SOBRE ESTE EPISÓDIO
"Just have fun — because if we don't have fun, what's the point?" — Dr. Anna Elton
Desire doesn't retire. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Anna Elton — licensed marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist, and author of the new book The Formula of Desire: What Brings Us Together and Drives Us Apart and the Science of Connection — for a frank, warm, and surprisingly practical conversation about connection, intimacy, and desire after 60. Dr. Elton works with couples in their 60s, 70s, and even early 80s, and she brought her best tools for us.
Links:
The Formula of Desire by Dr. Anna Elton → HERE
Learn more about Dr. Anna Elton → HERE
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why retirement and an empty nest can quietly redirect your desire — and how to point it back where you want it
A ridiculously fun "A through Z" exercise that couples in their late 70s are using to feel like they're dating again
The exact number of seconds a hug (or a kiss!) needs to last to trigger your brain's bonding hormone
How to escape "roommate syndrome" when you're suddenly together 24 hours a day
A gentle, shame-free way to start conversations about intimacy — even if you've avoided them for decades (hint: it involves a drawer)
The "credit score" for your relationship that took one couple five minutes to complete — and four hours to talk about
What Dr. Elton tells women who feel guilty about wanting companionship again after loss
Plus, Dr. Elton's top three takeaways — including the one thing that disappears first in long-term relationships and how to bring it back this week.
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