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Welcome to the Fuck It Shit podcast.
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I'm Adam Ross, and I'm joined by Jay, as always, the producer to kick things off.
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Adam, I hear people online say all the time don't compare yourself to others.
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And sure, I understand the advice, but sometimes it feels like telling someone who's depressed to just smile.
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You gotta stop comparing yourself to the algorithm you created.
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Think about that for a minute.
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The things on social media that you're comparing yourself to, you curated.
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Do you really take stock of what you curated?
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Do you really look at it and be like, well, I'm not like so-and-so, and I'm not like so-and-so.
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And I watch all these videos, and why isn't it happening to me?
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Because it takes commitment.
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The advice of don't compare yourself to others.
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You should just live your life and smile is bullshit.
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The only way that works is if you take your phone and smash it into a million pieces.
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Because until you take that out of the equation, you're curated.
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I really like this and I wish this was me.
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And now I'm comparing it to, well, listen, I'm not Grant Cardone.
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I love him.
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I can't compare myself to him.
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I don't have jets and helicopters.
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I inspire to be.
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But that doesn't mean it's going to happen.
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I have to make commitments to myself.
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I have to have processes.
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I have to have discipline.
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That's what's lacking from your life when you're comparing yourself to all these people to your curated algorithm, and then you feel sad about it.
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Are you willing to let's just pick one person that you got caught comparing yourself to and really take inventory of that person?
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Do you live the same life in the same location, in the same circumstances?
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Are you making the same commitments?
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Do you have the same discipline?
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There are building blocks to success.
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We've had in a previous podcast, success leaves clues, and you ignore those and then compare yourself to somebody you're not willing to do the work to be the person.
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So I get the mindset or the message of don't compare yourself to others and just live your life.
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But then you have to commit to doing that.
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Which means delete social media, not yet, watch the video, I'm on it.
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Get rid of those things in your life that you're using to compare.
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You know what you're gonna do?
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You're gonna find it somewhere else.
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The amount of people that watch shows on the streaming devices, I won't name you, you make enough money that come to me, we have conversations like, oh, that's so like you, or that's you make these comparisons naturally anyway.
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So why are you holding it in your hand and continuously pounding it in your head that you're not Grant Cardone and then getting sad about it?
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I don't have his level of discipline.
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I didn't start as long as he did.
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There's all these reasons, and they're not excuses.
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You just have to be realistic.
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Are you willing to take the person you're comparing yourself to, even a family member, and really be honest and say, well, fuck, I don't get up at 5:30 in the morning and work out like they do.
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I don't then do this, I don't do that, I wouldn't do that.
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And I'm not working in that industry, I'm not doing this.
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And I you'd pretty well realize by the time you're done telling yourself all the things you're not willing to give up or do, that you're choosing comfort over commitment and they never go together.
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So mentioning Grant Cardone, you're able to find inspiration and motivation from him, which I think is the good side of social media.
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How does one differentiate envy and inspiration from somebody?
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Are there telltale signs that they might be envious of the situation versus being inspired to get there?
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I suppose you could go down the rabbit hole.
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If you're going down the rabbit hole of reading comments while you're doing the comparison of life and then finding that you resonate with the negative comments about the person that you're fed yourself, you realize how messed up that is.
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You're programming yourself for negativity, yet following the person for comments.
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I get it if they're funny comments, and there's some there's some content out there that the person literally goes out of their way to find the funny comments and then posts it all of them at once, not with all the, and that's okay.
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That's entertainment.
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But when you relate that back to somebody you're comparing yourself to, and then you go in the comments, you're like, oh yeah, that's right.
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This person is an asshole.
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You're following them.
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You're comparing yourself to them.
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You said, what's the difference?
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The difference is still the same thing.
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You're disconnected from the commitment it takes to be the person you're following or being jealous about.
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What are you being jealous for?
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If I just told you that you won't make the commitment to be that person or live in that life, then jealousy has no reason to be in the room.
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You'd be embarrassed that you're in gel you're jealous of something you won't, you're not willing to do.
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If you're not willing to put in the work, if you're not willing to lay the soil, plant the seeds, tend the field, go through the seasons of disappointment where it doesn't grow and work out the way it does.
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Nobody has an instant roadmap to success.
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There's lots of hills and valleys.
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And if you're busy comparing yourself and being jealous about how somebody put the fight in, ask yourself in the mirror those tough conversations if you're willing to put the fight in.
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So is there any practical steps people could take to stop comparing their lives to others?
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They're not steps, they're getting real with yourself.
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And this is what you're afraid to do.
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I know because I was afraid to do it.
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But when you get real with yourself and you realize I'm not willing to put the work in, I'm not willing to make the sacrifices, I'm not willing to connect with the commitment, then there's no more comparison.
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And you can almost be free of it.
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You don't have to smile your way through it.
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Be real with yourself through it and say, I'm not willing to.
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Do you ever compare your current life to others, or is that completely behind you?
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I think I'd I'd I'd be lying if I said I don't compare myself to, I definitely have milestones and people I look up to or know the path.
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I get more excited about how did they get there than I do about I can't believe they're there.
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That really like, I love learning.
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So when I see somebody that I'm like, wow, I'll give you an example.
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I was so intrigued about Alex Hermozzi and his growth that I paid him five grand to go to acquisition.com and be part of it and learn.
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I didn't go there jealous or begrudging.
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I soaked it all in and thought, fuck, he's actually the real deal.
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What he was, I you and I've had this conversation.
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How he is on his videos is exactly how he is in person.
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And that was amazing.
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That was a great experience.
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Nothing worse.
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I used to be in radio and TV and media and go and interview a superstar and find out that they were not the superstar I thought they were.
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They're a great athlete.
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They're not a great person.
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So there's no practical here's a roadmap to it.
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It circles all the way back to are you willing?
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Am I willing to do this?
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Take the steps, find the success, the roadmap, and the steps to make that commitment, or I'm not.
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Until next time, I'll catch you on the other side.
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Welcome to the Fuck It Shit podcast.
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I'm Adam Ross, and I'm joined by Jay, as always, the producer to kick things off.
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Adam, I hear people online say all the time don't compare yourself to others.
00:00:11.919 --> 00:00:18.399
And sure, I understand the advice, but sometimes it feels like telling someone who's depressed to just smile.
00:00:19.199 --> 00:00:25.280
You gotta stop comparing yourself to the algorithm you created.
00:00:27.280 --> 00:00:28.879
Think about that for a minute.
00:00:29.120 --> 00:00:35.840
The things on social media that you're comparing yourself to, you curated.
00:00:38.640 --> 00:00:42.079
Do you really take stock of what you curated?
00:00:42.640 --> 00:00:46.560
Do you really look at it and be like, well, I'm not like so-and-so, and I'm not like so-and-so.
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And I watch all these videos, and why isn't it happening to me?
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Because it takes commitment.
00:00:52.960 --> 00:00:55.359
The advice of don't compare yourself to others.
00:00:55.439 --> 00:00:58.960
You should just live your life and smile is bullshit.
00:00:59.679 --> 00:01:04.159
The only way that works is if you take your phone and smash it into a million pieces.
00:01:04.319 --> 00:01:09.439
Because until you take that out of the equation, you're curated.
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I really like this and I wish this was me.
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And now I'm comparing it to, well, listen, I'm not Grant Cardone.
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I love him.
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I can't compare myself to him.
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I don't have jets and helicopters.
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I inspire to be.
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But that doesn't mean it's going to happen.
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I have to make commitments to myself.
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I have to have processes.
00:01:36.719 --> 00:01:39.200
I have to have discipline.
00:01:40.319 --> 00:01:47.920
That's what's lacking from your life when you're comparing yourself to all these people to your curated algorithm, and then you feel sad about it.
00:01:48.400 --> 00:01:56.560
Are you willing to let's just pick one person that you got caught comparing yourself to and really take inventory of that person?
00:01:57.599 --> 00:02:01.920
Do you live the same life in the same location, in the same circumstances?
00:02:02.079 --> 00:02:03.519
Are you making the same commitments?
00:02:03.599 --> 00:02:05.519
Do you have the same discipline?
00:02:05.760 --> 00:02:07.599
There are building blocks to success.
00:02:07.760 --> 00:02:18.080
We've had in a previous podcast, success leaves clues, and you ignore those and then compare yourself to somebody you're not willing to do the work to be the person.
00:02:18.800 --> 00:02:24.639
So I get the mindset or the message of don't compare yourself to others and just live your life.
00:02:24.800 --> 00:02:27.280
But then you have to commit to doing that.
00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:32.400
Which means delete social media, not yet, watch the video, I'm on it.
00:02:32.719 --> 00:02:36.719
Get rid of those things in your life that you're using to compare.
00:02:36.879 --> 00:02:37.840
You know what you're gonna do?
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You're gonna find it somewhere else.
00:02:40.240 --> 00:02:54.159
The amount of people that watch shows on the streaming devices, I won't name you, you make enough money that come to me, we have conversations like, oh, that's so like you, or that's you make these comparisons naturally anyway.
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So why are you holding it in your hand and continuously pounding it in your head that you're not Grant Cardone and then getting sad about it?
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I don't have his level of discipline.
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I didn't start as long as he did.
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There's all these reasons, and they're not excuses.
00:03:09.759 --> 00:03:11.439
You just have to be realistic.
00:03:12.240 --> 00:03:27.199
Are you willing to take the person you're comparing yourself to, even a family member, and really be honest and say, well, fuck, I don't get up at 5:30 in the morning and work out like they do.
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I don't then do this, I don't do that, I wouldn't do that.
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And I'm not working in that industry, I'm not doing this.
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And I you'd pretty well realize by the time you're done telling yourself all the things you're not willing to give up or do, that you're choosing comfort over commitment and they never go together.
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So mentioning Grant Cardone, you're able to find inspiration and motivation from him, which I think is the good side of social media.
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How does one differentiate envy and inspiration from somebody?
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Are there telltale signs that they might be envious of the situation versus being inspired to get there?
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I suppose you could go down the rabbit hole.
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If you're going down the rabbit hole of reading comments while you're doing the comparison of life and then finding that you resonate with the negative comments about the person that you're fed yourself, you realize how messed up that is.
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You're programming yourself for negativity, yet following the person for comments.
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I get it if they're funny comments, and there's some there's some content out there that the person literally goes out of their way to find the funny comments and then posts it all of them at once, not with all the, and that's okay.
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That's entertainment.
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But when you relate that back to somebody you're comparing yourself to, and then you go in the comments, you're like, oh yeah, that's right.
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This person is an asshole.
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You're following them.
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You're comparing yourself to them.
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You said, what's the difference?
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The difference is still the same thing.
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You're disconnected from the commitment it takes to be the person you're following or being jealous about.
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What are you being jealous for?
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If I just told you that you won't make the commitment to be that person or live in that life, then jealousy has no reason to be in the room.
00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:26.959
You'd be embarrassed that you're in gel you're jealous of something you won't, you're not willing to do.
00:05:27.360 --> 00:05:38.079
If you're not willing to put in the work, if you're not willing to lay the soil, plant the seeds, tend the field, go through the seasons of disappointment where it doesn't grow and work out the way it does.
00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:42.000
Nobody has an instant roadmap to success.
00:05:42.160 --> 00:05:43.839
There's lots of hills and valleys.
00:05:43.920 --> 00:05:53.839
And if you're busy comparing yourself and being jealous about how somebody put the fight in, ask yourself in the mirror those tough conversations if you're willing to put the fight in.
00:05:54.160 --> 00:05:58.800
So is there any practical steps people could take to stop comparing their lives to others?
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They're not steps, they're getting real with yourself.
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And this is what you're afraid to do.
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I know because I was afraid to do it.
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But when you get real with yourself and you realize I'm not willing to put the work in, I'm not willing to make the sacrifices, I'm not willing to connect with the commitment, then there's no more comparison.
00:06:21.120 --> 00:06:23.279
And you can almost be free of it.
00:06:23.519 --> 00:06:25.600
You don't have to smile your way through it.
00:06:25.920 --> 00:06:30.000
Be real with yourself through it and say, I'm not willing to.
00:06:30.319 --> 00:06:35.839
Do you ever compare your current life to others, or is that completely behind you?
00:06:36.560 --> 00:06:48.079
I think I'd I'd I'd be lying if I said I don't compare myself to, I definitely have milestones and people I look up to or know the path.
00:06:48.240 --> 00:06:55.519
I get more excited about how did they get there than I do about I can't believe they're there.
00:06:55.920 --> 00:06:58.000
That really like, I love learning.
00:06:58.079 --> 00:07:02.240
So when I see somebody that I'm like, wow, I'll give you an example.
00:07:02.560 --> 00:07:14.639
I was so intrigued about Alex Hermozzi and his growth that I paid him five grand to go to acquisition.com and be part of it and learn.
00:07:14.879 --> 00:07:17.439
I didn't go there jealous or begrudging.
00:07:17.600 --> 00:07:21.279
I soaked it all in and thought, fuck, he's actually the real deal.
00:07:21.519 --> 00:07:23.600
What he was, I you and I've had this conversation.
00:07:23.759 --> 00:07:26.800
How he is on his videos is exactly how he is in person.
00:07:27.040 --> 00:07:29.040
And that was amazing.
00:07:29.199 --> 00:07:30.240
That was a great experience.
00:07:30.399 --> 00:07:31.120
Nothing worse.
00:07:31.199 --> 00:07:40.319
I used to be in radio and TV and media and go and interview a superstar and find out that they were not the superstar I thought they were.
00:07:40.480 --> 00:07:41.519
They're a great athlete.
00:07:41.600 --> 00:07:43.040
They're not a great person.
00:07:43.279 --> 00:07:47.199
So there's no practical here's a roadmap to it.
00:07:47.360 --> 00:07:50.480
It circles all the way back to are you willing?
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Am I willing to do this?
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Take the steps, find the success, the roadmap, and the steps to make that commitment, or I'm not.
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Until next time, I'll catch you on the other side.
