083: How We Transform Conflict into Connection with Kazu Haga

In this conversation, Emily Race-Newmark and Kazu Haga explore the themes of nonviolence, community healing, and the importance of conflict as a regenerative force. They discuss the necessity of grief rituals for collective healing, the experience of living in an intentional community, and the various types and levels of conflict. Kazu emphasizes the significance of storytelling and listening in fostering compassion, as well as the need for collective spaces for grief and healing. The discussion also touches on rethinking accountability in the context of violence and the importance of emotional regulation in managing conflict.

FOR CONTINUED PRACTICE:

• Check out Kazu's Fierce Vulnerability Kinship Lab: a 3 month intensive and other offerings on his website 
• Read Healing Resistance and Fierce Vulnerability by Kazu Haga
• Join The Third Space! An online community for revillagers who are putting to practice what we learn on this show, together. In November we are exploring Relational Conflict. 

TO STAY CONNECTED:

• Subscribe to This Is How We Care on Substack for full transcript here.
• Video version of this episode is over at YouTube.
• Follow @ThisIsHowWeCare and @RevillagingMama on Instagram
• Follow @KazuHaga on Instagram and Substack Letters to Beloved Community

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 The Journey to Healing and Social Change

06:17 Collective Trauma and Grief Rituals

08:46 Nonviolent Direct Action and Healing Relationships

11:35 Integrating Trauma into Activism

14:02 Creating Safe Spaces for Racial Healing

16:54 The Role of Community in Conflict Resolution

19:26 Understanding Conflict Types

22:26 Practicing Nonviolence in Daily Life

28:03 Practicing Nonviolence: Building New Defaults

30:17 Vision for Future Generations: A World of Belonging

32:33 Understanding Conflict: The Role of Storytelling

36:22 Tools for Emotional Regulation and Healing

39:53 Creating Safe Spaces for Grief and Healing

42:00 Facilitating Difficult Conversations: Skills and Structures

45:58 Rethinking Accountability: From Punishment to Healing

49:35 Navigating Conflict: Understanding Levels and Responses

52:03 Conflict Journaling: A Practice for Reflection