18. Scar Tissue & New Wine

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First, it wasn't recording, then it stopped recording, and now it seems like we're doing well.
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So I'ma just assume that we we good to go.
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And if that's the case, and the voice you're hearing right now is that of Jordan BDJ Taylor, the BD is for big dreams.
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The show you're listening to, if you didn't know and you somehow clicked on a founders podcast, I don't know how you did that and don't know.
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But this is the Big Dream show.
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Welcome.
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Happy to have you.
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As I record this, it is Thursday, July 30th, 2026.
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Like three something in the afternoon.
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So anything wild and crazy and world changing, death-defying, whatever the fuck happens in the next what 12-15 hours between when I record this and when I post this, that's why it's not covered.
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Because the shit didn't happen yet.
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But how y'all doing?
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How y'all feeling?
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Glad y'all are with me rocking for another week.
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As you know, the big dream show is available every Friday around 7 a.m.
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Eastern time.
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Give or take.
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Yeah, how y'all, how y'all feeling, man?
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This is gonna be a an interesting episode for me.
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I think that I'm gonna title this one Too Many Tabs Open.
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Too many tabs open.
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As I take a swig of the Dunkin' Donuts.
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Too many tabs open.
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Because this feels like one of those times, at least for me, where it's a lot of it's a lot of shit going on in my brain.
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A lot of ideas and things I want to bring forth, things I want to make happen, things I want to lock in on, plays I want to make opportunities I want to pursue, relationships I want to build.
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It's all these things.
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And you know what happens when you got too many tabs open on your computer, it slows down or it crashes.
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So I feel like it's a too many tabs open kind of episode.
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Not in a bad way, though.
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Not yeah, we good.
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We good.
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But yeah, just a thought.
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I thought that's on my mind.
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For some housekeeping, real quick before we get into the the meat and potatoes, you know, you gotta get your appetizer before you get your your main course, some housekeeping.
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Guess we'll be returning to the podcast next month.
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I've been on my my little solo run.
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I really wanted to I wanted to think through the format of the show.
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Wanted to think through different ways that I can change it around, switch it up, kinda take an inventory.
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On the user end, on your end, you'll start to see these changes rolling out over the next couple weeks or the next couple of months.
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But yeah, I just wanted to wanted to make sure I stay true to making sure I was the best that I could be.
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It's it's always good to talk to people.
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I'm always I always love a good conversation.
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It's one of the reasons why I wanted to have my own my own platform and my own outlet.
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But at the same time, I say that I wanted to be a I wanted to be a podcaster, I wanted to take this seriously, I wanted to be a a creative.
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So yeah, part of that challenge is going it alone when it would be easy.
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A lot of times I have a guest in here week in and week out and have someone to lean on, someone to build ideas off of, someone to just banter with, pop shit with.
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But I don't want it to be a situation where I can't become over-reliant on guests, you know what I mean?
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So that was that was kind of my thought process.
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Wanting to make sure my tools are sharp, wanting to make sure my game is sharp.
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Also wanting to make sure the the show has room to breathe and evolve a little more.
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But guests will be back very excited about, very excited about the next month coming up.
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What else we got?
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Oh, if anybody wants to meet my accountability, buddy, I'm trying to get this Substack rolling, get this newsletter rolling.
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It's just hard for me to create the time and the space to write.
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I know that probably sounds crazy to hear coming from me, because y'all are like, you create the time and space to go down and record a podcast once a week.
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So what's the difference?
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But it's a lot different for me.
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I don't know if I talked about it on this show, but writing was my first love before I was speaking and expressing myself through my words and doing shit like podcasting and talking on stages and all that type of shit.
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It was writing for me because I was the I was a bit more shy as a as a child.
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So being able to write my thoughts out and write my feelings out and express myself in that way was preferable until I worked up the I don't know, the confidence, the skill set, the until I figured out how to talk and express myself in a way that I felt like was sufficient, writing was my number one.
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Like I wanted to be an author.
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I wanted to be a New York Times bestseller author.
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That was one of my my goals in middle school, like at middle school graduation.
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I've written little books and and little magazines and scaled that in different kinds of ways.
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But yeah, so I'm really I'm really anxious slash excited to get back to to writing.
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And if you or someone you know is a is a good accountability buddy, please reach out to me.
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I want to get into serious practice of writing.
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Just getting back to reading and writing.
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Two things I really loved when I was when I was younger, but as you know, as you get older, as you fucking dilly-dally on your smartphone all day, play the new games coming out on the PlayStation, get a permit, get a license, figure out what parties and and beer and alcohol and dumbass shit is.
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You kind of get away from the things that that you leaned into as a as a child.
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But the older I get, the more I realize that it's in those passions and those things that I loved years ago before before I even had an idea of the world when I really was just figuring out what I liked and what I loved.
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I'm I'm realizing that those things are a lot of the things that still guide me and inspire me and that I want to contribute to today.
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So accountability buddy, I'm waiting on y'all at me.
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Last but not least, some content updates.
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I've been talking about this media literacy series that I'm trying to get going.
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And it's still coming, but I want I want to do it in a in a way that makes sense.
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I don't know if it makes sense to just do one episode to break it down into like a two or three-week series.
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Does it make sense to pre-record them?
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Does it make sense to come in every week and record them?
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So I'm trying to figure out the logistics as well as what's everything that I want to cover, you know what I mean?
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Because I did a I did a session last year.
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My phone, I'm really trying to remember.
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Yeah, I did a session 2025 where I was working with the rich program, shout out to the rich down in Cherry Hill, where I was doing media literacy for the middle schoolers down there.
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So, yeah, this is a subject that's near and dead in my heart.
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I wanted to be a journalist, like I said, I loved writing, I loved reading all those separate things.
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So being able to identify source, being able to identify something is AI or misinformation, being able to understand the message that you're getting, as well as the person that's sending the message, what agendas they have, what bias they have, who's putting money in their pockets.
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For example, I brought this example up, I want to say two episodes ago, when I spoke about the elderly man who was being outside of the 7-Eleven.
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And I took I talked about Sinclair Broadcasting Group and how Sinclair is a MAGA, a pro-Trump.
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So the stuff that you'll see on their local affiliate, Fox 45.
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And I'm sure if you have access to public TV, Sinclair's in a lot of markets, so they may own a uh news affiliate in your area.
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But even understanding that, understanding how messages messages are going to get filtered through there, then there's history.
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There's Fannie Lou Hamer, you know what I mean.
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There's Afro, the newspaper in Baltimore, there's Chicago Defender, there's Detroit Free Press, there are these black-owned.
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There are people throughout history that we haven't necessarily learned about outside of Martin Luther King Jr.
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who were able to use media as a tool for revolution, a tool for inspiration.
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You get what I'm saying?
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So it's all these facets of media, and that's not even talking about social media, that's not even talking about digital media, that's not even talking about AI, and how AI created videos and AI created posts, and it's so many, it's so many facets to this thing, and the way that I want to really comprehensively cover it, that the project is ending up taking longer than I thought, which that's not a problem.
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That's a that's a good thing.
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More and the more content, the better.
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But just with that being said, still trying to figure out how to how to finish it up and how to package it and deliver it to you all.
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So excited about that.
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I know my my voice sounds a little tired because like, damn, another motherfucking project, BD, but yeah, no, that's what it's all about.
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That's what it's all about.
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I think shit like media literacy, financial literacy, AI basics.
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We had health in school, but I feel like it's a real basic health class.
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It wasn't necessarily talking about even even shit like the food pyramid that we were shown being incorrect.
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And I don't know if y'all remember, but I remember them got milk ads and that propaganda that they tried to tried to push on us the big big dairy.
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You feel me?
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Big dairy putting putting money into the the pockets of these these school districts and and shit like that, so we can have posters telling us to drink milk.
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Mind you, our black asses, we in there drinking milk and wondering why we about to shit ourselves in six period, seven period.
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Not knowing we lactose intolerant, just go so it's a whole bunch of shit, bro.
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And then on top of that is propaganda.
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Edward Bernays back in the day started to feel the propaganda.
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Uh I'll kick this for y'all real quick, because this intro, I didn't even get to the ground rules yet.
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This intro is already starting to starting to drag.
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But I will say, yeah, a lot of shit that we know, a lot of shit that we learned, a lot of shit a lot of shit from news to information, whatever it may be.
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A lot of it is marketing, a lot of it is propaganda, and I just want to make sure that if you are living in this world, living in this society, and I can impart whatever knowledge I have to help identify some of this real shit from this fake shit, if I can impart that upon y'all, I want to do that in the best way possible to make sure it is something that sticks.
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Last but not least, programming note.
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I am going to be doing an NFL episode.
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I don't know when.
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Definitely before the season.
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I'm gonna do like an NFL preview episode.
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So look out for that.
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That may be shout out to my Sub Stack accountability buddy, wherever you are.
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That may be something that's like a a two-part, a two-fold concept thing where I write an article on Substack explaining like these are the people I think are gonna win each division.
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These are my picks for MVP, defensive player of the year, offensive player of the year, both projects.
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Like, I'm gonna I'm gonna do all that shit.
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Cause I I I do enjoy, or I did enjoy writing big ass previews.
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Like I love doing a big ass movie preview.
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A few weeks ago on this pod, we had the big ass mailbag.
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I'm gonna do big-ass NFL previews.
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I like I like big ass shit.
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You get what I'm saying?
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Shout out to Buckies.
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But yeah, that's pretty much all.
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Let's get into these ground rules.
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That's all the housekeeping notes.
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Well, one last thing before we get into the ground rules.
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I do have a question for y'all.
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I want y'all to answer it via voicemail or to send me a message and I screenshot it.
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But I want to know, because me, me and my bro was having this debate the other night, and we sat down and we actually watched both because we were like, we gotta get to the bottom of this.
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But I want to know from y'all what show is, I guess was, what show is slash was funnier.
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And we'll say by today's standard.
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So for 2026, which show is funnier?
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Keenan and Cal or Drake and Josh?
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What show is funnier?
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What duo is funnier?
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I want to know from y'all.
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We we go real race war with it.
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I'm joking.
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I'm joking, it's not race war, it's it's uh I don't even know what to say out my goddamn mouth.
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Which brings us to the ground rules.
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So if so if you're new here, the ground rules just kinda dictate the way we operate here.
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Yeah, imagine imagine we had the we had the beach shack, and it's a big sign that says no shirt, no shoes, no service.
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Like this is kind of the same thing.
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That might be a horrible metaphor.
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That might actually be a shitty metaphor, but all things considered, this is how we operate.
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This is how we get down here on the Big Dream show.
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This is what you're gonna expect, this is what you need to know before you embark any further or through this audio adventure with your boy.
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So, ground rule number one, these thoughts are strictly my own and do not reflect the views of any family, friends, partners, affiliates, or associates.
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All these things I'm saying are just my thoughts, they just my words, they just how I feel.
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Rule number two, which you already know, and you've been listening to this point.
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We use vulgar language here.
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I say bad words, I'm a grown-ass man with my own show, so I'm gonna say whatever the fuck I want.
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Respectfully.
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Number three, follow me.
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My man mm-hmm.
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I don't know what the fuck I don't know what the fuck that was.
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I was about to say my mind, but then it went to my brain, then it said my man, and yeah.
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Follow me.
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That's an ironic example of of that type of shit.
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But follow me, because a lot of times my brain moves faster than than my words can keep up with.
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And the way it goes, I have a lot of ideas and a lot of things.
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Sometimes they seem connected, sometimes they don't, but I always find a way to bring it around in the end.
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But if you're not listening intentionally, if you're not following what I'm saying, listening to my words, listening to my sentiments, so on and so forth, you you will get lost in the sauce.
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You will look up like what the fuck is this nigga talking about?
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And we don't want that.
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I don't want that for you.
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I don't want that for myself, because I come here, I work hard, I I pour, I pour my soul on these beats like a like a rap in 03.
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See, I'm tripping.
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Which brings us to rule number four.
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Tell me if I'm tripping.
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I'm human just like y'all, I make mistakes, I don't know everything under the sun.
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I try to speak from in a foreign place, and I try to be very clear and very honest with y'all about if I have a source, I try to cite the source, and if I don't know something, or I'm asking a question, or I'm just speaking from the heart, hypothesizing.
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I let you know.
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So on that same token, tell me if I'm tripping.
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Number five, help this thing grow.
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So like, rate, subscribe, review.
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Next episode, I'm gonna still an idea.
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There's a there's a guy that I'm a fan of, his name is Roderick Morrow.
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Roderick and Karen, they do a podcast together, a husband and wife.
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And one thing he does is once a week, he goes across all of the platforms that his show is on, and they read the reviews and shout out to people that left the reviews.
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So they'll go on iTunes, they'll go on YouTube, they'll say what episode the comment is from or what episode the comment is for, so on and so forth.
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So I think that I'm going to peruse the the iTunes streets and next week read aloud some of the some of the reviews that we got.
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I think that would be a lot of fun.
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So yeah, do what you can to help this thing grow.
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Let people know, share it with a friend who you think would enjoy the show.
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Shit, share it with your enemies.
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I don't I don't know.
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Just let just word of mouth, bro.
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Word of mouth.
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I don't I don't got too much to say about that.
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And last but not least, do your research.
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Don't let anything I say or present on this podcast be the full extent of the information that you have on a subject.
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Like I said, I'm not perfect.
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Like I said, I'm I'm a human being just like you.
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If something I say interests you, if it intrigues you, if it if it pricks you, if it pisses you off, look into it, do further research on it, learn more about it.
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I know for some there may be a barrier to where you don't know what research is or what research looks like.
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It means reading.
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It means going to peer-reviewed journals and academic journals, it means looking at multiple sources, it means looking at the credibility of those sources by looking at who the author is, looking at what the publication is, looking at other things that they may have written or contributed to in the past.
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It means cross-referencing things.
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It's it's a whole thing.
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Research is not, it's not no, it's not no quick shit.
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That's the end of the ground rules.
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I I want a sound effect right here.
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I think that's something else we're gonna implement.
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Stands the ground rules, and it'd be hard if it broke out with a inside for the main event or let's get random rumble.
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You give me you give me like some some slick shit like that.
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But yeah, let's rock out.
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Let's rock out.
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So I wanna start this episode, this conversation with a talk about scar tissue.
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Let me so just to backtrack, last week I talked about Black August coming up.
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I talked about wanting to instill some better habits in myself in light of black August to you know put my best in to see what see what I can get out.
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And the idea that has been coming across to me since I I talked about that has been this this talk about scar tissue.
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And if you don't know, scar tissue is just built up from if you have an injury or you have a surgery or things like that, it's the scarring that literally your body is holding on to from those instances.
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It's all gonna make sense, I promise.
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But this is why you gotta follow me.
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So I've been thinking about scar tissue because I've been trying to think what do I need to do to move to a new season.
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The seasons are changing already.
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It's when I drop this, it's gonna be July 31st, which in my mind is basically August.
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And by the time you get to August, you basically at September.
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And by the time you in September, well shit, September, October, November, December, you want to back third of the year.
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So that's kind of kind of how my mind thinks of it.
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But and think about Black August and think about the things last week that I said I wanted to do what I wanted to accomplish, this idea of scar tissue keeps coming up.
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And it's both literal and metaphorical, of course, but the metaphor being that similar to the the biblical proverb that you wouldn't put new wine and old wineskin, and you wouldn't put old wine and new wineskin, you want to make sure that your scar tissue in this case is cleared out before you try to move forward into a different way or a different pattern.
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So for me, that's what why I said it is literal and physical.
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I I've had instances where, if y'all are not familiar, I was born with a cleft lipping palette.
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So I was born with a cleft lipping palette, which meant for 20 years, give or take, I had to go through both serious procedures as well as like minor, more minuscule procedures.
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But one particular thing that stands out to me, something that was supposed to be minor, I don't remember when this was.
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I want to say I was in college.
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I may have been in high school, but I'm pretty sure I was in college.
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But one particular side effect of me being born with this cleft lip and palate was that in spite of a whole bunch of surgeries and things I had gotten to that point, to the point of when this procedure was about to happen, one of the things that happened was I had a tooth that I lost, but the adult tooth never descended from the top of my gum.
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So usually in a regular scenario, you feel me, you lose your tooth, you lose your baby tooth, your adult tooth grows in.
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But for me, I had one tooth that just hadn't grown in.
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So I had to get what was considered a minor surgery to extract this tooth from the roof of my mouth.
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So sorry if it's if it's graphic, but they had to numb my mouth up, cut the cut part of my gum open or part of the roof of my mouth open to retrieve this tooth, and then set the set the setting so I could get an implant to replace the the adult tube that never came in.
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So again, it's gonna be a minor surgery, and understand to this point I'd had major surgery, so I'm not thinking I'm not thinking too much of it.
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But what happened was when they put the needle into my mouth to numb my mouth in anticipation for this outpatient procedure, a jolt of like just pain.
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You feel me?
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A jolt of pain just went through the whole left side of my mouth, more so my face.
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Like I'm affected, I'm like, damn.
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So I think I I jumped back if I remember correctly.
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Like I jumped back, I was second aback.
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And I remember the surgeon telling me, Yeah, what you just experienced was the medicine that's supposed to numb you interacting with the scar tissue that was still left over from some of your previous surgeries.
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And I want to sit in that for a second, because I didn't even know the scar tissue was up there.
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You get what I'm saying?
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Do you get what I'm what I'm getting at here?
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I didn't know the scar tissue was up there.
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I didn't even know I had this scar tissue.
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I I'm thinking I'm just moving along, going through surgery here, normal growth aside aside from whatever surgeries and things had to get done to you know to the impacted areas.
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Normal, normal kid, normal growing up, healthy, all healed from whatever other stuff I had going on.
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But that scar tissue was in there that I didn't even know.
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So I want us to to think about that.
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You might not literally have no scar tissue in the roof of your mouth like I did, and the the cool part, cool might not be the word, but As time went on, I had a later surgery, and the doctor that performed the smaller outpatient surgery did a larger surgery for me.
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And one of the things he did was he went in and cleaned up all the scar tissue so that I ever had to have something like that happen again, it wouldn't sting and hurt in the same kind of way.
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Why am I talking about this?
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What does all this mean?
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Why does all this matter?
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Because if you want different, you gotta do different, you feel me?
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And then doing different and learning different and trying to better yourself and trying to change, you were gonna have those moments where some scar tissue gets avert up, gets gets activated where you didn't necessarily even know it was there.
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You know what I mean?
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You got some trauma, you got some pain, you got some shit that you gotta deal with.
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So back to the metaphor of the old wine and the new wine skin, or the new wine and the old non-wine skin.
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If you want to become a new person, you gotta clear out that shit that's gonna charge you back.
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You gotta clear out that scar test.
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You gotta work through that trauma.
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And just so it's not a story that's just out in the ether.
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I did also think of some things that I've been kind of holding close, holding near my endearing to myself as I get ready to be more disciplined in the next month, and then hopefully have that discipline and have that new outlook and that new approach to my day-to-day, have that reap the rewards and the benefits that I want.
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But one thing is stick to the basics.
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Little the little things, the basics, the the shit that you can control.
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Stay in that place.
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Don't go, don't get get too caught up on what the finished product is, had a vision of the finished product, always had the idea of what you're moving towards and what you want to do, what you want to create.
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So if my goal is get in the gym more, it's not just to get in the gym more, it's to get in the gym more because the finished product is a healthier me, a happier me, a me who five years, ten years, fifteen years from now can still jog, can still look good, can still feel good.
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So stick to the basics that'll get you towards whatever that outcome is and make sure your bases are covered, whatever the basic shit is.
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On top of that, daily deposits.
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So if I got the dream of being an entrepreneur and buying a business, if I got the dream of starting my own business, if I got the dream of taking this podcast to another level, if I got all these dreams and all these things that I want to happen, when the same token of sticking to the basics and having a vision in mind, make daily deposits on those things.
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So it might be sitting in the studio for two hours recording an episode, it might be taking 15 minutes to watch a YouTube video about things my cover art may or may not be doing.
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It could be going out to a networking event and spending 45 minutes or two hours there meeting people through the connection, building a relationship.
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But just making daily deposits on each of your goals, even if it's just some days the deposit is just gonna be I thought about that motherfucker.
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I ain't really put nothing towards it, but I thought about it.
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And keeping it on your present, keep it keeping it present on your mind.
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Hopefully thinking about it on Monday will lead you to acting on on Tuesday and then making a bigger step, whatever.
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But we also human beings, we also real living real lives.
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We got jobs, we got families, we got friends, we got things we want to do for ourselves, we got things we want to do for others, we got the shit we want to accomplish, we got all these things circling and swirling in our mind at the same time.
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Two main tabs open.
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We got all these tabs open.
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So, and you can take whatever time you have, whatever energy you have, to put something towards that.
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And the same way that investing is all about compounding over time, and the same way that plant grows, like real small, real small, real small, and you don't notice it until you notice it.
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It's the same shit for your goal, for your dreams, for your ambitions, or who you want to be.
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Also, some other shit to get the scar tissue out.
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Find mentors and teachers.
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The reason I said mentors and teachers, right?
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Because I think that that term mentor, I think it's like a pie in the sky kind of thing.
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I got a couple people that I consider mentors, a couple people that hold me down consistently that put me on game.
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But a mentor to me is different from a teacher.
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I think a mentor is someone that takes an active interest in trying to help you and trying to help you grow and trying to put you in a position to succeed.
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But a teacher, anybody or anything can be a teacher.
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You can learn from your little brother, your little sister, your little cousin.
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Shit, sometimes I'm in the house and I just stare at the cat and I'm learning from that motherfucker.
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Like, you know what?
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Maybe I'm tripping and I do need to take a nap right now.
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Or maybe I haven't been active enough and it's time to time to play.
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Or maybe I need to just randomly show love to somebody, send somebody a text message or a phone call, because she'll she'll just pop up out of nowhere and start meowing, like, hey, what's up?
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Like, I'm here, fuck with me.
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So but it's important, bro.
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It's important.
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We're talking about, and like I said, we're talking about things that we can do right now to clear out if we got bad juju, if we got bad mojo.
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Maybe you don't, maybe you feel like you're in a good place.
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So hopefully this shit is not hopefully this shit is just reaffirming what you already are doing, or you can add this to your routine or add this to your thought process and elevate your grinding your hustle even more.
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A couple more.
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One, a big one for me, prime the environment for the most success possible.
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So one thing for me is it's hard for me to focus in a messy environment.
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So if I'm in the house and I'm in the room, or I'm in the office, and it's papers everywhere, or it's clothes everywhere, or it's a bunch of a bunch of shit everywhere.
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Part of my motivation and part of my attention that I need to be devoting towards getting some shit done, sitting on the laptop and figuring some stuff out, or or writing, or reading, reading research, whatever it may be.
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I'm thinking about no, I need to devote that time and energy to cleaning up.
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And all this shit is fine, I believe it or not.
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So you only got so much energy, you almost only got so much attention, you only got so much you to give.
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So the environment gotta be prime for the most success possible.
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And I'm not sure what that looks like for you.
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That could look like having a lap instead of having overhead light.
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That could look like making sure that when you sit down to do work for three hours, four hours, five hours, that you already know what you're gonna eat for dinner, or that you gotta, I don't know, maybe you like diet coke.
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So you got a diet coke and you know that at 12 o'clock you crack your diet coke and it gives you your second win, whatever the fuck it may be.
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But we gotta be real intentional about either putting ourselves in positions or places where we can have the most success, or about changing our environment in whatever ways we can to ensure that we have success.
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Because peace of mind to me is always a real good baseline to create the best shit.
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It's a hell of a motivator to have your back against the wall, it's a hell of a motivator to be do or die, to be in that position where it's do or die, it's now or never.
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That's a hell of a motivator.
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That's the reason I used to procrastinate in school, because I wait till uh a couple days before the paper was due, or I really start studying a couple days before the test.
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But in real life, if I would have set myself up with a comfortable environment and said I'm gonna do 30 minutes, 45 minutes a day just reviewing my shit, just studying, or whatever the fuck it is.
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Like that's an arbitrary example, but really, really, really take an inventory of where you are, where you're spending your time at, and ask yourself is this place and the way that I'm carrying it, is this the most conducive to my success?
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Another thing that I'm gonna emphasize is gonna be kind of kind of backwards, but invest in yourself.
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BDJ, why is that backwards?
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Because the economy fucked up, the world fucked up, everything costs a whole lot of money, everything overpriced.
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I saw a young brother, I can't remember his name, but he he's funny.
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I see him do skits with ironically, I see him do skits with girl, he's funny.
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But yeah, he was talking about like inflation.
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He was talking about how both minimum wage hasn't raised, how the value of the dollar has decreased, but inflation has increased.
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So at a baseline, the dollar we have isn't going as far because it's not worth as much, and while it's not worth as much, the cost of shit is also going up.
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So what does that have to do with anything?
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Because everything that we're seeing is buckle down, is don't get the coffee from Starbucks.
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Well, don't get the coffee from Starbucks, but don't get the coffee every day.
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Save your money, don't buy this, don't buy that.
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But I'm very big on investing yourself, of course.
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Well within your means, but investing yourself to to get a hit.
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If you need a new shirt, buy a new shirt.
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Because, in my opinion, this is me, this is BD talking, but again, this is my show, so you're gonna get my opinion.
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It will do more for me to spend 30, 40, 50, whatever the fuck on a new shirt.
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If I know that when I wear that shirt, I'll be able to present myself in a way that is genuine to who I want to be and where I want to be.
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And that's just a shirt, you feel me?
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It could be a computer, it could be a class at community college, it could be opening up a new account and putting$5 in that joint every week.
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Like, I don't I don't know what that looks like for you, but I do want to emphasize that you are the biggest project and the longest project that you'll ever work on in your life.
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So you gotta invest in yourself.
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If you want to elevate, if you want to change, it's worth it to eat healthier, even if it costs a few more dollars.
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You get what I'm saying?
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It's worth it to take the 10-15 minutes you would take scrolling and invest that in reading.
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It's it's worth it to invest in yourself and build yourself into a better self because that'll start to work out some of that scar tissue too, and some of that, some of that trauma and some of that pain that you spent telling your time that, telling yourself that you're not worthy of this, or you can't do that.
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Sometimes you gotta look like the man before you are the man.
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It's uh it's an underrated skill to know you the man or the woman or the lady.
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It's an underrated skill to know you, you that, to know you the one.
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And a lot of people out here is faking it until they make it.
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And a lot of people out here is faking it and they not gonna make it.
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You get what I'm saying?
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So if you are actually taking the time to invest in yourself and to build the foundation to have confidence in yourself and to care about your appearance and the way you present yourself, and to care about the way that you carry yourself and care about the way that your mind works and the way that your relationships work, and all that other type of shit, then you already are gonna be a step ahead of the motherfuckers who out here looking like they got it, but they ain't spend no time in themselves, they ain't spend no time with themselves, they ain't spend no time for themselves.
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You get what I'm saying?
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And last but not least on this scar tissue topic and cleaning it up, working it out, have patience.
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That could have been number one for real.
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Have patience on yourself.
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If you're trying some new shit, if you're doing something you never done, it's okay to be an amateur.
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You're gonna be ass at it, you're gonna suck at it.
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You might get that one in a million chance that you decide to play tennis as a hobby and you fucking a Roger Federer or Serena Williams or some shit.
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But ten times out of nine, that shit is not gonna happen.
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So have patience, be consistent.
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Stick, do all the other shit we say, stick to the basics.
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Give yourself daily deposits towards your goals and your dreams, find mentors and teachers, prime your environment for success in the best way you can, invest in yourself, and then have patience because it it takes time.
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It takes time.
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If you're trying to undo habits and things that you've been doing for years or decades or things that you've been thinking for years and decades, it's gonna take time to undo that.
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I'm I'm a big fan of therapy.
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I'm not currently in therapy, but I'm a big I always recommend therapy.
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There's an activity that I learned in therapy that's called the Wheel of Life.
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And what the will of life is, is you got eight or nine categories where you self-scout yourself.
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So I don't remember them all off the top of my head, but let's see how many I can get.
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You got your career, you got your family and your friends, you got romance, you have fun, that's a category.
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You have your health, so like your physical health, your mental health, you have your spirituality.
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I think I said career already.
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I don't know.
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Look it up though, it'll come up on Google, and you'll see a couple variations.
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And what you do is you go to each category and you rate yourself one through ten.
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Ten means that this shit is perfect and I have no complaints and it's going well.
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And one means no, this shit is ass.
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This is a category of my life that I'm not satisfied with at all.
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So you do this inventory, you will life, you go around, you put your number in, and then from there, the three lowest scores are the ones that you addressed with the most urgency.
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So yeah, just a just a little toolkit, because if you're feeling like I'm feeling, or you're in the place that I'm in, you know that there is more out there.
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You know there's more that you need to do, but you also are very clear that in order for you to get where you need to go and do what you need to do, you need to ask more of yourself and hold yourself to a higher standard.
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And that's not to discount all the work that you've done to this point, that's not the not to shit on or poo-poo who you are or what made you who you are, but just to be like, alright, like you're doing good, you're doing really good, but I know that there's more.
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I know that there's a higher level, so let's make some changes to the lifestyle to see what we can do to get to that higher level.
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Feel me?
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Alright, quick break and then we back.
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This episode of the Big Dream Show has been made possible by viewers like you.
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Thanks.
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We back, y'all.
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I hope y'all enjoyed that totally real commercial break.
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Yeah, so we're gonna rush through a couple of a couple of uh mixed topics for real.
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Probably a perfect, probably a perfect overarching thing for the rest of the topics anyway.
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But we got a little bit of an update in this Nolan achievement in this Nolan Wells case where some audio was released.
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Someone independently cleaned up some audio and the audio seems to be very incriminating towards the the classmates, the quote unquote friends that he was with.
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Yeah, it just it just sucks because if you are black, we'll just put it that way.
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If you're black, like if you are culturally black, we'll put it put it that way too, because some of us, some of all skin folk ain't kin folk.
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But if you're culturally black, you had a a bad feeling about this case from the jump.
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And every subsequent update has kind of unfortunately confirmed those bad feelings.
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So still still sending prayers to the the family of of Nolan Wells, rest in peace uh to the young brother, 18 years old is way too young to go.
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And yeah, man, I just I think I think it sucks because and if I'm wrong in the future I will be the first one to come on this microphone and say that I'm wrong, but it sucks because we we know what happened.
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We know how it went down.
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And just the lack of the lack of regard by the by the state of Mississippi.
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The lack of regard, the fact that his mother is receiving death threats and shit like that.
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Like I don't know.
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I just don't understand it.
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I don't understand the calculus in your in your head that a mother can lose her son and your instinct is to attack her on some racist shit.
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So we'll see.
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It's gonna get a lot, it's gonna get a lot worse before it gets better, but these these people and the the spirit of Nolan Wells, they they deserve the truth.
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More more scar tissue talk.
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Tuskegee was in the news because they said that was it Tuskegee?
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I could have this wrong, but I don't want to.
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The the software had been tripping.
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It might not be Tuskegee, because why would Tuskegee say that people can't wear bonnets?
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Ain't Tuskegee.
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I could I could be completely wrong.
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If I'm completely wrong, correct me.
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That's why we got the ground rules in place.
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But they came into controversy because they said that they didn't want students wearing bonnets and new rags to class.
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And I'm interested in the in the conversation because I I knew goes with HBCU.
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I'm a proud I'm a proud student at the Graves School of Business and Management on the campus of Morgan State University, MBA candidate pursuing my MBA in no concentration, just a general MBA.
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So I can work in some entrepreneurship, I can work in intellectual property, work in some marketing courses, negotiation, psychology, all that, all that type of shit.
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There's a lot of things I want to learn.
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But I go to class on a do-reck sometimes.
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I'm also a grown man, so it might be a little different for me.
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But I wonder though, what is the what is the it's hard, right?
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It's hard.
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And the reason I'm having a problem articulating my exact thoughts on this is because I feel like it's it's twofold.
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I see the merit.
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I understand what they're trying to do.
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I understand the merit in trying to have a sense of decorum and a sense of professionalism and and bringing bringing the youth up to understand like there's a time and a place for everything and understand the settings.
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And y'all thought I was gonna say but shout out to Warrior Healer Builder training.
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You feel me?
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Bible Kessel, my mafia.
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Love y'all.
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But I said but fuck.
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And I don't know if the classroom is the best place to make that.
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I'll say the college classroom is the best place to make that stand.
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And why do I think that?
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Why do I feel that way?
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One, because it's college.
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Like you these these these young people are living there, they stand there, they they're there at 24-7, 365.
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I know for me a lot of times I wear a do-rag or I'm wearing something on my head.
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A lot of times cause I don't I don't necessarily have a choice.
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Cause if the options are wearing a do-rag or spending X amount of money to get my hair done, it might be a couple weeks that I can take option B.
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So I understand the necessity of it.
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But also I'm in a little bit of a conundrum because how far does this conversation go before it veers into respectability politics until it veers into setup straight and wear this and and do that.
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You know what I mean?
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Yeah, it's just a it's a it's definitely a a conundrum for me to even to even think about the topic.
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Because we live in a world where shit is so out of whack where the president the president of the United States be shitting in his shitting in his pants and and saying bad words, you know what I'm saying?
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So it it's hard because in a more structured iteration or more structured iterations of the society we have today, it was clear, like, okay, this is how man dresses, this is how you dress for uh civility and shit, and you wear your your shirt and your tie.
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That was a big thing of the of the civil rights movement.
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They specifically wore church clothes, more or less, so that when images were broadcast around the nation and around the world of these people wearing these civilized clothes, getting attacked with hoses and dogs and shit like that, it was more empathetic to try to get people to their cause.
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But we not in that world no more.
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I don't know, it's just hard.
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It's hard for me.
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Because I think that while m I'd be a hypocrite to say that one of the reasons I went to business school wasn't to learn a certain level of decorum and a certain level of, okay, this is how people with money, this is how they not people with money, but this is how quote unquote business people, this is how they dress, this is how they walk, this is how they talk.
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But at the same time understanding that the standard that I'm I'm kind of making is a a made-up paradigm, because the real rich motherfuckers, the billionaires, is out there with with sweatpants and and droopy polos.
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So I don't know.
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I would love to hear someone else's thoughts on on that subject.
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I get it.
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And I think that I lean more towards where you bought it and your Dureg for your early classes, but understand that at some points in the semester you are gonna have to dress up.
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At some points in the semester, it will be required to show up and present present yourself in a certain way.
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And that's kind of how my education was both in undergrad as well as in graduate school.
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It's come as you are, but understand that for presentations, understand that for big moments and big things, and as well as things that will need to be done outside the classroom from a professional development perspective, I understand that you do gotta dress up for them type of things, and you do gotta carry yourself and speak in a certain way.
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But it probably should happen earlier, I guess is another thought that comes in my mind.
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If we're waiting all the way until college to get people prepared for the quote unquote real world, it's already kind of late to instill some new patterns and some new behavior.
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So maybe it's something we see at a at an earlier level.
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I don't know.
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I don't know, but outrage also.
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People people are mad as shit.
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This is a real polarizing topic.
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This is a real polarizer.
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I didn't think it was gonna be that polarizing.
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But yeah, it's it's it's all about that balance.
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Because I know a lot, some of the rich people I know and I've met, I ain't never seen them in suits.
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But not to say that there's no value in not knowing that.
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At the end of the day, you gotta have everything in your game.
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You gotta have everything in your arsenal.
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If I wear a red class, I wear a du rad class.
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When it's time to step up in that suit, I'm stepping up in that tailor suit, my hair is done, my jewelry all shining, all cleaned and whatnot.
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My shoes is nice, they tied, they not worn down, they got some smell good on, you feel me?
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Like it's it's levels to the shit.
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It's levels to the shit.
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But hopefully the first time that you're getting this education isn't when you're 18, 19, 20, 21.
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Hopefully, someone can step in a little earlier.
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And maybe, maybe if you're listening and you're an enterprising entrepreneur or you're someone that just wants to do good in your community, maybe you take the role of filling in these etiquette type courses or these etiquette type classes for teenagers to understand.
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Cause it's also folks that if you don't go to college, when are you being required to dress up in these kind of ways outside of like weddings and funerals and shit like that?
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So it's a whole bunch of thoughts through my mind.
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Hey, we'll see.
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We'll see how it plays out.
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I don't think it's gonna hurt enrollment or nothing like that.
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Oh also shout out to Coppin.
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Coppin's doing something cool.
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I don't know if it's a response to what's going on at Howard University where folks have been getting unenrolled but Coppin is extending in-state tuition to all students from states that don't have HBCUs in their state.
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So I think that's dope.
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I think that's a really good idea.
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Yeah.
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Cause who the fuck wouldn't want to go to HBCU if they got the option and there's no HBCU in their school like why not why not give it a chance?
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And you get in state tuition so that's hard to beat Alright oh man LeBron watch 2026 has ended.
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The final decision has been made LeBron James is now a member of the Philadelphia 76ers.
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Philly Rejoice I do want to say I said months ago that this was a East Coast summer in the time since I said that this was like a legendary East Coast summer.
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What type of shit has happened?
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I think it was after the Knicks won the title but if it wasn't the Knicks won the title that still happened regardless.
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Had some World Cup games in New York and in Philly Jay-Z performed in New York to three sold out shows and now LeBron J is taking the sound to the Philadelphia 76ers so look the vibes are high on the East Coast right now I will say this is a a great East Coast summer.
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We got 30 or so days if you like me September if you like me Labor Day is the the end of the summer if you like the regular world September 21st the equinox or some shit like that is the first day of spring.
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I think I said first day of summer just now Labor Day is the last day of summer in my world in other people's world the last day of summer.
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Actually last day of summer is the first day of school if we can in G so yeah summer about to be over for sure.
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All that being said home stretch as long as as long as nothing crazy happens that's me knocking on wood in the studio as long as nothing crazy happens this is a a summer for the books.
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As far as LeBron and Philly I like it I don't I don't really get people who are making like ring chasing claims like I understand that he went to a strong team but they're what why would he not I guess is the question I'm asking the folks why would he not is it you think that he you think that it's a legacy thing and that he shouldn't have done this for his legacy he shouldn't have gone to the 76ers you think that it's just he's not talented enough to be a second third fourth option on a championship level team I'm really curious because I think that ring culture has kind of kind of melted our brains to where we have to frame every narrative and every story in the context of a of a championship when it comes to sports and some of my favorite and looking back at it before the first take a fication ESP infication of of shit and the way it went down in like the 2000s 2010s a lot of my favorite players and favorite moments were not related to how many championships they won.
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Shit everybody fucked with Al Navison except except a couple of the homies but everybody fucked with Al Navison and Al Iverson ain't win shit.
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I mean he won the Easter Conference and he won Mvp but he went shit you get what I'm saying Reggie Miller another he was a dog he ain't he ain't win shit Gilbert Readers was one of my favorite players before the before before the incidents he ain't win shit so I think that we can't complain about how many rings this person has and have rings be the singular total measure of their greatness and then when they go to teams that are positioned to play championship basketball we complain that it's ring chasing.
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It's like well what the fuck else did you want him to do?
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Y'all want him to go to Cleveland for a year for a third time.
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Team up with James Harden and Dive and Misery that's what that's what we wanted to see.
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Go state that's not ring chasing that's clout chasing over there.
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OKC I think would have been would have been ring chasing.
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San Antonio I think would have been ring chasing because they the two top dogs in that conference.
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I do believe the conspiracy theory that he would've went to the Knicks but the Knicks won a championship so it it uh kind of killed the it killed the story.
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It killed the narrative because if he closed out in New York and New York doesn't have a ring when there's a draw if the Knicks don't win that ring and LeBron comes no matter how far they make it it's a it's a success for him.
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So yeah interesting interesting ring talk I'm monitoring to see how much motion Jordan B has if he continues to be considered as a part of the future for them boys or if it look like it's getting quiet and Jordan B about to be on the way out because the motherfucker be heard all the time I don't know I don't know I'm interested though I'm excited to see it so shout out to Braun very what's the phrase I'm looking for it's very Michael Jordan on the wizards of him to go to Philly.
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But hey that Philly 23 is cold too I say that that Philly jersey that that LeBron James Philly jersey that motherfucker is cold.
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And you want me to give you X and O breakdown of how all these players are going to work together and fit together y'all could go to Zach Lowe for that type of shit.
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I'm just here for the vibes and here to say if niggas is ass or if niggas is washed and if they prosper or not I'm here strictly for that also LeBron if in two years this whole thing don't work out we we build something great up in Chicago so you you might want to consider that my boy but yeah best wishes best luck all the Philippe games about to be sold out that bitch about to be movies young about to be movies from the NBA to the WNBA real quick I don't want to give too much time and too much energy to this but Sophie Cunningham I don't I don't like how the WNBA they let Sophie Cunningham come in there and really dictate really really run roughshod is that how is that how you say the phrase really run roughshod over over the shit that they built even when I wasn't following the WNBA and I'm still I'm not gonna lie and act like I'm the most avid WNBA watcher but I do follow storylines and players watch watch some shit from time to time but it always was this space for others you feel me black women LGBTQ people people are people had the right to people had a way of expressing themselves and carrying themselves in the WNBA and Sophie Cunningham and to another extent Caitlin Clark kind of flipped that on a 180 Caitlyn Clark becoming an avatar for all the racist racist MAGA motherfuckers who just wanted to find a white avatar the great white hope you know that's a stereotype that we hear a lot in basketball of the just the American the the American born and bred white boy who just plays the game the right way he's fundamentally sound he he makes the passes he he doesn't do all that all that that hip-hop mumbo jumbo of crossovers and ducks and shit and Sophie Cunningham is is embodying that they had a rally they had a anti-trans rally at the at the fucking arena and mind you bro Sophie Cunningham averaged what three four points a game like she's not she's not a dog she's not tough at all so it's just yeah it sucks it sucks it sucks it sucks it sucks because far too often like sinners you feel me we'll have these spaces that are I'm not even gonna say for us because that the WNBA for me I'm just a an observer but the people that's for it it it was for them and far too often we see bad actors and people of bad faith come in and that's great these spaces and that's great the people in these spaces to the point where it's unrecognizable.
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So we'll see the WNBA has been having a moment but what comes with having these moments of of great success and great hype and great all of the things right what comes with that is larger attention what comes with that is larger scrutiny what comes with that is more eyes what comes with that is more criticism.
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So I just hope that the league can move past this moment either by not giving a fuck about it or finding some kind of way to to set the set the tone of of what they want shit to be because it it's a it could get to a dangerous place.
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You don't want the safety of these of these women to be caught in the question you don't want the safety of folks to be caught in the in the question period so yeah I don't I don't know Sophie Cunningham she just really just came and dictated that shit is crazy that shit is different that shit is different all the time everybody's looking at Caitlin Clark yeah you need to be looking over there at Sophie Alright last but not least Comic Con was this past week Spider-Man also released y'all know Spider-Man is my guy I didn't get to see Spider-Man yet I'm looking forward to seeing it in the next week or so I'm kind of pressed about it so I might have to force seeing Spider-Man we got the reveal of a new Black Panther David Johnson not the not the football player I'm laughing so hard that joking like three people gonna get it and three people that get it two of them are gonna be like fuck David Johnson but yeah David Johnson not the football player but David Johnson actor has been cast as the Black Panther I'm not the most avid movie or TV watcher these days as I said many many a day so I wasn't familiar with the young man outside that meme with him sitting on that bench with his face scratched up like he like he seen some shit or smell some shit all the podcast people that I listen to all the the smart people the nerds they're like it's a great casting David Johnson is a scene stealer he gonna do his thing so on and so forth all the homies are like I don't know why they cast this old face nigga I think I definitely believe the the it can't be damned eaters because Michael B.
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Jordan and Lori Harvey used to go together and that's Ryan cooler man's I I definitely believe there's a a grain of truth in that also heard names like Aldous Hodge being thrown around as a possible Black Panther but for all in all I'm in a wait and see approach I got high hopes until I got reason to to say that the shit is ass I'm not gonna say it's ass yeah I got I got high hopes for the MCU they got three big ones lined up they got motherfucking Spider-Man they got motherfucking Avengers and now they got Black Panther 3 but I'm so willing to give Ryan Cooler the benefit of the doubt on any move that he makes at this point that it don't it really don't even matter.
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It don't even matter bro they could have cast a goddamn McLovin as Black Panther and I'd have been like yeah man I don't know what Ryan about to do with it but he made centers he made Black Panther too so I'm gonna I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt like that's that's just with the type of time I'm with with Ryan Cooler.
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I think he announced some other shit at Comic Con I wasn't I wasn't too locked in to be honest with you.
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I think Dreamcon was was more lit than Comic Con.
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Comic Con of course you got your scoops and all that shit but Dreamcon you got to you gotta really see the people you gotta you gotta really see the mess in the mix of I hope we get to a point where people are coming to DreamCon to announce they they shit well I guess it's mainly anime is it anime or is it all pop culture and shit that's a if you are a listener and you be at DreamCon you let me know what the what the demographics is up in there but yeah man a lot of shit happened a lot of shit has been happening I'm grateful I made it through another episode I don't have any I don't got any hold your head off the top of my head hold your head off the top of my head that's how that's how Missy used to rap I don't got no hold your heads this week and my homie shout out I shout out I shout out the good brother Akeele with 1kg he used to have the brand hey a kilogram he's been rebranding from hey a kilogram to 1kg just dropped a new collection put it on my IG story today so if you listen to this on Friday it may still be on there but it's at 1kg on Instagram but yeah shout out to shout out the bro shout out to the bro doing his thing and yeah I'm not going to I'm be honest with y'all I'm about to go to the gym I'm about to get me some good food and I'm about to have me a good night so until next time I talk to y'all man y'all be safe run back to top of the podcast as many times as you need to scar tissue new wine new wine scan all this shit is all about being your best self and putting your best foot forward and really really being the person that you want to be in the world and letting the tips fall as they may I believe a lot that it's up to us to do whatever we can to reach the outcomes that we want to reach while also understanding that nothing is 100% on us.
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There are factors outside of our control there are things we can't control there are days there are times and there are just motherfucking instances where no matter how hard you try it's just not going to work out for you.
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But for me I'd rather fly silence and try my best building myself to my best trying my best and then taking whatever the result is and then learning from that result and pushing it forward.
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I tweeted some shit on threads I'm gonna close out on this for real this really gonna be the last point but I tweeted some shit on threads follow me on threads if you don't already at BigJord but I tweeted some shit on threads that you only gotta be right one time.
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You only gotta get the shit right one time to change your life whatever the big idea is whatever the big play is whatever the vision is whatever the shit that you like this will change my life change the injectory of my life change the injectory of my family's life my business my whatever it may be bro you can fail and fail and fail and fail and fail and fail and fail and fail and fail.
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If you get that shit right one time and you root the rewards of that shit one time and the benefits of that shit one time you can parlay that into continue success and continue into run it up and do more shit so don't let them fail yefy you just keep your mind on your vision and stay focused love y'all until next time aha