.239 -->
00:50:10.079I'm just joking, I ain't gonna do that.
00:50:10.320 -->
00:50:11.519But it's all good.
00:50:11.679 -->
00:50:14.000So in any event, it was a good trip.
00:50:14.159 -->
00:50:16.239Uh rained the whole time I was there.
00:50:16.480 -->
00:50:20.719Um the place where I stayed was really nice, top tier, top notch.
00:50:21.039 -->
00:50:24.159But I gotta say, they're all it feels like they're all the damn same.
00:50:24.400 -->
00:50:26.639I mean, because the last places I stayed were all the same.
00:50:26.719 -->
00:50:29.760They're all they're built the same, but they're they're modified differently.
00:50:29.920 -->
00:50:37.920So the one I stayed in was a little bit more upbeat and up tempo, up uh the decorations were up to beat, the TV, they had a surround sound system.
00:50:38.239 -->
00:50:40.960Um, there was no roaches in this one, thank god.
00:50:41.199 -->
00:50:43.280Um, but it was good, it was still good.
00:50:43.519 -->
00:50:50.000So, in any event, it was a good trip, and I plan on going back again next year.
00:50:50.480 -->
00:50:59.519So, as I get ready to close it out, oh gosh, I just want to say thank you guys, thank you, thank you, thank you.
00:51:01.360 -->
00:51:14.079Um As I go, I just want to say thank you.
00:51:14.800 -->
00:51:16.639No, I'm just trying to find something else to say.
00:51:17.119 -->
00:51:18.639No, but again, thank you.
00:51:18.880 -->
00:51:21.440So the show was called Let's Talk About It.
00:51:21.599 -->
00:51:22.480I Am The Icon.
00:51:22.559 -->
00:51:26.559If you guys have any complaints, concerns, gripes, comments.
00:51:26.719 -->
00:51:31.519Listen, my phone number is a texting line on the bus on the bus route side.
00:51:31.599 -->
00:51:33.679You guys can feel free to text that line anytime.
00:51:33.920 -->
00:51:42.079Um, and you know, questions, concerns, comments about the show, d6empire357 at gmail.com.
00:51:42.239 -->
00:51:47.039Uh, you can follow me on all my social medias, TikTok, Facebook, Insta.
00:51:47.119 -->
00:51:50.719I don't have snap because I don't want snap, but yeah.
00:51:51.119 -->
00:51:53.599So I'm gonna leave y'all with this track.
00:51:53.840 -->
00:51:58.880It's called Throne by Blue Steel, one of my favorite artists.
00:51:59.039 -->
00:52:05.119So I'm gonna let y'all drove out with this, and until next time, until we see you again, y'all take care of yourself and each other.
