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[SPEAKER_00]: But because unconsciousness is numbing, and I think that we all do this, me included, which is why small interruptions matter.
00:21.362 --> 00:29.567
[SPEAKER_00]: Not dramatic life overhauls necessarily, just interruptions, because sometimes you don't need a scape, you need disruption, tiny novelty, and nervous system reset.
00:29.948 --> 00:33.470
[SPEAKER_00]: Different inputs that could be taking a different route home, right?
00:33.830 --> 00:43.456
[SPEAKER_00]: Working from a coffee shop, going on a walk without your phone, playing music while making dinner, or wearing something you actually enjoy instead of your emotional, support goblin uniform.
00:43.756 --> 00:48.098
[SPEAKER_00]: Reading outside, lighting candles, taking yourself somewhere beautiful, locally, right?
00:48.419 --> 00:59.165
[SPEAKER_00]: Trying to know restaurant, that's fun, watching sunset intentionally, changing the layout of your space even, buying fresh fruit, your, irrationally excited about the tiny things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, hello my dear friends young me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My name is Rickel and welcome to your own magic a podcast for the creative and the curious soul And I am still traveling at this point.
01:14.937 --> 01:25.563
[SPEAKER_00]: This is a prerecorded episode and This is just something that came to mind that I felt like talking about because as I travel I know that I'm likely in this base where oh
01:26.784 --> 01:33.408
[SPEAKER_00]: It does something interesting to me, like, not just because it's fun, obviously, and not just because beautiful places are beautiful.
01:33.808 --> 01:35.409
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, islands, I mean, I'm a mountain girl.
01:35.429 --> 01:36.890
[SPEAKER_00]: I live in the mountains in Perks, for Utah.
01:37.251 --> 01:41.893
[SPEAKER_00]: It's so nice and refreshing to be by the ocean, because I also love the ocean.
01:41.933 --> 01:48.117
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, who doesn't, but because travel has this weird way of making life feel vivid, right?
01:48.157 --> 01:49.138
[SPEAKER_00]: You notice things more.
01:49.338 --> 01:50.239
[SPEAKER_00]: Food tastes better.
01:50.579 --> 01:52.220
[SPEAKER_00]: Coffee somehow tastes more.
01:53.020 --> 02:00.385
[SPEAKER_00]: poetic, and makes me want to get into this creative space, or the air feels different to your thoughts feel different.
02:00.906 --> 02:06.369
[SPEAKER_00]: You suddenly want to journal and reinvent your life and become the kind of person who wears linen every day.
02:07.310 --> 02:20.239
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you come home and it's like, cool, look at all this laundry and dishes, responsibilities, and same grocery store, and errands, and emails, and suddenly normal life can just feel aggressively unsanomatic as
02:21.882 --> 02:28.284
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I've been thinking a lot about that lately because what if the thing we love about travel isn't actually the destination?
02:29.044 --> 02:33.346
[SPEAKER_00]: What if part of what we're craving is novelty, right?
02:33.946 --> 02:40.988
[SPEAKER_00]: Presence, beauty, yeah, space, mm-hmm, permission to slow down, yep.
02:41.688 --> 02:42.349
[SPEAKER_00]: Aliveness?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely.
02:44.570 --> 02:48.833
[SPEAKER_00]: And what if some of that doesn't actually have to stay attached to vacation?
02:48.873 --> 02:54.717
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I think sometimes we accidentally build a dynamic where life feels alive somewhere else.
02:55.518 --> 02:56.999
[SPEAKER_00]: But do it home, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't love that.
02:58.920 --> 03:02.523
[SPEAKER_00]: Because while yes, travel can absolutely be magical.
03:03.163 --> 03:07.827
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think we should have to constantly escape our lives to feel connected to them.
03:08.507 --> 03:14.168
[SPEAKER_00]: So today I want to talk about how to romanticize your life without pretending everything is perfect, okay?
03:14.248 --> 03:19.949
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to feel present somewhere unfamiliar?
03:20.609 --> 03:31.871
[SPEAKER_00]: The new city, the different smells, the cute cafe, the ocean breeze, the walkable streets, different music, different language, different pace, and suddenly you're fully in your senses.
03:32.472 --> 03:33.612
[SPEAKER_00]: And I mean while I'm home.
03:35.072 --> 03:46.786
[SPEAKER_00]: You try the same roads and barely register them because you're on autopilot, you make coffee while mentally already answering all the emails, you eat while scrolling, you move through your day without actually being in it.
03:47.446 --> 03:51.671
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that's important because maybe life didn't become magical invocation.
03:52.552 --> 03:54.113
[SPEAKER_00]: maybe you became present.
03:54.913 --> 04:03.496
[SPEAKER_00]: That's different and honestly that's empowering because if presence is part of magic that means some of the magic is actually accessible.
04:03.936 --> 04:07.837
[SPEAKER_01]: One thing psychology talks about a lot is how our brain's filter familiar information.
04:08.117 --> 04:09.177
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is actually efficient.
04:09.278 --> 04:14.100
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're brain, deeply analyze every tiny thing all day long, you'd be exhausted.
04:14.840 --> 04:23.764
[SPEAKER_00]: So it learns, okay, safe, known familiar cool, not urgent, filtered out, whatever, which means familiarity can accidentally just become in disability because you're not a pilot.
04:24.424 --> 04:31.826
[SPEAKER_00]: your own life becomes background noise, your own home becomes invisible, your own routines become unconscious, and the novelty of course interrupts that.
04:31.986 --> 04:52.693
[SPEAKER_00]: Suddenly your brain wakes up and it notices and attention creates experience, and that's why travel can feel magical because attention returned, and I think that's a really useful reframe because if what we're craving is not just somewhere else, but attention, novelty, and presence, then maybe the question becomes, how do I bring more of that into my life?
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[SPEAKER_01]: and to my normal everyday routine.
04:55.238 --> 05:01.772
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, before we go any further, I want to make an important distinction because romanticizing your life will mine can become.
05:02.856 --> 05:14.100
[SPEAKER_00]: deeply on serious, like suddenly it means buying expensive candles and pretending you're in an indie film while ignoring your actual wool emotional reality, you know, that's not what I mean.
05:14.381 --> 05:17.082
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean participating in your life differently.
05:17.742 --> 05:22.544
[SPEAKER_00]: We're not doing any spiritual bypassing here with prettier lighting and we're not pretending your life is perfect.
05:22.624 --> 05:27.626
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, escaping your reality and bringing more intentionality to your reality.
05:27.846 --> 05:28.426
[SPEAKER_00]: That's mature.
05:28.816 --> 05:34.260
[SPEAKER_00]: It's grounded, because if your life genuinely needs change, romanticizing a lone won't fix that, okay?
05:34.600 --> 05:41.125
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're burnt out, deeply unhappy, you feel an unsupported, you're overstimulated, or maybe just connect it from yourself.
05:41.265 --> 05:43.767
[SPEAKER_00]: We meet deeper conversations then.
05:44.367 --> 05:44.987
[SPEAKER_00]: by flowers.
05:45.668 --> 05:50.830
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, though flowers are lovely of course, but if the issue is autopilot, its presence.
05:51.290 --> 05:53.871
[SPEAKER_00]: Presence can actually help absolutely.
05:54.432 --> 05:56.172
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe be in present with those flowers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How does that sound?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, I think autopilot is one of the biggest magic killers because daily life, yeah, can become so repetitive.
06:04.176 --> 06:08.178
[SPEAKER_00]: We wake up, we get the film, we get the coffee, we take the dogs out, we work, we
06:08.738 --> 06:16.666
[SPEAKER_00]: Answer e-mails run errands, then there's dinner, there's scroll, there's sleep, we repeat this, and before I know it, the weak splur, months spluried in.
06:17.026 --> 06:20.990
[SPEAKER_00]: And nothing is technically wrong, but life starts feeling kind of flat.
06:21.630 --> 06:27.175
[SPEAKER_00]: And not because life is bad, but because unconsciousness is numbing, and I think that we all do this.
06:27.676 --> 06:28.156
[SPEAKER_00]: Me included.
06:28.877 --> 06:30.538
[SPEAKER_00]: which is why small interruptions matter.
06:30.958 --> 06:39.503
[SPEAKER_00]: Not dramatic life overhauls necessarily, just interruptions, because sometimes you don't need a scape, you need disruption, tiny novelty, and nervous system reset.
06:40.023 --> 06:44.185
[SPEAKER_00]: Different inputs that could be taking a different route home, right?
06:44.566 --> 06:52.190
[SPEAKER_00]: Working from a coffee shop, going on a walk without your phone, playing music, while making dinner, or wearing something you actually enjoy, instead of
06:53.002 --> 06:55.103
[SPEAKER_00]: your emotional support goblin uniform.
06:55.884 --> 07:00.627
[SPEAKER_00]: Reading outside, lighting candles, taking yourself somewhere beautiful, locally, right?
07:00.947 --> 07:02.548
[SPEAKER_00]: Try to know restaurant, that's fun.
07:03.128 --> 07:04.989
[SPEAKER_00]: Watching sunset intentionally.
07:05.710 --> 07:13.875
[SPEAKER_00]: Changing the layout of your space even, buying fresh fruit, your, irrationally excited about the tiny things.
07:14.595 --> 07:21.022
[SPEAKER_00]: not because things magically fix life right, but because novelty wakes attention up in attention creates a lightness.
07:21.683 --> 07:27.049
[SPEAKER_00]: And I also think it's worth asking what am I actually craving when I want to escape, right?
07:27.069 --> 07:29.752
[SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes it's not travel, obviously.
07:29.992 --> 07:33.375
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes we might not even have that option at that time in life.
07:33.595 --> 07:37.139
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's rest, it's beauty, less pressure, more spontaneity.
07:37.259 --> 07:39.681
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe just less oversimulation, put that phone away.
07:39.881 --> 07:45.106
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's just freedom, some time for your own self, your own space to recharge.
07:45.666 --> 07:47.989
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's creative input or play.
07:48.429 --> 07:50.471
[SPEAKER_00]: Be more playful with friends and join friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Human connection, solonus.
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[SPEAKER_00]: those are really different needs and their real.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Those needs are real because if what you're craving is actual rest, a vacation won't fix chronic over commitment if you return to the exact same patterns.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If what you're craving is beauty, maybe your environment just genuinely needs more care.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're craving spontaneity, maybe your life has become overly rigid.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're craving freedom, well, that one is really worth exploring, honestly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because I think sometimes we label the craving incorrectly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we say, I just need to trip, though what we actually mean is I need to fill a live again, totally different conversation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I do want to gently say that if your primary coping strategy is constantly fantasizing about leaving your life, that's worth compassionately looking at, to no shame, just honesty.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you have the ability to therapy or just really deep true
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[SPEAKER_00]: Authentic conversation with someone close to you because occasional escape is human, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We all need breaks, but if your life only feels tolerable when you're mentally somewhere else, that is information.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been there, I get it because romanticizing your life, though, is it about pretending dysfunction is charming?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about asking, what needs more presence and more beauty, more change, more honesty?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's a much
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[SPEAKER_00]: deeper practice and honestly I think part of building a beautiful life is refusing to save a live-ness only for special occasions I mean only for vacations or the weekends or when everything is finally perfect or when people come over no because life is happening now in ordinary Tuesdays and grocery runs and conversations in more than coffee or tea and weird little moments
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, some seasons are genuinely harder, mm-hmm, this isn't denying that, but I do think presents can soften ordinary life in surprising ways, not because life changed, but because you did.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, maybe this week ask yourself, where have I gone numb through familiarity?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What am I actually craving?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What small environmental shift would wake me up a little?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Where am I waiting for some?
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[SPEAKER_00]: future trip or future version of life to feel alive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And what can I create now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And not fake magic, not force gratitude, real participation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because maybe romanticizing your life isn't pretending everything is beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's becoming present enough to notice what already is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And brave enough to change what isn't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because truly, you should not have to constantly leave your life to feel connected to it anyway.
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[SPEAKER_00]: With all that being said, my Instagram and Substack is at Raquel Mantra, R.A.Q.U, E.L.E.
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[SPEAKER_00]: M.A.N.T.R.A.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The next two weeks, there will not be a Magic Monday or a Portal Thursday, and I will be back July 6th with an episode and an update until you how my travel went and follow that being said, I'll connect with you July 6th.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for listening, and thank you for your magic.
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[UNKNOWN]: Thank you for watching.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But because unconsciousness is numbing, and I think that we all do this, me included, which is why small interruptions matter.
00:21.362 --> 00:29.567
[SPEAKER_00]: Not dramatic life overhauls necessarily, just interruptions, because sometimes you don't need a scape, you need disruption, tiny novelty, and nervous system reset.
00:29.948 --> 00:33.470
[SPEAKER_00]: Different inputs that could be taking a different route home, right?
00:33.830 --> 00:43.456
[SPEAKER_00]: Working from a coffee shop, going on a walk without your phone, playing music while making dinner, or wearing something you actually enjoy instead of your emotional, support goblin uniform.
00:43.756 --> 00:48.098
[SPEAKER_00]: Reading outside, lighting candles, taking yourself somewhere beautiful, locally, right?
00:48.419 --> 00:59.165
[SPEAKER_00]: Trying to know restaurant, that's fun, watching sunset intentionally, changing the layout of your space even, buying fresh fruit, your, irrationally excited about the tiny things.
01:02.410 --> 01:05.012
[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, hello my dear friends young me.
01:05.052 --> 01:14.917
[SPEAKER_00]: My name is Rickel and welcome to your own magic a podcast for the creative and the curious soul And I am still traveling at this point.
01:14.937 --> 01:25.563
[SPEAKER_00]: This is a prerecorded episode and This is just something that came to mind that I felt like talking about because as I travel I know that I'm likely in this base where oh
01:26.784 --> 01:33.408
[SPEAKER_00]: It does something interesting to me, like, not just because it's fun, obviously, and not just because beautiful places are beautiful.
01:33.808 --> 01:35.409
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, islands, I mean, I'm a mountain girl.
01:35.429 --> 01:36.890
[SPEAKER_00]: I live in the mountains in Perks, for Utah.
01:37.251 --> 01:41.893
[SPEAKER_00]: It's so nice and refreshing to be by the ocean, because I also love the ocean.
01:41.933 --> 01:48.117
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, who doesn't, but because travel has this weird way of making life feel vivid, right?
01:48.157 --> 01:49.138
[SPEAKER_00]: You notice things more.
01:49.338 --> 01:50.239
[SPEAKER_00]: Food tastes better.
01:50.579 --> 01:52.220
[SPEAKER_00]: Coffee somehow tastes more.
01:53.020 --> 02:00.385
[SPEAKER_00]: poetic, and makes me want to get into this creative space, or the air feels different to your thoughts feel different.
02:00.906 --> 02:06.369
[SPEAKER_00]: You suddenly want to journal and reinvent your life and become the kind of person who wears linen every day.
02:07.310 --> 02:20.239
[SPEAKER_00]: And then you come home and it's like, cool, look at all this laundry and dishes, responsibilities, and same grocery store, and errands, and emails, and suddenly normal life can just feel aggressively unsanomatic as
02:21.882 --> 02:28.284
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I've been thinking a lot about that lately because what if the thing we love about travel isn't actually the destination?
02:29.044 --> 02:33.346
[SPEAKER_00]: What if part of what we're craving is novelty, right?
02:33.946 --> 02:40.988
[SPEAKER_00]: Presence, beauty, yeah, space, mm-hmm, permission to slow down, yep.
02:41.688 --> 02:42.349
[SPEAKER_00]: Aliveness?
02:42.629 --> 02:43.609
[SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely.
02:44.570 --> 02:48.833
[SPEAKER_00]: And what if some of that doesn't actually have to stay attached to vacation?
02:48.873 --> 02:54.717
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I think sometimes we accidentally build a dynamic where life feels alive somewhere else.
02:55.518 --> 02:56.999
[SPEAKER_00]: But do it home, right?
02:57.139 --> 02:58.320
[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't love that.
02:58.920 --> 03:02.523
[SPEAKER_00]: Because while yes, travel can absolutely be magical.
03:03.163 --> 03:07.827
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think we should have to constantly escape our lives to feel connected to them.
03:08.507 --> 03:14.168
[SPEAKER_00]: So today I want to talk about how to romanticize your life without pretending everything is perfect, okay?
03:14.248 --> 03:19.949
[SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to feel present somewhere unfamiliar?
03:20.609 --> 03:31.871
[SPEAKER_00]: The new city, the different smells, the cute cafe, the ocean breeze, the walkable streets, different music, different language, different pace, and suddenly you're fully in your senses.
03:32.472 --> 03:33.612
[SPEAKER_00]: And I mean while I'm home.
03:35.072 --> 03:46.786
[SPEAKER_00]: You try the same roads and barely register them because you're on autopilot, you make coffee while mentally already answering all the emails, you eat while scrolling, you move through your day without actually being in it.
03:47.446 --> 03:51.671
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that's important because maybe life didn't become magical invocation.
03:52.552 --> 03:54.113
[SPEAKER_00]: maybe you became present.
03:54.913 --> 04:03.496
[SPEAKER_00]: That's different and honestly that's empowering because if presence is part of magic that means some of the magic is actually accessible.
04:03.936 --> 04:07.837
[SPEAKER_01]: One thing psychology talks about a lot is how our brain's filter familiar information.
04:08.117 --> 04:09.177
[SPEAKER_00]: And this is actually efficient.
04:09.278 --> 04:14.100
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're brain, deeply analyze every tiny thing all day long, you'd be exhausted.
04:14.840 --> 04:23.764
[SPEAKER_00]: So it learns, okay, safe, known familiar cool, not urgent, filtered out, whatever, which means familiarity can accidentally just become in disability because you're not a pilot.
04:24.424 --> 04:31.826
[SPEAKER_00]: your own life becomes background noise, your own home becomes invisible, your own routines become unconscious, and the novelty of course interrupts that.
04:31.986 --> 04:52.693
[SPEAKER_00]: Suddenly your brain wakes up and it notices and attention creates experience, and that's why travel can feel magical because attention returned, and I think that's a really useful reframe because if what we're craving is not just somewhere else, but attention, novelty, and presence, then maybe the question becomes, how do I bring more of that into my life?
04:53.013 --> 04:54.977
[SPEAKER_01]: and to my normal everyday routine.
04:55.238 --> 05:01.772
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, before we go any further, I want to make an important distinction because romanticizing your life will mine can become.
05:02.856 --> 05:14.100
[SPEAKER_00]: deeply on serious, like suddenly it means buying expensive candles and pretending you're in an indie film while ignoring your actual wool emotional reality, you know, that's not what I mean.
05:14.381 --> 05:17.082
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean participating in your life differently.
05:17.742 --> 05:22.544
[SPEAKER_00]: We're not doing any spiritual bypassing here with prettier lighting and we're not pretending your life is perfect.
05:22.624 --> 05:27.626
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, escaping your reality and bringing more intentionality to your reality.
05:27.846 --> 05:28.426
[SPEAKER_00]: That's mature.
05:28.816 --> 05:34.260
[SPEAKER_00]: It's grounded, because if your life genuinely needs change, romanticizing a lone won't fix that, okay?
05:34.600 --> 05:41.125
[SPEAKER_00]: If you're burnt out, deeply unhappy, you feel an unsupported, you're overstimulated, or maybe just connect it from yourself.
05:41.265 --> 05:43.767
[SPEAKER_00]: We meet deeper conversations then.
05:44.367 --> 05:44.987
[SPEAKER_00]: by flowers.
05:45.668 --> 05:50.830
[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, though flowers are lovely of course, but if the issue is autopilot, its presence.
05:51.290 --> 05:53.871
[SPEAKER_00]: Presence can actually help absolutely.
05:54.432 --> 05:56.172
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe be in present with those flowers.
05:56.292 --> 05:57.193
[SPEAKER_00]: How does that sound?
05:57.573 --> 06:04.036
[SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, I think autopilot is one of the biggest magic killers because daily life, yeah, can become so repetitive.
06:04.176 --> 06:08.178
[SPEAKER_00]: We wake up, we get the film, we get the coffee, we take the dogs out, we work, we
06:08.738 --> 06:16.666
[SPEAKER_00]: Answer e-mails run errands, then there's dinner, there's scroll, there's sleep, we repeat this, and before I know it, the weak splur, months spluried in.
06:17.026 --> 06:20.990
[SPEAKER_00]: And nothing is technically wrong, but life starts feeling kind of flat.
06:21.630 --> 06:27.175
[SPEAKER_00]: And not because life is bad, but because unconsciousness is numbing, and I think that we all do this.
06:27.676 --> 06:28.156
[SPEAKER_00]: Me included.
06:28.877 --> 06:30.538
[SPEAKER_00]: which is why small interruptions matter.
06:30.958 --> 06:39.503
[SPEAKER_00]: Not dramatic life overhauls necessarily, just interruptions, because sometimes you don't need a scape, you need disruption, tiny novelty, and nervous system reset.
06:40.023 --> 06:44.185
[SPEAKER_00]: Different inputs that could be taking a different route home, right?
06:44.566 --> 06:52.190
[SPEAKER_00]: Working from a coffee shop, going on a walk without your phone, playing music, while making dinner, or wearing something you actually enjoy, instead of
06:53.002 --> 06:55.103
[SPEAKER_00]: your emotional support goblin uniform.
06:55.884 --> 07:00.627
[SPEAKER_00]: Reading outside, lighting candles, taking yourself somewhere beautiful, locally, right?
07:00.947 --> 07:02.548
[SPEAKER_00]: Try to know restaurant, that's fun.
07:03.128 --> 07:04.989
[SPEAKER_00]: Watching sunset intentionally.
07:05.710 --> 07:13.875
[SPEAKER_00]: Changing the layout of your space even, buying fresh fruit, your, irrationally excited about the tiny things.
07:14.595 --> 07:21.022
[SPEAKER_00]: not because things magically fix life right, but because novelty wakes attention up in attention creates a lightness.
07:21.683 --> 07:27.049
[SPEAKER_00]: And I also think it's worth asking what am I actually craving when I want to escape, right?
07:27.069 --> 07:29.752
[SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes it's not travel, obviously.
07:29.992 --> 07:33.375
[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes we might not even have that option at that time in life.
07:33.595 --> 07:37.139
[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's rest, it's beauty, less pressure, more spontaneity.
07:37.259 --> 07:39.681
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe just less oversimulation, put that phone away.
07:39.881 --> 07:45.106
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's just freedom, some time for your own self, your own space to recharge.
07:45.666 --> 07:47.989
[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's creative input or play.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Be more playful with friends and join friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Human connection, solonus.
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[SPEAKER_00]: those are really different needs and their real.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Those needs are real because if what you're craving is actual rest, a vacation won't fix chronic over commitment if you return to the exact same patterns.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If what you're craving is beauty, maybe your environment just genuinely needs more care.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're craving spontaneity, maybe your life has become overly rigid.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're craving freedom, well, that one is really worth exploring, honestly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because I think sometimes we label the craving incorrectly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we say, I just need to trip, though what we actually mean is I need to fill a live again, totally different conversation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I do want to gently say that if your primary coping strategy is constantly fantasizing about leaving your life, that's worth compassionately looking at, to no shame, just honesty.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you have the ability to therapy or just really deep true
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[SPEAKER_00]: Authentic conversation with someone close to you because occasional escape is human, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We all need breaks, but if your life only feels tolerable when you're mentally somewhere else, that is information.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been there, I get it because romanticizing your life, though, is it about pretending dysfunction is charming?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about asking, what needs more presence and more beauty, more change, more honesty?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's a much
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[SPEAKER_00]: deeper practice and honestly I think part of building a beautiful life is refusing to save a live-ness only for special occasions I mean only for vacations or the weekends or when everything is finally perfect or when people come over no because life is happening now in ordinary Tuesdays and grocery runs and conversations in more than coffee or tea and weird little moments
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, some seasons are genuinely harder, mm-hmm, this isn't denying that, but I do think presents can soften ordinary life in surprising ways, not because life changed, but because you did.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, maybe this week ask yourself, where have I gone numb through familiarity?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What am I actually craving?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What small environmental shift would wake me up a little?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Where am I waiting for some?
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[SPEAKER_00]: future trip or future version of life to feel alive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And what can I create now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And not fake magic, not force gratitude, real participation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because maybe romanticizing your life isn't pretending everything is beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's becoming present enough to notice what already is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And brave enough to change what isn't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because truly, you should not have to constantly leave your life to feel connected to it anyway.
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[SPEAKER_00]: With all that being said, my Instagram and Substack is at Raquel Mantra, R.A.Q.U, E.L.E.
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[SPEAKER_00]: M.A.N.T.R.A.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The next two weeks, there will not be a Magic Monday or a Portal Thursday, and I will be back July 6th with an episode and an update until you how my travel went and follow that being said, I'll connect with you July 6th.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for listening, and thank you for your magic.
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