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Networkers selling digital medical marketing for networkers directly, network marketing, in LM for anything else I'll learn the skills for the how to in the mindset to make it work from the author of over 20 best-selling books and over 25 years in the business.
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Here's your host, Pete Strider.
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If you want your subconscious mind to start working in your favor and motivating you automatically, this episode is for you.
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What if tomorrow morning you said, I want to be a little bit more active, I want to get in better shape, nothing extreme, nothing that costs a lot of money, nothing that's gonna make me sore for two weeks.
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I just want to get a little bit more active.
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And he said, I don't want to have to join a gym or drive somewhere to do anything crazy.
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I just want to do something right out of my house.
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And you said, you know what?
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I can probably walk a mile.
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And if your goal was to walk a mile, how would you do it?
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You could, you know, walk in circles around the neighborhood or around wherever you live, or you say, you know what, I'm gonna make it super easy, make it totally foolproof.
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I'm going to walk a half mile, and then I'm gonna turn around and I'm gonna walk the same half mile going back.
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Two halves make a hole.
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Pretty simple.
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I can't mess this up.
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Just walk a half mile, turn around, walk back.
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Easy.
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And you do it, and you're successful.
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You're like, wow, I wasn't in a hurry, it wasn't that hard on my body.
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In fact, the hardest part was kind of making the decision and putting on the shoes and really getting out the door, it was the hardest part.
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And after I started walking, it wasn't really that hard because I walked before, and yeah, easy.
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Walked a mile, awesome.
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And even better, you said, tomorrow I'm gonna do the exact same thing.
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I'm gonna repeat.
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You got it done the first day, tomorrow you get it done.
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In fact, you kind of know exactly where to turn around.
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You you put the shoes by the door, we made it just a little bit easier.
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You weren't in a rush, you just said, Yeah, I just want to walk a half mile, walk back.
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It felt good.
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So the third day, you said, Yeah, easy, let's let's do this, let's let's keep this going.
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I know I can do it.
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Let's go.
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And you walk the half mile, you turn around, and you look towards going home, and you realize there are some clouds.
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In fact, they're not even clouds, they're really kind of gray, getting darker gray.
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The more you're looking at the clouds, you're like this uh this could be rain, or this could be a tornado, or this could be a thunderstorm, or I don't know what's going on, but I need to walk just a little bit faster going home.
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So instead of walking, let's say it took you 30 minutes to walk the mile.
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This day, where there was just a little bit of unknown, a little bit of friction, you said, uh, I need to go a little bit faster.
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So you actually walked it five minutes quicker instead of 30 minutes, it only took you 25 minutes.
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And you got back, you're like, Whew, I'm safe, no rain, I'm not sure when this rain's gonna hit, but I feel pretty good.
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In fact, going a little bit faster wasn't that hard.
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I wasn't didn't have to run, didn't have to, you know, concern myself too much, but I got it done, and I got it done just a little bit faster.
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A little bit more effort just because there was a little bit of friction or the little bit of something that could possibly go wrong made you go a little bit faster.
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Maybe it's a little bit of fear, the fear of the unknown, but you got it done, and it's the exact same in our business.
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Sometimes the hardest part is starting out, getting out the door, talking to people, creating conversations, and the next day it just gets easier, but we tend to go faster, and we tend to make our business take it a little bit more serious when there's some friction, when there's something bad, and and or the fear of something bad can happen.
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And I talk a lot with leaders that have built a business and always ask, you know, what made you decide to take your business to the next level, and it's most of the time it's the fear of something that could happen.
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Sometimes it is, yes, they want more out of life, but a lot of times it's the fear that something could happen, like the fear of losing the job, the fear of not having enough at the end of the month, the fear of oh, uh, the car needs to have some serious repairs, or I need to afford a new car, or I need to get out of this neighborhood, or I want more out of life.
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And I promised my spouse I'd take her on more vacations and I want to have more memories.
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And and it's just that that fear is what sometimes builds the business or makes you take the business a little bit more serious, talk to more people, stop worrying about what someone may say, take more chances.
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As long as we kind of learn some skills along the way, we tend to build business a little bit more faster when there's the fear of the unknown, or there's a fear of something that could happen.
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It may not happen, but it could happen.
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So it's a combination of something that could happen and a little bit of you want more out of life.
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It's normally a combination, but that fear or the fear of the unknown sometimes really kicks things into gear.
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So let's go back to our example of walking.
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If you're walking, you know you can walk a little bit faster.
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You say, you know what?
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I don't want to be a runner, I don't want to have to join a gym, I just want to go a little bit faster.
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You know, I know I could I could do it.
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You say, well, maybe I should get uh better shoes.
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And when you got better shoes, chances are well, it's it's less painful when you walk.
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You you get there faster.
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And it's the exact same in our business.
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Shoes are just like the skills in our business.
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When you learn more skills, things become a little bit easier, things become a little less painful, things become just I mean, just automatic.
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Like just it just feels good to build your business.
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So we gotta learn more skills.
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Let's go back to our our walking example.
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What if we want to get more gear?
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Like, you know, I need better socks, they're starting to uh chafe or make me feel uncomfortable, or maybe I need to get a water bottle because I realize that it's getting hotter outside and uh don't want something bad to happen, or you know, I need a hat because the sun is really making me squint, it's making me hurt my eyes, or you want to get some sunglasses, you just get just a little bit more gear, nothing extreme, nothing too expensive, just a little bit more.
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And it's the exact same in our business.
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The more tools that we have, or the more skills that we implement, it just becomes easier.
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You don't have to do it all at once, but you want to learn just a little bit more skills on a regular, consistent basis.
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Because you get there faster when you have more tools, when you have more skills, it's just a lot less stressful when you know more, when you could get over objections, when you could follow up, when you could pre-close, when all those skills start to build up and just becomes automatic.
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So think about the day that you joined your business.
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Was it five days ago, five months ago, five years ago, a decade ago?
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Let's just go with the median and say, let's say you joined the business five years ago.
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Chances are there's gonna be some good months and some plateaued months, or some months you haven't done anything, and there's some months that you've done so much you couldn't believe it, and you're so proud of yourself.
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It doesn't matter what's in the past, but look back five years ago and go, okay, some good, some neutral, some bad.
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What is the next five years of your business going to look like?
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Do you need friction to make you finally decide to build a business?
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Or do you need some internal motivation?
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So we can talk about that now.
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The skills are are honestly the easiest part.
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Everybody could read or listen to a book, implement the skill with some practice, and honestly, you don't need to master all the skills.
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In fact, most of the time, all you need are the four core skills to start building a business.
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I'll give you a free resource and I'll put the link in the episode notes.
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If you just get and read the free ebook, the Happy Network Marketer, that'll give you the start of the four core skills.
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Super, super simple.
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Everybody can do this.
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And most of the time when I have people actually use the resource, they go, wow, I didn't realize that this business could be so simple.
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I like the simplicity approach.
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I like the approach where people uh feel approachable, like they say it's a conversation, it's not some sort of stuffy presentation.
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That is always my goal teaching people to build a business is to keep things simple so people can actually duplicate.
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So, skills out of the way, in addition, we need some sort of internal motivation.
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I'll give you another resource, which is episode number 41, where I talk a little bit more about the goals and the color personality with the goals.
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I have the uh the goals book, which Why Are My Goals Not Working, which is ebook, audiobook, paperback book.
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And if you have no idea about the color personalities, I'll put a link there as well, bigupbooks.com slash colors, where we talk about the four different color personalities, what motivates them, what they want to hear, what they don't want to hear, what they want to focus on, what they don't want to focus on.
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And we've done that and we've turned it into a goals book.
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So you make sure that your goals are actually what motivates you.
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So many times we have goals that we hear from an event, or we hear from the television, or hear from social media commercials.
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We're like, oh, that's exciting, but it's really not exciting because it doesn't really match your color personality.
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So we'll put a link to that as well.
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But regardless, at least get at the very beginning the happy network marketer.
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But let's go into a deeper session about the color personality and the goals.
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In the book, I talk about the 14 different values.
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Now, some people talk about 20 values, some people talk about 30 values.
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I like to keep things simple and talk about the 14 values and the values in your life, in your business, or in I should say, in building your business, the values are what's really important to you.
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Or in other words, let's take our color personality and let's drill in deep as far as what is important to me that's going to give me the motivation to build my business, or to can you to continue to build my business, or to take my business up to the next level.
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So let's go through these really quick on the 14 different values.
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Again, it's in the book, but let's just you're here right now.
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Let's go through it right now.
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So, number one of the 14 values, number one is power.
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Do you like to be in charge?
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Do you like to have control?
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And as I'm going through these 14 values, if it's something that says, This is definitely me, write it down.
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If you say, Well, it could be me, write it down, put a question mark.
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And if it's not you, don't even write it down.
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We're trying to find out your values right now that will help give you more motivation.
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So, value number one is power.
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Value number two is kind of a green personality type thing.
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It's financial security.
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When you earn something in addition to your job or building the next pin level in your business, when you receive more money, do you tend to save it or invest it conservatively, or do you spend it?
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So, most people, if they like financial security, they tend to hoard it.
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Again, not a good, not a bad thing, just reality.
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I'm more of a save it, invest it conservatively type of person.
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So for me, financial security is very important.
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For other people, it may not be important.
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Again, it's all about you.
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So, value number three is the desire to be rich.
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Now, it's almost like the desire to look rich.
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You know, do you do you like to impress others?
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Do you like to be just a little bit flashier?
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Now, some people find this as a negative thing.
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I don't think it's a negative thing as all.
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We're all different, we all have different DNA.
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The desire to be or look rich is that important to you?
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And value number four, which is very similar, a little bit of a of a bridge there, is a di desire to look good.
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You know, is it you know, watching what you eat?
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You know, is is fitness important to you so you could look good?
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Or is it about how you dressed?
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Do you always make sure that you're dressed in a way that impresses others?
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Value number five is a loving or positive relationship with your partner.
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So who you live with or who you're close with, is that very important to you?
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Value number six, very close, is your family.
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Is that important to you?
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And some people say, Well, that's that's that's that's a no-brainer.
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Well, for some people, it's just not their focus right now.
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Like they're done with their family, maybe they're on to their friends, which is now their family, or maybe they live far away.
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Like again, is value number six family important to you?
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Value number seven, career fulfillment, and that can be in your job.
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So, network marketing, I always say, is not always the be-all end-all.
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Sometimes use network marketing so you can just bridge the financial gap because you love your job, you just need a little bit extra money.
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Or sometimes network marketing is to be able to create an extra income so you can quit your job and start something for yourself, even though this is your own business.
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You're like, you I always want to start a foundation, or always want to uh start uh a restaurant for some reason, and you like high stress and chance of failure being high.
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But you just never know.
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Like every career fulfillment, is that important to you?
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Yes or no?
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And as we've gone through seven of these, some people say, Well, all seven are important.
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We're just trying to find the most important ones for you.
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Again, write it down, and then you can look back at this later and go, What's what's really like my top three?
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What's what's really important to me?
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And that's what's gonna make me focus, give me the motivation or my subconscious to start building my business.
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Okay, number eight, desire to feel needed.
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Do you just like volunteering for everything that you can?
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Like, do you is uh is you like to be busy, you know, just you just like to feel desire to feel needed.
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Value number nine, personal enlightenment.
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Sometimes just stopping, looking up in the sky, looking up around the world, and just feeling enlightened, and just stop and go, wait, is this what's really important to me, or is there is there a higher purpose, or is there high purpose for life or for me, or what am I supposed to really be doing?
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Personal enlightenment number nine, number 10 for my blue personalities, adrenaline junkie.
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Now, that doesn't mean you're completely crazy.
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If you're if you're skydiving, yeah, there's less than a one-tenth of one percent chance of something even going remotely wrong, but just that the adrenaline of the fear that something, even if it's one half of one percent, could go wrong, is exciting to you, or you like to push your boundaries in a safe way, some people in an unsafe way, but just that adrenaline, that that fear of conquering something or conquering a fear or getting over something is exciting to you.
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Number value number 11, the aim for fame.
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Letting just some people being famous is more important than the money.
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I know that sounds weird for us green personalities, but for some people, it's important to them.
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Great, easy, and all these values, of course, we get all our business helps every single one of these.
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That's why we're talking about the values now is let's find what's important to us, and that's gonna give you that motivation to build your business.
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Uh, value number 12, very similar to number 11, which value number 12 is popularity, just knowing that people want to be around you or that want to connect you to you, popularity is a huge value for some people.
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Number 13, accomplishments, and this could range from daily goals to weekly goals to personal goals to a lot of times.
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Just the do you remember doing star charts as a kid where you get like a little star sticker?
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Sometimes just those small accomplishments can help feed the ego in a positive way to get the big accomplishments.
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Sometimes the big accomplishments are so big, you're like, I need some micro accomplishments to keep me motivated, knowing I could do small things that's gonna lead to a big thing at the end.
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And of course, the last one, number 14, is desire to have a good time, just having fun, being excited, just knowing that you're happy or entertained or just smile on your face, the desire to have a good time.
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Again, you some people have written all 14, like, oh, this is me.
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So look back and say, what are the three most important to me?
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Or even better, what is the most important one to me?
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Because that's what's going to give you that motivation by focusing on one of the values combined with a little bit of your color personality, even though the values are kind of within the color personality, helps give you that motivation to finally build a business, or to build the business and again, or to get rid of that plateau, or to take your business to the next level because you said, Yeah, I don't know if I could do this, but now you say, Oh, you know what?
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I do have that desire to have a good time, I do have that value of being popular, I do have that value of financial security.
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We all change, we all evolve.
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Sometimes some people do like they have the value, and it's it's good for when they're born to 100 years old.
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Easy.
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And sometimes we're like, well, you know, I used to want to be famous, now I just want financial security.
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Like things can evolve, things can change.
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What's important to us right now that's going to help motivate us to build our business?
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Again, the resources free.
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The Happy Network Marketer ebook, put a link.
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Episode number 41, where I talk a little bit more about color personality goals, which is free.
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I'll put a link, I'll put a link to the goals book, whether it's paperback, e-back, ebook, or audiobook.
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And again, uh, for most people, we already have it, but it's the core skills audio pack, which is super easy.
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And you don't need it right away.
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If you just want to start with a happy network market or ebook, that's gonna give you a great start.
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You could use right away.
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But either way, definitely check out the values, revisit them and go, what's important to me that's going to give me motivation and my subconscious could take over because I know that's what's important to me, and that's what's really going to help me build a business.
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Again, I hope you receive value in this episode.
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Here's your host, Pete Strider.
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If you want your subconscious mind to start working in your favor and motivating you automatically, this episode is for you.
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What if tomorrow morning you said, I want to be a little bit more active, I want to get in better shape, nothing extreme, nothing that costs a lot of money, nothing that's gonna make me sore for two weeks.
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I just want to get a little bit more active.
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And he said, I don't want to have to join a gym or drive somewhere to do anything crazy.
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I just want to do something right out of my house.
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And you said, you know what?
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I can probably walk a mile.
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And if your goal was to walk a mile, how would you do it?
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You could, you know, walk in circles around the neighborhood or around wherever you live, or you say, you know what, I'm gonna make it super easy, make it totally foolproof.
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I'm going to walk a half mile, and then I'm gonna turn around and I'm gonna walk the same half mile going back.
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Two halves make a hole.
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Pretty simple.
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I can't mess this up.
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Just walk a half mile, turn around, walk back.
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Easy.
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And you do it, and you're successful.
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You're like, wow, I wasn't in a hurry, it wasn't that hard on my body.
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In fact, the hardest part was kind of making the decision and putting on the shoes and really getting out the door, it was the hardest part.
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And after I started walking, it wasn't really that hard because I walked before, and yeah, easy.
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Walked a mile, awesome.
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And even better, you said, tomorrow I'm gonna do the exact same thing.
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I'm gonna repeat.
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You got it done the first day, tomorrow you get it done.
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In fact, you kind of know exactly where to turn around.
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You you put the shoes by the door, we made it just a little bit easier.
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You weren't in a rush, you just said, Yeah, I just want to walk a half mile, walk back.
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It felt good.
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So the third day, you said, Yeah, easy, let's let's do this, let's let's keep this going.
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I know I can do it.
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Let's go.
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And you walk the half mile, you turn around, and you look towards going home, and you realize there are some clouds.
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In fact, they're not even clouds, they're really kind of gray, getting darker gray.
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The more you're looking at the clouds, you're like this uh this could be rain, or this could be a tornado, or this could be a thunderstorm, or I don't know what's going on, but I need to walk just a little bit faster going home.
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So instead of walking, let's say it took you 30 minutes to walk the mile.
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This day, where there was just a little bit of unknown, a little bit of friction, you said, uh, I need to go a little bit faster.
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So you actually walked it five minutes quicker instead of 30 minutes, it only took you 25 minutes.
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And you got back, you're like, Whew, I'm safe, no rain, I'm not sure when this rain's gonna hit, but I feel pretty good.
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In fact, going a little bit faster wasn't that hard.
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I wasn't didn't have to run, didn't have to, you know, concern myself too much, but I got it done, and I got it done just a little bit faster.
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A little bit more effort just because there was a little bit of friction or the little bit of something that could possibly go wrong made you go a little bit faster.
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Maybe it's a little bit of fear, the fear of the unknown, but you got it done, and it's the exact same in our business.
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Sometimes the hardest part is starting out, getting out the door, talking to people, creating conversations, and the next day it just gets easier, but we tend to go faster, and we tend to make our business take it a little bit more serious when there's some friction, when there's something bad, and and or the fear of something bad can happen.
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And I talk a lot with leaders that have built a business and always ask, you know, what made you decide to take your business to the next level, and it's most of the time it's the fear of something that could happen.
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Sometimes it is, yes, they want more out of life, but a lot of times it's the fear that something could happen, like the fear of losing the job, the fear of not having enough at the end of the month, the fear of oh, uh, the car needs to have some serious repairs, or I need to afford a new car, or I need to get out of this neighborhood, or I want more out of life.
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And I promised my spouse I'd take her on more vacations and I want to have more memories.
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And and it's just that that fear is what sometimes builds the business or makes you take the business a little bit more serious, talk to more people, stop worrying about what someone may say, take more chances.
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As long as we kind of learn some skills along the way, we tend to build business a little bit more faster when there's the fear of the unknown, or there's a fear of something that could happen.
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It may not happen, but it could happen.
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So it's a combination of something that could happen and a little bit of you want more out of life.
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It's normally a combination, but that fear or the fear of the unknown sometimes really kicks things into gear.
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So let's go back to our example of walking.
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If you're walking, you know you can walk a little bit faster.
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You say, you know what?
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I don't want to be a runner, I don't want to have to join a gym, I just want to go a little bit faster.
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You know, I know I could I could do it.
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You say, well, maybe I should get uh better shoes.
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And when you got better shoes, chances are well, it's it's less painful when you walk.
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You you get there faster.
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And it's the exact same in our business.
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Shoes are just like the skills in our business.
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When you learn more skills, things become a little bit easier, things become a little less painful, things become just I mean, just automatic.
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Like just it just feels good to build your business.
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So we gotta learn more skills.
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Let's go back to our our walking example.
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What if we want to get more gear?
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Like, you know, I need better socks, they're starting to uh chafe or make me feel uncomfortable, or maybe I need to get a water bottle because I realize that it's getting hotter outside and uh don't want something bad to happen, or you know, I need a hat because the sun is really making me squint, it's making me hurt my eyes, or you want to get some sunglasses, you just get just a little bit more gear, nothing extreme, nothing too expensive, just a little bit more.
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And it's the exact same in our business.
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The more tools that we have, or the more skills that we implement, it just becomes easier.
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You don't have to do it all at once, but you want to learn just a little bit more skills on a regular, consistent basis.
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Because you get there faster when you have more tools, when you have more skills, it's just a lot less stressful when you know more, when you could get over objections, when you could follow up, when you could pre-close, when all those skills start to build up and just becomes automatic.
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So think about the day that you joined your business.
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Was it five days ago, five months ago, five years ago, a decade ago?
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Let's just go with the median and say, let's say you joined the business five years ago.
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Chances are there's gonna be some good months and some plateaued months, or some months you haven't done anything, and there's some months that you've done so much you couldn't believe it, and you're so proud of yourself.
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It doesn't matter what's in the past, but look back five years ago and go, okay, some good, some neutral, some bad.
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What is the next five years of your business going to look like?
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Do you need friction to make you finally decide to build a business?
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Or do you need some internal motivation?
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So we can talk about that now.
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The skills are are honestly the easiest part.
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Everybody could read or listen to a book, implement the skill with some practice, and honestly, you don't need to master all the skills.
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In fact, most of the time, all you need are the four core skills to start building a business.
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I'll give you a free resource and I'll put the link in the episode notes.
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If you just get and read the free ebook, the Happy Network Marketer, that'll give you the start of the four core skills.
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Super, super simple.
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Everybody can do this.
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And most of the time when I have people actually use the resource, they go, wow, I didn't realize that this business could be so simple.
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I like the simplicity approach.
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I like the approach where people uh feel approachable, like they say it's a conversation, it's not some sort of stuffy presentation.
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That is always my goal teaching people to build a business is to keep things simple so people can actually duplicate.
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So, skills out of the way, in addition, we need some sort of internal motivation.
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I'll give you another resource, which is episode number 41, where I talk a little bit more about the goals and the color personality with the goals.
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I have the uh the goals book, which Why Are My Goals Not Working, which is ebook, audiobook, paperback book.
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And if you have no idea about the color personalities, I'll put a link there as well, bigupbooks.com slash colors, where we talk about the four different color personalities, what motivates them, what they want to hear, what they don't want to hear, what they want to focus on, what they don't want to focus on.
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And we've done that and we've turned it into a goals book.
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So you make sure that your goals are actually what motivates you.
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So many times we have goals that we hear from an event, or we hear from the television, or hear from social media commercials.
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We're like, oh, that's exciting, but it's really not exciting because it doesn't really match your color personality.
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So we'll put a link to that as well.
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But regardless, at least get at the very beginning the happy network marketer.
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But let's go into a deeper session about the color personality and the goals.
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In the book, I talk about the 14 different values.
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Now, some people talk about 20 values, some people talk about 30 values.
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I like to keep things simple and talk about the 14 values and the values in your life, in your business, or in I should say, in building your business, the values are what's really important to you.
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Or in other words, let's take our color personality and let's drill in deep as far as what is important to me that's going to give me the motivation to build my business, or to can you to continue to build my business, or to take my business up to the next level.
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So let's go through these really quick on the 14 different values.
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Again, it's in the book, but let's just you're here right now.
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Let's go through it right now.
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So, number one of the 14 values, number one is power.
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Do you like to be in charge?
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Do you like to have control?
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And as I'm going through these 14 values, if it's something that says, This is definitely me, write it down.
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If you say, Well, it could be me, write it down, put a question mark.
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And if it's not you, don't even write it down.
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We're trying to find out your values right now that will help give you more motivation.
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So, value number one is power.
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Value number two is kind of a green personality type thing.
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It's financial security.
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When you earn something in addition to your job or building the next pin level in your business, when you receive more money, do you tend to save it or invest it conservatively, or do you spend it?
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So, most people, if they like financial security, they tend to hoard it.
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Again, not a good, not a bad thing, just reality.
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I'm more of a save it, invest it conservatively type of person.
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So for me, financial security is very important.
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For other people, it may not be important.
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Again, it's all about you.
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So, value number three is the desire to be rich.
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Now, it's almost like the desire to look rich.
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You know, do you do you like to impress others?
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Do you like to be just a little bit flashier?
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Now, some people find this as a negative thing.
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I don't think it's a negative thing as all.
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We're all different, we all have different DNA.
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The desire to be or look rich is that important to you?
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And value number four, which is very similar, a little bit of a of a bridge there, is a di desire to look good.
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You know, is it you know, watching what you eat?
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You know, is is fitness important to you so you could look good?
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Or is it about how you dressed?
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Do you always make sure that you're dressed in a way that impresses others?
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Value number five is a loving or positive relationship with your partner.
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So who you live with or who you're close with, is that very important to you?
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Value number six, very close, is your family.
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Is that important to you?
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And some people say, Well, that's that's that's that's a no-brainer.
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Well, for some people, it's just not their focus right now.
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Like they're done with their family, maybe they're on to their friends, which is now their family, or maybe they live far away.
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Like again, is value number six family important to you?
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Value number seven, career fulfillment, and that can be in your job.
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So, network marketing, I always say, is not always the be-all end-all.
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Sometimes use network marketing so you can just bridge the financial gap because you love your job, you just need a little bit extra money.
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Or sometimes network marketing is to be able to create an extra income so you can quit your job and start something for yourself, even though this is your own business.
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You're like, you I always want to start a foundation, or always want to uh start uh a restaurant for some reason, and you like high stress and chance of failure being high.
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But you just never know.
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Like every career fulfillment, is that important to you?
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Yes or no?
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And as we've gone through seven of these, some people say, Well, all seven are important.
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We're just trying to find the most important ones for you.
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Again, write it down, and then you can look back at this later and go, What's what's really like my top three?
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What's what's really important to me?
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And that's what's gonna make me focus, give me the motivation or my subconscious to start building my business.
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Okay, number eight, desire to feel needed.
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Do you just like volunteering for everything that you can?
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Like, do you is uh is you like to be busy, you know, just you just like to feel desire to feel needed.
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Value number nine, personal enlightenment.
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Sometimes just stopping, looking up in the sky, looking up around the world, and just feeling enlightened, and just stop and go, wait, is this what's really important to me, or is there is there a higher purpose, or is there high purpose for life or for me, or what am I supposed to really be doing?
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Personal enlightenment number nine, number 10 for my blue personalities, adrenaline junkie.
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Now, that doesn't mean you're completely crazy.
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If you're if you're skydiving, yeah, there's less than a one-tenth of one percent chance of something even going remotely wrong, but just that the adrenaline of the fear that something, even if it's one half of one percent, could go wrong, is exciting to you, or you like to push your boundaries in a safe way, some people in an unsafe way, but just that adrenaline, that that fear of conquering something or conquering a fear or getting over something is exciting to you.
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Number value number 11, the aim for fame.
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Letting just some people being famous is more important than the money.
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I know that sounds weird for us green personalities, but for some people, it's important to them.
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Great, easy, and all these values, of course, we get all our business helps every single one of these.
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That's why we're talking about the values now is let's find what's important to us, and that's gonna give you that motivation to build your business.
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Uh, value number 12, very similar to number 11, which value number 12 is popularity, just knowing that people want to be around you or that want to connect you to you, popularity is a huge value for some people.
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Number 13, accomplishments, and this could range from daily goals to weekly goals to personal goals to a lot of times.
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Just the do you remember doing star charts as a kid where you get like a little star sticker?
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Sometimes just those small accomplishments can help feed the ego in a positive way to get the big accomplishments.
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Sometimes the big accomplishments are so big, you're like, I need some micro accomplishments to keep me motivated, knowing I could do small things that's gonna lead to a big thing at the end.
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And of course, the last one, number 14, is desire to have a good time, just having fun, being excited, just knowing that you're happy or entertained or just smile on your face, the desire to have a good time.
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Again, you some people have written all 14, like, oh, this is me.
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So look back and say, what are the three most important to me?
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Or even better, what is the most important one to me?
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Because that's what's going to give you that motivation by focusing on one of the values combined with a little bit of your color personality, even though the values are kind of within the color personality, helps give you that motivation to finally build a business, or to build the business and again, or to get rid of that plateau, or to take your business to the next level because you said, Yeah, I don't know if I could do this, but now you say, Oh, you know what?
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I do have that desire to have a good time, I do have that value of being popular, I do have that value of financial security.
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We all change, we all evolve.
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Sometimes some people do like they have the value, and it's it's good for when they're born to 100 years old.
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Easy.
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And sometimes we're like, well, you know, I used to want to be famous, now I just want financial security.
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Like things can evolve, things can change.
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What's important to us right now that's going to help motivate us to build our business?
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Again, the resources free.
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The Happy Network Marketer ebook, put a link.
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Episode number 41, where I talk a little bit more about color personality goals, which is free.
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I'll put a link, I'll put a link to the goals book, whether it's paperback, e-back, ebook, or audiobook.
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And again, uh, for most people, we already have it, but it's the core skills audio pack, which is super easy.
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And you don't need it right away.
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If you just want to start with a happy network market or ebook, that's gonna give you a great start.
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You could use right away.
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But either way, definitely check out the values, revisit them and go, what's important to me that's going to give me motivation and my subconscious could take over because I know that's what's important to me, and that's what's really going to help me build a business.
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Again, I hope you receive value in this episode.
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If you'd like to share this with somebody that could receive value, we always appreciate it.
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But more importantly, looking forward to sharing another episode with another successful networker next week.
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Thanks for visiting the Networker Zone.
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