ABOUT THIS EPISODE
One of the things we don't always talk about when we talk about healing is what happens to our relationships along the way.
Because when you start healing, you start changing.
Your awareness changes. Your priorities change. Your tolerance changes. You begin to understand your needs more clearly, and you may start noticing things you previously accepted, ignored or simply didn't have the capacity to see.
And sometimes, that changes your relationships too.
In this episode of Diary of Discovery, Jacky Clarke explores what happens when healing starts to change the way you relate to the people around you, and why this doesn't necessarily mean something has gone wrong.
Jacky talks about boundaries, what they really mean and why a healthy boundary isn't about controlling somebody else. It's about deciding what you need in order to stay connected to yourself while still being able to love and care for others.
She explores the uncomfortable reality that sometimes relationships become stronger as we heal, while others may become different, more distant or even come to an end.
And perhaps most importantly, she talks about the relationship we have with ourselves.
Because a boundary isn't just something we communicate to another person. It starts with us. If we're not willing to honour our own boundaries, it becomes very difficult for anyone else to know where the line is.
This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself doesn't automatically mean you're selfish, difficult or uncaring.
Sometimes it simply means you're no longer willing to abandon yourself to keep somebody else comfortable.
In this episode, Jacky explores:- Why healing can change your relationships and priorities
- The difference between boundaries and walls
- What it really means to love someone without losing yourself
- Why resentment can sometimes be a sign that your boundaries need attention
- How to start setting boundaries when you're not used to doing it
- Why you don't always need to justify or explain your boundaries
- What to do when someone repeatedly ignores your boundaries
- Why boundaries have to start with you
- The uncomfortable possibility that some relationships may change as you heal
- Learning to care about other people without abandoning yourself
And a question to take away from this episode:
Where in your life are you asking someone else to respect a boundary that you haven't yet learned to respect in yourself?
Because healing isn't about becoming harder or caring less.
Sometimes it's about finally learning that your needs are allowed to matter too.
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