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[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, welcome to the Wedding Reporter podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We have a really great couple for you today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We have Francesca, Augustinelli, and Cody Thompson, and their content creators and newly engaged couple who share their passion for faith, love, wellness, and building a healthy relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And after six years together, Cody popped the question in February, 2026, marking the beginning of their next chapter.
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[SPEAKER_01]: known for sharing relationship advice, personal growth, and glimpses into their life together Francesca and Cody inspire their online community through their love story and shared values.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Today, they're joining the wedding reporter podcast to share the details behind their romantic proposal.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The secrets to their lasting relationship and what's next as they plan their wedding, so welcome to the show guys!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hi, thank you so much!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yay!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh, congratulations!
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[SPEAKER_01]: First of all, I'm so happy for you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I saw your proposal on, I think it was Instagram or TikTok, and I was like, I have to talk to them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like so special, so unique, and yeah, we'll definitely dive into that into the show, but first I love to ask you how did you guys meet?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We first met on Christian Bengal.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, we did it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We did not.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's literally one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We met on Instagram.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've seen the commercials for that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They have like the Jesus fish and like, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's great.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, that's not even true.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We've had gone Instagram in 2020.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was in network marketing for a beauty company.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was a network marketing for a supplement company.
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[SPEAKER_02]: and I was speaking to a girl who was kind of in decisive of what company she wanted to join whether it was wellness-based beauty space and she ended up joining the wellness space.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I followed her after that and he was on her story from a wellness event, was something like that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I found him.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I followed him.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that was it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like,
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[SPEAKER_02]: early 2020, late 2019, basically, and that's kind of how we met.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Connect got connected, and then we met at, what is it, buddy, bro, in Hyde Park, in Tampa, for the first time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow, okay, so this was like,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like six degrees of separation or something where it's just like you happen to follow this girl like Cody you happen to be in her story and you're probably like oh he's kind of cute I'll follow him or like what he's doing seems super interesting I'll follow him and then it just so happens that you guys connect through DM and then start hanging out in Tampa.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Did you guys both live in Tampa at the time, or were you traveling for work, or how did that all come about?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so... Did you start first when I'm in school?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did one year after school, I was still living in Orlando.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I worked in Disney corporate and then moved over to Tampa then.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then we met a couple months after we went to Tampa.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Fun fact.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When we met the first like two months that we were hanging out and just talking in general, it was not a romantic hangout.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like he did DME being like, let's go on a date.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You wanted me to join his business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was recruiting her for sales.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I thought she was good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's out going crazy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was like, no, he kept inviting me to these like work sales events.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, I don't want to work with you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I got to want to do that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want to like date you and hang out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he just kept inviting me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then finally, he was like, okay, let's meet.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Buddy bro, like just you and I.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was the first time we actually met talked in person and all that stuff.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, for a little while, it was just business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so you guys had been like DMing, talking, but it was all business at first.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then like, it seemed like Francesca, you were pretty forward to just be like, no, I don't see this as a business relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I want to explore this more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then the first time you met was like your first date?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, yeah, and I knew, I knew, I knew it was interesting here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know we're managing to jump like this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, literally.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's like, strictly like, oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was in the scene where I wasn't flirting with her.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, something like that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Wasn't that because of the circle of friends that he had at the time, they were all there on the same path of being business focused, no girlfriends, no boyfriends, like everyone was just, strictly, we're only doing business and in my world, I'm like, well, you can do both.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's fine.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But for him and his circle at the time, that wasn't the case.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No rose, no sex, no alcohol.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And man, he did a drink, he read the Bible, he didn't party, and I'm texting my friends, like, this guy is like weird, like he doesn't do any of his stuff.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I understand what's going on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But one thing that I felt...
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[SPEAKER_02]: was so apparent to me as we connected on just a very like ground level.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Whether it was conversations were supernatural, outside of just anything romantic, just in general, we could talk for him.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's a talker, I'm a talker, and now looking back for the most probably we are the same person in many things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, we love being the center of attention.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We can talk to anybody.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's probably more external now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm more internal in terms of like being social, but we wanted a lot of the same things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think that's where we built just that foundation of being able to conversation for hours on end.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, for a while, it was really just business, but me being like,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have enough friends.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want me more friends.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't mean he was a business partner.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want to join your business.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so there was never confusion on where I stood.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the point where I was okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What are we doing?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We're the doing this and we're not doing anything kind of thing, but yeah, she was very different than she was today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She was crazy and loud and rambunctious and it was, you're not not having it per se.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was, I was, I was very, I drank a lot.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was very loud.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was very, I didn't have a relationship.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't, wasn't in my faith.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't have a relationship with Jesus.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't go to church.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I definitely didn't agree the Bible.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was just, I come from a very loud Italian family.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I think my,
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[SPEAKER_02]: vocabulary at times may have not been the best choice and so it was kind of just this total opposite of who he was used to and who same thing for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Five-old reader doesn't drink doesn't party.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It works out a lot.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Works on his business was the opposite of what I was used to and so obviously we're different now but yeah we were polar opposites in that room in the beginning.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, my goodness.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's wild.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean at first it was like opposite the track and then like I guess Cody were you almost like taking a back that she was so forward and wanting to date you and kind of like have like living in a different way than you were were you hesitant at all in that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, for sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was very hesitant and there was a lot of resistance with my, you know, sort of with the time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Cause you're like, hey, that's very much an outsider of our little circle and our mission and our goals and our environment of what we're doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, it was definitely more radical for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was kinda crazy, but I was like, yeah, you know, I guess, yeah, take a chance on it and see what happens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was like, well, I'm open to it at least, I mean, this was months later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's like, hey, I'm done with, you know, kind of the back and forth thing, you know, figure out what we're doing here, whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If we're just going to be friends, I don't need another friend, so bye.
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[SPEAKER_00]: See ya.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now we're going to do this or not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, okay, yeah, sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll try to see where this goes and many years later we're here, but yeah, definitely didn't start out and look anything like it does today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow, that's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, Francesca, maybe explain a little bit more about
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're a journey, you said you were a totally different person from when you first met and now like who's the person you are now after meeting Cody.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think the biggest thing about meeting him was he was so he was so attuned to worldly things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So when I was in network marketing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: My, the people that I was around were making $300,000 a month.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so the lifestyle they were accustomed to was G wagons and mansions and Chanel bags and going out to eat and going to the bars.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think I was just very dead set on like, that's what it looks like to be rich, to be happy, to live this life and him being the total opposite.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So little in terms of worldly things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he doesn't need the $20 latte and the $5,000 bag and this $10,000 vacation, but yet he seems the most at peace out of anybody I know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Internally, and I think I was drawn to that because I knew I didn't have that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: As much as I was happy on the outside and doing all these things and partying and shopping, the internal peace that he had, I wanted.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think I gravitated towards, what is that?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is it, is it Jesus?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is it faith?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is it the people he's around?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is it the things that he restrains from drinking sex?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Things of that nature?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think I just latched on to that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he never pushed faith or anything on me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was never like you have to do this or we're not being together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that allowed me to gravitate naturally because I wanted that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: piece and I wanted that happiness of nothing and then everything above that was like a bonus.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so that's the person you see today is don't get me wrong.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I still love the finer things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm still a high maintenance person, but I can be content with nothing at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what we have are not mine.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think that's what really got me to change
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I wanted that so bad and so I think that's where I kind of grabbed you in a tour.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow, what a journey for both of you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That is so awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just how you guys were brought together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And here you are now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that was like six years ago, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So how I guess at what point in your relationship, where you guys like having serious talks about getting married and you were like, okay,
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[SPEAKER_01]: we're on the right track and we should probably get engaged soon.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think we'll say we can both go because it's like we both have two different time on it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've got five years in for real.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, like it was okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because I think something that was also different is we grew up very different.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I just have a brother he has four siblings and how we grew up.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Me and my brother grew up I would say like upper middle class.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We weren't super wealthy but there was nothing in our life that we ever needed or wanted for.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And when I met Cody, rightfully so, but like Cody was broke, like dead broke, like sold his car to pay his eviction notice.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When I was with him kind of thing, but something that was different about Cody is no matter what the situation was, he was the same person, like had the same level of faith, had the same level of kindness, had the same level of gratitude for life, regardless of a situation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: because he was a much better person than me earlier.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I knew probably within like two years in where I was like, I can marry this person.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because he's taught me so much about just life in general.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think it took me a little longer to get on board of that and to change my habits, my emotional trauma, my daddy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's all those things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's up a little longer for me to kind of get in fluidity with him, but I would say two, two and a half years and I was like, yeah, I could marry this person, I was in the conversation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's probably didn't happen until probably four.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Four years.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, I agree.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think I mean, for me, probably at least three, four years in because there were so much that
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[SPEAKER_00]: We started dating, I was 22, and fresh out of college.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I wasn't baby now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I could go back and relive my life, I probably started being preparing better to be a man, and I was been in a father at 14, so I'd actually ready at 22.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Versus the world we live in today, we kind of treat ourselves in our lives like we're kids until we're 30 years old.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, oh, well, I'm just a kid in my 20s.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just 27, so why do you like me marry your half kids now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just a baby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or our parents and grandparents were already parents and married to a parent and with married with kids 20 years old.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So just different lifestyles.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But given the circumstance, I wasn't ready at 22 or 23.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't ready financially.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't ready spiritually.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't ready emotionally in so many different ways.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then for her, there's a big difference between a girlfriend that's fun and awesome and a wife.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I knew that how heavy that decision was, and just because we love each other and we have fun and we live together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we go on some trips and we have little successes together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean it's worthy of marriage yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so there are a lot of things that I need to feel spiritually and really have that deeper calling.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I think it takes a lot more of love and feeling good and being into each other obviously to be married for 80 years.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so that was a bigger decision for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it's okay, is she going to be a fit wife long term when we're 55 years old as she's still going to be an ideal life that I would be seeking and vice versa and I'm going to be the right person for her when we're 55 years old because everybody's having all fun and games and then you get caught up in kids and then everybody gets divorced and when they're kids lead because they're
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[SPEAKER_00]: they realize, well, they're not really at the same page or is connected to each other as they thought.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I just wanted to think, in the future, what is this going to look like?
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[SPEAKER_00]: How are we going to work together along term?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there are some things for me where I need to see or fit as a wife of trusting my leadership.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And me also being capable of leading a family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and so once I finally got to that place four or five years in, I got more of that conviction the conviction started to grow and I would say a year ago probably it really started to grow in so much that I'm ready to be a husband, I'm ready to be a dad and I'm absolutely stoked for that and that's when I finally said I'm like okay let's go let's do this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's really cool that you guys just took your time to truly like think about your future like you said thinking about when you're 55 years old is this the person that I'm still going to want to be with and thinking through all those different life changes and who they are as a person and how they would handle those life changes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: For the long run and I think that might be something that a lot of people miss and they might just Feel the pressure of being like oh you guys have been together for two years like when you're gonna get engaged And then they start feeling this pressure of like, well, I better do it even though they haven't maybe thought through all those steps And so I think that's so great that you guys took your time took the six years to really get to know each other and To really prepare for that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, bravo to you guys for the
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's what we got on the internet, that's like our biggest, you know, the haters or whatever the trolls are insults, you know, it shouldn't, it should never take five years.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, or there's something wrong because it took so long.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think back to, if we ever got engaged at three years in, people don't take, again, marriage as seriously as they should, but I don't believe it's a good idea to build a marriage when you have no money.
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[SPEAKER_02]: when you have no one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But because funny and start the biggest driver of people getting divorced, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think to his point, I was so emotionally broken that it was, I'm an independent woman attitude.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't need no man attitude.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's not how you ever want to enter a marriage.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I believe that, yes, women should be able to stand on their own two feet.
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[SPEAKER_02]: God forbid something were to happen.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I need to understand that submitting to his leadership
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have no voice or I have no say or I'm unimportant, but the way that his leadership has allowed me to relax and exhale and be able to tap more into my feminine energy and to be more pleasant to be honest because I let go of control.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think that only to happen before we ever thought of marriage and people around us that know us always say like, you guys are so annoying, it's like you've been in the hunting from stage since we met you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think it's because we took our time to figure out what that looks like.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Um, but yeah, I was just saying my, my piece of advice on that because I know people will listen is there's no Russian getting engaged because there are conversations that do need to happen before you just get married.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But your family and your friends will want you to get married, but there's certain things that really do need alignment to be able to have a healthy marriage in my opinion.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, very well said.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I love that so much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So then you get to this point of being ready to get married and did you guys go ring shopping or was it a complete surprise?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like what kind of lit up to that point?
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you know this brand, she was not doing surprises.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's not doing ball ring.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's not doing taking chance on it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's not just going to be happy with any old shape or cut or carry it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, we definitely figured out preferences.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, ring size, all that stuff, for sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we definitely had thoughts and we were a lot much on the same way the same plan.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We tried on twice, like a year before.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then once maybe I would say seven to eight months before.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, so we tried on twice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, nice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So then, Cody, you had an idea of like what you wanted, and then you get the ring.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Did you have any idea of how you were going to propose after you got the ring?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, not really.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think we have a really had a good plan because we live in my Indian, you know, venues are crazy, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're looking at venues.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're like thousands of dollars just to take some pictures at venues.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we pray it on it thought about it and I run a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I run around Miami.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when you run in places, whether it's Nashville or my Indian, you work wherever you live, you get to experience
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[SPEAKER_00]: a lot more places and spots and streets and neighborhoods that you may not otherwise when you're just commuting and car so I know little neighborhoods and pockets and then finding this a little little church on this this side street that I love running down but it can't be trees and everything so we ended up finding that and it's trying to be a great spot with outside this church as it kind of mid-eval stone theme because I didn't want to be basic I don't know
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to do a beach thing and it's like, you know, is it the wind blowing weather?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We were driving by, so we were just looking and I was like, oh, how do you, that would be a pretty place.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think after that, that just kind of took to him and I didn't, we didn't think much of it, but then obviously now looking back and like, oh, that makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But it was the perfect place, like the perfect, everything.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, I had, we, we reached out, we talked about it, we had.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We were on the same page for almost everything, obviously, except the date of, but I don't, that was how I wanted it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so did you know that you were getting proposed to that day or have any idea like, what was the buildup to actually getting you in front of the church for the proposal?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I knew pretty much because my family, my parents don't live here.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so, when my parents, my family's very close, my brother lives in Cullervant, and it was his birthday, February 19th, so I knew my parents would be coming here.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that way it wouldn't have to make up a lie of why they were coming here if it was on a different day, because they would say, oh, we're coming for Asian's birthday.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I kind of figured out, because usually my mom and dad they're divorced, they would come at different times.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And this time, they were coming at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I pretty much took that, and I'm like, okay, it's happening.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's no way that my mom and dad would come on the same weekend if this wasn't happening.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So that's kind of how I knew or at least I guessed but then the day of when he said we were going, I think to an event, but he was leaving first and he was gonna come and get me and I just after that I started piecing things together, I think after being together for so long,
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[SPEAKER_02]: We keep nothing from each other like yeah, so for him to say he's going somewhere without me and not tell me where I kind of you know figured it out, but people think that just because I knew that That it would make it any less emotional But our video it was me crying from the minute I got out of the car and then when we had to get pictures I actually said like hey, I need a second to go like fix my face because it was so it was not Fixing my head at the same time
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[SPEAKER_02]: And put her back on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was just as magical as if I was a breast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's so sweet.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Cody maybe walk us through the planning process of it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then up to the proposal of like what actually happened during it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I mean, kind of stressful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's a little inclination of wedding.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Plenty of that, we're in the, you know, wedding planning phase.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a lot, and I was like, wow, the wedding's going to be insane because this is already so much to consider.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we have the flower grew, we have making sure we can actually,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have the time a lot of the property and even the church was trying to kick us out because we were setting up in there for too long and so dealing with all that, trying not to get kicked off the property and making sure the flower goes everything set up the flowers and the candles and all that stuff and also a videographer, a photographer and music and so all these moving pieces just to make sure they're all good and I got all these people in a group chat and I'm texting and what's happening.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and these groups just to make sure everybody's in alignment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody's on cue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're leaving.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're leaving the house.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, we're on our way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, we're pulling in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I had to go check on the site multiple times during the day to make sure all is going well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, definitely a whole setup, but very, very much worth it because you don't just get to curate that experience for yourself or for your, for your bride to be, for your fiance, but also curating that experience for family and then all the people that it gets to reach, obviously.
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[SPEAKER_00]: online.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I love enjoying and curating experiences and making sure that people have a great time and provoke the right emotions based on that that scene.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah I was like just directing it, producing it, putting all that together was really a joy for me and I can't wait to do it again and much bigger scene for a while.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, it's finding all those people in the right places, the right time and also figuring out, you know, budgets, you know, getting my hook up of a video guy for talking for guys So I'll spend $10,000 every time we do something and so all the money through it is a lot of moving parts But it's very fun and very rewarding when you get to see all these people that you love and you're in loss all of
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, crying their eyes out, and so happy for us, and also kind of that relief from from family and friends, like, finally, like, yes, we finally, you know, didn't seem to be building for so long.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, it was great, it was super fun for me to work with great people and vendors, and also, you know, make everybody happy and you create this special experience.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's so cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I guess describing it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was like Francesca, you walked up to the church doors and was the worship music playing already or did that start like once you guys like met.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we parked the car.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was driving.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He came around, got me out of the car.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And probably eight seconds after getting out of the car, I heard the music.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then I just start crying because I'm like, he is one of the best people I'm curating experiences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I knew the minute that I got all the car and the music started, that was gonna cry for the entire time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I work, he's walking me from the car to the church and then I see one camera guy and then I see my parents and then I see my brother and my sister in law and I'm like, oh my gosh, this is real life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then if you could picture the church is like cobblestone and it's full of white roses, candles, the white draping, and then the sun is hitting the church at just the perfect angle.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was just like, oh my god, this is literally everything I could have dreamed but better.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, this is it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: With the wedding it's easier because there's no surprise.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have control over all that, but with this, it was just like I pray that he knows me and that he understands what I want and what we want.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But it was the perfect mix of being able to glorify the Lord and what we're about to do and me at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so, yeah, that's kind of how it went.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the music changes again.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When you got to know the one knee and then after that,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, you know, crying ready to go.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then he was like, wait, one more thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he's like, I want to cry over us.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the third song came on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then we were just standing there, you know, we're shipping for two minutes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it was just the most wholesome experience of like a felt like time just stopped.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the music was so loud.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we were just standing there, we're shipping.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it was great.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, it started the minute he got me out of the car.
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[SPEAKER_02]: and then the music started and that's how I knew this was going down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One of the hardest part of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Actually timing the sun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so of course weather.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Living in Florida, especially in Miami, in South Florida, it's very tropical.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it can rain at any time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be sunny any time and never really out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was one of the hardest things I went back and forth.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I've talked about videographers for weeks.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, kind of planned as a before.
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[SPEAKER_00]: 435, 536, 630, and those windows were, there's only so much window you have to really have margin of error there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we're trying to plan there's trees around it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The angle, the sun, what time of day is going to actually come down the cascade side was across the church and across and everything up there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah that was all coming to play and we just ended up picking the right time slot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And because we're going to leave it different times, I'm like, wait, we can't be yet in any 30 more minutes because my guys are sitting there looking at the sun and seeing the angle and everything how we would walk in and where the sun would be shining on us at that time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So y'all those little details on the word were kind of stressful, but definitely make a big difference when you see the final product.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah!
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is really important to play in rather than just like spontaneous ego.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just feel like pulling the ring out of my pocket, where the beach, or where it Christmas, opening presents, let's just...
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, that's just not who we are and I think that's, it was, I think through our, I think really get to think that we're blessed with this through our relationship, we get to use our gifts or get to express like our creativity and I think that's a really cool part that most people don't do and I think that maybe it would be better if it's just more, I guess, authentic in terms of you just feel it and you just do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: versus planning.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, everybody has their own flavors and preferences, but for us, I can't wait to express more of that creativity through our relationships so we can reach even more people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I think for us to just have it and share and watch over.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I love how detail oriented you were with at Cody, just like timing it down to when the sun was going to hit just right and everything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like, those little details mattered to you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think it's so cool, just the thought that you put into it like for her is awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're the songs that you played, like, ones that were special to you guys as a couple.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, special to us, and also just really fitting for lyrics too, not just music, but also the lyrics and the timing of the lyrics.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But really important to me to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I actually our first song was Justin Bieber.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I rocked it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Justin Bieber, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it was a lifeline.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and you are lifetime.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's really really really good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's long.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You should listen to the lyrics if you're out there and there's a lot of just mirrors on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe not fan of that's okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But that one is really good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was special to us as well as a couple of our favorite worship songs and some that we want to share our wedding too.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then, both last one of us in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Bless you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Bless you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I really love the blessing in your family and your children and their children, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then having your family there too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm just having them experience it too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure was so special for you guys.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's see.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I absolutely love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, we'll definitely link to the video of it and everything just in the show notes, but now you guys are planning a wedding.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, this was back in February that this happened, so how far are you guys into the wedding planning process?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so we are getting married next year at the end of next year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm leaving the cliffhanger because everyone wants another month in the day, but I'm not doing that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, but the end of next year.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Other of you said it was an hour ago.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, no, no, not the end of next year.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to share, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, too.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have the venue.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have my dress.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have the save the dates are going out soon.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then we're just finalizing things with the floral designer.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not having a planner.
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[SPEAKER_02]: because I feel like Kodi and I end up redoing everything ourselves at any time we do that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so it's just easier.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We gave ourselves enough time because we did get engaged in February and then documenting Mary until the end of next year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Gave us enough time to be able to do it ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But now it's like the little things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like second dress, his talks, the food, dessert tables, things like that more of curating the experience versus the big things once.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The florals are done.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I feel like I can exhale.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But until then, it is in so important to me that the florals are correct.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, that's kind of a wrap in the process.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tastes like you get to taste everything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I know, okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Good, yeah, that's a great part about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, are you guys gonna read in Miami?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Go ahead.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, yep, yep, in my opinion here's the local version want to do overseas But it's really hard to have all the people that that we want there to be overseas If we want to do Europe, but maybe for our our 10 year we can do it you're a ceremony But I think a lot of people are great think for crazy when they hear the wedding plan I think it was like oh my gosh, you have to have wedding plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's no way you could have a wedding without wedding
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[SPEAKER_00]: But for us, we know exactly what we want and we enjoy the work in the process.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're doing that may not be their thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: To really enjoy it, to really curating the whole experience and all the little details.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We love that and enjoy that and feel that it's part of us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How how we show ourselves this and unwitting process.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The whole weekend really, because we're having, you know, like a,
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[SPEAKER_00]: a party before so welcome party the day before we're to express ourselves there and get to welcome people and get to because everybody's traveling pretty much both of our families don't land in my other than her brother there's only bail remember on both sides that lives within I mean my family is five six hours away and that's the closest people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, yeah, everybody's traveling so we want to make this whole great weekend experience for them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Versus coming down and having another wedding that, you know, many people maybe won't be as memorable or as good an experience for the guests.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, I think that's something that's important to us as well.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, that's a experience.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's for us, absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's for us and God, absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But also giving them a great experience, which we're really going to enjoy putting together and seeing the outcome of it.
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[UNKNOWN]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's really cool and yeah, especially with how detailed you were with the proposal like you're carrying your skills and that like over to the wedding and I think it's cool that you guys know your personalities and know like Okay, if somebody else hops in and tries to help us plan like we're just going to have to erase that and like redo it always I like
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[SPEAKER_01]: Props you for like knowing yourselves enough to like make that decision and not like listen to the outside noise I think that's super important and I think that's a theme throughout your whole relationship too Right you're not listening to the outside noise you guys are doing it your way which I think is so important Yeah
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[SPEAKER_01]: So how many people are you expecting at your big day?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, 100 followers.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I would say that we're a little bit over at like 140, but everyone has so many from experience that obviously you're never going to get 140.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we're thinking around their race like 100, 100 and 10 at most.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, our other.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, that's a good number.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then what kind of vibes are you going for?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like do you have colors picked out?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Is it like more modern, rustic, like ocean?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What are your, what vibes do you have?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, everyone is so funny.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Everyone that I, I talked to or work with, they always try to throw like dusty rose or like a pale lavender.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No.
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[SPEAKER_01]: no color.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It will be okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: White, green, and maybe a little bit of like a espresso chocolate brown.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No colors.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But my mom keeps sending these stuff and you'll be like, what about this little hint of pink?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What about this little hint of, I'm like, no, guys.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Everyone needs to understand there is no color.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And this is something that we spoke about.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm obviously, my mom is a dairy, has a very big hand in it because she wants to help, which I love.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'll take all the help I need.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can get in the same respect.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't bring it to anyone until I bring it to him first.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I do like this color.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is this cool view?
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is what I want to do.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do you think for the most part, the experience, and the
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[SPEAKER_02]: the vibe that we want to give is the same, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So he's like, yes, I love those colors.
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[SPEAKER_02]: After we want to go, and so that it's easier for us to kind of maneuver from there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So yeah, white, cream, the greenery, and then if we have to do an accent, it would be like a chocolate espresso brown.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you've already extravagant, it's not a blank slate, that's true, it's already a really really set up an incredible place where there's water features, there's a lot of different settings.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But architecture too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Architecture so there's already so much set up where some weddings you've turned nothing into a lot, take kind of a blank slate where business already really preset up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's already so much floral
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[SPEAKER_00]: that are already on the property were just kind of complimenting the property that it's already on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That sounds beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I mean, you probably don't need a lot to, you know, make it pretty because it is already.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love that super cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I feel, yeah, I think neutrals are great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're like simple, classic, like they're going to look awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like even your color palette that I'm seeing now with you guys is
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[SPEAKER_01]: What you're sweating might be like there's a little green in that floral right there, but yeah, that's a perfect representation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Totally.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's so good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What if you guys loved about being engaged so far?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think I think being engaged really flips on them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, to me, for me, it's more like man, warrior, biological, or the biological spiritual part that I love, where I feel so much more motivation, rather than just ambiguous, I think, for our first two years when we're working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: going for goals and trying to grow and be better together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's more ambiguous, it's more for ourselves, just a more selfish ambition.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so, for me, it's really kind of flipped the switch where I care so much less about my own, not that my own goals and achievements, not for me to succeed, but because it's going to help my family succeed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so, the man that I'm becoming now flipped so much of a switch on me, I think she can say that six to 12 months.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have changed more than ever and such a microwave and new time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because I'm working so much harder myself because I'm like man, I need to be stronger and more fit in every single way, and most physically and emotionally spiritually.
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[SPEAKER_00]: kids.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I want to be as prepped as possible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But outside of that, I mean, relationship was for both of us, in my opinion, I would say that the most exciting part about being engaged is baby videos or algorithms or babies.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now that's if you look at our Instagram DMs.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hello, friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And to each other, we have Instagram, DM each other all by every day or all of our reals and stuff we see.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's mostly just, you know, babies or honey moons or, you know, wedding things that we want to implement.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think that's that's a really
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[SPEAKER_00]: your children and work towards them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's bigger than just me and her now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think all that for me is the same.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think I probably have a little more of like that lot of land bliss like because you finally got the ring, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think that's something that I've obviously enjoyed is being able to call him my fiance and not just my, you know, boyfriend sometimes in the beginning I would get tripped up because he's a better boyfriend for so long.
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[SPEAKER_02]: that he's like, no, I'm your fiance and I'm like, I know, I need a second because it's been so long.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You have her switch and I think our conversations get to be a little more exciting because we also, we see a real, maybe it will spark a thought.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, hey, how are we going to do this when we have kids?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, what does that look like for you?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do you think?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do you, you know?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And again, being together is so long prior to a lot of this stuff that we already know because, you know, six years together, you pretty much know where someone stands on most things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But other than that, I think the enjoyment of growing as, you know, two individuals now come together to be able to grow together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And like he said, like, serving myself, but serving him too and figuring out what that looks like for him and in my role as a wife.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Um, yeah, I just think it's been just like a little blissful bubble for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's really kind of great fiction for men and women going into this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's we get our first Europe trip to summer and you're going to find your summer trip and a lot of people go to Italy for example, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course it's a popular destination.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can go to Rome and in Rome there's the wishing that wishing fountain, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So girls.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But they're going back and they wish for their their handsome man or whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why are music?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there's the Lizzy McGuire wishing fountain.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just have to say in time your next excursion that you go on is go to the Roman Coliseum.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am Marcus Aurelius, you know, King of Rome and in the Roman Coliseum war, so I think that is a great position because it's showing that on the same vacation, the male and female experiences, so different, like same mission to put it totally.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think similar with this, I'm like, yeah, I need to build a castle, I need to build a castle with a motor on it for my family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I turned on this warrior mode.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's like, oh, yeah, flowers and
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's been so perfect.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, pretty much.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's a good idea.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, that's really cool that you guys are both like finding your role in this and that, you know, it's opposite, but it's like you need those different parts of to make it all work together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think that's awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And even just like your outlook on it, like,
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[SPEAKER_01]: building up to it, normally when I ask this question, people don't talk about babies or their honeymoon even, you know, it's like, they're like, well, that's in the future, like, we'll get to that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But like, you guys are so centered already about your future and you know that it's not just about your wedding.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's about a life together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think that's so cool that you guys are already looking forward to that future.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So,
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're a great grandparents.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're like, I'm not that big kid.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Imagine when we have grand kids.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Imagine when we're grand parents.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we're like the top of the totem pole.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're the... We are in patriarchal with 20 grand kids.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's...
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think it's shifted so much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's the most...
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like... us being cooler.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Instead of us being cooler, rich or famous or whatever, I think now so much for me, my goals like to be this really successful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: as an endowed, but even bigger than that, the ripple effect of your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's been 80 years old, nine years old, and having great kids and great young kids, and then those two or three generations all looking up to us as great examples I think will be our great success.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, for sure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's super cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thinking about the generations and your legacy that
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[SPEAKER_01]: your family is going to build upon.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm even just thinking the song that you guys during your proposal, it's like in your children's children, like that's so cool and such a theme for you guys.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you guys have any other advice for couples who are planning their weddings right now?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like you've already given us so many jobs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think my opinion don't be afraid to be different and don't be afraid to turn down and thank your family or friends for advice or guidance or their commentary and said, you know, thankful and be appreciative for sure, but it doesn't mean that you have to implement and follow it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe to an extent if you're helping pay for things, of course, maybe to an extent if you have family and family help, but both of us are very different from our fitness.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are, I don't know, not black sheep in a bad way, but we're both very different in our lifestyle, and our lifestyle preferences compared to both of our families.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we are very, it's a very new thing for both our families to live the public life that we do, not that we are on, on who people are watching, but just like social media.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, for sure, yes, you've got to follow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's very different for both of our families.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think that not afraid to be different, not afraid to be
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[SPEAKER_00]: for your love and insight?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's really great advice, very cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, you guys are doing it in your own way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think that's super special.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You guys are building upon your own life that you're creating.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And it's really beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right, as we wrap, maybe tell us about your careers a little bit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And if you even have anything exciting coming up with that,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know there's lots to plan with your wedding and that's probably like the big, exciting thing, but maybe expound a little bit more on what you do, like, Cody, I know you're a runner, like Francesca, I know you love doing videos in your car about wellness and beauty, like, tell us more about all those things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was going to say first she is incredible at concentrations, she is so much better than she gives herself credit for, she is really, really good at she does, she is really good at inspiring women and leading women and giving women honest, applicable advice, so I definitely give her kudos there, I hope that I can be as good of a video, videographer and constant creators her when I get there, you'll be able to know of many more for all of her pieces.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, she's just really great at what she does and I love seeing her improve so much
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[SPEAKER_00]: we are horrible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like people think you just think of a phone and you're just good at it or something, but I'm proof so much and exactly see where her career goes because right now she's in the beauty space which is awesome but then I'll get to see her transition to wife influence or mom influence or so.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking for that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think that's exciting.
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[SPEAKER_02]: In terms of just the whole point of why I love social media so much is I think that I want people to love my page and love my content
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want them to just love me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want them to love my content because it makes them love themselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think over the last year, and how my community has grown, is because a lot of women forgot how to do that, forgot how to love themselves, forgot how to get ready every day, forgot the importance of putting themselves first.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it's not selfish and you shouldn't feel guilty, but your life thrives when you are thriving.
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[SPEAKER_02]: when you love who you are, when you love what you see in the mirror, when you work on yourself, when you don't let yourself rot.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that's really just the goal of my me right now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And my brand is that there's nothing coming in terms of like events or things like that, but I just want people to know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The reason I do social media and the reason I want people to see my content and love it is so that it helps them love themselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's like the overarching theme I would say.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What about you?
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's coming.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I feel like my career and I totally changed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, my career, my 20s.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think, uh, so many people are set on the one thing they have to do or what they went to school for.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I kind of did, uh, one idea.
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[SPEAKER_00]: After we moved to Miami, some of the really changed where the culture here is really big in terms of fitness and training, of course, as it is in many places.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But, uh, very much so here is a lot of competition, a lot of talent when it comes to fitness and, and darn sports, especially.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Running cycling, swimming all that is really big here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I got into that scene, but yeah, I absolutely love it And I think for me a big message from you over our team is that we have to as men to be great example
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[SPEAKER_00]: fathers and husbands.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think it starts when you become a husband or become a father.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that the ideal way or best way per se and I don't want to say anything like you should do this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You should do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I do believe that men really should not really prepare themselves physically and emotionally spiritually for what's to come in life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think most people just say, oh well, when I get there, I get there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When I'm coming down, then I'll just figure out how to be a dad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When I become a husband, I'll figure out how to be a husband.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And of course there's little things like
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[SPEAKER_00]: I might not have the best diaper change you form right now, and I'll get better at that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's how it went.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's how it comes before.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It has to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have to really do hard things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think for all humans, but especially for men, we need to attack these hard things that don't really affect our lives that much so that we can take on the pain and take on the weight and the pressure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: for our families in the future and beca leaders and examples.
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[SPEAKER_00]: For example, for me, I don't need to run the marathons.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't need to run a two, three hour marathons.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't need to prove it to anybody on Instagram that I can run fast, but if you're focused on social media and on numbers, that is just the surface level.
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[SPEAKER_00]: real message and the real point of it is to do very hard things so that when the real hard things come in life, we can be well prepared for them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we can know how to be soic and how to maintain and be levelheaded because
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, no matter how much money you have or follow social media, whatever we know that the life can still attack you, that enemy can still attack you or your family, and I want to, I want my family to have completely confidence that I'll be able to handle, you know, the panelists and the mountain tops that we're experiencing together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think overall for me, through my races and through the things that I'll do, we're planning on doing, she's my crew chief.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So she helps with a lot of my management and races and logistics we're going to conquer a hundred our first hundred mile or next year and with me along the way but those things just to inspire for me and inspire all humans but especially for ambitious men so that they can be more well equipped to actually be
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[SPEAKER_00]: of husbands and fathers and we both come from the worst families like most people doing fortunately and so we want to do all that we can so that we can be strong and do the strongholds and the anchors that are family and extended family are going to be.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Tell them about your two races.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, so I'm trying to qualify for Boston.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's kind of the nice the big thing and amateur running is is getting the boss He's so three we're heading to anyapolis and she's already more nervous than me Sick and then the mornings of his races.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I genuinely feel so nauseous and he's like not nervous at all He's so excited in my head.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm gonna Well, we're doing tampon my rocks.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They had the end of October
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[SPEAKER_02]: and then they eat up in the marathon.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At that time, during the times, like running and lifting combined, which is fun to my little little fun inside quest to keep lifting weights and don't turn into a cross country looking runner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But as that, and then yeah, any necklace and she gets more and more, I think she'll be too really not just gonna be able to eat the morning of my marathon because it's such a big buildup.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, you know, six months or four,
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[SPEAKER_00]: all going into this one event and you only have two hours to make sure that the last six months actually pays off and there's a lot of things that have to go to plant.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah and she wants to make sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah we're doing that and then going to celebrate it over the holidays and then get back to work and get ready for my first 100 miles.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I hope that we can reach that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Cool and glorify God and family and love throughout the process.
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[SPEAKER_01]: that's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I love your outlook on everything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You are truly just aiming for the future.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And, you know, it's not about a numbers game for you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not about like trying to get more followers or likes or whatever.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's truly about doing challenging things now to set yourself up for the challenging things in the future.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think that's such a cool way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So look at it and not many people on social media have that perspective.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it's really cool that you are bringing that to social media and hopes that you can.
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[SPEAKER_01]: with your influence and influence other other people in a great positive way like you're doing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So really cool things that you guys have going on right now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've absolutely loved this conversation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like you guys truly have your heads on right on your shoulders.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's really cool like not a lot of couples who I interview truly have such a vision for their future together and it's really cool to see that with you guys just the huge foundation that you've already built in your relationship and knowing how your future or like what your future holds and you might not know what your future holds but you know that like through your faith and your relationship with God and your relationship with each other that
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[SPEAKER_01]: you will persevere.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it's super cool to just see that and have that perspective.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I was so appreciate you guys taking the time today and just like telling us all about the good things that you have going on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And one last thing I want to see your ring if you have it on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I forgot to ask you that earlier.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh, look at that rock!
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's so pretty!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my goodness!
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna get a puppy yet, so we had to get a ring and... She really wants a puppy, but...
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want a puppy soon!
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[SPEAKER_00]: But wait, is we still in the high rise, so I'm just gonna be me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know oftentimes it takes up and down to 20 floors and over to the park, and so we just want to make sure that we can have a... We're gonna need a house, and we're gonna have a backyard, and we'll be able to have the dog right there, but I know she's already mad.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, wait, I have one more year and then I'm getting, I don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said, yep, I said, okay, so we get to the keys that house, we're going to turn around and go right to the, the, the for year that we want to, the puppy, but so fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would say just one, one last thing for me, it sounds good when you listen to a podcast, you're like, wow, they have everything all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, figured out everything's all great, but I think it's just a compound, the compound effect of having tough conversation after tough conversation and continuing to shed layers of our pride in our ego and our selfishness to come together for each other because there's, there's times every week when we could buy to each other when we could let our work and our stress and our personal things that are outside of our relationship affect our relationship, but I think the biggest thing is building this fort, this fortress,
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[SPEAKER_00]: around your relationship, remembering the core pillars that you stand on, and making sure that you remain on the same team.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We said all the time right when we get on our tips, so we have little disagreements on how to do something, or even just that, you know, we can't think it's okay, we're on the same team.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, how can I say that?
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's all of my pride and come to get it, come back together and say how can we be on the same team in the same page because all this external stuff that tries to attack you is a bunch of the yes and we got to remember what's most important and that's us yes something I tell all my followers and I'll say here kids anyone is listening up until this point is especially as women the biggest thing that changed our relationship is me understanding that two things can go with us I'm frustrated without giving him the silent treatment
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can be hurt, also being forgiving.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can be completely fulfilled and happy and also still need him to do something else, do something more.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think allowing myself to understand that it's not just being angry, not it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can be angry and still be forgiving and not shut him out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so reminding myself that two things can coexist within a relationship,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think has helped that bridge.
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[SPEAKER_02]: People think we live, we say we don't argue.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't remember the last time without an argument.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Cody's never raised someone's name.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's been six and a half years ever.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think it's because we both realized that it's okay and two things can coexist without ruining or dismantling all the things that we've built.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So that should be said if I said I would give, especially women because we're a little more emotional.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We hope things a little harder.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But just remembering that two things can coexist at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, it's really great relationship advice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that so much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you guys are wise beyond your years.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me tell you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, yeah, set it up in all the right ways.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What were you gonna say?
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[SPEAKER_00]: As a hopefully.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hopefully.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, Emily, well, thank you guys so much for coming on the show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Tell us where we can follow you really quick.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so my handle is on the same.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's just for Francesca underscore underscore, A, A, G, O, S, T, I, then E, L, L, I.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So which is my first name, underscore underscore, A, my last name.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I know you're pointing somewhere, so that way you understand what I'm saying.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, they'll be in the show notes so you can... What the hell is that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Really, really basic, really easy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My name is Cody, the KK would you write and Thompson.
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[UNKNOWN]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm just 4.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I'm an Instagram, so...
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a, yeah, I don't know, just 4 minutes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the end.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Just so I know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, Bobby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, awesome.
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[SPEAKER_00]: On, uh, we have to do it again the next year when you see some of the other side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I'll be following along anyways.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, make sure you follow them too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you can see their beautiful, all their wedding content leading up to the wedding and then also all their wedding content.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure it's going to be so beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So thank you guys so much for just opening up and sharing everything that you did today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Super cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Congratulations.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Enjoy this time of being engaged and we'll talk soon.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Also, thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thanks, guys.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Bye.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There you have it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Another episode of the Wedding Reporter podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: To see those gorgeous wedding and engagement photos head over to NashvilleBrideGuide.com for more behind the scenes content.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And if you like this episode, I would so appreciate it if you would rate and subscribe the show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: See you next time for another great episode.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, welcome to the Wedding Reporter podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We have a really great couple for you today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We have Francesca, Augustinelli, and Cody Thompson, and their content creators and newly engaged couple who share their passion for faith, love, wellness, and building a healthy relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And after six years together, Cody popped the question in February, 2026, marking the beginning of their next chapter.
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[SPEAKER_01]: known for sharing relationship advice, personal growth, and glimpses into their life together Francesca and Cody inspire their online community through their love story and shared values.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Today, they're joining the wedding reporter podcast to share the details behind their romantic proposal.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The secrets to their lasting relationship and what's next as they plan their wedding, so welcome to the show guys!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hi, thank you so much!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yay!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh, congratulations!
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[SPEAKER_01]: First of all, I'm so happy for you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I saw your proposal on, I think it was Instagram or TikTok, and I was like, I have to talk to them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like so special, so unique, and yeah, we'll definitely dive into that into the show, but first I love to ask you how did you guys meet?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We first met on Christian Bengal.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, we did it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We did not.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's literally one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We met on Instagram.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've seen the commercials for that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They have like the Jesus fish and like, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's great.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, that's not even true.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We've had gone Instagram in 2020.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was in network marketing for a beauty company.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was a network marketing for a supplement company.
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[SPEAKER_02]: and I was speaking to a girl who was kind of in decisive of what company she wanted to join whether it was wellness-based beauty space and she ended up joining the wellness space.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I followed her after that and he was on her story from a wellness event, was something like that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I found him.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I followed him.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that was it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like,
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[SPEAKER_02]: early 2020, late 2019, basically, and that's kind of how we met.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Connect got connected, and then we met at, what is it, buddy, bro, in Hyde Park, in Tampa, for the first time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my god.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow, okay, so this was like,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like six degrees of separation or something where it's just like you happen to follow this girl like Cody you happen to be in her story and you're probably like oh he's kind of cute I'll follow him or like what he's doing seems super interesting I'll follow him and then it just so happens that you guys connect through DM and then start hanging out in Tampa.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Did you guys both live in Tampa at the time, or were you traveling for work, or how did that all come about?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so... Did you start first when I'm in school?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did one year after school, I was still living in Orlando.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I worked in Disney corporate and then moved over to Tampa then.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then we met a couple months after we went to Tampa.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Fun fact.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When we met the first like two months that we were hanging out and just talking in general, it was not a romantic hangout.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like he did DME being like, let's go on a date.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You wanted me to join his business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was recruiting her for sales.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I thought she was good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's out going crazy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was like, no, he kept inviting me to these like work sales events.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, I don't want to work with you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I got to want to do that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want to like date you and hang out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he just kept inviting me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then finally, he was like, okay, let's meet.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Buddy bro, like just you and I.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was the first time we actually met talked in person and all that stuff.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, for a little while, it was just business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so you guys had been like DMing, talking, but it was all business at first.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then like, it seemed like Francesca, you were pretty forward to just be like, no, I don't see this as a business relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I want to explore this more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then the first time you met was like your first date?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, yeah, and I knew, I knew, I knew it was interesting here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know we're managing to jump like this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, literally.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's like, strictly like, oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was in the scene where I wasn't flirting with her.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, something like that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Wasn't that because of the circle of friends that he had at the time, they were all there on the same path of being business focused, no girlfriends, no boyfriends, like everyone was just, strictly, we're only doing business and in my world, I'm like, well, you can do both.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's fine.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But for him and his circle at the time, that wasn't the case.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No rose, no sex, no alcohol.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And man, he did a drink, he read the Bible, he didn't party, and I'm texting my friends, like, this guy is like weird, like he doesn't do any of his stuff.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I understand what's going on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But one thing that I felt...
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[SPEAKER_02]: was so apparent to me as we connected on just a very like ground level.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Whether it was conversations were supernatural, outside of just anything romantic, just in general, we could talk for him.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's a talker, I'm a talker, and now looking back for the most probably we are the same person in many things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, we love being the center of attention.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We can talk to anybody.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's probably more external now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm more internal in terms of like being social, but we wanted a lot of the same things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think that's where we built just that foundation of being able to conversation for hours on end.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, for a while, it was really just business, but me being like,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have enough friends.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want me more friends.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't mean he was a business partner.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want to join your business.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so there was never confusion on where I stood.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the point where I was okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What are we doing?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We're the doing this and we're not doing anything kind of thing, but yeah, she was very different than she was today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She was crazy and loud and rambunctious and it was, you're not not having it per se.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was, I was, I was very, I drank a lot.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was very loud.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was very, I didn't have a relationship.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't, wasn't in my faith.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't have a relationship with Jesus.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't go to church.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I definitely didn't agree the Bible.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was just, I come from a very loud Italian family.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I think my,
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[SPEAKER_02]: vocabulary at times may have not been the best choice and so it was kind of just this total opposite of who he was used to and who same thing for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Five-old reader doesn't drink doesn't party.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It works out a lot.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Works on his business was the opposite of what I was used to and so obviously we're different now but yeah we were polar opposites in that room in the beginning.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, my goodness.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's wild.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean at first it was like opposite the track and then like I guess Cody were you almost like taking a back that she was so forward and wanting to date you and kind of like have like living in a different way than you were were you hesitant at all in that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, for sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was very hesitant and there was a lot of resistance with my, you know, sort of with the time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Cause you're like, hey, that's very much an outsider of our little circle and our mission and our goals and our environment of what we're doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, it was definitely more radical for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was kinda crazy, but I was like, yeah, you know, I guess, yeah, take a chance on it and see what happens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was like, well, I'm open to it at least, I mean, this was months later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's like, hey, I'm done with, you know, kind of the back and forth thing, you know, figure out what we're doing here, whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If we're just going to be friends, I don't need another friend, so bye.
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[SPEAKER_00]: See ya.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now we're going to do this or not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, okay, yeah, sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll try to see where this goes and many years later we're here, but yeah, definitely didn't start out and look anything like it does today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow, that's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, Francesca, maybe explain a little bit more about
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're a journey, you said you were a totally different person from when you first met and now like who's the person you are now after meeting Cody.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think the biggest thing about meeting him was he was so he was so attuned to worldly things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So when I was in network marketing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: My, the people that I was around were making $300,000 a month.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so the lifestyle they were accustomed to was G wagons and mansions and Chanel bags and going out to eat and going to the bars.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think I was just very dead set on like, that's what it looks like to be rich, to be happy, to live this life and him being the total opposite.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So little in terms of worldly things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he doesn't need the $20 latte and the $5,000 bag and this $10,000 vacation, but yet he seems the most at peace out of anybody I know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Internally, and I think I was drawn to that because I knew I didn't have that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: As much as I was happy on the outside and doing all these things and partying and shopping, the internal peace that he had, I wanted.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think I gravitated towards, what is that?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is it, is it Jesus?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is it faith?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is it the people he's around?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is it the things that he restrains from drinking sex?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Things of that nature?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think I just latched on to that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he never pushed faith or anything on me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was never like you have to do this or we're not being together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that allowed me to gravitate naturally because I wanted that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: piece and I wanted that happiness of nothing and then everything above that was like a bonus.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so that's the person you see today is don't get me wrong.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I still love the finer things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm still a high maintenance person, but I can be content with nothing at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what we have are not mine.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think that's what really got me to change
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I wanted that so bad and so I think that's where I kind of grabbed you in a tour.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow, what a journey for both of you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That is so awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just how you guys were brought together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And here you are now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that was like six years ago, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So how I guess at what point in your relationship, where you guys like having serious talks about getting married and you were like, okay,
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[SPEAKER_01]: we're on the right track and we should probably get engaged soon.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think we'll say we can both go because it's like we both have two different time on it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've got five years in for real.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, like it was okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because I think something that was also different is we grew up very different.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I just have a brother he has four siblings and how we grew up.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Me and my brother grew up I would say like upper middle class.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We weren't super wealthy but there was nothing in our life that we ever needed or wanted for.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And when I met Cody, rightfully so, but like Cody was broke, like dead broke, like sold his car to pay his eviction notice.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When I was with him kind of thing, but something that was different about Cody is no matter what the situation was, he was the same person, like had the same level of faith, had the same level of kindness, had the same level of gratitude for life, regardless of a situation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: because he was a much better person than me earlier.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I knew probably within like two years in where I was like, I can marry this person.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because he's taught me so much about just life in general.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think it took me a little longer to get on board of that and to change my habits, my emotional trauma, my daddy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's all those things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's up a little longer for me to kind of get in fluidity with him, but I would say two, two and a half years and I was like, yeah, I could marry this person, I was in the conversation.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's probably didn't happen until probably four.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Four years.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, I agree.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think I mean, for me, probably at least three, four years in because there were so much that
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[SPEAKER_00]: We started dating, I was 22, and fresh out of college.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I wasn't baby now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I could go back and relive my life, I probably started being preparing better to be a man, and I was been in a father at 14, so I'd actually ready at 22.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Versus the world we live in today, we kind of treat ourselves in our lives like we're kids until we're 30 years old.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, oh, well, I'm just a kid in my 20s.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just 27, so why do you like me marry your half kids now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just a baby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or our parents and grandparents were already parents and married to a parent and with married with kids 20 years old.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So just different lifestyles.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But given the circumstance, I wasn't ready at 22 or 23.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't ready financially.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't ready spiritually.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't ready emotionally in so many different ways.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then for her, there's a big difference between a girlfriend that's fun and awesome and a wife.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I knew that how heavy that decision was, and just because we love each other and we have fun and we live together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we go on some trips and we have little successes together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't mean it's worthy of marriage yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so there are a lot of things that I need to feel spiritually and really have that deeper calling.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I think it takes a lot more of love and feeling good and being into each other obviously to be married for 80 years.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so that was a bigger decision for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it's okay, is she going to be a fit wife long term when we're 55 years old as she's still going to be an ideal life that I would be seeking and vice versa and I'm going to be the right person for her when we're 55 years old because everybody's having all fun and games and then you get caught up in kids and then everybody gets divorced and when they're kids lead because they're
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[SPEAKER_00]: they realize, well, they're not really at the same page or is connected to each other as they thought.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I just wanted to think, in the future, what is this going to look like?
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[SPEAKER_00]: How are we going to work together along term?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there are some things for me where I need to see or fit as a wife of trusting my leadership.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And me also being capable of leading a family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and so once I finally got to that place four or five years in, I got more of that conviction the conviction started to grow and I would say a year ago probably it really started to grow in so much that I'm ready to be a husband, I'm ready to be a dad and I'm absolutely stoked for that and that's when I finally said I'm like okay let's go let's do this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's really cool that you guys just took your time to truly like think about your future like you said thinking about when you're 55 years old is this the person that I'm still going to want to be with and thinking through all those different life changes and who they are as a person and how they would handle those life changes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: For the long run and I think that might be something that a lot of people miss and they might just Feel the pressure of being like oh you guys have been together for two years like when you're gonna get engaged And then they start feeling this pressure of like, well, I better do it even though they haven't maybe thought through all those steps And so I think that's so great that you guys took your time took the six years to really get to know each other and To really prepare for that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, bravo to you guys for the
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's what we got on the internet, that's like our biggest, you know, the haters or whatever the trolls are insults, you know, it shouldn't, it should never take five years.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, or there's something wrong because it took so long.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think back to, if we ever got engaged at three years in, people don't take, again, marriage as seriously as they should, but I don't believe it's a good idea to build a marriage when you have no money.
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[SPEAKER_02]: when you have no one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But because funny and start the biggest driver of people getting divorced, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think to his point, I was so emotionally broken that it was, I'm an independent woman attitude.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't need no man attitude.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's not how you ever want to enter a marriage.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I believe that, yes, women should be able to stand on their own two feet.
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[SPEAKER_02]: God forbid something were to happen.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I need to understand that submitting to his leadership
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have no voice or I have no say or I'm unimportant, but the way that his leadership has allowed me to relax and exhale and be able to tap more into my feminine energy and to be more pleasant to be honest because I let go of control.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think that only to happen before we ever thought of marriage and people around us that know us always say like, you guys are so annoying, it's like you've been in the hunting from stage since we met you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think it's because we took our time to figure out what that looks like.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Um, but yeah, I was just saying my, my piece of advice on that because I know people will listen is there's no Russian getting engaged because there are conversations that do need to happen before you just get married.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But your family and your friends will want you to get married, but there's certain things that really do need alignment to be able to have a healthy marriage in my opinion.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, very well said.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I love that so much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So then you get to this point of being ready to get married and did you guys go ring shopping or was it a complete surprise?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like what kind of lit up to that point?
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you know this brand, she was not doing surprises.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's not doing ball ring.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's not doing taking chance on it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's not just going to be happy with any old shape or cut or carry it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, we definitely figured out preferences.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, ring size, all that stuff, for sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we definitely had thoughts and we were a lot much on the same way the same plan.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We tried on twice, like a year before.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then once maybe I would say seven to eight months before.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, so we tried on twice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, nice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So then, Cody, you had an idea of like what you wanted, and then you get the ring.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Did you have any idea of how you were going to propose after you got the ring?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, not really.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think we have a really had a good plan because we live in my Indian, you know, venues are crazy, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're looking at venues.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're like thousands of dollars just to take some pictures at venues.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we pray it on it thought about it and I run a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I run around Miami.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when you run in places, whether it's Nashville or my Indian, you work wherever you live, you get to experience
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[SPEAKER_00]: a lot more places and spots and streets and neighborhoods that you may not otherwise when you're just commuting and car so I know little neighborhoods and pockets and then finding this a little little church on this this side street that I love running down but it can't be trees and everything so we ended up finding that and it's trying to be a great spot with outside this church as it kind of mid-eval stone theme because I didn't want to be basic I don't know
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to do a beach thing and it's like, you know, is it the wind blowing weather?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We were driving by, so we were just looking and I was like, oh, how do you, that would be a pretty place.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think after that, that just kind of took to him and I didn't, we didn't think much of it, but then obviously now looking back and like, oh, that makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But it was the perfect place, like the perfect, everything.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, I had, we, we reached out, we talked about it, we had.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We were on the same page for almost everything, obviously, except the date of, but I don't, that was how I wanted it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so did you know that you were getting proposed to that day or have any idea like, what was the buildup to actually getting you in front of the church for the proposal?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I knew pretty much because my family, my parents don't live here.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so, when my parents, my family's very close, my brother lives in Cullervant, and it was his birthday, February 19th, so I knew my parents would be coming here.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that way it wouldn't have to make up a lie of why they were coming here if it was on a different day, because they would say, oh, we're coming for Asian's birthday.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I kind of figured out, because usually my mom and dad they're divorced, they would come at different times.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And this time, they were coming at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I pretty much took that, and I'm like, okay, it's happening.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's no way that my mom and dad would come on the same weekend if this wasn't happening.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So that's kind of how I knew or at least I guessed but then the day of when he said we were going, I think to an event, but he was leaving first and he was gonna come and get me and I just after that I started piecing things together, I think after being together for so long,
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[SPEAKER_02]: We keep nothing from each other like yeah, so for him to say he's going somewhere without me and not tell me where I kind of you know figured it out, but people think that just because I knew that That it would make it any less emotional But our video it was me crying from the minute I got out of the car and then when we had to get pictures I actually said like hey, I need a second to go like fix my face because it was so it was not Fixing my head at the same time
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[SPEAKER_02]: And put her back on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was just as magical as if I was a breast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's so sweet.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Cody maybe walk us through the planning process of it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then up to the proposal of like what actually happened during it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I mean, kind of stressful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's a little inclination of wedding.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Plenty of that, we're in the, you know, wedding planning phase.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a lot, and I was like, wow, the wedding's going to be insane because this is already so much to consider.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we have the flower grew, we have making sure we can actually,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have the time a lot of the property and even the church was trying to kick us out because we were setting up in there for too long and so dealing with all that, trying not to get kicked off the property and making sure the flower goes everything set up the flowers and the candles and all that stuff and also a videographer, a photographer and music and so all these moving pieces just to make sure they're all good and I got all these people in a group chat and I'm texting and what's happening.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and these groups just to make sure everybody's in alignment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody's on cue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're leaving.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're leaving the house.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, we're on our way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, we're pulling in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I had to go check on the site multiple times during the day to make sure all is going well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, definitely a whole setup, but very, very much worth it because you don't just get to curate that experience for yourself or for your, for your bride to be, for your fiance, but also curating that experience for family and then all the people that it gets to reach, obviously.
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[SPEAKER_00]: online.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I love enjoying and curating experiences and making sure that people have a great time and provoke the right emotions based on that that scene.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah I was like just directing it, producing it, putting all that together was really a joy for me and I can't wait to do it again and much bigger scene for a while.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, it's finding all those people in the right places, the right time and also figuring out, you know, budgets, you know, getting my hook up of a video guy for talking for guys So I'll spend $10,000 every time we do something and so all the money through it is a lot of moving parts But it's very fun and very rewarding when you get to see all these people that you love and you're in loss all of
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, crying their eyes out, and so happy for us, and also kind of that relief from from family and friends, like, finally, like, yes, we finally, you know, didn't seem to be building for so long.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, it was great, it was super fun for me to work with great people and vendors, and also, you know, make everybody happy and you create this special experience.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's so cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I guess describing it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was like Francesca, you walked up to the church doors and was the worship music playing already or did that start like once you guys like met.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we parked the car.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was driving.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He came around, got me out of the car.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And probably eight seconds after getting out of the car, I heard the music.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then I just start crying because I'm like, he is one of the best people I'm curating experiences.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I knew the minute that I got all the car and the music started, that was gonna cry for the entire time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I work, he's walking me from the car to the church and then I see one camera guy and then I see my parents and then I see my brother and my sister in law and I'm like, oh my gosh, this is real life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then if you could picture the church is like cobblestone and it's full of white roses, candles, the white draping, and then the sun is hitting the church at just the perfect angle.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was just like, oh my god, this is literally everything I could have dreamed but better.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, this is it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: With the wedding it's easier because there's no surprise.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have control over all that, but with this, it was just like I pray that he knows me and that he understands what I want and what we want.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But it was the perfect mix of being able to glorify the Lord and what we're about to do and me at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so, yeah, that's kind of how it went.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the music changes again.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When you got to know the one knee and then after that,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, you know, crying ready to go.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then he was like, wait, one more thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he's like, I want to cry over us.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the third song came on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then we were just standing there, you know, we're shipping for two minutes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it was just the most wholesome experience of like a felt like time just stopped.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the music was so loud.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we were just standing there, we're shipping.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it was great.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, it started the minute he got me out of the car.
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[SPEAKER_02]: and then the music started and that's how I knew this was going down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One of the hardest part of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Actually timing the sun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so of course weather.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Living in Florida, especially in Miami, in South Florida, it's very tropical.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it can rain at any time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be sunny any time and never really out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was one of the hardest things I went back and forth.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I've talked about videographers for weeks.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, kind of planned as a before.
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[SPEAKER_00]: 435, 536, 630, and those windows were, there's only so much window you have to really have margin of error there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we're trying to plan there's trees around it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The angle, the sun, what time of day is going to actually come down the cascade side was across the church and across and everything up there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah that was all coming to play and we just ended up picking the right time slot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And because we're going to leave it different times, I'm like, wait, we can't be yet in any 30 more minutes because my guys are sitting there looking at the sun and seeing the angle and everything how we would walk in and where the sun would be shining on us at that time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So y'all those little details on the word were kind of stressful, but definitely make a big difference when you see the final product.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah!
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is really important to play in rather than just like spontaneous ego.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just feel like pulling the ring out of my pocket, where the beach, or where it Christmas, opening presents, let's just...
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, that's just not who we are and I think that's, it was, I think through our, I think really get to think that we're blessed with this through our relationship, we get to use our gifts or get to express like our creativity and I think that's a really cool part that most people don't do and I think that maybe it would be better if it's just more, I guess, authentic in terms of you just feel it and you just do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: versus planning.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, everybody has their own flavors and preferences, but for us, I can't wait to express more of that creativity through our relationships so we can reach even more people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I think for us to just have it and share and watch over.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I love how detail oriented you were with at Cody, just like timing it down to when the sun was going to hit just right and everything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like, those little details mattered to you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think it's so cool, just the thought that you put into it like for her is awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're the songs that you played, like, ones that were special to you guys as a couple.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, special to us, and also just really fitting for lyrics too, not just music, but also the lyrics and the timing of the lyrics.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But really important to me to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I actually our first song was Justin Bieber.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I rocked it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Justin Bieber, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it was a lifeline.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and you are lifetime.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's really really really good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's long.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You should listen to the lyrics if you're out there and there's a lot of just mirrors on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe not fan of that's okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But that one is really good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was special to us as well as a couple of our favorite worship songs and some that we want to share our wedding too.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then, both last one of us in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Bless you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Bless you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I really love the blessing in your family and your children and their children, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then having your family there too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm just having them experience it too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure was so special for you guys.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's see.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I absolutely love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, we'll definitely link to the video of it and everything just in the show notes, but now you guys are planning a wedding.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, this was back in February that this happened, so how far are you guys into the wedding planning process?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so we are getting married next year at the end of next year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm leaving the cliffhanger because everyone wants another month in the day, but I'm not doing that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, but the end of next year.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Other of you said it was an hour ago.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, no, no, not the end of next year.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to share, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, too.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have the venue.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I have my dress.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have the save the dates are going out soon.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then we're just finalizing things with the floral designer.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not having a planner.
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[SPEAKER_02]: because I feel like Kodi and I end up redoing everything ourselves at any time we do that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so it's just easier.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We gave ourselves enough time because we did get engaged in February and then documenting Mary until the end of next year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Gave us enough time to be able to do it ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But now it's like the little things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like second dress, his talks, the food, dessert tables, things like that more of curating the experience versus the big things once.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The florals are done.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I feel like I can exhale.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But until then, it is in so important to me that the florals are correct.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, that's kind of a wrap in the process.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tastes like you get to taste everything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I know, okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Good, yeah, that's a great part about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, are you guys gonna read in Miami?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Go ahead.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, yep, yep, in my opinion here's the local version want to do overseas But it's really hard to have all the people that that we want there to be overseas If we want to do Europe, but maybe for our our 10 year we can do it you're a ceremony But I think a lot of people are great think for crazy when they hear the wedding plan I think it was like oh my gosh, you have to have wedding plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's no way you could have a wedding without wedding
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[SPEAKER_00]: But for us, we know exactly what we want and we enjoy the work in the process.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're doing that may not be their thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: To really enjoy it, to really curating the whole experience and all the little details.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We love that and enjoy that and feel that it's part of us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How how we show ourselves this and unwitting process.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The whole weekend really, because we're having, you know, like a,
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[SPEAKER_00]: a party before so welcome party the day before we're to express ourselves there and get to welcome people and get to because everybody's traveling pretty much both of our families don't land in my other than her brother there's only bail remember on both sides that lives within I mean my family is five six hours away and that's the closest people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, yeah, everybody's traveling so we want to make this whole great weekend experience for them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Versus coming down and having another wedding that, you know, many people maybe won't be as memorable or as good an experience for the guests.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, I think that's something that's important to us as well.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, that's a experience.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's for us, absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's for us and God, absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But also giving them a great experience, which we're really going to enjoy putting together and seeing the outcome of it.
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[UNKNOWN]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's really cool and yeah, especially with how detailed you were with the proposal like you're carrying your skills and that like over to the wedding and I think it's cool that you guys know your personalities and know like Okay, if somebody else hops in and tries to help us plan like we're just going to have to erase that and like redo it always I like
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[SPEAKER_01]: Props you for like knowing yourselves enough to like make that decision and not like listen to the outside noise I think that's super important and I think that's a theme throughout your whole relationship too Right you're not listening to the outside noise you guys are doing it your way which I think is so important Yeah
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[SPEAKER_01]: So how many people are you expecting at your big day?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, 100 followers.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I would say that we're a little bit over at like 140, but everyone has so many from experience that obviously you're never going to get 140.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we're thinking around their race like 100, 100 and 10 at most.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, our other.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, that's a good number.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then what kind of vibes are you going for?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like do you have colors picked out?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Is it like more modern, rustic, like ocean?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What are your, what vibes do you have?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, everyone is so funny.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Everyone that I, I talked to or work with, they always try to throw like dusty rose or like a pale lavender.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No.
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[SPEAKER_01]: no color.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It will be okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: White, green, and maybe a little bit of like a espresso chocolate brown.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No colors.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But my mom keeps sending these stuff and you'll be like, what about this little hint of pink?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What about this little hint of, I'm like, no, guys.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Everyone needs to understand there is no color.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And this is something that we spoke about.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm obviously, my mom is a dairy, has a very big hand in it because she wants to help, which I love.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'll take all the help I need.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can get in the same respect.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't bring it to anyone until I bring it to him first.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I do like this color.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is this cool view?
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is what I want to do.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do you think for the most part, the experience, and the
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[SPEAKER_02]: the vibe that we want to give is the same, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So he's like, yes, I love those colors.
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[SPEAKER_02]: After we want to go, and so that it's easier for us to kind of maneuver from there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So yeah, white, cream, the greenery, and then if we have to do an accent, it would be like a chocolate espresso brown.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you've already extravagant, it's not a blank slate, that's true, it's already a really really set up an incredible place where there's water features, there's a lot of different settings.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But architecture too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Architecture so there's already so much set up where some weddings you've turned nothing into a lot, take kind of a blank slate where business already really preset up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's already so much floral
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[SPEAKER_00]: that are already on the property were just kind of complimenting the property that it's already on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That sounds beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I mean, you probably don't need a lot to, you know, make it pretty because it is already.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love that super cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I feel, yeah, I think neutrals are great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're like simple, classic, like they're going to look awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like even your color palette that I'm seeing now with you guys is
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[SPEAKER_01]: What you're sweating might be like there's a little green in that floral right there, but yeah, that's a perfect representation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Totally.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's so good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What if you guys loved about being engaged so far?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think I think being engaged really flips on them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, to me, for me, it's more like man, warrior, biological, or the biological spiritual part that I love, where I feel so much more motivation, rather than just ambiguous, I think, for our first two years when we're working.
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[SPEAKER_00]: going for goals and trying to grow and be better together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's more ambiguous, it's more for ourselves, just a more selfish ambition.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so, for me, it's really kind of flipped the switch where I care so much less about my own, not that my own goals and achievements, not for me to succeed, but because it's going to help my family succeed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so, the man that I'm becoming now flipped so much of a switch on me, I think she can say that six to 12 months.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have changed more than ever and such a microwave and new time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because I'm working so much harder myself because I'm like man, I need to be stronger and more fit in every single way, and most physically and emotionally spiritually.
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[SPEAKER_00]: kids.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I want to be as prepped as possible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But outside of that, I mean, relationship was for both of us, in my opinion, I would say that the most exciting part about being engaged is baby videos or algorithms or babies.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now that's if you look at our Instagram DMs.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hello, friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And to each other, we have Instagram, DM each other all by every day or all of our reals and stuff we see.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's mostly just, you know, babies or honey moons or, you know, wedding things that we want to implement.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think that's that's a really
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[SPEAKER_00]: your children and work towards them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's bigger than just me and her now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think all that for me is the same.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think I probably have a little more of like that lot of land bliss like because you finally got the ring, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think that's something that I've obviously enjoyed is being able to call him my fiance and not just my, you know, boyfriend sometimes in the beginning I would get tripped up because he's a better boyfriend for so long.
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[SPEAKER_02]: that he's like, no, I'm your fiance and I'm like, I know, I need a second because it's been so long.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You have her switch and I think our conversations get to be a little more exciting because we also, we see a real, maybe it will spark a thought.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, hey, how are we going to do this when we have kids?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, what does that look like for you?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do you think?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do you, you know?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And again, being together is so long prior to a lot of this stuff that we already know because, you know, six years together, you pretty much know where someone stands on most things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But other than that, I think the enjoyment of growing as, you know, two individuals now come together to be able to grow together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And like he said, like, serving myself, but serving him too and figuring out what that looks like for him and in my role as a wife.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Um, yeah, I just think it's been just like a little blissful bubble for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's really kind of great fiction for men and women going into this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's we get our first Europe trip to summer and you're going to find your summer trip and a lot of people go to Italy for example, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course it's a popular destination.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can go to Rome and in Rome there's the wishing that wishing fountain, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So girls.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But they're going back and they wish for their their handsome man or whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why are music?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there's the Lizzy McGuire wishing fountain.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just have to say in time your next excursion that you go on is go to the Roman Coliseum.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am Marcus Aurelius, you know, King of Rome and in the Roman Coliseum war, so I think that is a great position because it's showing that on the same vacation, the male and female experiences, so different, like same mission to put it totally.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think similar with this, I'm like, yeah, I need to build a castle, I need to build a castle with a motor on it for my family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I turned on this warrior mode.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's like, oh, yeah, flowers and
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's been so perfect.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, pretty much.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's a good idea.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, that's really cool that you guys are both like finding your role in this and that, you know, it's opposite, but it's like you need those different parts of to make it all work together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think that's awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And even just like your outlook on it, like,
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[SPEAKER_01]: building up to it, normally when I ask this question, people don't talk about babies or their honeymoon even, you know, it's like, they're like, well, that's in the future, like, we'll get to that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But like, you guys are so centered already about your future and you know that it's not just about your wedding.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's about a life together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think that's so cool that you guys are already looking forward to that future.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So,
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're a great grandparents.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're like, I'm not that big kid.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Imagine when we have grand kids.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Imagine when we're grand parents.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we're like the top of the totem pole.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're the... We are in patriarchal with 20 grand kids.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's...
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think it's shifted so much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's the most...
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like... us being cooler.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Instead of us being cooler, rich or famous or whatever, I think now so much for me, my goals like to be this really successful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: as an endowed, but even bigger than that, the ripple effect of your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's been 80 years old, nine years old, and having great kids and great young kids, and then those two or three generations all looking up to us as great examples I think will be our great success.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, for sure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's super cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thinking about the generations and your legacy that
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[SPEAKER_01]: your family is going to build upon.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm even just thinking the song that you guys during your proposal, it's like in your children's children, like that's so cool and such a theme for you guys.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's awesome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you guys have any other advice for couples who are planning their weddings right now?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like you've already given us so many jobs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think my opinion don't be afraid to be different and don't be afraid to turn down and thank your family or friends for advice or guidance or their commentary and said, you know, thankful and be appreciative for sure, but it doesn't mean that you have to implement and follow it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe to an extent if you're helping pay for things, of course, maybe to an extent if you have family and family help, but both of us are very different from our fitness.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are, I don't know, not black sheep in a bad way, but we're both very different in our lifestyle, and our lifestyle preferences compared to both of our families.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we are very, it's a very new thing for both our families to live the public life that we do, not that we are on, on who people are watching, but just like social media.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, for sure, yes, you've got to follow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's very different for both of our families.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think that not afraid to be different, not afraid to be
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[SPEAKER_00]: for your love and insight?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's really great advice, very cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, you guys are doing it in your own way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think that's super special.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You guys are building upon your own life that you're creating.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And it's really beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right, as we wrap, maybe tell us about your careers a little bit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And if you even have anything exciting coming up with that,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know there's lots to plan with your wedding and that's probably like the big, exciting thing, but maybe expound a little bit more on what you do, like, Cody, I know you're a runner, like Francesca, I know you love doing videos in your car about wellness and beauty, like, tell us more about all those things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was going to say first she is incredible at concentrations, she is so much better than she gives herself credit for, she is really, really good at she does, she is really good at inspiring women and leading women and giving women honest, applicable advice, so I definitely give her kudos there, I hope that I can be as good of a video, videographer and constant creators her when I get there, you'll be able to know of many more for all of her pieces.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, she's just really great at what she does and I love seeing her improve so much
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[SPEAKER_00]: we are horrible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like people think you just think of a phone and you're just good at it or something, but I'm proof so much and exactly see where her career goes because right now she's in the beauty space which is awesome but then I'll get to see her transition to wife influence or mom influence or so.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking for that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think that's exciting.
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[SPEAKER_02]: In terms of just the whole point of why I love social media so much is I think that I want people to love my page and love my content
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want them to just love me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want them to love my content because it makes them love themselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think over the last year, and how my community has grown, is because a lot of women forgot how to do that, forgot how to love themselves, forgot how to get ready every day, forgot the importance of putting themselves first.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it's not selfish and you shouldn't feel guilty, but your life thrives when you are thriving.
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[SPEAKER_02]: when you love who you are, when you love what you see in the mirror, when you work on yourself, when you don't let yourself rot.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that's really just the goal of my me right now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And my brand is that there's nothing coming in terms of like events or things like that, but I just want people to know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The reason I do social media and the reason I want people to see my content and love it is so that it helps them love themselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's like the overarching theme I would say.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What about you?
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's coming.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I feel like my career and I totally changed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, my career, my 20s.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think, uh, so many people are set on the one thing they have to do or what they went to school for.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I kind of did, uh, one idea.
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[SPEAKER_00]: After we moved to Miami, some of the really changed where the culture here is really big in terms of fitness and training, of course, as it is in many places.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But, uh, very much so here is a lot of competition, a lot of talent when it comes to fitness and, and darn sports, especially.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Running cycling, swimming all that is really big here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I got into that scene, but yeah, I absolutely love it And I think for me a big message from you over our team is that we have to as men to be great example
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[SPEAKER_00]: fathers and husbands.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think it starts when you become a husband or become a father.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that the ideal way or best way per se and I don't want to say anything like you should do this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You should do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I do believe that men really should not really prepare themselves physically and emotionally spiritually for what's to come in life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think most people just say, oh well, when I get there, I get there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When I'm coming down, then I'll just figure out how to be a dad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When I become a husband, I'll figure out how to be a husband.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And of course there's little things like
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[SPEAKER_00]: I might not have the best diaper change you form right now, and I'll get better at that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's how it went.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's how it comes before.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It has to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have to really do hard things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think for all humans, but especially for men, we need to attack these hard things that don't really affect our lives that much so that we can take on the pain and take on the weight and the pressure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: for our families in the future and beca leaders and examples.
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[SPEAKER_00]: For example, for me, I don't need to run the marathons.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't need to run a two, three hour marathons.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't need to prove it to anybody on Instagram that I can run fast, but if you're focused on social media and on numbers, that is just the surface level.
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[SPEAKER_00]: real message and the real point of it is to do very hard things so that when the real hard things come in life, we can be well prepared for them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we can know how to be soic and how to maintain and be levelheaded because
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, no matter how much money you have or follow social media, whatever we know that the life can still attack you, that enemy can still attack you or your family, and I want to, I want my family to have completely confidence that I'll be able to handle, you know, the panelists and the mountain tops that we're experiencing together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think overall for me, through my races and through the things that I'll do, we're planning on doing, she's my crew chief.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So she helps with a lot of my management and races and logistics we're going to conquer a hundred our first hundred mile or next year and with me along the way but those things just to inspire for me and inspire all humans but especially for ambitious men so that they can be more well equipped to actually be
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[SPEAKER_00]: of husbands and fathers and we both come from the worst families like most people doing fortunately and so we want to do all that we can so that we can be strong and do the strongholds and the anchors that are family and extended family are going to be.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Tell them about your two races.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, so I'm trying to qualify for Boston.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's kind of the nice the big thing and amateur running is is getting the boss He's so three we're heading to anyapolis and she's already more nervous than me Sick and then the mornings of his races.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I genuinely feel so nauseous and he's like not nervous at all He's so excited in my head.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm gonna Well, we're doing tampon my rocks.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They had the end of October
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[SPEAKER_02]: and then they eat up in the marathon.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At that time, during the times, like running and lifting combined, which is fun to my little little fun inside quest to keep lifting weights and don't turn into a cross country looking runner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But as that, and then yeah, any necklace and she gets more and more, I think she'll be too really not just gonna be able to eat the morning of my marathon because it's such a big buildup.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, you know, six months or four,
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[SPEAKER_00]: all going into this one event and you only have two hours to make sure that the last six months actually pays off and there's a lot of things that have to go to plant.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah and she wants to make sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah we're doing that and then going to celebrate it over the holidays and then get back to work and get ready for my first 100 miles.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I hope that we can reach that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Cool and glorify God and family and love throughout the process.
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[SPEAKER_01]: that's incredible.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I love your outlook on everything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You are truly just aiming for the future.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And, you know, it's not about a numbers game for you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not about like trying to get more followers or likes or whatever.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's truly about doing challenging things now to set yourself up for the challenging things in the future.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think that's such a cool way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So look at it and not many people on social media have that perspective.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it's really cool that you are bringing that to social media and hopes that you can.
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[SPEAKER_01]: with your influence and influence other other people in a great positive way like you're doing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So really cool things that you guys have going on right now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've absolutely loved this conversation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like you guys truly have your heads on right on your shoulders.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's really cool like not a lot of couples who I interview truly have such a vision for their future together and it's really cool to see that with you guys just the huge foundation that you've already built in your relationship and knowing how your future or like what your future holds and you might not know what your future holds but you know that like through your faith and your relationship with God and your relationship with each other that
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[SPEAKER_01]: you will persevere.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it's super cool to just see that and have that perspective.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I was so appreciate you guys taking the time today and just like telling us all about the good things that you have going on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And one last thing I want to see your ring if you have it on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I forgot to ask you that earlier.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh, look at that rock!
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's so pretty!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my goodness!
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna get a puppy yet, so we had to get a ring and... She really wants a puppy, but...
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want a puppy soon!
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[SPEAKER_00]: But wait, is we still in the high rise, so I'm just gonna be me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know oftentimes it takes up and down to 20 floors and over to the park, and so we just want to make sure that we can have a... We're gonna need a house, and we're gonna have a backyard, and we'll be able to have the dog right there, but I know she's already mad.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, wait, I have one more year and then I'm getting, I don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said, yep, I said, okay, so we get to the keys that house, we're going to turn around and go right to the, the, the for year that we want to, the puppy, but so fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would say just one, one last thing for me, it sounds good when you listen to a podcast, you're like, wow, they have everything all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, figured out everything's all great, but I think it's just a compound, the compound effect of having tough conversation after tough conversation and continuing to shed layers of our pride in our ego and our selfishness to come together for each other because there's, there's times every week when we could buy to each other when we could let our work and our stress and our personal things that are outside of our relationship affect our relationship, but I think the biggest thing is building this fort, this fortress,
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[SPEAKER_00]: around your relationship, remembering the core pillars that you stand on, and making sure that you remain on the same team.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We said all the time right when we get on our tips, so we have little disagreements on how to do something, or even just that, you know, we can't think it's okay, we're on the same team.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, how can I say that?
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's all of my pride and come to get it, come back together and say how can we be on the same team in the same page because all this external stuff that tries to attack you is a bunch of the yes and we got to remember what's most important and that's us yes something I tell all my followers and I'll say here kids anyone is listening up until this point is especially as women the biggest thing that changed our relationship is me understanding that two things can go with us I'm frustrated without giving him the silent treatment
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can be hurt, also being forgiving.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can be completely fulfilled and happy and also still need him to do something else, do something more.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think allowing myself to understand that it's not just being angry, not it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I can be angry and still be forgiving and not shut him out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so reminding myself that two things can coexist within a relationship,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think has helped that bridge.
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[SPEAKER_02]: People think we live, we say we don't argue.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't remember the last time without an argument.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Cody's never raised someone's name.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's been six and a half years ever.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I think it's because we both realized that it's okay and two things can coexist without ruining or dismantling all the things that we've built.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So that should be said if I said I would give, especially women because we're a little more emotional.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We hope things a little harder.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But just remembering that two things can coexist at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, it's really great relationship advice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that so much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you guys are wise beyond your years.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me tell you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, yeah, set it up in all the right ways.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What were you gonna say?
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[SPEAKER_00]: As a hopefully.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hopefully.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, Emily, well, thank you guys so much for coming on the show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Tell us where we can follow you really quick.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so my handle is on the same.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's just for Francesca underscore underscore, A, A, G, O, S, T, I, then E, L, L, I.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So which is my first name, underscore underscore, A, my last name.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I know you're pointing somewhere, so that way you understand what I'm saying.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, they'll be in the show notes so you can... What the hell is that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Really, really basic, really easy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My name is Cody, the KK would you write and Thompson.
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[UNKNOWN]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm just 4.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I'm an Instagram, so...
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a, yeah, I don't know, just 4 minutes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the end.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Just so I know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, Bobby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, awesome.
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[SPEAKER_00]: On, uh, we have to do it again the next year when you see some of the other side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I'll be following along anyways.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, make sure you follow them too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you can see their beautiful, all their wedding content leading up to the wedding and then also all their wedding content.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sure it's going to be so beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So thank you guys so much for just opening up and sharing everything that you did today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Super cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Congratulations.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Enjoy this time of being engaged and we'll talk soon.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Also, thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thanks, guys.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Bye.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There you have it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Another episode of the Wedding Reporter podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: To see those gorgeous wedding and engagement photos head over to NashvilleBrideGuide.com for more behind the scenes content.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And if you like this episode, I would so appreciate it if you would rate and subscribe the show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: See you next time for another great episode.
