Ep266. Remaining Committed: Staying on Offense When Life Doesn’t Go According to Plan (with Angie.)

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Welcome to the Inner Wealth Podcast, where we learn and choose to live inspired each and every day.
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Hey guys, it's been 25 episodes since Angie was on here.
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Guess who's back?
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And get guess who's back?
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Shady's back.
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It's great that it's great to have Angie back.
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We are fresh.
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We are in San Francisco.
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Yes.
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And this is our first full day here.
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We just got in last night.
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And we are fresh off a workshop.
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Yes.
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And if you've listened to past episodes, you know that when we travel, we typically like to do an episode from the road.
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And uh yeah, I thought it was a great opportunity to get Angie on here because we had a uh on the workshop that we had, um we had a lot of new, I guess, awarenesses, I guess you could say, from the workshop.
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And some things have changed.
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Yeah.
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So yeah, we're here in um San Fran, San Francisco, California.
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We're in the outer sunset region.
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We are at our dear friend Shane and Olivia McNally's beach house.
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Um it's foggy, it's chilly, it's it's not beach weather, but it's just great to be at the ocean and just appreciate the hospitality that Shane and Olivia have extended to us.
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Uh, Shane and Olivia were with us in our mastermind for a while.
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And and uh actually Olivia is getting ready to sell this house.
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So it's uh if you want a beach house in San Fran, let me know.
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Yeah.
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But uh yeah, we're just just excited to be here for a couple days.
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No plans really, no uh no agenda.
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It's kind of how we like to do things, but just getting away for a bit after after the workshop because they are draining.
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Yeah, meet we we're gonna meet the McNally here in a little bit and have lunch.
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Going to Chinatown for lunch today, which we didn't get to do that the last time we were here in Mike's favorite one of his favorite cuisines.
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Yeah, so this time we're actually seeing a little bit of San Francisco.
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Well, we did too, but you know, we hit some tours, tour shops last time.
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So yeah, I just wanted to shout, thank you, Shane and Olivia.
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We appreciate love you guys, and thank you again for for uh inviting us out here.
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Apparently, what we know about this house is it was a pretty much a full gut rehab.
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They they took it down to the studs and and probably even more and then rebuilt it.
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And it's beautiful, yeah.
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It's beautiful.
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So it's it's and it's in a beautiful part of San Francisco.
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Yeah, we can see the ocean from our bedroom, which is really cool.
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The Pacific Ocean.
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It is awesome.
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So so again, thanks guys.
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Appreciate having you or you having us out here and hanging out with you a little bit.
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Um so the workshop this week.
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So it's pretty good, right?
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It was fantastic.
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Yeah, what what did you what what from your perspective, what was fantastic about it?
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Well, I mean, I've been, you know, I've been I've had a front row seat to to your all your our no your teachings over the year, and as they've evolved and changed and you you grew and you grew as a teacher, you grew as a content creator, and I've you know, I've gotten to experience that from from watching from afar.
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And it was just it seemed like this time you just had a concept that was able to land with everyone that people were able to it, it wasn't as as um ethereal, I guess is the word I was thinking.
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That's the organization.
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Mystical lesson that you can like logically apply for the people who because we had some logic-brained people in this one, and watching them put it all together was super cool.
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But no, just just watching your teachings it evolve, and it's it's really fun.
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Yeah, and it's and I feel like each one gets, I feel like I say that about everyone that it gets better and it gets better and it gets better.
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Well, they do, yeah, they do, because we see the breakthroughs, right?
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It's some, some it feels like some there's more breakthroughs than others.
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And this one, we could literally see light bulbs going off in people's heads, especially, you know, the people again, at like Angie said, there were there were some pretty left-brained people in the room.
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And usually our what what I teach and kind of the work that we do, it up it it really lands with the right-brain people, with the more creative, more uh esoteric people.
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But this one, there were a lot of logic-based left-brain thinkers in the room, and it started landing, and in fact, the probably the most analytical one said, you know, this is all practical and useful stuff, because what what we what we based it on is um if you look at there's 8.3 billion people on the planet, and uh, you know, I I sometimes I make things a little too elementary, but you know, just for the sake of teaching.
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But in my assessment, in my opinion, at any given time, somebody's in in any aspect of life and in the moment, you're either playing offense or defense.
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And the concept of what are you playing, how are you showing up right now, and are you playing offense and defense?
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It started started kind of stirring the pot and started uh it started people trying to understand how they're playing in the world, in their uh in their health, in their wealth, in their business, in their relationships, in their you know, in their whatever, in in any given aspect of life where you're playing offense and defense and and really no you you describe what playing offense means.
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Well, the sports ball, I just want to point out that the sports ball analogy really hit I that that really hit that's hitting with and I can see that on your social media, people with it hitting.
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Um, you know, often I can't explain it the way you can.
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Yeah, I know.
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I I don't want I I don't want them to hear it from me.
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I want them to hear it from you.
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I mean defense is I feel like when you're going through life and you're you're constantly blocking and tackling.
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It's just constant blocking and tackling everything, whether it be your self-sabotage, whether there are things that are coming to you, are you just are you blocking what the the universe is trying to deliver to you?
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And to me, offense is you're just you you're you're just open to taking it all.
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Yeah.
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So so the way I just so on day one of our workshop, we we focused on defense, what playing defense means.
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And the way I described it is it's it's just when you're trying to prevent negative circumstances.
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Yes, yeah.
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Negative consequences.
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And you know, you're you're playing for security, you're playing for uh you're playing prevent defense, right?
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Where you're just trying to keep your your current circumstances together and you're trying to just make sure that nothing goes wrong.
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Yeah.
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You're you're playing from a place of insecurity, inadequacy, insignificance, where where you're in survival mode and you're just it's almost like you don't trust in yourself, you don't trust in life, you don't trust in expansion, you don't trust that things are going to work out for you.
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And because you don't trust, that's right, you know, that's why you're blocking and just blocking everything.
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You're not open to the you you can't you can't catch the goodness, you can't catch the great things.
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And you're and you're you're you're literally um just playing to survive.
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Yeah.
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And uh playing offense, so that that's what we focused on on day one.
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And day two is about playing offense, and it's the going into expansion and experiences, and stop, you know, stop playing to just prevent negative circumstances and negative experiences, but it's learn to trust yourself, learn to trust life, learn to trust that that good things are available to you, and you are designed in a unique way with a des uh with a unique purpose, with a unique uh destiny, with uh things that you want, with unique desires, that things that you want that you know are are right for you, and it's leaning into them.
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And defense is uh comfort, yeah, it's focused on comfort, and offense is focused on growth.
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And uh this is where the adage comes back you can either have comfort or growth, you can't have both.
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And it's uh that seeking security and seeking to things keep keep things together tends to be because you're comfortable and you're trying to stay in a comfortable pattern.
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And when you when you move into and through the discomfort of growth with you know uncertainty and with with not knowing how things are gonna work out for you, it's being willing to fail, being willing to be messy, being willing to be judged, being willing to be criticized, be willing for somebody to to think that you're delusional, right?
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These are these are all you know people that are moving into offense.
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Because when you move into alignment with what you're here to experience, with your health, wealth, your success, you know, and the impact on the world and your relationships, when you're here to when you're experiencing and you're moving into what you're here to experience, it's probably not gonna make sense to everybody.
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And they're not gonna get it because they're designed differently.
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And and you know, most of the world is just staying the same, thinking that it's it's the homogenization that is safe, and that's playing defense, right?
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Not living authentically, not living inspired by by that dream inside of you, that is playing defense.
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And I think we're here for a whole lot more, yeah, but it doesn't always feel good.
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No, and it's scary, yes, it's really scary, and there's a lot of uncertainty.
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So I've got a shirt at home and it says unemployable.
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And what I mean by that is man, I've tasted not working for anybody, I've tasted not setting an alarm clock, I've I've tasted not having anybody control my life.
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I can I've tasted saying yes when I want to say yes and saying no when I want to say no, and it feels freaking good, but it's not always comfortable.
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Yeah.
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What do you think about that?
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Everything you just said was spot on.
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I mean, that and this the the workshop really pushed my discomfort.
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No, yeah, for sure.
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Um day one, I I was just everything went so good on day one, and your teaching was so great.
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I remember at the end of the day, I was like, I don't even care if we, you know, because our workshops, we that's that's our that's our funnel into our mastermind.
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That's where people get to um be introduced to to Mike's teachings and like what we actually really do within the mastermind.
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And um, so yeah, our goal through through the workshop, final goal is to to bring some new students into our mastermind.
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So day one, I just saw everything landing and I saw the breakthroughs and I was like, I don't even care if anybody signs up with this one.
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This is the you got your the content, the could the the concept is great, the structure is great, like this is great.
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And then day two came and uh nobody, nobody decided to join us yet.
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Yeah, yet sure, yet and I just was a sad panda, yeah.
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Yeah, even though I said otherwise the day before, but I was a very sad panda day too.
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Yeah, a little disappointment, a lot of disappointment.
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Well, there, but there were several people in that room that belonged with us.
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I think that's I think that's where that's where the the real rub comes in, is that I can I can see the people, I can look around, I'm like, okay, your job, like this is this is great, you're here for the teachings, this is for the workshop, this is what you need right now.
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But then there's people I'm like, damn, you would just be not only would beneficial to them, but beneficial to our students because everybody grows off of each other within our group.
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Um and the reality has been that the the longer you're with me or or us, the more you do the work, the more you understand and do the work, the better your life improves, the more your life expands and and the more alignment.
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And with this defense-offense thing, we're seeing people in our mastermind right now really start to master offense.
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They're they're stepping into offense and it's uncomfortable, but they're growing like crazy.
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Yeah.
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And these are the people that have been with us for like three years.
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Yeah.
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Yep.
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So we're seeing it.
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We we understand the benefits of of the mastermind and our family and the work that we do together.
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And we know that there's some people that they just belong with us and their life would improve.
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And it's kind of frustrating and for for frustrating for us that that they they're not leaning into us, but it's kind of disappointing for us because our family's not growing and our family, and listen, we had a series of workshops, probably five or six of them, yeah, where in in each workshop, mastermind students converted and our family got bigger.
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And the last two, there's been zero conversions out of the out of the workshop.
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So uh it it immediately could, could for someone who doesn't understand this work, it could immediately put you back into defense, right?
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And that would be, you know, questioning the business if the business is okay, or if the if we have a future, right, in the business, or if the mastermind is still okay, it's viable, or the if if the teachings are good, it could, it could put us in a place to question all these things.
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And and that's playing defense, right?
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That's not trusting in yourself, not trusting in the future, and not expecting things to work out for you.
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And we're not doing that, we're talking about putting the next workshop on the calendar for the number.
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Now, is it scary?
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Yes, yes, absolutely, but we've seen the power of what we do, and it's too good to fail.
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Yeah, is there gonna be some is there a little bit of turbulence in the short term?
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Yes, but trust in the process, and you know what?
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We've been at a point in the past where things have shrunk and and compressed, and then all of a sudden, within a very short period of time, they just blew up and expanded again.
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So uh that's the difference between going on defense and playing offense, right?
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So somebody who somebody who is a master of their own nervous system, and a lot of the defense and offense is all nervous system related.
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People who are the master of their nervous system know that sometimes there's gonna just gonna be a holding pattern in life, and sometimes there's gonna be an expansion piece in life.
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And and it's knowing the difference, but not allowing those circumstances be the master of you, being the master of them, yeah, knowing that the right thing is always gonna unfold for you because we've seen it with our own two eyes, with our own four eyes, and two here.
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Well, I'm saying two here and two there, right?
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Well, we got six eyes.
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I I I mean sometimes I need glasses, so it should be eight.
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But that's what that's kind of what we've learned.
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So did we experience a little bit of disappointment and you know, let down?
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Yes, of course.
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I think it's natural for you know for us to to try to understand what what we're we're what we prefer to have happen and when that preference gets bumped into, you know, it creates a little bit of yeah, a little emotion, right?
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Yeah, we we kind of lamented together Saturday night.
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Yeah.
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And then we let it go.
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We could have easily let it ruin this and ruin this trip and yeah, like feel like we didn't deserve it, but but the next day I woke up and I said, All right, pity party over.
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Pity party's over.
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Let's freaking, I'm not, I'm not playing defense.
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Pity party's over.
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It's we got we we've got done too much good.
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We are too good at at all of this, and what the work that we do matters.
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It's it it's it's not time and it's not okay to continue to lament the past.
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And and uh, I like to say preferences, puncture, peace.
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Oh, yeah.
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So maybe it's the preferences that were the problem, not the not the reality.
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Yep, absolutely.
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Yep.
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So that's why I just wanted to share.
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We wanted to share a little bit of, you know, we share the wins and we share how, you know, when things are are going well, we also want to share that, hey, we we experience turbulence too.
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All right, everybody does.
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And uh it's not go time all the time, but it always is time to stay on offense and to trust that the future is going to be better than you could ever imagine if you just stay true to yourself, right?
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And the and your design and control the nervous system, control, keep your nervous system in check, and master your nervous system, and wherever your nervous system is entangled with circumstances and your expectations, it's time to detangle them.
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Yeah, and it's not time to to to retreat, it's time to detangle them and learn to trust in whatever shows up in life.
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Working on it.
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Yeah, we are, we both are.
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It's not just you, we both are.
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But but I think you're I think from my experience of you, your your money fear is a little deeper than mine.
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Um just based on your experiences, your your childhood, right?
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Oh, certainly.
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So so there's you know, and and I'll say, and you can share a little bit more about this and why that why that would be.
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But you know, when I was a kid, I never we never missed a meal.
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Yeah, right?
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And and you did.
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I didn't miss a lot of meals.
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I I had the same childhood home until I was 20 years old and I moved out.
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You you didn't have that.
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So there's a little difference in those circumstances.
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Yeah.
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So when the when our bank account starts to go down or our business, like what does it, what do you feel?
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Like what happens?
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Oh, I mean, it's I mean, it's definitely lessened, uh gotten better over the years, but yeah, just absolutely the fear, fear of going back into extreme poverty again.
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And I I know logically, consciously, I know that's not going to happen.
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I know that we're we're not, I'm no longer built for that.
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I'm not, I'm, I'm no longer available to experience poverty.
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So I understand that, but you know, just that fear is there.
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And sometimes I put myself back into those spaces and remember what it was like to have living in crack houses and swums and having to steal food and no electricity and stuff.
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But you know, again, I know it's not gonna happen, but just it gets a little gets a little hairy sometimes.
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Well, the but the reality is if we have if we never made another dime going forward, we're good for years.
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Yes.
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Like like that, our our our immediate future is not uncertain, but in the body, yeah, it feels uncertain because we're because we prefer something different.
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Yeah.
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So in and when we're when we allow that nervous system entanglement to take over, it's based on the past.
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It's based on past experiences.
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It has nothing to do with the current state and nothing to do with the future.
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But then on the flip side of that, some I can go and I can put myself back into those circumstances and think about them and become significantly grateful and be like, okay, look at where you know, where I can't.
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I can use those experiences for for two different purposes within my nervous system.
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I can use it to throw it into a tizzy or I can use it to calm it down.
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For sure.
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So that's that's and I do that frequently.
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I'm like, wait a second, I was sleeping on a damn floor with no electricity, you know, weren't having to brush your teeth with baking soda.
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Yeah, you're not gonna have to borrow hot dogs anymore.
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Borrowing hot dogs from a neighbor, literally borrow.
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Yeah.
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The two things borrowing hot dogs and stealing toilet paper.
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Those are two things that Angie talks about a lot.
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And that's that gives that gives you a frame of reference about the childhood that she grew up in and the childhood that I we never we always had toilet.
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It was my parents didn't buy good toilet paper.
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Now, but like now here, looking back, it's like, man, that was pretty because we we came across a roll of toilet paper in our house that was one ply.
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And I'm like, this is crap.
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And I haven't used anything like this in freaking years.
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What the hell is up with that?
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But that that was the same kind of toilet paper we had my whole childhood.
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So I I realized where that roll of toilet paper came from.
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So our daughter Katie, our older older daughter, uh, when we moved her home from college last year, she had broke college, broke college student.
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And I use that in quotations because my kid, they're not.
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I hate that they use that term, but they call it broke college kids.
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She had to go to Aldi to get toilet paper one day out of like desperation, and she got accidentally got the one ply, and it got put in that bag when we moved our home.
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So I'm like, this stuff it's it's awful.
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We can't wait for that role to be gone.
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I almost took it out and threw it in a in a recycle bin.
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We deserve better.
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We deserve better, but that's all I had growing up.
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That's all we use.
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One ply toilet paper that freaking fell apart all the time.
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Like that is not pleasant.
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And I I feel do I feel above that?
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I don't feel above it.
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I feel I deserve it.
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I deserve better.
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Just to be clear, we're not better than you if you use one ply toilet paper.
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It's just we deserve.
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I feel I feel I deserve a higher quality of toilet paper.
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But but Angie had no toilet paper and no hot dogs and nothing to eat and whatever they they would they would steal a candy bar and share.
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Oh, yeah, we've because that was their like next meal.
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I mean oh, yeah, the little bins at the grocery store with the cookies we'd steal one.
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Yeah.
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So we're working through this stuff, I mean, it it's it's obvious why it's so buried deep.
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Yeah, because you actually experience in your nervous system was built in those moments.
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Your nervous system was built from pain and suffering and scarcity and and lack.
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That's how your nervous system was built.
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So when life bumps into that, your nervous system literally goes back to those circumstances, and that's why people guilt go into defense because you're trying to prevent something that your nervous system and your body's already experienced.
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Because, and this is the core foundation of the teachings in the workshop, your nervous system has one job and one job only, it's to keep you alive.
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It looks to keep you alive by trying to keep you in familiar circumstances and tries to keep you in familiar circumstances because it's proven to be able to keep you alive there.
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So if you're if you have deep, deep money fear, your body's trying to maintain and hold on to that money fear because it's kept you alive by the the depth, but it doesn't care if you're happy, if you're fulfilled, if you're uh if you're well.
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Healthy, if you're successful, it doesn't care about any of that.
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Love, it doesn't care about any of that.
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It's just trying to keep you alive.
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And whatever's familiar to it, it wants the same.
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So whenever something's different, it's going to challenge and go back to that to try to get you into familiar circumstances.
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That is a really, really important concept to understand.
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And from that knowing, you can say, okay, moving on offense is going to challenge the familiarity of the circle of the nervous system, and it's going to flare.
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And you're going to start to feel things that you haven't felt.
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And your nervous system is going to fight to try to get you back into whatever whatever is known.
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That is the core tenet of understanding offense from defense.
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And it really did challenge that room.
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And it really did create breakthroughs.
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Over the next two weeks on this podcast, what my plan is, is the the opening of day one and the opening of day two, I recorded the introduction and the foundation of what that day was about.
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And my plan is over the next two weeks to share.
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Or maybe next after next week when we're gone.
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Yeah.
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So so we're we'll get those out in the world.
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Um, and I want to you there's gonna be it's a little clunky because there's no microphone in the audience, so people are asking questions.
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So it it's not they're not the greatest in terms of being able to have all great audio all the time, but they're very, very powerful and the their foundation.
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So we're gonna put that out in the world, and uh, and we are traveling.
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That's two two weeks from today a lot over the next couple weeks.
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So our uh our 25th wedding anniversary is coming up on October 19th.
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So we're doing kind of a trip of a lifetime going to Oktoberfest in Munich, Germany, and we're going to be in Austria and uh Prague.
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So we're doing a two-week, two-week European vacation to celebrate 25 years.
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It almost didn't make it 25.
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Almost, we almost broke in the middle.
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Yeah.
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So we uh we'll be hopefully we'll be able to get a podcast recorded while we're my plan is for us to to do the uh the recordings in in Munich and Vienna and and and in the Czech Republic.
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Yeah, but that's my plan.
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So you said you want those other for for when we're traveling, but I think it's better to well, yeah.
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Let's let me more when we finalize the itinerary.
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Yeah, when we finalize the itinerary, I will let you know where we can put that in.
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Because this could be a pretty packed, packed itinerary.
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We've got a lot of Mike's a big history buff, so we got lots of World War II history.
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I like architecture and churches and libraries, so I get to go see some of the world's most famous libraries.
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And this is bucket list for me.
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Like ever since I was a child, I wanted to go to Germany and and you know, the the the seat at the heart of World War II because that that was that was what I've always been attracted to pretty much the most.
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The Civil War and World War II.
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And I grew up in Maryland, so we went to a lot of a lot of Civil War battlefields, but this is this is the this is a big one for me.
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It is, and and I love planning these things.
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So when when uh I love planning, period, I love planning the workshops, I love planning our retreats, I love planning our trips.
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So I'm very excited.
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Yeah, it's gonna be a big couple weeks for us.
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We got so much good in our lives right now, but it's so easy to lament that something didn't go the way you wanted it over a couple days.
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But yeah, but uh just re-reconnect back to gratitude and enjoy, enjoy the future that's unfolded, unfolding that we couldn't have fathomed when we were a little kid.
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Absolutely.
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I couldn't dream this big when I was a little kid.
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Yeah, I had no electricity and now I'm going to Germany.
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That's right.
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I mean, like I said, that can going back into those circumstances can can help nervous system.
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It's like, oh geez, what the hell is wrong with you?
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Sure.
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But anyway, thank you again, Shane and Olivia.
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Uh love you guys and um can't wait to see you in a couple hours.
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Yeah, a couple goals that we that we had with this episode is just making sure you understood what was happening within the workshop and a debrief from that, understanding that not everything goes always according to our plan, but maybe it's the plan that was wrong, not the not the outcome in the reality.
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And it's to set up that a couple really, really good audio or a um podcast episodes that are going to be coming down the pipe.
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And the video recordings are better than the audio recordings.
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Those are on YouTube, right?
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They will be on YouTube.
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So the video, the audio uh recordings of of the Interwealth Podcast are always available on you know Apple uh podcasts and Spotify and across a lot of other podcast platforms, but the YouTube channel always has the videos as well.
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And sometimes, especially over these next you know, couple episodes or a couple trainings, um, the video is gonna be better because you can see the PowerPoints and you can see the slides and the images that I show.
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And we will be launching another workshop hopefully in November.
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So keep an eye out for that.
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Yeah, they're big.
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They're big and they move the needle, all right?
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Yeah, guys, thanks from San Francisco from San Francisco and traveling.
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Uh, it's it's we just want to keep showing up for you guys.
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