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Joseph Vivaldi Podcast. I'm here with guest Willie Blake, who
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is who is dealt with dyslasia through his life and
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now is a high performance coach. So Willie take it away, No.
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Joe, I appreciate it. Thank you for letting me join
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you today on your show.
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Oh, no problem. So could you tell me about your
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early days with dyslasia and how it shaped you to
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becoming a high performance coach today?
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Yeah? Of course. So I was diagnosed back around the
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first grade.
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Where and of those who don't know what dyslexia is
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it affects reading specifically, because there's a lot of umbrella
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things like dys calcula, dyscrapia, but basically reading, speaking, math,
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anything that has to do with information process in your
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mind that goes under the umbrella dyslexia. For me specifically,
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reading and speaking were really hard. So throughout elementary and
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middle and high school.
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You can just make the assumption that in a school
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system that was built to be able to memorize text
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and to do everything based off of the paper that
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was in front of you, it was pretty hard.
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I am a hands.
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On visual learner, and so trying to just read the
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history textbook of what happened in eighteen forty two or whatever,
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it's just like I either had to have someone else
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to read it or I just felt the test.
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I had I had. I had my own ausair share
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of learning disability. It wasn't dislikech you, but like I
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just couldn't grasp the main idea, the supporting ideas, and
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like all that other stuff. It was. It was tough
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for me until later in life.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, And that's sadly, that's how a lot of people
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it felt as they grew up is that there's the
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system and it's just it's just the way that it
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started was it was built to be able to produce workers.
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And so now there hasn't really been much change to that.
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And so for minds of neurodivergent people who it could
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be dyslexia, it could be ADHD, autism, OCD, there's a
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whole line of them. It doesn't really fit us because
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we're more creative, we're more energetic, we get out there,
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we're able to focus on like one thing really well.
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And for a system where it's just like you just
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have to memory this in this grade and next grade,
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learn this and this, that systematic just didn't work for
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a lot of us.
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So how did you catapult yourself from dyslexia and then
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going onto the path of like high performance coach? Like,
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how did that transformation happen?
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Yeah, So it all started with a YouTube video. Funny enough,
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it was for those who are listening, if you know
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Grant cardone the whole big sales he calls them down
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the sales King.
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I watched his video. It was five Ways to be.
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A Millionaire, and I'm like cool, Still one of my
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favorite thirty minute videos.
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By the way.
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But that led to this other guy named Evan Carmichael
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who goes into these top ten rules of success. And
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I watched his videos and he does like Tony Robbins
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for Winfrey and Bill Gates. Yeah, and and so I
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started watching those, like what are people's ten rules of success?
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And that kind of started to change my mind.
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And everything wasn't black and white, but there's a lot
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of gray area.
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So when I finally thought dyslexia to put into.
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That learning, I'm like, is dyslexia really that bad like
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everyone says it is? Of course there's the challenge with
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the reading and the speaking, but is there any good
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to it?
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And as I researched.
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It and looked it up, absolutely, We're more creative, We're
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able to be more empathetic because we've had to deal
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with so.
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Much in our life.
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We're great at perspective and thinking outside the books and
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problem solving and it's just like, these are really cool
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things to have in a world in which you need
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those more than the others. And so that led to, well,
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now I know both sides. I know the good, I
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know the bad. Now I get to decide which one
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to focus on, and I chose to focus on the
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good side.
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Transformation, was me now opening up my mind to possibility,
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and that possibility helped turn just wants that I had
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just these desires to then dedication of wow, I really
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want these How do I start? How do I turn
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those dreams into goals? And then that did the dedication
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into discipline of okay, now let's just start, let's just
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start doing something.
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Let's open.
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One of the goals I had back then was to
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read twelve books in the year. It was going to
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the bookshelf, picking a book and reading chapter.
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One, and that's what I started with because I was
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slow reading.
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That's what I started with, but it led to twelve
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and then that twelve led to then forty and fifty
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books in the year, and I'm like, it's incredible. And
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so that's kind of the journey that it took as
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I read the We're Ad fifty sixty books in a year, two,
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then being an author, to then speaking on stages and
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start my podcast, and then starting a coaching business. I
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wish I would have had someone to help me out
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as a resource as an adult, and so now I
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don't want people to go through that same those same
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pains I did.
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So I'm a resource for other people.
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Yeah, I know, I started. I started like ten years
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ago with with my stuff, and like no one helped
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me out, and no one taught me like anything, and
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I had to figure out things myself. So I understand
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where you're coming from with that.
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Yeah, a lot of us too, A lot of us
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have to do that because the system wasn't built for us.
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It was built for the technical term could be neurotypicals,
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but just like the average person, but neurodivergence like us,
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we just we don't fit in that system.
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So we have to figure it out ourselves.
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Yeah, I mean I was like me, I went through school,
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but like you know, the school that I went through,
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like was geared up for sociology or psychology and stuff
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like that. It wasn't geared up towards English or math
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or subject like that. I mean, I wasn't like English.
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I was. I was like a whole basic skills.
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Yeah, and it feels like you're it feels like you're behind.
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It feels like you're always trying to catch up to
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what this perceived of average is that we have to
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put it. We have to put in so much more
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work than other people do simply because.
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Our brain is wired differently and something we didn't ask for.
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But we just always feel like we're in ketchup mode,
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feeling potentially broken and I'm behind simply because of whatever
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neurodive urgency that we have.
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I mean that that brings up another point that I
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was thinking about. It was early childhood, because that's when
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our thing, that's when our beliefs develop. Because like I mean,
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I'm thinking, like you know, we're always in a ketchup mode.
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We we don't even know where we might be ahead,
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but we're still in that perceived thought of ketchup mode
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based on early childhood. So can you talk about that
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a little bit?
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Absolutely is trying to catch up in childhood you think
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of just if you think of habits that we have today,
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and let's just go with like the bad the quote
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unquote bad habits.
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That we have that we want to get rid of,
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that we set new Year's resolutions to not have.
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Yeah, those ones, there are a lot, there are times
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to where those have been habits for that and so
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feeling behind as a kid, of feeling that you always
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are trying to catch up all of a sudden that oh,
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you're reading grade level is one behind to then the
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next year now it's two. And then as you get
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into eighth grade, oh now you're still at like a
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fourth grade reading level.
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It's like, how how do I even catch up?
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There is now so much gap between where people expect
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me to be and where I'm.
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So then as a kid, you can just imagine the
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thoughts to go through their head of fear of well,
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I'm not going to be able to amount to anything.
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You look at the grades, and what do parents usually
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go towards. They don't look at the a's and be like, oh,
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you did so great. They look at the.
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C's, the d's, and the s and say, hey.
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We need to improve, we need to work on this,
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and don't even say anything about the A grades. So
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in our heads we're thinking, well, I put in all
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this effort to get an A in this one class
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or potentially all the classes except one, but my parents
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are focused on this f Well maybe I'm maybe I'm
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just a broken kid, and maybe I shouldn't even try.
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So kids stop trying.
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last decades to where hours we're adults, we see other
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people who we.
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Members in our church congregations, or coworkers in our jobs
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who are doing things that we want, and we're like,
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we'll set a new year's goal for it.
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Two weeks in, it falls back down, and.
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Then we add even more shame and more guilt on
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because that's what we've experienced in the past.
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up layer to layer.
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I mean, I mean, like I just want to add
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this story because you know, I was just watching a
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documentary of Bruno sam Martino, professional wrestler, like he survived
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Nazi Germany and like everything else that was going on there.
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He showed up to school in America, he was a
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scrowny little kid, like they were all picking on him
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and stuff like that. And then his asset that he
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was doing was he was just weightlifting, like getting himself stronger,
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like building his mind, weightlifting, building his body. And then
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he he was like I think benched five hundred and
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sixty five pounds, which is unheard of it in the day,
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and then eventually went into wrestling, like I mean that
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that's just a success story of somebody who you know,
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goes through difficulties at an age.
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Yeah, and it comes down to the because all of
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us have that, we just need to uncover it.
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We have those.
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Moments to where they could have transformed us either into
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the hero in our life or the.
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Villain in our life. And the thing that.
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I always love to share with people is that it's
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never too late to be the hero, even if you've
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been a villain.
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You think of that.
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I don't think Disney put it out, but that kid's
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movie Mega Mind the Blue Head. He started out as
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just a kid but then went to being the super.
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Villain that he was. But by the end of.
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The movie spoiler alert, I guess for those who haven't
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seen it been out for fifteen.
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Ish years, it's he turns into the hero and everyone
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loves him.
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And I love that narrative that they've made in that movie,
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because you can be the villain and doing bad things,
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but it's never too late to be the hero. It's
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never too late to say to go from I've been hurt,
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so I'm going to hurt other people too. I've been
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hurt and so I'm going to help and make sure
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nobody else gets hurt.
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It's never too late.
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Yeah. I mean it's like anyone who's been in the
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villain mindset like and then transforms, they're like more in
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the protective mode. They're like protecting others from getting hurt.
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Like at least that's that's how I feel with going
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through whatever I go through. It's like I'm like for
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my significant other, like I make sure like she doesn't
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stir in the wrong direction, and like she uh, she focuses,
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she does what she needs to do because she goes
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through struggles as well as like I do. I mean,
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we're we're there for each other.
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Yeah, and that it's great to have those people around
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us who regardless of our mistakes and failures.
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Yeah. Yeah, But that that leads me to another question.
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I gotta ask. Hold on one second, I gotta I
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got my uh, I got my cheat sheets here.
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I love it. I love it.
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You ever feel like anxiety is the uninvited roommate who
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eats all your snacks, rearranges your furniture, and then judges you. Yeah,
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me too. I'm Joseph Evaldian. With my co author Thomas Pecorino,
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we wrote Coping and recover from anxiety, not as gurus
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with all the answers, but as real people who've lived
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this messy, persistent, sometimes hilariously ridiculous journey. This book isn't
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about quick fixes or or breathe breath work, even though
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there is breathing that makes you feel worse before it
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makes you feel better. It's about you, your story, your
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nervous system, your winds, and your setbacks. We make science
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with honess, reflection and tools that actually work when your
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brain feels like it's un Espresso three am. We talk
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real symptoms, real coping strategies, and that awkward moment when
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you're in a critic shows up to the party wearing
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your childhood drum trauma. If you're ready to stop just
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surviving anxiety and start understanding it, this is your companion
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more than advice, support, more than theory, practical daily tools,
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pick up coping recovering from anxiety, and let let's take
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this step together. You've got more strength than you know
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and this book is one of the flashlights for the
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path ahead. What question was I going to ask, like,
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what are some of the biggest mind traps that hold
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people back? And how do we break free? From them.
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Yeah, great question, some of the ones that I experienced
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with myself as well as the clients that I worked with.
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The first thing is thinking that your difference is your
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disadvantage when it's actually the thing that can leverage you
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the most. So a lot of the people I work
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with is professionals entrepreneurs, So when it comes to jobs
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and careers, that's usually a topic that we jump to.
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In people's careers, they feel like they always need a
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secondhand or someone with them to help them out, and
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they're always scared to go for that promotion because they
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feel like they have been a burden on other people
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for not achieving the same amount of stuff as someone else,
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simply because it's hard for them to read the email
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or the memo, or to type up the one sheet
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to send out for the clients or the contract.
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Just because you're not good at one or two things
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doesn't mean that everything else that you're bad at, and
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actually is probably the reverse, Just because you're bad at
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one or two things actually means that you're great in
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so many other things. Because earlier we talked about some
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of the advantages with just like problem solving, of creativity,
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of communication. Because of those, you can really do some
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great things and get the promotion and start your business
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and make more money simply by tapping more into that
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to focusing on that, how do I communicate better because
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we can do that, how do I be more creative?
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How do I take more time out of.
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Having to do the nuts and bolts of the business
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and more into being creative and coming up with ideas
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that give the solutions to the problems that we face.
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We're so great at coming up with solutions to problems
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because our point A to point B is blocked. We
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have to go route C or Route D or all
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the way to Q before we come back.
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To the destination.
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seeing that instead of there's just this one path, this
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one way to learn, there's multiple and then you can
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weigh each of them, and most of the time taking
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a different path gets you a better result. And so
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in business and your career it can really be a
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great advantage. But that mindset of being a disadvantage, that's
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usually one of the biggest hurdles that people face and
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what really helps them out the most when they see it.
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Then the second one, I would say, would be overthinking.
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Would call analysis paralysis, to where there is so much
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going on with their thoughts and the tasks that they
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have to do on their to do list that they
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don't even know what to start, and so being able
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to pick one. Just pick one of them that you
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can do today and forget the rest.
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You can do more if you want, but just forget
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the rest, no expectation to any of them.
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Just pick one thing, and when you do one thing
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each day, it starts to build and eventually you get
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the result that you want.
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YEA, Oh, sorry, sorry that I'm sorry to cut you off.
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But that's where I go through a lot, Like I
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have like so many tasks on my to do list.
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It's like where do I start? Where do I focus on? Yeah?
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I've done and my clients is to pick one thing,
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just what would be a good one to get done today,
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and then just set that.
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That is why I'm going to get done today. Everything
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else can be an added bonus.
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so surprised that all of a sudden, your to do
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list that has probably one hundred things on it, if
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you're like me, starts.
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To go to ninety nine, then ninety eight, and.
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Then to eighty and then fifty two, and then all
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of a sudden you're down to single digits on your
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to do list. And it all started from just doing
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one thing each day, because doing one thing is always
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going to be better than doing zero things, and that's where.
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A lot of people get caught up.
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So picking one thing is the solution to when people
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are stuck overthinking and don't know what to what to
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start with.
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Speaking speaking of overthinking, I have one good question ask, Okay,
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what would you tell someone who may do that overthinking
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and then they suffer a little bit from imposter syndrome
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because I go through that a little bit like they
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may have accomplished so much, and then they're thinking in
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their mind they were thinking whatever I did was crap.
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So like, I mean, I don't think that that much.
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I appreciate whatever I did, But a lot of people
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may go through that.
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Yes, and let me I'll say it in more terms
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that might resonate some more with listeners. It feels that
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we can if we're sitting with our best friends and
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they're going through something.
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We can give them advice, and we know that it's
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good advice.
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But then for some reason, once it gets past our
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friends or past our family members and then gets applied
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to us, all of a sudden, it's just like that
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ain't gonna work for me, because we're there's this weird filter,
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this weird barrier between everybody else.
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If you do this, it'll work, but if I do it, it won't.
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And then even when it comes to accomplishments that we've done,
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we feel that if someone else has done something that
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we haven't done, that that is an amazing thing and
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we praise it. But if we do something that is awesome,
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well then that's just considered average and everybody can do it.
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We got to break that.
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We have to shatter that thought that what we're doing
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is just average and that everybody can do it, because
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they can't.
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Everybody can't do everything that we're doing. And it's because of.
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The small little things that we do each day, the
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habits that make us unique individuals. And it's those unique
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individuals and the habits that we build and the actions.
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That we take and even going into.
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Our like the thoughts that we have and the passions
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that we share the heart of why we do it.
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That's what makes us unique and that is amazingly awesome.
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So it's that barrier between us we feel that it's
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average if we can do it, which it's not. We
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have to jump outside of ourselves and think, well, what
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is the actual reality of it, because it's our emotions
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that are saying that it's average, but outside it's not.
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We're actually doing some pretty great things. And one of
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a really nice way to be able to start doing
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that is to start whenever you have a thought of
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doing something, shorten the gap between thought.
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And the action that you take.
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Because sometimes we have the thought and we moll over it.
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We got to create this perfect plan and then once
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it seems like it's perfect, well we can go a
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little bit deeper. But then we never start, and then
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if we do start, it's like two years later. It's
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that thing of it takes us two years to do
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the first step and then two minutes to do the
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next one. It's just because we got If we shorten
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that time limit between thought and action, that helps to
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build our confidence because we're listening to ourselves. We're starting
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to trust our gut and trust our intuition that the
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thoughts that we have are good ones. And the way
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to do that is to us to physically start bringing
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it into the world. Whether that's if we're trying to
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lose weight doing one push up or one crunch. If
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we're trying to earn more money, that's just going out
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and could be learning about sales, or going and talking
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to our manager or boss or a new client. If
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you have like a coaching business, about jumping on with
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the program or getting that promotion. It's like, what's that
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natural next step that helps boost our confidence to help.
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Us not have that imposter syndrome.
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I mean, I mean for me, you know, what does it?
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I mean, whenever I think of stuff I do in
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the past tense, you know, it doesn't resonate me. But
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I think of the future. I think of what will
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future me think about this when I accomplish this, Like
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it's like the big picture. That's what I look at
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because I know, like it's like, if I have something
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to work towards, it's like I feel that it'll it'll
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just make sense.
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Yeah, because if it's nothing to work towards, why would
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we change in the first place.
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Right, Yeah, and chill, dude.
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I love that.
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I love that thinking about the future of Sometimes thinking
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about the past doesn't ignite a fire within us or
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make us want to do something, but man, thinking about
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the future what we can't create, jumping into our imagination
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and being detailed and just being like, wow, I can
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see the house that I want, I can see the
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podcast that has one hundred episodes, I can see those
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the extra zero in my bank account.
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Well, then that gets us exciting.
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Yeah, I love that.
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I love that.
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I mean it's like think, it's like I think it's
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like you're like it's like when when my significant other
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of my family say, oh, you're you're building a legacy,
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I'm thinking of myself. I'm thinking, yeah, I'm building legacy.
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But I'm not in the past. Now. I'm like forty
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something years old. I got a lot more to go.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, you've already written chapter one through forty and now
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you're just writing the rest.
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Yeah yeah, awesome, But we're at the twenty five minute mark.
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You want to do more of this or like, you
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want to do any more? Like I'm just asking you, Yeah,
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what's your time.
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Like and like, yeah, we can we can go for
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a few more minutes if you have another question or two.
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Yeah, Actually I wanted to say, like, what if we're
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wrapping up soon, what's your final words you like to say,
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like to the listeners, like in uh, like if you
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had to tell them something that was very grand right
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now in propelling them to the future and propelling them
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to their goals. I know you briefly discussed on one
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thing a day, but how would you tell them to
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get into that mindset where they're thinking of one thing
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a day and not to get overwhelmed.
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Yeah, I would say this.
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To them for you who is listening, who, just like
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Joe described, is feeling that, like you say, what will
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you say this one thing?
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Like how do I even come up to this one thing?
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I feel like I'm still on step zero of trying
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to figure out what I want.
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I would say this to you. Start on step zero.
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Start asking yourself.
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The question what is it that you want? What do
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you actually want? Not the judgment from the parents or
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the in laws, not the thoughts that you have from
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the coworkers or the strangers who.
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Are on social media, Just like.
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What is it that you have wanted? A great way
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is think about as a kid. What did you want
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as a kid? Did you want to be an astronaut?
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Did you want to be a Pokemon master? Did you
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want to be a chef? Right next to Gordon Ramsey, Like,
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what is it that you wanted?
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What do you want?
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Start with that step zero and you start getting and
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I can tell you what's going to happen.
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You're going to start getting that kid energy again when.
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You think about those things that from inside of you
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have been covered for years, but now you're just like, well,
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it'd be really cool to be an author.
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Man, It'd be really cool to write a or in
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a kid's book. Man.
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It would be really nice to be able to learn
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how to cook my mom's famous meal that every time
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I go to her house just always puts a smile
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on my face. Man, it'd be really cool to catch
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a four star and Pokemon Go. That'd be like ideal
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for those who know Pokemon Go. You'll get the reference,
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but it's just like what is it.
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That you want?
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And you'll get that kit energy, You'll get a smile
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on your face and you'll start feeling it inside of
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you that there are possibilities and it's those possibilities that
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then lead to well, we could figure out one thing
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to do.
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So ask yourself that question, what is.
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It that you want and let those possibilities start flooding.
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It sounds like a nice sounds like a nice place
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to close on. That's good to me. I'll tell you
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that this this is a really good podcast today.
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I'm glad we had this conversation.
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I thought it was really nice as well.
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You covered a lot of major major points. I feel
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the listeners will listening and dress whatever you have to say.
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And is there any last thing that you want to
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plug before we exit off to this podcast.
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Well, a gift, if I may, for your audience is
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I've written a really short ebook called break Free that
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goes over twelve limitations that we have in.
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Our life and how to break them.
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These are ones that I've struggled with to then we
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just wanted to help other people. So if that anyone
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who's listening, if you want to break free from limitation
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and start finding.
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Those possible.
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Go to my website coach Willie Blake dot com and
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just right at the top, it'll be right there for
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people to click on and grab.
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And that's just that's just my gift for everybody who's
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listening because you're awesome. Know that you're awesome, and start
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making those possibilities.
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All right, woll Willie, thank you for being on the
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podcast again. This is Joseph Vivaldi with the Joseph Vivaldi Podcast,
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signing out and have a good day for the pops discusses,
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is who is dealt with dyslasia through his life and
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now is a high performance coach. So Willie take it away, No.
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Joe, I appreciate it. Thank you for letting me join
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you today on your show.
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Oh, no problem. So could you tell me about your
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early days with dyslasia and how it shaped you to
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becoming a high performance coach today?
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Yeah? Of course. So I was diagnosed back around the
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first grade.
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Where and of those who don't know what dyslexia is
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it affects reading specifically, because there's a lot of umbrella
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things like dys calcula, dyscrapia, but basically reading, speaking, math,
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anything that has to do with information process in your
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mind that goes under the umbrella dyslexia. For me specifically,
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reading and speaking were really hard. So throughout elementary and
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middle and high school.
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system that was built to be able to memorize text
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and to do everything based off of the paper that
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was in front of you, it was pretty hard.
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history textbook of what happened in eighteen forty two or whatever,
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it's just like I either had to have someone else
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to read it or I just felt the test.
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of learning disability. It wasn't dislikech you, but like I
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just couldn't grasp the main idea, the supporting ideas, and
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like all that other stuff. It was. It was tough
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for me until later in life.
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Yeah, And that's sadly, that's how a lot of people
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it felt as they grew up is that there's the
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system and it's just it's just the way that it
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started was it was built to be able to produce workers.
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be dyslexia, it could be ADHD, autism, OCD, there's a
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whole line of them. It doesn't really fit us because
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we're more creative, we're more energetic, we get out there,
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we're able to focus on like one thing really well.
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have to memory this in this grade and next grade,
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learn this and this, that systematic just didn't work for
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a lot of us.
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So how did you catapult yourself from dyslexia and then
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going onto the path of like high performance coach? Like,
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how did that transformation happen?
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it was for those who are listening, if you know
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Grant cardone the whole big sales he calls them down
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the sales King.
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I watched his video. It was five Ways to be.
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A Millionaire, and I'm like cool, Still one of my
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favorite thirty minute videos.
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By the way.
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But that led to this other guy named Evan Carmichael
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who goes into these top ten rules of success. And
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I watched his videos and he does like Tony Robbins
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for Winfrey and Bill Gates. Yeah, and and so I
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started watching those, like what are people's ten rules of success?
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everyone says it is? Of course there's the challenge with
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the reading and the speaking, but is there any good
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problem solving and it's just like, these are really cool
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those more than the others. And so that led to, well,
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now I know both sides. I know the good, I
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know the bad. Now I get to decide which one
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to focus on, and I chose to focus on the
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just these desires to then dedication of wow, I really
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those dreams into goals? And then that did the dedication
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into discipline of okay, now let's just start, let's just
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read twelve books in the year. It was going to
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the bookshelf, picking a book and reading chapter.
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slow reading.
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and then that twelve led to then forty and fifty
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books in the year, and I'm like, it's incredible. And
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so that's kind of the journey that it took as
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I read the We're Ad fifty sixty books in a year, two,
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then being an author, to then speaking on stages and
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start my podcast, and then starting a coaching business. I
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wish I would have had someone to help me out
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as a resource as an adult, and so now I
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don't want people to go through that same those same
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pains I did.
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So I'm a resource for other people.
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Yeah, I know, I started. I started like ten years
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ago with with my stuff, and like no one helped
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me out, and no one taught me like anything, and
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I had to figure out things myself. So I understand
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where you're coming from with that.
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have to do that because the system wasn't built for us.
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but just like the average person, but neurodivergence like us,
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we just we don't fit in that system.
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Yeah, I mean I was like me, I went through school,
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but like you know, the school that I went through,
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like was geared up for sociology or psychology and stuff
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like that. It wasn't geared up towards English or math
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or subject like that. I mean, I wasn't like English.
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I was. I was like a whole basic skills.
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what this perceived of average is that we have to
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put it. We have to put in so much more
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work than other people do simply because.
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Our brain is wired differently and something we didn't ask for.
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feeling potentially broken and I'm behind simply because of whatever
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neurodive urgency that we have.
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I mean that that brings up another point that I
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was thinking about. It was early childhood, because that's when
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our thing, that's when our beliefs develop. Because like I mean,
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I'm thinking, like you know, we're always in a ketchup mode.
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We we don't even know where we might be ahead,
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but we're still in that perceived thought of ketchup mode
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based on early childhood. So can you talk about that
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a little bit?
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Absolutely is trying to catch up in childhood you think
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of just if you think of habits that we have today,
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and let's just go with like the bad the quote
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unquote bad habits.
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That we have that we want to get rid of,
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that we set new Year's resolutions to not have.
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to where those have been habits for that and so
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feeling behind as a kid, of feeling that you always
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are trying to catch up all of a sudden that oh,
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you're reading grade level is one behind to then the
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next year now it's two. And then as you get
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into eighth grade, oh now you're still at like a
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fourth grade reading level.
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It's like, how how do I even catch up?
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There is now so much gap between where people expect
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thoughts to go through their head of fear of well,
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I'm not going to be able to amount to anything.
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You look at the grades, and what do parents usually
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go towards. They don't look at the a's and be like, oh,
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you did so great. They look at the.
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C's, the d's, and the s and say, hey.
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We need to improve, we need to work on this,
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and don't even say anything about the A grades. So
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in our heads we're thinking, well, I put in all
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this effort to get an A in this one class
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or potentially all the classes except one, but my parents
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are focused on this f Well maybe I'm maybe I'm
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just a broken kid, and maybe I shouldn't even try.
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last decades to where hours we're adults, we see other
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who are doing things that we want, and we're like,
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we'll set a new year's goal for it.
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this story because you know, I was just watching a
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documentary of Bruno sam Martino, professional wrestler, like he survived
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Nazi Germany and like everything else that was going on there.
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scrowny little kid, like they were all picking on him
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like building his mind, weightlifting, building his body. And then
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he he was like I think benched five hundred and
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sixty five pounds, which is unheard of it in the day,
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and then eventually went into wrestling, like I mean that
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that's just a success story of somebody who you know,
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the hero in our life or the.
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never too late to be the hero, even if you've
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movie Mega Mind the Blue Head. He started out as
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loves him.
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because you can be the villain and doing bad things,
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never too late to say to go from I've been hurt,
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so I'm going to hurt other people too. I've been
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hurt and so I'm going to help and make sure
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nobody else gets hurt.
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villain mindset like and then transforms, they're like more in
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the protective mode. They're like protecting others from getting hurt.
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through whatever I go through. It's like I'm like for
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my significant other, like I make sure like she doesn't
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stir in the wrong direction, and like she uh, she focuses,
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she does what she needs to do because she goes
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through struggles as well as like I do. I mean,
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we're we're there for each other.
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us who regardless of our mistakes and failures.
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Yeah. Yeah, But that that leads me to another question.
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I gotta ask. Hold on one second, I gotta I
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got my uh, I got my cheat sheets here.
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I love it. I love it.
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You ever feel like anxiety is the uninvited roommate who
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eats all your snacks, rearranges your furniture, and then judges you. Yeah,
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me too. I'm Joseph Evaldian. With my co author Thomas Pecorino,
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we wrote Coping and recover from anxiety, not as gurus
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with all the answers, but as real people who've lived
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this messy, persistent, sometimes hilariously ridiculous journey. This book isn't
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about quick fixes or or breathe breath work, even though
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there is breathing that makes you feel worse before it
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makes you feel better. It's about you, your story, your
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nervous system, your winds, and your setbacks. We make science
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with honess, reflection and tools that actually work when your
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brain feels like it's un Espresso three am. We talk
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real symptoms, real coping strategies, and that awkward moment when
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your childhood drum trauma. If you're ready to stop just
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surviving anxiety and start understanding it, this is your companion
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more than advice, support, more than theory, practical daily tools,
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pick up coping recovering from anxiety, and let let's take
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this step together. You've got more strength than you know
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and this book is one of the flashlights for the
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path ahead. What question was I going to ask, like,
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what are some of the biggest mind traps that hold
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people back? And how do we break free? From them.
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Yeah, great question, some of the ones that I experienced
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with myself as well as the clients that I worked with.
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The first thing is thinking that your difference is your
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disadvantage when it's actually the thing that can leverage you
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the most. So a lot of the people I work
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with is professionals entrepreneurs, So when it comes to jobs
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and careers, that's usually a topic that we jump to.
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In people's careers, they feel like they always need a
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secondhand or someone with them to help them out, and
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they're always scared to go for that promotion because they
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feel like they have been a burden on other people
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for not achieving the same amount of stuff as someone else,
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simply because it's hard for them to read the email
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or the memo, or to type up the one sheet
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to send out for the clients or the contract.
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Just because you're not good at one or two things
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doesn't mean that everything else that you're bad at, and
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actually is probably the reverse, Just because you're bad at
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one or two things actually means that you're great in
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so many other things. Because earlier we talked about some
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of the advantages with just like problem solving, of creativity,
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of communication. Because of those, you can really do some
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great things and get the promotion and start your business
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and make more money simply by tapping more into that
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to focusing on that, how do I communicate better because
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we can do that, how do I be more creative?
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How do I take more time out of.
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that give the solutions to the problems that we face.
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because our point A to point B is blocked. We
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have to go route C or Route D or all
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the way to Q before we come back.
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To the destination.
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seeing that instead of there's just this one path, this
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one way to learn, there's multiple and then you can
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weigh each of them, and most of the time taking
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a different path gets you a better result. And so
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in business and your career it can really be a
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great advantage. But that mindset of being a disadvantage, that's
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usually one of the biggest hurdles that people face and
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what really helps them out the most when they see it.
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going on with their thoughts and the tasks that they
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have to do on their to do list that they
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don't even know what to start, and so being able
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to pick one. Just pick one of them that you
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can do today and forget the rest.
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the rest, no expectation to any of them.
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each day, it starts to build and eventually you get
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the result that you want.
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have like so many tasks on my to do list.
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It's like where do I start? Where do I focus on? Yeah?
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I've done and my clients is to pick one thing,
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just what would be a good one to get done today,
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and then just set that.
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That is why I'm going to get done today. Everything
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else can be an added bonus.
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so surprised that all of a sudden, your to do
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list that has probably one hundred things on it, if
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you're like me, starts.
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To go to ninety nine, then ninety eight, and.
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of a sudden you're down to single digits on your
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to do list. And it all started from just doing
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one thing each day, because doing one thing is always
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going to be better than doing zero things, and that's where.
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A lot of people get caught up.
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are stuck overthinking and don't know what to what to
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start with.
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what would you tell someone who may do that overthinking
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and then they suffer a little bit from imposter syndrome
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because I go through that a little bit like they
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may have accomplished so much, and then they're thinking in
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their mind they were thinking whatever I did was crap.
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I appreciate whatever I did, But a lot of people
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may go through that.
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Yes, and let me I'll say it in more terms
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that might resonate some more with listeners. It feels that
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we can if we're sitting with our best friends and
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they're going through something.
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good advice.
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friends or past our family members and then gets applied
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to us, all of a sudden, it's just like that
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ain't gonna work for me, because we're there's this weird filter,
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this weird barrier between everybody else.
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If you do this, it'll work, but if I do it, it won't.
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we feel that if someone else has done something that
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we haven't done, that that is an amazing thing and
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we praise it. But if we do something that is awesome,
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well then that's just considered average and everybody can do it.
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We got to break that.
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is just average and that everybody can do it, because
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they can't.
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Everybody can't do everything that we're doing. And it's because of.
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The small little things that we do each day, the
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habits that make us unique individuals. And it's those unique
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individuals and the habits that we build and the actions.
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That we take and even going into.
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Our like the thoughts that we have and the passions
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that we share the heart of why we do it.
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That's what makes us unique and that is amazingly awesome.
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average if we can do it, which it's not. We
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have to jump outside of ourselves and think, well, what
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is the actual reality of it, because it's our emotions
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that are saying that it's average, but outside it's not.
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We're actually doing some pretty great things. And one of
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a really nice way to be able to start doing
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that is to start whenever you have a thought of
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doing something, shorten the gap between thought.
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Because sometimes we have the thought and we moll over it.
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We got to create this perfect plan and then once
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it seems like it's perfect, well we can go a
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little bit deeper. But then we never start, and then
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if we do start, it's like two years later. It's
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that thing of it takes us two years to do
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the first step and then two minutes to do the
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next one. It's just because we got If we shorten
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that time limit between thought and action, that helps to
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build our confidence because we're listening to ourselves. We're starting
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to trust our gut and trust our intuition that the
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thoughts that we have are good ones. And the way
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to do that is to us to physically start bringing
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it into the world. Whether that's if we're trying to
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lose weight doing one push up or one crunch. If
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we're trying to earn more money, that's just going out
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and could be learning about sales, or going and talking
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to our manager or boss or a new client. If
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you have like a coaching business, about jumping on with
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the program or getting that promotion. It's like, what's that
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natural next step that helps boost our confidence to help.
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Us not have that imposter syndrome.
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I mean, I mean for me, you know, what does it?
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I mean, whenever I think of stuff I do in
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the past tense, you know, it doesn't resonate me. But
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I think of the future. I think of what will
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future me think about this when I accomplish this, Like
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it's like the big picture. That's what I look at
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because I know, like it's like, if I have something
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to work towards, it's like I feel that it'll it'll
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just make sense.
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Yeah, because if it's nothing to work towards, why would
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we change in the first place.
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Right, Yeah, and chill, dude.
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I love that.
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I love that thinking about the future of Sometimes thinking
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about the past doesn't ignite a fire within us or
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make us want to do something, but man, thinking about
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the future what we can't create, jumping into our imagination
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and being detailed and just being like, wow, I can
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see the house that I want, I can see the
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podcast that has one hundred episodes, I can see those
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the extra zero in my bank account.
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Well, then that gets us exciting.
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Yeah, I love that.
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I love that.
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I mean it's like think, it's like I think it's
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like you're like it's like when when my significant other
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of my family say, oh, you're you're building a legacy,
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I'm thinking of myself. I'm thinking, yeah, I'm building legacy.
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But I'm not in the past. Now. I'm like forty
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something years old. I got a lot more to go.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, you've already written chapter one through forty and now
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you're just writing the rest.
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Yeah yeah, awesome, But we're at the twenty five minute mark.
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You want to do more of this or like, you
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want to do any more? Like I'm just asking you, Yeah,
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what's your time.
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Like and like, yeah, we can we can go for
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a few more minutes if you have another question or two.
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Yeah, Actually I wanted to say, like, what if we're
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wrapping up soon, what's your final words you like to say,
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like to the listeners, like in uh, like if you
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had to tell them something that was very grand right
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now in propelling them to the future and propelling them
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to their goals. I know you briefly discussed on one
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thing a day, but how would you tell them to
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get into that mindset where they're thinking of one thing
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a day and not to get overwhelmed.
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Yeah, I would say this.
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To them for you who is listening, who, just like
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Joe described, is feeling that, like you say, what will
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you say this one thing?
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Like how do I even come up to this one thing?
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I feel like I'm still on step zero of trying
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to figure out what I want.
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I would say this to you. Start on step zero.
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Start asking yourself.
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The question what is it that you want? What do
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you actually want? Not the judgment from the parents or
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the in laws, not the thoughts that you have from
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the coworkers or the strangers who.
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Are on social media, Just like.
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What is it that you have wanted? A great way
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is think about as a kid. What did you want
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as a kid? Did you want to be an astronaut?
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Did you want to be a Pokemon master? Did you
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want to be a chef? Right next to Gordon Ramsey, Like,
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what is it that you wanted?
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What do you want?
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Start with that step zero and you start getting and
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I can tell you what's going to happen.
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You're going to start getting that kid energy again when.
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You think about those things that from inside of you
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have been covered for years, but now you're just like, well,
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it'd be really cool to be an author.
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Man, It'd be really cool to write a or in
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a kid's book. Man.
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It would be really nice to be able to learn
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how to cook my mom's famous meal that every time
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I go to her house just always puts a smile
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on my face. Man, it'd be really cool to catch
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a four star and Pokemon Go. That'd be like ideal
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for those who know Pokemon Go. You'll get the reference,
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but it's just like what is it.
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That you want?
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And you'll get that kit energy, You'll get a smile
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on your face and you'll start feeling it inside of
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you that there are possibilities and it's those possibilities that
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then lead to well, we could figure out one thing
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to do.
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So ask yourself that question, what is.
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It that you want and let those possibilities start flooding.
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It sounds like a nice sounds like a nice place
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to close on. That's good to me. I'll tell you
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that this this is a really good podcast today.
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I'm glad we had this conversation.
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I thought it was really nice as well.
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You covered a lot of major major points. I feel
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the listeners will listening and dress whatever you have to say.
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And is there any last thing that you want to
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plug before we exit off to this podcast.
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Well, a gift, if I may, for your audience is
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I've written a really short ebook called break Free that
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goes over twelve limitations that we have in.
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Our life and how to break them.
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These are ones that I've struggled with to then we
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just wanted to help other people. So if that anyone
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who's listening, if you want to break free from limitation
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and start finding.
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Those possible.
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Go to my website coach Willie Blake dot com and
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just right at the top, it'll be right there for
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people to click on and grab.
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And that's just that's just my gift for everybody who's
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listening because you're awesome. Know that you're awesome, and start
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making those possibilities.
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All right, woll Willie, thank you for being on the
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podcast again. This is Joseph Vivaldi with the Joseph Vivaldi Podcast,
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signing out and have a good day for the pops discusses,
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