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So she's like herding me over to this like beautiful tree, but there's a camera set up and I'm like, okay, definitely someone's getting married there, so like we cannot go over there.
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And she's like, Like she's freaking out.
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And I'm like, okay, this is happening.
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Like something's happening.
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We need to look at the night sky.
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Be prepared to sink and feel in.
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There are no knowing what's out there.
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Go under the covers and masturbate together.
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Totally not sexually at all.
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Yeah.
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You just happen to be adjacent to each other because at that age and you do stuff adjacent to each other.
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What?
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Are you being sarcastic?
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No, no, no, no.
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I'm like, when you're like seven, you just do shit with people around you because that's just like what life life is, you know?
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And you don't know that it's weird.
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My aunt, like, I just have this vivid image of her like ripping the covers up and being like, what is happening?
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Like my family totally shamed like masturbation as a kid.
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But it's like we all touch our shit when we're little.
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And also every other age.
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Yeah.
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Please.
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Yeah, I remember having to hide it from my family because actually a lot of my dreams still are me trying to masturbate and one of my family members is about to walk in the room.
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I actually am still dreaming that like once or twice a month.
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I'm like, just get some privacy.
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Did anybody ever catch you as a child and have you had a yeah?
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Was it a shaming experience?
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I had a beanbag as a child that was like my masturbation beanbag.
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But it was like in the living room.
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Masturbeaner.
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My masturbeaner.
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And I would like literally ride this beanbag.
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Yeah.
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As a kid.
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Yeah.
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And my dad would always go, okay, Nicole.
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It's time to go to your room.
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Honestly, that's pretty sweet.
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That's like a pretty sweet response.
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Yeah.
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Instead of like, hey, stop it.
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That's don't, we don't do that.
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You know?
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And then I remember we were watching um, what's that?
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Movie with the guy from holes, and it's like action.
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Anyways, we were watching a movie, and the guy from something about okay.
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With Megan Fox.
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Oh, Transformers.
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Transformers.
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We were watching Transformers and Did you pop a boner?
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He said something, well, sorta.
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Well, for Megan, but obviously.
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Yeah, not for the robot.
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No.
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But we were watching it and he goes, Yeah, like something masturbation.
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And I asked my dad, I was like, what is masturbation?
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And he goes, That's what you do to the beanbag.
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So wait, you could talk about it in your family a little bit.
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Yeah, like my dad tried not to shame me, but still it was like this thing that they were like really weirded out by that.
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My parents would not have been able to respond like that, actually.
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Wow.
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So that's better than I got.
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Alright, I'll take it.
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Yeah.
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Nice.
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Finally, you got a name for what you love.
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Like, oh my god, you've been keeping this idea from me.
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That's hilarious.
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I was like, what?
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Oh god, when I was a kid, I like knew about the idea of blowjobs, but I didn't know what they were.
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Yeah.
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So someone like blows on you?
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Yeah, that was my understanding.
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Oh.
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Obviously.
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Yeah, like the concept wasn't fully.
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I don't know what it meant.
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I just like knew the at knew the word and like knew that it was somehow dick related, right?
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Yeah.
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And so like there's a couple times when I'm like probably like 11 or 12, and I get out of the shower and I'm like, I get the hairdryer, and I'm just like blowing the hair dryer out.
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And I'm like, I don't really get the appeal.
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This isn't really doing it for me.
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Oh.
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When you had your first one, were you like, wow, I was wrong?
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No.
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I was not into blowjobs for a really long time.
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What what did it just not feel good?
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It didn't really do it for me.
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Yeah.
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I didn't like being licked, uh, eaten out.
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I don't like that term.
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Um being going down upon yst.
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Yeah.
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Upon I didn't used to like that until I just a feeling of like vulnerability.
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That felt me out.
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It grossed you out.
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Like fucking gross.
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Yeah.
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And now with Jacob, I'm like, yes.
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Did you feel that about penises?
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Yeah, yeah.
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I like those.
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Oh, interesting.
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I love them.
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Interesting.
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Oh, I love them.
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Balls.
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Wow.
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I I think they're fun.
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I like them.
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You okay?
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They're they are fun.
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They're fun to wiggle around and pull the things.
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Like shh put them in your mouth.
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I don't know about putting it in your mouth.
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Oh, I love them.
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Wow, you're freaking.
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Yeah, you're freaking.
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Not in that way.
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Have you ever had balls dipped in breast milk?
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I haven't.
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That's a crossover kick.
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Yeah, that might work for me.
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In the backseat of a Jeep.
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No, we're bringing up the case.
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That's where we're crossing.
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Yeah, we're crossing.
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Okay.
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Welcome back to the Wonder Pod.
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We are here with Nicole.
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Whoa.
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Okay, Nicole.
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Yes.
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You're saying yes to as much as you can right now.
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Tell us about what prompted that.
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The most surprising and positive experience you've discovered.
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And the most unexpected challenge and consequence.
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Yeah.
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This is our only question we have for you, okay?
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Well.
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Take us to the playoffs.
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Let's go big.
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No pressure.
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Yeah, I'm feeling the pressure.
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And also, when I told you that, it was like many weeks ago, and now I'm saying no to a lot of things.
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So that was a consequence.
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But yeah.
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So for okay, I want to hear about that too.
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Like what when did yes become no, you know?
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But when what prompted you saying yes to a bunch of things?
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Well, I moved to Bend in February.
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I've had a big year this year.
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This has just been a big year for Nicole.
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Yeah.
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Huge.
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Yeah.
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And I said yes to a lot of things that have felt like big no's for me in the past.
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And one of them being marriage, another one being moving.
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And like making these big life decisions that have felt so debilitating for me for so long.
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And like debilitating from a commitment standpoint.
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And just like, yeah, I was just riddled with anxiety about change and just like not able to like just like go down the slide, you know, and just like see what happens.
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Yeah.
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Um and uh yeah, so when I moved here, I set an intention to just like really be open to new experiences and new people and just like try different things and and so was your commitment to say yes even when you were scared?
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Yeah.
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Or how did you draw the line?
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Yeah, it was it's like I think I said to you when you when you asked that question, I said like I'm saying yes to things that feel like a yes in my body, and it's like that's the that's that's it.
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Whereas before you would have said no even when it felt like a yes.
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Yeah, because I was too scared.
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Yeah.
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I gotcha.
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Control.
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Yeah.
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So you started that when you moved to Bend, yeah, that was one of my intentions for starting this new chapter in life.
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What were you hoping to gain from it?
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I mean just like new experiences and also like re-kind of like I think I lost touch with my brave, like kind of more open-hearted self in this last phase of life that I had and like really allowed anxiety to like kind of you know grab me and pull me under.
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And so I I wanted to just like be brave and like try things and remember that like bold, like fiery side of myself.
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Yeah.
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I remember when I first heard you talking about this.
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Um, I think someone had just invited you on a big run or something, or a big hike, or a bike ride the next day, and you were scared, but I heard you say yes anyway, and you're like, I don't know how I'm gonna do it.
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Yeah.
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How'd it go?
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Wait, this is hilarious because this this is your friends that invited me on this run.
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And they were like, Yeah, we usually do like four miles, and we're you know, we're like, they were training for a tryout.
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Yeah, these people are not b uh bench warmers.
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This is not casual.
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No, and they're like, Yeah, she at least goes, Yeah, we start at like 6 30.
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I'm like, oh great, P.M.
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Lovely.
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I like I'm off work at the time.
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After work.
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And she goes, no, no, no, like in the morning, and we meet at six.
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And then we plunge in the room.
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And then we cold plunge in the middle of winter and hold it for like five minutes.
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Yeah, but then we go get treats afterwards.
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I'm like, okay, fuck you guys.
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But I, you know what I did?
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Okay, fuck you guys.
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I dragged my friend out there and I was like, we're gonna practice run this bitch because I want to be friends with these people, but I don't I don't want to be that bless you.
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Thank you.
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I don't want to be that person that's like, you know, go on with that.
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Yeah.
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So we ran and I literally made it a mile and a half, and I was like, I'm done.
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You know what?
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Running is not my jam.
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In my body, a mile and a half would be quite a success.
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It was a success.
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So it was.
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So nice.
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So you ended up not doing it.
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I have not doing the running.
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You did do it.
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That's the thing.
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You did it.
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But just not with those people on the day that they did the practice run.
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Okay, the practice run.
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Got a mile and a half and then was like, I will not be doing this for four miles.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I'll make friends with them some other way.
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Okay.
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By saying yes and then doing the practice round, did you run farther than you would have normally?
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Definitely.
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Love it.
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Yes.
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But then we found a baby duckling that didn't have a mom.
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I know.
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It was all by itself.
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And then I tried to save it, and then it literally to get away from me, cross this is like a big the size less than the size of my palm.
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Baby duckling.
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It crossed the Deschutes River in like definitely a class one rapid.
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It was like getting thrashed and it crossed to the other side.
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So that was became our goal.
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So we chased down You crossed the river after it?
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You swam in the river in the winter?
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It was like spring.
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How was that?
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We didn't save her.
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But we had she didn't need you to save her.
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That's kind of what I'm picking up on.
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She crossed a river.
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She was definitely like going to be food for something.
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Oh.
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And that was her trajectory.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, yeah.
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You know what?
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Back to the earth.
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That's what I'm saying.
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That's what I'm saying.
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I had to to that's what I had to tell myself to sleep at night.
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Oh, you were sad.
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I really wanted to save her.
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Fuck.
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It was fluffy stale.
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Oh it didn't have any feathers.
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No beard whiskers yet.
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Sad.
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Anyways.
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Alrighty.
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Yeah.
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The hawks gotta eat, you know.
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Okay, so what was the most unexpected and surprising thing that happened in your saying yes phase?
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Probably me being on this podcast.
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If I had asked you yesterday, would you have said no?
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Yeah.
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No, I really wanted to stretch myself and do this.
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I actually think the biggest wait, what was your original question?
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What was the most surprising or unexpected thing about saying yes?
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Getting this new job and like taking this big new job.
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So previously you would have not even tried.
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I wouldn't even have applied for the job.
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Nicole, I'm really proud of you.
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Yeah.
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Like major growth.
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I know.
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And you want to say what the job is?
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Yeah.
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I just got my dream job at the Nature Conservancy working for the freshwater department, um, helping with their development operations work.
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So I'm really excited.
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It's your dream job.
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It is.
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It totally is like TNC is where I've always wanted to end up.
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Okay.
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And like really dig into that work.
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So I'm really excited.
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I want to know what where the moment was where you were like, oh, I need to say yes less.
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How that felt, and kind of like how you've been evaluating, like re-evaluating the balance now that you're like, okay, we gotta re- we gotta re-recalibrate a little bit.
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Yeah, that's a good question.
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Last year.
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I was wondering if that was the mic.
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That's the ice cream truck.
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If they live out here, yeah.
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It's very popular.
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We're in the woods.
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We're in the woods.
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They found us.
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It kind of sounds a little fucked up, doesn't it?
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Everything out here is a little fucked up.
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It sounds like not on tune.
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He's trying his best.
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Should we take a little break?
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To get some ice cream?
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Yeah.
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I don't want any.
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Do you want some?
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No, I'm good.
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Definitely not.
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I don't know.
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Who suggested that?
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That is stupid.
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Um anyway.
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Yeah, so last year I decided that I was like gonna get better at planning.
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That was like my big goal because I just felt like life was passing me by.
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And these big opportunities were just like, I was just dropping the ball.
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I wasn't planning things, I wasn't seeing like old friends, and I just was sort of like, I need to like really take life by the boobs.
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Grab it, grab it by the boobs, yeah, and just like then dig in.
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That's gonna be the title for this podcast.
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Yeah, yeah.
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By the boobs.
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By the boobs, yeah.
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Um, and so that was like my big goal for this year, and I have successfully done that.
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Nice.
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I'm really good at planning now.
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I have a planner.
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How did you become a planner?
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Oh, I literally taught myself how to plan.
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I'm so ADHD, it's insane.
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Planning has never been something I can do.
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And I set the goal and I was like, I'm gonna get good at planning.
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I bought this like really awesome planner that kind of helps you scaffold like planning and goals.
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Scaffold.
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Nice.
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Thank you.
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It's corporate lingo.
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Um, and yeah, I'm just like really digging into the planning thing, but then I accidentally like majorly overplanned this year.
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Yeah, like not a lot of wiggle room and breathing.
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Yeah.
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Like I didn't even leave time for like the work week.
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It's just been insane.
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And so now I'm like, I need to really scale it back.
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Really scale it back on the S's.
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Yeah, way overshot.
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That's hilarious.
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Way overshot.
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But I mean, it's like it's how it goes.
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Yeah.
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And what's funny?
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Especially when it's a new thing.
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It's like you're you're gonna oscillate back and forth a little bit until you find where the comfortable zone is.
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Exactly.
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In our friend group, we refer to the person who's planning an upcoming event as Nicole.
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And it's not because of you.
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It's just a coincidence.
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Really?
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Yeah.
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Like for the camping, uh, for the what is it?
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Um the summer camp.
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Summer camp for adults.
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Yeah.
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For adults.
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Elise's Nicole.
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Meaning Elise is planning it.
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I feel like we're gonna need to change that because I'm like, I am infiltrating this group, this friendship group, and I don't want to plan everything.
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That's not what's gonna happen.
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Nicole, we're really sorry, but um, we're all gonna take the backseat now that you're here.
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Yeah, we're gonna need a new name.
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Frederick?
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Um, it needs to be like more like Nicole.
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Natalie?
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Um, that's no, Natalie is not a planner for sure.
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I don't know.
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Natalie could totally be a planner.
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She sounds like she has a ponytail.
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No ponytail.
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What about it?
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I feel like Maybe Carl.
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This is all wrong.
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Nick.
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Not as fun.
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I don't like it.
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Nicole like has her shit together.
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She knows what's going on.
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This isn't you, though.
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Wow.
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This isn't you.
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Aspiration.
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This is pre-Nicole Nicole.
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How did how did we choose Nicole?
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Because that's such a good, fabulous name.
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I know, right?
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Something about it.
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Yeah, it just like rolls right off the tongue.
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It happened last year when we were planning out our summer events.
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Wow.
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Elise and I came up with it, I think.
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Well, we're gonna need to change that.
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Anyway, so okay.
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Um, and now you're saying no, and how does that feel?
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Well, I haven't said no yet.
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It's it's gonna it's coming.
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Yeah, it's coming.
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Yeah.
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Well, you said yes when your fiance asked you to marry her.
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I did say yes to that.
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Oh my gosh.
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But to be fair, I asked first.
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Yeah.
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Oh, let me see your ring!
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I've been waiting.
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I've been waiting since I met you.
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I'm obsessed with it.
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That's so unique.
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This is a really fun story too, because my grandmother, I had family juice.
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My grandmother was like, hey, I have extra, like, I have these diamonds that you can like, you know, they're yours for when you're ready.
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And I was like, okay, I don't fuck diamonds.
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I was like in high school.
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I don't know.
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Who knows who understands what a diamond is?
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I don't know.
00:18:05.279 --> 00:18:06.880
So right, exactly.
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Yeah.
00:18:07.839 --> 00:18:14.799
So she but then when I told my mom I was gonna propose to Crystal, she was like, Oh, you have these jewels, let's like look at them.
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And we have these families, and then there were two of these, these little baguettes and baguettes, but they're called tapered baguettes.
00:18:25.599 --> 00:18:31.920
Okay, if anybody is privy with diamonds, and so I was like, Let's make matching rings.
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Oh, you have matching rings, sort of.
00:18:34.480 --> 00:18:43.680
So I designed her Chris's to be more like a little more mask and like it's a little different than mine, and mine is a bit more like thin.
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Feminine, yeah.
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But we have the same diamond, which is kind of fun.
00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:52.799
So, how did you um how do you design a ring?
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Yeah, I just like did a bunch of research and brought a bunch of inspiration pictures to the jeweler, and I was like, I want you to take this diamond out of this ring and put it into this sort of looking vibe.
00:19:05.039 --> 00:19:05.440
Wow.
00:19:05.680 --> 00:19:07.200
Yeah, that seems fun.
00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:14.319
It was fun, although it's like kind of stressful because you're you have this idea and then they can't see the idea.
00:19:14.559 --> 00:19:16.319
So there's like many iterations.
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Sure, sure.
00:19:17.759 --> 00:19:18.960
It's like getting a tattoo.
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Yeah, I think if I were to do it again, I would not have done this, but it's really cute in theory.
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Yeah.
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And in practice, right?
00:19:26.880 --> 00:19:27.839
I mean it ended up cute.
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It did it, yeah.
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They ended up really nice.
00:19:29.839 --> 00:19:35.680
But so Lauren, I just talked to Lauren recently, and she said that whoever proposed recently, Chris, right?
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Yeah, it was a funny story, and she said to ask you about that.
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Love it.
00:19:41.839 --> 00:19:46.240
Well, seems like he's like, Some of us thought it was funny, I guess.
00:19:48.480 --> 00:19:51.519
Yeah, so okay, the story of the proposal.
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I had proposed to Chris in February, and I've been pestering her.
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And I've been pestering her for you.
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Thank you.
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Because somebody else needs like we need to put the pressure.
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She needs her fat rock.
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I need my tiny rock.
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And so I was pestering and pestering, and I thought it was coming this July when we're going to Europe to hike the Mont Blanc Trail.
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I was like convinced.
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I literally was like fully.
00:20:19.039 --> 00:20:20.079
That was the plan, right?
00:20:20.160 --> 00:20:22.559
It was in the calendar locked and loaded.
00:20:22.799 --> 00:20:25.920
I I I thought for sure it would be this.
00:20:26.160 --> 00:20:32.559
But I guess somewhere along the line I said that I'd want my mom and sister to be there because somewhere I said that.
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Sure.
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And so she heard that.
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Oh.
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And I was in Savannah, Georgia for a work conference for a week.
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And then my sister and mom drove down from North Carolina to like meet me and have a girls' weekend.
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And I had literally no freaking clue.
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Like, I was not even sensing this at all.
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And then um my mom and sister are like, okay, here's the itinerary, and they were like putting in all this energy into this trip.
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And I'm like, okay, weird.
00:21:02.720 --> 00:21:04.880
Why are they putting so much thought and energy into this trip?
00:21:05.039 --> 00:21:07.440
Yeah, like there's only one Nicole step off.
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Yeah.
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And my yeah, my sister like made a full itinerary, and I like, I don't know, it was just like a lot.
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Like laminated.
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Yeah.
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And then I get there and they're like, okay, we're gonna go like go to this um picnic, and like everybody needs to get dressed up, and it's at this very particular place at this very particular time.
00:21:25.680 --> 00:21:28.880
And I was like, okay, like this is fucking weird.
00:21:28.960 --> 00:21:35.119
And then they're like bringing champagne and roses, and I was like starting to get a I was like, okay, something's happening.
00:21:35.279 --> 00:21:38.559
And then we get to this farm, and I'm like, oh, so cool.
00:21:38.640 --> 00:21:40.640
There's like all these ponds and there's alligators.
00:21:40.799 --> 00:21:43.039
Did you guys know there's alligators in Georgia?
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No, super cool.
00:21:44.559 --> 00:21:47.039
They're really, it's really fun, really great stuff.
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Go swimming, don't.
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So I was like looking at the alligators and like, oh, it's so cool.
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And my sister's like, we should just go right over there right now.
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And I'm like, oh just a picnic, you know, we're chilling.
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Yeah, we're chilling.
00:22:00.079 --> 00:22:05.359
But she's like, it's also like 95 degrees and like 99.9% humidity.
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Like it is fucking hot in Georgia.
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Yeah.
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And so she's like herding me over to this like beautiful tree, but there's a camera setup.
00:22:14.160 --> 00:22:17.519
And I'm like, okay, definitely someone's getting married there.
00:22:17.599 --> 00:22:19.039
So like we cannot go over there.
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And she's like, like she's freaking out.
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And I'm like, okay, this is happening.
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Like something's happening.
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Oh my god.
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And then all of a sudden, Crystal crawls out from behind the tree, like a little heathen.
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Like she's literally like hair crawling out from behind the tree.
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And she is drenched in sweat.
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Like she gets to me, and she's literally like pouring down her face.
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She's wearing these like really see-through clothes.
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And you just like she's fucking drenched.
00:22:52.319 --> 00:22:53.759
She's been waiting there for a while, right?
00:22:54.960 --> 00:22:56.160
And you didn't know she'd be there?
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I know I didn't know.
00:22:57.359 --> 00:22:58.720
So I didn't know she'd be there.
00:22:58.880 --> 00:22:59.440
Uh-huh.
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And um, I'm like, what are I at that point?
00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:07.359
I knew what was happening, and I wouldn't let her like say the words out loud.
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I was just like, what are you doing?
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I'm just screaming at the room.
00:23:11.920 --> 00:23:15.599
And then I ripped the ring out of her hands and you know, the whole thing.
00:23:15.759 --> 00:23:16.640
So it was good.
00:23:16.960 --> 00:23:18.400
She didn't even get a chance to ask you?
00:23:18.640 --> 00:23:20.640
No, I didn't let her finish her script.
00:23:20.880 --> 00:23:23.039
I was just like, give me the fucking ring.
00:23:23.200 --> 00:23:23.920
You're late.
00:23:24.079 --> 00:23:24.720
Yeah.
00:23:25.119 --> 00:23:26.880
How does it feel to have your ring on?
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It feels really good.
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I love it.
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Is it like super heavy?
00:23:31.279 --> 00:23:32.960
No, it's a tiny, okay.
00:23:34.160 --> 00:23:35.599
It's a tiny diamond.
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How many carls?
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I don't know.
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Small.
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Well, congratulations.
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But I love it.
00:23:43.759 --> 00:23:44.000
Yeah.
00:23:44.400 --> 00:23:47.599
What is life like now that you are double engaged?
00:23:49.759 --> 00:23:49.920
No.
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Are you sure?
00:23:51.279 --> 00:23:52.160
Because now you have a ring.
00:23:52.400 --> 00:23:57.119
I mean, it's like really sweet to feel it like to be in the engagement, you know, phase of life.
00:23:57.359 --> 00:23:57.599
Yeah.
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Yeah.
00:23:58.240 --> 00:24:01.440
Um, but now everybody's like, when are you getting married?
00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:03.359
Bitches and hoes, am I right?
00:24:03.599 --> 00:24:06.400
Literally, like, it's every When are you getting married?
00:24:07.359 --> 00:24:08.240
Undetermined.
00:24:08.480 --> 00:24:08.799
Okay.
00:24:09.119 --> 00:24:09.440
Yeah.
00:24:11.039 --> 00:24:12.480
There's no no idea.
00:24:12.880 --> 00:24:13.519
No rush.
00:24:13.920 --> 00:24:14.480
No rush.
00:24:15.039 --> 00:24:18.799
Oh, and you you said you would you would not mind being engaged for years.
00:24:19.119 --> 00:24:19.440
Yeah.
00:24:20.160 --> 00:24:20.640
I would.
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You would mind?
00:24:22.240 --> 00:24:23.279
Yeah, like let's do it.
00:24:23.599 --> 00:24:24.079
Oh, okay.
00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:25.599
Would you rather no engagement?
00:24:27.039 --> 00:24:29.359
Whoa, I didn't know that was legal.
00:24:32.240 --> 00:24:32.799
I don't know.
00:24:32.960 --> 00:24:39.519
Not necessarily Well, I'm not interested in getting married, but if I were to be interested in getting married, I would want the engagement to be no more than six months.
00:24:39.839 --> 00:24:41.279
So you don't want to get married at all?
00:24:41.680 --> 00:24:42.559
At this point, no.
00:24:42.880 --> 00:24:45.839
I don't have I don't have any feelings of interest in that.
00:24:46.079 --> 00:24:48.640
So if you were like, I want to be your life partner forever.
00:24:48.880 --> 00:24:49.200
Yeah.
00:24:50.400 --> 00:24:52.240
You just don't need to put it, you don't need to put it on a piece of paper.
00:24:52.480 --> 00:24:52.640
Right.
00:24:52.720 --> 00:24:52.880
Yeah.
00:24:53.119 --> 00:24:53.920
Would you get rings?
00:24:54.400 --> 00:24:55.039
I don't know.
00:24:55.200 --> 00:24:55.920
I don't want to ring.
00:24:56.160 --> 00:24:56.799
I don't want a ring.
00:24:56.880 --> 00:24:57.359
That makes it.
00:24:58.640 --> 00:24:59.119
Too tied down.
00:25:00.480 --> 00:25:06.079
See, I've had I had this exact same response to marriage for so long.
00:25:06.559 --> 00:25:06.880
Yeah.
00:25:07.039 --> 00:25:07.440
Yeah.
00:25:08.000 --> 00:25:08.240
Yeah.
00:25:08.799 --> 00:25:09.519
You were talking about that.
00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:10.880
It's still weird.
00:25:11.200 --> 00:25:11.680
It's weird.
00:25:11.759 --> 00:25:14.480
It's a weird societal construct.
00:25:14.799 --> 00:25:19.119
Yeah, there's a lot of tradition around it that does not appeal to me in the slightest.
00:25:20.559 --> 00:25:23.920
Especially like the actual wedding and all of that.
00:25:24.079 --> 00:25:26.559
And obviously you can do it however you want, for sure.
00:25:28.000 --> 00:25:30.079
You could just do you and three of your best friends.
00:25:30.960 --> 00:25:31.279
Yeah.
00:25:31.599 --> 00:25:34.720
But then you realize once And maybe the person I'm marrying.
00:25:34.960 --> 00:25:35.279
Maybe.
00:25:35.680 --> 00:25:36.400
Maybe them.
00:25:36.960 --> 00:25:38.960
Or just send them like a postcard.
00:25:39.200 --> 00:25:39.759
A memo.
00:25:41.359 --> 00:25:42.480
Send them the invoice.
00:25:42.640 --> 00:25:42.960
Yeah.
00:25:43.920 --> 00:25:44.480
We don't know.
00:25:46.079 --> 00:25:46.960
That's a good idea.
00:25:47.839 --> 00:26:01.359
Yeah, but then like what I feel like once we've gotten engaged, or like, you know, we have we're in that phase, every there's society is like creeping in, waiting to like make it be what it's supposed to be.
00:26:01.759 --> 00:26:04.160
And then after you get married, it'll be like, so are you having kids?
00:26:04.240 --> 00:26:04.880
When are you having kids?
00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:05.920
When are you having kids?
00:26:06.240 --> 00:26:15.359
Yeah, and I realize like that's how everybody we're not we are not all designed to like fit into the mold, but we're just like so.
00:26:15.440 --> 00:26:19.119
That's why I I've stopped trying to ask people like, what do you do for work?
00:26:19.279 --> 00:26:20.799
Or like Yeah, yeah.
00:26:21.119 --> 00:26:23.279
I'm trying to ask people, what are you curious about?
00:26:23.440 --> 00:26:23.759
Yeah.
00:26:24.079 --> 00:26:27.519
Or like, what are what's what are you having fun with?
00:26:27.680 --> 00:26:28.799
I don't know, just like different shit.
00:26:29.119 --> 00:26:35.440
You can get to know people without asking them these like really targeted brand.
00:26:35.680 --> 00:26:36.400
Yeah, rigid questions.
00:26:36.480 --> 00:26:38.240
It's just like that's not what I I don't need to know that.
00:26:38.480 --> 00:26:41.039
Yeah, I asked I met a new person reluctantly.
00:26:41.119 --> 00:26:45.119
I'm not really into strangers right now, but I met a new person in the past week.
00:26:45.440 --> 00:26:49.920
And we were like shooting the shit, and then they were like, So what do you do for work?
00:26:50.079 --> 00:26:51.119
And I just felt disappointed.
00:26:51.440 --> 00:26:52.400
Yeah, you were like, God.
00:26:53.440 --> 00:26:56.880
I mean, I I love what I do, but I don't know.
00:26:56.960 --> 00:27:06.640
We were talking about like uh uh like unexpected topics before that, and then it just we went into the unexpected, and I was like, this isn't as fun.
00:27:06.880 --> 00:27:07.119
Yeah.
00:27:07.599 --> 00:27:09.920
So why are you not feeling into strangers right now?
00:27:11.759 --> 00:27:22.559
Well, my brother thinks it's because I was in an exploratory phase before this, and needed to I was looking for some answers, some clarity just in general in life and about myself.
00:27:22.640 --> 00:27:30.720
And now that I have more answers, more clarity, I'm not needing to like seek it out more and I can just enjoy what I found.
00:27:31.359 --> 00:27:32.240
Very good observation.
00:27:32.559 --> 00:27:32.960
And I agree.
00:27:33.759 --> 00:27:34.160
Interesting.
00:27:34.559 --> 00:27:38.000
Yeah, I'm like a hanging out with my friends, maybe.
00:27:38.799 --> 00:27:39.279
Maybe.
00:27:39.519 --> 00:27:40.319
Yeah, that makes sense.
00:27:40.559 --> 00:27:41.759
I just like hanging out with my friends.
00:27:41.839 --> 00:27:42.799
I really like you guys.
00:27:42.960 --> 00:27:46.000
Like I really, really, really, really like you guys.
00:27:46.319 --> 00:27:47.200
That's why you're my friend.
00:27:48.400 --> 00:28:02.480
For yeah, and I and I don't feel interested, and this isn't to offend anybody or to make me feel like I have, you know, the biggest butt on the block or anything, but you do have a big butt.
00:28:02.880 --> 00:28:04.640
I do, I do, I do have on this block, probably.
00:28:04.799 --> 00:28:04.960
Yeah.
00:28:05.039 --> 00:28:05.119
Yeah.
00:28:05.279 --> 00:28:05.839
It's a bubble.
00:28:06.160 --> 00:28:09.440
I don't feel interest in making new friends.
00:28:09.839 --> 00:28:10.640
That's so fair.
00:28:10.799 --> 00:28:11.759
I'm like at all.
00:28:12.079 --> 00:28:13.119
Really trying to make new friends.
00:28:13.359 --> 00:28:14.240
You can have all of mine.
00:28:14.319 --> 00:28:15.440
We can share all of mine.
00:28:15.680 --> 00:28:16.640
You'll like all of them.
00:28:16.799 --> 00:28:19.039
I well, you never know.
00:28:20.640 --> 00:28:21.759
If you never try.
00:28:23.119 --> 00:28:24.720
If you never try, another no.
00:28:25.039 --> 00:28:25.680
You can have them.
00:28:25.920 --> 00:28:26.160
Have them.
00:28:26.319 --> 00:28:26.559
Take them.
00:28:26.720 --> 00:28:27.359
I would love that.
00:28:27.519 --> 00:28:27.759
Yeah.
00:28:27.839 --> 00:28:30.160
I have I have a lot of really high quality friends.
00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:32.079
I just have my roster is full.
00:28:32.160 --> 00:28:33.039
I'm quoting someone.
00:28:33.119 --> 00:28:34.480
I heard someone say that this week.
00:28:34.640 --> 00:28:34.799
Yeah.
00:28:35.039 --> 00:28:35.839
My roster is full.
00:28:36.079 --> 00:28:37.039
And I'm very grateful.
00:28:37.200 --> 00:28:37.359
Yeah.
00:28:37.599 --> 00:28:37.759
Yeah.
00:28:37.839 --> 00:28:41.200
I had I heard someone described as I'm open to new acquaintances, but not really new friends.
00:28:41.519 --> 00:28:42.880
What were you there in that conversation?
00:28:43.119 --> 00:28:43.680
No, different.
00:28:44.160 --> 00:28:44.400
Okay.
00:28:44.640 --> 00:28:46.400
Are you feeling that way as well?
00:28:46.960 --> 00:28:49.680
Uh he needs artist friends.
00:28:50.000 --> 00:28:50.799
I need artist friends.
00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:52.000
Allow me to speak for you.
00:28:52.240 --> 00:28:52.640
Thank you.
00:28:52.799 --> 00:28:59.279
Um right now I have so many personal projects going on that it's kind of like hard to think about.
00:28:59.519 --> 00:29:03.279
Like even maintaining my current friendships feels like a lot of work right now.
00:29:03.920 --> 00:29:10.000
Um but before, like back in the late winter.
00:29:10.400 --> 00:29:12.960
I feel like I was looking for I was open to new friends.
00:29:13.200 --> 00:29:13.519
Yeah.
00:29:13.759 --> 00:29:18.480
And I think probably in the late summer, early fall, I will be open again.
00:29:18.720 --> 00:29:19.039
Yeah.
00:29:19.200 --> 00:29:19.359
Oh.
00:29:20.720 --> 00:29:22.720
I do feel like that kind of happens.
00:29:22.799 --> 00:29:28.079
Like summer is crazy, and then like winter, we're all like, let's get together.
00:29:28.480 --> 00:29:29.200
Call each other.
00:29:29.440 --> 00:29:29.599
Yeah.
00:29:29.920 --> 00:29:31.440
Eat soup while while you watch each other.
00:29:31.680 --> 00:29:33.359
It's dark inside here a little bit in the winter.
00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:34.400
Like it's cool.
00:29:34.559 --> 00:29:34.880
It's cool.
00:29:34.960 --> 00:29:35.440
It's the snow.
00:29:35.759 --> 00:29:36.319
It's sunny.
00:29:36.400 --> 00:29:37.680
It's sunny, actually.
00:29:38.079 --> 00:29:40.000
I mean, it depends what your baseline is, I guess.
00:29:40.079 --> 00:29:42.559
But okay, while Alaska.
00:29:42.799 --> 00:29:43.279
Yeah, exactly.
00:29:43.680 --> 00:29:44.000
Yeah.
00:29:45.039 --> 00:29:46.880
The sun doesn't shine for six months there.
00:29:47.119 --> 00:29:47.440
Yeah.
00:29:47.680 --> 00:29:49.440
So it's better than that.
00:29:49.519 --> 00:29:50.400
But it's still dark.
00:29:50.480 --> 00:29:52.960
I mean, it's, you know, the sun goes down at like four o'clock.
00:29:53.200 --> 00:29:53.599
Yeah.
00:29:53.839 --> 00:29:54.319
Yeah.
00:29:55.839 --> 00:29:56.319
Well.
00:29:56.720 --> 00:29:57.759
Thank you for your time.
00:29:58.079 --> 00:29:58.880
Thanks for being on the show.
00:29:59.119 --> 00:29:59.839
Thanks for being great.
00:29:59.920 --> 00:30:00.720
Thanks for having me.
00:30:00.799 --> 00:30:01.440
I love you guys.
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I love you.
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Love you too.
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So that's it.
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That's it.
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That's all we're doing now.
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So she's like herding me over to this like beautiful tree, but there's a camera set up and I'm like, okay, definitely someone's getting married there, so like we cannot go over there.
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And she's like, Like she's freaking out.
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And I'm like, okay, this is happening.
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Like something's happening.
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We need to look at the night sky.
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Be prepared to sink and feel in.
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There are no knowing what's out there.
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Go under the covers and masturbate together.
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Totally not sexually at all.
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Yeah.
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You just happen to be adjacent to each other because at that age and you do stuff adjacent to each other.
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What?
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Are you being sarcastic?
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No, no, no, no.
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I'm like, when you're like seven, you just do shit with people around you because that's just like what life life is, you know?
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And you don't know that it's weird.
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My aunt, like, I just have this vivid image of her like ripping the covers up and being like, what is happening?
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Like my family totally shamed like masturbation as a kid.
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But it's like we all touch our shit when we're little.
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And also every other age.
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Yeah.
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Please.
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Yeah, I remember having to hide it from my family because actually a lot of my dreams still are me trying to masturbate and one of my family members is about to walk in the room.
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I actually am still dreaming that like once or twice a month.
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I'm like, just get some privacy.
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Did anybody ever catch you as a child and have you had a yeah?
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Was it a shaming experience?
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I had a beanbag as a child that was like my masturbation beanbag.
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But it was like in the living room.
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Masturbeaner.
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My masturbeaner.
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And I would like literally ride this beanbag.
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Yeah.
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As a kid.
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Yeah.
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And my dad would always go, okay, Nicole.
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It's time to go to your room.
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Honestly, that's pretty sweet.
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That's like a pretty sweet response.
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Yeah.
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Instead of like, hey, stop it.
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That's don't, we don't do that.
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You know?
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And then I remember we were watching um, what's that?
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Movie with the guy from holes, and it's like action.
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Anyways, we were watching a movie, and the guy from something about okay.
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With Megan Fox.
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Oh, Transformers.
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Transformers.
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We were watching Transformers and Did you pop a boner?
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He said something, well, sorta.
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Well, for Megan, but obviously.
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Yeah, not for the robot.
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No.
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But we were watching it and he goes, Yeah, like something masturbation.
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And I asked my dad, I was like, what is masturbation?
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And he goes, That's what you do to the beanbag.
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So wait, you could talk about it in your family a little bit.
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Yeah, like my dad tried not to shame me, but still it was like this thing that they were like really weirded out by that.
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My parents would not have been able to respond like that, actually.
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Wow.
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So that's better than I got.
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Alright, I'll take it.
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Yeah.
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Nice.
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Finally, you got a name for what you love.
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Like, oh my god, you've been keeping this idea from me.
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That's hilarious.
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I was like, what?
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Oh god, when I was a kid, I like knew about the idea of blowjobs, but I didn't know what they were.
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Yeah.
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So someone like blows on you?
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Yeah, that was my understanding.
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Oh.
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Obviously.
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Yeah, like the concept wasn't fully.
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I don't know what it meant.
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I just like knew the at knew the word and like knew that it was somehow dick related, right?
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Yeah.
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And so like there's a couple times when I'm like probably like 11 or 12, and I get out of the shower and I'm like, I get the hairdryer, and I'm just like blowing the hair dryer out.
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And I'm like, I don't really get the appeal.
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This isn't really doing it for me.
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Oh.
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When you had your first one, were you like, wow, I was wrong?
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No.
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I was not into blowjobs for a really long time.
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What what did it just not feel good?
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It didn't really do it for me.
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Yeah.
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I didn't like being licked, uh, eaten out.
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I don't like that term.
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Um being going down upon yst.
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Yeah.
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Upon I didn't used to like that until I just a feeling of like vulnerability.
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That felt me out.
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It grossed you out.
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Like fucking gross.
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Yeah.
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And now with Jacob, I'm like, yes.
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Did you feel that about penises?
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Yeah, yeah.
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I like those.
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Oh, interesting.
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I love them.
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Interesting.
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Oh, I love them.
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Balls.
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Wow.
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I I think they're fun.
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I like them.
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You okay?
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They're they are fun.
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They're fun to wiggle around and pull the things.
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Like shh put them in your mouth.
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I don't know about putting it in your mouth.
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Oh, I love them.
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Wow, you're freaking.
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Yeah, you're freaking.
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Not in that way.
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Have you ever had balls dipped in breast milk?
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I haven't.
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That's a crossover kick.
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Yeah, that might work for me.
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In the backseat of a Jeep.
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No, we're bringing up the case.
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That's where we're crossing.
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Yeah, we're crossing.
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Okay.
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Welcome back to the Wonder Pod.
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We are here with Nicole.
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Whoa.
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Okay, Nicole.
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Yes.
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You're saying yes to as much as you can right now.
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Tell us about what prompted that.
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The most surprising and positive experience you've discovered.
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And the most unexpected challenge and consequence.
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Yeah.
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This is our only question we have for you, okay?
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Well.
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Take us to the playoffs.
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Let's go big.
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No pressure.
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Yeah, I'm feeling the pressure.
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And also, when I told you that, it was like many weeks ago, and now I'm saying no to a lot of things.
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So that was a consequence.
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But yeah.
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So for okay, I want to hear about that too.
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Like what when did yes become no, you know?
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But when what prompted you saying yes to a bunch of things?
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Well, I moved to Bend in February.
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I've had a big year this year.
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This has just been a big year for Nicole.
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Yeah.
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Huge.
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Yeah.
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And I said yes to a lot of things that have felt like big no's for me in the past.
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And one of them being marriage, another one being moving.
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And like making these big life decisions that have felt so debilitating for me for so long.
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And like debilitating from a commitment standpoint.
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And just like, yeah, I was just riddled with anxiety about change and just like not able to like just like go down the slide, you know, and just like see what happens.
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Yeah.
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Um and uh yeah, so when I moved here, I set an intention to just like really be open to new experiences and new people and just like try different things and and so was your commitment to say yes even when you were scared?
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Yeah.
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Or how did you draw the line?
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Yeah, it was it's like I think I said to you when you when you asked that question, I said like I'm saying yes to things that feel like a yes in my body, and it's like that's the that's that's it.
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Whereas before you would have said no even when it felt like a yes.
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Yeah, because I was too scared.
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Yeah.
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I gotcha.
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Control.
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Yeah.
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So you started that when you moved to Bend, yeah, that was one of my intentions for starting this new chapter in life.
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What were you hoping to gain from it?
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I mean just like new experiences and also like re-kind of like I think I lost touch with my brave, like kind of more open-hearted self in this last phase of life that I had and like really allowed anxiety to like kind of you know grab me and pull me under.
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And so I I wanted to just like be brave and like try things and remember that like bold, like fiery side of myself.
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Yeah.
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I remember when I first heard you talking about this.
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Um, I think someone had just invited you on a big run or something, or a big hike, or a bike ride the next day, and you were scared, but I heard you say yes anyway, and you're like, I don't know how I'm gonna do it.
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Yeah.
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How'd it go?
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Wait, this is hilarious because this this is your friends that invited me on this run.
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And they were like, Yeah, we usually do like four miles, and we're you know, we're like, they were training for a tryout.
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Yeah, these people are not b uh bench warmers.
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This is not casual.
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No, and they're like, Yeah, she at least goes, Yeah, we start at like 6 30.
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I'm like, oh great, P.M.
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Lovely.
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I like I'm off work at the time.
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After work.
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And she goes, no, no, no, like in the morning, and we meet at six.
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And then we plunge in the room.
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And then we cold plunge in the middle of winter and hold it for like five minutes.
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Yeah, but then we go get treats afterwards.
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I'm like, okay, fuck you guys.
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But I, you know what I did?
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Okay, fuck you guys.
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I dragged my friend out there and I was like, we're gonna practice run this bitch because I want to be friends with these people, but I don't I don't want to be that bless you.
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Thank you.
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I don't want to be that person that's like, you know, go on with that.
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Yeah.
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So we ran and I literally made it a mile and a half, and I was like, I'm done.
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You know what?
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Running is not my jam.
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In my body, a mile and a half would be quite a success.
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It was a success.
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So it was.
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So nice.
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So you ended up not doing it.
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I have not doing the running.
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You did do it.
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That's the thing.
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You did it.
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But just not with those people on the day that they did the practice run.
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Okay, the practice run.
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Got a mile and a half and then was like, I will not be doing this for four miles.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I'll make friends with them some other way.
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Okay.
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By saying yes and then doing the practice round, did you run farther than you would have normally?
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Definitely.
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Love it.
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Yes.
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But then we found a baby duckling that didn't have a mom.
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I know.
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It was all by itself.
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And then I tried to save it, and then it literally to get away from me, cross this is like a big the size less than the size of my palm.
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Baby duckling.
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It crossed the Deschutes River in like definitely a class one rapid.
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It was like getting thrashed and it crossed to the other side.
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So that was became our goal.
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So we chased down You crossed the river after it?
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You swam in the river in the winter?
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It was like spring.
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How was that?
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We didn't save her.
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But we had she didn't need you to save her.
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That's kind of what I'm picking up on.
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She crossed a river.
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She was definitely like going to be food for something.
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Oh.
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And that was her trajectory.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, yeah.
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You know what?
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Back to the earth.
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That's what I'm saying.
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That's what I'm saying.
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I had to to that's what I had to tell myself to sleep at night.
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Oh, you were sad.
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I really wanted to save her.
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Fuck.
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It was fluffy stale.
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Oh it didn't have any feathers.
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No beard whiskers yet.
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Sad.
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Anyways.
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Alrighty.
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Yeah.
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The hawks gotta eat, you know.
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Okay, so what was the most unexpected and surprising thing that happened in your saying yes phase?
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Probably me being on this podcast.
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If I had asked you yesterday, would you have said no?
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Yeah.
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No, I really wanted to stretch myself and do this.
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I actually think the biggest wait, what was your original question?
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What was the most surprising or unexpected thing about saying yes?
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Getting this new job and like taking this big new job.
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So previously you would have not even tried.
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I wouldn't even have applied for the job.
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Nicole, I'm really proud of you.
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Yeah.
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Like major growth.
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I know.
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And you want to say what the job is?
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Yeah.
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I just got my dream job at the Nature Conservancy working for the freshwater department, um, helping with their development operations work.
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So I'm really excited.
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It's your dream job.
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It is.
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It totally is like TNC is where I've always wanted to end up.
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Okay.
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And like really dig into that work.
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So I'm really excited.
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I want to know what where the moment was where you were like, oh, I need to say yes less.
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How that felt, and kind of like how you've been evaluating, like re-evaluating the balance now that you're like, okay, we gotta re- we gotta re-recalibrate a little bit.
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Yeah, that's a good question.
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Last year.
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I was wondering if that was the mic.
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That's the ice cream truck.
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If they live out here, yeah.
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It's very popular.
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We're in the woods.
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We're in the woods.
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They found us.
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It kind of sounds a little fucked up, doesn't it?
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Everything out here is a little fucked up.
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It sounds like not on tune.
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He's trying his best.
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Should we take a little break?
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To get some ice cream?
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Yeah.
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I don't want any.
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Do you want some?
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No, I'm good.
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Definitely not.
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I don't know.
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Who suggested that?
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That is stupid.
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Um anyway.
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Yeah, so last year I decided that I was like gonna get better at planning.
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That was like my big goal because I just felt like life was passing me by.
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And these big opportunities were just like, I was just dropping the ball.
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I wasn't planning things, I wasn't seeing like old friends, and I just was sort of like, I need to like really take life by the boobs.
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Grab it, grab it by the boobs, yeah, and just like then dig in.
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That's gonna be the title for this podcast.
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Yeah, yeah.
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By the boobs.
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By the boobs, yeah.
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Um, and so that was like my big goal for this year, and I have successfully done that.
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Nice.
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I'm really good at planning now.
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I have a planner.
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How did you become a planner?
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Oh, I literally taught myself how to plan.
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I'm so ADHD, it's insane.
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Planning has never been something I can do.
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And I set the goal and I was like, I'm gonna get good at planning.
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I bought this like really awesome planner that kind of helps you scaffold like planning and goals.
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Scaffold.
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Nice.
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Thank you.
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It's corporate lingo.
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Um, and yeah, I'm just like really digging into the planning thing, but then I accidentally like majorly overplanned this year.
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Yeah, like not a lot of wiggle room and breathing.
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Yeah.
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Like I didn't even leave time for like the work week.
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It's just been insane.
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And so now I'm like, I need to really scale it back.
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Really scale it back on the S's.
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Yeah, way overshot.
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That's hilarious.
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Way overshot.
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But I mean, it's like it's how it goes.
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Yeah.
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And what's funny?
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Especially when it's a new thing.
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It's like you're you're gonna oscillate back and forth a little bit until you find where the comfortable zone is.
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Exactly.
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In our friend group, we refer to the person who's planning an upcoming event as Nicole.
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And it's not because of you.
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It's just a coincidence.
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Really?
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Yeah.
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Like for the camping, uh, for the what is it?
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Um the summer camp.
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Summer camp for adults.
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Yeah.
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For adults.
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Elise's Nicole.
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Meaning Elise is planning it.
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I feel like we're gonna need to change that because I'm like, I am infiltrating this group, this friendship group, and I don't want to plan everything.
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That's not what's gonna happen.
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Nicole, we're really sorry, but um, we're all gonna take the backseat now that you're here.
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Yeah, we're gonna need a new name.
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Frederick?
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Um, it needs to be like more like Nicole.
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Natalie?
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Um, that's no, Natalie is not a planner for sure.
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I don't know.
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Natalie could totally be a planner.
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She sounds like she has a ponytail.
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No ponytail.
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What about it?
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I feel like Maybe Carl.
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This is all wrong.
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Nick.
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Not as fun.
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I don't like it.
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Nicole like has her shit together.
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She knows what's going on.
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This isn't you, though.
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Wow.
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This isn't you.
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Aspiration.
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This is pre-Nicole Nicole.
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How did how did we choose Nicole?
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Because that's such a good, fabulous name.
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I know, right?
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Something about it.
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Yeah, it just like rolls right off the tongue.
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It happened last year when we were planning out our summer events.
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Wow.
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Elise and I came up with it, I think.
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Well, we're gonna need to change that.
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Anyway, so okay.
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Um, and now you're saying no, and how does that feel?
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Well, I haven't said no yet.
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It's it's gonna it's coming.
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Yeah, it's coming.
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Yeah.
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Well, you said yes when your fiance asked you to marry her.
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I did say yes to that.
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Oh my gosh.
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But to be fair, I asked first.
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Yeah.
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Oh, let me see your ring!
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I've been waiting.
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I've been waiting since I met you.
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I'm obsessed with it.
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That's so unique.
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This is a really fun story too, because my grandmother, I had family juice.
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My grandmother was like, hey, I have extra, like, I have these diamonds that you can like, you know, they're yours for when you're ready.
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And I was like, okay, I don't fuck diamonds.
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I was like in high school.
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I don't know.
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Who knows who understands what a diamond is?
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I don't know.
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So right, exactly.
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Yeah.
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So she but then when I told my mom I was gonna propose to Crystal, she was like, Oh, you have these jewels, let's like look at them.
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And we have these families, and then there were two of these, these little baguettes and baguettes, but they're called tapered baguettes.
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Okay, if anybody is privy with diamonds, and so I was like, Let's make matching rings.
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Oh, you have matching rings, sort of.
00:18:34.480 --> 00:18:43.680
So I designed her Chris's to be more like a little more mask and like it's a little different than mine, and mine is a bit more like thin.
00:18:44.079 --> 00:18:46.079
Feminine, yeah.
00:18:46.559 --> 00:18:48.960
But we have the same diamond, which is kind of fun.
00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:52.799
So, how did you um how do you design a ring?
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Yeah, I just like did a bunch of research and brought a bunch of inspiration pictures to the jeweler, and I was like, I want you to take this diamond out of this ring and put it into this sort of looking vibe.
00:19:05.039 --> 00:19:05.440
Wow.
00:19:05.680 --> 00:19:07.200
Yeah, that seems fun.
00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:14.319
It was fun, although it's like kind of stressful because you're you have this idea and then they can't see the idea.
00:19:14.559 --> 00:19:16.319
So there's like many iterations.
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Sure, sure.
00:19:17.759 --> 00:19:18.960
It's like getting a tattoo.
00:19:19.279 --> 00:19:24.960
Yeah, I think if I were to do it again, I would not have done this, but it's really cute in theory.
00:19:25.279 --> 00:19:25.599
Yeah.
00:19:25.920 --> 00:19:26.799
And in practice, right?
00:19:26.880 --> 00:19:27.839
I mean it ended up cute.
00:19:28.000 --> 00:19:28.559
It did it, yeah.
00:19:28.640 --> 00:19:29.759
They ended up really nice.
00:19:29.839 --> 00:19:35.680
But so Lauren, I just talked to Lauren recently, and she said that whoever proposed recently, Chris, right?
00:19:35.759 --> 00:19:39.440
Yeah, it was a funny story, and she said to ask you about that.
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Love it.
00:19:41.839 --> 00:19:46.240
Well, seems like he's like, Some of us thought it was funny, I guess.
00:19:48.480 --> 00:19:51.519
Yeah, so okay, the story of the proposal.
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I had proposed to Chris in February, and I've been pestering her.
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And I've been pestering her for you.
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Thank you.
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Because somebody else needs like we need to put the pressure.
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She needs her fat rock.
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I need my tiny rock.
00:20:07.200 --> 00:20:14.799
And so I was pestering and pestering, and I thought it was coming this July when we're going to Europe to hike the Mont Blanc Trail.
00:20:14.960 --> 00:20:16.160
I was like convinced.
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I literally was like fully.
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That was the plan, right?
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It was in the calendar locked and loaded.
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I I I thought for sure it would be this.
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But I guess somewhere along the line I said that I'd want my mom and sister to be there because somewhere I said that.
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Sure.
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And so she heard that.
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Oh.
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And I was in Savannah, Georgia for a work conference for a week.
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And then my sister and mom drove down from North Carolina to like meet me and have a girls' weekend.
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And I had literally no freaking clue.
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Like, I was not even sensing this at all.
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And then um my mom and sister are like, okay, here's the itinerary, and they were like putting in all this energy into this trip.
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And I'm like, okay, weird.
00:21:02.720 --> 00:21:04.880
Why are they putting so much thought and energy into this trip?
00:21:05.039 --> 00:21:07.440
Yeah, like there's only one Nicole step off.
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Yeah.
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And my yeah, my sister like made a full itinerary, and I like, I don't know, it was just like a lot.
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Like laminated.
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Yeah.
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And then I get there and they're like, okay, we're gonna go like go to this um picnic, and like everybody needs to get dressed up, and it's at this very particular place at this very particular time.
00:21:25.680 --> 00:21:28.880
And I was like, okay, like this is fucking weird.
00:21:28.960 --> 00:21:35.119
And then they're like bringing champagne and roses, and I was like starting to get a I was like, okay, something's happening.
00:21:35.279 --> 00:21:38.559
And then we get to this farm, and I'm like, oh, so cool.
00:21:38.640 --> 00:21:40.640
There's like all these ponds and there's alligators.
00:21:40.799 --> 00:21:43.039
Did you guys know there's alligators in Georgia?
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No, super cool.
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They're really, it's really fun, really great stuff.
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Go swimming, don't.
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So I was like looking at the alligators and like, oh, it's so cool.
00:21:52.960 --> 00:21:55.920
And my sister's like, we should just go right over there right now.
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And I'm like, oh just a picnic, you know, we're chilling.
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Yeah, we're chilling.
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But she's like, it's also like 95 degrees and like 99.9% humidity.
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Like it is fucking hot in Georgia.
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Yeah.
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And so she's like herding me over to this like beautiful tree, but there's a camera setup.
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And I'm like, okay, definitely someone's getting married there.
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So like we cannot go over there.
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And she's like, like she's freaking out.
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And I'm like, okay, this is happening.
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Like something's happening.
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Oh my god.
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And then all of a sudden, Crystal crawls out from behind the tree, like a little heathen.
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Like she's literally like hair crawling out from behind the tree.
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And she is drenched in sweat.
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Like she gets to me, and she's literally like pouring down her face.
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She's wearing these like really see-through clothes.
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And you just like she's fucking drenched.
00:22:52.319 --> 00:22:53.759
She's been waiting there for a while, right?
00:22:54.960 --> 00:22:56.160
And you didn't know she'd be there?
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I know I didn't know.
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So I didn't know she'd be there.
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Uh-huh.
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And um, I'm like, what are I at that point?
00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:07.359
I knew what was happening, and I wouldn't let her like say the words out loud.
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I was just like, what are you doing?
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I'm just screaming at the room.
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And then I ripped the ring out of her hands and you know, the whole thing.
00:23:15.759 --> 00:23:16.640
So it was good.
00:23:16.960 --> 00:23:18.400
She didn't even get a chance to ask you?
00:23:18.640 --> 00:23:20.640
No, I didn't let her finish her script.
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I was just like, give me the fucking ring.
00:23:23.200 --> 00:23:23.920
You're late.
00:23:24.079 --> 00:23:24.720
Yeah.
00:23:25.119 --> 00:23:26.880
How does it feel to have your ring on?
00:23:27.119 --> 00:23:28.319
It feels really good.
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I love it.
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Is it like super heavy?
00:23:31.279 --> 00:23:32.960
No, it's a tiny, okay.
00:23:34.160 --> 00:23:35.599
It's a tiny diamond.
00:23:35.839 --> 00:23:36.960
How many carls?
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I don't know.
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Small.
00:23:41.359 --> 00:23:42.720
Well, congratulations.
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But I love it.
00:23:43.759 --> 00:23:44.000
Yeah.
00:23:44.400 --> 00:23:47.599
What is life like now that you are double engaged?
00:23:49.759 --> 00:23:49.920
No.
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Are you sure?
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Because now you have a ring.
00:23:52.400 --> 00:23:57.119
I mean, it's like really sweet to feel it like to be in the engagement, you know, phase of life.
00:23:57.359 --> 00:23:57.599
Yeah.
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Yeah.
00:23:58.240 --> 00:24:01.440
Um, but now everybody's like, when are you getting married?
00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:03.359
Bitches and hoes, am I right?
00:24:03.599 --> 00:24:06.400
Literally, like, it's every When are you getting married?
00:24:07.359 --> 00:24:08.240
Undetermined.
00:24:08.480 --> 00:24:08.799
Okay.
00:24:09.119 --> 00:24:09.440
Yeah.
00:24:11.039 --> 00:24:12.480
There's no no idea.
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No rush.
00:24:13.920 --> 00:24:14.480
No rush.
00:24:15.039 --> 00:24:18.799
Oh, and you you said you would you would not mind being engaged for years.
00:24:19.119 --> 00:24:19.440
Yeah.
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I would.
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You would mind?
00:24:22.240 --> 00:24:23.279
Yeah, like let's do it.
00:24:23.599 --> 00:24:24.079
Oh, okay.
00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:25.599
Would you rather no engagement?
00:24:27.039 --> 00:24:29.359
Whoa, I didn't know that was legal.
00:24:32.240 --> 00:24:32.799
I don't know.
00:24:32.960 --> 00:24:39.519
Not necessarily Well, I'm not interested in getting married, but if I were to be interested in getting married, I would want the engagement to be no more than six months.
00:24:39.839 --> 00:24:41.279
So you don't want to get married at all?
00:24:41.680 --> 00:24:42.559
At this point, no.
00:24:42.880 --> 00:24:45.839
I don't have I don't have any feelings of interest in that.
00:24:46.079 --> 00:24:48.640
So if you were like, I want to be your life partner forever.
00:24:48.880 --> 00:24:49.200
Yeah.
00:24:50.400 --> 00:24:52.240
You just don't need to put it, you don't need to put it on a piece of paper.
00:24:52.480 --> 00:24:52.640
Right.
00:24:52.720 --> 00:24:52.880
Yeah.
00:24:53.119 --> 00:24:53.920
Would you get rings?
00:24:54.400 --> 00:24:55.039
I don't know.
00:24:55.200 --> 00:24:55.920
I don't want to ring.
00:24:56.160 --> 00:24:56.799
I don't want a ring.
00:24:56.880 --> 00:24:57.359
That makes it.
00:24:58.640 --> 00:24:59.119
Too tied down.
00:25:00.480 --> 00:25:06.079
See, I've had I had this exact same response to marriage for so long.
00:25:06.559 --> 00:25:06.880
Yeah.
00:25:07.039 --> 00:25:07.440
Yeah.
00:25:08.000 --> 00:25:08.240
Yeah.
00:25:08.799 --> 00:25:09.519
You were talking about that.
00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:10.880
It's still weird.
00:25:11.200 --> 00:25:11.680
It's weird.
00:25:11.759 --> 00:25:14.480
It's a weird societal construct.
00:25:14.799 --> 00:25:19.119
Yeah, there's a lot of tradition around it that does not appeal to me in the slightest.
00:25:20.559 --> 00:25:23.920
Especially like the actual wedding and all of that.
00:25:24.079 --> 00:25:26.559
And obviously you can do it however you want, for sure.
00:25:28.000 --> 00:25:30.079
You could just do you and three of your best friends.
00:25:30.960 --> 00:25:31.279
Yeah.
00:25:31.599 --> 00:25:34.720
But then you realize once And maybe the person I'm marrying.
00:25:34.960 --> 00:25:35.279
Maybe.
00:25:35.680 --> 00:25:36.400
Maybe them.
00:25:36.960 --> 00:25:38.960
Or just send them like a postcard.
00:25:39.200 --> 00:25:39.759
A memo.
00:25:41.359 --> 00:25:42.480
Send them the invoice.
00:25:42.640 --> 00:25:42.960
Yeah.
00:25:43.920 --> 00:25:44.480
We don't know.
00:25:46.079 --> 00:25:46.960
That's a good idea.
00:25:47.839 --> 00:26:01.359
Yeah, but then like what I feel like once we've gotten engaged, or like, you know, we have we're in that phase, every there's society is like creeping in, waiting to like make it be what it's supposed to be.
00:26:01.759 --> 00:26:04.160
And then after you get married, it'll be like, so are you having kids?
00:26:04.240 --> 00:26:04.880
When are you having kids?
00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:05.920
When are you having kids?
00:26:06.240 --> 00:26:15.359
Yeah, and I realize like that's how everybody we're not we are not all designed to like fit into the mold, but we're just like so.
00:26:15.440 --> 00:26:19.119
That's why I I've stopped trying to ask people like, what do you do for work?
00:26:19.279 --> 00:26:20.799
Or like Yeah, yeah.
00:26:21.119 --> 00:26:23.279
I'm trying to ask people, what are you curious about?
00:26:23.440 --> 00:26:23.759
Yeah.
00:26:24.079 --> 00:26:27.519
Or like, what are what's what are you having fun with?
00:26:27.680 --> 00:26:28.799
I don't know, just like different shit.
00:26:29.119 --> 00:26:35.440
You can get to know people without asking them these like really targeted brand.
00:26:35.680 --> 00:26:36.400
Yeah, rigid questions.
00:26:36.480 --> 00:26:38.240
It's just like that's not what I I don't need to know that.
00:26:38.480 --> 00:26:41.039
Yeah, I asked I met a new person reluctantly.
00:26:41.119 --> 00:26:45.119
I'm not really into strangers right now, but I met a new person in the past week.
00:26:45.440 --> 00:26:49.920
And we were like shooting the shit, and then they were like, So what do you do for work?
00:26:50.079 --> 00:26:51.119
And I just felt disappointed.
00:26:51.440 --> 00:26:52.400
Yeah, you were like, God.
00:26:53.440 --> 00:26:56.880
I mean, I I love what I do, but I don't know.
00:26:56.960 --> 00:27:06.640
We were talking about like uh uh like unexpected topics before that, and then it just we went into the unexpected, and I was like, this isn't as fun.
00:27:06.880 --> 00:27:07.119
Yeah.
00:27:07.599 --> 00:27:09.920
So why are you not feeling into strangers right now?
00:27:11.759 --> 00:27:22.559
Well, my brother thinks it's because I was in an exploratory phase before this, and needed to I was looking for some answers, some clarity just in general in life and about myself.
00:27:22.640 --> 00:27:30.720
And now that I have more answers, more clarity, I'm not needing to like seek it out more and I can just enjoy what I found.
00:27:31.359 --> 00:27:32.240
Very good observation.
00:27:32.559 --> 00:27:32.960
And I agree.
00:27:33.759 --> 00:27:34.160
Interesting.
00:27:34.559 --> 00:27:38.000
Yeah, I'm like a hanging out with my friends, maybe.
00:27:38.799 --> 00:27:39.279
Maybe.
00:27:39.519 --> 00:27:40.319
Yeah, that makes sense.
00:27:40.559 --> 00:27:41.759
I just like hanging out with my friends.
00:27:41.839 --> 00:27:42.799
I really like you guys.
00:27:42.960 --> 00:27:46.000
Like I really, really, really, really like you guys.
00:27:46.319 --> 00:27:47.200
That's why you're my friend.
00:27:48.400 --> 00:28:02.480
For yeah, and I and I don't feel interested, and this isn't to offend anybody or to make me feel like I have, you know, the biggest butt on the block or anything, but you do have a big butt.
00:28:02.880 --> 00:28:04.640
I do, I do, I do have on this block, probably.
00:28:04.799 --> 00:28:04.960
Yeah.
00:28:05.039 --> 00:28:05.119
Yeah.
00:28:05.279 --> 00:28:05.839
It's a bubble.
00:28:06.160 --> 00:28:09.440
I don't feel interest in making new friends.
00:28:09.839 --> 00:28:10.640
That's so fair.
00:28:10.799 --> 00:28:11.759
I'm like at all.
00:28:12.079 --> 00:28:13.119
Really trying to make new friends.
00:28:13.359 --> 00:28:14.240
You can have all of mine.
00:28:14.319 --> 00:28:15.440
We can share all of mine.
00:28:15.680 --> 00:28:16.640
You'll like all of them.
00:28:16.799 --> 00:28:19.039
I well, you never know.
00:28:20.640 --> 00:28:21.759
If you never try.
00:28:23.119 --> 00:28:24.720
If you never try, another no.
00:28:25.039 --> 00:28:25.680
You can have them.
00:28:25.920 --> 00:28:26.160
Have them.
00:28:26.319 --> 00:28:26.559
Take them.
00:28:26.720 --> 00:28:27.359
I would love that.
00:28:27.519 --> 00:28:27.759
Yeah.
00:28:27.839 --> 00:28:30.160
I have I have a lot of really high quality friends.
00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:32.079
I just have my roster is full.
00:28:32.160 --> 00:28:33.039
I'm quoting someone.
00:28:33.119 --> 00:28:34.480
I heard someone say that this week.
00:28:34.640 --> 00:28:34.799
Yeah.
00:28:35.039 --> 00:28:35.839
My roster is full.
00:28:36.079 --> 00:28:37.039
And I'm very grateful.
00:28:37.200 --> 00:28:37.359
Yeah.
00:28:37.599 --> 00:28:37.759
Yeah.
00:28:37.839 --> 00:28:41.200
I had I heard someone described as I'm open to new acquaintances, but not really new friends.
00:28:41.519 --> 00:28:42.880
What were you there in that conversation?
00:28:43.119 --> 00:28:43.680
No, different.
00:28:44.160 --> 00:28:44.400
Okay.
00:28:44.640 --> 00:28:46.400
Are you feeling that way as well?
00:28:46.960 --> 00:28:49.680
Uh he needs artist friends.
00:28:50.000 --> 00:28:50.799
I need artist friends.
00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:52.000
Allow me to speak for you.
00:28:52.240 --> 00:28:52.640
Thank you.
00:28:52.799 --> 00:28:59.279
Um right now I have so many personal projects going on that it's kind of like hard to think about.
00:28:59.519 --> 00:29:03.279
Like even maintaining my current friendships feels like a lot of work right now.
00:29:03.920 --> 00:29:10.000
Um but before, like back in the late winter.
00:29:10.400 --> 00:29:12.960
I feel like I was looking for I was open to new friends.
00:29:13.200 --> 00:29:13.519
Yeah.
00:29:13.759 --> 00:29:18.480
And I think probably in the late summer, early fall, I will be open again.
00:29:18.720 --> 00:29:19.039
Yeah.
00:29:19.200 --> 00:29:19.359
Oh.
00:29:20.720 --> 00:29:22.720
I do feel like that kind of happens.
00:29:22.799 --> 00:29:28.079
Like summer is crazy, and then like winter, we're all like, let's get together.
00:29:28.480 --> 00:29:29.200
Call each other.
00:29:29.440 --> 00:29:29.599
Yeah.
00:29:29.920 --> 00:29:31.440
Eat soup while while you watch each other.
00:29:31.680 --> 00:29:33.359
It's dark inside here a little bit in the winter.
00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:34.400
Like it's cool.
00:29:34.559 --> 00:29:34.880
It's cool.
00:29:34.960 --> 00:29:35.440
It's the snow.
00:29:35.759 --> 00:29:36.319
It's sunny.
00:29:36.400 --> 00:29:37.680
It's sunny, actually.
00:29:38.079 --> 00:29:40.000
I mean, it depends what your baseline is, I guess.
00:29:40.079 --> 00:29:42.559
But okay, while Alaska.
00:29:42.799 --> 00:29:43.279
Yeah, exactly.
00:29:43.680 --> 00:29:44.000
Yeah.
00:29:45.039 --> 00:29:46.880
The sun doesn't shine for six months there.
00:29:47.119 --> 00:29:47.440
Yeah.
00:29:47.680 --> 00:29:49.440
So it's better than that.
00:29:49.519 --> 00:29:50.400
But it's still dark.
00:29:50.480 --> 00:29:52.960
I mean, it's, you know, the sun goes down at like four o'clock.
00:29:53.200 --> 00:29:53.599
Yeah.
00:29:53.839 --> 00:29:54.319
Yeah.
00:29:55.839 --> 00:29:56.319
Well.
00:29:56.720 --> 00:29:57.759
Thank you for your time.
00:29:58.079 --> 00:29:58.880
Thanks for being on the show.
00:29:59.119 --> 00:29:59.839
Thanks for being great.
00:29:59.920 --> 00:30:00.720
Thanks for having me.
00:30:00.799 --> 00:30:01.440
I love you guys.
00:30:01.599 --> 00:30:01.920
I love you.
00:30:02.240 --> 00:30:02.799
Love you too.
00:30:03.279 --> 00:30:06.240
So that's it.
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That's it.
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That's all we're doing now.
