#167 Is It Normal To Keep A Used Pregnancy Test?

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you noticed. They took a phone call outside after midway through a phone call that we were on together.
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Speaker 2: Outside, you're taking phone calls left right center. Who was it, April?
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Speaker 1: It was April. She had to go to the KINDI because Macy had a tick and they're not allowed to remove it. So April had to drive down to the kidney just remove the tick.
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Speaker 2: I know, the bloody red tape.
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Speaker 1: She rings me up and she goes, hang on, hold that thought.
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Speaker 2: Welcome back to two doting guards. I'm Matty J and I'm Ash and this is a podcast all about parenting. It is the good, it is.
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Speaker 1: The bad and the real Late there he is.
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Speaker 2: We don't give advice the tick.
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Speaker 1: We don't the tick. So she rang me and she said I've got to go and tommy situations. I'm like okay, and she's like, I don't know how to use this machine that she has. What do you mean the machine like the tick remover use your hand? No, because if the head stays in there, it keeps burying. And she's only a little can helmet. Sorry, sorry I shouldn't swear. You shouldn't, but fuck like.
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Speaker 2: We're growing into a weak pathetic race, aren't We go on like there's a child there being attacked, mauled by a tick you just mean the human right, and everyone's like, I can't touch it, it's against policy. Macy's like, please help me. April gets her and she's like, do you have the tick removal machine? Oh it's not it's not charged. All right, we'll just give it a second. Poor Macy is just getting attacked.
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Speaker 1: We had a machine ourselves in case of such incidents.
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Speaker 2: What is a tick removal machine?
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Speaker 1: I think it just removes it safely, so it takes the head with it. I've never seen such a thing me either. Because she ran just like how do I use it? I'm like I don't know. I'm like she was like, well, can you talk me through it? I was like, no, YouTube it seriously, Macy north bond right now take the tick away. I don't know. How do you have never used it?
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Speaker 2: So anyway, that's watching through ads because she doesn't have premium in YouTube.
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Speaker 1: Wait, let me scam it. But she's gonna let me know how so I'll keep updated if I if I get a call. But everything seems to be fine. But first tick in counter for young Macie. Poor thing.
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Speaker 2: That's exciting.
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Speaker 1: She's fragile, she's not, she's she's robust, she's a silent assassin.
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Speaker 2: This is strengthening her. Oh, it's all about building the immune system.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely, it's a good thing. It is. Yeah, I think she'd be more tics. Have you had a tick on your nuts? Hm? Very good question. I don't believe I have. I've had chlamydia. Nice, but no, that's because you've cooalas. Sorry, I'm not allowed to swear. Oh god, I'm allowed to swear. We can't for those peacock you're gonta let me fly awed to swear because you YouTube, Well, we can beat those out. But for our listeners who just go with audio, flack flack fa fuk fluk fulk. Thanks sorry, Jess, right now just looking at the at a time skyrocketing. I had a tick on my nuts when I was in primary school one time blew up like a balloon.
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Speaker 2: Did you remove it with a tick machine or who got rid of it?
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Speaker 1: I don't remember.
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Speaker 2: Oh, you can't start a story like that. I'm trying to.
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Speaker 1: Let well, it was definitely a doctor. I'm not let my mum need my nuts. But I remember was like my nuts a sort that I took about on my pants and I was like, whoa, like huge, Anyway, that's that story.
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Speaker 2: We're housekeeping, we have housekeeper, we have thank you, We've got a lot of mail in the letterbox were to get through. But first of all, we are under attack. We are right now, like it not from ticks but from another podcast.
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Speaker 1: Yes, and and their listeners. I would say, you're I'm I'm being attacked for a similar reason, but it's a bit more disgusting. So but do you tell your attack what you're being attacked by? And then I'll just bat on the back of that. Well.
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Speaker 2: A certain conversation that I have with my wife, which I thought was a private conversation, right, she said, can I talk about the viseector me chat? And I said, I can't really remember what I said, but it was it was a.
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Speaker 1: While ago, like make sure you're paying Ash in a really bad.
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Speaker 2: Life attack Ash, not man. And it was about the fact that we're not going to have a fourth I's gonna say third chart.
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Speaker 1: I was a bit late, and.
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Speaker 2: Laura said, can you get a vasectomy? And I said, let me just like what is what is? What is this thing?
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Speaker 1: You need to research. I want to do my research. It's your body.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like for buy a car, I'm going to call it the dealership. I'm going to find out the engine science. That's a lie.
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Speaker 1: You don't walk into a dealership. They're like, you want to lose your nuts, like straight away, like he's in.
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Speaker 2: I said, I just need to do my research. There was a slight bit of hesitation. Sure, I admit that.
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Speaker 1: It's an invasive surgery.
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Speaker 2: It's life changing, permanent.
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Speaker 1: They say, when you do the process, yeah, yeah, when you do when you do that, okay, yeah, when you do the process, the doctor does say to you, I just want you to understand this is considered an irreversible procedure. That's what they do say word for words. So if any one wants to come after you, I have been in the seat and heard it word for word.
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Speaker 2: And people ash. This was cut down to a video was posted online.
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Speaker 1: I asked Matt if he would get a visect me. It didn't go down.
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Speaker 3: As well as I thought it was going to go down. Like I thought that Matt and I were very much on the same page around like this is the third baby, is it? We are done?
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Speaker 4: He wants more.
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Speaker 1: No, I think that they have this thing where they're.
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Speaker 3: Like, it makes me more manly, more powerful, must retain my powerspuri.
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Speaker 1: Conversation angers me.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I said to him, Okay, once the baby's born, would you go and have a vasecto me? And his response was I, actually, I don't know, hey, And I was like, what do you mean you don't know? And he was like, well, you know, just like the effects on your body. And I was like, Oh, if we're going to talk about the affair on your bid, I was like, how about we talk about the seventeen years that I was on the pill for, then talk about the three pregnancies, and then talk about Metaphorse and anyone who has had a successful vaseectomy and they're absolutely thrilled about it, please slide into his DMS and tell him that this is going to be the best decision he ever makes for his entire life, because I just think he needs the encouragement.
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Speaker 2: And I've been called all sorts of names under the sun, a pussy, a loser, guilty, but I don't need to hear on social media.
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Speaker 1: I think you'd allowed to take your time to make.
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Speaker 2: The decision, and I'm just I will, I'll do it. I will do it. Okay, I wanted to cross all the t's and dot all the Ye.
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Speaker 1: You've got to ease into it than you. You can't just run headfirst into it without any sort of research like many.
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Speaker 2: I'm not even worrying a helmet.
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Speaker 1: I don't even think about it. I did it to try and get sex.
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Speaker 2: And that my friend, is genius. It's how we operate.
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Speaker 1: That is how we operate.
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Speaker 2: So yeah, and Lord tacked. Yeah, I just think I think for we're also to the dotors out there.
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Speaker 1: Where were you, guys? Fully, no one's got your back for.
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Speaker 2: You sitting back watching me get attacked.
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Speaker 1: Do you know what they were doing? They were laughing at how three fully grown women were laughing about the fact that my penis was infected. Yea, yes, I never said infected. Ever, if you go back to the past.
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Speaker 2: Would you say, what's wrong with you?
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Speaker 1: It was bruised? I guess I went on a bender. Yes, that was irresponsible.
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Speaker 2: I told Lauri, we've got to you fuck.
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Speaker 1: Anyway. I had three grown, somewhat attractive women. They're laughing at your bro, laughing at me to my face, and they actually sent me the video to be like, hey, can you approve this? Then, knowing full well that I would have been intoxicated.
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Speaker 2: Don't message asked till nine o'clock on Friday.
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Speaker 1: You can have whatever you like.
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Speaker 2: At that time we actually got naked photos approved.
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Speaker 1: The Daily Mail's got a bunch of aked photosho laugh like whatever, post fine if you need some more.
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Speaker 2: It was that are you okay? Have you been copying it?
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Speaker 1: Oh? Nah, that's fine? Okay, Well, for the record, people laughing at me I the streets, But it's probably for other reasons. I'm glad that we're in housekeeping, Matthew, because I have some.
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Speaker 2: Oh what have you got? Picked?
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Speaker 1: In my room? That wash?
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Speaker 2: That was fantastic.
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Speaker 2: It will be September four in the city at the Apple Store on George Street.
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Speaker 1: Yes, the big glass building. And how much free, beautiful, make sure your registry you're missed out.
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Speaker 2: Not five dollars, not twenty dollars. It's free.
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Speaker 1: You went up, not fifteen, twenty, not five or ten, but free anyway.
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Speaker 2: See. The other housekeeping is what else we've got here? We've got what else we got.
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Speaker 1: I'm back, I'm here, I've returned.
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Speaker 2: Welcome back, thank you. I do actually have just a little couple little messages. Well, okay, a few listeners. Okay, I'm just going to read them out.
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Speaker 1: Oh, just listen.
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Speaker 2: This one is from Elaine. This one is from Elaine. This is from Alane. And she just and end her parenting.
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Speaker 1: Story just randomly. Yeah I love that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, safe space, very safe place, no judgment.
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Speaker 1: Well, well I am a bit but her.
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Speaker 2: We cannot defend the actions of life on cut listeners who were probably here right now.
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Speaker 1: Sure, but I'm allowed to laugh at the story if it's funny.
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Speaker 2: She says, my parenting story. My then, oh my god, my then two and a half year old son also named Oscar. Congratulations, good name, had just done a pool in the toilet, and he yelled out, ma'am yeap. I come in, and he's, as usual, waiting for me with his bum and with his bum in the air, hands on the ground. Oscar is chatting about all sorts while was patiently waiting for me to wipe his bum. When I realize I need to grab a new toilet roll, I turn around to grab a new role out of the vanity cupboard, and as I turned back, our dog, who follows me everywhere, had beat me to it. No, I started licking Oscar's bum clean.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, have I told you this story? No?
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Speaker 2: Oscar happily still chatting away, not realizing what was happening. Never ever did I think I would watch a scene like that play out parenting the best job in the world.
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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, what do you do? Just let it happen? I mean, it's already happened. It's sort isn't it illegal? Isn't it? There's got to be some legalities there.
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Speaker 2: I mean, geez, yeah, I just you gotta it's funny, very funny. Do you tell Oscar what's just happened?
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Speaker 1: Or do you wait till he's eighteen eighteenth birthday story.
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Speaker 2: Bring it up.
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Speaker 1: Boom.
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Speaker 2: That is great that, Oh my Oscar, you had sex with a dog in the to.
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Speaker 1: Literally, oh my god. I'm sure it's not the first time it's ever happened, not to that family, but I mean to like anyone, but also the go on ash, it's funny like a dog's name again, Iggy and I do have a We finished housekeeping because I do have a story about you.
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Speaker 2: It's it for housekeeping. I've got another story. I want to save it for next week.
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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I'm glad you brought up my dog because there was something we found out about one of April's friends and my dogs, my dog of late, which I thought was very, very entertained. So April she quite often goes to little dinners with their friends, as she does. And one of her friends by the name of Tanya, who is a data she's a longtime listener listen to every episode. She said to April the other night, Hey, I've got something to admit to you. April, what's going on? Okay? Okay, so yeah, everything's fine, but she said, look back in twenty twenty. Okay, and yeah, my dog's eleven years old now, so my dog would have been six at the time. She took a little trip to Taiwan, not my dog, April's friend, just to clear that right.
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Speaker 2: She does love to travel.
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Speaker 1: She does. She does like to travel. And for some unknown reason, and we don't know why, April's friend thought that my dog was dying, Okay with me, Yeah, do you know what? Was just? We have no idea.
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Speaker 2: Something happening or was it just? I mean, Iggy does look unwell. She has big sleepy pussy eyes, and she does not stinks as well.
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Speaker 1: That's because I don't that's all cosmetic. That's all cosmetic. It's not life threatning anything else. At least it's got all its legs yeah see spy see. Anyway, so she just thought the dog was dying. I thought the dog was dying. And Tanya is quite an EmPATH. Okay, she's quite a thoughtful person, and I love that about her so much. So she went to Taiwan with the thought of my dog, a six year old dog was dying for some reason. We had no idea. So what she did is she got a street artist to paint a picture of my dog off from a picture on Instagram, which I'll show you shortly. So she went all the way to Taiwan, she got the painting done, she turned around from Taiwan, came all the way home to realize the dog was still alive, hid the whole story. Five years later she find she was so embarrassed. Apparently five years later she's built up the courage to finally tell the story to April, which I thought was hilarious that she's got this picture. So this is the dog in question. Okay, that's the dog in question and them listening okay, and this is the picture. Oh what so what are they doing? So what's happened is she's gone to Taiwan, thought I'm going to do this lovely thing for my friends and get a mural of their dog painted by a street artist. I don't know how much it costs. Right, she's done all that.
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Speaker 2: She's not the worst.
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Speaker 1: It's weird. And then she's traveled all the way back with this physical painting. There's a physical painting of this. This is a picture of it rolled up or how did she travel? No, it's like on like a street artist board. God traveled all the way back only to land back in the country, and I don't know whether she's come over with it, seeing the dog is still very healthy and hidden it and not said anything, well.
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Speaker 2: Hang on and saying why wouldn't you just say, like, hey, I know you guys love Iggy. Here's a photo of her.
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Speaker 1: She was she panicked and she hit it.
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Speaker 2: Why is she hit it?
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Speaker 1: In it? She hit it within. So she's moved houses a few times too, so she's taken it with her. Been to embarrassed to tell anybody. He got the mouth right though, And apparently she has like a three or four page eulogy written for my dog that she's refusing to give up because she's too embarrassed.
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Speaker 2: I mean, it's a bit like the Queen Mother. You know, everyone thought she was going to pass away.
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Speaker 1: She just kept on. She kept on going for years. Iggy the cockroach five years later, as she tried to.
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Speaker 2: She looked after the dog, try to feed the dog, and trying to tub.
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Speaker 1: Trying to work out why she thought the dog was dying. There was never the only other time the dog has been unwell when it had to have teeth out, that was it.
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Speaker 2: That's weird. That's weird. What are you gonna do?
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Speaker 1: With the photo. I don't know. Probably I don't keep her forever because I think the story is hilarious, the fact that she dis like was too embarrassed to admit it to us for so long. And then I was got a new.
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Speaker 2: Therapist and they're like, you've got to get the Yeah, close the circle.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, when Iggy dies, I'll get the eulogy. That's what's going to happen. Anyway, I'm gonta put it you down this afternoon.
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Speaker 2: And she'll be so parmed when Iggy does finally pass away.
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Speaker 1: It's been one of my shoulders for years. Yeah, t Iggy, you are six, hang on twelve. Anyway, April was out to dinner and she came. She came storming home with a really exciting news. I was like, what's going on? And she was like, guess what I just found out and told me this whole story. I was like, that is first of all random. You have strange friends, oh, strange people. Question question, this.
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Speaker 2: Is card Housekeeping's okay, yeah, delve back in a housekeeper. Here is a question. This is a debate that parents have argued over for years, centuries. Okay, let's just put this to rest right now. Once and for all, from this moment on, let's all agree parents collectively, you really teen this up. Let's just be on the same page. Pardon the pun, now I know what he's talking about. Book week, oh, book Day. Let's just whoever is named this calendar event has really confused the hell out of us.
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Speaker 1: I've got it. I'm going to throw another spanner in the work for you. Please guess when our book week is next week? What? What the hell?
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Speaker 2: We all need to get on the same page.
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Speaker 1: Figure it out.
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Speaker 2: What's going? People going rogue? People going rogue?
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Speaker 1: I get like school holidays stagging in a week from state to state.
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Speaker 2: I get that who who decides book week?
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Speaker 1: Who is gone? I'm the official book week decider, and this is what it entails.
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Speaker 2: And then get killed off.
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Speaker 1: But they're not give anyone any information, any specifics.
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Speaker 2: It's a bloody mess.
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Speaker 1: There's a few things here that irk me. One you mentioned it the day or week. That's the first one. The second one is if it's a week, do you have to go with someone different every day or can you be the same person every week. The other one is people are just dressing their kids up with things that aren't even books. Yes, minecraft what's going on?
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Speaker 2: Is there a book?
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Speaker 1: I don't know, but still not. I think it should be traditional books like your spots, Yeah, no question, free time, You're hungry, Hungry Caterpillar, and I don't know. I can't think of anything. Bluey great one, and I think that like that should be the law. You have to go as Bluey.
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Speaker 2: Yeah it's it's mandated.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's mandated now that you have to go as Bluey.
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Speaker 2: But I will admit we are part of the problem because our book week started and this is coming out kind of the week after, but it was we've just started. We're now day two and this is also record on a Tuesday. Not to confuse people, just giving them the context. I panicked, Okay, I panicked. So I bought some costumes from Big W Great shop, very good, very good, good for those wondering ashes and Abasador for w W play Baker check it out on YouTube.
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Speaker 1: Just pitching everything I've gone.
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Speaker 2: So why I've ended up with Jesus put Lola in a different costume every day, but because I don't want to be the one parent, Like there was one kid on Monday who wasn't in costume whole daycare in costume. One kid isn't. And I looked at that kid like he was a starving child, like he's been neglected by his parents. I was about to call, like who do you call?
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Speaker 1: Docs?
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Speaker 2: Docs, ghostbusses, And I'm asking about this. No one's looking after this child. Look at him dressed in plain clothes, disgusting.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I meanwhile, everyone else is dressed up as pirates and Harry Potter. I don't want my child to then be judged by the other parents.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. And you know in schools, bullying is rife, Yeah, decades. Even at that age, they don't know they're doing it. They're like, they're like, well, Timmy didn't wear a costume.
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Speaker 2: But we all have to just agree, like can we just put a campaign out there, like get your kids vaccinated? Very important? Also book Week, Book Day, let's agree.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, book book Week, Book Day the same day every year. There's a date for it, like Christmas. It's not Christmas week.
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Speaker 2: So Macy's dressed up at the moment. No, Macey got book where next week? And Oscar as well? Yeah, okay, because Marley's next week.
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Speaker 1: I'm confused.
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Speaker 2: What are they gonna do in school? School is a bit more schools getting their shit together. They're gonna have a day, right, Yeah.
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Speaker 1: They wouldn't want the kids going with that and not in uniform every day, not a whole week. No, we'll get my kids going to school dress as a school kid, believe it or not, in his uniform.
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Speaker 2: What's the character?
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Speaker 1: Just schoolboy? I feel if they're doing minecraft, guess what you're going as a little schoolboy? Cool?
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Speaker 2: Docs neglected.
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Speaker 1: Now he wants to go as me again? Remember last year he went as me.
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Speaker 2: We threw out my costume that Lola was in last year when they went to the Salvos some.
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Speaker 1: Of other kids Maddy Jay. But yeah, I was going to go with me apparently again. But I think it's just all confusing. Parents have got enough on their plate. Give us that. If the Prime Minister can come out and say put that other stuff he's working on a side, it's not intenent reform, tax reform, hex debts. Book day Book.
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Speaker 2: Day should be need help priority, we need help.
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Speaker 1: If he had said I'm going to put an end to this book week stuff during the election campaign, he would have won by way more landslide. Oh, absolutely next election. Just a bit of advice book day.
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Speaker 2: Just also complain about a few things. If that's okay, got a quick little list, go ahead. And this is also just like a PSA to parents out there. I don't know if it's the weather. I don't know what's going on. There is a pandemic right now, knits everywhere.
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Speaker 1: How good would a pandemic be? Though? And I've been over this, but a knit pandemic, everyone have each your heads.
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Speaker 2: Industries were destroyed, companies were bankrupt, so people die.
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Speaker 1: I get I dare you has knits ever killed anyone? It just makes everyone isolate. I know what you mean, because there've been a few cases in the Northern Beaches. So I'm fine.
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Speaker 2: We've just been told by Jess that we've been saying the word wrong.
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Speaker 1: I'm glad that one of us is educated.
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Speaker 2: Say, epidemic, pandemic, pandemics global.
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Speaker 1: This is global, Jess, Parenting is global. If we have an epidemic, epidemic, epidemic, it's a knit epidemic.
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Speaker 2: It hurts, dude, it is is it just it's me.
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Speaker 1: We haven't had to do it yet because we're good.
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Speaker 2: You never did it once. Oh my god, dude, Laura is ripping my hair out. I was thinking, the little claw thing that run through your hair, I couldn't sit through it. Do you have to?
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Speaker 1: So you're using product and then that and then finish the.
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Speaker 2: Comb to run it through, dude, and like, you know my hair is yeah, it's.
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Speaker 1: Falling out a little bit finished, shut up, not because of you, because of the nits.
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Speaker 2: And then I'm like, every time the comb would run through my hair, I can see the strands coming out.
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Speaker 1: I was like, God, sell what you can? Let me ask you this because you might know. And I haven't had to do. I haven't gone nit chopping for products yet. Do they still have the the combs that got a slight electrocution to them and kill the knits upon touching them within your head?
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Speaker 2: Where were you going to?
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Speaker 1: That was when I was a kid. I don't know if it's been outlawed, what that is going on? Actually? Just can we can we just Jess, she's already on it. She read my mind. She's just checking out. We'll be right back after this. What. Yeah, it's like it would it would go like similar to like a you know the things it goes You're gonna kill you and it's like tiny and it goes. But it would go when you kill it. Yeah, Jess is currently inventing it or looking it up now. But I'm touch word. I know it's going to happen, and it just it happens. You put kids all in the same place, and kids are grubby as fuck, you put them in the same place. Everyone's going to get n It's eventually. And I remember we used to knit treat a lot because I have such thick hair. My sister has such thick hair. I was a child, Matthew, so don't get jealous. My mum had really thick hair. Dad ball as fuck, so he didn't really care. He was like, what you guys are talking about the vine? But I remember Jess got something. They do have it. What's it called. It's a vcom.
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Speaker 2: You can't chemisquare house.
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Speaker 1: Backs.
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Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah, so who's got that kind of money? Don't answer it.
00:25:13
Speaker 1: But I'm waiting for it to happen. Because Macey has quite thick hair.
00:25:17
Speaker 2: Well you will be pleased to know. So the first knit treatment, I was like, it's not me. I'm not literally, and then so everyone in the house had the nit treatment. I refuse because I can't deal with my hair falling out. Then the nits have come back. So I was roped in last night. I was forced against my will, first of a seconomy, now actually trying to rip my hair out.
00:25:40
Speaker 1: I feel sorry for you because I can imagine like you've got quite luscious hair, and it's like they can hide in that when I could just and I and honestly, you did say to me once, I don't have a shavable head. To you, you don't know. I have a very shavable, round, perfect head. I can shave mine. There's because I do it anyway. But yeah, I'm not looking forward to it anyway.
00:26:03
Speaker 2: I just want to want to make you aware that they're out there.
00:26:07
Speaker 1: I just want you to be we have some friends and you will go will remain nameless, be vigilant. Whose kids always seem to know what you like out there in the northern beaches. If you've got girls, tie their hair up.
00:26:19
Speaker 2: Tie their hair up. Thank you, thank you. Here's a question go for you. How long are you allowed to keep a pregnancy test for after it's been used.
00:26:31
Speaker 1: A positive one? Okay? Just it's very specifically walking around there's like one second.
00:26:39
Speaker 2: The people do people hold onto them? Oh?
00:26:43
Speaker 1: I don't think we held onto ours. I mean other people that you just started it like it was nothing. Some people find those sort of things so sentimental. Some people will keep poreskins, and others keep belly button knots and all sorts of things, you know, and the pegs that come with it. And oh god, why is it ban Did you leave it in the sun?
00:27:04
Speaker 2: That's the shape of them.
00:27:04
Speaker 1: I think they've come a long way. Who hang on? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, you wash that? Surely I just found it to draw upstairs.
00:27:12
Speaker 2: Oh but I don't want to throw it away?
00:27:15
Speaker 1: Is that? What does Laura say? She doesn't know you have it? Doesn't you freak? Just this? Remember you said you had a pregnancy king that's four play You're like, hey, baby, baby, do people hold on to these? Is it? You should get rid of it? Why?
00:27:34
Speaker 2: I don't know.
00:27:35
Speaker 1: Did get it back? Laura? I'm sorry? This is something, bro, this is something your wife's peede on.
00:27:48
Speaker 2: You're welcome.
00:27:50
Speaker 1: Just give it back to you. Then, I don't know. Let's put it out to the listeners. If you're listening to this right now and you kept yours, let us know if you think it's disgusting also very much. Let us know, but I think it's mount the wall, mountain on the wall frame it. Oh you don't know. Did you keep the last ones?
00:28:09
Speaker 2: No, that's the thing, so you want one like as a keepsake.
00:28:13
Speaker 1: I think the children of the keepsake. Right, I've got proof. I've got kids. It's like, bro, kids, Rather shut up speaking of kids. They're both yours and mine are getting to the age now where you.
00:28:29
Speaker 2: Know rain is coming in thick as holy ship.
00:28:31
Speaker 1: The sun's out.
00:28:33
Speaker 2: Sorry, I'm not sure if you can hear the soothing sounds of the rain hitting it's pouring down outside and.
00:28:42
Speaker 1: There's still some Your two of your kids, your third kid is yet to be Yeah, that works during.
00:28:52
Speaker 2: Four weeks.
00:28:52
Speaker 1: Whoa, Oh my god, you're gonna be a dad again. No, that's crazy. Anyway, they're getting the current, the other two and am I too, getting to the age now where you need to be really careful about what you watch on TV.
00:29:05
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, and sorry touching your feet and I apologize.
00:29:11
Speaker 1: And usually, like leading up to here, if I always watched something in Oscar or Macy were playing and doing something it was, it wasn't a problem. There would be no there would be no, like crossover. I wouldn't really acknowledge it. But I've noticed that it's starting to get to a point where you have to watch. You have to be careful of what me as an adult on anything, even the phone. You're watching again, no, come on. And what happened was I was me and Macy and we sat down allowed him to watch TV, and I was like, what do you want to watch? You know, as you do, and they're like, what do you feel like? You know, we've got blue is a good option, We've got whatever else. She lies into Mermaid but the Barbie stuff, like she loves that sort of shit. And she was like, no, no, no, I want to watch first, I want to watch Sharks. I was like, oh, baby, shark. Okay, well you're grown out of that. So every now and then she might be like nostalgic and I was like great. She was like no, no, no, no, the shark thing.
00:30:11
Speaker 2: Shark week? What is it?
00:30:12
Speaker 1: Yeah?
00:30:12
Speaker 2: I was like, there was a shark attack.
00:30:15
Speaker 1: Yeah. And then.
00:30:18
Speaker 2: Maybe she was watching the news.
00:30:20
Speaker 1: Don't you just like put in like the current news into that story. There was a it's fine for me to great white, Yeah, that's massive, that's anyway. I was like, okay, I'm sharks. And I remember when we did the list of TV shows and there was that non verbal show of that there was a shark in it, and I was like, it must be that, and she was like no, and she was getting visibly frustrated, and then she was like no, no, no, the shark attacking one. I was like what. I was like, look, what don't we just put on? And I know that there's some kid documentaries around it, The Blood on ash dude, and I was like, I know there's some kid documentary ones where it's like baby shark and handlers and stuff like in and very innocent and like just a bit of very nature. No, not good enough, And I was like, what did she want? The fuck is going? I found out that April was watching a National Geographic show called When Shark's Attack and now May's Got the Thirst and I was like no, no, no, no, Macy, you haven't watched that. And then I've managed to go through some search history and some watching and asked April. I was like, have you been watching shark shows? And she was like yeah. I was like When Shark's Attack. She was like, well, I don't think they were attacking. I was like, this show is called When Shark's Attack and it's a national geographic show. And I popped it up on the TV as like the thing, and Ma She's like, yep, that one, that one right there, and I was like three, yeah, yeah.
00:31:57
Speaker 2: Twenty minutes in, I was like, hang on.
00:31:59
Speaker 1: A minute, he takes a diver. Let me get this straight. Macy, you want to watch when Sharks Attack people? And April trans goes that sounds pretty good. Actually you two are fucked. So just a warning to all the parents out there now, if you are watching a show on your own you think she's what's happened is Macy subconsciously was watching it. Oh we're not subconsciously. She was doing her thing. April was watching it, and then Macy was watching it from a distance and really liked it. Got closer and closer and closer. It became their thing, and I've figured it out and then she's asked me. So now I've had to try and scale her back from sharks attacking people to the really shit stuff where just someone's handling it going on a beautiful shark.
00:32:44
Speaker 2: Did you put it back on?
00:32:45
Speaker 1: Or how fuck it? We all watch it.
00:32:49
Speaker 2: He just really quickly. I'll be holding onto the story, and I just wanted to share it with you, very very very quick, very quick story.
00:32:55
Speaker 1: I know that, and that's all.
00:32:59
Speaker 2: It's been a tough week. You know, we got a book week that were battling with sharks, attack knits as well, epidemic, pandemic, epidemic, epidemic. It's been tough. And Laura is very pregnant as well. You know, what do you in a couple of weeks, and so she tends to fade off. And that's not an attack on Laura. She just you know, she gets tired after five o'clock, she crashes, she burns same And I've also been very busy with work. I work hard, Ash, I work around the clock supporting this family. You're a great guy emotionally, financially, a great.
00:33:31
Speaker 1: Dad, g great partner. Thank you, great human.
00:33:34
Speaker 2: Nice to hear you say that me though, And it was like eight thirty at night and I still hadn't got the kids to bed. We normally try and get them in bed by seven fifteen, that's fair, but this was just a nightmare of a night and it was just like everything was a battle brushing the teeth, couldn't They couldn't even choose a book to read for bed. I was like, come on, guys, just I was just doing everything I could to not lose my call, because the last thing I want is to raise my voice. The kids cry. Laura comes up off the couch and goes, don't worry, I'll do it.
00:34:09
Speaker 1: I want to try and keep the piece. If you keep the piece in one area, you keep the piece in all the area.
00:34:13
Speaker 2: There is write that down that is good.
00:34:15
Speaker 1: You put it on T shirt.
00:34:16
Speaker 2: And I went to go fill up.
00:34:18
Speaker 1: The kid's water bottles because you want to keep hydrated.
00:34:21
Speaker 2: Keep the hydrated, want them to be healthy. I come back in and I don't know if you know the kids room upstairs, there's the desk and the bookshelf above, and Laura likes to climb up onto that desk and then choose to like hand select her book. Okay, it's eight thirty at night.
00:34:39
Speaker 1: No.
00:34:40
Speaker 2: I come in. I look at her and I just think to myself, oh god, she's really close. There's a plant that has a long vine plants at the top of the shelf. The vine hangs down over a number of the shelves, and she's pulling out the book, she accidentally grabs the vine of the pop plant and I I'm like, no, I run over. She pulls the pop plant down through the vine. I kind of lunge to try and grab the pop plant and I knock it. Soil just goes, oh everywhere, and then it ends up landing on Lola's head. She is covered in soil.
00:35:20
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness.
00:35:21
Speaker 2: On the floor, there's baskets of soft toys that's covered in soil.
00:35:25
Speaker 1: Why do you have real plants in the kids room because the kids painted the pop plants and the vines have grown. It's like there, I know, I know, I know the pop plant. Like, that's fine. You know they're not painting the soil. It's not.
00:35:39
Speaker 2: I agree, you're You're absolutely right. So there is nothing more disheartening. It's like they playing monopoly and you're about to win and you get like a cent to jail card.
00:35:49
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
00:35:50
Speaker 2: All I have to do is read one book and put them down to bed. Grab Lola. She's squirming, putting soil everywhere. Put her back in the vacuum, a vacuum. He wants her down.
00:36:01
Speaker 1: Laura's come up to find out what the fuck is going on. Then there there's there's tears.
00:36:06
Speaker 2: And I was like, what do you stop saying? Because she's putting soil everywhere through the room. So she's now crying, and I'm like, it's not your fault. It's like nine o'clock, I haven't even had dinner yet.
00:36:17
Speaker 1: It's painful. It technically is her fault because she's painted. Laura's fault. Laura, No, no, I'm saying they shouldn't have painted the pop plants wouldn't have been in there.
00:36:26
Speaker 2: That was Laura's idea.
00:36:28
Speaker 1: Come on, guys, any anyway, but like that, look, it's yeah, when you think you're at the end, when you think you're at the finish line, it's like it's like running a race and the like, nope, you're doing.
00:36:39
Speaker 2: Another, Yeah, one more lap. You're like, do you mean it's the worst anyway. I love being a dad.
00:36:44
Speaker 1: It's beautiful. It's times like those You're like, I fucking love this. I want to go to sleep too, but now I can't for another half now because I got to clean up this mess. It's lovely.
00:36:52
Speaker 2: You know else is having a hard time. Every other parent, let's hear their parents pretty You say what.
00:37:04
Speaker 1: Man?
00:37:05
Speaker 2: I feel like a pair rant. For anyone who is new to our podcast, there's a few new listeners that have been joining us, welcome. What is a pair rant.
00:37:20
Speaker 1: It's something to do with parenting, usually where you've just had enough of her.
00:37:25
Speaker 2: Hang on a second, usually or mostly all the time.
00:37:29
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you want to ran about something specific, that's well, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna be like whoa, whoa take that somewhere else. I'm going to say, give it here, let me have a look. I want to know what the material is.
00:37:39
Speaker 2: For the emphasis on the rant rant.
00:37:42
Speaker 1: It's got to be something you just have had enough of, Like book week.
00:37:46
Speaker 2: Parenting is amazing, we get it, but at the same time, we're all struggling and this is therapy.
00:37:52
Speaker 1: You canna let off some steam.
00:37:54
Speaker 2: I'll go first. And you said book week. This is from Eliza, She says, toddlers who refused to dress up for book Week despite telling you what they wanted to go as, and you buy the costume online.
00:38:03
Speaker 1: From Big w Well, well, well said, oh god, it adds another element of frustration to it, doesn't that where it's like you wanted that, you wanted this, You're excited and then I've got it. I've gone and done it, and like, yeah, I get it, Like you've just you've just bought it. But there'd be people like that who have made it and then kids like nah, you'd be.
00:38:23
Speaker 2: Like someone showed me an outfit they made. It was a costume of an elephant. I was like, that's incredible. My bully costume costs ten bucks?
00:38:33
Speaker 1: Yeah, who has time for that?
00:38:35
Speaker 2: You may have seen it on our socials is a video of Lola dressed is Bluey. She got so nervous when she got a daycare because everybody was like blowing and she's like, oh my god, too much attention.
00:38:43
Speaker 1: I'm taking this off. Yeah yeah, yeah, it's ah man, I tell you, right, what do you do? Do you just force them to wear it? Then at that point, if you've got yeah, I'm like, you're fucking wearing a kids, hit it down. Deal with this.
00:38:55
Speaker 2: This is good money we spent on this.
00:38:57
Speaker 1: I know it's from Imagen and this one like and like I got a little on the on the back of this, which I some call me a hero but I'm not. Hers is don't kiss my baby, right, that's fair, yep, but please don't kiss my toddler, okay, and that could be grandpa. She could be referred to cat. She's not talking something stranger. I'll tell you a story about a stranger in a minute. They get sick too, and I couldn't care less about hurting your feelings. Where my two year old is in hospital for five days with RSV Oh, sugar, Yes, there's some trauma there, which it is, pump. Is that.
00:39:31
Speaker 2: What I'm saying is that.
00:39:33
Speaker 1: Don't punch the kid, be mindful, hey billy bang. But it's like people don't have boundaries, and we've spoken about that before. It's like, just learn your boundaries, especially with parents totally. I was in when I was in Vegas, right and we went to the game. We were hanging out with this family who had young girls, and there was like one of the guys that was with them who was like not I wouldn't say he was like a end, but he was like hanging around all the time and like with us and not asked with this family, like there was just a group of people, but like he fucking openly, like in celebratory, kissed a kid on the top of the head like that, and I was like, don't do that. Bro, like it's not a good look and just left it at that. But I was like, that triggered me a little bit because I was like, are people out here really doing that shit?
00:40:22
Speaker 2: Apparently?
00:40:23
Speaker 1: Like what the fuck? Yeah, So just learn learn your self awareness and be like okay, like even though I was on the top of this and there was no there was no malice in it whatsoever and nothing, it was like just not a good look, So keep your lipsy.
00:40:39
Speaker 2: But at the same time, Ash, you know, my kids don't even get a fist bump from you.
00:40:43
Speaker 1: I haven't seen you kids come. You're hiding them from me.
00:40:46
Speaker 2: I want them you you want to be godfather? Yes, getting their lives? Okay, my bad, Celeste, She says, adults paying entry fees to those kid cafe soft play centers on top of paying for their kids. Sorry, I'm doing the supervision. I don't care for the free drink ticket. Give me free entry to keep me happy.
00:41:09
Speaker 1: Ah, this irks me a lot.
00:41:11
Speaker 2: I do like playing on those slides in the bullpits.
00:41:13
Speaker 1: So guilty would you would because you're involved? I think, like they go, yep, you've got so going to buy a ticket, but you get a free coffee I've had enough coffee today. Bro keep your coffee and just let me watch. Right, if I go in and do a Maddy j and slide down the slide, come over with the FOS machine and I'll tap that bad point. But don't you fucking dare. I'm just gonna hate how many beefs she's gonna put in this episode. Sorry, Jess, but you shouldn't have told me anyway. Yeah, I just just just all I'm doing supervising at that. I'm on my phone. I'm not even looking. They're up fugging somewhere else. I'm just like, anyway, they're like kids are like I don't know, but yeah, it's such an absolute rip off. Anyway, that's enough of me. I got one more, which is not parenting related, but I thought this really pissed me off, mainly because I was hungover. Anyway. I had to get on an aeroplane from Melbourne to Sydney last week. It was my flight the night before got canceled. I had to stay in extra night. So what do you do? You hit the down hows you do? It's like a free night that never existed.
00:42:16
Speaker 2: To start off, what can I ask your flight was originally booked for what time?
00:42:20
Speaker 1: Eight pm?
00:42:22
Speaker 2: Oh? Okay, why no reason it was I thought it was a lunchtime fly.
00:42:26
Speaker 1: No, if it was last time, I would have been out. I was like, how the.
00:42:29
Speaker 2: Hell have you managed to like have a flight cancelation? You spent a week extra in Melbourne?
00:42:34
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, there's no flights. No, it was a late flight already. That's the best. I apologize, And there was other options that night. They were like, yeah, we can put you on this flight to nine thirty flights look great, but it lands at seven forty am the next day. I'm like what They're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, you just got a flight to Perth first and then fly from Perth back to Sydney. I'm like, that is not a suitable That is terrible. Is the worst?
00:42:59
Speaker 2: Why you to London quickly? You'll come back next week? Such a eggs?
00:43:06
Speaker 1: I didn't mention eggs obviously, amateur. Come on, man, Sorry I ruined the punchline back track anyway, I had to get up for the record before we recorded.
00:43:20
Speaker 2: Ash was like, do you hear the story about the eggs?
00:43:23
Speaker 1: So everyone's on edge about the eggs now They're like, we really want to hear it, yeah, fuck that up. And anyway, So I got on a plane very early in the morning to get home so that I could assist April with what we call parenting. It was I'm talking, it was early. I had probably had two hours sleep. Sure, I had got on the plane and I thought, great, I got a seat to myself next to me on This is brilliant. Anyway, this woman gets on, she sits next to me. I have no calms with that whatsoever. I wanted the extra seat, didn't get to keep it. That's fine. We take off, we're midway through a flight, and what does she whip out? A bag of hard boiled eggs yummy on a domestic cylinder flying through the air. That the air, the air and smells are all stuck in the same place. It can't be like, yeah, just crack a window and get rid of the end of the fucking smell. She proceeded, Do.
00:44:22
Speaker 2: You like lean over to the exit room and you're like, just put it now.
00:44:25
Speaker 1: I was just like it was. I wasn't. I didn't want to be like, hey, that's inappropriate. That's that's an inappropriate snack for an aeroplane. Anytime says who the smell. Gods, I don't know it's stunk anyway.
00:44:41
Speaker 2: So I was like, for people wondering, ash's got a shirt over his mouth, right.
00:44:47
Speaker 1: I was like, I was like, hey, how you doing, and she's like, good things. Yeah, that's good. You got there six Wow.
00:44:59
Speaker 2: She didn't just were you one?
00:45:00
Speaker 1: No, but she didn't quite pick up that I was masking the smell directly to her face. And she continued and continued. But she didn't just go. She let them sprawl out across the whole flight, so by the time the smell was gone, she would whip it back out again and reignite the fumes.
00:45:22
Speaker 2: Did she recline her seat as well?
00:45:24
Speaker 1: No, that would be the last draw. But my gripe is here. Don't get on a fucking aeroplane with a bag of eggs.
00:45:33
Speaker 2: Thank you almost It's almost as if you deserved it, though, No, I didn't have away having a night out. Having a night out, you know, is that the parenting God's punishing you for?
00:45:45
Speaker 1: Damn it. Now, every time I have a night out, I'm going to be like, please, don't get on with so one day someone's going to get on with the bag of dog shit, be like what's up? That's what it might as well have been dog shit. It's stunk. And if she just happened to be listening to this, which is never going to happen, do better. Wet's move on.
00:46:04
Speaker 2: Time some questions, Ash, Yes, would.
00:46:07
Speaker 1: You like to go first?
00:46:08
Speaker 2: Or should I?
00:46:09
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask you first because I think it's time that we bring up something that's with a question that continues to live on in this multiverse as we call it, which is things that you shouldn't say to a parent. I love to trigger people with this, and I get triggered hearing people message me and message us with someone said this to me today. So we've got a small list each. You want to go first.
00:46:36
Speaker 2: With your first one, Oh, you must be free all days since you're just at home with the kids.
00:46:42
Speaker 1: My we have great mind to think alike. Mine's very similar. This one is first that the stay at home parent, which recommend you because of how it is hard right you never know what you're going to get right. This one is, Oh, it must be nice to stay home all day. It's pretty nun but it's like, oh, it's like a sly jab to be like you do nothing anyway.
00:47:07
Speaker 2: Next, one, you know, you should just really sleep when the baby is sleeping. Oh, who has come up? That is one of the dumbest sayings I have ever heard when it comes to parenting.
00:47:20
Speaker 1: They do you know what? They've only just missed the mark with that saying saying I think just missed it. I think it should be trying get some rest while the baby's resting, because the same ring to it. But that's the right way to say it. If you start, if you're like, what should I say to this person, use the word rest because that could mean so many different things.
00:47:37
Speaker 2: But also you're Washington, do you.
00:47:39
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah, if if all that stuff's done, which it's never done, it's always continuous, but that's a yeah that kills me. Another one is oh yeah, it looks nothing like you.
00:47:52
Speaker 4: Oh fuck shit, Or it's like your genius didn't get a look in yeah, or it's like who does he look more like I don't know his parents for God's sake, Like fuck, unless it's like I've seen those baby reveals and they pop the balloon and it's like green and then it cuts over and Shrek's like.
00:48:11
Speaker 1: That's very funny. Anyway, Thanks.
00:48:14
Speaker 2: If you're pregnant and someone says to you, are you sure there's only one in there?
00:48:19
Speaker 1: Oh? My god? What what is going through people's mind? Well?
00:48:24
Speaker 2: I hope the doctor's got it right.
00:48:26
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness.
00:48:28
Speaker 2: You're talking about like, you know, when you're so close to finishing and you're gonna start all over again. Imagine if you didn't you had twins and you gave birth and the doctor goes.
00:48:35
Speaker 1: Oh, oh yeah, I got to tell you how twins?
00:48:38
Speaker 2: You got two in that?
00:48:39
Speaker 1: Oh? All right? This one is it mainly comes from a boomer And this one's like, you know, kids pick up on parents' stress. Oh, thanks mum, that's why I am like I am, thanks, Susan. I know fully it's so far. But if you've got any that someone has said to you, the ones where we get a little story and then they and it's got like what someone has said to them the best, Yes, DMUs for sure.
00:49:09
Speaker 2: Last question as this one is from Chelsea. She wrote into the Facebook group.
00:49:14
Speaker 1: No she didn't also go on Facebook group three and a half thousand people. Yeah, but when did that happen? When you kick me out? Everyone joined? No, like so.
00:49:23
Speaker 2: Hichecked life on cut. Oh that's right, you know, the double edged sword of life on cut. One minute they've given your followers, next minute they're attacking you. But Chelsea wrote in and she says, I don't know if it's just me, but there seems to be the stigma around asking for help. There are always those throwaway offers from family or friends saying hey here if you need oh God, but they aren't truly genuine or possible with people's busy lives. Then you look for paid help, and you get judge for hiring and nanny or outsourcing help because people assume you must be wealthy, or say I didn't have any help and I coped. Okay, how do you genuinely ask for help? And who are the best people to lean towards for it? From one tired, exhausted and sick of listening to the haters.
00:50:04
Speaker 1: Mama, Yeah, look, I think the first people you don't want to ask for help are the ones that say if you ever need anything, because that's so fucking empty. It's an empty promise.
00:50:16
Speaker 2: If I've ever heard, I've had a few of them, and I'm like, in my head, I'm thinking, you live for forty minute drive away from my hand, and.
00:50:24
Speaker 1: You didn't fucking mean that.
00:50:25
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, do you really want to come over here on Tuesday night and help with the kids to bed?
00:50:28
Speaker 1: What you should do is like as soon as they say, they go, I'm glad you are you said that because I actually need someone to watch my kids for the next twenty five years? Do you mind? It's like, fuck me, Like it's such a throwaway. I know they're trying to be polite, and sometimes it's kind of like a way to get out of the conversation, not out of it, or finish a conversation and if you ever need anything, just let me know. Well I'm letting you know now and need something, what do you think? And they're like, I'm busy, I know that I reckon.
00:50:53
Speaker 2: A better thing is And this is obviously for people who are in the like, you know, the close friendship circle. Yeah, I'm not talking about people you see like once every couple of months, but for the people who are your good friends an immediate family. I think instead of just having that throwaway line of if you need anything, let me know, just rock up, yes, just say I think if you say on the weekend, maybe.
00:51:16
Speaker 1: Don't Yeah, I was just going to stop you, right, there, like turn up midnight?
00:51:19
Speaker 2: Why not? Where's the kid? I think if you say, hey, on a Saturday, I'm going to come over, I'm going to take the kid. And again, close family and friends here who was.
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Speaker 1: Just around, We're going to come over and take your kid, and I'm going.
00:51:36
Speaker 2: To go out with a kid. Just go to the park. I'm going to give you a couple hours of reprieve.
00:51:41
Speaker 1: Also, I'll cook a.
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Speaker 2: Meal and bring it over, put it in the fridge.
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Speaker 1: If you're close enough to someone, you can pick up the things that they're not openly telling you, right. And that's like when you say close friends, family, Like for example, my sister was going through a really tough time and for me, I'm really lucky with April's parents being away, but my parents live on the Gold Coaster, they're there. And then my brother in law's parents also live out of town, so they had no one and they were going through a phase there and I didn't offer, I mean, they didn't ask or anything like that. I picked up on the social cues because of it's my sister. I'm close to that person and said, hey, how about this tomorrow, I can work from your place. You can get out do the things you need to do, have some rest. I'll watch Winny all day, and then if you're popping back and afford it, we can. We'll have lunch together if you're around or whatever, just to try and relieve some of the And she was like, you have two kids, bro. I'm like, yeah, I've got two kids, but I've got help. And it's a week day. My kids are going to be in daycare. One might not be if it was Macy, I'd bring her and they can play or whatever. But I picked up on that she really needed someone but was too proud to ask, and also maybe had been given all those lines all the time from people that actually don't fucking mean it. By I'm saying, oh, you know, like and she might have that person and they've got oh, I'm busy, and been like, well maybe I just won't ask anyone.
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Speaker 2: I agree, And I do think I'm guilty of it that no one wants to be seen as that person who is struggling. No one wants to put the hand up and go I need help, because you don't want to be seen to be a parent that can't cope. I do think it is on parents to also not be afraid because if you're asking other parents, no one is going to judge you, and if you are judging your an absolute asshole. Well, so don't be afraid to put your hand up to those close to you and go, hey, can I just have a little bit of help here?
00:53:33
Speaker 1: Yeah? Can you just do X, Y and Z.
00:53:35
Speaker 2: Yeah, nothing wrong with that.
00:53:37
Speaker 1: For sure, because they might not have that person that can pick up and or be like you know, and I know, like with especially like we always have this thing where it's like you're always better in numbers, right, and that those numbers could mean more parents and more kids. But you can conquer that that whatever the situation might be. So for example, like Mike and myself, it's so we pick up on it so much that if for example, I had to go away, I didn't say anything. Oscar had a jiu jitsu lesson and he straightway and I'll pick Osco up four o'clock on Monday, ah, and I would, And I've done the same for him in heavy Yeah, there was one time where I remember they rang me and they were they both work different times of the day, so he works in the day, she might have some classes to teach at night. There was a ten minute gap and he rang me. He said, do you have ten minutes? I said yeah, He said, can you come and watch my kids for ten minutes while we do a changeover. I drove all the way his house and I sat there and with his kids for ten minutes.
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Speaker 2: But you were such a good guy.
00:54:37
Speaker 1: But I know that if I do that, someone's going to do it for me. Thank you. I appreciate that. But like, at the same time, don't be afraid to ask totally. And if you ask, If you ask those people you think closest to you and they're not willing to shift their lives to try and help you for ten to fifteen minutes, then unfortunately they're not the right people.
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Speaker 2: Can we just do a quick little call out? And if you do, you think you have a friend or family member who is a tired parent right now and they need help, just tell them, spoon, feed them a date a time that you're going to come over and just say, hey, I'm coming over, I'm going to take the kid, I'm going to clean. Let's let's help each other out here.
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Speaker 1: Here's a good one. If a parents says, oh, we're going down to the park on Saturday, morning, like, that's what we're doing. And you can pick up on that they might be tired or could use a bit of a break. Go oh, come down, you know, and you play.
00:55:27
Speaker 2: You help play with them, Play with the kids, Play with the kids, don't conversation, take a coffee with.
00:55:31
Speaker 1: Them and go there's a coffee. I'm going to go play with the kid for half an hour. I'll watch them and then that that half an hour could meet everything to that person, could be the difference between them feeling really shit and feeling really good.
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