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00:00:02.689Hello everyone and welcome to the Human Behavior Podcast.
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00:00:08.801Memory isn't a perfect playback of our lives, but a creative, ever-evolving story our brains tell themselves.
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00:00:18.123In this episode, we're going to uncover why we forget the details that matter, how our recollections twist and reshape over time, and the surprising ways our biases actually keep us safe and focused.
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00:00:29.274During the episode, we dive into the latest science, from phantom limb research to how dreams help us consolidate memories and share practical, easy-to-use exercises like spaced retrieval, emotional tagging and rapid note-taking.
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00:00:38.848If you've ever walked away from an important moment only to realize later you've remembered it all wrong, this episode will equip you with simple tools to lock in the truth and harness your brain's quirks as powerful allies.
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00:00:56.773All right, greg, we're getting this episode.
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00:00:58.823It's probably getting out a little late.
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00:01:01.987We've been on track, but that was because had a lot going on.
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00:01:09.245So did I am now moved across to the back to the Midwest, but still in a temporary spot for now.
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00:01:15.531But all good, getting back into the swing of things and then we'll be back on track, probably 100% here after the 4th of July.
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00:01:24.224But today we are talking a little bit about memory and some of the things that affect it and kind of how to look at it, because we look at it sort of a little bit differently.
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00:01:35.626There's some great articles we discuss as well about a little bit of a book, but we talk about a lot in anything human behavior related because it's not as great as we think it is, and we talk about memory being faulty.
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00:01:38.448But it's kind of like that's almost like the wrong way to look at it.
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00:01:40.240There's reasons for it that we're going to get into it Exactly.
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00:01:50.090One example I want to start off with was I was taking my wife out to dinner one time and I was all excited and I was like, oh yeah, you know we're having a good time.
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00:01:53.972I'm like, yeah, remember the last time we were here and you know we ordered this, or blah, blah, blah.
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00:01:59.016You know, we talked to that one random person at the bar and she's sitting there staring at me like a blank face.
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00:02:01.161I'm like, what are you talking about?
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00:02:02.903I was like she's like this is my first time ever at this restaurant.
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00:02:15.881And I was like, oh, whoops, and obviously it was someone else which you remind me that, someone else that I had taken there before I had met my wife, obviously, but you know that she, she hadn't actually been there.
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00:02:23.953So the thing was like to me it was just, it felt like, it felt like I short-circuited or something Right, because I was.
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00:02:27.546I was so sure of that thing, you know, but it apparently never happened.
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00:02:33.025So the idea is, you know, we will get into explain this and why this happened, why I sort of replaced her.
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00:03:00.222You know, I had this great memory, I want to associate her with good time, so I sort of replaced it and you know we look memory is broken or fragmented, but it's not really like I was broken, it was just I was being a human being and her memories don't play back like flawless recording right, they're like, they're sort of like a rough draft we rebuild every time we recall them, and so recall is actually important.
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00:03:00.643We'll get into that.
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00:03:09.080But those little mistakes, I think it's better to describe them sort of as features that are designed to help us learn, adapt and make sense of an otherwise messy life Today.
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00:03:20.692Obviously that's what we're going to be talking about, and unpacking why our memories slip, warp and even lie to us, and how we can turn those into powerful tools, tool.
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00:03:32.784So, Greg, I'll kind of let you go over the sort of main topic here, main idea, and I'll put you'll be referencing some article in another book and I'll put some links in episode details for folks who want to check that stuff out.
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00:03:33.747The article is short.
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00:03:37.433And then there's a newer book coming out that a couple of psychologists wrote that are great.
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00:03:48.085This is all just kind of ways people describe it, but get into why this happens and what it's used for, why it happens but how it can be useful and things to sort of take away from it.
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00:03:49.490So I'll let you kind of kick it off here.
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00:03:50.301I appreciate it.
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00:04:00.111So, first of all, for all of our listeners in the Midwest, we're sorry because, while San Diego County has lost a homeless person, you have gained one.
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00:04:08.652Brian's van that's backed up to the Walmart to get the free Wi-Fi and he's digging in the dumpster McDonald's, but welcome him.
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00:04:24.007So Brian and I have an unconventional way of discussing topics and what happens is we'll get on something and we'll discuss it from two different standpoints a very scientific, logical standpoint, and then okay, so how is this useful to the rest of the world?
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00:04:36.630So what I was doing is I was deep into this thing about phantom limbs and the memory created by a phantom limb a legless veteran or a veteran without an arm and is it the same if you were born without an arm?
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00:04:38.165And amazingly it is.
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00:04:40.031So countless studies are out there.
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00:04:41.177Look, do your research.
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00:04:42.482I just been around longer than you.
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00:04:44.747That's why I have recall on some of this stuff.
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00:04:45.891Ha, what a topic.
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00:04:58.834But the idea behind the phantom limbs and memory got me onto dreams and memory, and a lot of stuff has been written out there and goes back to a couple of old white bearded guys from 150 years ago.
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00:05:02.680That's no longer valid because we've learned so much about the brain We've learned so much about the brain.
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00:05:19.810So if we know about phantom limbs, phantom limbs would be a hard wire in the brain that's designed so you can feel and anticipate pain in your limbs, so you can withdraw them before something serious happens, a bee sting, for example that's almost autonomic, or a heat on the stove.
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00:05:28.947So if we understand that that's a planned, regimental way of doing things, very deliberate, then we understand that dreams are almost the opposite.
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00:05:32.269Dreams are like a side effect of memory consolidation.
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00:05:43.745Your brain has to replay and reinforce memories while they sleep and then the hippocampus and neocortex are working together to say, hey, blend that with this one, that's a better memory.
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00:05:44.928Yeah, put that here.
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00:05:45.827Yeah, you see what I'm trying to say.
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00:05:45.995Hey, hey, blend that with this one.
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00:05:46.189That's a better memory.
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00:05:46.605Yeah, put that here.
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00:05:46.836Yeah, you see what I'm trying to say.
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00:05:58.286So what happens, brian, is that your memory was a memory that was fraught with wonderful happy times and the food was great and the piano was great Booze and the heroin in the bathroom.
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00:06:11.105But the idea is that your wife wasn't there Okay, it was another significant other but your brain thought there was no boundary between those because it was a good time and you remember that good time that we had.
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00:06:25.982So the idea and this is where this podcast comes from the idea is that we put so much credibility and eyewitnesses when the fact that your memory is flawed and it's not flawed for the wrong reasons, it's flawed for the wrong reasons, it's flawed for the right.
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00:06:31.882So I remember back to an old one, but a good one, from Harvard flaws of normal memory.
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00:06:33.588So Brian will put the link on there.
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00:06:34.610It's a great one to read.
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00:06:40.141It's good stuff that you can talk about it on duty roll call or to reinforce your written testimony or whatever.
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00:06:52.571And then Sierra Green and Jillian Murphy wrote Memory Lane and folks, when you see it, you'll love it immediately and I'll tell you why Because it gave us the main idea for the podcast.
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00:06:58.327So you got dreams on one side of the bracket, you got phantom limbs on the other, and this is what they say right in their intro.
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00:07:05.245There's countless metaphors for memory it's a leaky bucket, a steel trap, a file cabinet, words written in sand.
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00:07:10.187But one of the most evocative and neuroscientifically descriptive invokes Lego bricks.
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00:07:20.021A memory is like a Lego tower it's built from the ground up, then broken down, put away in bins and rebuilt in a slightly different way each time it's taken out.
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00:07:26.088That's the amazing part, brian, and that's because it's deliberately set up that way not accidental.
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00:07:34.124I love that, yeah, the Lego metaphor, because we've all played with Legos or have kids that play with Legos and you can build something.
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00:07:41.250You look at the picture on it and then it gets packed away and you build something else, but then you also lose some Lego pieces along the way.
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00:07:41.932You know what I mean.
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00:07:43.286It doesn't fully there.
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00:07:53.603And then you don't doesn't fully there, and then you know you don't have the right one, so maybe it's not the right color, but it's the right piece and it puts, it, holds up the structure that you're building, but but it's different than what it's technically supposed to be.
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00:07:56.031Yeah, so, but the point is it still works.
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00:07:57.637And so I love the lego one.
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00:08:10.882I hadn't heard that one before because you know I, like you said, I've heard all the all the other ones about memory, but that one's a really, really good way because it's it's immediately shows that it's constructive and it's constructed by little bits and pieces.
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00:08:20.721It categorizing way, I mean and and you know we humans do that for all kinds of reasons mostly for recall and speed, and it doesn't want to, you know it doesn't like we always talk about.
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00:08:22.324It's where the theory of close enough right.
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00:08:26.536It just has to be cognitively close enough and your brain jams it in there the small minute.
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00:08:30.567Things don't matter as much as what is the structure, what is the point?
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00:08:32.812What is the actual thing you're building?
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00:08:36.147I don't care what gauge wire you put in there.
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00:08:40.422I care is is this the building that's on the front of the box of the Lego thing that you're?
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00:08:41.043But you know what I mean?
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00:08:41.663That's almost.
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00:08:43.907It's one of the best ways to really look at it.
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00:08:46.210Yeah, and you know what I put out a.
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00:08:49.674You know my, my Monday rants on LinkedIn.
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00:08:52.806I put one out a couple of times ago and talked about that.
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00:08:55.820I really don't like when people talk about go with your gut.
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00:09:08.455This is one of the few times I advocate going with your gut because if you get into a situation and you're getting an overwhelming feeling and I don't mean deja vu, I mean the butterflies in the stomach and some other things that are happening in your brain.
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00:09:17.807What it is is you're matching up with a file folder for an emotional memory, because emotion makes it sticky, and what you're doing is saying this may be significant.
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00:09:21.081Whatever I'm involved in now may be about breeding.
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00:09:30.113It may be about me dying, it may be about a chance to eat or make a relationship with somebody that can, you know, behoove me in the future.
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00:09:41.669And your brain becomes more efficient by jettisoning the stuff it doesn't need and acquiring the stuff it thinks it may need, not just for right now but for future.
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00:09:50.860And that's why we talk about the gift of time and distance, because you know your memory works in that way to pay it forward, and you got to allow that process to happen.
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00:09:56.782So so let's jump into kind of like why, right, why is our memory, why, why is our memory act like this?
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00:10:04.846Because, it would seem like almost you know, intuitively, kind of like well, we always tie everything back to survival, because that's, everything can get tied back to survival.
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00:10:05.186That's true.
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00:10:06.086Emotion and everything right.
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00:10:16.783And well, you even brought up deja vu that we could do a whole, probably podcast on deja vu and whatever the other one is Deja vu Quote me on that.
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00:10:37.836That's not what I was thinking of, but it would seem to me like if it's for survival, I would almost think that my brain should be really good at the details, it should be really good at remembering these very, very important things, because if my survival depends on it, then it's got to be crystal clear.
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00:10:39.636So why isn't it?
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00:10:40.576Why is it set up in this?
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00:10:43.302So let's do that, let's categorize.
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00:10:57.052So let's talk about three basic topics, right, why we forget, why our memories are distorted and why our memories are biased, and remember these reasons, like Brian is saying, aren't failures unless they're caused by disease or injury.
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00:11:00.831If you get kicked by a mule in the head or have Alzheimer's, that's different.
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00:11:01.821You get what I'm trying to say.
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00:11:10.914But these are intentional, adaptive features that allow us to learn and emotionally regulate our encounters and handle social settings.
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00:11:19.874So the first one of those why we forget, well, the simplest, lowest achievable level, the low-hanging fruit there is we lack retrieval cues.
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00:11:21.820We're not good at retrieval cues.
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00:11:30.434We're not good at retrieval cues and because it's temporal and transient, our brains don't remember things that are a long time ago as much as they do now.
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00:11:33.567Now, there's no question that you lived through being a child.
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00:11:34.692I'll give you an example.
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00:11:39.142You know, I had three generations of family members in last week and the boy.
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00:11:42.731While I'm talking to the boy, I go do you remember your grandmother?
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00:12:02.360You and your grandmother were there on Thanksgiving making bread and rolls and cookies, and the deer came up to the back window and we're looking in and we opened the door and you were face to face with the mule deer in the yard, no memory of it whatsoever, and it was like, oh wow, so the retrieval there, the event is there somewhere.
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00:12:11.993It may have been broken down in a couple of different things oh, a mule deer later in life, right but the idea is that the coding was maladaptive.
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00:12:23.091So the code used at that time he was a young boy, didn't know this was significant, and because there was no journal entry or a card or a photo that went with it, the retrieval is flawed.
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00:12:25.717Or a photo that went with it, the retrieval is flawed.
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00:12:32.639So that's an important way to understand that your brain is going to audit and clear out those memories that you're not going back to very often.
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00:12:35.962And it might be high school For this boy.
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00:12:37.288It was when he was six.
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00:12:41.570So that's a great point, because you brought up.
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00:12:42.832It can be a maladaptive strategy.
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00:12:52.649Sometimes people have that as a coping mechanism for something extremely traumatic where instead of remembering the details, your brain goes, nope, we're going to block that out.
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00:12:57.386And then that can obviously cause serious issues later, but you will not remember.
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00:13:06.902Your brain says don't worry about that, that wasn't a good thing and it's too traumatic to deal with and that can lead to then post-traumatic stress and different issues like that.
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00:13:23.628But you brought that up, is it gets sort of encoded incorrectly and so you can go back with the help of someone and kind of in a sense recode that and look at something as a learning point or something to build from.
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00:13:25.932That's absolutely possible with your brain.
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00:13:27.014It's extremely adaptive.
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00:13:29.649So but I thought that was a good example.
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00:13:38.826And then you brought it, obviously in his case six years old, it didn't register as something valuable right.
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00:13:41.188Whereas your mom was probably like this is a cool thing.
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00:13:45.927Oh my God, this is the greatest memory with my grandchild, so let's go there for just a second.
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00:13:56.734One of the great things about the book that we quoted earlier and highly suggest you guys take a look at when it comes out, is that they talk about how about fake news?
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00:13:57.884How about you know?
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00:14:00.894Like the most recent fake news, brian, sorry about that.
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00:14:05.120Chugging the breakfast this morning must get stuck in the craw, steve McCraw, by the way.
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00:14:12.913The idea is that when you take a look at, there was a parade, there was the Army's 250th birthday and there was a no Kings demonstration.
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00:14:20.833Depending on where you are on the dial, there was 85 million no Kings people and only seven people that came to the parade.
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00:14:27.926Every soldier was forced into servitude to go to the parade and they didn't like it, or this was wonderful.
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00:14:29.365Look at us, and here's our photos.
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00:14:31.626So what does that do to our memory?
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00:14:40.250Well, just like that six-year-old Brian when I showed him the countertop in the back door and you were here with granny and doing it, I was storytelling.
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00:14:51.331So I was creating a new memory based on the old memory that could supplant or support an old memory, but the fear is does it create a new memory that never existed?
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00:14:57.253So the good thing about your brain is don't worry, your brain's been through this before.
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00:14:59.126Your brain is much smarter than you are.
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00:15:01.210And even though, it's going on primitive cues.
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00:15:02.799It's not fooled easily.
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00:15:10.485Well, that's my biggest argument against everyone talking about misinformation or disinformation, or AI and this it could be influence.
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00:15:16.399I was like Are you just finding out that your brain and your memories can be influenced by external sources?
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00:15:25.648Because that's been going on as long as humans have been here, whether it was gossip from a friend, a news article, something you heard, that's how humans are.
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00:15:28.269Everything influences us.
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00:15:31.619So no, I'm not concerned about this one specifically.
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00:15:33.299Because it's not going to be significant.
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00:15:35.604And there's going to be another one 50 years from now.
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00:15:40.831Why do you think that I get so pissed off when people come up with new terms for stuff?
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00:15:45.341Officer-induced jeopardy, gosh, damn, what's the other one?
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00:15:48.029The something syndrome, the imposter syndrome?
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00:15:49.770and stuff At the very beginning of this podcast.
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00:15:53.188That one, I think, is a lot of people just doing a humble brag.
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00:16:07.583Yeah, but what the problem with that is, brian, is that if you go back to the very beginning of this podcast, if you're still listening, thank you for enduring me but at the very beginning of this podcast, when we were talking about the mind is a steel trap or it's letters written in the sand.
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00:16:14.706Okay, the reason there are so many descriptors on this topic of memory is because people have been talking about it.
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00:16:43.633Since people have been talking and that's huge it's been around for a long time People have been poking and prodding and testing it, and that's why it's so important for us to have a discussion, because if you tell people your memory can be distorted our next one why our memory is distorted If you tell them why we forget, then they can learn from that and reinforce by encoding correctly or creating mental triggers for certain events so they don't forget it.
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00:16:50.404I remember being in court one day and a person said I read the Miranda rights off my card, and that's the thing they teach you at the academy.
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00:16:55.488And a savvy defense attorney says show me the card and here's a kid sitting in full uniform.
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00:17:00.110Goes well, but my wallet I don't, and lost all credibility with the jury.
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00:17:01.094You get what I'm saying.
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00:17:07.511So you're putting shit out there, sometimes from recall of an event that didn't occur or isn't strong enough.
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00:17:09.242So so let's go on to number two.
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00:17:11.167Why does memory have distortions?
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00:17:12.912Well, we don't go to the video.
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00:17:13.980Brian said that earlier.
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00:17:29.962We go to the vault where the videos are stored, but we have to take fragments from here and there, reconstruct them, deconstruct them, re-reconstruct them, and then use our beliefs and expectations and experiences to create what we think we remember, if we understand it.
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00:17:32.881Why do you write a written report, not?
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00:17:38.881only does a defense attorney, use it to impeach your testimony, but you write it so you can recall.
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00:17:43.902Is your memory better today when you're testifying two years after, or when you wrote this report?
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00:17:45.750Officer, brian, these are the things.
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00:17:48.361Look, the academy were flipping tires and shooting steel.
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00:17:54.623Yeah, that's all good stuff, but these are the type of topics that people need to understand because they're going to hang with you your entire life.
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00:18:04.325You and I have both suffered from memory distortions, so I got ADD like an MF-er, add that to my PTS and the fact that I got a shitty diet and don't sleep.
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00:18:07.059And what happens is, all of a sudden, I'll go to Shelly and go.
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00:18:09.909Hey, I told you that this is important to me and that we need to do it.
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00:18:11.780And she's like I just came home.
00:18:11.780 -->
00:18:13.463We've never had this conversation.
00:18:13.743 -->
00:18:19.834So it's very similar to the one that you had right, where I set an expectation and create a memory for an event that's never occurred.
00:18:19.834 -->
00:18:26.413So how many times do we do that and how many times is it autonomic to to help us get through the day?
00:18:26.413 -->
00:18:27.644And and guess what?
00:18:27.644 -->
00:18:29.511We do it all the time with driving, don't we?
00:18:29.511 -->
00:18:34.867We're driving and we remember the route to someplace and and we haven't been there in a good long time.
00:18:34.867 -->
00:18:40.433Or when was the last time that you went back to your elementary school and you go, wow, it's so small.
00:18:40.433 -->
00:18:41.779No, you got bigger, dude.
00:18:41.779 -->
00:18:47.278But the idea is that the memory is close enough to the reality where it causes a distortion.
00:18:47.278 -->
00:18:48.942So I like distortions.
00:18:48.942 -->
00:18:53.844To think about those circus mirrors, you know, when you walk in and they make your head look big or your body look.
00:18:53.844 -->
00:18:58.073That's a lot of what's in that vault with your memories.
00:19:00.367 -->
00:19:27.365And part of this is just the amount of information we consume on a daily basis compared to, say, a long time ago, when the only way you got anywhere was by walking and you had your little area that you lived in with your family and your tribe and your this, like you, only had so much information that you needed to recall and so much detail and that's why there's some people that live in certain areas are like oh no, I know everything like the back of my hand, because they they have because they haven't left their.
00:19:27.567 -->
00:19:31.000You know precisely that they don't have a lot of competition, you know.
00:19:31.320 -->
00:19:34.423So that's what I'm saying and so you know people are concerned.
00:19:34.423 -->
00:19:41.667Again like this comes with the information overload that we get and it's, I think, your unconscious is extremely adaptive.
00:19:41.667 -->
00:19:43.349It's called the adaptive conscious right.
00:19:43.349 -->
00:19:47.571So I mean you can learn to do more, but what happens then?
00:19:47.571 -->
00:19:49.413The granularity kind of goes away.
00:19:49.413 -->
00:19:54.596That right if you're on, you know, social media all day long like you're gonna that you did not.
00:19:54.596 -->
00:19:59.365Everything is important all day long like you're gonna not everything is important.
00:19:59.365 -->
00:20:06.530So the more you consume is sort of like you're lowering the threshold for what your brain thinks is important If you only go in there once and read one article and that's all you do today, then that's significant to you.
00:20:06.611 -->
00:20:11.229But if it's compared against 300, well, your brain's got to prioritize it.
00:20:11.229 -->
00:20:21.089So it's like do you want to do, you know, do you want to read something on 300 different things today, or do you want to stick to one and get really good at that?
00:20:21.089 -->
00:20:26.653And that's why people say, hey, focus on one thing or just get in this one area and then learn that and then move on.
00:20:27.339 -->
00:20:29.508Small changes over time are significant.
00:20:29.567 -->
00:20:37.406Yeah, part of that distortion comes just from the kind of amount of information from different areas that you get in kind of amount of information from different areas that you get in.
00:20:37.426 -->
00:20:42.913And add to that, Brian, the sharp edge of the other side of that is lack of experience.
00:20:42.913 -->
00:20:57.528When you don't have a tremendous amount of experience, you're learning, and when you're learning, the way you educate is very different than when you're a savvy person that's encountered these things before and that's why I know you've had this experience, so I'll give it to you this way.
00:20:57.528 -->
00:21:00.053Do you remember the first time you taught somebody to shoot?
00:21:00.053 -->
00:21:04.151If you took them out with a 44 mag and said, okay, what I want you to do is this one.
00:21:04.151 -->
00:21:09.080We're going to do single action, so I need you to pull the hammer back, make sure your fingers off the trigger, take a shot.
00:21:09.080 -->
00:21:22.432Okay, the recoil and all those other things isn't going to seem anywhere near as if you had them with a Trailsman 22 and they're firing and you say, now listen, this next one's going to kick like a mule, Be careful.
00:21:22.759 -->
00:21:31.269What happens is that preparation for this novel experience that they're about to do is so important to the encoding of the experience.
00:21:31.269 -->
00:21:39.430So if we don't make a big thing about it, like I remember the very first time I saw a dead body as a kid and saw a dead body as an adult.
00:21:39.430 -->
00:21:41.755It was very different because of the way my dad did it.
00:21:41.755 -->
00:21:50.690Okay, I'm going to let you cry now and you're going to cry for a few minutes and then you can put that shit away, because we don't have time for that right now, and you're going to grab hold and you're going to help me move this stuff out of the way.
00:21:50.690 -->
00:21:59.801Okay, my dad was very deliberate about that stuff.
00:21:59.801 -->
00:22:01.664So if you set up and encode your memories that way, you can avoid future distortions.
00:22:01.664 -->
00:22:07.775But again, temporally, the longer it goes from that event without photos and without rehearsal and without stories, Brian, you're going to forget significant parts of it.
00:22:07.775 -->
00:22:13.232Only survival-based memories are the ones that stick around longer because they're hardwired.
00:22:13.460 -->
00:22:15.786They're reinforced with hardwires and again, it's still, it's not.
00:22:15.786 -->
00:22:17.410They're not as granular as we think they are when you're hardwired.
00:22:17.410 -->
00:22:19.074They're reinforced with hardwires and again, it's still, it's not.
00:22:19.074 -->
00:22:21.460They're not as granular as we think they are when you're recalling those.
00:22:21.460 -->
00:22:42.268And that was the other thing too about why those distortions happen is because when you're recalling an event, you're actually not, you're not like thinking back to the event when it happened, you're actually thinking about the last time you recalled it, you visited it, you visited so so so if if something's changed between the event and the last time you recalled it, like in there.
00:22:42.327 -->
00:22:44.372Now, you know that's how it becomes.
00:22:44.372 -->
00:22:46.462You know, oh, the fish was this big.
00:22:46.502 -->
00:23:12.702And then, the next thing, you know, it gets bigger and bigger and and that goes into, like some of the Well, let's talk about that then.
00:23:12.702 -->
00:23:13.584Why do biases influence our memory?
00:23:13.584 -->
00:23:16.448And generally and Brian reinforces this all the time on the podcast generally biases aren't bad things.
00:23:16.448 -->
00:23:21.415Bias is a way of turning the event, or the means that we don't go outside of that very limited span of control.
00:23:21.415 -->
00:23:24.209We don't Hoberman and spin it around like the snow globe.
00:23:24.209 -->
00:23:31.209What we do is we've already come to a conclusion, and that really limits us, and I'll give you a perfect example of that.
00:23:32.461 -->
00:23:37.132We know that domestic violence capers are dangerous for coppers, but cops don't.
00:23:37.132 -->
00:23:37.712Why?
00:23:37.712 -->
00:23:38.865Because they forget that.
00:23:38.865 -->
00:23:45.933Because every day they go on a noise complaint, a neighbor trouble and a hundred domestic violence complaints that aren't dangerous.
00:23:45.933 -->
00:23:48.066She said you go home.
00:23:48.066 -->
00:23:50.368I tell you what, if I come back and guess what?
00:23:50.368 -->
00:23:55.605Those make us dumber, Brian, because they fill us up and then, all of a sudden, it's what was that sound?
00:23:55.605 -->
00:23:56.207Holy shit.
00:23:56.207 -->
00:23:57.932This guy wants to kill the whole family.
00:23:57.932 -->
00:23:59.773Do you know that this guy is still on the run?
00:23:59.773 -->
00:24:10.460That killed his three kids when they were supposed to do the parental exchange, and the idea is that those seem like so separated by time, but it's the most dangerous thing you're going to encounter.
00:24:10.460 -->
00:24:13.309So it should be in the forefront of your mind to make you safer.
00:24:13.309 -->
00:24:14.865Here's another on-duty roll call.
00:24:14.865 -->
00:24:16.751Front of your mind to make you safer.
00:24:16.751 -->
00:24:18.196Here's another on-duty roll call.
00:24:18.196 -->
00:24:18.859Why are we dumber?
00:24:18.859 -->
00:24:21.422Because, guess what?
00:24:21.422 -->
00:24:24.008There's a lot of fudge that gets in the way of those memories, right, and so now we go.
00:24:24.028 -->
00:24:25.090here's just another gosh, damn domestic right.
00:24:25.090 -->
00:24:32.608Well, and we, especially when it comes to, you know, memories and biases, like you know, like we talk about all humans, have a very egocentric viewpoint.
00:24:32.808 -->
00:24:33.108So when.
00:24:33.148 -->
00:24:34.090I look back to that.
00:24:34.090 -->
00:24:40.607I need to sort of see myself as the hero or see myself in a positive light.
00:24:40.607 -->
00:24:43.201I don't like looking at it and going could have done this better.
00:24:43.201 -->
00:24:46.128Maybe this happened, so you kind of have that.
00:24:46.128 -->
00:24:51.435It's like the joke nothing ruins a good war story, like another witness right.
00:24:51.476 -->
00:24:52.661When someone else comes in, like wait a minute.
00:24:52.681 -->
00:24:53.765there weren't that many people there.
00:24:53.765 -->
00:24:54.548What are you talking about?
00:24:54.548 -->
00:24:59.362But we have to kind of see it in that light.
00:24:59.362 -->
00:25:08.632You know, it's a sort of a self-preservation, egocentric view that humans have, and so we were more willing to kind of say, oh we, we did all these things great and everything else is messed up.
00:25:08.680 -->
00:25:09.461But that's essential.
00:25:09.461 -->
00:25:13.326Confirmation bias is is a bias, because it's also essential.
00:25:13.326 -->
00:25:25.624For example, if you didn't have a modicum of confirmation bias, then you couldn't read a book and be immersed in the story because you wouldn't understand that that could be you, boy.
00:25:25.624 -->
00:25:26.886These things could happen to me.
00:25:26.886 -->
00:25:31.144That's why reading a horror story is much better than watching a horror film.
00:25:31.144 -->
00:25:33.709By the way, 28 Years Later comes out Thursday.
00:25:33.709 -->
00:25:35.251I'm gone.
00:25:35.593 -->
00:25:55.424You know me, I love my Zomflix but, brian, when I read a Stephen King, let's say, I have to be able to look and become part of the story, even if it's science fiction, even if it's futuristic something I'll never encounter with the little green men I have to see myself there and the confirmation bias allows me to do that.
00:25:55.424 -->
00:25:55.805I'm so egocentric.
00:25:55.805 -->
00:25:57.646What the confirmation bias allows me to do that I'm so egocentric.
00:25:57.646 -->
00:25:59.127What can I learn from this event?
00:25:59.127 -->
00:26:03.131What is happening in this story that might happen to me one day?
00:26:03.131 -->
00:26:06.013And your brain in the background is going go on, go on.
00:26:06.013 -->
00:26:08.615We're doing the Peter Griffin.
00:26:08.615 -->
00:26:14.323No Lois, I didn't look, I kept my finger on the page just in case.
00:26:14.323 -->
00:26:19.065Those are the reason that we have distortions, but also they're deliberately intended.
00:26:19.065 -->
00:26:21.714So our brain learns from previous experience.
00:26:21.714 -->
00:26:23.862If not, everything would be nuanced, brian.
00:26:23.862 -->
00:26:26.731Everything would be novel, and that's no good.
00:26:26.731 -->
00:26:33.450The Groundhog Day is much better than going into a situation and being that idiot played in the Adam Sandler movie.
00:26:33.671 -->
00:26:34.332Hi, I'm John.
00:26:34.332 -->
00:26:35.202Yeah, I know John.
00:26:35.202 -->
00:26:40.405The know the guy that keeps coming back and repeating the same line all the time because he forgets everything.
00:26:40.405 -->
00:26:55.103So biases aren't generally bad, but you have to understand that the more confirmed you are in a bias, the less it's going to allow you wiggle room to consider other options, and that's why we end up saying, hey, fuck this guy, he's going to jail.
00:26:55.103 -->
00:26:58.346Hey, I'll tell you what Next time I come back, you're going to jail, brian.
00:26:58.346 -->
00:27:04.174Those deliberate and definitive answers aren't negotiations and they're certainly not de-escalation.
00:27:04.174 -->
00:27:04.776You get what I mean.
00:27:04.776 -->
00:27:10.681So if I want to learn how to do that, I have to go through my own story.
00:27:10.681 -->
00:27:12.442You know your buddy Chip Huth and Arbinger they're really good on that.
00:27:12.462 -->
00:27:22.932They're really good on that because what they say is hey, you can change your story and I love that and you truly can, right, but you have to be cognizant of the fact that you have a story.
00:27:23.291 -->
00:27:25.734Well, you even just brought up even reading the book.
00:27:25.734 -->
00:27:31.700So let's say a book comes out, it's popular and they'll make a movie about it, right, and a lot of people who read that book and then go see the movie.
00:27:31.740 -->
00:27:37.446They don't like the movie and they go because it's it's, it's different than the movie that played out in their head, right?
00:27:37.446 -->
00:27:38.689So, like you said, they're reading it.
00:27:38.689 -->
00:27:40.270Like you're now engaged in that.
00:27:40.270 -->
00:27:49.119You're part of the story, you're playing a role, you're kind of immersed in it, and so when it's projected on screen by someone else's vision of it, well, that's not your vision of what happened.
00:27:49.119 -->
00:27:55.551So you're kind of like there's that disconnect so yeah, it's incongruent with with what expected to happen.
00:27:55.551 -->
00:27:57.194So you're kind of like I don't know if I like that.
00:27:57.194 -->
00:27:58.826The movie version was terrible.
00:27:59.868 -->
00:28:03.248It's like well, it's really popular, you're going to get this from your daughter.
00:28:03.248 -->
00:28:07.912You know the how to Train your Dragon came out now and it's live action characters.
00:28:07.912 -->
00:28:13.333It's identical to the previous one, but much less animation, but the same amount of CGI.
00:28:13.333 -->
00:28:16.910So there's an argument online about the girl's hair.
00:28:17.420 -->
00:28:18.404There's real dragons in it.
00:28:18.404 -->
00:28:21.209Yes well, there always has been real dragons.
00:28:21.209 -->
00:28:23.907It's the kids that are fake, fake Viking kids.
00:28:23.928 -->
00:28:24.670There's no such thing.
00:28:24.670 -->
00:28:26.246But the idea, you idiot.
00:28:26.246 -->
00:28:36.384The idea is that they're arguing online on the forums because the girl's hair is different than it was in the animated version and this girl that plays the actress doesn't look anything like her.
00:28:36.384 -->
00:28:38.470Well, hair is different than it was in the animated version.
00:28:38.470 -->
00:28:40.376And this girl that plays the actress doesn't look anything like her.
00:28:40.396 -->
00:28:41.440Well, how many times have we heard that Brian?
00:28:42.960 -->
00:28:52.671Oh, in the Hawaiian flick that came out, or this flick, the space one with the donkey, and the idea is that's because we fight with the photograph that we have the index card that we put in our Rolodex for that memory.
00:28:52.671 -->
00:28:58.481So the idea is your brain is going to win and you can reinforce it by recoding correct.
00:28:58.481 -->
00:29:06.125You can go back and correct a memory and the best way to do that is science and logic and faith and reality and those types of things.
00:29:06.125 -->
00:29:11.243And that's what's wrong with PTS many times, Brian is we're stuck in the distortion.
00:29:11.243 -->
00:29:13.048We should have done something different.
00:29:13.048 -->
00:29:14.420We were unable to do this.
00:29:14.420 -->
00:29:16.522We lost control in this moment.
00:29:16.522 -->
00:29:19.307So again, great topic for on-duty roll call.
00:29:19.307 -->
00:29:25.075Look, if you're a trainer and all you're doing is teaching how to top off a mag, that's great stuff, but you're not going far enough.
00:29:28.099 -->
00:29:30.786This is the type of topic that you have to cover.
00:29:30.786 -->
00:29:33.692That's one of the things to help fight against this.
00:29:33.692 -->
00:29:48.122Like you said, if you have to write it down after something happened and you can even do that as as you it's interesting one of the things I saw where someone did kind of like an experiment, where it was like you know, recall some event, just voice recorded on your phone, right, recall an event?
00:29:48.122 -->
00:29:54.193Yep, you know something that happened when you're a kid or something like that, and just just leave it and then later in the week do it again.
00:29:54.193 -->
00:30:02.106You literally just you know, record you telling the same story, and then you can go back and be like, oh wait a minute, like these details were different or this was more important.
00:30:02.146 -->
00:30:02.287Yes.
00:30:04.121 -->
00:30:05.768Literally impeach your own testimony.
00:30:05.768 -->
00:30:11.728And it's like, oh my gosh, like, and and you know it's not is it's?
00:30:11.728 -->
00:30:18.218It's important to understand, because this is, this is just how humans are, and there's nothing wrong with that.
00:30:18.359 -->
00:30:21.048The earlier you embrace it, the better.
00:30:21.087 -->
00:30:26.632You're going to be Right, just knowing that you're never going off of perfect information.
00:30:26.632 -->
00:30:31.708You're never recalling exactly what things need to be, but that's okay.
00:30:31.708 -->
00:30:34.288You almost like you don't have to.
00:30:34.288 -->
00:30:37.348What are the major parts in here that we need to focus on?
00:30:37.348 -->
00:30:38.523What was you know?
00:30:38.523 -->
00:30:49.228It's like we said with the puzzle piece of the Lego, like what's the photo on the front of the box that you're trying to reconstruct, like that's, get it close enough, and so somebody will amazingly know exactly it's?
00:30:49.489 -->
00:30:50.672Hey, it's the Eiffel tower.
00:30:50.672 -->
00:30:52.847It's not two cats playing with a ball of yarn.
00:30:52.847 -->
00:30:54.161And is that significant?
00:30:54.161 -->
00:30:55.001Yeah, that playing with a ball of yarn.
00:30:55.001 -->
00:30:55.843And is that significant?
00:30:55.843 -->
00:31:05.231Yeah, that makes you faster, that makes you more cunning, more ruthless, that gets you ahead of potential competition and in some instances, depending on your job, competition might be danger.
00:31:05.231 -->
00:31:11.221It might be somebody that's trying to kill you, not somebody that's trying to win a contract, and that's important.
00:31:11.221 -->
00:31:14.508And that leads us to what we're talking about here can also be.
00:31:14.508 -->
00:31:17.173People use the term selective.
00:31:17.173 -->
00:31:18.846Hey, you have selective memory.
00:31:19.119 -->
00:31:21.188She'll use that on me all the time, by the way.
00:31:21.700 -->
00:31:29.875But selective memory allows us to we, not our brain to clean up and broom negative social interactions.
00:31:29.875 -->
00:31:47.775There are certain times that we said a joke or we did something, or walked into a room or had our fly down or whatever male or female, and it went where we were embarrassed, or we didn't get the girl or the boy or both, and those past events challenged our view of ourselves, our self-view, our image, our ego.
00:31:47.775 -->
00:31:53.950And so selective memory allows us to skip over the ones that we don't want and avoid them.
00:31:53.950 -->
00:31:56.898Now our brain is saying be cognizant of these because you effed it up last time.
00:31:56.898 -->
00:31:57.318But we're saying, yeah, but we don't want and avoid them.
00:31:57.318 -->
00:31:59.143Now our brain is saying be cognizant of these because you effed it up last time.
00:31:59.143 -->
00:32:03.541But we're saying, yeah, but we don't want to go there because it embarrassed me so much.
00:32:03.541 -->
00:32:13.980So selective memory allows us to emotionally regulate and you mentioned this earlier by forgetting those traumatic experiences or reconstructing them in a better, less negative light.
00:32:13.980 -->
00:32:17.008So that's a cure, a positive cure for PTS.
00:32:17.067 -->
00:32:21.430And many people is saying take me through that incident, but this time you're in charge.
00:32:21.430 -->
00:32:22.665What would you have done differently?
00:32:22.665 -->
00:32:24.426How can we reconstruct that?
00:32:24.426 -->
00:32:27.529And you've got to remember that your brain is trying to make us.
00:32:27.529 -->
00:32:30.690Look, why is scar tissue so much stronger than regular tissue?
00:32:30.690 -->
00:32:36.880Because the reconstruction helps us heal and cope with it, but it also pays it forward.
00:32:36.880 -->
00:32:43.044Hey, remember how you got that, remember how bad that hurt, remember that tingling sensation, those type of things.
00:32:43.044 -->
00:32:50.413Brian, listen, let's say you have a burn on your arm or you got bit, or, like me, I got poison ivy late in life.
00:32:50.413 -->
00:32:57.112The reason that it's so sensitive to touch after that is to remind you it's there, so it has time to heal.
00:32:57.112 -->
00:32:58.394That's ingenious.
00:32:58.740 -->
00:33:00.587What factory machine does that?
00:33:00.587 -->
00:33:04.660You know the earliest machines coming off the assembly line had a self-oiler.
00:33:04.660 -->
00:33:13.055Do you understand how that changed the industry, brian, instead of the kid coming up with the mop, you know the Egyptian logs with the pyramids and the stone.
00:33:13.055 -->
00:33:17.250So the idea is that our brain is a wonderful, amazing tool.
00:33:17.250 -->
00:33:28.683But selective memory is when we reach in to try to change things, either accidentally or deliberately, and we have to be cognizant of the fact that when we do that, the outcomes change Rarely, if ever.
00:33:28.683 -->
00:33:29.887Does anybody go in and go?
00:33:29.887 -->
00:33:31.103Doom and gloom.
00:33:31.103 -->
00:33:34.444Let's take that wonderful memory, that wedding, and make it horrible.
00:33:34.444 -->
00:33:36.323We don't do that, we do it opposite.
00:33:36.323 -->
00:33:40.046Oh my, if I wouldn't have been there to pick up that veil, think how the wedding would have right.
00:33:40.046 -->
00:33:43.240And those are constructive, again, using that term constructive.
00:33:43.240 -->
00:33:47.770So that's another distortion, but those ones are generally self-inflicted.
00:33:48.251 -->
00:33:57.981Yeah, and and so you know, this is why I, looking at it and they do a great job and the, the, the, the authors of that book talk about like, look at it as a feature, not a bug, right?
00:33:57.981 -->
00:34:00.029So so why would these be features?
00:34:00.029 -->
00:34:01.194Why would these things happening?
00:34:01.194 -->
00:34:08.204Like, if I can go back and I realize like, oh man, I, I misremembered something, I didn't get it right, I can think to myself right there and go, well, why would?
00:34:08.204 -->
00:34:09.387Why would I do that?
00:34:09.387 -->
00:34:10.528Why would my brain do that?
00:34:10.528 -->
00:34:18.182Because the whole point of memories is learning from the past, planning for the future and emotionally coping right it's literally.
00:34:18.322 -->
00:34:20.570How do we make sense?
00:34:20.570 -->
00:34:22.818Making in a sense like how do I learn from this?
00:34:22.898 -->
00:34:24.123what do I need to know?
00:34:24.123 -->
00:34:26.775So either this doesn't happen again or it does happen again.
00:34:26.775 -->
00:34:34.822If it's a good thing, right, how can I seek out this, this in the future because this was really good for me, or stay away from it in the future because it's really bad for me?
00:34:34.822 -->
00:34:38.351And then, how do I handle what this is emotionally?
00:34:38.351 -->
00:34:41.465Because physically is one thing, your body's going to repair itself in the way it can.
00:34:41.465 -->
00:34:49.275You don't really have control over that, but you have influence over the emotional coping part.
00:34:49.275 -->
00:35:03.068And so, if I don't have, maybe, skills to deal with it or I don't categorize it correctly, maybe I look at, someone said something to me that was criticism and I took it the wrong way.
00:35:03.068 -->
00:35:05.393Maybe they didn't mean it to be a negative thing.
00:35:05.393 -->
00:35:06.902They were trying to improve me.
00:35:06.902 -->
00:35:09.168But, like I said, this person's an asshole.
00:35:09.168 -->
00:35:10.572I'm fine at that.
00:35:10.612 -->
00:35:19.864Well, I might never get better at that if that's the way I look at it, and so now you're in that negative feedback loop which is not going to help anybody.
00:35:20.166 -->
00:35:28.653But you know, and I've been had people say something before and like they were being assholes, but like there was a little bit of truth in what they said.
00:35:28.965 -->
00:35:32.391So I went, well, yeah, this person's a dick and they're just speaking out and whatever.
00:35:32.391 -->
00:35:35.574But like, what was it that caused them to say that about me?
00:35:35.574 -->
00:35:44.311And I went, oh yeah, like here's a little part of that past interaction that I could get better at, even though his feedback was not constructive, not meant to be constructive.
00:35:44.311 -->
00:35:52.878You can still take it that way, versus just putting sort of the wall up and saying, oh well, I'll never do that again or you know, that didn't mean anything because that person's an idiot.
00:35:52.878 -->
00:35:57.286It's like like I always tell people.
00:35:57.286 -->
00:36:12.280It's like when you get that feedback, like you know, everyone's always surveys and this and like you know, if you're filling out a you know personal, you know feedback about your thoughts and feelings on something like it's kind of like man, it might be important, you know, maybe there's some value in there.
00:36:12.280 -->
00:36:16.724But just taking a survey about self-reporting different, especially when it comes to behaviors or thoughts.
00:36:16.744 -->
00:36:17.809What do you think about you?
00:36:17.849 -->
00:36:33.452Yeah, it's like it's not the best gauge, because, one, you're going to think you're better at things that you're that you are, and two, you're also going not really be that bad at you, just feel like you are so.
00:36:33.472 -->
00:36:36.164So there's a there's this big gap there, One of the few reasons that I do like peer review, and I'll give you an example of that.
00:36:36.164 -->
00:36:41.106You can get any corporal or Lance corporal or private to tell you it was the best training they ever took.
00:36:41.106 -->
00:36:52.688You can get a police officer from a smaller agency that doesn't get training very often to come to your big, you know in-city training that you've rehearsed and say it was the best training they've ever had.
00:36:52.688 -->
00:36:59.579But when you get your doctors or your peers or the people that are industry leaders and they come and go, holy crap, that was great.
00:36:59.579 -->
00:37:00.985That's when you need to start listening.
00:37:00.985 -->
00:37:09.307So if you, if you challenge your recall in that same way, you could recode for best recall, Does that make sense?
00:37:09.670 -->
00:37:21.994Well, and it and it's what you know, not what your thoughts and feelings are about it, because that can obviously be heavily influenced by so many different factors, it's like sort of what were what were your behaviors after?
00:37:22.155 -->
00:37:23.257what changed after?
00:37:23.257 -->
00:37:24.309What were the outcomes?
00:37:24.309 -->
00:37:33.565That were different later on, because I've seen that before where people were like, well, yeah, you know, and I saw that at a training course where someone was like, well, yeah, you know, it's kind of, it's kind of average or whatever.
00:37:33.565 -->
00:37:38.706I didn't really learn a whole lot and or you know, it's basic or it's this, and then they went out and did.
00:37:38.706 -->
00:37:46.650They got put in a situation that they had just learned about in training and did exactly what they were supposed to do and knocked out of the park and they just thought that they just knew how do that.
00:37:46.650 -->
00:37:51.257It was like dude, you didn't know that two days ago.
00:37:51.637 -->
00:37:55.693But we do that as human beings Like I love that, that's a coping mechanism, Brian.
00:37:56.295 -->
00:38:01.331And so the idea is that this goes back to the authors again and why both of us like the book.
00:38:01.331 -->
00:38:16.137The idea is that they're saying look, these aren't maladaptive strategies, these are hardwired and many times they're deliberately vague to allow you to learn and recall things wrong so you can fix them, and that's part of the learning process.
00:38:16.137 -->
00:38:21.813So you don't want to injure yourself so severely that you can't, you know, come back from it.
00:38:21.813 -->
00:38:29.367But it's okay to have an emotionally distressing, like your first breakup or the first time somebody told you no for a situation.
00:38:29.367 -->
00:38:33.751They're meant to evoke a certain response, so you learn from that response.
00:38:33.751 -->
00:38:34.414Hey, wait a minute.
00:38:34.414 -->
00:38:36.371There are a left and right lateral limit.
00:38:36.371 -->
00:38:40.193There is a limit of advance, and the sooner that you learn that you know.
00:38:40.786 -->
00:38:42.994How many times have you seen a person that like?
00:38:42.994 -->
00:38:44.853I'll give you one a prediction on Tom Cruise.
00:38:44.853 -->
00:38:52.458Tom Cruise is not going to go gently into that good night because Tom Cruise is constantly trying to top his previous performance and doesn't like using CG.
00:38:52.458 -->
00:38:58.172So if you hear about him falling to his death or the plane crashing or something, you're not going to be surprised, are you?
00:38:58.172 -->
00:39:03.657But if you hear somebody else that pays attention to the actuarial tables.
00:39:03.657 -->
00:39:06.112If you see that, that's going to surprise you a little bit.
00:39:06.112 -->
00:39:15.557So your brain wants to get you to the edge, but it wants to pull you back, and that's why sometimes the red and blue is getting our way, brian, because we slide up on a scene of a man with a gun and then we get shot.
00:39:15.557 -->
00:39:26.335Holy shit, we missed all those cues beforehand because we overrode our circuits with incoming memories, right, and what has to happen is we have to give ourselves the gift of time and distance.
00:39:26.335 -->
00:39:28.452Have we considered this before?
00:39:28.452 -->
00:39:30.135Have we experienced this before?
00:39:30.135 -->
00:39:31.405Is there somebody else that has that?
00:39:31.445 -->
00:39:39.835I can ask them about this, but we're not want to do that you know and and one of the one of the questions I get, you know, people always want to know.
00:39:39.835 -->
00:39:41.965Well then, like, how do I improve my memory?
00:39:41.965 -->
00:39:42.907Or how do I get?
00:39:42.907 -->
00:39:49.708And like there's the, the, you know the people that do like the memory tricks and count cards and you can practice that skill set.
00:39:49.708 -->
00:39:51.833But that's not really what we're talking about right in this.
00:39:51.833 -->
00:40:03.670We're trying to recall information and the whole point about the thing about memory is like it's like that you have an infinite amount of space and like your brain could it literally it could.
00:40:03.670 -->
00:40:08.507Just there's no limit to what you can, you know, can, store in your memory.
00:40:08.507 -->
00:40:11.695But it goes back to the recall and how you recall things.
00:40:12.724 -->
00:40:18.708That's where things get kind of get in the way, because your brain wants to go All right, like I just want to focus on what's important.
00:40:18.708 -->
00:40:24.570So you, you know, just like, even it's funny, cause it's how, like my Mac is right, I have everything backed up to the cloud.
00:40:24.570 -->
00:40:32.065So if I don't open up a folder for a few months it's no longer physically on my hard drive, it's stored in the cloud.
00:40:32.106 -->
00:40:35.255It boots it up there and then it has to download it and allow me to open it.
00:40:35.255 -->
00:40:36.231Well, it's just like your brain.
00:40:36.231 -->
00:40:36.755It doesn't say anything.
00:40:36.775 -->
00:40:37.885I wonder where they got that idea.
00:40:38.105 -->
00:40:41.653I know right, it's like just throw it back there, we don't need this.
00:40:41.653 -->
00:40:45.467And so people always say well, how do I work on my recall?
00:40:45.467 -->
00:40:59.713You can do when you talk about writing things down on exactly what happened and then recalling and telling that story almost as a script over and over again can get you better, but you're still going to start to fill some stuff in, so it's never going to be perfect.
00:40:59.945 -->
00:41:02.574Let me ask you this, though, and you're spot on.
00:41:02.574 -->
00:41:03.789I absolutely agree with that.
00:41:03.789 -->
00:41:09.016But and listen to people that do after action reviews.
00:41:09.016 -->
00:41:19.451Two people that do after action reviews and I've been trying to think of his name out at the young captain, out at the infantry immersive trainer that did a paper on this and is going to have his PhD soon Just can't think of his name Matt.
00:41:20.485 -->
00:41:21.686He's like a turtle now.
00:41:21.746 -->
00:41:23.266Yeah, are you serious?
00:41:23.266 -->
00:41:24.266Holy shit, I'm my old.
00:41:24.266 -->
00:41:26.628Well, finnell got it at hello, and.
00:41:26.628 -->
00:41:29.690And the idea is that, how important is an after-action review?
00:41:29.690 -->
00:41:44.376Well, an after-action review touches on the psychological, but it also touches on the sociological, brian, because an after-action review is not just to say here's where we can get better or here's the weaknesses, it's to go over the accurate story.
00:41:44.956 -->
00:41:53.961And so everybody shares the story and you can correct outliers and go no, tommy, that wasn't a sniper, that was an IED going off or no.
00:41:53.961 -->
00:42:03.326Those were gunshots, not balloons popping in the mall, so an interaction review.
00:42:03.346 -->
00:42:11.420it has so many more purposes to coding properly, coding memories that's, if done correctly, because that's also, when things can go, everything can get skewed and the whole memory is changed.
00:42:11.420 -->
00:42:19.907And now the story is very different than from what actually happened, because we've reinforced each other's or someone brought something up that was wrong People went.
00:42:19.967 -->
00:42:20.791oh, I didn't know that.
00:42:21.608 -->
00:42:33.451Now it's part of that story of what happened, and that's a big problem, right, when you get into those group, you know this is what I saw, this is what you saw, or this is what I saw, this is what you saw, or or this is what we think happened.
00:42:33.451 -->
00:42:35.416And then now here's the story we're coming up with.
00:42:35.416 -->
00:42:37.170It's like, well, there's going to be seams and gaps in there.
00:42:37.170 -->
00:42:43.764You're never going to have it 100 correct, it's just exactly no, even even it's not designed that way, right, well, but but think about it.
00:42:43.844 -->
00:42:49.456Even even, like you know, we said that the camera doesn't lie, but it also doesn't capture the whole story.
00:42:49.456 -->
00:42:55.275Right, you can have a camera on something, but that doesn't capture the mood in there, that doesn't capture everything that's going on.
00:42:55.275 -->
00:42:58.130So there's a few things in there.
00:42:58.130 -->
00:43:02.588All right, greg, we need to take a quick break there just to break back at it.
00:43:02.588 -->
00:43:07.849But one of the things that we did want to discuss with memory is imagination.
00:43:07.849 -->
00:43:18.172So how does that impact or affect my memory, how can it change it, and what role does just our own human imagination play in this?
00:43:18.592 -->
00:43:18.853Yeah.
00:43:18.853 -->
00:43:36.197So here's a fight that we're going to continue to have with simulation and virtual reality folks, because we've been in the game for a good long time and they sometimes are so excited by their new discoveries that they don't think outside the box or inside the box, they think future and they don't think current.
00:43:36.197 -->
00:43:36.985What do I mean by that?
00:43:37.407 -->
00:43:55.315our imaginations are hugely important and that's why we like games and so if part of the simulation is a game where we have to use our imagination and think through a situation and not just shoot through it or fight through it, we'll come out of that sweating and we'll come out of that with a memory that's lingering and lasting.
00:43:55.315 -->
00:43:57.172Hey, can I stop and try that again?
00:43:57.172 -->
00:43:59.472Yeah, of course you can, because it's in a simulation.
00:43:59.472 -->
00:44:01.472Wouldn't it be great if we could do that on the road?
00:44:01.472 -->
00:44:09.405So imagination reinforces the nature of a human because we're creative beings.
00:44:09.405 -->
00:44:17.592If we weren't, we'd never get out of the cave, then we'd never invent the wheel and then we'd never think about the Fulton and the steam engine and everything else that's going on.
00:44:17.985 -->
00:44:20.914So our memories are subject to our simulations.
00:44:20.914 -->
00:44:24.074For example, a daydream or masturbation.
00:44:24.074 -->
00:44:28.474Or, oh my God, wouldn't it be good to go to a theme park this summer?
00:44:28.474 -->
00:44:32.056Or hey, I'm going to rent a hotel room this weekend because I don't have air conditioning.
00:44:32.056 -->
00:44:37.005Those things where we're projecting things that haven't occurred or occurred a long time ago.
00:44:37.005 -->
00:44:42.007Reinforce the good memories and take away the bad memories, or they.
00:44:42.007 -->
00:44:43.833Let us try before we buy.
00:44:43.833 -->
00:44:46.291Wow, you know what might happen on that one.
00:44:46.291 -->
00:44:52.753I might get involved with this person and then my wife is going to fire a significant other and I'm going to get a divorce.
00:44:52.753 -->
00:45:02.780So the point is, we can misremember better and create new factors that weren't part of the original memory, and those can be constructive.
00:45:02.780 -->
00:45:04.771Now they can also be destructive.
00:45:04.771 -->
00:45:06.833So that's the problem with our imagination.
00:45:08.188 -->
00:45:10.074Yeah, but this is where it gets into.
00:45:10.074 -->
00:45:22.934And when I use the term simulation training, I'm not just talking about on a computer screen or a headset or something anytime you're doing a, let's say, training scenario and you're doing some, you know, whatever it is, you're going through, you get some role players and do that.
00:45:22.934 -->
00:45:23.759That's simulation training.
00:45:23.759 -->
00:45:28.922You're simulating something that you're likely to see again in the future so that brain loves that.
00:45:28.943 -->
00:45:30.206But that's the thing is.
00:45:30.206 -->
00:45:43.217That's why the imagination part is so important and that's why we're talking about memory too, because from a training aspect like that, you can create memories that are good enough to use for the future.
00:45:43.217 -->
00:45:47.213Remember, it's all about what your brain doesn't care if they're close.
00:45:47.213 -->
00:45:57.150The whole point behind memory is to use it for some utile purpose in the future, to either do something good or save yourself, or repeat something or stay away.
00:45:57.150 -->
00:46:12.460So you can create and construct that, and it just has to have enough cognitive fidelity to get your imagination going and say okay, my brain is constructing a memory, even though it's in training, even though it's not a real situation, it's.
00:46:12.460 -->
00:46:24.153It's real enough for your brain so that going forward, it remembers that when you're in something that's cognitively close enough and it goes oh shit, I've been here before and now you know what to do, because obviously that's what the training part was for.
00:46:24.153 -->
00:46:27.068But it's, it's, it's quite it's, it's really that simple.
00:46:27.307 -->
00:46:35.920But sometimes, when focus on all the wrong things they do Remember with the military stuff it's like all right, we got to get people who speak this dialect of Arabic and this.
00:46:35.920 -->
00:46:37.172And it's like no, no, no, no.
00:46:37.172 -->
00:46:42.012You want to simulate a language barrier, so have them speak Klingon, it doesn't matter.
00:46:42.012 -->
00:46:43.726You want to simulate this.
00:46:43.726 -->
00:46:50.474It doesn't have to be the specific thing that you're going to, unless you're doing some very specific rehearsal for some very specific mission.
00:46:50.474 -->
00:46:51.615But that's not what.
00:46:51.615 -->
00:46:53.038What typical training is right?
00:46:53.038 -->
00:46:53.719So it's it's.
00:46:53.719 -->
00:46:59.193What are those confounds that I that that happen in all of them, right, and then I can create a story right.
00:46:59.193 -->
00:47:06.762That's why I would say the brief you give the, the the direction before they ever walk in, is the most important part.
00:47:06.922 -->
00:47:08.387We tell everybody that'll listen.
00:47:08.387 -->
00:47:09.268That's important.
00:47:09.268 -->
00:47:12.577And we also say I want you to consider a Fabergé egg.
00:47:12.577 -->
00:47:20.635Do you remember the old ones that came around the holidays where I could peek into it and see the little village and it was all dressed up for whatever event that was going on.
00:47:20.635 -->
00:47:22.592Can you imagine with the Hoberman?
00:47:22.592 -->
00:47:31.548And, of course, there's always the jack-in-the-box, because you have to take into consideration the things that you didn't consider, that I have to take into consideration the things that you didn't consider.
00:47:31.548 -->
00:47:34.871That's how we learn, but I have to be able to dial it back and say, okay, tack, freeze, stop right now.
00:47:34.871 -->
00:47:36.311Look into the Fabergé egg.
00:47:36.311 -->
00:47:37.851Here's what you're not seeing.
00:47:37.851 -->
00:47:39.952Here's the negative space and the dead space.
00:47:39.952 -->
00:47:41.873Would that change your timeline?
00:47:41.873 -->
00:47:46.076Would that influence how you're going to pick cover with these things?
00:47:46.275 -->
00:47:54.681Now, look, your brain's already doing that, but reinforcing it by stopping and starting training and starting with a coach outside and have her mentor go stop.
00:47:54.681 -->
00:47:55.920Do you want to try that again?
00:47:55.920 -->
00:47:57.041Do you want to do those?
00:47:57.041 -->
00:48:00.443Things are so constructive because that's how your brain works already.
00:48:00.443 -->
00:48:05.755So what's happening is we're looking for an fMRI and getting a difference in the ganglia and do that.
00:48:05.755 -->
00:48:06.034All that.
00:48:06.034 -->
00:48:11.436Yeah, it's all wonderful stuff, but look, you can recall the critical incidents.
00:48:11.436 -->
00:48:14.574And look, why do we think we just talked about an AAR?
00:48:14.574 -->
00:48:18.835How many different terms are there now where people are making money for AAR and how to do it?
00:48:18.835 -->
00:48:23.744And then somebody says, yeah, but you can do it in business, you can do it after a business meeting, it's all the same shit.
00:48:23.744 -->
00:48:29.614The idea is you have to construct it in a manner where it's a rigid progression of things that happen.
00:48:29.614 -->
00:48:33.286So the brain goes oh, it's a piece of candy, oh, it's a game.
00:48:33.286 -->
00:48:36.896And then the brain game theory takes over and it goes okay, well, how do I game the game?
00:48:37.085 -->
00:48:47.416And that's how you do it, because now I understand that that holster and the number of rounds and the flashlight and how many lumens and all that other stuff we're putting so much stuff into the simulation.
00:48:47.416 -->
00:48:52.768To make it real it doesn't have to be that hyper realistic.
00:48:52.768 -->
00:48:56.887What it needs to be is it needs to be something that's challenging to the brain where they go, what about that guy?
00:48:56.887 -->
00:48:58.353What's that shadow?
00:48:58.353 -->
00:48:59.637What's behind that door?
00:48:59.938 -->
00:49:20.929because the more inquisitive you are earlier on the the more likely you are to save a life and that life may be well and because of how recall and memory and cognition and decision-making work, you're unconsciously arriving at decisions before you're consciously aware of there's a great one, I don't want to get into it today, but there's another book I got to send you.
00:49:21.552 -->
00:49:25.393It's really good, but the whole topic is so like we could do a whole series on it.
00:49:25.393 -->
00:49:43.233But what it what they showed in some of these experiments to work with the EEGs and the couple of different measurement tests, they put people through a little decision-making and they said, okay, when you think you've arrived at that, when you've consciously aware of what your answer is, you know, press this button, right, and so then they're measuring, and they were measuring.
00:49:43.233 -->
00:49:59.331Sometimes two, three, 10 seconds before they press that button, their brain lit up with the answer, so meaning unconsciously it was already there, and then it took some time for them to be consciously aware of it, which is good, speaks to exactly what you were talking about with.
00:49:59.331 -->
00:50:08.416How do I set something up to learn from this so I don't have to learn everything the hard way, right, and I can use it again in the future because it's real enough.
00:50:08.416 -->
00:50:15.197I will unconsciously arrive at the correct answer, given the set of circumstances, if it's close enough to something I've seen before in the past.
00:50:15.297 -->
00:50:15.998You're exactly right.
00:50:15.998 -->
00:50:16.706So can I share?
00:50:16.706 -->
00:50:25.338My favorite Family Guy episode of all time, Of course, Is when Stewie is berated by Brian on the couch at the house and Stewie walks away.
00:50:25.338 -->
00:50:26.971And as he walks away he comes up and goes.
00:50:26.971 -->
00:50:28.054Oh, I should have said this.
00:50:33.824 -->
00:50:36.144So, the entire rest of the episode is Stewie constructing a time machine so he could go back and say the right thing.
00:50:36.144 -->
00:50:40.750And so now he degrades Brian each time because he goes back to that time machine every time.
00:50:40.750 -->
00:50:44.807That's what a simulator is, that's what virtual reality is, so you can go.
00:50:44.807 -->
00:50:45.309Holy shit.
00:50:45.309 -->
00:50:48.012You know what would have worked better If I would have gone to the left and this?
00:50:49.507 -->
00:50:54.331And so if you have a machine, exactly where you can play that out and then you can discuss it with another.
00:50:54.331 -->
00:50:59.637Brian, if you can't discuss it in real time and make corrections in real time, then it's worthless.
00:50:59.637 -->
00:51:04.023You're going to go, yeah, but I increased my shot spray time to reload.
00:51:04.023 -->
00:51:04.485Whatever.
00:51:04.485 -->
00:51:10.414All of these fucking things that you think are important might be important to your company in the game now, but are they really?
00:51:10.414 -->
00:51:17.951Are they really changing how a human being thinks about the process?
00:51:17.951 -->
00:51:24.699So true, left of bang thinking means that we have to consider all of those aspects before we get into the situation and then be far enough away to see them implemented.
00:51:24.900 -->
00:51:26.606Because you're making decisions faster.
00:51:26.646 -->
00:51:29.992You're not waiting for that thing and then going, oh this is what I need to do.
00:51:30.132 -->
00:51:31.396Now I have to react to this.
00:51:31.396 -->
00:51:32.798Now I have to react to that.
00:51:32.798 -->
00:51:55.092So if you create a game where the person can outthink it and call their own tack, freeze and go, I feel that this is going to go sideways and no matter what interventions I use this guy's about to attack me and I'm going to have to use lethal force Then you should be able to win and then they should give you a lawn chair and you can sit down and watch it play out, watch it play out, because that's as important to your brain as ever, pulling the trigger.
00:51:55.393 -->
00:51:59.010And right now, you know the old gosh him culprits that are against us on it.
00:51:59.010 -->
00:52:00.052They're sitting there going.
00:52:00.052 -->
00:52:00.954No, it's not true?
00:52:00.954 -->
00:52:02.306Well, it's backed up by science.
00:52:02.465 -->
00:52:06.748Yeah, more tests on my.
00:52:06.807 -->
00:52:12.652But you see, brian, it might not be as much fun as standing on a skid and using a Vulcan to spray a crowd.
00:52:12.652 -->
00:52:15.132You know they were innocent.
00:52:15.132 -->
00:52:16.333It was an innocent prototype.
00:52:16.333 -->
00:52:18.855What is that movie with Schwarzenegger?
00:52:18.855 -->
00:52:19.135The?
00:52:19.596 -->
00:52:20.436Total, not Total.
00:52:20.476 -->
00:52:25.780Recall with Richard Dawson, where he goes back through the Running.
00:52:25.820 -->
00:52:25.980Man.
00:52:26.420 -->
00:52:27.681It's an old Stephen King book.
00:52:27.681 -->
00:52:32.704In the Running man you'll see the part of the movie I'm talking about, jesus.
00:52:32.704 -->
00:52:32.865I'm old.
00:52:32.865 -->
00:52:47.494But the idea, brian, is, I would say to you use your game to create selective memory, to imprint selective memory and create a module where you can go hey, listen, last time I was in this situation went easy.
00:52:47.905 -->
00:52:55.976But here are considerations I'm making now that don't make sense, because in that turbidity, brian, in that incongruent signal, hides the danger.
00:52:55.976 -->
00:53:05.932So you should have enough of those early on where the person can say that locks too new for that door, that license plate is clean, but the rest of the car is filthy.
00:53:05.932 -->
00:53:07.097Do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:53:07.097 -->
00:53:12.331Hey, why would somebody put a rag, that part of their column, all of those things that we encounter?
00:53:12.331 -->
00:53:13.630And guess what, brian?
00:53:13.630 -->
00:53:18.284Then I can do that game over and over and over again until I start to master those skills.
00:53:18.284 -->
00:53:28.193I'm afraid of terms like subject matter expert or skill mastery, but still it's going to get us close enough, and cognitively close enough is a win, brian, in my book.
00:53:28.213 -->
00:53:32.407Yeah, yeah, well, and that's what I mean.
00:53:32.407 -->
00:53:35.237Just everything that we talked about, that's, that's the key concept for your brain.
00:53:35.237 -->
00:53:38.146That's all it cares about it just cares about.
00:53:38.146 -->
00:53:43.057Is it enough information to be utile to use this?
00:53:43.239 -->
00:53:44.963for some purpose in the future.
00:53:44.963 -->
00:53:48.108I don't give a shit about the little details of what.
00:53:48.108 -->
00:53:51.253Maybe it was a black shirt, not a white shirt, it was a red hat.
00:53:51.253 -->
00:54:00.865Those things don't matter as much as the actions and the feeling that you had and the conceptual understanding of what occurred.
00:54:00.865 -->
00:54:02.266That's your brain saying.
00:54:02.266 -->
00:54:03.188This is now.
00:54:03.188 -->
00:54:08.436The problem is we don't consciously choose what those things are.
00:54:08.436 -->
00:54:09.838Our brain chooses for us.
00:54:09.838 -->
00:54:12.711So those inputs might be sort of incorrect.
00:54:12.711 -->
00:54:13.454Does that make sense?
00:54:13.454 -->
00:54:13.735Right?
00:54:13.914 -->
00:54:17.811But we can get more in tune, we can be more synchronous.
00:54:17.811 -->
00:54:20.721We can be more closely aligned.
00:54:20.721 -->
00:54:24.411Brian, this goes right back to our argument with training.
00:54:24.411 -->
00:54:34.963If you're sitting in a chair staring straight at the screen, nobody has the ability to move around the table or interact with the instructors, you get what I'm trying to say.
00:54:34.963 -->
00:54:36.436You're not going to learn as much.
00:54:36.436 -->
00:54:38.818And then people say, well, people learn at a different rate.
00:54:38.949 -->
00:54:42.501No, we all learn at the same exact rate, or we wouldn't have any of the similar.
00:54:42.791 -->
00:54:46.411We wouldn't have similar poems, we wouldn't screw the same way, we wouldn't read books.
00:54:46.411 -->
00:54:50.239Okay, there are certain things that we just have to people are the same all over the world.
00:54:50.239 -->
00:54:52.590Wow, a great person said that one time, brian.
00:54:52.590 -->
00:55:04.682So I say that distortions and biases are good for us in many instances, and if we learn selective memory to be constructive, it can be a powerful learning force.
00:55:05.110 -->
00:55:13.670They are designed in a constructive manner for the purposes of the factory that's what it's designed for.
00:55:13.670 -->
00:55:21.215So if, if that you know tool is being used, you know, in a manner for which it was not designed to be used, well, that's the problem.
00:55:21.215 -->
00:55:24.472It's not the tool, that's the problem, it's the the use of that tool, right?
00:55:24.793 -->
00:55:29.530so and we expect an outcome and we don't know why we can't get to the outcome.
00:55:29.530 -->
00:55:30.338What's inhibiting it?
00:55:30.338 -->
00:55:33.818So we say it must be the learner, it must be the student.
00:55:33.818 -->
00:55:35.063And wait a minute.
00:55:35.063 -->
00:55:38.757You know, your methodology could be flawed as well yeah, guess what I go to.
00:55:38.757 -->
00:55:42.030I go back to peer review and my peers that are in the same business go.
00:55:42.070 -->
00:55:44.862No, you're right, fuck well, the yeah, and those are.
00:55:44.862 -->
00:55:45.222That's a.
00:55:45.222 -->
00:55:46.085That's a again.
00:55:46.085 -->
00:55:47.030It's the interaction.
00:55:47.030 -->
00:55:55.690It's the relationship between in a training environment, especially like it's the interaction, it's the relationship between in a training environment, especially like it's an interaction between the person conducting the training, the person receiving the training.
00:55:55.690 -->
00:55:59.039That that is a, that's a that it's not on.
00:55:59.039 -->
00:56:07.135It's not on one or the other, it is on both, and so like you could have the greatest student in the world, and if it's a shitty teacher, they're not learning.
00:56:07.155 -->
00:56:08.981The greatest teacher in the world is a shitty student.
00:56:08.981 -->
00:56:12.282Let's throw that on a pile and see if it sticks.
00:56:12.282 -->
00:56:25.827You've seen me countless times at the very inception of a course, walking through and meeting people that are coming into the course and having a seat, and you always see me go for a certain type of individual and go after them.
00:56:25.827 -->
00:56:30.094Can you describe what that individual is like and why it's usually well.
00:56:31.856 -->
00:56:40.425Well, the reason why you do it at first and go talk to those people before even getting started is to break down some barriers, because it appears that there's some sort of barrier or there's some attitude.
00:56:40.469 -->
00:56:43.530They got a chip on their shoulder even coming into the training.
00:56:44.572 -->
00:56:46.038And the reason why you're going up is to go.
00:56:46.038 -->
00:56:47.030Well, why Is it?
00:56:47.030 -->
00:56:49.398Because they're at this training, or are they going through a divorce?
00:56:49.398 -->
00:56:51.217Did they get a car accident on the way here?
00:56:51.217 -->
00:56:52.398What does it have to do with?
00:56:52.418 -->
00:56:52.458it?
00:56:52.458 -->
00:56:59.237Do they have to leave in 15 minutes because they got a conference call out in the hallway and they really wanted to look forward to the beginning of the training, exactly.
00:56:59.289 -->
00:57:05.478Because remember when I was telling you when I was training one of the SEAL teams and I'm like this isn't going well.
00:57:05.478 -->
00:57:10.041These guys, these guys are fucking pissed, they're gonna kill me, they're gonna arms cross legs exactly.
00:57:10.041 -->
00:57:14.485And then, and then during the break, the chief's like, hey, uh, we need to take a little bit longer break.
00:57:14.485 -->
00:57:15.405I'm like, hey, everything good.
00:57:15.405 -->
00:57:16.085He's like we need.
00:57:16.085 -->
00:57:18.550We just had some new guys show up, we want to get them all in there.
00:57:18.550 -->
00:57:19.052And this is.
00:57:19.072 -->
00:57:23.630This is such great training I was so pissed that no one ever taught me this before.
00:57:23.630 -->
00:57:28.057I've been in this for 20 and I'm like, oh, thank god, because I was ready to eat your gun.
00:57:28.297 -->
00:57:29.280Yeah, yeah.
00:57:29.280 -->
00:57:30.461So add to this one, folks.
00:57:30.461 -->
00:57:32.425If you're still listening, here's one for free.
00:57:32.425 -->
00:57:34.090So we're at Liberty University.
00:57:34.090 -->
00:57:37.315We always have an eclectic crowd there and we absolutely love Liberty.
00:57:37.750 -->
00:57:43.190I can't wait to get back there, but it's always different, always different and always so wonderful to do so.
00:57:43.190 -->
00:57:46.911On this day, it's just pouring rain outside, and so, Brian, I have to run to the car.
00:57:46.911 -->
00:57:47.713And so, brian, I have to run to the car.
00:57:47.713 -->
00:57:48.233The doors are locked.
00:57:48.233 -->
00:57:49.516We finally get somebody to open the door.
00:57:49.516 -->
00:58:00.039We get to the room and there's a problem with the electric in the room, but the room is half full already and it's 10 minutes before we get there, and so that's a full 45 minutes before any time.
00:58:00.039 -->
00:58:02.539And we're like, wow, these people must really love us.
00:58:02.889 -->
00:58:08.581And we look and it's the worst crew of you A woman with a poodle uh, two guys that are in their 80s.
00:58:08.983 -->
00:58:09.925One person in a walker.
00:58:09.925 -->
00:58:13.153It's not our normal set right and so I have to.
00:58:13.153 -->
00:58:14.777So I walk over and I ask I go.
00:58:15.197 -->
00:58:30.512So you folks are here for a navigate and they look and they go oh, this isn't bingo it's saturday, it's supposed to be bingo and you remember it was right next door, at the halt on the thing and leave, and so it was like so funny because your expectations.
00:58:30.512 -->
00:58:35.483So the reason I play pinball around the room is because I want to see what their expectations are.
00:58:35.483 -->
00:58:42.322Somebody's angry because they don't have free coffee, somebody's angry because they didn't have a sitter that morning and we're going to arrive late.
00:58:42.322 -->
00:58:55.065But the idea is to be in the right mental mode to accept that training and immerse yourself in the training is so important, and that's why we advocate the hallway before going into whatever scenario that you're going to do.
00:58:55.471 -->
00:58:58.079And then a brief explanation and a trial period.
00:58:58.079 -->
00:59:02.469Hey, if you want to yell or run or do a pushup, let's do it out here before we get in there.
00:59:02.469 -->
00:59:05.891And then, when you're in there, at any time, if you want to look at me and stop and go.
00:59:05.891 -->
00:59:08.172Hey, wait a minute, this is so novel.
00:59:08.172 -->
00:59:09.472I need help.
00:59:09.472 -->
00:59:11.695That's okay to do, cause I'd rather you do.
00:59:11.695 -->
00:59:15.456And you know the old bleed on the mat, brian, I'd rather bleed on the mat than bleed on the street.
00:59:15.876 -->
00:59:16.978Yeah, all right.
00:59:16.978 -->
00:59:18.219Well, that was a there was.
00:59:18.219 -->
00:59:27.284There was a lot about, about memories, but hopefully you kind of people got our perspective on it and how to look at it, understand it that this is something that's inherently flawed, but that's okay.
00:59:27.284 -->
00:59:30.646Like it's not, it's it's, it's designed that way.
00:59:30.646 -->
00:59:45.893So if we understand that you know and and and focus on kind of those details and recall and writing things down like you can, you can get better at it and like you kind of brought up in in even in the training space too, but we we can sort of prime ourselves to what's important.
00:59:45.893 -->
00:59:58.963I'm going into this situation, whatever that is, what are some things that I'm going to need to know and need to remember and need to recall, because then you will autonomically, without even realizing it, start to focus on those things.
00:59:58.963 -->
01:00:01.425So if it's bad, like we see the, what is the?
01:00:01.445 -->
01:00:11.849you know, that's why we bash those things like, oh, a pre-attack indicator, okay, well, great, if you see that, then you're going to think you're under attack even when you're not, and the outcomes are going to be significantly different.
01:00:11.849 -->
01:00:13.454Yeah, maybe don't call it that.
01:00:15.213 -->
01:00:15.815And that's what it is.
01:00:15.815 -->
01:00:24.844You can get better at this contextually, but it's not just like a sort of a general skill unless everything is contextually.
01:00:24.844 -->
01:00:27.798What do I need to know before I walk into this restaurant?
01:00:27.998 -->
01:00:28.199Exactly.
01:00:28.650 -->
01:00:29.211Because I'm not sure.
01:00:29.211 -->
01:00:30.217I've never eaten here before.
01:00:30.217 -->
01:00:36.722So do I want to pick up on pre-event indicators that this might not be a good meal and leave before I sit down?
01:00:36.722 -->
01:00:37.547Right, I'm going to talk to the insurgent.
01:00:37.547 -->
01:00:38.351You know my daughter like what?
01:00:38.351 -->
01:00:39.355Do I need to know what?
01:00:39.355 -->
01:00:43.110Where's she at in this, so that I can look for whatever it is I need to look for.
01:00:43.110 -->
01:00:44.172It's just those simple things.
01:00:44.192 -->
01:00:56.405If you back plan, with your Google Maps to figure out how to stop at Starbucks before your event and still have time to set up, then that's no different than giving your brain the best chance at your survival.
01:00:56.405 -->
01:01:05.985If you understand how the system works, if you understand the rigid rules and the ones that aren't so rigid, you're going to be better at understanding the signals that your brain is trying to tell you.
01:01:05.985 -->
01:01:08.378So that needs to be a function of your training.
01:01:08.378 -->
01:01:13.418Tell you so that needs to be a function of your training, no matter if it's self-defense or edge weapons or impact weapons or driving.
01:01:13.418 -->
01:01:15.324You have to integrate it into your current training regimen.
01:01:15.324 -->
01:01:17.956And look if you've got time for an on-duty roll call.
01:01:17.956 -->
01:01:19.018You got time to talk.
01:01:19.018 -->
01:01:19.701Look, brian.
01:01:19.740 -->
01:01:23.217Today, in just an hour, we talked all over memories.
01:01:23.217 -->
01:01:25.623We talked a little bit about virtual reality.
01:01:25.623 -->
01:01:26.590We talked about dreams.
01:01:26.590 -->
01:01:30.514We talked about phantom limbs and unconventional approaches to training.
01:01:30.514 -->
01:01:31.056We talked about dreams.
01:01:31.056 -->
01:01:32.818We talked about phantom limbs and unconventional approaches to training.
01:01:32.818 -->
01:01:33.398And so you can do it, folks.
01:01:33.398 -->
01:01:34.719You just have to set your sights on.
01:01:34.719 -->
01:01:38.164This is scientifically valid and it will change my bottom line.
01:01:38.164 -->
01:01:39.985You know, is the juice worth the squeeze?
01:01:40.646 -->
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