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How much do you care about what people think about you? Genuinely. Or what? Or what? Or what? You're not going to take the weights and burdens of somebody else. That's it. Thank you. Because you're starting to understand yourself better.
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Everyone understands me more and everyone understands me more. Everyone understands me more, everyone understands me more. You can deal with this situation. I'm so glad that I now understand this next topic a little bit more. And there's so much more to go. Yeah. But...
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Okay, I think the intro music is done. Welcome back. Welcome back. The Noob Theory. The Noob Theory. We are out here. I think this is... I don't even know what episode this is. We are out here.
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I think we're closer to 25-ish. Okay. This might be 25. This might be 25. Who's counting? Who's counting? YouTube is. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I love it. World Cup is on. I think by the time this comes out, it might be... The knockout started probably, right? Knockout started, right? So yeah, that's when the real watching happens. Yeah. But the timings, man. The timings are just like... It's horrible, bro. It's not possible. I don't think you've been a whole game. It's probably a whole time we've been a whole game.
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Ah, yeah, true. Because, you know, I don't know, we watched the Egypt, what was that game? Even that one, I was late. What was it? Egypt, Belgium. That was a good game. But you know what? People on the other side of the world are watching it at decent times, so. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm sure they felt the same when it was here in Qatar. Ah, yeah, true. Yeah, so they had to wake up early to watch a game.
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and the New York Knicks are NBA champions that's crazy first time in 53 years damn that's crazy 60s? that's the last time they won? 60s? last time they won was yes the 60s I guess 53 no that would be 73 okay sounds right Clive Clive Davis I think his name is mashallah this is a guy oh nice he's still at all the games if you watch NBA you'll see him he wears like very funky suits and stuff
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okay that's that guy yeah okay yeah he's a idea um but yeah man it's a wild time for sports great summer for sports you know what's crazy about the mba as well uh there this is how like great of a product the mba has become there hasn't been the same champion in the last like
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Many years. I think it's like five or six years. No one has been able to repeat. Back to go, back to back. Go back to back. And every time it's a completely new team. Yeah. Like it's not even that one team wins and then loses and then wins again. That happened when it was like Golden State. Lakin for the last, I think like five years or something, it's been a new person every year. Which is YM coming through, man. Yeah, yeah, exactly. And they're being spread around equally, I guess. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, yeah, man. Taip, what have we got today? What have we got today? What have we got today? Check in? Check in?
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Maybe not. Maybe not. Okay. We're good. We're good. We're good. Alhamdulillah. Hope you're good. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Hope you guys are also doing these check-ins with us. That would be dope. Actually, that would be dope if you guys put in the comments when we do our check-ins where you're at. And then we can kind of like... I see the vision in the check-ins, man. So good shout on that. Yeah, yeah. Nice. I'm not going to lie. I saw it in a very... I used to watch this show called I Am Athlete way back. I think it must have been COVID times.
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And when I watched it, I was like, this is a great idea. Because like, before you get down to like talking about anything. Just see where everyone is. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So. Perception. Perception.
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We posted a video like a while ago now where we were talking about Sudanese and the culture. And this culture is a little bit bigger and it affects people mentally. So that they live their life and their life. Yeah, how people perceive your reputation. Yeah, yeah. So I said, why don't we...
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Dive a little bit deeper. Touch you already. Sure. I like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Tayyip, I think a very interesting place to start, but I feel like I already know the answer is.
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How much do you care about what people think about you? Genuinely, though. Genuinely, man. I can't even tell you how much I don't care. Like, it's, yeah. Okay. But there's levels to it, too. There's levels to it, sure. I mean, earlier we were at this cafe, and we were talking about this, right? I wouldn't show up here in a tank top and really short shorts and flip tops.
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I mean, though, like you can, I've seen it, but that's just us not reading the room, you know? Yeah. Yeah. But I think, so there's a very clear distinction between caring what other people think of you and caring about what you think of yourself. Exactly. So I wouldn't do that because I...
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Wouldn't want... Yeah. Yeah. I don't want somebody to see my armpit hair. You know, like, okay. I'll let you have breakfast. That's just, you know, that's... It's not something I want to volunteer to. Yeah, yeah. It's not. It doesn't reflect good on me. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So I see the... Do you feel like you do... Sorry, go on. No, but...
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I mean, I don't care. Like, I don't care about... There's few people I care about what they think of me and how I treat them and how... Because of just the social contracts we have with each other. I don't want to be in breach.
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I mean, you're the average person. I'm really like a strange, not even strange. Yeah, no, I don't really subscribe to a lot of, you know. I guess I'm very similar. Yeah, what about you? Like in there are some things which, or there are some situations which have happened to me that have made me think, ah, okay, there are certain things that I should care about.
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For example, I started the job that I'm currently at four and a little bit years ago. Okay. So around 2022. Okay.
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In the current time, I was coming from an environment, which is like a multinational company. There is very like lax rules about dress code and stuff like that. So I just used to wear like chinos and sometimes a polo shirt, sometimes a shirt. And it was fine. Like their assessment of people was not based on how you look at all.
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But then I came to this new place and I literally remember. So I carried over my dress code into this new place because I realized there's also people here that wear just normal chinos, shirts, whatever. Then one of the chiefs at the company, Kweiss, this is like a few months after I started. I was in the house like that today and I was wearing my eyes.
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we've been working together for a little while now, a few months. So I've gotten to know you. Winter, like, I see a lot of potential in you. I think, this was just him sharing his voluntary opinion. I think, if you start wearing a full suit to work, I think because of how things operate here,
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people will perceive you as someone that has even more potential than what I already know. Because in the environment, people don't care. In this environment, for whatever reason, don't want to get into the details of that, but people do care about how you look. So if you want to get to that director position, if you want to get to that chief position,
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dress accordingly and kind of manifest it through how you move day to day. Be the position that you want now. Look the part, play the part, move like it, walk like it, talk like it.
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And in the moment, I was like, this guy is asking me to wear his suit and stuff. Like, lo and behold, I went and I made some suits based off of that conversation. I went every day, I went to the beginning, full suit, tie. Even at the beginning, I had a big one and I had a pocket square and everything.
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Wallahi, it changed things. Genuinely changed things. It changed things on the way that people speak to me. It changed things from the way that people value what I say. People come and ask me different types of questions now. They don't just ask me what I did over the weekend. They ask me about real things. But you know what? It's also because when you wear a suit, you move different. You actually act different.
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But you don't, you kind of do, but you don't really. Like I didn't do anything other than put on a suit.
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But I guess it's like your aura, as the kids say. Your aura is different. Accordingly, people treat you different. But these are just like external realities of the world that we live in, by the way. It's true. It's true. We can control ourselves. And it's all part of reading the room.
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All goes back to this concept of reading the room. You can say, okay, people are European, people are European. For example, they're Europeans. Maybe they value certain things. They're Arab, they value certain things. Okay. In order for me to get what I want, I need to move in this kind of way. So it all kind of does come back to reading the room. You know, I had the opposite experience.
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My job where I started, yeah, because everybody's wearing suits. I was wearing suits. And then I realized, okay, like the people I work with, they're wearing suits because they go on client meetings. And sure, when you're going out to like represent and all these clients meetings, it's a very corporate setting, right? Makes sense to wear a suit.
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I'm not going to client meetings. And if I do go to client meetings, I'm meeting marketing people, whatever, like comms. They're not wearing suits. So I actually, I was like, you know what? You lower the tray. I lower the tray, just again, for the ease of access, just so we can actually have the conversations we want to have. Fair. Fair. But again, I mean, it's,
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Yeah, maybe I guess it's like sector or like, I work in finance. So, yeah, fair. Like, tell me, just, it's reading the room. That's what it is. It's reading the room. Yeah, because the finance, all of them are doing things. So, I don't know if they're doing things. No, like, I've never, I've never seen, like.
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Yeah, most of our finest people, they're either like shirts are always tucked in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, yeah, if they're not wearing a suit, the shirt, like dress pants and shirt, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's their very minimum. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Even on Thursdays, you know, which is like an unofficial. Which is crazy. That's crazy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's it. Yeah. Interesting. Dave, what about...
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So staying on this point of reading the room, what does that mean? Like, what does reading the room mean to you? Is it a physical thing of like the physical room? Is it the people, the combination? How do you do it? Yeah, so the same room. So I don't think it's physical. I think it's like what you mentioned, like just like the energy of the room. So like the same room could be like, depending on who's sitting there. So it could be like me and then somebody like it.
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your relationship with the people in the room. If it's just me and somebody that I know, but now it's me, somebody I know, somebody I don't really know, that reading the room is different. I'm not going to have the same conversations or have the same tone without that. But if we're taking it a step further, sometimes reading the room doesn't mean like you accept the flaws of the room. It's the same thing. Let's take it to a social setting. Let's kind of step away from it. It can be in a hang where
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some things are said you don't really agree with. But for the sake of reading the room or just for the harmony. Peace. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Keeping the peace. Keeping the peace and you're just like, yeah, you'll laugh along. Mashiach. Mashiach. Happens once, twice, three times. By the, whatever time, you're actually, you're no longer like pretending you're actually like, yeah. So like a shift in you happened without you realizing. But even though your intentions were good, I'm just trying to read the room. I'm trying to have emotional intelligence. So it's tricky.
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That's a very interesting one. So, does that connect with, I guess, setting boundaries? That you give to yourself, you know? Yeah. But at the same time, you can be the party pooper, I guess. Figurative party pooper. Exactly. They're just laughing. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Being a party pooper is underrated sometimes, you know? It is. I think so. Sometimes you put people in their place, man. Yeah. I'm not going to lie. And it's actually a good thing because if I'm saying something out of line, I would love to be put in my place. Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So. Interesting. So if we go back to this whole idea of what people think about us, what is the, like,
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What's a level of not caring that's too much? Because you cannot care too much and you can care too much. Caring too much, we've established, is no need. It's okay. Still do your thing. Do what you want to do. ولا تزور وزر أخرى.
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You know, like that's... You're not going to take the weights and burdens of somebody else. Oh, God. Yes, peace be upon you. So that's caring too much. Like what is caring too little? Yeah, because caring too little, it's just you being selfish. You know, like... Okay. So that's how I would perceive it. If I don't care at all, I would just...
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I would only do what I want to do. You know what I mean? Like, sure, yeah, I will still work within the parameters of, like, okay, sure, I have to be at work. I'm at work, but I don't care, so I'm not participating in, like, small talks. Even though, like, I don't want to most of the time, but it's good because it just... Levels the playing field. Levels the playing field. It builds a nice foundation of the day. Okay, everybody's weekend was good. Everybody, oh, what you do? Oh, that was crazy. Okay, that's cool.
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Even though I like doing it with some people, but I don't like doing it with some other people. But I'll still do it because it's a nice thing to do. It's a nice thing to do. That's actually crazy. Just as you were talking, I just realized. So like caring too much could be perceived as a weakness. But then caring too little could be perceived as arrogance. Yeah.
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Very true. Wild. But yeah, that's a perception for you, right? It's literally crazy. Yeah. Yeah, so caring too little could be arrogance. Interesting. Okay, one is just...
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I guess you just have to stay, keep it even, right? Like, I mean, based on, there's no like one level that applies across the board. There's no one level of caring that applies across the board. So, when it's something that affects someone else, now I'm speaking from like real personal experience, right? Or like how I live my life, I mean, when it's something that affects someone else, I care a bit more because...
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I owe it to that person that's involved in the situation to care a little bit more and make sure that whatever the scenario is, it happens. But, and this might be a flaw as well in me, when it's something to do with myself, I care a little bit less. Yes.
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Ah, yeah. No, you know what? I relate to that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm with you. And for example, somebody said something rude to me. I can live with it. I can... I'll take that. I'll take that. It's cool. But somebody said something rude to a colleague or a friend that...
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No. No. You don't have to be able to do it. Right. And I think that's also from the point of view, it's amazing in the same episode. It said, part of the faith is that you love your son and you don't love yourself.
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But there's something called the ether, and the ether is more. You can go further. Yeah, you can't even go further. You can't even go further. You can't even go further. Again, in being a good Muslim, these are all qualities that we should sort of embody and live by.
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So yeah, I don't think that's a negative thing, to be honest with you. Yeah. Because, again, and if something, again, let's just, same example, like somebody did something to me, I can take it. I had to even, I can even, not even react to it. But,
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if it's happened to somebody else, then like, injustice happened around me. You know what I mean? So again, you have that duty of... Exactly. Of acting. Or like saying something or protecting or whatever the case may be at the end of the day. Hmm. Interesting. I like this conversation. I like where this is going. What about...
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Self-respect versus respecting the environment that you're in. Or like the climate or the... Again, minbab, breathing the room. Yani self-respect versus respecting the culture or the characteristics of a room that you go into. Right? Yani misal-lan.
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I live in the night I live in Qatar Qatar is a country of security The country of Islam Even in the country there are no longer For example, the children are being abused And they are not allowed to take the rest of their lives These are the laws of the country
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This is not something we have in our country or anything, but we have to live with it. I feel that I was in the morning of the day to be a new country. The problem is that I don't like it. I don't like it. I'm going to go to the mall, the mall, the mall, the mall, and there's no short.
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I'm in my self respect I'm not sure I'm not sure I'm sure I can be a little bit But I'm not sure I'm not sure I'm not sure
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And do I have the right to feel a way about these rules? No, see, I don't think you do because, you know, you control what you can control. You can control not wearing a shirt. You can't control the laws of the... Again, laws are based on cultural norms. So, you know, you're somebody that's not from here and you came here. So, and it goes both ways, you know, to respect the cultural norms. So, I don't see anybody who should feel the right to have some sort of...
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Feel some type of way about it. Yeah. But I only say this because I've seen people complain about it. And like people have complained to me about it. And I'm like, yo, it's a... Like, I mean, that's the rule.
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Follow the rule. It's very simple. It's very simple. You know, like, oh, it's hot. Wear linen pants, dog. I don't know what to tell you. I guess people spend also so much mental energy and like mental, or like stress or whatever the case may be, dealing with things that are so out of their control and like, what's wrong?
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And it's also that you're spending time and energy on something trivial. Like it's okay. Also, it goes back to that. Now you're just, all your focus, all your tunnel vision is on the negative. This place sucks because they don't let me wear shorts and mall. So now you're just like every, you have the goggles of, I'm only going to focus on what's negative. I'm only going to see what's bad about here.
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And you'll live your life only in your life. You're a good guy. And those are the worst kind of people. The worst kind of people. Like, just if you're that, please stop. Okay, it's so tiring. It's tiring for somebody else to hear it. I can only imagine how tiring it is for somebody to live it. Yeah, bro. But then again, when you channel that energy somewhere else,
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There's a way to also see, ah, okay, let's ask ourselves a second. I ask ourselves, why are we doing the law? We're just going to keep using this law as an example because I think it's suitable. Why are we doing the law?
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I have a law that people in Islam and in this country are in the streets and people are in the streets. Is that something you want? Yes, I think. It's great. So how about we reframe
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the complaining and the negative of, oh man, this place sucks to, you know what? That's actually kind of good. If I have a daughter and I take her to this mall and everyone in front of her is dressed appropriately and I don't want to say, and all the men are like dressed appropriately, et cetera, I would actually be comfortable with my daughter walking around as opposed to going somewhere where that's not the case. Yeah.
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So how about we reframe the... So yeah, that's actually... And then you see the gratitude in what they're doing. Yeah, and you're like, oh, actually, this is great. Maybe instead of complaining, I should actually be grateful. Who, come on. It's really sad that... We're all guilty of it. I'm not on a pedestal here. We've kind of... Like, we made the West our center for not just...
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Like Music Arts Entertainment But also Somehow They became The center for morals Which is crazy Which is wrong The morals of Freedom I mean like Your freedom stops The minute it infringes On somebody else's freedom You know So Yeah Your freedom stops The minute it infringes On somebody else's Yes exactly So How are we here You know And how do we have Like Anas Muslim Arab Whatever People People born here Complaining about this You know
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Which is great. And I guess it shows you the power of content and the power of like just what you consume. What were you talking about the last time? Yeah, exactly. It doesn't have to be a person who lives in their own life. In the other words, there is actually like a rule that people live in different ways and then they are able to share these experiences and learn from each other.
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Yeah, and you remember the other day that the guy, we met someone and he was like, and we were like, oh, that's great. He was like, huh, kind of. Remember that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I was like, huh, why does this guy think this way? And I guess...
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From our little analysis of the situation, I guess Bardu. It's like he wants what he can't have in Doha.
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And he's just living with that in his head. And he feels like he's missing out. And then, again, if you refrain, actually, those guys might be envious of him. Yeah. You're in a place where your families are probably around you, your friends are around you.
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You're safe. You're safe. It's... Man, you can walk out anywhere in this country at 4 a.m. Anywhere. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow.
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I was in the cafe in the old car. I didn't know, I was in the same way. After that, we went to the laptop and left it with it. We left it with it and left it with it. We left it with it. We were waiting for a couple of hours. We came back to the laptop.
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And it was like a new MacBook at the time. And I was like, Lala, Dinamo. Dinamo, Jajjad, Jajjad. I'm sad. Damn it. Damn it. Prayer room everywhere. Yeah. That's such a blessing. You know, like, I mean,
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Everywhere No no no Everywhere Like imagine like Because I was watching this video about I think it was on Instagram About I think it was They were in America And just asking them Hey what's the What's the weirdest place You have to pray in And everybody's just talking like Oh the train station Or under Staircase Alleyway Alleyway Somewhere Just like whatever Like at the You know
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I'm like, that's, I never felt so detached from like a contest. I was like, I never, like, what do you mean? Like, there was no prayer room? There was no, there was no, there was no prayer room that's like planned to be for people to go and pray. Yeah. And even a step further, like,
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there are like a lot of these prayer rooms, especially like in the sports places, like wherever it's like, the prayer rooms have pants in them. So like they know you're going to be out. It's like people wearing shorts. Yeah. Yeah. We got, we, yeah, I guess that we diverted topics real, but it still comes back to the same root, which is, why would you care so much about someone's opinion and how it affects your life?
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And make that such a negative thing. Sometimes you can shape it that someone cares about you, and that's why their opinion, that's why they share their opinion. Yeah. Yes, there are people, of course, who are talking about it. But there are people who are talking about it because they're trying to like... Yeah. ...to be honest.
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The basic one is, okay, man, you got a little chunky there, bro. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. I don't care that you said that, but it's triggered something in me. Most likely, it's going to get... They're right. Also, most of the time, you know. 100%. But subhanAllah, when it comes from the outsider, it's like, okay, it hits a little... It's louder. It's louder. Yeah. It's louder. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I'll tell you what about...
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Not caring. So I don't tell you, I don't care. I don't care in the sense that I have my framework of morals and what I'm trying to be and what I want to do in this world and how I want to be perceived and how I perceive others. So the framework of the time, it's a mix of my...
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I guess the main thing is Deen Okay Deen Sharia Tells you exactly How to act Who you should be What's a good Muslim What's a bad Muslim You know So that's That's a framework That's there I guess the way you're raised Also plays a part Exactly So that's my reference point You know like Okay Deen The way I'm raised And then My experiences in the world And then I mean We're in our 30s So like I'm at that stage Yeah
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And you're sure there's things I'm adding and removing from the foundation is there. The foundation is there. So that's my foundation. That doesn't change with...
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external factors, you know? Yeah, it doesn't. So, it doesn't, the foundation probably doesn't change. Like, in there's small behaviors that might change. Sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm telling you, like, there's things like, I know I shouldn't do, but I do, but whatever. And Allah, you know, you know? But, I mean, we just all can say, hey, you do this. It's like, yeah, you write, it's louder. You shouldn't do it, sure. But I'm not going to,
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I think a good way to also practice this is to go to a lemon, whatever you're in a medley, or you're in a gada, or whatever, like, on your way home, drive home, just a little evaluation session, okay? How was that today? Did I learn something? Did I release something? Do I feel better? Was there something that I said, was there something I heard, I don't want to hear?
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Yeah, yeah. I think learning to do that on a regular basis is also something that's very, very important. Because eventually, if you do these enough, they're like, okay, you know what? I'm not going to go there because I ain't trying to hear that. Yeah. You know? Actually, funny enough, my friends were trying to go to somewhere where there was another crew going and my friend was like, you want to go? I was like, no, I don't want to go. He's like, why? Because I was like, no, there's people there I don't really F with. They're like, oh, you have beef? I was like, no, it's not beef. I'm just... Protecting my peace.
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Protecting my time. Like I'm very like, time is like, I care about my time. I would rather not, you know. And then being alone in a productive way, it's kind of amazing, man. Yeah. Powerful. It really is. Yeah, man. You sent me that Mo Jodet thing about 30 minutes. Yeah, just set a timer on your phone. 30 minutes, put the phone down. Don't look at the timer.
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And he has like a notebook, right? He just writes. Just write. Just offload. Offload what comes to your mind. Your mind will start spitting stuff. Okay. Any thought that comes, write it down. Write it down. Don't block any thoughts. Just let it... Yeah. Keep it happening. Keep it growing. And then he says about... He said after a certain point... He's been doing this for some time. So he said at a certain point, your mind stops. Just stops. And then you're able to like actually...
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I guess it's like a meditative practice. Yeah, but it's like almost I'm earning that status by unloading. Unloading. And the way he was talking about the feeling he gets, it was amazing. It actually made me, you know, I want to try this. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And that's, by the way, those are the practices or the actions that you can start doing to understand why
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you care about someone's opinion. Understand why a comment or something asserted on you on the way you meet. Yeah, right. Because you start to understand yourself more. Every person you understand yourself and every person you realize. Every person you realize and every person you realize you can deal with these situations without them triggering you. Well, that's the only way one, I mean,
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It's all internal. Do you understand the same? Yeah. For anyone that's wondering why we keep using the term For anyone that's wondering why we keep using the term For anyone that's wondering why we keep using the term Podcast this podcast is not bad.
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By the way, I do also have to... I think I made this disclaimer during our live episode. I have to make another disclaimer. I'm so glad that I now understand this next topic a little bit more. And there's so much more to go. Yeah. But therapy and mental health and all of this... It's biased because I'm Muslim and maybe there are no Muslims who are talking about this. But...
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At all. At all.
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Which means you start understanding your... Understanding Allah, basically. It's not Allah, Rasul, Kalam, Allah, Quran, and Deen, that's how you start understanding yourself. And, wallahi, bro, I'm like living proof that this works. That this is the cure. This is beautiful, man, because we've actually now... We have it recorded of...
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unlearning that happened so i remember like we we sat down you were telling me you need to try therapy i'm like i didn't know how to answer you but i'm just like i don't you know like i you were right bro i didn't know i didn't i didn't have the articulate like just thought process like i just i don't just trust me i don't know how to explain it to you but i don't and i'm not like being up you know i'm flaw free yeah but no but your instinct was what i'm saying is your instinct was in the completely right place
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Now I know that. I'll tell you what, I think I get an analogy of being Arabic, I'm talking like a serious issue. Where are you? What can I do? No, but I can't do it. Where are you? Where are you?
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Same with the devs like Yeah sure all these different Oh yeah the person that made the car The person that made the car Yeah Yeah yeah yeah Yeah yeah yeah You know like You know like You know like You know like You know like You know like You know like But no people who have the blueprint Who have the actual Whatever Manufacturer Yeah
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Damn, that's a great analogy. Say what I'm saying. Thanks, Noah. Yeah, no, that was great. That was great. Yay! But... I mean... I mean, like, the thing that I'm looking for completely. Like, the thing that I'm looking for is different from a radio. I mean... So the guy was saying again in the podcast, you know what, we'll put it on the story. Yeah, yeah, we'll put it on the description. Ah...
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He's talking about stuff for Allah, as he's trying to say, that it's called the DSM. Maybe I'm spelling it wrong, but DSM is the Bible of psychology, psychological, basically all these like...
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Borderline personality, narcissism, whatever, all these diseases and definitions. I think it's called DSM. Maybe I'm saying it wrong. Whatever. One of the dudes that wrote that book, it was a bunch of doctors, a bunch of psychologists, psychiatrists, got together and wrote this thing. And they called it the Bible of psychiatry or Bible of psychology. One of the dudes that wrote it, he wrote another book afterwards. He's saying, As-salamu alayhi wa s-shu'ala.
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Basically how they're making normal sickness. If you're normal, it's a sickness. And he wrote the book saying he would rather be a patient in Baghdad back in the 800 years ago than a patient in New York's psychiatry facility today. Yep, yep, yep. Because again, the message that we have talked about I think it was in Baghdad also rooted in
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It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different So like The commonplace Of the knowledge The self-reportation Is that you teach the human And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world The commonplace The commonplace Of the self-reportation That you teach the human That you teach the human That you teach the human And then you teach the human
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So you have to understand the manufacturer first to be able to understand the product. You can't study the product and then figure out, oh, actually it was manufactured in Germany or China or whatever the case may be. What's the point? You've missed the whole process.
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Also, it's like, you're just viewing it like this. I'm just literally looking at here. You're not looking at any room. You're not looking at anything. Yeah, man. Yeah, man. Wow. Yeah, life-changing stuff. Tayyip, anything else about this perception or people's opinions thing that we haven't covered? I guess as a message to kind of wrap, it's...
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You shouldn't care about what other people think of you, but you should care about how you think of yourself and how you present yourself in society. Based, but with a pure intention. Not because I'm always...
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I'm not actually that person, but I'm going to dress like a certain way or a certain way so that that person likes me. That's not really cool. But if I'm genuinely trying to be a certain person and I'm embodying the qualities of that person and that's how I present myself in society,
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then you shouldn't really care about other people because you're being genuine to yourself. I guess that's what it kind of comes down to. That's a good way of putting genuine. Yeah. Yeah. Genuine. That's it. Alrighty. I guess it's only right that we move on to game time. You know, I think this this caring topic as well, I think there's a layer of it, which is
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A layer of it which is rooted in like insecurity. Like your own insecurities. And people's comments amplifying your insecurities. And then the dangers of that is... If you're insecure, the comment that could be in passing, could just be somebody just taking a jab at you or whatever.
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yeah if you're not that insecure you'll hear it acknowledge okay yeah cool somebody else it's weeks that thing is just playing in their head playing in their head playing in their head playing in their head you know and then they're just like angry at weird times and yeah man um
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I guess the real like solution, solution which we've touched on is understanding yourself, but also accepting yourself, accepting your insecurities. I know it sounds so simple and just get over yourself. Yeah. Yeah. But again, it's just,
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You also don't want to belittle people. You don't want to belittle people. It's also like, how do you even throw a roadmap to that? You don't. You don't. It's very hard. It's a very individual thing too. Someone has to go through the experience or go through that journey to get to it. Babe. You start. Game time. Ooh, I got an eight pointer here. Leave that for later. Babe. Babe. What's something that's been said about you that you will never forget?
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I'd say it's been said plenty and still kind of, it's like, hey Omar, you're really funny, man. Like, yeah, I know. But I got to, yeah, I know. But before it was like, oh, thanks, man. You know, but yeah, it was cool. Yeah. Yeah. What about you? Yeah, I think everyone...
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or like a lot of people have said to me that I always, I'm always smiling. Like I'm always like smiling or like, the worst that it could be, I'm still like positive. So yeah, I don't want that. That's never, I hope that never leaves. Inshallah. All right. What's the most shattering experience you've had your, you've had with, okay, butchered it.
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What's the most shattering experience you've had with your self-esteem? Why? Ooh, shattering experience. So, I mean, this is a little bit small. This is just a tricky one because my self-esteem is something that I don't really care.
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care about that much. However, I also am very aware that I'm pretty self-confident and confident in myself and my abilities. But throughout various stages of my life, a lot of people have said that I'm a bad person.
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um obviously being a person that i am i take that very positively because yes i am yeah and i'm able to like not react to anything out of emotion
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ah but it was said to you in the sense of like it was said to me like I said how do you feel to make everything to make everything to make everything to make everything to make everything to make everything so it didn't shatter shatter is not accurate depiction at all but it might be like what is it it was like is something wrong with me oh yeah you know what I mean I like what you said like you don't care what your self esteem because you know what self esteem it's a meter you can fill it up yeah
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Okay. What about you? Shattering. Amen. It's a tough one, Amen. So because, so we play, we play video games and it's like the game is like team of threes. Okay. And 20 squads and whatever. Battle Royales, the last team stays. Yeah. So there's scenarios in the game where like, okay, it's you and the last squad. Your two friends are knocked. His two friends are knocked. Just you. Just one v one.
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You try losing that. And then your boys, and then just, okay. And it's the sound from like your boys hyping up. It's like, yo, you gotta be, yo, easy. And it's like, it goes quiet.
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I'm not even a gamer, bro. And I already, I feel. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel it in my chest. But you know what, man? Hey, we'll get him next time, you know? We'll go again. Run it back, boys. Run it back. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I had a high school basketball coach that anytime you miss a shot and you like get too hard on yourself, he's like, hey man, next play, next play, next play, next play. Yeah, that's it. Only the next one counts, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Next play. But this is a nice lighthearted one. What's a place you've always wanted to visit and why?
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Andalusia Oh Yes I remember talking about this with you I always wanted to go actually Inshallah I get to go Go soon Inshallah Yeah How about you? Tokyo Tokyo Yeah Tokyo's again Yeah yeah yeah I feel like I will be going Inshallah I haven't planned it or anything Inshallah I will go And I think I'm very fascinated By how organized that city is It's true
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Like I went to Singapore recently. Singapore, like in apparently Tokyo is just different level. Because that one's densely populated. Singapore is not that. Oh, okay. I don't know if it was Tokyo. But I remember. So they did like a study with like mushrooms.
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and see how the mushrooms grow. And I think it was Tokyo where they actually, and basically the routes, the mushrooms take to the way they grow is the most efficient way. So based on that, they started planning their, they did their urban planning based on the way the mushrooms are growing in this laboratory. I'll find a look for it, but it was super interesting. Wow. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. Corona. What intrusive thoughts are you currently battling with?
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Well, I'm not going to lie today when we were at that wrestling class. I was like, I feel bad for whoever, like after we train extensively doing this wrestling thing for a couple of years. I feel bad whoever tries to come and cross me, man.
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Even if you're in the house, you're slippery as hell, bro. For me, man, it's just like kicking inanimate objects. Like right now, just throughout my day, this happens to me all the time I work. We have the elevator. There's a lot of stuff.
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all the time all the time and that's just one example like so many like it's yeah it's just like that's silly yeah what would be the hardest part about living with you uh-huh
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a few ideas come to mind. Yeah. Just hearing me scream into the mic, he's one, he's one HP, he's one HP. Let's go boys. Yeah, man. What about you? The hardest part about living with me
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I think the hardest part about living with me is that I like my alone time too much. So, like, I may not want you to be in the room, dog. Like, I kind of like my space. Yeah. So, that's... Nice. Yeah. Okay. What scares you the most about yourself? What scares me the most about myself? Well, these days, it's...
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these days what scares me and boasts about myself is that it's like sin related. It's like, I, I'm, I know there's like sins that I really want to try and stay away from as much as possible. But I also know in the shaitan waswastu, you know, shaitan go, you know, like he's tricky, tricky, slippery. T-t-t-t. Um, so yeah, it's just like,
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My faith slipping, I guess. Okay. Yeah. In any way, that scares me a little bit. What about you? How charismatic I am. It's kind of scary. Scary. Yeah, yeah. It scares me. Scary hours. It scares me all the time, man. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Am I going to start a cult? I don't know. Oh, yeah. It's tough. It's hard out here, man. Nobody takes me serious. I'm so charismatic. It sucks. Yeah.
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is it you or me? No, it's you. It's your last one. What insecurity comes up the most? See, the weight recently. It's putting on weight. Just a little secure about that. Same. But I got broad shoulders, so ain't no tag. Yeah, you know what? Same too.
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literally bro like you're like oh man and then you put on a t-shirt and it just sits really nice and you're just like yeah it works all right i can go double xl add another x um yeah i'm i'm alhamdulillah i think i'm in a place now as i should be i'm in my mid-30s where my insecurities are very quiet
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Yeah. They're very quiet. You're right. They come just every now and then. And you know what? Most times, you can either... I don't even catch it. Yeah, nothing like any worst case scenario. Like, wherever the next prayer is, it's gone by then. So, alhamdulillah. Yeah. Alhamdulillah.
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There's one last question Wild card Ask the wildest question To any person of your choice I assume there's only two of us Well, there's four of us actually But they're not They're not They're not They're not They're not They're not
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Like, you know, I did have a random question for you. What motivates you? I was talking to someone the other day and we were talking about, so she has a, she has a, she has a business and we were just talking about like what motivates us to keep going with when things get hard.
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I think now being married, it's just, you got to take care. There's somebody you got to take care of. Yeah. Not that you need me to take care of, but like, you just told me. But also another thing, man, I,
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leaving an impact, like leaving a positive legacy. There's something like sustainable, something like, you know, somehow, because of something I did, or I, you know, that really, that'll keep me going. Yeah, it'll keep you going, man. My answer was very similar to the question. Not about impact and legacy, but kind of, because I get motivated off of like other people benefiting from things I do. Yeah. Not me benefiting from things that I do.
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I mean, that's a beautiful way to think about it, man, because it's like, I guess, inshallah, I'm hoping that's always the case, but I'm trying to have like a in a way or something. It's something that's like, I'm gone, but like that thing is still benefiting. It's still benefiting people, still doing something, so...
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That's amazing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Amen. Allahum usulhna waj'ala mimman yusulh. Ameen. There you go. That's the theme song. That's going to be, that's the theme of the show for sure. I think that's confirmed now. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But yeah, man, another great episode. Thank you guys for tuning in. Appreciate y'all. Make sure you like, comment, subscribe. Share all of it. Share for the good.
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Yes Come noob with us Appreciate y'all man See ya
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How much do you care about what people think about you? Genuinely. Or what? Or what? Or what? You're not going to take the weights and burdens of somebody else. That's it. Thank you. Because you're starting to understand yourself better.
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Everyone understands me more and everyone understands me more. Everyone understands me more, everyone understands me more. You can deal with this situation. I'm so glad that I now understand this next topic a little bit more. And there's so much more to go. Yeah. But...
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Okay, I think the intro music is done. Welcome back. Welcome back. The Noob Theory. The Noob Theory. We are out here. I think this is... I don't even know what episode this is. We are out here.
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I think we're closer to 25-ish. Okay. This might be 25. This might be 25. Who's counting? Who's counting? YouTube is. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I love it. World Cup is on. I think by the time this comes out, it might be... The knockout started probably, right? Knockout started, right? So yeah, that's when the real watching happens. Yeah. But the timings, man. The timings are just like... It's horrible, bro. It's not possible. I don't think you've been a whole game. It's probably a whole time we've been a whole game.
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Ah, yeah, true. Because, you know, I don't know, we watched the Egypt, what was that game? Even that one, I was late. What was it? Egypt, Belgium. That was a good game. But you know what? People on the other side of the world are watching it at decent times, so. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm sure they felt the same when it was here in Qatar. Ah, yeah, true. Yeah, so they had to wake up early to watch a game.
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and the New York Knicks are NBA champions that's crazy first time in 53 years damn that's crazy 60s? that's the last time they won? 60s? last time they won was yes the 60s I guess 53 no that would be 73 okay sounds right Clive Clive Davis I think his name is mashallah this is a guy oh nice he's still at all the games if you watch NBA you'll see him he wears like very funky suits and stuff
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okay that's that guy yeah okay yeah he's a idea um but yeah man it's a wild time for sports great summer for sports you know what's crazy about the mba as well uh there this is how like great of a product the mba has become there hasn't been the same champion in the last like
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Many years. I think it's like five or six years. No one has been able to repeat. Back to go, back to back. Go back to back. And every time it's a completely new team. Yeah. Like it's not even that one team wins and then loses and then wins again. That happened when it was like Golden State. Lakin for the last, I think like five years or something, it's been a new person every year. Which is YM coming through, man. Yeah, yeah, exactly. And they're being spread around equally, I guess. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, yeah, man. Taip, what have we got today? What have we got today? What have we got today? Check in? Check in?
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Maybe not. Maybe not. Okay. We're good. We're good. We're good. Alhamdulillah. Hope you're good. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Hope you guys are also doing these check-ins with us. That would be dope. Actually, that would be dope if you guys put in the comments when we do our check-ins where you're at. And then we can kind of like... I see the vision in the check-ins, man. So good shout on that. Yeah, yeah. Nice. I'm not going to lie. I saw it in a very... I used to watch this show called I Am Athlete way back. I think it must have been COVID times.
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And when I watched it, I was like, this is a great idea. Because like, before you get down to like talking about anything. Just see where everyone is. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So. Perception. Perception.
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We posted a video like a while ago now where we were talking about Sudanese and the culture. And this culture is a little bit bigger and it affects people mentally. So that they live their life and their life. Yeah, how people perceive your reputation. Yeah, yeah. So I said, why don't we...
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Dive a little bit deeper. Touch you already. Sure. I like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Tayyip, I think a very interesting place to start, but I feel like I already know the answer is.
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How much do you care about what people think about you? Genuinely, though. Genuinely, man. I can't even tell you how much I don't care. Like, it's, yeah. Okay. But there's levels to it, too. There's levels to it, sure. I mean, earlier we were at this cafe, and we were talking about this, right? I wouldn't show up here in a tank top and really short shorts and flip tops.
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I mean, though, like you can, I've seen it, but that's just us not reading the room, you know? Yeah. Yeah. But I think, so there's a very clear distinction between caring what other people think of you and caring about what you think of yourself. Exactly. So I wouldn't do that because I...
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Wouldn't want... Yeah. Yeah. I don't want somebody to see my armpit hair. You know, like, okay. I'll let you have breakfast. That's just, you know, that's... It's not something I want to volunteer to. Yeah, yeah. It's not. It doesn't reflect good on me. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So I see the... Do you feel like you do... Sorry, go on. No, but...
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I mean, I don't care. Like, I don't care about... There's few people I care about what they think of me and how I treat them and how... Because of just the social contracts we have with each other. I don't want to be in breach.
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I mean, you're the average person. I'm really like a strange, not even strange. Yeah, no, I don't really subscribe to a lot of, you know. I guess I'm very similar. Yeah, what about you? Like in there are some things which, or there are some situations which have happened to me that have made me think, ah, okay, there are certain things that I should care about.
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For example, I started the job that I'm currently at four and a little bit years ago. Okay. So around 2022. Okay.
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In the current time, I was coming from an environment, which is like a multinational company. There is very like lax rules about dress code and stuff like that. So I just used to wear like chinos and sometimes a polo shirt, sometimes a shirt. And it was fine. Like their assessment of people was not based on how you look at all.
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But then I came to this new place and I literally remember. So I carried over my dress code into this new place because I realized there's also people here that wear just normal chinos, shirts, whatever. Then one of the chiefs at the company, Kweiss, this is like a few months after I started. I was in the house like that today and I was wearing my eyes.
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we've been working together for a little while now, a few months. So I've gotten to know you. Winter, like, I see a lot of potential in you. I think, this was just him sharing his voluntary opinion. I think, if you start wearing a full suit to work, I think because of how things operate here,
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people will perceive you as someone that has even more potential than what I already know. Because in the environment, people don't care. In this environment, for whatever reason, don't want to get into the details of that, but people do care about how you look. So if you want to get to that director position, if you want to get to that chief position,
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dress accordingly and kind of manifest it through how you move day to day. Be the position that you want now. Look the part, play the part, move like it, walk like it, talk like it.
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And in the moment, I was like, this guy is asking me to wear his suit and stuff. Like, lo and behold, I went and I made some suits based off of that conversation. I went every day, I went to the beginning, full suit, tie. Even at the beginning, I had a big one and I had a pocket square and everything.
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Wallahi, it changed things. Genuinely changed things. It changed things on the way that people speak to me. It changed things from the way that people value what I say. People come and ask me different types of questions now. They don't just ask me what I did over the weekend. They ask me about real things. But you know what? It's also because when you wear a suit, you move different. You actually act different.
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But you don't, you kind of do, but you don't really. Like I didn't do anything other than put on a suit.
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But I guess it's like your aura, as the kids say. Your aura is different. Accordingly, people treat you different. But these are just like external realities of the world that we live in, by the way. It's true. It's true. We can control ourselves. And it's all part of reading the room.
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All goes back to this concept of reading the room. You can say, okay, people are European, people are European. For example, they're Europeans. Maybe they value certain things. They're Arab, they value certain things. Okay. In order for me to get what I want, I need to move in this kind of way. So it all kind of does come back to reading the room. You know, I had the opposite experience.
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My job where I started, yeah, because everybody's wearing suits. I was wearing suits. And then I realized, okay, like the people I work with, they're wearing suits because they go on client meetings. And sure, when you're going out to like represent and all these clients meetings, it's a very corporate setting, right? Makes sense to wear a suit.
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I'm not going to client meetings. And if I do go to client meetings, I'm meeting marketing people, whatever, like comms. They're not wearing suits. So I actually, I was like, you know what? You lower the tray. I lower the tray, just again, for the ease of access, just so we can actually have the conversations we want to have. Fair. Fair. But again, I mean, it's,
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Yeah, maybe I guess it's like sector or like, I work in finance. So, yeah, fair. Like, tell me, just, it's reading the room. That's what it is. It's reading the room. Yeah, because the finance, all of them are doing things. So, I don't know if they're doing things. No, like, I've never, I've never seen, like.
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Yeah, most of our finest people, they're either like shirts are always tucked in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, yeah, if they're not wearing a suit, the shirt, like dress pants and shirt, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's their very minimum. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Even on Thursdays, you know, which is like an unofficial. Which is crazy. That's crazy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's it. Yeah. Interesting. Dave, what about...
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So staying on this point of reading the room, what does that mean? Like, what does reading the room mean to you? Is it a physical thing of like the physical room? Is it the people, the combination? How do you do it? Yeah, so the same room. So I don't think it's physical. I think it's like what you mentioned, like just like the energy of the room. So like the same room could be like, depending on who's sitting there. So it could be like me and then somebody like it.
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your relationship with the people in the room. If it's just me and somebody that I know, but now it's me, somebody I know, somebody I don't really know, that reading the room is different. I'm not going to have the same conversations or have the same tone without that. But if we're taking it a step further, sometimes reading the room doesn't mean like you accept the flaws of the room. It's the same thing. Let's take it to a social setting. Let's kind of step away from it. It can be in a hang where
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some things are said you don't really agree with. But for the sake of reading the room or just for the harmony. Peace. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Keeping the peace. Keeping the peace and you're just like, yeah, you'll laugh along. Mashiach. Mashiach. Happens once, twice, three times. By the, whatever time, you're actually, you're no longer like pretending you're actually like, yeah. So like a shift in you happened without you realizing. But even though your intentions were good, I'm just trying to read the room. I'm trying to have emotional intelligence. So it's tricky.
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That's a very interesting one. So, does that connect with, I guess, setting boundaries? That you give to yourself, you know? Yeah. But at the same time, you can be the party pooper, I guess. Figurative party pooper. Exactly. They're just laughing. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Being a party pooper is underrated sometimes, you know? It is. I think so. Sometimes you put people in their place, man. Yeah. I'm not going to lie. And it's actually a good thing because if I'm saying something out of line, I would love to be put in my place. Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So. Interesting. So if we go back to this whole idea of what people think about us, what is the, like,
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What's a level of not caring that's too much? Because you cannot care too much and you can care too much. Caring too much, we've established, is no need. It's okay. Still do your thing. Do what you want to do. ولا تزور وزر أخرى.
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You know, like that's... You're not going to take the weights and burdens of somebody else. Oh, God. Yes, peace be upon you. So that's caring too much. Like what is caring too little? Yeah, because caring too little, it's just you being selfish. You know, like... Okay. So that's how I would perceive it. If I don't care at all, I would just...
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I would only do what I want to do. You know what I mean? Like, sure, yeah, I will still work within the parameters of, like, okay, sure, I have to be at work. I'm at work, but I don't care, so I'm not participating in, like, small talks. Even though, like, I don't want to most of the time, but it's good because it just... Levels the playing field. Levels the playing field. It builds a nice foundation of the day. Okay, everybody's weekend was good. Everybody, oh, what you do? Oh, that was crazy. Okay, that's cool.
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Even though I like doing it with some people, but I don't like doing it with some other people. But I'll still do it because it's a nice thing to do. It's a nice thing to do. That's actually crazy. Just as you were talking, I just realized. So like caring too much could be perceived as a weakness. But then caring too little could be perceived as arrogance. Yeah.
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Very true. Wild. But yeah, that's a perception for you, right? It's literally crazy. Yeah. Yeah, so caring too little could be arrogance. Interesting. Okay, one is just...
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I guess you just have to stay, keep it even, right? Like, I mean, based on, there's no like one level that applies across the board. There's no one level of caring that applies across the board. So, when it's something that affects someone else, now I'm speaking from like real personal experience, right? Or like how I live my life, I mean, when it's something that affects someone else, I care a bit more because...
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I owe it to that person that's involved in the situation to care a little bit more and make sure that whatever the scenario is, it happens. But, and this might be a flaw as well in me, when it's something to do with myself, I care a little bit less. Yes.
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Ah, yeah. No, you know what? I relate to that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm with you. And for example, somebody said something rude to me. I can live with it. I can... I'll take that. I'll take that. It's cool. But somebody said something rude to a colleague or a friend that...
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No. No. You don't have to be able to do it. Right. And I think that's also from the point of view, it's amazing in the same episode. It said, part of the faith is that you love your son and you don't love yourself.
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But there's something called the ether, and the ether is more. You can go further. Yeah, you can't even go further. You can't even go further. You can't even go further. Again, in being a good Muslim, these are all qualities that we should sort of embody and live by.
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So yeah, I don't think that's a negative thing, to be honest with you. Yeah. Because, again, and if something, again, let's just, same example, like somebody did something to me, I can take it. I had to even, I can even, not even react to it. But,
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if it's happened to somebody else, then like, injustice happened around me. You know what I mean? So again, you have that duty of... Exactly. Of acting. Or like saying something or protecting or whatever the case may be at the end of the day. Hmm. Interesting. I like this conversation. I like where this is going. What about...
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Self-respect versus respecting the environment that you're in. Or like the climate or the... Again, minbab, breathing the room. Yani self-respect versus respecting the culture or the characteristics of a room that you go into. Right? Yani misal-lan.
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I live in the night I live in Qatar Qatar is a country of security The country of Islam Even in the country there are no longer For example, the children are being abused And they are not allowed to take the rest of their lives These are the laws of the country
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This is not something we have in our country or anything, but we have to live with it. I feel that I was in the morning of the day to be a new country. The problem is that I don't like it. I don't like it. I'm going to go to the mall, the mall, the mall, the mall, and there's no short.
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I'm in my self respect I'm not sure I'm not sure I'm sure I can be a little bit But I'm not sure I'm not sure I'm not sure
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And do I have the right to feel a way about these rules? No, see, I don't think you do because, you know, you control what you can control. You can control not wearing a shirt. You can't control the laws of the... Again, laws are based on cultural norms. So, you know, you're somebody that's not from here and you came here. So, and it goes both ways, you know, to respect the cultural norms. So, I don't see anybody who should feel the right to have some sort of...
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Feel some type of way about it. Yeah. But I only say this because I've seen people complain about it. And like people have complained to me about it. And I'm like, yo, it's a... Like, I mean, that's the rule.
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Follow the rule. It's very simple. It's very simple. You know, like, oh, it's hot. Wear linen pants, dog. I don't know what to tell you. I guess people spend also so much mental energy and like mental, or like stress or whatever the case may be, dealing with things that are so out of their control and like, what's wrong?
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And it's also that you're spending time and energy on something trivial. Like it's okay. Also, it goes back to that. Now you're just, all your focus, all your tunnel vision is on the negative. This place sucks because they don't let me wear shorts and mall. So now you're just like every, you have the goggles of, I'm only going to focus on what's negative. I'm only going to see what's bad about here.
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And you'll live your life only in your life. You're a good guy. And those are the worst kind of people. The worst kind of people. Like, just if you're that, please stop. Okay, it's so tiring. It's tiring for somebody else to hear it. I can only imagine how tiring it is for somebody to live it. Yeah, bro. But then again, when you channel that energy somewhere else,
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There's a way to also see, ah, okay, let's ask ourselves a second. I ask ourselves, why are we doing the law? We're just going to keep using this law as an example because I think it's suitable. Why are we doing the law?
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I have a law that people in Islam and in this country are in the streets and people are in the streets. Is that something you want? Yes, I think. It's great. So how about we reframe
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the complaining and the negative of, oh man, this place sucks to, you know what? That's actually kind of good. If I have a daughter and I take her to this mall and everyone in front of her is dressed appropriately and I don't want to say, and all the men are like dressed appropriately, et cetera, I would actually be comfortable with my daughter walking around as opposed to going somewhere where that's not the case. Yeah.
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So how about we reframe the... So yeah, that's actually... And then you see the gratitude in what they're doing. Yeah, and you're like, oh, actually, this is great. Maybe instead of complaining, I should actually be grateful. Who, come on. It's really sad that... We're all guilty of it. I'm not on a pedestal here. We've kind of... Like, we made the West our center for not just...
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Like Music Arts Entertainment But also Somehow They became The center for morals Which is crazy Which is wrong The morals of Freedom I mean like Your freedom stops The minute it infringes On somebody else's freedom You know So Yeah Your freedom stops The minute it infringes On somebody else's Yes exactly So How are we here You know And how do we have Like Anas Muslim Arab Whatever People People born here Complaining about this You know
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Which is great. And I guess it shows you the power of content and the power of like just what you consume. What were you talking about the last time? Yeah, exactly. It doesn't have to be a person who lives in their own life. In the other words, there is actually like a rule that people live in different ways and then they are able to share these experiences and learn from each other.
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Yeah, and you remember the other day that the guy, we met someone and he was like, and we were like, oh, that's great. He was like, huh, kind of. Remember that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I was like, huh, why does this guy think this way? And I guess...
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From our little analysis of the situation, I guess Bardu. It's like he wants what he can't have in Doha.
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And he's just living with that in his head. And he feels like he's missing out. And then, again, if you refrain, actually, those guys might be envious of him. Yeah. You're in a place where your families are probably around you, your friends are around you.
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You're safe. You're safe. It's... Man, you can walk out anywhere in this country at 4 a.m. Anywhere. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow.
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I was in the cafe in the old car. I didn't know, I was in the same way. After that, we went to the laptop and left it with it. We left it with it and left it with it. We left it with it. We were waiting for a couple of hours. We came back to the laptop.
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And it was like a new MacBook at the time. And I was like, Lala, Dinamo. Dinamo, Jajjad, Jajjad. I'm sad. Damn it. Damn it. Prayer room everywhere. Yeah. That's such a blessing. You know, like, I mean,
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Everywhere No no no Everywhere Like imagine like Because I was watching this video about I think it was on Instagram About I think it was They were in America And just asking them Hey what's the What's the weirdest place You have to pray in And everybody's just talking like Oh the train station Or under Staircase Alleyway Alleyway Somewhere Just like whatever Like at the You know
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I'm like, that's, I never felt so detached from like a contest. I was like, I never, like, what do you mean? Like, there was no prayer room? There was no, there was no, there was no prayer room that's like planned to be for people to go and pray. Yeah. And even a step further, like,
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there are like a lot of these prayer rooms, especially like in the sports places, like wherever it's like, the prayer rooms have pants in them. So like they know you're going to be out. It's like people wearing shorts. Yeah. Yeah. We got, we, yeah, I guess that we diverted topics real, but it still comes back to the same root, which is, why would you care so much about someone's opinion and how it affects your life?
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And make that such a negative thing. Sometimes you can shape it that someone cares about you, and that's why their opinion, that's why they share their opinion. Yeah. Yes, there are people, of course, who are talking about it. But there are people who are talking about it because they're trying to like... Yeah. ...to be honest.
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The basic one is, okay, man, you got a little chunky there, bro. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. I don't care that you said that, but it's triggered something in me. Most likely, it's going to get... They're right. Also, most of the time, you know. 100%. But subhanAllah, when it comes from the outsider, it's like, okay, it hits a little... It's louder. It's louder. Yeah. It's louder. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I'll tell you what about...
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Not caring. So I don't tell you, I don't care. I don't care in the sense that I have my framework of morals and what I'm trying to be and what I want to do in this world and how I want to be perceived and how I perceive others. So the framework of the time, it's a mix of my...
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I guess the main thing is Deen Okay Deen Sharia Tells you exactly How to act Who you should be What's a good Muslim What's a bad Muslim You know So that's That's a framework That's there I guess the way you're raised Also plays a part Exactly So that's my reference point You know like Okay Deen The way I'm raised And then My experiences in the world And then I mean We're in our 30s So like I'm at that stage Yeah
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And you're sure there's things I'm adding and removing from the foundation is there. The foundation is there. So that's my foundation. That doesn't change with...
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external factors, you know? Yeah, it doesn't. So, it doesn't, the foundation probably doesn't change. Like, in there's small behaviors that might change. Sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm telling you, like, there's things like, I know I shouldn't do, but I do, but whatever. And Allah, you know, you know? But, I mean, we just all can say, hey, you do this. It's like, yeah, you write, it's louder. You shouldn't do it, sure. But I'm not going to,
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I think a good way to also practice this is to go to a lemon, whatever you're in a medley, or you're in a gada, or whatever, like, on your way home, drive home, just a little evaluation session, okay? How was that today? Did I learn something? Did I release something? Do I feel better? Was there something that I said, was there something I heard, I don't want to hear?
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Yeah, yeah. I think learning to do that on a regular basis is also something that's very, very important. Because eventually, if you do these enough, they're like, okay, you know what? I'm not going to go there because I ain't trying to hear that. Yeah. You know? Actually, funny enough, my friends were trying to go to somewhere where there was another crew going and my friend was like, you want to go? I was like, no, I don't want to go. He's like, why? Because I was like, no, there's people there I don't really F with. They're like, oh, you have beef? I was like, no, it's not beef. I'm just... Protecting my peace.
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Protecting my time. Like I'm very like, time is like, I care about my time. I would rather not, you know. And then being alone in a productive way, it's kind of amazing, man. Yeah. Powerful. It really is. Yeah, man. You sent me that Mo Jodet thing about 30 minutes. Yeah, just set a timer on your phone. 30 minutes, put the phone down. Don't look at the timer.
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And he has like a notebook, right? He just writes. Just write. Just offload. Offload what comes to your mind. Your mind will start spitting stuff. Okay. Any thought that comes, write it down. Write it down. Don't block any thoughts. Just let it... Yeah. Keep it happening. Keep it growing. And then he says about... He said after a certain point... He's been doing this for some time. So he said at a certain point, your mind stops. Just stops. And then you're able to like actually...
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I guess it's like a meditative practice. Yeah, but it's like almost I'm earning that status by unloading. Unloading. And the way he was talking about the feeling he gets, it was amazing. It actually made me, you know, I want to try this. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And that's, by the way, those are the practices or the actions that you can start doing to understand why
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you care about someone's opinion. Understand why a comment or something asserted on you on the way you meet. Yeah, right. Because you start to understand yourself more. Every person you understand yourself and every person you realize. Every person you realize and every person you realize you can deal with these situations without them triggering you. Well, that's the only way one, I mean,
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It's all internal. Do you understand the same? Yeah. For anyone that's wondering why we keep using the term For anyone that's wondering why we keep using the term For anyone that's wondering why we keep using the term Podcast this podcast is not bad.
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By the way, I do also have to... I think I made this disclaimer during our live episode. I have to make another disclaimer. I'm so glad that I now understand this next topic a little bit more. And there's so much more to go. Yeah. But therapy and mental health and all of this... It's biased because I'm Muslim and maybe there are no Muslims who are talking about this. But...
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At all. At all.
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Which means you start understanding your... Understanding Allah, basically. It's not Allah, Rasul, Kalam, Allah, Quran, and Deen, that's how you start understanding yourself. And, wallahi, bro, I'm like living proof that this works. That this is the cure. This is beautiful, man, because we've actually now... We have it recorded of...
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unlearning that happened so i remember like we we sat down you were telling me you need to try therapy i'm like i didn't know how to answer you but i'm just like i don't you know like i you were right bro i didn't know i didn't i didn't have the articulate like just thought process like i just i don't just trust me i don't know how to explain it to you but i don't and i'm not like being up you know i'm flaw free yeah but no but your instinct was what i'm saying is your instinct was in the completely right place
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Now I know that. I'll tell you what, I think I get an analogy of being Arabic, I'm talking like a serious issue. Where are you? What can I do? No, but I can't do it. Where are you? Where are you?
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Same with the devs like Yeah sure all these different Oh yeah the person that made the car The person that made the car Yeah Yeah yeah yeah Yeah yeah yeah You know like You know like You know like You know like You know like You know like You know like But no people who have the blueprint Who have the actual Whatever Manufacturer Yeah
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Damn, that's a great analogy. Say what I'm saying. Thanks, Noah. Yeah, no, that was great. That was great. Yay! But... I mean... I mean, like, the thing that I'm looking for completely. Like, the thing that I'm looking for is different from a radio. I mean... So the guy was saying again in the podcast, you know what, we'll put it on the story. Yeah, yeah, we'll put it on the description. Ah...
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He's talking about stuff for Allah, as he's trying to say, that it's called the DSM. Maybe I'm spelling it wrong, but DSM is the Bible of psychology, psychological, basically all these like...
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Borderline personality, narcissism, whatever, all these diseases and definitions. I think it's called DSM. Maybe I'm saying it wrong. Whatever. One of the dudes that wrote that book, it was a bunch of doctors, a bunch of psychologists, psychiatrists, got together and wrote this thing. And they called it the Bible of psychiatry or Bible of psychology. One of the dudes that wrote it, he wrote another book afterwards. He's saying, As-salamu alayhi wa s-shu'ala.
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Basically how they're making normal sickness. If you're normal, it's a sickness. And he wrote the book saying he would rather be a patient in Baghdad back in the 800 years ago than a patient in New York's psychiatry facility today. Yep, yep, yep. Because again, the message that we have talked about I think it was in Baghdad also rooted in
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They call it the The The The The The The
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It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different It's different So like The commonplace Of the knowledge The self-reportation Is that you teach the human And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world And then you get to the world The commonplace The commonplace Of the self-reportation That you teach the human That you teach the human That you teach the human And then you teach the human
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So you have to understand the manufacturer first to be able to understand the product. You can't study the product and then figure out, oh, actually it was manufactured in Germany or China or whatever the case may be. What's the point? You've missed the whole process.
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Also, it's like, you're just viewing it like this. I'm just literally looking at here. You're not looking at any room. You're not looking at anything. Yeah, man. Yeah, man. Wow. Yeah, life-changing stuff. Tayyip, anything else about this perception or people's opinions thing that we haven't covered? I guess as a message to kind of wrap, it's...
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You shouldn't care about what other people think of you, but you should care about how you think of yourself and how you present yourself in society. Based, but with a pure intention. Not because I'm always...
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I'm not actually that person, but I'm going to dress like a certain way or a certain way so that that person likes me. That's not really cool. But if I'm genuinely trying to be a certain person and I'm embodying the qualities of that person and that's how I present myself in society,
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then you shouldn't really care about other people because you're being genuine to yourself. I guess that's what it kind of comes down to. That's a good way of putting genuine. Yeah. Yeah. Genuine. That's it. Alrighty. I guess it's only right that we move on to game time. You know, I think this this caring topic as well, I think there's a layer of it, which is
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A layer of it which is rooted in like insecurity. Like your own insecurities. And people's comments amplifying your insecurities. And then the dangers of that is... If you're insecure, the comment that could be in passing, could just be somebody just taking a jab at you or whatever.
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yeah if you're not that insecure you'll hear it acknowledge okay yeah cool somebody else it's weeks that thing is just playing in their head playing in their head playing in their head playing in their head you know and then they're just like angry at weird times and yeah man um
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I guess the real like solution, solution which we've touched on is understanding yourself, but also accepting yourself, accepting your insecurities. I know it sounds so simple and just get over yourself. Yeah. Yeah. But again, it's just,
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You also don't want to belittle people. You don't want to belittle people. It's also like, how do you even throw a roadmap to that? You don't. You don't. It's very hard. It's a very individual thing too. Someone has to go through the experience or go through that journey to get to it. Babe. You start. Game time. Ooh, I got an eight pointer here. Leave that for later. Babe. Babe. What's something that's been said about you that you will never forget?
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I'd say it's been said plenty and still kind of, it's like, hey Omar, you're really funny, man. Like, yeah, I know. But I got to, yeah, I know. But before it was like, oh, thanks, man. You know, but yeah, it was cool. Yeah. Yeah. What about you? Yeah, I think everyone...
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or like a lot of people have said to me that I always, I'm always smiling. Like I'm always like smiling or like, the worst that it could be, I'm still like positive. So yeah, I don't want that. That's never, I hope that never leaves. Inshallah. All right. What's the most shattering experience you've had your, you've had with, okay, butchered it.
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What's the most shattering experience you've had with your self-esteem? Why? Ooh, shattering experience. So, I mean, this is a little bit small. This is just a tricky one because my self-esteem is something that I don't really care.
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care about that much. However, I also am very aware that I'm pretty self-confident and confident in myself and my abilities. But throughout various stages of my life, a lot of people have said that I'm a bad person.
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um obviously being a person that i am i take that very positively because yes i am yeah and i'm able to like not react to anything out of emotion
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ah but it was said to you in the sense of like it was said to me like I said how do you feel to make everything to make everything to make everything to make everything to make everything to make everything so it didn't shatter shatter is not accurate depiction at all but it might be like what is it it was like is something wrong with me oh yeah you know what I mean I like what you said like you don't care what your self esteem because you know what self esteem it's a meter you can fill it up yeah
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Okay. What about you? Shattering. Amen. It's a tough one, Amen. So because, so we play, we play video games and it's like the game is like team of threes. Okay. And 20 squads and whatever. Battle Royales, the last team stays. Yeah. So there's scenarios in the game where like, okay, it's you and the last squad. Your two friends are knocked. His two friends are knocked. Just you. Just one v one.
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You try losing that. And then your boys, and then just, okay. And it's the sound from like your boys hyping up. It's like, yo, you gotta be, yo, easy. And it's like, it goes quiet.
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I'm not even a gamer, bro. And I already, I feel. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel it in my chest. But you know what, man? Hey, we'll get him next time, you know? We'll go again. Run it back, boys. Run it back. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I had a high school basketball coach that anytime you miss a shot and you like get too hard on yourself, he's like, hey man, next play, next play, next play, next play. Yeah, that's it. Only the next one counts, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Next play. But this is a nice lighthearted one. What's a place you've always wanted to visit and why?
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Andalusia Oh Yes I remember talking about this with you I always wanted to go actually Inshallah I get to go Go soon Inshallah Yeah How about you? Tokyo Tokyo Yeah Tokyo's again Yeah yeah yeah I feel like I will be going Inshallah I haven't planned it or anything Inshallah I will go And I think I'm very fascinated By how organized that city is It's true
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Like I went to Singapore recently. Singapore, like in apparently Tokyo is just different level. Because that one's densely populated. Singapore is not that. Oh, okay. I don't know if it was Tokyo. But I remember. So they did like a study with like mushrooms.
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and see how the mushrooms grow. And I think it was Tokyo where they actually, and basically the routes, the mushrooms take to the way they grow is the most efficient way. So based on that, they started planning their, they did their urban planning based on the way the mushrooms are growing in this laboratory. I'll find a look for it, but it was super interesting. Wow. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. Corona. What intrusive thoughts are you currently battling with?
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Well, I'm not going to lie today when we were at that wrestling class. I was like, I feel bad for whoever, like after we train extensively doing this wrestling thing for a couple of years. I feel bad whoever tries to come and cross me, man.
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Even if you're in the house, you're slippery as hell, bro. For me, man, it's just like kicking inanimate objects. Like right now, just throughout my day, this happens to me all the time I work. We have the elevator. There's a lot of stuff.
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all the time all the time and that's just one example like so many like it's yeah it's just like that's silly yeah what would be the hardest part about living with you uh-huh
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a few ideas come to mind. Yeah. Just hearing me scream into the mic, he's one, he's one HP, he's one HP. Let's go boys. Yeah, man. What about you? The hardest part about living with me
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I think the hardest part about living with me is that I like my alone time too much. So, like, I may not want you to be in the room, dog. Like, I kind of like my space. Yeah. So, that's... Nice. Yeah. Okay. What scares you the most about yourself? What scares me the most about myself? Well, these days, it's...
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these days what scares me and boasts about myself is that it's like sin related. It's like, I, I'm, I know there's like sins that I really want to try and stay away from as much as possible. But I also know in the shaitan waswastu, you know, shaitan go, you know, like he's tricky, tricky, slippery. T-t-t-t. Um, so yeah, it's just like,
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My faith slipping, I guess. Okay. Yeah. In any way, that scares me a little bit. What about you? How charismatic I am. It's kind of scary. Scary. Yeah, yeah. It scares me. Scary hours. It scares me all the time, man. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Am I going to start a cult? I don't know. Oh, yeah. It's tough. It's hard out here, man. Nobody takes me serious. I'm so charismatic. It sucks. Yeah.
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is it you or me? No, it's you. It's your last one. What insecurity comes up the most? See, the weight recently. It's putting on weight. Just a little secure about that. Same. But I got broad shoulders, so ain't no tag. Yeah, you know what? Same too.
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literally bro like you're like oh man and then you put on a t-shirt and it just sits really nice and you're just like yeah it works all right i can go double xl add another x um yeah i'm i'm alhamdulillah i think i'm in a place now as i should be i'm in my mid-30s where my insecurities are very quiet
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Yeah. They're very quiet. You're right. They come just every now and then. And you know what? Most times, you can either... I don't even catch it. Yeah, nothing like any worst case scenario. Like, wherever the next prayer is, it's gone by then. So, alhamdulillah. Yeah. Alhamdulillah.
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There's one last question Wild card Ask the wildest question To any person of your choice I assume there's only two of us Well, there's four of us actually But they're not They're not They're not They're not They're not They're not
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Like, you know, I did have a random question for you. What motivates you? I was talking to someone the other day and we were talking about, so she has a, she has a, she has a business and we were just talking about like what motivates us to keep going with when things get hard.
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I think now being married, it's just, you got to take care. There's somebody you got to take care of. Yeah. Not that you need me to take care of, but like, you just told me. But also another thing, man, I,
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leaving an impact, like leaving a positive legacy. There's something like sustainable, something like, you know, somehow, because of something I did, or I, you know, that really, that'll keep me going. Yeah, it'll keep you going, man. My answer was very similar to the question. Not about impact and legacy, but kind of, because I get motivated off of like other people benefiting from things I do. Yeah. Not me benefiting from things that I do.
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I mean, that's a beautiful way to think about it, man, because it's like, I guess, inshallah, I'm hoping that's always the case, but I'm trying to have like a in a way or something. It's something that's like, I'm gone, but like that thing is still benefiting. It's still benefiting people, still doing something, so...
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That's amazing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Amen. Allahum usulhna waj'ala mimman yusulh. Ameen. There you go. That's the theme song. That's going to be, that's the theme of the show for sure. I think that's confirmed now. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But yeah, man, another great episode. Thank you guys for tuning in. Appreciate y'all. Make sure you like, comment, subscribe. Share all of it. Share for the good.
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