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I grew to love you several years ago on Straight Talk with Ross Matthews, my favorite podcast of all time.
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We'll definitely make sure to talk about that.
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But first I want to talk about your upbringing, the beginning where we start in Middleboro, consistently.
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Middlesbrough.
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Middlesbrough.
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Okay, so that's in the Appalachian Mountains.
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How small was Middlesbrough?
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Oh well, m first of all, we're a metropolis, comparatively speaking.
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Middlesbrough is, I'm not trying to brag, but we're 8,000 people.
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Oh wow, okay.
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Yeah.
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I mean, if I'm gonna throw my weight around, we're 8,000 proud.
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When I come home out, the 8,000 and one.
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Now, how long have you been away from Kentucky, lived outside of the state?
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Oh Lord, I've lived outside.
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I've now officially lived away longer than I've lived there.
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But because uh so I've been gone from Middlesbrough since 97.
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But um as everybody'll tell you, A, in the South and B from the funeral family, you don't get far fast.
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So I'm I go home often.
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I didn't I would say I was home every two to three months up until I was on the show Clean House, which started really uh in 2006.
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That's when I stopped.
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Well, for me, it was start the show started in 05, but I started uh in two late 2005, and so I stopped going every two months because I'd help at the funeral home.
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I'd you know, I just treated it like a normal commute.
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I'd be like, oh, I gotta get back to Kentucky.
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I didn't think about that.
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I lived across the country.
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Was that a initial move out of Kentucky to Los Angeles in ninety-seven?
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I went to school.
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I got accepted uh at college uh for playing tennis.
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I got to play tennis because I actually had a skill set, believe it or not, uh at Arizona State.
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So I went to Tempe, Arizona.
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I love Arizona, uh, and that's where I got to go to school.
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And I was so lucky to go there because I'd really never left like Tennessee, Kentucky, Virginia.
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It it just was a different, it's a different world, you know.
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And I will say, let me also say, 'cause anybody listening, you know my story, uh, we moved to New Jersey for one like a year, half of my junior year and into my senior year, which was catastrophic for this girl.
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I'm a Kentuckian.
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They made so much money.
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My accent, they called me Tucker, like people were so hateful.
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I'll use the word.
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Now, have you always been appreciative of growing up in, you know, country living rural, small town, or has it developed more now that you've lived all over the country?
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That's a great question.
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Um, I both.
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I think at the time I was really I knew and it's it's it's I think anybody that when God puts something in you to be more, you don't know what that more is.
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Because I say all the time, whatever's in your heart to be, whatever you're meant to be, it's in you, whether you believe God, Buddha, the universe, whatever speaks to you.
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For me, God put in me that I was meant to go tell jokes and I was make meant to people make people laugh.
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And since I was knee-high to a pig's eye, I would say, I'm gonna go to Hollywood and um have my own shown when an Emmy.
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I just walk around declaring it as a little kid.
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They'd be like, Okay, girl.
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And you've done it.
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You have an Emmy.
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I do.
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I do have one.
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I would love a whole bunch more.
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Ross Matthews has uh like he's got the trophies for days.
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I tell Rossi all the time, I'm like, I just want to keep creating and people to be joyful about it.
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Because I grew up watching the Emmys and being gobsmacked and thinking Carol Burnett was the single greatest thing God ever put on this earth.
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She still is.
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Spoiler.
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Um, and so I'd watch her at the award shows and think, I want to do that.
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I want to make people laugh and I want to wear fun, flashy gowns and, you know, win awards for it.
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So I've only done that one time so far, but I I feel like there might be some more in the future.
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But I to to answer your question, I knew that I loved being from a small town because I understood that the my grandfather was the banker, his brother was the real estate guy, and then they had the funeral home, and then my uncle was the corner of the funeral home.
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So you you get in this ecosystem of realizing the the value of all these people.
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And I realized that value of that ecosystem.
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And we were big fish in a small pond, right?
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Eve my family.
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I wasn't, I was just, you know, part of the part of the package.
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And then I think when you when you move away, you realize what a blessing.
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It gets even more of a realization of what a blessing that is to be raised in that like that.
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And now, what do you consider the most rewarding aspect of that upbringing and the most difficult aspect of growing up in the Appalachian Mountains?
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Gosh, Kyle, you are like Barbara Walters.
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I'm a journalist.
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I know, I love this, but just like really, the most, the most rewarding, I think, is I genuinely always think with everybody in mind.
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I've never, I heard this amazing quote the other day that I love, which is it's not look at me, it's come with me.
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And I have I'll cry thinking about it.
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I have a I have a dolly mentality.
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I love Dolly Partner, and I think that Dolly, I feel like I was raised by Dolly, and my blueprint to be in the entertainment business was from and I never wanted to be a singer.
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So that's why I say when God puts in you what you're meant to do, like I've never been called to sing, I have never been called to be in the WMBA or the ice capades, like God didn't put that in my heart.
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Tell stories, make sure everybody's included, make them laugh and feel good, and and just love well.
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That's that's my theme in life.
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And I think when you just have that as a North Star, it's real hard to jack it up.
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It's real hard to jack it up.
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It's it is if you let other people tell you what to do.
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And I've had people tell me, get rid of your accent.
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People have trouble understanding you.
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And I was like, okay.
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You know, I somebody does.
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There's a whole section of this country that understands me and I'm tickled for it.
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And the more I travel, the more I realize everybody they get tickled.
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Uh from the UK to Louisiana, people are like, yeah, we love we enjoy it.
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So most difficult part, was that the other question?
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Yeah, or you know, difficult looking back, but it probably built character.
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Yeah, I think difficult was when you realize you f I did.
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I felt like such an odd duck that I had aspirations as a kid that felt so foreign, just out like when I would just sit and say, Whoa, moved to Los Angeles.
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I mean, people thought I had officially hit my head.
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And I'd be, I don't ever remember not saying it.
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I was like, that's where I'm gonna go.
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Uh, because in my mind, as we all know the world has changed, that was the only place you could really create uh at the time, create TV.
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And I love it.
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And now I realize l living here as long as I have and know why I love it.
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I'm a mountain girl.
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I'm from the Appalachians.
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I love that.
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That I my house is four houses away from the Santa Monica Mountains.
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I will forever be up to a mountain because I need that in my soul.
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I'm I anytime I'm coming home, I have to fly into Knoxville, Tennessee to get to where I live an hour, about an hour and 20 minutes north.
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And when I'm driving home, I bust into tears every time coming through the mountains.
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Because it's just, it's in my person.
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It's just it's something there's something really, really special.
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So I think moving away and and realizing that as long as you stay who you are and don't let all the outside influences tell you all the ways you could be a better you, I think we can all better ourselves.
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But who you are innately is who you're supposed to be in this world.
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That's your DNA blueprint.
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Beautifully said.
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And you mentioned Dolly Parton, and I'm I'm a huge admirer of her work as well.
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And it makes me think of, you know, my Tennessee Mountain home.
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And what was your first introduction to her?
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Was it your parents playing her albums?
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Did you go to Dollywood?
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Well, I am of the age that I remember what Dollywood was before it was Dollywood.
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I remember when Dolly Dolly bought Dollywood.
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Dollywood was originally a place in Gatlinburg, Tennessee, called Silver Dollar City.
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That's that's how that's Trisha's that many years old.
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And when Dolly bought it, we thought, you know, it was like Wonka buying the trunk factory.
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There could be a Dollywood.
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My introduction to Dolly was I grew up in a town, the biggest claim to fame in my little Bitty Middlesbrough, Kentucky, was Lee Majors was from there, the six million dollar man, uh the fall guy.
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He was a big star in the 80s.
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And so I grew up with this, you know, Lee Majors, and he did a Christmas movie with Dolly.
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And I was and everybody was like, we've got to watch Lee and Dolly.
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You know, it was like a big to-do.
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And I thought she was the very most glamorous human being I'd ever seen in my life.
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And we would watch the Grand Old Opry.
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Uh, it was on TV, you know, in our part of the country, I believe it was Friday nights.
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And I'd sit at my grandparents with their big console TV on the floor, and I would sit and watch the Opry.
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And anytime Dolly was on the Opry, I was, I I mean, just glamoured, glamored.
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And then I wanted everything that she was on that I could consume if she ever went on the Carol Burnett show.
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If, you know, she was on any talk show, they'd be like, Trish, Dolly's on.
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I'd check the TV guide and I'd make everybody highlight it.
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Like, come on.
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I just fell in love with as we all do, right?
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The spirit and the frequency at which Dolly emits into this world.
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And I was like, I want to do that.
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I want to do all that.
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So once I knew she existed, not even knowing, I I didn't know I was gonna do stand-up, but I knew I wanted to make people laugh and I thought I was gonna do sketch, um, like like Carol.
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But when I realized the the Dolly way, I was like, is there a way to be like Dolly and and do it?
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And that's what I've all that's where my brain always kind of processed from.
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Because she's such a great storyteller, even obviously in song, but in life.
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I mean, you go to one of her concerts and hey, she's cracking people up.
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She does I always say she does an hour of comedy, an hour of music.
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She's uh she's a gift, she's an angel, I think.
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Um I just I have a bookshelf right in front of me.
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Of course I have the Dolly Parton book.
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Can you hold on two seconds?
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Hold on, hold on don't move.
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I mean, I'm gonna get up, but uh audience at home, hold on one second, stand by.
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Look at this, Kyle.
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Ah, all both of our songteller books.
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I love her Songteller, right?
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Because it's the best book.
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She's the best, y'all.
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Kyle and I get it.
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I can't wait till her hotel opens in Nashville.
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I will be there.
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I will be, I mean, literally.
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Musical is opening next year in Broadway.
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I know listen, let me tell you something.
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Not that Dolly needs one lick of PR, but I would, if I didn't do what I did for a living, I'd probably be the head of Dolly's PR team because I love that woman.
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And I know there's a long line and people could probably be like, Trish, get in line.
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But she, and I'll I've told the story a hundred times.
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I tell it on stage, come to my show, I'll tell it when I finally met her in person, because my entire life was about how could I meet Dolly.
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Like I got a worker's permit so that I could go work at Dollywood in the hopes that I'd meet Dolly.
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Because in my brain, she was gonna walk by and be like, hey girl, you know, come do the Dolly review.
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I was in love.
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I still am.
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So favorite song of hers.
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And I know you also you I watched your YouTube special, which is actually titled Dolly for President.
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Thank you.
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Thank you for that plug.
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Y'all can watch it now.
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Um, favorite song.
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Oh, God bless.
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Okay.
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Probably Jolene is always just a keeper forever.
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And if you ever have heard her sing Keep I the Sparrow, which is a a hemp, I mean you'll bust into two.
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There's just Lauren, Miss Lauren Hill.
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And Dolly Parton are the two people that sing that song, and I am a sack of mud when it's done.
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Like I'm just it's one of those songs that you're like, mmm.
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Um, but I do I do enjoy her song Go to Hell, too.
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I mean, if anybody can cuss you and make you go, oh, I need to change my life, it's Dolly Parton.
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So there's really nothing Dolly sings I don't love.
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And Hard Candy Christmas.
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I mean, I grew up on Hard Candy Christmas, so we could go on and on, Kyle, but yeah.
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Always.
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What's your favorite?
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What's your favorite Dolly song?
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Oh, I really love I mean, I like her sad songs.
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I really like um The Grass is Blue is a really beautiful one.
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Um Mountain Angel is a really good one.
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Down Down from Dover.
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Like the sad ones.
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Yeah, the sad ones.
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You're in Dape.
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I know.
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You're you're in a ditch.
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You give me emo dolly.
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Yes.
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All right.
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So growing up in your household in the in the mountains, were you the comic relief in your family, or were you was it a funny household in general?
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It was a funny household.
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I will say all the time, I'm probably the least funny funniest person in my family.
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I'm just the one that figured out how to make it a job, like how to monetize it, make it a career.
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Because my people are hilarious.
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And I would just sit sometimes and think, are like as a kid that grew up on sitcoms, I thought this is, I feel like we're on camera because the stuff would be so outrageous that you can't believe this is your real life.
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I mean, everybody, grandparents, aunts, uncles, I grew up in a big Italian family in the South.
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So, you know, immediate family was like 30 people.
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So I would definitely say my and my brother's hilarious and doesn't know it.
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So that's another, that's always fun when there's somebody that genuinely has no clue they're the hilarious.
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So yeah, it's a it's a pretty funny family.
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It's it's a dynamic that I look about and think, I've l I grew up in a sitcom.
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That's how I feel.
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Well, yeah.
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And you mentioned you grew up in the the funeral home business.
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And I assume that makes people pretty comfortable with death pretty fast, sort of like a doctor.
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You're always around it.
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Did you find that you had to develop like a sense of humor at an early age because you're always surrounded by grief and you need to lighten things up?
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100%.
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You realize really quickly that what's most well, not realize, you get told as well that it's our job to bring a certain amount of levity, not joking necessarily, but levity too.
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Some really heavy moments for people, right?
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We see people at their worst.
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My family always, not that we wouldn't see them out in life and doing life, but for the most part, if you're over at our funeral home, it's because it's it's a pretty heavy time.
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And I learned very young that it was always great to be the levity, the bright spot, the thing that people, you can how you it's the, you know, old saying, it's how people remember how you made them feel, not necessarily what you said.
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And I take great pride in the fact that that's ingrained in who I am, how you make everybody feel is how I want to leave them better than I found them.
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And getting people most times in a pretty rough state of grief or at a low, um, that's always how I've been.
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Like just making sure I try to bring a little bit of brightness, no matter what stage of whatever's going on in your life.
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And about it isn't just grief, but grief's a pretty big ballast point to look at people and go, yeah, I'd like, I'd like to help you out of this, even if it's for a minute, just to get you to forget or take some relief, not necessarily always forget.
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Because it's it is.
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You don't you don't ever know what anybody's going through.
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You just don't.
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And when you're working it daily, you do learn to process differently and you look, you find joy, Lord, in a cup of coffee.
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Like you find joy anywhere you can.
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It does shift your perspective.
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Yeah, joy and and kindness, which you always lead with, especially if you are familiar with your work, you always lead with kindness.
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And we we often think, you know, a lot of Southern people do lead lead with kindness, but I would think in the industry you grew up in, I guess it's it wasn't modeled for you by everyone around you because you can't really teach people how to be empathetic.
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It's sort of something that's just it's a special quality in you.
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So have you always just led with kindness or just instilled in you at birth?
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Uh, you know, I think I just got better at it, like you just said beautifully watching when you watch the way.
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And empathy shows up in so many different ways, right?
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It's uh, you know, somebody, a friend saying, you know, call me and text me and let me know you got home safe.
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It's somebody going, you know, I've got your dinner today because maybe somebody's going through it financially.
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It's just being this level of care that I have always seen modeled.
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And when you see it modeled, I think you start picking up it's the do as I say, hopefully do as I do, but not, you know, um, that modeling, that real modeling of like how to to be a good human to others.
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And then for me, I just I've my family's always said I'm like a human care bear.
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If you remember the care bears, whatever was on their tummy kind of shot out and I was like a sunshine bear.
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So I'd be like, Huh, like I've always I would wake, I wake up in the morning and my husband, bless his heart, he doesn't wake up well.
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And I wake up like Mary Poppins.
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I'm like, good morning.
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Like just birds flying, my dogs are that way, I'm that way.
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And so I just want to give that because I feel like as much as we give that, you hope it just brightens somebody else's experience if maybe they don't naturally come that way.
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Do you think that kindness and positivity runs parallel with hope?
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Because we're, you know, we've gone through many, many years of of dark times, a lot pandemic, politics, lots going on in the world.
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Are you naturally a hope-filled person and move forward with a hopeful mindset?
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I am.
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I am.
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And and you said it beautifully.
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I keep in a place of of because, you know, there's the there's the truth in you have fear and faith can't exist at the same time, scientifically.
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They simply cannot.
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So you have to pick one.
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And if I always sat around at a place of doom and gloom, which don't get me wrong, there have been many a time over the last six years in general, where I've been like, well, this is it.
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I guess we're all just gonna go in a hole and I'm gonna eat loaves of bread and be sad.
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Like that's just where I've got we've all gone there.
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And it does us no good.
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It does uh us no service.
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And I think there's way too many good people in the world that we all, and the good people are the ones that usually are the most brought down by the heavy.
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And I feel like if there's just more goodness we can push forward together, it keeps you in this state of hope because I do believe, um, and I I'm a history nerd, things are cyclical.
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It will come back around and we will get to the point that we all get to go, see, we're better together.
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Don't you dare in any way try to divide.
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I mean, look, World Cup was a beautiful uh example of that.
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I mean, people, I mean, as Americans, as people, we don't really know soccer or football, whatever you want to call it.
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And watching the world come, not only come to the United States and see the things that we love about it, although their love of ranch was unparalleled.
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Um, it was wild.
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It was just beautiful to see us celebrating other countries, being joyful about their country, and us being joyful um in sharing it.
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We're like, we love having you here.
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I'm tickled you enjoy a Walmart in a Costco.
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It's sad that y'all have buildings that are older than our country and we're being like, yes, come enjoy Costco.
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But we were tickled nonetheless.
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I think there's something magically unifying about hope that all the good people want high tides raise all ships.
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I'll say it to the end of days.
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It was my papa's favorite saying, and it's true.
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I think all the good people are the ones that keep carrying the hope so that when people are feeling heavy and you don't feel like you can kind of keep it going, we're like, don't worry, we'll be right here when you, when you need, when you need to hand up.
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And that's what I'm about.
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I'm all about there's a brighter side to all this because it's real easy to get dark quick for anybody.
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I agree.
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Forever clinging to hope.
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Uh and I read that you provided entertainment in the funeral home.
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What did that look like?
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Was it comedic relief?
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Were you performing?
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Were you a like kind of a theater kid?
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What was that?
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I was not a theater kid because I couldn't sing.
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You know, when you're aware, like theater kids to me are unicorns because they can bust into song and then but and I was like, what is that?
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I don't have that.
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I was the levity at the funeral home for, you know, if people came in and people get you people get nervous around death in general, or if it's an unexpected death, um, it would also be hard for people to like understand what to do.
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So we had my uncle's dog, um, Quincy, Rest in Peace, which was named after Quincy, the show.
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There used to be a show about a coroner back in the, I guess, late 70s, early 80s.
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I didn't know the show, but my uncle named his dog after that coroner.
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So it was me and the basset hound that would would try to make people feel a little more at ease, right?
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And I didn't realize I was the levity and the joy for people when they came in because you're not expecting a little kid and a dog at the funeral home.
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You know, you're just not.
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So once everybody kind of knew they'd come in and and be lighter in spirit once we were there.
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And obviously never making light of death, but definitely bringing light when people had to step into that situation was always, always a time, always fun for me.
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I didn't know.
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I didn't know.
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Now, I've interviewed one other person who actually grew up in the funeral home business, and she grew up in Arkansas.
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Are you familiar with uh Sarah Kelowna?
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Honey, Sarah Kelowna is one of my dearest friends, number one.
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Number two, her little mama, who worked in the funeral business, um, came to see me.
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This is years ago.
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I was actually uh opening for Josh Wolf.
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I'm not sure if you know Josh, dear friend of mine, one of my best friends.
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And I was opening for him in a casino in Arkansas.
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And Sarah's mama came to the show.
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And of course, I was doing stuff about my family's funeral home.
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And afterwards, she came up and like grab I didn't know her.
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I know Sarah, but I didn't know her mom.
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Grabs me and was like, oh my gosh, we have to call my daughter right now.
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She has to know you.
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Well, she FaceTimes Sarah.
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And Sarah, Sarah pops up on the screen.
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I go, Kelowna.
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She goes, Oh my gosh.
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She goes, My mom is obsessed and thinks you're the greatest comedian that's ever taken a breath.
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And I go, Well, she's her daughter is uh in that list.
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And so Sarah went, we were crying laughing because I didn't even how would I have known?
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You know, I didn't know her mom was gonna be there.
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We howled about it because her mom's like, you should start doing this material.
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Her mom.
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That's beautiful.
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I love that.
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I know.
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And so her mom is one of the sweetest human beings.
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And it's a different, you know, it's a different world when you grow up around it.
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I grew up, we didn't have a Starbucks in our town.
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I talk about this on stage.
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We didn't have a Starbucks.
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So people would come in the funeral home, get a free cup of coffee and go, hey, who y'all got?
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I'd say that's my childhood.
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And I'd be back, well, you know.
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And they'd be like, Mm, Lord, you know, and they just start telling who was there, and they'd be like, oh, Trish, do y'all have creamer?
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No, I want international house of coffee.
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I don't want milk.
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I'm watching my dairy.
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And I'm like, okay.
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You know, so all of a sudden I'm like a baby barista and then manage an obituary at this.
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It was just wild because you don't think about that, you know.
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That was normal.
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That was my normal life, but that was our Starbucks.
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Certainly builds character.
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Now, uh tell me about your first time on stage.
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You always dreamed of being on stage doing comedy.
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Was it a random open mic?
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Did you practice five minutes before you got on?
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What was it?
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Um, first time on stage was doing um improv in college in in Arizona.
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And I was in an improv group called Oxymorons, and I loved improv because.
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You didn't didn't know what was coming.
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And I love working with others.
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I listen well, thank God.
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And I take direction well.
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So not knowing what was coming, not knowing how it would happen, and just having to play along was such a great lesson.
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So the first time I stepped on stage as a comic by myself was uh at the laugh factory.
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I sat on the sidewalk in Los Angeles, waited for my three-minute set, put my name on a list.
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We all sat on lawn chairs all day.
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You're sweaty and gross.
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Then you have like an hour to turn around, get ready, and come back and do your set.
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At like back in the day, it used to be, I feel like it was like five or six o'clock, so no one was there.
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I was like, who's watching this?
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Um, that was the first time I ever went on stage and I was not, I was not funny.
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I was not funny, but the only thing I did have was no fear.
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My blessing, my blessing has always been no fear.
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So I don't get up there, good or bad.
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If I kill a Mason, if I eat it, not not ideal, but I'm not scared.
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I don't go, oh Lord, like I don't ruminate.
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There is none of that.
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So that was, I think, the thing that saved me because Lord knows it wasn't the comedy after my very first time.
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And so then I started uh getting smarter and I just I kept figuring it out.
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I didn't have a story, and I never talked about the funeral, ironically.
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I never talked about it.
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I didn't think I I was trying to build some other version.
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I wasn't being authentic, as we all know what that looks like sometimes.
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And I was up on stage, they gave me a chance, I started getting time, and one night um I was not doing well.
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It was crickets.
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You could hear the blender in the, you know, bar when they back making, he was making some kind of like margarita back.
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You hear the ice crunching, and I thought, I want to cry.
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And um, I it was so quiet.
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And I said, Oh, it doesn't bother me.
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I grew up in a funeral home.
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I was like, honey, this is how I learned to tell jokes.
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And people lost it.
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And I just kept staring at them like they were dead people.
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Literally, I remember staring, like, what's that?
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This that I got like, that's not that funny.
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This is just a practical, I'm telling you, a practical situation, right?
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And and from that moment on, that's when everyone was like, Why don't you talk about that?
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And I was like, Well, that who wants to hear about that?
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And uh it that's that's when it all changed.
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And that was good lord in the late 1900s, Kyle.
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Well, I'm I'm curious if the growing up in the funeral home, being surrounded by all that grief and death and hard times, if that just contributed to you being confident and fearless because it's like I I failed or bombed on stage.
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It's like I'm alive.
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I'm not, you know, grieving.
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I didn't lose someone.
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I love it.
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You know what?
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I never went that deep in my subconscious.
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I love you for that.
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That's a beautiful, you know what?
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I'm gonna sit on that today and pray on that because I love that thought.
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I never looked at it as that what for me, the no fear came true.
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Well, I used to think, but now I'm with you.
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I'm gonna deep dive that today in my journal.
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Um, I think uh what I have always told myself was the no fear came from um it this this isn't it wasn't that it wasn't life or death, but it was that everything can always, I guess it is the same thing.
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I that things could always be worse.
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In my head, I always thought if I didn't get a laugh, I always thought, well, I know what's what worse is.
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I've seen people worse.
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So there was no like, oh no, do I always want to do well?
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Of course.
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But my my comedy is rooted in bringing people joy as opposed to I need to kill.
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I like if I bring you the joy, I feel like everything else kind of just does its work, uh which is probably not the way most comics go.
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I don't know.
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Well, especially nowadays where there's a sort of a blurred line between comedy and then politics, and a lot of people are you know getting involved.
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So yours, you've always wanted to provide joy and escapism.
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Very much, very much.
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I've always and I think that's like you that I'd have clocked because of the funeral business and seeing people want to not have to think about what they're going through.
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I think for me, I always came from this mindset of I just want people to feel levity and forget what they're going through for a second.
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And if it's hearing stories about my grandmother, you know, smoking in church or my brother, the Navy SEAL hitting on Tinkerbell, I don't, I don't care.
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I don't care what the this I do care, but I don't care what how I brought you the joy.
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I'm just so grateful I left you better.
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That's my way, you know.
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You left Kentucky 10 years before clean house.
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What were those 10 years like?
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Was it a lot of random jobs and open mic nights?
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What was that decade?
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I have had every single job, y'all, including digging graves, bartending, managing a tanning salon.
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Um I my I'm trying like literally I'm I c did uh private catering, private chefing, deploy food delivery.
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Uh, only thing I haven't done is taught workout classes because I always thought I'd be horrible at queuing, but I've gone to so many workout classes I should, I should have become an instructor.
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Um I literally have had every job and multiple jobs at a time.
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Like I used to open the tanning salon in the morning at 6 a.m.
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in Beverly Hills, then change at the tanning salon and work a full day, like till like 7 30, 8 o'clock, then go do comedy, then leave do and run around to do different clubs to try to get stage time, and then I'd leave and go bartend at 10 o'clock at night until you know we closed last call.
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LA was two 145, too.
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And then I'd go home, shower, rinse, and repeat and get three hours of sleep.
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And that was my life for a decade.
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I mean, full stop.
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I and I usually had one or two bar jobs.
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So, and then sometimes I'd work, this will tell y'all, I would work after hours on days I didn't have tanning in the morning.
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So then I would go work a rave.
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And y'all, I never did drugs.
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I'm not saying this like I'm better than anybody.
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I just never did any drugs.
00:27:26.319 --> 00:27:28.880
I was terrified I was gonna, you know, end up hooked on drugs.
00:27:28.960 --> 00:27:30.319
So I never did anything illegal.
00:27:30.400 --> 00:27:31.440
I was always like, no.
00:27:31.599 --> 00:27:33.359
And I never smoked nothing.
00:27:33.440 --> 00:27:38.400
And here I'd be at these raves with people rolling on God knows what, paying$15 for an orange juice.
00:27:38.480 --> 00:27:40.480
And I'd be like, oh my lord, are you okay?
00:27:40.640 --> 00:27:41.519
Do you mean call your mom?
00:27:41.680 --> 00:27:43.759
Like, I would be so worried.
00:27:44.000 --> 00:27:50.480
I mean, and I and and the house music's so loud, and I have a naturally raspy voice and no one could hear me.
00:27:50.559 --> 00:27:53.039
And I was like, oh, this is horrible.
00:27:53.920 --> 00:27:57.519
Uh yeah, I heard in your comedy you you have made a mean margarita.
00:27:57.599 --> 00:27:58.319
Do you still make those?
00:27:58.480 --> 00:27:59.920
I make a mean margarita.
00:28:00.000 --> 00:28:00.640
I really do.
00:28:00.799 --> 00:28:08.160
I mean, listen, y'all, if we're ever in a location that I can make you a margarita, I'm I'm uh I was a mixologist before that was a thing.
00:28:08.240 --> 00:28:10.160
I didn't know like it was gonna become cool.
00:28:10.319 --> 00:28:14.640
And I love the crafting of a cocktail, like herbs and that kind of I mean, I'm a nerd.
00:28:14.720 --> 00:28:15.359
I'm a nerd.
00:28:15.440 --> 00:28:17.279
I love and I cook like that too.
00:28:17.359 --> 00:28:19.680
But yeah, I wasn't gonna be a private chef, let's be real.
00:28:19.920 --> 00:28:25.039
And then you became known as the yard sale diva on hundreds of episodes, many seasons of clean house.
00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:27.519
Are you still a big yard sale thrifting person?
00:28:27.599 --> 00:28:29.759
And was that instilled in you as well growing up?
00:28:30.000 --> 00:28:30.960
Yes, I still love it.
00:28:31.119 --> 00:28:32.160
Yes, I love a deal.
00:28:32.319 --> 00:28:37.279
I love the way that the world has changed with Facebook Marketplace and all that you have to drive around and stock people's front yards.
00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:37.680
But I do.
00:28:37.759 --> 00:28:39.039
I love an antique sale.
00:28:39.200 --> 00:28:42.079
I love a gorgeous, you know, old school thrift store.
00:28:42.160 --> 00:28:45.039
When I'm in the UK, I'm forever in one of their charity shops.
00:28:45.119 --> 00:28:48.079
I love finding like a treasure forever.
00:28:48.160 --> 00:28:49.200
That is me.
00:28:49.440 --> 00:28:50.480
Love, love, love.
00:28:50.799 --> 00:28:57.519
Um, but I don't love clutter, so I have to be really clear on what I buy because clutter can sneak up on you quick, as we know.
00:28:57.599 --> 00:29:08.559
And and that was just such a blessing because I my grandfather, my grandfather was a banker and his brother ran the realty company, and then they owned some, you know, uh rental properties together.
00:29:08.880 --> 00:29:13.119
So I would always be with them to help like renovate or if people moved out or whatever.
00:29:13.200 --> 00:29:14.640
You had to see what how the state of it.
00:29:14.720 --> 00:29:20.000
And then my grandfather's like, you got to liquidate this and then just to get the stuff out of the house if people left stuff behind.
00:29:20.079 --> 00:29:23.440
And I was like, oh Lord, and I had to learn all that at a young age.
00:29:23.599 --> 00:29:31.039
Um, and I didn't understand of like why there was all this stuff that was accumulated and they turned it into income because we're in, you know, the mountains of Kentucky.
00:29:31.200 --> 00:29:33.599
They weren't just gonna like drop it off at a dump.
00:29:33.680 --> 00:29:34.400
That's not how it worked.
00:29:34.480 --> 00:29:37.759
And I don't even remember at the time if we had a thrift store.
00:29:37.839 --> 00:29:40.480
We we eventually got one, but it when I was little, I don't remember there being one.
00:29:40.559 --> 00:29:42.319
So everybody just kind of had to have yard sales.
00:29:42.480 --> 00:29:43.759
So I got really good at it.
00:29:43.839 --> 00:29:50.559
And my grandfather, hi, he loved to negotiate, he loved the art of the uh deal, and he taught me all of that.
00:29:50.799 --> 00:29:56.079
So when the uh opportunity came to audition for clean house, I was like, yeah.
00:29:56.240 --> 00:30:03.039
And the show had already been on for one year with another other people in the cast, and there wasn't necessarily a yard sale diva.
00:30:03.119 --> 00:30:06.559
There was a guy that did some of the yard sales, and there was somebody else that did organizing.
00:30:06.640 --> 00:30:12.960
And then what ended up happening is they uh I went and auditioned and I could do both, and they kind of made me both.
00:30:13.119 --> 00:30:41.680
And I was only supposed to be hired for five episodes, and then it became the next like almost decade of my life, which was a blessing, you know, and and working with Nisi Nash, who is an unbelievable human being and so talented, and um, and Matt Eisman, who's on American Ninja Warrior, he's one of the anchors on American Ninja Warrior, and then Mark Brunett's, uh, who was what our designer, it was just a magic moment in time, you know, and it was really one of the first reality makeover shows because we didn't know what we were doing.
00:30:41.839 --> 00:30:43.359
I mean, we had no clue.
00:30:43.440 --> 00:30:46.720
We just went in there and were ourselves, and it just kind of worked out.
00:30:46.880 --> 00:30:51.359
So we we were so blessed, and I loved every second of that show.
00:30:51.519 --> 00:30:58.720
It was even on the tough days because you're in people, you know, again, people at their worst, clutter, overwhelmed, um, didn't know how they got there.
00:30:58.880 --> 00:31:11.039
I used to say it was kind of the Disney version of hoarders because we weren't obviously we weren't therapists, we to and we didn't want to deal with people that were, you know, clinically depressed and all that to the point that we can't help them, right?
00:31:11.119 --> 00:31:13.200
That's out the scope of of this makeover show.
00:31:13.359 --> 00:31:18.240
So we dealt with people though in a lot of heavy places because that's usually when clutter shows up in your life.
00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:25.680
So for me, uh, it was a joy being able to take all this stuff out, drag it to people's front lawns and be like, here, you just made$8,000.
00:31:26.000 --> 00:31:32.799
Here, you know, and that was such a great feeling because I've seen people in that state and didn't have the ability to help them.
00:31:32.880 --> 00:31:35.359
And being able to do that show was such a great gift.
00:31:35.519 --> 00:31:38.000
Clean house was a was a great gift to be able to do.
00:31:38.240 --> 00:31:39.920
Yeah, and you still provide tips on your website.
00:31:40.000 --> 00:31:48.480
You have a Trishful thinking section of your website with organizational tips and how to clear clutter, and you also give cooking, crafting, DIY advice.
00:31:48.720 --> 00:31:53.519
So I I assume you're a type A personality, you're not a controlled chaos type of person.
00:31:54.160 --> 00:31:55.440
Ding ding ding, Kyle.
00:31:55.519 --> 00:31:56.240
That is correct.
00:31:56.400 --> 00:32:03.759
I am I like, I like my and my husband is very, very put together, thank goodness, because I could've it could have gone another way.
00:32:04.000 --> 00:32:06.319
So we we do like a tidy house.
00:32:06.400 --> 00:32:07.039
We like everything.
00:32:07.200 --> 00:32:15.279
I mean, look, everything behind me is super, and I'm if you're not watching, y'all, I'm in my gar office, my garage office, and everything's very out and intentional.
00:32:15.359 --> 00:32:28.720
And um, because I I get I come from my grandparents were depression era, they held on to everything, you're gonna need it someday, and and clutter sneaks up on people and qual your quality of life is everything.
00:32:29.039 --> 00:32:31.279
How you like romanticize your life.
00:32:31.359 --> 00:32:33.359
If you hear anything I say, y'all romanticize it.
00:32:33.440 --> 00:32:41.279
I don't care if it's making coffee, I don't care what your anything looks like that you experience every day, just romanticize it, make it sweet, make it fun.
00:32:41.440 --> 00:32:48.240
I don't care if you're beachy or minimalist or you like an English cottage, like max it out, live the life.
00:32:48.400 --> 00:32:49.519
Life's too short.
00:32:49.759 --> 00:32:54.319
Make everything you get to do every day almost feel like cinematic, and you will watch how your life changes.
00:32:54.400 --> 00:33:00.640
And a lot of that's getting rid of the crap because we all accumulate and you turn around and go, How the heck did I get all this mess in the house?
00:33:00.720 --> 00:33:01.119
You know?
00:33:01.279 --> 00:33:04.960
So just that's that's one thing I love to impress upon people.
00:33:05.119 --> 00:33:06.400
I'm in hotel rooms a lot.
00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:14.079
So when I get to come home, I love for my home to be like this dreamy, sweet place that I'm like, oh, sweet.
00:33:14.960 --> 00:33:27.119
Yeah, homes should feel light, not burdened and weighted down and and and like you, like you personified, which is really I mean, I've not even been into your house, but your background, like that's dreamy.
00:33:27.359 --> 00:33:34.960
I feel like I need a leather chair in the corner with a little reading lane over my c uh head and like a cup of tea, and just pick a book off your shelf and I'd have a time.
00:33:35.039 --> 00:33:35.839
That's what that feels like.
00:33:36.079 --> 00:33:36.240
Yeah.
00:33:36.319 --> 00:33:38.319
So I have Ross Matthews books up here too.
00:33:38.480 --> 00:33:39.440
We'll get to him in a minute.
00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:40.079
Let's see.
00:33:40.400 --> 00:33:41.759
Um, you did mention Nisie Ness.
00:33:41.920 --> 00:33:48.319
I I was just curious, what's it been like to see her rise in like dramatic acting and she's become an LGBTQIA icon?
00:33:48.480 --> 00:33:50.960
Were there any tinges of that, the the dramatic side of her?
00:33:51.200 --> 00:33:51.519
Oh yeah.
00:33:51.599 --> 00:33:52.240
Oh yeah, yeah.
00:33:52.319 --> 00:34:00.559
So when uh I we were on Clean House, you know, they had just she was already on Reno 911, and um she's always she's an actress first.
00:34:00.640 --> 00:34:03.680
She just happens to be unbelievable at everything she does.
00:34:03.839 --> 00:34:05.440
Like, let's full stop.
00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:12.719
Nisi's one of those forces of nature on this earth, and that God gave her every gift, and you should hear her sing.
00:34:12.880 --> 00:34:15.119
I'm like, it's just really quite annoying that I'm like, nothing.
00:34:15.199 --> 00:34:16.639
I could I just got funny.
00:34:16.800 --> 00:34:22.000
Like when you see someone like her, that you're like, oh, and she just she's just that.
00:34:22.159 --> 00:34:24.800
She wants everyone to shine.
00:34:25.039 --> 00:34:34.639
She's just a human being that really advocates well for the underdog, has always been that way, and has no apologies of being herself.
00:34:34.800 --> 00:34:43.039
And when I showed up on Clean House, Lord, I mean, she the first time I ever saw her was a movie called Boys on the Side, because with Drew Barrymore and Whoopi Goldberg.
00:34:43.119 --> 00:34:53.840
And I was like, uh and she her role was so tiny, so tiny that when I auditioned for Clean House, I already knew Reno 911 and I already knew Clean House.
00:34:54.079 --> 00:35:00.880
But my um callback for Clean House, I actually auditioned with Niecy because the, you know, these people had to obviously work together.
00:35:01.119 --> 00:35:02.239
Nisi had already been on the show.
00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:05.840
So the new cast had to work well with the existing cast.
00:35:06.400 --> 00:35:10.159
And um I will I'll I've never told this story.
00:35:10.239 --> 00:35:12.159
Would you like the story of my audition at Clean House?
00:35:12.239 --> 00:35:17.519
This is a pretty great story because this is this is um how you know Nisi's who Nisi is, and she's just amazing.
00:35:17.760 --> 00:35:21.199
So they said to me, Hey, this is the situation, all the producers at a long table.
00:35:21.280 --> 00:35:24.960
It's me and Nisi, and they gave me a scenario that we would walk into on Clean House.
00:35:25.039 --> 00:35:26.559
And they said, We're going into this woman's house.
00:35:26.639 --> 00:35:35.199
She has a eight-year-old child, the clutter's everywhere, and the mom doesn't want to get rid of the baby's crib that is now in the dining room holding a bunch of clutter.
00:35:35.440 --> 00:35:35.760
Okay.
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:42.719
And it's your job, Trish, to get the baby, the mom to give up the baby crib to put into the yard sale.
00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:43.840
And I go, okay.
00:35:44.000 --> 00:35:45.519
And niece's gonna play the mom.
00:35:45.760 --> 00:35:46.079
That's it.
00:35:46.239 --> 00:35:47.920
Scene set, action, right?
00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:50.320
That's so now we're having to improv this.
00:35:50.480 --> 00:35:54.000
And niece Nash at the time, she has three beautiful kids.
00:35:54.159 --> 00:35:57.440
Her youngest uh Dea at the time was four, maybe.
00:35:57.599 --> 00:35:59.280
I want to say Dea was four years old.
00:35:59.840 --> 00:36:06.320
And um niecy took a second, she had on a juicy tracksuit, I'll never forget this, big old flower in her hair.
00:36:06.639 --> 00:36:08.079
Just net niece Nash.
00:36:08.239 --> 00:36:13.760
And she looked up at me and I could already see she was a different human being than the one I'd just been sitting in the room with.
00:36:13.920 --> 00:36:17.920
I watched her physically transform right in front of my eyes, and I was like, What's happening?
00:36:18.079 --> 00:36:24.000
And sh I said, you know, I'd love to get this out to the yard sale and make some space so that y'all can enjoy family dinners.
00:36:24.079 --> 00:36:25.199
I know how much they mean to you.
00:36:25.280 --> 00:36:27.599
And she's like, I just don't want to give this up.
00:36:27.679 --> 00:36:31.599
She starts crying, and I mean intentionally crying.
00:36:31.760 --> 00:36:33.119
She's like, This is my baby.
00:36:33.199 --> 00:36:36.880
If I let go of this, I've let go of my baby, and just emoting.
00:36:36.960 --> 00:36:38.079
I mean emoting.
00:36:38.239 --> 00:36:45.280
And I grabbed her by both hands, I looked her right in the eye, and I said, Nothing will ever take away your baby, ever, on this planet.
00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:49.440
I said, But what you're gonna take away if you don't is giving her a life with you.
00:36:49.679 --> 00:36:51.199
And niece stopped.
00:36:51.519 --> 00:36:54.079
I stopped and she just rose.
00:36:54.239 --> 00:36:56.719
And I and she goes, Okay, you can have the crib.
00:36:56.880 --> 00:37:02.639
And I said, Let's take a picture of it, let's get it memorialized, let's get the best picture of your baby in that crib up on a wall.
00:37:02.800 --> 00:37:05.440
I said, and remember it how it's supposed to, and give you your life back.
00:37:05.599 --> 00:37:06.320
And that was that.
00:37:06.480 --> 00:37:09.119
And Nisi will tell you, she can tell you what I had on that day.
00:37:09.280 --> 00:37:11.280
She to this day, she will tell you what I had on.
00:37:11.440 --> 00:37:17.679
It was one of those moments in your life that you go, whether I got the job or not, I knew I connected with that human being.
00:37:17.840 --> 00:37:23.199
And to watch her become that mama, I was like, I forgot I was standing there with Nisi.
00:37:23.440 --> 00:37:27.280
That's how amazing she is as an actor that I went, who's that who this sweet mom?
00:37:27.360 --> 00:37:28.320
I'm taking her baby crib.
00:37:28.559 --> 00:37:33.440
Like I genuinely, and now knowing her like I do, it just that's what gift she has.
00:37:33.599 --> 00:37:41.760
She is such a talented human being that she can emote what's being asked pretty much anytime, anywhere.
00:37:41.920 --> 00:37:42.559
I'm not there yet.
00:37:43.199 --> 00:37:44.559
Thank you for sharing that story.
00:37:44.800 --> 00:37:45.920
Yeah, I've never told that.
00:37:46.079 --> 00:37:47.599
I've never told that story.
00:37:47.920 --> 00:37:48.880
No, I love that.
00:37:49.039 --> 00:37:49.840
It makes sense.
00:37:50.079 --> 00:37:50.960
She's a baddie.
00:37:51.119 --> 00:37:56.559
When I first saw her um on Getting On, one of my favorite shows, I was like, oh, people are gonna see what she can do now.
00:37:56.639 --> 00:37:56.800
Yeah.
00:37:57.119 --> 00:38:03.199
I mean, I think back too, because I had such a great seats to watching the evolution of where she's at now.
00:38:03.360 --> 00:38:07.199
I mean, like, she was in Horton Here's a Who as a voice actor of the movie.
00:38:07.280 --> 00:38:18.800
Like when you look back when they did the first Reno movie, like you look back, I look back and realize like what a blessing it was to watch her, like what we all love about her, get everybody gets to see.
00:38:18.960 --> 00:38:20.800
And that's doesn't get cooler than that.
00:38:20.880 --> 00:38:23.199
She's she's an amazing, amazing human.
00:38:23.679 --> 00:38:24.639
Thank you for sharing that.
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:25.280
Of course.
00:38:25.599 --> 00:38:28.480
I also want to talk about your who is in your comedy community right now.
00:38:28.639 --> 00:38:37.840
Because I think a lot of times we jumble people together and we we might think, oh, Leanne Morgan, a big Southern comic now, and Heather McMahon, but a lot of times we're scattered all over the country.
00:38:37.920 --> 00:38:40.800
So who are you, who are your comic community go-tos right now?
00:38:41.119 --> 00:38:49.599
Well, I mean, look, I came up with Leanne and I, Leanne Morgan, Karen Mills and I were all on the road together for almost five uh a decade.
00:38:50.000 --> 00:38:59.519
Um, so and we had a we had a tour that we did so three co-headlining, you know, three co-headlining comics on tour, and we were we called ourselves country cool.
00:38:59.599 --> 00:39:01.760
We sounded like a bad version of the Dixie Chicks.
00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:07.280
I think people might have thought that we were coming in to do, you know, songs, and we're like, no, that's not what happened.
00:39:07.519 --> 00:39:09.599
Um, so they're always very, very close.
00:39:09.679 --> 00:39:14.800
Uh Josh Wolf, as I just mentioned, is one of my best friends, Sarah Colonna's one of my dearest friends.
00:39:14.880 --> 00:39:16.400
I'll see her this weekend.
00:39:16.639 --> 00:39:18.719
Um I just love her.
00:39:18.800 --> 00:39:21.519
I I've known you have to understand we all came up together.
00:39:21.599 --> 00:39:23.840
I mean, Sarah and I bartended back in the day.
00:39:23.920 --> 00:39:32.719
You know, like when you've done that much life with people and you know how hard they've worked to be where they're at, it's it's that's Leanne.
00:39:33.199 --> 00:39:35.679
I mean, we've worked so hard.
00:39:35.840 --> 00:39:39.039
I that's the thing I think a lot of times people don't understand.
00:39:39.119 --> 00:39:43.760
We just because of social media people think that when they find you that you just popped off and that's what happened.
00:39:43.840 --> 00:39:46.159
And it's like, I've got receipts for days, y'all.
00:39:46.239 --> 00:39:48.800
We've been doing this since Christ was a child.
00:39:48.960 --> 00:40:00.800
I mean, I think back to, and I said I'm really lucky because most comedians, like Angela Johnson, I I just found out this will be, I don't know when this is gonna air, Kyle, but I just found out that I'm making my grand all Opry debut.
00:40:01.360 --> 00:40:02.239
Oh, congratulations.
00:40:02.719 --> 00:40:03.039
Thank you.
00:40:03.199 --> 00:40:06.960
On October 30th, on October 30th, I'm making my grandoly debut.
00:40:07.039 --> 00:40:10.320
And I cried because as a southerner, that's like Carnegie Hall, you know.
00:40:10.400 --> 00:40:13.440
I mean, I I don't I might just get up and cry.
00:40:13.519 --> 00:40:18.320
I don't know that I I have to figure out what I'm gonna say on a set list, but I'm pretty sure I just might bawl my eyes out.
00:40:18.639 --> 00:40:27.840
So it's one of those things in life that you go, I know there's a very small group of people that are for you and cheer for you.
00:40:28.000 --> 00:40:29.440
Again, see what I said earlier.
00:40:29.519 --> 00:40:31.760
It's not about look at me, it's about come with me.
00:40:31.920 --> 00:40:35.599
And in comedy, people can be a lot about look at me, I need to be the only one.
00:40:35.760 --> 00:40:37.039
And that's not my model.
00:40:37.119 --> 00:40:45.599
And so when you realize there's people that want to do more of that, because you realize that if you bring up all the good ones, it just keeps bringing up goodness, you know.
00:40:45.679 --> 00:40:46.800
That's that's what's important.
00:40:46.880 --> 00:40:54.239
And then there's comics that I love that I'm not like super close with, but I love and adore Eliza Schlesinger, the goat.
00:40:54.400 --> 00:40:56.239
I love Eliza, she's a baddie.
00:40:56.400 --> 00:40:59.679
Um, Ross is part of my tight, tight group, Matthews.
00:40:59.920 --> 00:41:00.880
We love the Rossi.
00:41:01.280 --> 00:41:03.840
Um, and I always think Ross is an entertainer.
00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:05.119
He's certainly not a comic.
00:41:05.199 --> 00:41:06.719
He is a true entertainer.
00:41:06.800 --> 00:41:10.320
So anytime you get a chance to go see Ross, run, don't walk.
00:41:10.480 --> 00:41:11.840
It is a time to be alive.
00:41:12.079 --> 00:41:12.320
Yes.
00:41:12.559 --> 00:41:12.719
Always.
00:41:13.199 --> 00:41:13.920
He's been on the show.
00:41:14.000 --> 00:41:14.480
I adore him.
00:41:14.559 --> 00:41:16.400
I've had Nikki Boyer on the show and Mr.
00:41:16.559 --> 00:41:16.960
Malone.
00:41:17.360 --> 00:41:18.719
So just let's talk about those years.
00:41:18.800 --> 00:41:19.679
That's how I grew to love you.
00:41:19.920 --> 00:41:24.639
What does Ross mean to you and uh that friendship and being part of that show, Straight Talk with Ross, years ago?
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Okay.
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First of all, I could not, I'll I really should be on his PR team too.
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There's not enough humans in this world like Ross Matthews.
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He is for, he's just an advocate for good in this world, and he loves so big and he brings joy and light everywhere he goes.
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And getting brought into the straight talk family was such a unbelievable high.
00:41:47.119 --> 00:41:48.800
And to love everybody from the jump, right?
00:41:48.880 --> 00:41:50.639
Like Nikki and I, house on fire.
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Mr.
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Malone and I, get out of here.
00:41:52.719 --> 00:41:54.400
Like, and Ross, forget it.
00:41:54.480 --> 00:42:00.559
Um, Ross can call me at two in the morning and I always say, Am I bringing uh, you know, a body bag and a shovel or champagne, you know, and bonbons?
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What do we do?
00:42:01.199 --> 00:42:06.000
When you I don't Ross can call, there's almost no questions asked except what are we wearing?
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Because that's the kind of relationship he cultivates with the people that are closest.
00:42:12.079 --> 00:42:14.000
And it's a it's a great place to be.
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And I think everybody listening to Straight Talk felt that, right?
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I did.
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I think it was such a wonderful community of human beings that all loved each other so well, and he's so fun and so silly.
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And that's exactly who he is.
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Like what you see is exact that's exactly Ross, y'all.
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Like that's the best thing about Ross to me.
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I agree.
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I think we could use a reunion and some of that, those vibes nowadays, right now, would be perfect.
00:42:39.440 --> 00:42:40.800
And then he and I got to do pop talk.
00:42:40.880 --> 00:42:42.639
Did y'all ever listen to pop talk when we did the pop talk?
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I've listened to everything he's done.
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Yes.
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I listened to your podcast together, and I know he's killing it on Drew Barrymore, but I think we need more of his his voice too.
00:42:50.880 --> 00:42:51.519
I agree.
00:42:51.840 --> 00:42:53.039
Kyle, what can we do about that?
00:42:53.119 --> 00:42:53.519
I agree.
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You know what?
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I'm gonna text him after this and just say, hey, we're talking goodness about you.
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Could you please?
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I mean, really, because group chat.
00:43:01.519 --> 00:43:02.639
Kyle, you're on to some of the things.
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You guys had such great vibes.
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All right.
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Thank you.
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We have a few minutes left.
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I am gonna go a bit deeper and then we'll close out with fun.
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Sure.
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So I relate to you in that uh I know you're remarried now, but you did go through divorce.
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You were married for many years.
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So was I.
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I got divorced.
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I'm I always like to ask people, how did divorce reshape you moving forward?
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And could you find the comedy in it in the moment, or did that take time?
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Uh, well, I'm so sorry that you went through a divorce because I know no one gets into marriage with the thought, I hope not, that you get into marriage with the thought of like divorce is coming.
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I did not, and it's rough and it's isolating.
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So I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
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Mine was 12 years.
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Yours was almost 12 years.
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It was well, we were together 12, yes.
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And and we're just we were married just under a year.
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I always say boy did now looking back as you say, you don't see the funny in it, but my divorce was final December 19th, 2019.
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And I say, Oh boy, did God do it.
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Because you could have, could you have imagined if I had to be in lockdown with COVID with him.
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Oh yeah, and and you have an acronym for him FIFO.
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FIFO.
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FIFO.
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Mm-hmm.
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That is a what it's not my uh acronym specifically for him.
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It is where I'm from in southeastern Kentucky.
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We call most Ohioans, please if you're from Ohio, I'm so sorry I didn't come up with this, but I just have announced it to the world.
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We call can Ohioans that come down and take over our lakes in the summers FIFOs, effing idiots from Ohio, because they would just take everything over and not really be like, you know, it's kind of probably like most Europeans feel when Americans descend on Europe and and you don't like care, you know, people do be extra and loud.
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Kentuckians would be like, this is all we've got is our lakes in the summer.
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And these dang Ohioans are taking them.
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So yes, I used to call my ex-husband a FIFO.
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But he knew to be fair.
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Um but yeah we divorced I didn't I I waited till I was 35 to get married.
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So it wasn't like I did some rash decision.
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And so I was so heartbroken and I felt like ashamed and I couldn't make it work and I didn't see an ounce of funny it in the time.
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I thought Lord my life's over I'm going to be an old lady with cats and nobody's going to you know want to be married to me and I've already I I just went through this whole not true yarn.
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You escaped to Atlanta.
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I remember that oh then I moved to y'all thank you Kyle I bought this my accountant was like you can't afford to live in California.
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Like when we got divorced he was like you can't afford to live here so you need to go pick a place to buy a house uh where you fly through the most that's what he literally said to me which by the way wasn't bad advice.
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So I bought a house in Atlanta because that was the airport I went through the most for comedy and I thought I'll renovate this house and I'll put it on Airbnb and I'll stay here when I'm in town.
00:45:43.760 --> 00:45:45.519
That's what I looked at the way I looked at it.
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So I bought the absolute worst house in the nicest neighborhood knowing zero about Atlanta and coming from Los Angeles real estate.
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Um I bought a house that was like just under 6,000 square feet on two acres.
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But having to tend to that I came from a little like under 2,000 square foot bungalow in in the Valley of California.
00:46:04.559 --> 00:46:09.679
You know I came from this itty bitty comparatively house and I was like what?
00:46:10.079 --> 00:46:13.599
Oh my gosh I didn't it had two air conditioners on it like it's too much house.
00:46:13.679 --> 00:46:14.960
It's too much house.
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But um in the process I met my you know now husband and God works it all the way out.
00:46:20.719 --> 00:46:34.960
Yeah he does you don't see it coming and I will say once I got far enough away from the pain of what divorce was for me and and a lot of you know things feeling broken and not fulfilled and how did I miss it?
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All these things you do to yourself.
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I then was able to find the funny and what that looked like and and not a lot of comics talk about divorce especially women but talk about it in a positive and I I try to always talk about it in a positive because I think there's something to that there is really something to it about becoming who you're supposed to be.
00:46:54.079 --> 00:47:00.880
I agree did you I was about to say did you feel that when you when you went through your divorce did you feel like you came out more you on the other side?
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Oh for sure.
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And you also just learn more about yourself along the way, especially as the years pass and you have more objectivity and things that you just couldn't see at the time and you're more eye-opened and you become I think more settled in your own skin.
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And I also have a new partner now.
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Were you the type of person that because I right after my divorce I was never the type of person we always hear people be like oh I'll never do that again.
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I was always like if if I'm in love and I I I'm I was proud of my marriage were you that type of person too?
00:47:26.159 --> 00:47:34.559
Oh yes yes yes yes and and I you know Nisi will always say she loves love and I've I learned to love love more because of Nash.
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Nisi was very much like the to be lucky enough to love well and to be loved well is such a gift.
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So I never was like no I'm not doing that again.
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I was never that I was just like I was more bummed that I let myself down and I let I guess technically him that we let each other down.
00:47:53.280 --> 00:47:58.559
Like that to me was a bit of a bummer that there was just no other option, right?
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Because really to me to I hope but for me divorce was last best and final it is not like there was I never threatened it there was not that there was none of that.
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It's just when you realize two people that's not your person and when you finally have to come to Jesus with yourself and then finally say the quiet part out loud of like we are this is not good and we're gonna be much better people sadly probably for other people you know that's the truth of to me for divorce is you have to look at the unfortunate parts not only of your spouse but of yourself.
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Because if you don't look at what's wrong with you, baby, you're gonna repeat it.
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You're gonna repeat it.
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You don't want that.
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Yeah I agree I think it's the it's the last resort.
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It's after years and years of trying it's not just you know what it's not working.
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It's there's a lot of effort that goes into it before it's exactly exactly all right we'll lighten up as we close out the tangle this show what are you currently tangled in that you're loving immersing yourself in binge watching reading and then what's something annoying or frustrating right now that you're trying to get untangled from oh gosh what a beautiful way to end this Kyle I love this so much.
00:49:02.800 --> 00:49:17.199
Okay currently Tangled in without question as you've probably heard by the way I'm talking Ted Lasso, the greatest feel good show that has ever been that they've beautifully gorgeously brought back for a season four and I thought how do you improve on Ted Lasso?
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Well guess what they did?
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It is magical it is on uh on Wednesday nights act like I work for Apple TV and Bill Lawrence but if you've never watched Ted Lasso, do yourself a solid get all the way caught up and please watch season four the world needs that kind of energy in this world and it brings me great joy that they put out that kind of television.
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So I'm highly tangled in Ted Lasso.
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Another hope filled hope filled I'm all about the hope I love kind yeah kindness kindness also Rooster if you haven't watched which also Bill Lawrence I really liked Rooster yes right it's smart it's uh forward I just love I love it that it's a liberal art school I love all the dynamics I love the young and the old like again Bill Lawrence if you don't know who Bill Lawrence is y'all Bill Lawrence is a showrunner brilliance you can go back to Spin City uh Scrubs uh uh shrinking Ted Lasso I mean the man is an Andreoster he is one of the single greatest creators of feel good TV in my opinion that's honest like that still gets the glimmer of what's happening that isn't always pretty but it's happening and so um I am a big old fangirl of all things Bill Lawrence and then fun fact his wife Krista Miller also that he did the show Cougartown too um Bill Lawrence's wife is his music supervisor and she knocks it out right and she I say all the time I don't know who I'm a bigger fan of Bill Lawrence or his wife because she gets she hits it out of the park every time every song and they have an insane music budget too because the songs they get I'm like Yeah they're a power couple yeah I love how every single one of their shows is is full of heart which we definitely need to we definitely need to we need it we need it and then what am I tangled up in that I cannot be bothered with right now besides some most days the state of the world um what is it?
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I don't really know because I try not to think about it.
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What are things that aggravate me to no end?
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I mean good if you don't have anything.
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Taxes I think we're getting I I think tax I I really am at the point now where I I laughed the other day and I said to my husband, I go, isn't it funny that this country was built on taxation without representation.
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Yeah we pay taxes and then we go and buy something and pay taxes on the money that was already taxed.
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I was like I mean I'm not a mathematician but that just seems wrong.
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I'm like can we can we can somebody because as last I checked it's it the the whole paperwork for this country says we the people and I felt like if we could just have a checks and balances of taxes, we'd all be in a better state.
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That's all that's all and let and lettuce I'd like lettuce back if it if you know I'd like the lettuce to not make us ill.
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And those are the two things Kyle I like a salad I'm gonna say it I just like lettuce it doesn't make us sick.
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There you are.
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I I it's hard for me to find things wrong but taxes and lettuce.
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Those are if we're gonna get two things to be tangled in that's annoying that those are those are pretty m minimal.
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So I think that's good.
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Thank you.
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Such a pleasure Trish honey right back at you.
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Thank you for making the time I mean what a joy
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I grew to love you several years ago on Straight Talk with Ross Matthews, my favorite podcast of all time.
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We'll definitely make sure to talk about that.
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But first I want to talk about your upbringing, the beginning where we start in Middleboro, consistently.
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Middlesbrough.
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Middlesbrough.
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Okay, so that's in the Appalachian Mountains.
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How small was Middlesbrough?
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Oh well, m first of all, we're a metropolis, comparatively speaking.
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Middlesbrough is, I'm not trying to brag, but we're 8,000 people.
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Oh wow, okay.
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Yeah.
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I mean, if I'm gonna throw my weight around, we're 8,000 proud.
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When I come home out, the 8,000 and one.
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Now, how long have you been away from Kentucky, lived outside of the state?
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Oh Lord, I've lived outside.
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I've now officially lived away longer than I've lived there.
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But because uh so I've been gone from Middlesbrough since 97.
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But um as everybody'll tell you, A, in the South and B from the funeral family, you don't get far fast.
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So I'm I go home often.
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I didn't I would say I was home every two to three months up until I was on the show Clean House, which started really uh in 2006.
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That's when I stopped.
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Well, for me, it was start the show started in 05, but I started uh in two late 2005, and so I stopped going every two months because I'd help at the funeral home.
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I'd you know, I just treated it like a normal commute.
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I'd be like, oh, I gotta get back to Kentucky.
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I didn't think about that.
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I lived across the country.
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Was that a initial move out of Kentucky to Los Angeles in ninety-seven?
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I went to school.
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I got accepted uh at college uh for playing tennis.
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I got to play tennis because I actually had a skill set, believe it or not, uh at Arizona State.
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So I went to Tempe, Arizona.
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I love Arizona, uh, and that's where I got to go to school.
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And I was so lucky to go there because I'd really never left like Tennessee, Kentucky, Virginia.
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It it just was a different, it's a different world, you know.
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And I will say, let me also say, 'cause anybody listening, you know my story, uh, we moved to New Jersey for one like a year, half of my junior year and into my senior year, which was catastrophic for this girl.
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I'm a Kentuckian.
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They made so much money.
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My accent, they called me Tucker, like people were so hateful.
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I'll use the word.
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Now, have you always been appreciative of growing up in, you know, country living rural, small town, or has it developed more now that you've lived all over the country?
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That's a great question.
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Um, I both.
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I think at the time I was really I knew and it's it's it's I think anybody that when God puts something in you to be more, you don't know what that more is.
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Because I say all the time, whatever's in your heart to be, whatever you're meant to be, it's in you, whether you believe God, Buddha, the universe, whatever speaks to you.
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For me, God put in me that I was meant to go tell jokes and I was make meant to people make people laugh.
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And since I was knee-high to a pig's eye, I would say, I'm gonna go to Hollywood and um have my own shown when an Emmy.
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I just walk around declaring it as a little kid.
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They'd be like, Okay, girl.
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And you've done it.
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You have an Emmy.
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I do.
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I do have one.
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I would love a whole bunch more.
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Ross Matthews has uh like he's got the trophies for days.
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I tell Rossi all the time, I'm like, I just want to keep creating and people to be joyful about it.
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Because I grew up watching the Emmys and being gobsmacked and thinking Carol Burnett was the single greatest thing God ever put on this earth.
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She still is.
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Spoiler.
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Um, and so I'd watch her at the award shows and think, I want to do that.
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I want to make people laugh and I want to wear fun, flashy gowns and, you know, win awards for it.
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So I've only done that one time so far, but I I feel like there might be some more in the future.
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But I to to answer your question, I knew that I loved being from a small town because I understood that the my grandfather was the banker, his brother was the real estate guy, and then they had the funeral home, and then my uncle was the corner of the funeral home.
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So you you get in this ecosystem of realizing the the value of all these people.
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And I realized that value of that ecosystem.
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And we were big fish in a small pond, right?
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Eve my family.
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I wasn't, I was just, you know, part of the part of the package.
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And then I think when you when you move away, you realize what a blessing.
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It gets even more of a realization of what a blessing that is to be raised in that like that.
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And now, what do you consider the most rewarding aspect of that upbringing and the most difficult aspect of growing up in the Appalachian Mountains?
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Gosh, Kyle, you are like Barbara Walters.
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I'm a journalist.
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I know, I love this, but just like really, the most, the most rewarding, I think, is I genuinely always think with everybody in mind.
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I've never, I heard this amazing quote the other day that I love, which is it's not look at me, it's come with me.
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And I have I'll cry thinking about it.
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I have a I have a dolly mentality.
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I love Dolly Partner, and I think that Dolly, I feel like I was raised by Dolly, and my blueprint to be in the entertainment business was from and I never wanted to be a singer.
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So that's why I say when God puts in you what you're meant to do, like I've never been called to sing, I have never been called to be in the WMBA or the ice capades, like God didn't put that in my heart.
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Tell stories, make sure everybody's included, make them laugh and feel good, and and just love well.
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That's that's my theme in life.
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And I think when you just have that as a North Star, it's real hard to jack it up.
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It's real hard to jack it up.
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It's it is if you let other people tell you what to do.
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And I've had people tell me, get rid of your accent.
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People have trouble understanding you.
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And I was like, okay.
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You know, I somebody does.
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There's a whole section of this country that understands me and I'm tickled for it.
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And the more I travel, the more I realize everybody they get tickled.
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Uh from the UK to Louisiana, people are like, yeah, we love we enjoy it.
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So most difficult part, was that the other question?
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Yeah, or you know, difficult looking back, but it probably built character.
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Yeah, I think difficult was when you realize you f I did.
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I felt like such an odd duck that I had aspirations as a kid that felt so foreign, just out like when I would just sit and say, Whoa, moved to Los Angeles.
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I mean, people thought I had officially hit my head.
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And I'd be, I don't ever remember not saying it.
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I was like, that's where I'm gonna go.
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Uh, because in my mind, as we all know the world has changed, that was the only place you could really create uh at the time, create TV.
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And I love it.
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And now I realize l living here as long as I have and know why I love it.
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I'm a mountain girl.
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I'm from the Appalachians.
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I love that.
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That I my house is four houses away from the Santa Monica Mountains.
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I will forever be up to a mountain because I need that in my soul.
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I'm I anytime I'm coming home, I have to fly into Knoxville, Tennessee to get to where I live an hour, about an hour and 20 minutes north.
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And when I'm driving home, I bust into tears every time coming through the mountains.
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Because it's just, it's in my person.
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It's just it's something there's something really, really special.
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So I think moving away and and realizing that as long as you stay who you are and don't let all the outside influences tell you all the ways you could be a better you, I think we can all better ourselves.
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But who you are innately is who you're supposed to be in this world.
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That's your DNA blueprint.
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Beautifully said.
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And you mentioned Dolly Parton, and I'm I'm a huge admirer of her work as well.
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And it makes me think of, you know, my Tennessee Mountain home.
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And what was your first introduction to her?
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Was it your parents playing her albums?
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Did you go to Dollywood?
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Well, I am of the age that I remember what Dollywood was before it was Dollywood.
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I remember when Dolly Dolly bought Dollywood.
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Dollywood was originally a place in Gatlinburg, Tennessee, called Silver Dollar City.
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That's that's how that's Trisha's that many years old.
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And when Dolly bought it, we thought, you know, it was like Wonka buying the trunk factory.
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There could be a Dollywood.
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My introduction to Dolly was I grew up in a town, the biggest claim to fame in my little Bitty Middlesbrough, Kentucky, was Lee Majors was from there, the six million dollar man, uh the fall guy.
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He was a big star in the 80s.
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And so I grew up with this, you know, Lee Majors, and he did a Christmas movie with Dolly.
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And I was and everybody was like, we've got to watch Lee and Dolly.
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You know, it was like a big to-do.
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And I thought she was the very most glamorous human being I'd ever seen in my life.
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And we would watch the Grand Old Opry.
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Uh, it was on TV, you know, in our part of the country, I believe it was Friday nights.
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And I'd sit at my grandparents with their big console TV on the floor, and I would sit and watch the Opry.
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And anytime Dolly was on the Opry, I was, I I mean, just glamoured, glamored.
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And then I wanted everything that she was on that I could consume if she ever went on the Carol Burnett show.
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If, you know, she was on any talk show, they'd be like, Trish, Dolly's on.
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I'd check the TV guide and I'd make everybody highlight it.
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Like, come on.
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I just fell in love with as we all do, right?
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The spirit and the frequency at which Dolly emits into this world.
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And I was like, I want to do that.
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I want to do all that.
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So once I knew she existed, not even knowing, I I didn't know I was gonna do stand-up, but I knew I wanted to make people laugh and I thought I was gonna do sketch, um, like like Carol.
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But when I realized the the Dolly way, I was like, is there a way to be like Dolly and and do it?
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And that's what I've all that's where my brain always kind of processed from.
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Because she's such a great storyteller, even obviously in song, but in life.
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I mean, you go to one of her concerts and hey, she's cracking people up.
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She does I always say she does an hour of comedy, an hour of music.
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She's uh she's a gift, she's an angel, I think.
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Um I just I have a bookshelf right in front of me.
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Of course I have the Dolly Parton book.
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Can you hold on two seconds?
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Hold on, hold on don't move.
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I mean, I'm gonna get up, but uh audience at home, hold on one second, stand by.
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Look at this, Kyle.
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Ah, all both of our songteller books.
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I love her Songteller, right?
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Because it's the best book.
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She's the best, y'all.
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Kyle and I get it.
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I can't wait till her hotel opens in Nashville.
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I will be there.
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I will be, I mean, literally.
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Musical is opening next year in Broadway.
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I know listen, let me tell you something.
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Not that Dolly needs one lick of PR, but I would, if I didn't do what I did for a living, I'd probably be the head of Dolly's PR team because I love that woman.
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And I know there's a long line and people could probably be like, Trish, get in line.
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But she, and I'll I've told the story a hundred times.
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I tell it on stage, come to my show, I'll tell it when I finally met her in person, because my entire life was about how could I meet Dolly.
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Like I got a worker's permit so that I could go work at Dollywood in the hopes that I'd meet Dolly.
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Because in my brain, she was gonna walk by and be like, hey girl, you know, come do the Dolly review.
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I was in love.
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I still am.
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So favorite song of hers.
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And I know you also you I watched your YouTube special, which is actually titled Dolly for President.
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Thank you.
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Thank you for that plug.
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Y'all can watch it now.
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Um, favorite song.
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Oh, God bless.
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Okay.
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Probably Jolene is always just a keeper forever.
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And if you ever have heard her sing Keep I the Sparrow, which is a a hemp, I mean you'll bust into two.
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There's just Lauren, Miss Lauren Hill.
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And Dolly Parton are the two people that sing that song, and I am a sack of mud when it's done.
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Like I'm just it's one of those songs that you're like, mmm.
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Um, but I do I do enjoy her song Go to Hell, too.
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I mean, if anybody can cuss you and make you go, oh, I need to change my life, it's Dolly Parton.
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So there's really nothing Dolly sings I don't love.
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And Hard Candy Christmas.
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I mean, I grew up on Hard Candy Christmas, so we could go on and on, Kyle, but yeah.
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Always.
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What's your favorite?
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What's your favorite Dolly song?
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Oh, I really love I mean, I like her sad songs.
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I really like um The Grass is Blue is a really beautiful one.
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Um Mountain Angel is a really good one.
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Down Down from Dover.
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Like the sad ones.
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Yeah, the sad ones.
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You're in Dape.
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I know.
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You're you're in a ditch.
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You give me emo dolly.
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Yes.
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All right.
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So growing up in your household in the in the mountains, were you the comic relief in your family, or were you was it a funny household in general?
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It was a funny household.
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I will say all the time, I'm probably the least funny funniest person in my family.
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I'm just the one that figured out how to make it a job, like how to monetize it, make it a career.
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Because my people are hilarious.
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And I would just sit sometimes and think, are like as a kid that grew up on sitcoms, I thought this is, I feel like we're on camera because the stuff would be so outrageous that you can't believe this is your real life.
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I mean, everybody, grandparents, aunts, uncles, I grew up in a big Italian family in the South.
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So, you know, immediate family was like 30 people.
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So I would definitely say my and my brother's hilarious and doesn't know it.
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So that's another, that's always fun when there's somebody that genuinely has no clue they're the hilarious.
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So yeah, it's a it's a pretty funny family.
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It's it's a dynamic that I look about and think, I've l I grew up in a sitcom.
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That's how I feel.
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Well, yeah.
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And you mentioned you grew up in the the funeral home business.
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And I assume that makes people pretty comfortable with death pretty fast, sort of like a doctor.
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You're always around it.
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Did you find that you had to develop like a sense of humor at an early age because you're always surrounded by grief and you need to lighten things up?
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100%.
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You realize really quickly that what's most well, not realize, you get told as well that it's our job to bring a certain amount of levity, not joking necessarily, but levity too.
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Some really heavy moments for people, right?
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We see people at their worst.
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My family always, not that we wouldn't see them out in life and doing life, but for the most part, if you're over at our funeral home, it's because it's it's a pretty heavy time.
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And I learned very young that it was always great to be the levity, the bright spot, the thing that people, you can how you it's the, you know, old saying, it's how people remember how you made them feel, not necessarily what you said.
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And I take great pride in the fact that that's ingrained in who I am, how you make everybody feel is how I want to leave them better than I found them.
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And getting people most times in a pretty rough state of grief or at a low, um, that's always how I've been.
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Like just making sure I try to bring a little bit of brightness, no matter what stage of whatever's going on in your life.
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And about it isn't just grief, but grief's a pretty big ballast point to look at people and go, yeah, I'd like, I'd like to help you out of this, even if it's for a minute, just to get you to forget or take some relief, not necessarily always forget.
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Because it's it is.
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You don't you don't ever know what anybody's going through.
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You just don't.
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And when you're working it daily, you do learn to process differently and you look, you find joy, Lord, in a cup of coffee.
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Like you find joy anywhere you can.
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It does shift your perspective.
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Yeah, joy and and kindness, which you always lead with, especially if you are familiar with your work, you always lead with kindness.
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And we we often think, you know, a lot of Southern people do lead lead with kindness, but I would think in the industry you grew up in, I guess it's it wasn't modeled for you by everyone around you because you can't really teach people how to be empathetic.
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It's sort of something that's just it's a special quality in you.
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So have you always just led with kindness or just instilled in you at birth?
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Uh, you know, I think I just got better at it, like you just said beautifully watching when you watch the way.
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And empathy shows up in so many different ways, right?
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It's uh, you know, somebody, a friend saying, you know, call me and text me and let me know you got home safe.
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It's somebody going, you know, I've got your dinner today because maybe somebody's going through it financially.
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It's just being this level of care that I have always seen modeled.
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And when you see it modeled, I think you start picking up it's the do as I say, hopefully do as I do, but not, you know, um, that modeling, that real modeling of like how to to be a good human to others.
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And then for me, I just I've my family's always said I'm like a human care bear.
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If you remember the care bears, whatever was on their tummy kind of shot out and I was like a sunshine bear.
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So I'd be like, Huh, like I've always I would wake, I wake up in the morning and my husband, bless his heart, he doesn't wake up well.
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And I wake up like Mary Poppins.
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I'm like, good morning.
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Like just birds flying, my dogs are that way, I'm that way.
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And so I just want to give that because I feel like as much as we give that, you hope it just brightens somebody else's experience if maybe they don't naturally come that way.
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Do you think that kindness and positivity runs parallel with hope?
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Because we're, you know, we've gone through many, many years of of dark times, a lot pandemic, politics, lots going on in the world.
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Are you naturally a hope-filled person and move forward with a hopeful mindset?
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I am.
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I am.
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And and you said it beautifully.
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I keep in a place of of because, you know, there's the there's the truth in you have fear and faith can't exist at the same time, scientifically.
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They simply cannot.
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So you have to pick one.
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And if I always sat around at a place of doom and gloom, which don't get me wrong, there have been many a time over the last six years in general, where I've been like, well, this is it.
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I guess we're all just gonna go in a hole and I'm gonna eat loaves of bread and be sad.
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Like that's just where I've got we've all gone there.
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And it does us no good.
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It does uh us no service.
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And I think there's way too many good people in the world that we all, and the good people are the ones that usually are the most brought down by the heavy.
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And I feel like if there's just more goodness we can push forward together, it keeps you in this state of hope because I do believe, um, and I I'm a history nerd, things are cyclical.
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It will come back around and we will get to the point that we all get to go, see, we're better together.
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Don't you dare in any way try to divide.
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I mean, look, World Cup was a beautiful uh example of that.
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I mean, people, I mean, as Americans, as people, we don't really know soccer or football, whatever you want to call it.
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And watching the world come, not only come to the United States and see the things that we love about it, although their love of ranch was unparalleled.
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Um, it was wild.
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It was just beautiful to see us celebrating other countries, being joyful about their country, and us being joyful um in sharing it.
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We're like, we love having you here.
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I'm tickled you enjoy a Walmart in a Costco.
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It's sad that y'all have buildings that are older than our country and we're being like, yes, come enjoy Costco.
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But we were tickled nonetheless.
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I think there's something magically unifying about hope that all the good people want high tides raise all ships.
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I'll say it to the end of days.
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It was my papa's favorite saying, and it's true.
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I think all the good people are the ones that keep carrying the hope so that when people are feeling heavy and you don't feel like you can kind of keep it going, we're like, don't worry, we'll be right here when you, when you need, when you need to hand up.
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And that's what I'm about.
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I'm all about there's a brighter side to all this because it's real easy to get dark quick for anybody.
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I agree.
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Forever clinging to hope.
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Uh and I read that you provided entertainment in the funeral home.
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What did that look like?
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Was it comedic relief?
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Were you performing?
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Were you a like kind of a theater kid?
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What was that?
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I was not a theater kid because I couldn't sing.
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You know, when you're aware, like theater kids to me are unicorns because they can bust into song and then but and I was like, what is that?
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I don't have that.
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I was the levity at the funeral home for, you know, if people came in and people get you people get nervous around death in general, or if it's an unexpected death, um, it would also be hard for people to like understand what to do.
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So we had my uncle's dog, um, Quincy, Rest in Peace, which was named after Quincy, the show.
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There used to be a show about a coroner back in the, I guess, late 70s, early 80s.
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I didn't know the show, but my uncle named his dog after that coroner.
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So it was me and the basset hound that would would try to make people feel a little more at ease, right?
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And I didn't realize I was the levity and the joy for people when they came in because you're not expecting a little kid and a dog at the funeral home.
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You know, you're just not.
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So once everybody kind of knew they'd come in and and be lighter in spirit once we were there.
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And obviously never making light of death, but definitely bringing light when people had to step into that situation was always, always a time, always fun for me.
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I didn't know.
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I didn't know.
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Now, I've interviewed one other person who actually grew up in the funeral home business, and she grew up in Arkansas.
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Are you familiar with uh Sarah Kelowna?
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Honey, Sarah Kelowna is one of my dearest friends, number one.
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Number two, her little mama, who worked in the funeral business, um, came to see me.
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This is years ago.
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I was actually uh opening for Josh Wolf.
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I'm not sure if you know Josh, dear friend of mine, one of my best friends.
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And I was opening for him in a casino in Arkansas.
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And Sarah's mama came to the show.
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And of course, I was doing stuff about my family's funeral home.
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And afterwards, she came up and like grab I didn't know her.
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I know Sarah, but I didn't know her mom.
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Grabs me and was like, oh my gosh, we have to call my daughter right now.
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She has to know you.
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Well, she FaceTimes Sarah.
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And Sarah, Sarah pops up on the screen.
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I go, Kelowna.
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She goes, Oh my gosh.
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She goes, My mom is obsessed and thinks you're the greatest comedian that's ever taken a breath.
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And I go, Well, she's her daughter is uh in that list.
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And so Sarah went, we were crying laughing because I didn't even how would I have known?
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You know, I didn't know her mom was gonna be there.
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We howled about it because her mom's like, you should start doing this material.
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Her mom.
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That's beautiful.
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I love that.
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I know.
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And so her mom is one of the sweetest human beings.
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And it's a different, you know, it's a different world when you grow up around it.
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I grew up, we didn't have a Starbucks in our town.
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I talk about this on stage.
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We didn't have a Starbucks.
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So people would come in the funeral home, get a free cup of coffee and go, hey, who y'all got?
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I'd say that's my childhood.
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And I'd be back, well, you know.
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And they'd be like, Mm, Lord, you know, and they just start telling who was there, and they'd be like, oh, Trish, do y'all have creamer?
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No, I want international house of coffee.
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I don't want milk.
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I'm watching my dairy.
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And I'm like, okay.
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You know, so all of a sudden I'm like a baby barista and then manage an obituary at this.
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It was just wild because you don't think about that, you know.
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That was normal.
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That was my normal life, but that was our Starbucks.
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Certainly builds character.
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Now, uh tell me about your first time on stage.
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You always dreamed of being on stage doing comedy.
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Was it a random open mic?
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Did you practice five minutes before you got on?
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What was it?
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Um, first time on stage was doing um improv in college in in Arizona.
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And I was in an improv group called Oxymorons, and I loved improv because.
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You didn't didn't know what was coming.
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And I love working with others.
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I listen well, thank God.
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And I take direction well.
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So not knowing what was coming, not knowing how it would happen, and just having to play along was such a great lesson.
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So the first time I stepped on stage as a comic by myself was uh at the laugh factory.
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I sat on the sidewalk in Los Angeles, waited for my three-minute set, put my name on a list.
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We all sat on lawn chairs all day.
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You're sweaty and gross.
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Then you have like an hour to turn around, get ready, and come back and do your set.
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At like back in the day, it used to be, I feel like it was like five or six o'clock, so no one was there.
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I was like, who's watching this?
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Um, that was the first time I ever went on stage and I was not, I was not funny.
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I was not funny, but the only thing I did have was no fear.
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My blessing, my blessing has always been no fear.
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So I don't get up there, good or bad.
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If I kill a Mason, if I eat it, not not ideal, but I'm not scared.
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I don't go, oh Lord, like I don't ruminate.
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There is none of that.
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So that was, I think, the thing that saved me because Lord knows it wasn't the comedy after my very first time.
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And so then I started uh getting smarter and I just I kept figuring it out.
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I didn't have a story, and I never talked about the funeral, ironically.
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I never talked about it.
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I didn't think I I was trying to build some other version.
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I wasn't being authentic, as we all know what that looks like sometimes.
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And I was up on stage, they gave me a chance, I started getting time, and one night um I was not doing well.
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It was crickets.
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You could hear the blender in the, you know, bar when they back making, he was making some kind of like margarita back.
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You hear the ice crunching, and I thought, I want to cry.
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And um, I it was so quiet.
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And I said, Oh, it doesn't bother me.
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I grew up in a funeral home.
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I was like, honey, this is how I learned to tell jokes.
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And people lost it.
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And I just kept staring at them like they were dead people.
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Literally, I remember staring, like, what's that?
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This that I got like, that's not that funny.
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This is just a practical, I'm telling you, a practical situation, right?
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And and from that moment on, that's when everyone was like, Why don't you talk about that?
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And I was like, Well, that who wants to hear about that?
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And uh it that's that's when it all changed.
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And that was good lord in the late 1900s, Kyle.
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Well, I'm I'm curious if the growing up in the funeral home, being surrounded by all that grief and death and hard times, if that just contributed to you being confident and fearless because it's like I I failed or bombed on stage.
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It's like I'm alive.
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I'm not, you know, grieving.
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I didn't lose someone.
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I love it.
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You know what?
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I never went that deep in my subconscious.
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I love you for that.
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That's a beautiful, you know what?
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I'm gonna sit on that today and pray on that because I love that thought.
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I never looked at it as that what for me, the no fear came true.
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Well, I used to think, but now I'm with you.
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I'm gonna deep dive that today in my journal.
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Um, I think uh what I have always told myself was the no fear came from um it this this isn't it wasn't that it wasn't life or death, but it was that everything can always, I guess it is the same thing.
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I that things could always be worse.
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In my head, I always thought if I didn't get a laugh, I always thought, well, I know what's what worse is.
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I've seen people worse.
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So there was no like, oh no, do I always want to do well?
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Of course.
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But my my comedy is rooted in bringing people joy as opposed to I need to kill.
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I like if I bring you the joy, I feel like everything else kind of just does its work, uh which is probably not the way most comics go.
00:25:23.359 --> 00:25:24.000
I don't know.
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Well, especially nowadays where there's a sort of a blurred line between comedy and then politics, and a lot of people are you know getting involved.
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So yours, you've always wanted to provide joy and escapism.
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Very much, very much.
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I've always and I think that's like you that I'd have clocked because of the funeral business and seeing people want to not have to think about what they're going through.
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I think for me, I always came from this mindset of I just want people to feel levity and forget what they're going through for a second.
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And if it's hearing stories about my grandmother, you know, smoking in church or my brother, the Navy SEAL hitting on Tinkerbell, I don't, I don't care.
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I don't care what the this I do care, but I don't care what how I brought you the joy.
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I'm just so grateful I left you better.
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That's my way, you know.
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You left Kentucky 10 years before clean house.
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What were those 10 years like?
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Was it a lot of random jobs and open mic nights?
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What was that decade?
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I have had every single job, y'all, including digging graves, bartending, managing a tanning salon.
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Um I my I'm trying like literally I'm I c did uh private catering, private chefing, deploy food delivery.
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Uh, only thing I haven't done is taught workout classes because I always thought I'd be horrible at queuing, but I've gone to so many workout classes I should, I should have become an instructor.
00:26:40.319 --> 00:26:43.599
Um I literally have had every job and multiple jobs at a time.
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Like I used to open the tanning salon in the morning at 6 a.m.
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in Beverly Hills, then change at the tanning salon and work a full day, like till like 7 30, 8 o'clock, then go do comedy, then leave do and run around to do different clubs to try to get stage time, and then I'd leave and go bartend at 10 o'clock at night until you know we closed last call.
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LA was two 145, too.
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And then I'd go home, shower, rinse, and repeat and get three hours of sleep.
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And that was my life for a decade.
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I mean, full stop.
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I and I usually had one or two bar jobs.
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So, and then sometimes I'd work, this will tell y'all, I would work after hours on days I didn't have tanning in the morning.
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So then I would go work a rave.
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And y'all, I never did drugs.
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I'm not saying this like I'm better than anybody.
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I just never did any drugs.
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I was terrified I was gonna, you know, end up hooked on drugs.
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So I never did anything illegal.
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I was always like, no.
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And I never smoked nothing.
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And here I'd be at these raves with people rolling on God knows what, paying$15 for an orange juice.
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And I'd be like, oh my lord, are you okay?
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Do you mean call your mom?
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Like, I would be so worried.
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I mean, and I and and the house music's so loud, and I have a naturally raspy voice and no one could hear me.
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And I was like, oh, this is horrible.
00:27:53.920 --> 00:27:57.519
Uh yeah, I heard in your comedy you you have made a mean margarita.
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Do you still make those?
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I make a mean margarita.
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I really do.
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I mean, listen, y'all, if we're ever in a location that I can make you a margarita, I'm I'm uh I was a mixologist before that was a thing.
00:28:08.240 --> 00:28:10.160
I didn't know like it was gonna become cool.
00:28:10.319 --> 00:28:14.640
And I love the crafting of a cocktail, like herbs and that kind of I mean, I'm a nerd.
00:28:14.720 --> 00:28:15.359
I'm a nerd.
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I love and I cook like that too.
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But yeah, I wasn't gonna be a private chef, let's be real.
00:28:19.920 --> 00:28:25.039
And then you became known as the yard sale diva on hundreds of episodes, many seasons of clean house.
00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:27.519
Are you still a big yard sale thrifting person?
00:28:27.599 --> 00:28:29.759
And was that instilled in you as well growing up?
00:28:30.000 --> 00:28:30.960
Yes, I still love it.
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Yes, I love a deal.
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I love the way that the world has changed with Facebook Marketplace and all that you have to drive around and stock people's front yards.
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But I do.
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I love an antique sale.
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I love a gorgeous, you know, old school thrift store.
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When I'm in the UK, I'm forever in one of their charity shops.
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I love finding like a treasure forever.
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That is me.
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Love, love, love.
00:28:50.799 --> 00:28:57.519
Um, but I don't love clutter, so I have to be really clear on what I buy because clutter can sneak up on you quick, as we know.
00:28:57.599 --> 00:29:08.559
And and that was just such a blessing because I my grandfather, my grandfather was a banker and his brother ran the realty company, and then they owned some, you know, uh rental properties together.
00:29:08.880 --> 00:29:13.119
So I would always be with them to help like renovate or if people moved out or whatever.
00:29:13.200 --> 00:29:14.640
You had to see what how the state of it.
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And then my grandfather's like, you got to liquidate this and then just to get the stuff out of the house if people left stuff behind.
00:29:20.079 --> 00:29:23.440
And I was like, oh Lord, and I had to learn all that at a young age.
00:29:23.599 --> 00:29:31.039
Um, and I didn't understand of like why there was all this stuff that was accumulated and they turned it into income because we're in, you know, the mountains of Kentucky.
00:29:31.200 --> 00:29:33.599
They weren't just gonna like drop it off at a dump.
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That's not how it worked.
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And I don't even remember at the time if we had a thrift store.
00:29:37.839 --> 00:29:40.480
We we eventually got one, but it when I was little, I don't remember there being one.
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So everybody just kind of had to have yard sales.
00:29:42.480 --> 00:29:43.759
So I got really good at it.
00:29:43.839 --> 00:29:50.559
And my grandfather, hi, he loved to negotiate, he loved the art of the uh deal, and he taught me all of that.
00:29:50.799 --> 00:29:56.079
So when the uh opportunity came to audition for clean house, I was like, yeah.
00:29:56.240 --> 00:30:03.039
And the show had already been on for one year with another other people in the cast, and there wasn't necessarily a yard sale diva.
00:30:03.119 --> 00:30:06.559
There was a guy that did some of the yard sales, and there was somebody else that did organizing.
00:30:06.640 --> 00:30:12.960
And then what ended up happening is they uh I went and auditioned and I could do both, and they kind of made me both.
00:30:13.119 --> 00:30:41.680
And I was only supposed to be hired for five episodes, and then it became the next like almost decade of my life, which was a blessing, you know, and and working with Nisi Nash, who is an unbelievable human being and so talented, and um, and Matt Eisman, who's on American Ninja Warrior, he's one of the anchors on American Ninja Warrior, and then Mark Brunett's, uh, who was what our designer, it was just a magic moment in time, you know, and it was really one of the first reality makeover shows because we didn't know what we were doing.
00:30:41.839 --> 00:30:43.359
I mean, we had no clue.
00:30:43.440 --> 00:30:46.720
We just went in there and were ourselves, and it just kind of worked out.
00:30:46.880 --> 00:30:51.359
So we we were so blessed, and I loved every second of that show.
00:30:51.519 --> 00:30:58.720
It was even on the tough days because you're in people, you know, again, people at their worst, clutter, overwhelmed, um, didn't know how they got there.
00:30:58.880 --> 00:31:11.039
I used to say it was kind of the Disney version of hoarders because we weren't obviously we weren't therapists, we to and we didn't want to deal with people that were, you know, clinically depressed and all that to the point that we can't help them, right?
00:31:11.119 --> 00:31:13.200
That's out the scope of of this makeover show.
00:31:13.359 --> 00:31:18.240
So we dealt with people though in a lot of heavy places because that's usually when clutter shows up in your life.
00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:25.680
So for me, uh, it was a joy being able to take all this stuff out, drag it to people's front lawns and be like, here, you just made$8,000.
00:31:26.000 --> 00:31:32.799
Here, you know, and that was such a great feeling because I've seen people in that state and didn't have the ability to help them.
00:31:32.880 --> 00:31:35.359
And being able to do that show was such a great gift.
00:31:35.519 --> 00:31:38.000
Clean house was a was a great gift to be able to do.
00:31:38.240 --> 00:31:39.920
Yeah, and you still provide tips on your website.
00:31:40.000 --> 00:31:48.480
You have a Trishful thinking section of your website with organizational tips and how to clear clutter, and you also give cooking, crafting, DIY advice.
00:31:48.720 --> 00:31:53.519
So I I assume you're a type A personality, you're not a controlled chaos type of person.
00:31:54.160 --> 00:31:55.440
Ding ding ding, Kyle.
00:31:55.519 --> 00:31:56.240
That is correct.
00:31:56.400 --> 00:32:03.759
I am I like, I like my and my husband is very, very put together, thank goodness, because I could've it could have gone another way.
00:32:04.000 --> 00:32:06.319
So we we do like a tidy house.
00:32:06.400 --> 00:32:07.039
We like everything.
00:32:07.200 --> 00:32:15.279
I mean, look, everything behind me is super, and I'm if you're not watching, y'all, I'm in my gar office, my garage office, and everything's very out and intentional.
00:32:15.359 --> 00:32:28.720
And um, because I I get I come from my grandparents were depression era, they held on to everything, you're gonna need it someday, and and clutter sneaks up on people and qual your quality of life is everything.
00:32:29.039 --> 00:32:31.279
How you like romanticize your life.
00:32:31.359 --> 00:32:33.359
If you hear anything I say, y'all romanticize it.
00:32:33.440 --> 00:32:41.279
I don't care if it's making coffee, I don't care what your anything looks like that you experience every day, just romanticize it, make it sweet, make it fun.
00:32:41.440 --> 00:32:48.240
I don't care if you're beachy or minimalist or you like an English cottage, like max it out, live the life.
00:32:48.400 --> 00:32:49.519
Life's too short.
00:32:49.759 --> 00:32:54.319
Make everything you get to do every day almost feel like cinematic, and you will watch how your life changes.
00:32:54.400 --> 00:33:00.640
And a lot of that's getting rid of the crap because we all accumulate and you turn around and go, How the heck did I get all this mess in the house?
00:33:00.720 --> 00:33:01.119
You know?
00:33:01.279 --> 00:33:04.960
So just that's that's one thing I love to impress upon people.
00:33:05.119 --> 00:33:06.400
I'm in hotel rooms a lot.
00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:14.079
So when I get to come home, I love for my home to be like this dreamy, sweet place that I'm like, oh, sweet.
00:33:14.960 --> 00:33:27.119
Yeah, homes should feel light, not burdened and weighted down and and and like you, like you personified, which is really I mean, I've not even been into your house, but your background, like that's dreamy.
00:33:27.359 --> 00:33:34.960
I feel like I need a leather chair in the corner with a little reading lane over my c uh head and like a cup of tea, and just pick a book off your shelf and I'd have a time.
00:33:35.039 --> 00:33:35.839
That's what that feels like.
00:33:36.079 --> 00:33:36.240
Yeah.
00:33:36.319 --> 00:33:38.319
So I have Ross Matthews books up here too.
00:33:38.480 --> 00:33:39.440
We'll get to him in a minute.
00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:40.079
Let's see.
00:33:40.400 --> 00:33:41.759
Um, you did mention Nisie Ness.
00:33:41.920 --> 00:33:48.319
I I was just curious, what's it been like to see her rise in like dramatic acting and she's become an LGBTQIA icon?
00:33:48.480 --> 00:33:50.960
Were there any tinges of that, the the dramatic side of her?
00:33:51.200 --> 00:33:51.519
Oh yeah.
00:33:51.599 --> 00:33:52.240
Oh yeah, yeah.
00:33:52.319 --> 00:34:00.559
So when uh I we were on Clean House, you know, they had just she was already on Reno 911, and um she's always she's an actress first.
00:34:00.640 --> 00:34:03.680
She just happens to be unbelievable at everything she does.
00:34:03.839 --> 00:34:05.440
Like, let's full stop.
00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:12.719
Nisi's one of those forces of nature on this earth, and that God gave her every gift, and you should hear her sing.
00:34:12.880 --> 00:34:15.119
I'm like, it's just really quite annoying that I'm like, nothing.
00:34:15.199 --> 00:34:16.639
I could I just got funny.
00:34:16.800 --> 00:34:22.000
Like when you see someone like her, that you're like, oh, and she just she's just that.
00:34:22.159 --> 00:34:24.800
She wants everyone to shine.
00:34:25.039 --> 00:34:34.639
She's just a human being that really advocates well for the underdog, has always been that way, and has no apologies of being herself.
00:34:34.800 --> 00:34:43.039
And when I showed up on Clean House, Lord, I mean, she the first time I ever saw her was a movie called Boys on the Side, because with Drew Barrymore and Whoopi Goldberg.
00:34:43.119 --> 00:34:53.840
And I was like, uh and she her role was so tiny, so tiny that when I auditioned for Clean House, I already knew Reno 911 and I already knew Clean House.
00:34:54.079 --> 00:35:00.880
But my um callback for Clean House, I actually auditioned with Niecy because the, you know, these people had to obviously work together.
00:35:01.119 --> 00:35:02.239
Nisi had already been on the show.
00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:05.840
So the new cast had to work well with the existing cast.
00:35:06.400 --> 00:35:10.159
And um I will I'll I've never told this story.
00:35:10.239 --> 00:35:12.159
Would you like the story of my audition at Clean House?
00:35:12.239 --> 00:35:17.519
This is a pretty great story because this is this is um how you know Nisi's who Nisi is, and she's just amazing.
00:35:17.760 --> 00:35:21.199
So they said to me, Hey, this is the situation, all the producers at a long table.
00:35:21.280 --> 00:35:24.960
It's me and Nisi, and they gave me a scenario that we would walk into on Clean House.
00:35:25.039 --> 00:35:26.559
And they said, We're going into this woman's house.
00:35:26.639 --> 00:35:35.199
She has a eight-year-old child, the clutter's everywhere, and the mom doesn't want to get rid of the baby's crib that is now in the dining room holding a bunch of clutter.
00:35:35.440 --> 00:35:35.760
Okay.
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:42.719
And it's your job, Trish, to get the baby, the mom to give up the baby crib to put into the yard sale.
00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:43.840
And I go, okay.
00:35:44.000 --> 00:35:45.519
And niece's gonna play the mom.
00:35:45.760 --> 00:35:46.079
That's it.
00:35:46.239 --> 00:35:47.920
Scene set, action, right?
00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:50.320
That's so now we're having to improv this.
00:35:50.480 --> 00:35:54.000
And niece Nash at the time, she has three beautiful kids.
00:35:54.159 --> 00:35:57.440
Her youngest uh Dea at the time was four, maybe.
00:35:57.599 --> 00:35:59.280
I want to say Dea was four years old.
00:35:59.840 --> 00:36:06.320
And um niecy took a second, she had on a juicy tracksuit, I'll never forget this, big old flower in her hair.
00:36:06.639 --> 00:36:08.079
Just net niece Nash.
00:36:08.239 --> 00:36:13.760
And she looked up at me and I could already see she was a different human being than the one I'd just been sitting in the room with.
00:36:13.920 --> 00:36:17.920
I watched her physically transform right in front of my eyes, and I was like, What's happening?
00:36:18.079 --> 00:36:24.000
And sh I said, you know, I'd love to get this out to the yard sale and make some space so that y'all can enjoy family dinners.
00:36:24.079 --> 00:36:25.199
I know how much they mean to you.
00:36:25.280 --> 00:36:27.599
And she's like, I just don't want to give this up.
00:36:27.679 --> 00:36:31.599
She starts crying, and I mean intentionally crying.
00:36:31.760 --> 00:36:33.119
She's like, This is my baby.
00:36:33.199 --> 00:36:36.880
If I let go of this, I've let go of my baby, and just emoting.
00:36:36.960 --> 00:36:38.079
I mean emoting.
00:36:38.239 --> 00:36:45.280
And I grabbed her by both hands, I looked her right in the eye, and I said, Nothing will ever take away your baby, ever, on this planet.
00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:49.440
I said, But what you're gonna take away if you don't is giving her a life with you.
00:36:49.679 --> 00:36:51.199
And niece stopped.
00:36:51.519 --> 00:36:54.079
I stopped and she just rose.
00:36:54.239 --> 00:36:56.719
And I and she goes, Okay, you can have the crib.
00:36:56.880 --> 00:37:02.639
And I said, Let's take a picture of it, let's get it memorialized, let's get the best picture of your baby in that crib up on a wall.
00:37:02.800 --> 00:37:05.440
I said, and remember it how it's supposed to, and give you your life back.
00:37:05.599 --> 00:37:06.320
And that was that.
00:37:06.480 --> 00:37:09.119
And Nisi will tell you, she can tell you what I had on that day.
00:37:09.280 --> 00:37:11.280
She to this day, she will tell you what I had on.
00:37:11.440 --> 00:37:17.679
It was one of those moments in your life that you go, whether I got the job or not, I knew I connected with that human being.
00:37:17.840 --> 00:37:23.199
And to watch her become that mama, I was like, I forgot I was standing there with Nisi.
00:37:23.440 --> 00:37:27.280
That's how amazing she is as an actor that I went, who's that who this sweet mom?
00:37:27.360 --> 00:37:28.320
I'm taking her baby crib.
00:37:28.559 --> 00:37:33.440
Like I genuinely, and now knowing her like I do, it just that's what gift she has.
00:37:33.599 --> 00:37:41.760
She is such a talented human being that she can emote what's being asked pretty much anytime, anywhere.
00:37:41.920 --> 00:37:42.559
I'm not there yet.
00:37:43.199 --> 00:37:44.559
Thank you for sharing that story.
00:37:44.800 --> 00:37:45.920
Yeah, I've never told that.
00:37:46.079 --> 00:37:47.599
I've never told that story.
00:37:47.920 --> 00:37:48.880
No, I love that.
00:37:49.039 --> 00:37:49.840
It makes sense.
00:37:50.079 --> 00:37:50.960
She's a baddie.
00:37:51.119 --> 00:37:56.559
When I first saw her um on Getting On, one of my favorite shows, I was like, oh, people are gonna see what she can do now.
00:37:56.639 --> 00:37:56.800
Yeah.
00:37:57.119 --> 00:38:03.199
I mean, I think back too, because I had such a great seats to watching the evolution of where she's at now.
00:38:03.360 --> 00:38:07.199
I mean, like, she was in Horton Here's a Who as a voice actor of the movie.
00:38:07.280 --> 00:38:18.800
Like when you look back when they did the first Reno movie, like you look back, I look back and realize like what a blessing it was to watch her, like what we all love about her, get everybody gets to see.
00:38:18.960 --> 00:38:20.800
And that's doesn't get cooler than that.
00:38:20.880 --> 00:38:23.199
She's she's an amazing, amazing human.
00:38:23.679 --> 00:38:24.639
Thank you for sharing that.
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:25.280
Of course.
00:38:25.599 --> 00:38:28.480
I also want to talk about your who is in your comedy community right now.
00:38:28.639 --> 00:38:37.840
Because I think a lot of times we jumble people together and we we might think, oh, Leanne Morgan, a big Southern comic now, and Heather McMahon, but a lot of times we're scattered all over the country.
00:38:37.920 --> 00:38:40.800
So who are you, who are your comic community go-tos right now?
00:38:41.119 --> 00:38:49.599
Well, I mean, look, I came up with Leanne and I, Leanne Morgan, Karen Mills and I were all on the road together for almost five uh a decade.
00:38:50.000 --> 00:38:59.519
Um, so and we had a we had a tour that we did so three co-headlining, you know, three co-headlining comics on tour, and we were we called ourselves country cool.
00:38:59.599 --> 00:39:01.760
We sounded like a bad version of the Dixie Chicks.
00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:07.280
I think people might have thought that we were coming in to do, you know, songs, and we're like, no, that's not what happened.
00:39:07.519 --> 00:39:09.599
Um, so they're always very, very close.
00:39:09.679 --> 00:39:14.800
Uh Josh Wolf, as I just mentioned, is one of my best friends, Sarah Colonna's one of my dearest friends.
00:39:14.880 --> 00:39:16.400
I'll see her this weekend.
00:39:16.639 --> 00:39:18.719
Um I just love her.
00:39:18.800 --> 00:39:21.519
I I've known you have to understand we all came up together.
00:39:21.599 --> 00:39:23.840
I mean, Sarah and I bartended back in the day.
00:39:23.920 --> 00:39:32.719
You know, like when you've done that much life with people and you know how hard they've worked to be where they're at, it's it's that's Leanne.
00:39:33.199 --> 00:39:35.679
I mean, we've worked so hard.
00:39:35.840 --> 00:39:39.039
I that's the thing I think a lot of times people don't understand.
00:39:39.119 --> 00:39:43.760
We just because of social media people think that when they find you that you just popped off and that's what happened.
00:39:43.840 --> 00:39:46.159
And it's like, I've got receipts for days, y'all.
00:39:46.239 --> 00:39:48.800
We've been doing this since Christ was a child.
00:39:48.960 --> 00:40:00.800
I mean, I think back to, and I said I'm really lucky because most comedians, like Angela Johnson, I I just found out this will be, I don't know when this is gonna air, Kyle, but I just found out that I'm making my grand all Opry debut.
00:40:01.360 --> 00:40:02.239
Oh, congratulations.
00:40:02.719 --> 00:40:03.039
Thank you.
00:40:03.199 --> 00:40:06.960
On October 30th, on October 30th, I'm making my grandoly debut.
00:40:07.039 --> 00:40:10.320
And I cried because as a southerner, that's like Carnegie Hall, you know.
00:40:10.400 --> 00:40:13.440
I mean, I I don't I might just get up and cry.
00:40:13.519 --> 00:40:18.320
I don't know that I I have to figure out what I'm gonna say on a set list, but I'm pretty sure I just might bawl my eyes out.
00:40:18.639 --> 00:40:27.840
So it's one of those things in life that you go, I know there's a very small group of people that are for you and cheer for you.
00:40:28.000 --> 00:40:29.440
Again, see what I said earlier.
00:40:29.519 --> 00:40:31.760
It's not about look at me, it's about come with me.
00:40:31.920 --> 00:40:35.599
And in comedy, people can be a lot about look at me, I need to be the only one.
00:40:35.760 --> 00:40:37.039
And that's not my model.
00:40:37.119 --> 00:40:45.599
And so when you realize there's people that want to do more of that, because you realize that if you bring up all the good ones, it just keeps bringing up goodness, you know.
00:40:45.679 --> 00:40:46.800
That's that's what's important.
00:40:46.880 --> 00:40:54.239
And then there's comics that I love that I'm not like super close with, but I love and adore Eliza Schlesinger, the goat.
00:40:54.400 --> 00:40:56.239
I love Eliza, she's a baddie.
00:40:56.400 --> 00:40:59.679
Um, Ross is part of my tight, tight group, Matthews.
00:40:59.920 --> 00:41:00.880
We love the Rossi.
00:41:01.280 --> 00:41:03.840
Um, and I always think Ross is an entertainer.
00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:05.119
He's certainly not a comic.
00:41:05.199 --> 00:41:06.719
He is a true entertainer.
00:41:06.800 --> 00:41:10.320
So anytime you get a chance to go see Ross, run, don't walk.
00:41:10.480 --> 00:41:11.840
It is a time to be alive.
00:41:12.079 --> 00:41:12.320
Yes.
00:41:12.559 --> 00:41:12.719
Always.
00:41:13.199 --> 00:41:13.920
He's been on the show.
00:41:14.000 --> 00:41:14.480
I adore him.
00:41:14.559 --> 00:41:16.400
I've had Nikki Boyer on the show and Mr.
00:41:16.559 --> 00:41:16.960
Malone.
00:41:17.360 --> 00:41:18.719
So just let's talk about those years.
00:41:18.800 --> 00:41:19.679
That's how I grew to love you.
00:41:19.920 --> 00:41:24.639
What does Ross mean to you and uh that friendship and being part of that show, Straight Talk with Ross, years ago?
00:41:25.039 --> 00:41:25.360
Okay.
00:41:25.599 --> 00:41:29.440
First of all, I could not, I'll I really should be on his PR team too.
00:41:29.519 --> 00:41:32.320
There's not enough humans in this world like Ross Matthews.
00:41:32.480 --> 00:41:41.760
He is for, he's just an advocate for good in this world, and he loves so big and he brings joy and light everywhere he goes.
00:41:42.000 --> 00:41:46.960
And getting brought into the straight talk family was such a unbelievable high.
00:41:47.119 --> 00:41:48.800
And to love everybody from the jump, right?
00:41:48.880 --> 00:41:50.639
Like Nikki and I, house on fire.
00:41:50.719 --> 00:41:50.960
Mr.
00:41:51.039 --> 00:41:52.559
Malone and I, get out of here.
00:41:52.719 --> 00:41:54.400
Like, and Ross, forget it.
00:41:54.480 --> 00:42:00.559
Um, Ross can call me at two in the morning and I always say, Am I bringing uh, you know, a body bag and a shovel or champagne, you know, and bonbons?
00:42:00.639 --> 00:42:01.039
What do we do?
00:42:01.199 --> 00:42:06.000
When you I don't Ross can call, there's almost no questions asked except what are we wearing?
00:42:06.320 --> 00:42:12.000
Because that's the kind of relationship he cultivates with the people that are closest.
00:42:12.079 --> 00:42:14.000
And it's a it's a great place to be.
00:42:14.159 --> 00:42:17.119
And I think everybody listening to Straight Talk felt that, right?
00:42:17.199 --> 00:42:17.760
I did.
00:42:17.920 --> 00:42:27.280
I think it was such a wonderful community of human beings that all loved each other so well, and he's so fun and so silly.
00:42:27.440 --> 00:42:28.480
And that's exactly who he is.
00:42:28.559 --> 00:42:31.679
Like what you see is exact that's exactly Ross, y'all.
00:42:31.760 --> 00:42:34.000
Like that's the best thing about Ross to me.
00:42:34.320 --> 00:42:34.719
I agree.
00:42:34.800 --> 00:42:38.960
I think we could use a reunion and some of that, those vibes nowadays, right now, would be perfect.
00:42:39.440 --> 00:42:40.800
And then he and I got to do pop talk.
00:42:40.880 --> 00:42:42.639
Did y'all ever listen to pop talk when we did the pop talk?
00:42:42.880 --> 00:42:44.559
I've listened to everything he's done.
00:42:44.719 --> 00:42:44.880
Yes.
00:42:45.199 --> 00:42:50.639
I listened to your podcast together, and I know he's killing it on Drew Barrymore, but I think we need more of his his voice too.
00:42:50.880 --> 00:42:51.519
I agree.
00:42:51.840 --> 00:42:53.039
Kyle, what can we do about that?
00:42:53.119 --> 00:42:53.519
I agree.
00:42:53.599 --> 00:42:54.000
You know what?
00:42:54.079 --> 00:42:57.280
I'm gonna text him after this and just say, hey, we're talking goodness about you.
00:42:57.440 --> 00:42:58.239
Could you please?
00:42:58.559 --> 00:43:01.360
I mean, really, because group chat.
00:43:01.519 --> 00:43:02.639
Kyle, you're on to some of the things.
00:43:04.719 --> 00:43:06.159
You guys had such great vibes.
00:43:06.559 --> 00:43:06.800
All right.
00:43:07.039 --> 00:43:07.360
Thank you.
00:43:07.519 --> 00:43:08.320
We have a few minutes left.
00:43:08.400 --> 00:43:10.400
I am gonna go a bit deeper and then we'll close out with fun.
00:43:10.639 --> 00:43:10.800
Sure.
00:43:11.199 --> 00:43:15.039
So I relate to you in that uh I know you're remarried now, but you did go through divorce.
00:43:15.119 --> 00:43:16.159
You were married for many years.
00:43:16.239 --> 00:43:16.719
So was I.
00:43:16.880 --> 00:43:17.760
I got divorced.
00:43:18.079 --> 00:43:22.320
I'm I always like to ask people, how did divorce reshape you moving forward?
00:43:22.480 --> 00:43:26.320
And could you find the comedy in it in the moment, or did that take time?
00:43:26.639 --> 00:43:35.360
Uh, well, I'm so sorry that you went through a divorce because I know no one gets into marriage with the thought, I hope not, that you get into marriage with the thought of like divorce is coming.
00:43:35.599 --> 00:43:37.840
I did not, and it's rough and it's isolating.
00:43:37.920 --> 00:43:39.760
So I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
00:43:40.000 --> 00:43:40.800
Mine was 12 years.
00:43:40.880 --> 00:43:42.480
Yours was almost 12 years.
00:43:42.719 --> 00:43:44.880
It was well, we were together 12, yes.
00:43:45.119 --> 00:43:48.400
And and we're just we were married just under a year.
00:43:48.559 --> 00:43:54.960
I always say boy did now looking back as you say, you don't see the funny in it, but my divorce was final December 19th, 2019.
00:43:55.039 --> 00:43:57.440
And I say, Oh boy, did God do it.
00:43:57.599 --> 00:44:01.440
Because you could have, could you have imagined if I had to be in lockdown with COVID with him.
00:44:01.599 --> 00:44:04.800
Oh yeah, and and you have an acronym for him FIFO.
00:44:05.119 --> 00:44:05.360
FIFO.
00:44:05.519 --> 00:44:05.840
FIFO.
00:44:06.480 --> 00:44:06.719
Mm-hmm.
00:44:06.880 --> 00:44:10.480
That is a what it's not my uh acronym specifically for him.
00:44:10.559 --> 00:44:13.039
It is where I'm from in southeastern Kentucky.
00:44:13.280 --> 00:44:20.880
We call most Ohioans, please if you're from Ohio, I'm so sorry I didn't come up with this, but I just have announced it to the world.
00:44:21.119 --> 00:44:40.559
We call can Ohioans that come down and take over our lakes in the summers FIFOs, effing idiots from Ohio, because they would just take everything over and not really be like, you know, it's kind of probably like most Europeans feel when Americans descend on Europe and and you don't like care, you know, people do be extra and loud.
00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:43.840
Kentuckians would be like, this is all we've got is our lakes in the summer.
00:44:43.920 --> 00:44:46.159
And these dang Ohioans are taking them.
00:44:46.320 --> 00:44:48.320
So yes, I used to call my ex-husband a FIFO.
00:44:48.480 --> 00:44:49.920
But he knew to be fair.
00:44:50.159 --> 00:44:56.320
Um but yeah we divorced I didn't I I waited till I was 35 to get married.
00:44:56.480 --> 00:44:58.880
So it wasn't like I did some rash decision.
00:44:58.960 --> 00:45:05.280
And so I was so heartbroken and I felt like ashamed and I couldn't make it work and I didn't see an ounce of funny it in the time.
00:45:05.360 --> 00:45:14.480
I thought Lord my life's over I'm going to be an old lady with cats and nobody's going to you know want to be married to me and I've already I I just went through this whole not true yarn.
00:45:14.800 --> 00:45:15.760
You escaped to Atlanta.
00:45:15.840 --> 00:45:21.840
I remember that oh then I moved to y'all thank you Kyle I bought this my accountant was like you can't afford to live in California.
00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:33.039
Like when we got divorced he was like you can't afford to live here so you need to go pick a place to buy a house uh where you fly through the most that's what he literally said to me which by the way wasn't bad advice.
00:45:33.119 --> 00:45:43.599
So I bought a house in Atlanta because that was the airport I went through the most for comedy and I thought I'll renovate this house and I'll put it on Airbnb and I'll stay here when I'm in town.
00:45:43.760 --> 00:45:45.519
That's what I looked at the way I looked at it.
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So I bought the absolute worst house in the nicest neighborhood knowing zero about Atlanta and coming from Los Angeles real estate.
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Um I bought a house that was like just under 6,000 square feet on two acres.
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But having to tend to that I came from a little like under 2,000 square foot bungalow in in the Valley of California.
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You know I came from this itty bitty comparatively house and I was like what?
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Oh my gosh I didn't it had two air conditioners on it like it's too much house.
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It's too much house.
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But um in the process I met my you know now husband and God works it all the way out.
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Yeah he does you don't see it coming and I will say once I got far enough away from the pain of what divorce was for me and and a lot of you know things feeling broken and not fulfilled and how did I miss it?
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All these things you do to yourself.
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I then was able to find the funny and what that looked like and and not a lot of comics talk about divorce especially women but talk about it in a positive and I I try to always talk about it in a positive because I think there's something to that there is really something to it about becoming who you're supposed to be.
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I agree did you I was about to say did you feel that when you when you went through your divorce did you feel like you came out more you on the other side?
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Oh for sure.
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And you also just learn more about yourself along the way, especially as the years pass and you have more objectivity and things that you just couldn't see at the time and you're more eye-opened and you become I think more settled in your own skin.
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And I also have a new partner now.
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Were you the type of person that because I right after my divorce I was never the type of person we always hear people be like oh I'll never do that again.
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I was always like if if I'm in love and I I I'm I was proud of my marriage were you that type of person too?
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Oh yes yes yes yes and and I you know Nisi will always say she loves love and I've I learned to love love more because of Nash.
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Nisi was very much like the to be lucky enough to love well and to be loved well is such a gift.
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So I never was like no I'm not doing that again.
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I was never that I was just like I was more bummed that I let myself down and I let I guess technically him that we let each other down.
00:47:53.280 --> 00:47:58.559
Like that to me was a bit of a bummer that there was just no other option, right?
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Because really to me to I hope but for me divorce was last best and final it is not like there was I never threatened it there was not that there was none of that.
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It's just when you realize two people that's not your person and when you finally have to come to Jesus with yourself and then finally say the quiet part out loud of like we are this is not good and we're gonna be much better people sadly probably for other people you know that's the truth of to me for divorce is you have to look at the unfortunate parts not only of your spouse but of yourself.
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Because if you don't look at what's wrong with you, baby, you're gonna repeat it.
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You're gonna repeat it.
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You don't want that.
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Yeah I agree I think it's the it's the last resort.
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It's after years and years of trying it's not just you know what it's not working.
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It's there's a lot of effort that goes into it before it's exactly exactly all right we'll lighten up as we close out the tangle this show what are you currently tangled in that you're loving immersing yourself in binge watching reading and then what's something annoying or frustrating right now that you're trying to get untangled from oh gosh what a beautiful way to end this Kyle I love this so much.
00:49:02.800 --> 00:49:17.199
Okay currently Tangled in without question as you've probably heard by the way I'm talking Ted Lasso, the greatest feel good show that has ever been that they've beautifully gorgeously brought back for a season four and I thought how do you improve on Ted Lasso?
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Well guess what they did?
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It is magical it is on uh on Wednesday nights act like I work for Apple TV and Bill Lawrence but if you've never watched Ted Lasso, do yourself a solid get all the way caught up and please watch season four the world needs that kind of energy in this world and it brings me great joy that they put out that kind of television.
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So I'm highly tangled in Ted Lasso.
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Another hope filled hope filled I'm all about the hope I love kind yeah kindness kindness also Rooster if you haven't watched which also Bill Lawrence I really liked Rooster yes right it's smart it's uh forward I just love I love it that it's a liberal art school I love all the dynamics I love the young and the old like again Bill Lawrence if you don't know who Bill Lawrence is y'all Bill Lawrence is a showrunner brilliance you can go back to Spin City uh Scrubs uh uh shrinking Ted Lasso I mean the man is an Andreoster he is one of the single greatest creators of feel good TV in my opinion that's honest like that still gets the glimmer of what's happening that isn't always pretty but it's happening and so um I am a big old fangirl of all things Bill Lawrence and then fun fact his wife Krista Miller also that he did the show Cougartown too um Bill Lawrence's wife is his music supervisor and she knocks it out right and she I say all the time I don't know who I'm a bigger fan of Bill Lawrence or his wife because she gets she hits it out of the park every time every song and they have an insane music budget too because the songs they get I'm like Yeah they're a power couple yeah I love how every single one of their shows is is full of heart which we definitely need to we definitely need to we need it we need it and then what am I tangled up in that I cannot be bothered with right now besides some most days the state of the world um what is it?
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I don't really know because I try not to think about it.
00:51:07.920 --> 00:51:10.159
What are things that aggravate me to no end?
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I mean good if you don't have anything.
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Taxes I think we're getting I I think tax I I really am at the point now where I I laughed the other day and I said to my husband, I go, isn't it funny that this country was built on taxation without representation.
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Yeah we pay taxes and then we go and buy something and pay taxes on the money that was already taxed.
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I was like I mean I'm not a mathematician but that just seems wrong.
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I'm like can we can we can somebody because as last I checked it's it the the whole paperwork for this country says we the people and I felt like if we could just have a checks and balances of taxes, we'd all be in a better state.
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That's all that's all and let and lettuce I'd like lettuce back if it if you know I'd like the lettuce to not make us ill.
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And those are the two things Kyle I like a salad I'm gonna say it I just like lettuce it doesn't make us sick.
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There you are.
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I I it's hard for me to find things wrong but taxes and lettuce.
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Those are if we're gonna get two things to be tangled in that's annoying that those are those are pretty m minimal.
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So I think that's good.
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Thank you.
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Such a pleasure Trish honey right back at you.
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Thank you for making the time I mean what a joy
