Fuel, Ignite & Thrive: Nutritionist Tania Gustafson on Midlife Hormones, Blood Sugar & Honouring God With Your Body

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Hi, it's Toby, and I'm really glad you're here.
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A lot of us hit midlife and quietly accept mini normal.
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Less energy, more aches, stress, medications, more wondering where the younger version of ourselves went.
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But what if that's not the story God intended?
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What if this season isn't about decline, but renewal?
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Today we sit down with health and nutrition coach as well as behavior specialist Tanya Gustafson, whose passion is helping women rediscover their strength.
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Because maybe becoming healthier isn't about chasing youth.
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Maybe it's about becoming the person God created you to be.
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Tanya, thank you for being here.
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You're welcome.
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Thanks for having me.
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It's lovely to have just this parade of great people that come into the studio and share their story.
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So I really appreciate that right off the bat.
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So you are a fitness and nutrition coach.
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Mostly, mostly nutrition.
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So a board-certified nutritionist.
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I started in the industry as a personal trainer, though, years ago.
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That's okay.
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So let's start with your interest in health and wellness.
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Has that been through your whole life?
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Yeah, pretty much.
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Um, people used to call me the health nut when I was like a teenager.
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That's okay.
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Yeah.
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Those are the worst things to be called.
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There are totally worse things to be called.
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Absolutely.
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Yeah.
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Grew up on a farm, saw the some my dad had some health issues and how he was able to turn those around using food.
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Like he had high blood sugar at one point.
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That was the first thing.
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Yeah.
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And then he corrected that with food.
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And then he had like high blood pressure and high cholesterol.
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And my dad's a little guy.
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He weighed like 136 pounds.
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He still never weighed over that.
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And he's not like an unhealthy person.
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No, like we grew up on a farm.
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We raised, grew everything.
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My dad hunted.
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He had a physical job.
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And then the farm too, right?
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So people are like, well, how does that even happen?
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But it was a dysregulation in blood sugar and an imbalance.
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And so I always remembered that in the back of my mind.
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And as I got older, that became the key because I didn't, I didn't really know what it was.
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He had gone to a naturopath.
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He'd kind of figured some things out with food, but there was no name, there was no rhyme or reason to it.
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There was no pattern really that I could see at that point.
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I just knew, oh, he removed some things.
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He did some things over here better.
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That really helped.
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It kept him off medication.
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He's hasn't had any.
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He's gonna be, well, he's 84 now, so he's doing great.
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I see you all the time on Instagram with him.
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So he is doing great.
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Yeah, every time he's here, we were just having matcha yesterday.
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He was flying through town, so we we had a quick matcha break.
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Um, so yeah, so he's kind of been my inspiration for health.
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And um, and then when I got married and had kids, my youngest daughter had uh a blocked colon when she was about two.
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Oh gosh.
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Yeah, it was horrible.
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And they didn't, they weren't really checking things like that.
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They were just like, well, you know, I she's got a stomachache, she's not well, like what's going on?
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And then finally, when she was waking up in the middle of the night, is when they finally did some testing and some x-rays.
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And so I honestly now I tell people lie a little bit if you think that there's something going on with your child, like just so you can get some answers.
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You have to advocate, you have to advocate, you have to be a little pushy, be a little pushy.
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Um, and then they found that out, and they're like, Oh, okay, that's that's not that's not so great.
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Uh, and then the response was, well, we're giving the two-year-old adult doses of medication for six days, and then we're giving her these things that you're gonna manage and adjust as you need, but don't stay on this one and this one because it can be addictive.
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Give her lots of water, uh, adjust, and then come back in six months.
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That's scary.
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That was very scary.
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So that's kind of where I had to become the nutritionist because I noticed some things with food that would really affect her that would make a noticeable difference with her disrupting of sleep or having accidents or just being grumpy and just not, you know, complaining that she was hurting, you know?
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And so I was like, all right, we're we're gonna figure this out.
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And so we barely had a computer in the house at the time.
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I don't even I think it was we I don't think we had one yet.
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And so there was a lot of observation and trial and error and things like that.
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And so it was out of necessity.
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It was out of necessity, really.
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And then right as I kept working through that, and she'd get better and better and better and better.
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And anyway, she's fine now, she's 30, and she's an elite athlete.
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She made it.
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She made it.
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The youngest one is 30.
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I can't believe I said that.
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And right, how does that happen?
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Crazy.
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But um, so I just felt I was always called to do something about health because I kept seeing how people could change.
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And and then for my own self, I had had these injuries in my legs from when I was a teenager, teaching fitness, um, uh, cheerleading, dance, gymnastics, like the whole gamut, you know, the 80s.
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They weren't really concerned with our and our shoes and all the things, right?
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And so I became a weather vein.
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Like I had arthritis.
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Oh my gosh, so you could tell when it's gonna snow.
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Oh, snow, rain, all the bad things.
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As I got older and I was feeling this like arthritis for all the time.
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I was started learning, I learned about blood sugar balance and um and reducing inflammation.
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And it, but it took me 22 years being in the health and fitness industry before I heard any of that.
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Well, because it was all about being thin.
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It was being skinny.
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Yeah, it was about necessarily being healthy, right?
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Counting your calories and working out harder and you know, all the things that made you skinnier, smaller, less, right?
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And cardio queens.
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Oh my gosh, right?
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How much were we doing so much?
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I love it now that they say focus on lifting weights.
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I love the weights.
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I love the weights.
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Well, we're gonna talk about perimetopause and midlife and and where that's low.
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But but did you ever struggle with your own image of your body?
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Well, you know what?
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I didn't even think I was doing dieting behaviors until probably about maybe eight years ago or so.
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I never would have thought that they were even called dieting behaviors.
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Like, but I would step on the scale every day and check to see what damage I did yesterday if I went out for dinner or something, right?
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Like, okay, is that number the number I want to be?
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Now, do I have to work out harder today?
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I think there are still a lot of women who do that.
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I will admit, there's some mornings I wake up and the first thing I think is, what did I eat last night?
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Did I eat well?
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Did I it's it's just so ingrained in so many women's brains.
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Yeah.
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And we really got to get out of that because that's the worst time to step on the scale, actually.
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Because your body's holding on to bloat because if you went out to a restaurant, they're gonna use more salt, sugar, sauces, whatever than you would have.
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That's why it tastes so good.
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It's why it tastes so good, right?
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Yeah.
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But we should have those as your celebrations, not as a, oh my gosh, it's a guilt fest now because I enjoyed that.
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Like memories are made around the table and life has celebrations, and so we need to work that in, which is what I do with my clients now.
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But um, so yeah, I didn't really, but I noticed that when I learned about blood sugar stabilization, so 22 years in, I finally go to a conference because I was attending all the conferences, never heard it.
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And finally they had a speaker who talked about it.
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I was like, this is the missing piece.
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Like, what is going on?
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Because I knew I wasn't having enough protein.
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I knew that much, but I just didn't know how to work it in.
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And so when I heard about that, I made the shift.
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And so now I'm in my early 40s.
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You know, you're hitting that perimenopause where everyone says, well, the weight's gonna come on, you know.
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I was able to change my body composition and lose body fat.
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As women are typically complaining about.
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Well, I mean, that's where I want to go with this, is that you hear so many women in our age range saying, I just don't feel like myself anymore.
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My body, I look in the mirror, I don't, I don't understand what's going on.
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Yep.
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And so you've turned this now into coaching.
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Yep.
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And I think you hit on it when you said it's mostly nutrition.
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Isn't that the truth?
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Totally.
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Food is your foundation.
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Yeah.
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You know, like you can shine up your car and make it look all pretty and vacuum it all out and buff the paint and everything.
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But if you're not putting fuel in it, it's not going anywhere.
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Right.
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Okay, well, you touched on protein.
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Just let's just get this out there right now.
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So, how much protein do we need?
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Because we feel a lot of pressure in this department.
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And I don't know that eating a turkey pepperoni stick is with the kind of protein we're talking about.
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So just just sidetrack for a second.
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Yeah.
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How much protein is for a woman in a day?
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Is it on your weight?
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Kind, yeah, kind of.
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You can base it on that.
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And then also, like, how active are you?
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And you want to kind of start start small a little bit because if you're the kind of person who's right now eating one or two meals a day, because there's a lot of people out there doing that.
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Yeah.
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They skip breakfast.
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Oh, now I'm busy, I work through lunch, I'm grabbing a snack on my way home, and then I'm I'm just eating dinner and I'm consuming all my food then, right?
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And so if you're doing that, and now I tell you, well, you probably should be eating four, five, six times a day and adding protein to that, they're gonna be like, ooh, overwhelming.
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So just start thinking having protein first thing in the morning, but you know, within that first hour, you when you get up, yeah, that sets your blood sugar to be stable.
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And when your blood sugar is stable, then your body will naturally turn your metabolism on and it lets your body release soared fat.
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But if you don't, then you you drop your blood sugar and your brain never shuts off.
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So it needs um a dense protein source to turn to glucose to feed it.
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And the only dense protein source it's gonna get is your muscle.
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And muscle is our currency and menopause, right?
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Like we need it for our bone structure, uh, for our cognitive health, for our immune function, for our stability, our strength, all these things.
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It also helps regulate your metabolism, it helps control your hormones.
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If we don't have it, we are we are you know short on all of these things.
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Yeah.
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So if you want a number, and I try to not really do too many numbers with people because sometimes people get a little obsessed.
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Okay, so then would you just say it every time you eat?
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Every time you eat, yeah.
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So I mean, so for myself, I'm like, you know, I weigh about 125 pounds.
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So I would have about 120 grams of protein.
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So around your weight.
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Around your weight ish.
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You know, a little either side of it.
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You gave me that tip to have protein first thing in the morning, especially if you're a coffee drinker.
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Like make sure you have some protein.
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And I will say it does, it does change your whole probably gut biome, first of all.
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But you don't get that ravenous, like, I know that if I have my protein and I have it in cold brew coffee.
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There you go.
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And it just holds me.
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Yeah.
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Well, and that's a great way to do that because people are they women, especially they want to, oh my gosh, I need my coffee.
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Don't talk to me.
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I need my energy.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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Well, if you're doing that on the empty stomach, you're spiking your insulin and your cortisol, setting yourself up to store fat.
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But if you put the protein in with it or you have it with your breakfast.
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So if you're having eggs and toast or something, get the eggs in first before you start sipping on the coffee.
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You're gonna do some great things for your body as opposed to you know, you're gonna start getting benefits rather than deficits.
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That's right.
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That's right.
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Okay, now we're getting into the nitty-gritty because this is like this we have way more power over how we feel than maybe you know, right?
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Not you.
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Thank you.
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Because you really, you it really does come down to how you feel yourself, how you supplement yourself, and how you move.
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Yeah.
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How you sleep.
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Okay, let's start with hormones because I think that is probably what we're trying to control, right?
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Yeah.
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Um, and so when your blood sugar is stable, that's the only place your hormones can balance.
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There you go.
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So you really want to do that, and then looking even farther down the pipe, um, Alzheimer's has been called type 3 diabetes for over a decade.
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Wow.
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So all those things with dementia, Alzheimer's, the brain things, if your body is not in balance, if you're not stabilizing your blood sugar, it's put it's taxing your brain.
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Because when I said about, you know, your brain never shuts off and it needs that protein source, if you're not fueling it, it has to go find it in your body.
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Yeah.
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Right?
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So it has to find that source, take it from your muscle.
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Eventually, you get pretty depleted.
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So it's kind of like when you're sucking out of the straw and you get to the bottom of the milkshake and it's like really, really hard, you know?
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And so your brain's being taxed and strained in a way that it doesn't have to.
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Is that why people on GLPs, is that why they lose their muscle?
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Because they're not, is it is it just uh like an enhanced version of what you're describing?
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You're not giving your body enough, so now it's yeah, rapidly going after.
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It's well, the the traditional the GLP ones, like the you know, the all-in-ones, right?
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The Limovi, the Ozempic, all those kinds of things, right?
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Those are they're probably about four to five times more than you what you need.
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Your body will make its own GLP one.
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Yeah.
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If you balance your blood sugar.
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So what what's happening is those medications will shut down your digestive and slow down your your elimination.
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Yeah.
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So it tells you that you're full and it slows down all the literally all the crap from eliminating from your body.
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Not very good.
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Um, and so you feel full.
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It's like after turkey dinner at at Christmas or Thanksgiving, and you feel like, oh, I don't really want to eat very much today.
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So you don't eat very much.
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So now you're missing nutrients because you're not giving your body enough of what it needs.
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And so there we go back to the well, the brain doesn't shut off, so where is it getting it from?
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Has to get it from your muscle.
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So the idea when when you're losing weight, you will always lose a little bit of muscle, even when you're doing it well.
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But the ratio is like, you know, 90%, 95% fat, and then you know, the little teeny bit of muscle.
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Whereas it's the other way around with that almost.
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It's like it's huge.
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The ratio is very big of the amount of muscle that you're losing, and once you've lost it, it's really hard to get it back.
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Yeah.
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Especially, especially when you're in midlife.
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Yeah, you know, and so um, and then all of those things are not they're not solving your problem either.
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The weight, the menopausal symptoms, like the hot flashes, the bloating, the brain fog, not sleeping, the fatigue, those are all symptoms like in your car, the check engine light.
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So having that medication will mask it.
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But without the foundation of what should I be doing to help roll this back, you are literally a customer of the pharmaceutical industry for life.
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When you are doing the right things or if everything's functioning normally, let's say, like you're you're a balanced eater, you work out moderately, you take care of yourself, but you still there's still moments where, especially, you know, the hot flashes, the getting upset about things irrational.
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What like what is normal for a woman to expect?
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Well, I mean, every woman is different.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And so the result where you are is the result of what you've been doing for years.
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So it's not necessarily about your age, length of time you've been doing something that serves or doesn't serve your body.
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So if you're younger, listen to this too, because you're setting the stage.
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Right.
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So that's what I didn't understand in a good way when I first learned about balancing my blood sugar.
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Balancing my blood sugar helps to bring down internal inflammation.
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Inflammation is firing up all of those menopause and perimenopause symptoms.
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It's like pouring gas on a fire.
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So if we can bring down our internal inflammation and then balance our blood sugar where our hormones can balance, then we've got a really nice double whammy.
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And then if you focus on healing your gut, you can also target all of those anxieties, the moods, and things like that, the autoimmune, the skin issues, the acne, all that kind of stuff that comes with comes with.
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So it's a little bit of a trifecta there.
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So because I was doing these, you know, proactively, when I hit menopause, I haven't had a hot flash.
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I don't have any of those kinds of things.
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So please don't hate me.
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Don't send, don't send me hate mail.
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But I just get them at night.
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I never get them in the day.
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Yeah.
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And so there's, you know, the longer or the or the better you can dive in to your balance, you're gonna see them, you're gonna see them turn back.
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You know, I was I was talking with a woman the other day, um, one of my clients, and she, when she first came to me, like sleep was her big thing, right?
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And she was not sleeping, she was sleeping an hour and a half to two hours a night.
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Like waking up for two hours ago.
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That makes you crazy.
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Yes.
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And then she takes two hours to go back to sleep and then maybe get another hour and a half or two hours.
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And she was doing that for years.
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And uh I have friends like that.
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Yeah, it's crazy.
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Within five weeks, she um now sleeps from 10 p.m.
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to 7 a.m.
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and doesn't even wake up to go to the bathroom.
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Okay, so what does she do?
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What do you have her doing?
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She's balancing her blood sugar.
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Yeah, we remove the inflammatory foods so that we can um empty your toxic load bucket, is what I call it, right?
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We have this like bucket of stuff that fills up and we need to like pull the plug.
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It's like it's like doing an oil change on your car.
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You gotta take the filter out and put a new one in it every once in a while.
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Right to clean it.
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So that'll help to clean your filters kind of thing.
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And um, and then adding it when you you're like, well, I like that food and I took it out for a bit.
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Okay, see if when you add it back, is that a red light, yellow light, or green light signal for you?
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Like, how are you feeling when you do that?
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Because we eat a lot of foods and combinations.
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So if we can now determine what's working for us, is that triggering a hot flash for you?
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Is that triggering bloating for you?
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You know, it's like, oh, not so great.
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Okay, let's roll it back.
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And it could be that it's just that your gut hasn't healed yet, right?
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And you have to do some more work there and then try it again, or it could be that that's really something that your body doesn't like.
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And we work through those things, but it was just so incredible that she went from sleeping only an hour and a half to two hours at a time to like a full nine hours.
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That's amazing.
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That's amazing.
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And she's like, Oh my gosh, it's so much.
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I am so have so much energy now.
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Well, no kidding.
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Because you're sleeping, because you're sleeping how God intended it.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Right?
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You can't function if your body isn't doing the cleaning out and the restoring and the repairing, and that's what it does when we're sleeping.
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Yeah.
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Okay, you've mentioned inflammation a couple of times, and I think people get confused about what inflammation is.
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Just explain what inflammation is.
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Okay, good question.
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Because there's there's two types of inflammation there's the acute and there's the chronic.
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Okay.
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We need inflammation to survive.
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Okay.
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So there's a good inflammation.
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It's like a protection.
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Yeah, it's a protection.
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So if you cut yourself, it's red, it's hot, it hurts.
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That's your body sending stem cells to heal that.
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That's the acute inflammation.
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We need that, right?
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Survival.
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Now, if I, you know, it gets a scab on it and I'm just distracted, but it's itchy.
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So I scratch it, and it's like, oh shoot, it's bleeding again.
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Now I have to wait.
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And then now because I've made a mess of it, it's really itchy, so I keep forgetting and I keep scratching.
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We all know what's gonna happen, right?
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It gets swollen, infected, pussy.
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I might need an antibiotic even because that's chronic inflammation.
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It keepicking, picking, picking, picking, right?
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So that's what's going on inside.
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If you have anything that has an itis after it, yeah, that's that's literally the Latin for inflammation, right?
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It's part of that word.
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Um, any pain, redness, swelling, discomfort, can't sleep, lack of energy, the they're all everything is based in inflammation.
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I think a lot of people might be saying, uh, I'm all those things.
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And that's so does that mean I have inflammation?
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Yeah, it means every we all have it, we can't get rid of all of it because it also comes on from stress.
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It also comes on from, you know, things that we breathe in the air or stuff that's on our food.
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Like we can't eliminate it all.
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It's okay.
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Just understand that you'll have some.
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Okay.
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But all the things that we can do to bring that down, to bring our toxic load bucket down so that we have room, right?
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So that doesn't overflow.
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Because all of these symptoms are happening because your body is unable to handle them all.
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Remember, like science 10, the saturated solution?
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You put too many things in it, it won't absorb the water anymore.
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Yeah.
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Okay, it's like that.
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So if you have this bucket, it's all of a sudden saturated and it starts to overflow because there's too much in there.
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Okay, now there's your symptoms.
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Right.
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So if we can make sense, that makes perfect sense, right?
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And let more room in there because we know that there's always going to be a stressful situation.
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We're always gonna there's gonna be an event or an occasion or something we eat or whatever happens.
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Not an after this week, everything will calm down.
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No, there'll be something else.
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Life, right?
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Life is happening at a rapid rate and it's just and it should.
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And so we should expect that.
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But if we can have a buffer to control that, then our body can now handle that.
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So if someone's listening, watching, and they say, Okay, sold.
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What do I do today?
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What is the first thing I do?
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The first thing that they should, well, they could reach out and they could get started with my fit menopause method.
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Uh so that's at fuelignite thrive.com.
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You can reach out there, I'll do a free call with you.
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Um, but for like in the immediate thing today, yeah, think about your protein.
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Yeah.
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Think about your water, think about intentional movement, and think about instead of thinking about what do I need to take out or how do I need to punish myself, what what should I be gaining?
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So instead of like, because usually weight loss is one of the things in perimenopause and menopause, right?
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Women are just like, oh, that's one of the things that prompts them to do something because they just they feel awful, yeah, things don't fit, whatever, right?
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Yeah.
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So instead of thinking, I need to lose weight, it's like, what can I gain from doing some good things to my body?
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I like that.
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Right?
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What can I gain by nourishing myself properly?
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You know, what can I gain by drinking more water?
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What can I gain by giving myself 10 minutes of quiet time in the morning before I hit the ground running?
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It's not about deprivation in any respect.
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No, I mean nothing thrives in a deficit.
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What does no, it's true.
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It's true.
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Nothing, ever.
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So be good to yourself.
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Yeah, be good to yourself.
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So when we talk about uh the body, you've heard the saying, the body is your temple.
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It is.
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And I know that you are a woman of faith.
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Yep.
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You post about your faith, your morning devotionals.
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I see, I see it often.
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Do you think it is like a form of worship to take care of your body, that the body that God gave us?
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Well, we only have one, yeah.
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Right.
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And so we worship him, but we need to take care of the things he's given us.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And and this is my one and only body.
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And And if I don't take care of this, I'm not honoring him.
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I'm not honoring my family because my choices don't just affect me, right?
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They're going to affect my family.
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What happens if I am, you know, because of my own choices, I am now not able to care for myself in 10 or 20 years.
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Right.
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Who does that fall on then?
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You know, my kids.
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Do I want them bound to be, you know, a caregiver for the next 30 years?
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Probably not.
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No.
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You know, I mean, sometimes there's accidents that happen and that's entirely different.
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But the way we take care of ourselves should reflect how we care for others, is like how we think about others too, you know?
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Well, and it's modeling too.
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You're showing that.
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Yeah.
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And if you, you know, we're being our best selves so we can serve them.
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And women are so um, they put everyone else first, you know, like the the husband, the kids, the neighbor, the the church group, the Bible says, the parents, the the dog, like right?
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Everybody goes first.
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Newman is part of this podcast.
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He is, and it's his job.
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That's his job.
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And he's doing it well.
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I love it.
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But our, you know, everything goes before, and then we are like at the back of the line somewhere, and we always say, Yes, I'm gonna get to that later.
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I'm doing that later today.
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When does later ever show up on the watch or the daytime or it's not a time, it's not a time slot.
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Everyone else has a time slot.
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You gotta give yourself a time slot.
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And and not just pencil yourself in, put yourself in so that you can show up for your best self, show up for you every day and know that you're worth it, worth showing up for.
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That's another thing that we do a whole mindset thing in my program as well.
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Too.
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Well, I think that's important because I mean, we know the physicality of it is important, and that that is the predominantly your business.
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But I like how you take sort of midlife, especially.
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I'm just using midlife as an example.
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It's anybody and it's not just women, it's men as well.
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But it's physical, it's mental, and it's spiritual.
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It's got to be rounded, don't you think?
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Absolutely, for sure.
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Because I can I can hand you a food list.
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But if you're not understanding number one, why you're doing it, what's you're doing it for, what is your why that you're doing this for?
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And if you're not realizing your worth in showing up to do this, you won't do it.
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You'll do it for a short period of time.
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And then you'll say, Well, it sort of worked.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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But we have to, we have to recruit that mindset in there.
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And and there's many women out there.
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I spoke to one yesterday.
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Um, uh, she's struggling with grief and things like that, and she is having a hard time believing that she's worth it.
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She says, I keep telling myself, I'll start on Monday.
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I'll start on Monday.
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And then that Monday went, and then that Monday went, and now it's like I was doing really good, and her family wasn't very supportive.
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Um, they weren't specifically trying to sabotage her, but they weren't really trying to help her either, you know.
00:24:51.680 --> 00:24:57.680
So people get afraid of how much somebody's going to change because it ultimately changes you when you're healthier.
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Yeah.
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Absolutely.
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That's a very good point.
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And so, um, so there's that, right?
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You have to work through all of that and realize that, you know, your worth is not tied to the scale, it's not tied to um your pant size, it's not tied to how many cardio sessions you can do this week, you know, or how many things you didn't eat yesterday and how many calories you could cut.
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You know, it's tied to who you are.
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And just because you were created to be here and God doesn't make any mistakes.
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No.
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Well, and I think there's some people who would think, okay, you two are talking a lot about body, and I mean, God doesn't you worship God, you don't worship like a body or an idol, but it really I'm just trying to break the point that it's all tied together.
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Like we are a full being.
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And so does when you're talking to people, and there's probably intimate conversations because you're delving into their lives.
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Yeah.
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Does faith come up ever?
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It sometimes does, depending on the person.
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Yeah.
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You know, I I don't specifically like exclusively coach faith-based women, right?
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But uh, regardless of who they are, what their faith is, if I feel they need prayer, I will I will send them a prayer or or I'll say something relevant in that in that moment for them, you know, because I don't know if I felt if I feel need to led to do that, I do that.
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Right.
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And that's that's the thing, right?
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You just you just follow what you were.
00:26:15.519 --> 00:26:23.519
So when it comes to stress, and I mean, because I know, I mean, you never come across like you're stressed, but obviously you're a human and and there's stressful moments.
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Right.
00:26:24.079 --> 00:26:25.599
So where do you turn?
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I make sure that I do not hit the ground running in the morning.
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That's my biggest thing.
00:26:31.119 --> 00:26:32.880
Uh, I call it the morning pause.
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I do a live every day about the morning pause.
00:26:36.160 --> 00:26:37.039
Well, I talk about it.
00:26:37.119 --> 00:26:38.160
I see I see it come up.
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Sometimes I'm doing the news on the radio, but I'll be like, oh, there she is.
00:26:42.400 --> 00:26:43.279
I know it's 6.15.
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I'm in my car before I hit the gym, but before that, I don't look at my phone.
00:26:47.680 --> 00:26:49.119
That's the first time my phone comes up.
00:26:49.359 --> 00:26:49.680
Okay.
00:26:49.839 --> 00:26:51.680
I don't sleep with my phone in my room.
00:26:51.920 --> 00:26:55.519
I I don't pick up my phone, I put it in my pocket so I don't leave the house without it.
00:26:55.680 --> 00:26:55.839
Yeah.
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But I don't look at my phone, I don't do any of that.
00:26:58.880 --> 00:27:03.920
I um turn the kettle on, I make my protein hot chocolate, protein before anything else, right?
00:27:04.000 --> 00:27:09.839
And then I get out my Bible, I do my reading, I do my prayers, I do my journaling, then I go to the gym.
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And then I sit in my car.
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Lovely morning.
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Right?
00:27:13.440 --> 00:27:14.799
Because it's like it's quiet.
00:27:14.880 --> 00:27:16.720
I like to get up before everyone else is up.
00:27:16.799 --> 00:27:25.680
Even when I have a house full of company, I will get up on purpose to have my quiet time because it just my day just goes so much better.
00:27:25.839 --> 00:27:27.599
Not to say that stuff's not gonna happen later.
00:27:27.680 --> 00:27:27.839
No.
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But if I wake up, you'll be in a better space, for yeah.
00:27:30.559 --> 00:27:34.559
We've all had that day where you know the power went off and your alarm clock didn't go off, right?
00:27:34.720 --> 00:27:45.920
And then you wake up maybe like 20 minutes later, or how and it's like you're just like the whole day, yeah, you feel like you're not you're you're behind, you know, and you finally at the end of the day, you're just like, oh my gosh, I'm glad it's over.
00:27:46.400 --> 00:27:48.160
You know, you just never catch up.
00:27:48.240 --> 00:27:48.480
Yeah.
00:27:48.720 --> 00:27:52.000
And so, but a lot of people are doing that on repeat every single day.
00:27:52.240 --> 00:27:52.960
That's so hard.
00:27:53.440 --> 00:27:55.119
It's so hard on your nervous system.
00:27:55.279 --> 00:27:59.279
Uh, your your insulin is spiking, you're living in a state of fight or flight.
00:27:59.440 --> 00:28:04.000
Your cortisol is just pumping and it's putting you at risk for metabolic disease.
00:28:04.160 --> 00:28:04.720
Seriously.
00:28:04.960 --> 00:28:08.720
So, what I hear you saying is rest and intentional.
00:28:09.519 --> 00:28:09.759
Yeah.
00:28:10.000 --> 00:28:10.640
Intentional rest.
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Make some time.
00:28:11.599 --> 00:28:11.759
Yeah.
00:28:11.920 --> 00:28:15.279
You know, like I have probably about a full hour before I leave the house.
00:28:15.519 --> 00:28:18.880
You don't have to start with an hour, but give yourself 10 minutes.
00:28:19.119 --> 00:28:24.079
You know, don't if you're a parent with children, that might be the only time you have.
00:28:24.319 --> 00:28:24.480
Right.
00:28:24.640 --> 00:28:25.839
Get up before they get up.
00:28:26.000 --> 00:28:39.200
I know that you want your sleep, but getting up when they're already, when you hear them rustling around in the kitchen or playing, you are hitting the ground running because you have to be on now because they have demands and you need to get stuff done, and then you have to go to work or you have to, whatever it is.
00:28:39.680 --> 00:28:40.400
It just keeps getting pushed.
00:28:40.559 --> 00:28:41.200
It just keeps getting pushed.
00:28:41.359 --> 00:28:42.720
That happened to me one day this week.
00:28:42.799 --> 00:28:46.640
So I intentionally I get up half an hour before I need to.
00:28:47.039 --> 00:28:50.960
And I I sit down and do my devotionals, like I do it all.
00:28:51.039 --> 00:28:54.480
So I give myself that half an hour, but oddly it stretches to 40 minutes.
00:28:54.559 --> 00:28:56.160
It's the I tell you, it just goes.
00:28:56.319 --> 00:28:56.559
It does.
00:28:57.039 --> 00:28:59.680
When your head is in it, it's it just goes.
00:29:00.160 --> 00:29:03.519
But there was a day where I don't know, something else was happening.
00:29:03.680 --> 00:29:05.039
I was like, okay, I'll do it, I'll do it.
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And then the next thing I knew, it was night.
00:29:07.519 --> 00:29:08.079
Yeah.
00:29:08.400 --> 00:29:14.240
And I hadn't sat down with my daily devotional or my Bible.
00:29:15.359 --> 00:29:16.319
And it does throw you.
00:29:16.400 --> 00:29:19.039
It's like, okay, this isn't no, this isn't what I want.
00:29:19.200 --> 00:29:19.519
No.
00:29:19.839 --> 00:29:24.079
So I think it just it just forces you to sort of take stock of who you are.
00:29:24.240 --> 00:29:24.400
Yeah.
00:29:24.480 --> 00:29:30.640
And ultimately that figures back to how you treat yourself, how you feed yourself, how you move yourself.
00:29:30.880 --> 00:29:31.279
Yep.
00:29:31.599 --> 00:29:31.839
Yep.
00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:35.680
You are what you intentionally do on a daily basis.
00:29:36.240 --> 00:29:36.480
Right?
00:29:36.880 --> 00:29:44.000
We can be consistent, which is something I I just um from a mentor just recently, actually the light bulb went on.
00:29:44.160 --> 00:29:45.599
I was always saying, be consistent.
00:29:45.759 --> 00:29:49.039
Well, you can be consistent daily, weekly, monthly, yearly.
00:29:49.759 --> 00:29:54.079
How much consistency, like, where are you on the consistency spectrum, right?
00:29:54.160 --> 00:29:56.960
Like if I only take care of myself once a year, that's not so great.
00:29:57.039 --> 00:29:58.880
No, but I'm consistently once a year.
00:29:58.960 --> 00:29:59.759
All right, do this, yeah.
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Right.
00:30:00.240 --> 00:30:00.480
Yeah.
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Consistently once a year.
00:30:02.079 --> 00:30:03.599
I hire someone to clean my windows.
00:30:03.759 --> 00:30:05.839
Okay, but it's not a daily thing, right?
00:30:06.079 --> 00:30:06.319
No.
00:30:06.559 --> 00:30:11.839
So going back, let's be daily, intentionally, daily to be consistent, right?
00:30:11.920 --> 00:30:14.319
So what are you going to do every day for you?
00:30:14.640 --> 00:30:17.359
And so there's a lot of different areas we've talked about here.
00:30:17.440 --> 00:30:19.680
So just pick one and start there.
00:30:19.920 --> 00:30:21.599
You know, so maybe set yourself up.
00:30:21.680 --> 00:30:25.759
And I morning time is the best time to do this.
00:30:25.920 --> 00:30:29.599
So I would suggest you create your own morning pause for like at least 10 minutes.
00:30:29.680 --> 00:30:30.240
Start with 10.
00:30:30.559 --> 00:30:32.960
It does, like I say, when the alarm goes off, it's 3:30.
00:30:33.200 --> 00:30:34.400
Yeah, for you, it's super early.
00:30:34.720 --> 00:30:35.440
It's super early.
00:30:35.519 --> 00:30:39.759
But in my mind, I'm like, there's not a huge difference between 3:30 and 4, really.
00:30:40.640 --> 00:30:47.759
But when you do use that half an hour for something, it it actually is a huge difference, but in a good way.
00:30:48.000 --> 00:30:48.240
Right.
00:30:48.319 --> 00:30:49.200
It's a benefit to you.
00:30:49.279 --> 00:30:49.519
Yes.
00:30:49.680 --> 00:30:53.119
It's not like I'm dragging myself out of bed because I have to do something stupid.
00:30:53.359 --> 00:31:00.079
It's intentional and it's beneficial for you, and it sets you up to be calmer and more focused and more intentional for the rest of the day.
00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:01.359
And something to take with you through the day.
00:31:01.519 --> 00:31:02.720
And something to take with you through the day.
00:31:02.799 --> 00:31:03.279
Yes, absolutely.
00:31:03.599 --> 00:31:04.799
That's what that's what I like about it.
00:31:05.039 --> 00:31:06.720
Something you can just kind of follow along.
00:31:06.960 --> 00:31:07.440
For sure.
00:31:07.680 --> 00:31:12.400
So with this theme of kind of renewal in midlife, we're not done yet.
00:31:12.640 --> 00:31:13.599
No, no, no, no.
00:31:13.680 --> 00:31:15.039
We're just getting started now.
00:31:15.200 --> 00:31:16.240
This is like the relaunch.
00:31:16.400 --> 00:31:20.640
So speak to somebody who's thinking, oh, I'm, you know, I say I'm 58.
00:31:20.720 --> 00:31:20.880
Yeah.
00:31:21.039 --> 00:31:22.000
It's too late for me.
00:31:22.079 --> 00:31:23.359
It's it's it's too late.
00:31:23.519 --> 00:31:24.480
We're like, you know.
00:31:24.720 --> 00:31:26.160
No, it's never too late.
00:31:26.319 --> 00:31:28.960
And I love what Gary V always talks about that, right?
00:31:29.039 --> 00:31:30.640
He's like, no, it's never too late.
00:31:30.880 --> 00:31:37.599
This is just, it doesn't matter when you start or what age you are, you can always make improvements.
00:31:37.680 --> 00:31:40.319
I've had clients all the way up to 86 years old.
00:31:40.559 --> 00:31:41.759
Oh my gosh, I love that.
00:31:41.920 --> 00:31:44.000
You know, and she's oh beautiful lady.
00:31:44.160 --> 00:31:52.880
And uh surprisingly, one of the few, I think there's only ever been twice, where a doctor has told someone to, before I give you medication, please try food.
00:31:53.599 --> 00:31:55.200
I was stunned.
00:31:55.440 --> 00:32:06.319
And for her, it was her blood sugar, and she was um so anyway, long story short, within three weeks, she went from a nine, she was just over nine with her blood sugar, which is very high, very high.
00:32:06.480 --> 00:32:07.359
Okay, not good.
00:32:07.519 --> 00:32:09.119
Dia like diabetic, yeah.
00:32:09.279 --> 00:32:11.599
And we got her down to 5.6 in three weeks only.
00:32:12.079 --> 00:32:12.640
Just with food.
00:32:12.799 --> 00:32:16.160
Yeah, it's medicine, it's medicine.
00:32:16.880 --> 00:32:19.200
The doctor's very happy now, and she's not on a prescription.
00:32:19.359 --> 00:32:20.640
So, you know, she's been a little bit more.
00:32:20.799 --> 00:32:23.119
But I also love that the doctor said that.
00:32:23.359 --> 00:32:23.680
I do.
00:32:23.759 --> 00:32:28.079
I I was just reading a study where they were using the blueberries, was what they used.
00:32:28.160 --> 00:32:34.079
They had they had older people just take out all the other fruit except blueberries, just to see what it did.
00:32:34.240 --> 00:32:34.799
What it did.
00:32:34.880 --> 00:32:38.640
Yeah, and because I think a lot of older people, like juices and things like that, right?
00:32:39.039 --> 00:32:40.400
Juices are horrible.
00:32:41.920 --> 00:32:44.640
Words that get a nutritionist worked up.
00:32:44.799 --> 00:32:45.200
Juice.
00:32:45.440 --> 00:32:52.240
Juice, juice and and things like and things like insure and stuff like that are just like, oh, they're death in a bottle.
00:32:52.319 --> 00:32:54.720
I'm just saying terrible.
00:32:55.519 --> 00:33:02.400
I want to turn here uh a little bit to your faith because you and I have had this conversation where you did you grow up with faith?
00:33:02.880 --> 00:33:04.480
Yeah, kind of, sort of.
00:33:04.640 --> 00:33:05.279
Okay, right?
00:33:05.519 --> 00:33:10.720
So my mom always told us how she went to church when she was little and she took us when we were really little.
00:33:10.880 --> 00:33:14.640
My dad unfortunately had a really bad experience with church when he was not uncommon.
00:33:14.720 --> 00:33:14.960
Yeah.
00:33:15.119 --> 00:33:18.160
You know, when he was little, they they didn't come from a lot, right?
00:33:18.240 --> 00:33:20.960
They didn't have they're pretty poor when they were little.
00:33:21.119 --> 00:33:25.279
And um, they were told that they couldn't come back to Sunday school unless they brought money.
00:33:25.920 --> 00:33:26.799
It was terrible.
00:33:27.039 --> 00:33:30.960
And so, of course, my grandfather got really upset about that and they never went back.
00:33:31.200 --> 00:33:34.640
And so, so that was my dad's unfortunate experience at church.
00:33:34.799 --> 00:33:55.200
And so my mom did not have an unfortunate experience, and so she had very good experiences, and and um so she she took us when we were little, and then the Sunday school closed at the church we went to, and so um one of the uh parents in the neighborhood was actually they from their church, she ran the Sunday school in her house, so we went there.
00:33:55.440 --> 00:34:04.000
Um, and then as I was growing up, uh my best friend uh I went to I ended up going to church with her because when I stayed overnight at her house, her whole family went to church the next day.
00:34:04.079 --> 00:34:04.960
So I went with her.
00:34:05.200 --> 00:34:10.800
And then fast forward, um, I ended up working it funny, funny enough, God has an interesting plan, right?
00:34:10.880 --> 00:34:18.079
Because I didn't, I could not get a job in the public school system, even though as a as an education assistant, I was working in special needs, right?
00:34:18.320 --> 00:34:26.800
And I could not get a position there, even though I had worked with special needs um in the new hour capacity, like already in the system.
00:34:26.960 --> 00:34:27.840
Very weird.
00:34:28.079 --> 00:34:30.800
But I was able to be hired at a private school.
00:34:31.360 --> 00:34:32.800
Well, I guess that's where you were meant to be.
00:34:33.119 --> 00:34:33.920
That's where I was meant to be.
00:34:34.000 --> 00:34:34.079
Yeah.
00:34:34.320 --> 00:34:35.039
Christian school, right?
00:34:35.119 --> 00:34:39.440
So I so I worked there for many years and um great experience, lovely people.
00:34:39.679 --> 00:34:42.960
Um, but I so I have that background in behavior specialty.
00:34:43.039 --> 00:34:50.800
I'm a behavior specialist, and so bringing that into with my coaching is where that that's the difference of where it sticks.
00:34:50.880 --> 00:35:00.000
Because anybody can give you just a meal plan and say, eat that, you know, okay, there's your macros, there's your numbers, there's your we don't do any of that either.
00:35:00.159 --> 00:35:04.000
So I'm not counting calories, you don't have to weigh your food, you don't have to weigh yourself either.
00:35:04.239 --> 00:35:05.440
Because that's a good point.
00:35:05.599 --> 00:35:06.400
It's yeah, right.
00:35:06.480 --> 00:35:14.000
If you're tied to that scale, just quickly though, does it give you just an idea of where you're at, or would you say throw it the scale altogether?
00:35:14.239 --> 00:35:15.199
It depends on the person.
00:35:15.280 --> 00:35:22.880
If this person has been a daily wear or like an obsessive person, I'm gonna tell you you can weigh once now, so you have a baseline, and then you're gonna put it away.
00:35:22.960 --> 00:35:25.599
You're gonna take the batteries out and you're gonna put it away for a couple months.
00:35:25.760 --> 00:35:28.719
So you really do look at the whole person like and decide.
00:35:30.559 --> 00:35:32.159
How are that's good?
00:35:32.400 --> 00:35:33.119
The NSVs.
00:35:33.360 --> 00:35:37.760
Look at the way your clothes fit, I feel like that's the ultimate victory and the way you feel, obviously.
00:35:38.159 --> 00:35:39.360
How much energy you have?
00:35:39.599 --> 00:35:42.159
You know, did you reduce any of your menopause symptoms?
00:35:42.320 --> 00:35:49.519
I used to do some groups at the rec center um several years ago, and I remember just after four weeks, we would have like in four-week blocks, right?
00:35:49.599 --> 00:35:50.639
And they could continue on.
00:35:50.719 --> 00:35:56.079
So sometimes we would have people from the first group into the second one, but we'd have newbies, right?
00:35:56.239 --> 00:36:06.960
Yeah, and so I remember um women coming in and just complaining about the hot flashes and the things, and the women from the first group would say, just wait, give it four weeks, they're gonna all be gone.
00:36:07.599 --> 00:36:08.239
So it was perfect.
00:36:08.719 --> 00:36:09.119
It was perfect.
00:36:09.280 --> 00:36:09.840
I was like, awesome.
00:36:10.719 --> 00:36:11.519
I don't need to advertise.
00:36:11.760 --> 00:36:12.800
Yeah, well, yeah.
00:36:12.960 --> 00:36:13.920
And it that but that was great.
00:36:14.000 --> 00:36:16.239
That was wonderful for me to see that.
00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:20.480
Um, see women succeeding that way and just feeling so much better.
00:36:20.639 --> 00:36:22.639
And that's that's one of the metrics, you know.
00:36:22.719 --> 00:36:24.000
Like, how much energy do I have?
00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:25.679
Is my digestion improving?
00:36:25.840 --> 00:36:27.199
Do I have less brain fog?
00:36:27.280 --> 00:36:31.199
Like, are you not walking into the kitchen anymore and wondering what am I doing here?
00:36:31.360 --> 00:36:32.159
Yeah, yeah.
00:36:32.639 --> 00:36:35.920
You know, or you go into the grocery store and go, shoot, I left the list at home.
00:36:36.320 --> 00:36:37.119
What was on it?
00:36:37.440 --> 00:36:41.679
Yeah, you know, like you get your brain back, there's another thing, you know.
00:36:41.760 --> 00:36:43.440
So did maybe the skin cleared up.
00:36:43.519 --> 00:36:45.760
Adult acne is not a thing that you should be having.
00:36:46.079 --> 00:36:46.800
That's a sign.
00:36:46.960 --> 00:36:47.599
It's a sign.
00:36:47.760 --> 00:36:50.480
All of these things are like the check engine light in your car.
00:36:50.559 --> 00:36:50.880
Yeah.
00:36:51.039 --> 00:36:58.239
If they come on, you know that you could unplug the light because it's annoying, but you're not fixing what's under the hood.
00:36:58.320 --> 00:36:58.480
Right.
00:36:58.639 --> 00:37:00.800
You know that if you keep driving like that, you're gonna wreck it.
00:37:01.199 --> 00:37:01.920
You gotta take it in.
00:37:02.159 --> 00:37:03.039
I like that analogy.
00:37:03.360 --> 00:37:05.199
I know make you flip it to faith now.
00:37:05.280 --> 00:37:12.400
So, what would you say, you know, it has been uh kind of the best part of believing in God and Jesus?
00:37:12.639 --> 00:37:15.760
Oh, just the comfort and how it takes you through business and life.
00:37:16.079 --> 00:37:24.400
Yeah, no, comfort, you know, that it's that he's there, that um that all the places that I've been is he's brought me there.
00:37:25.039 --> 00:37:29.280
You know, like I can see a clearer path because he's brought me there.
00:37:29.679 --> 00:37:33.519
And I can I can look back and go, Oh yeah, okay.
00:37:33.760 --> 00:37:36.159
I screwed up, but you helped me go this way, you know.
00:37:36.320 --> 00:37:40.559
I wanted to go this way, or maybe I did go this way, and now you helped bring me back to where I should be.
00:37:41.039 --> 00:37:46.719
That was a big realization, I think, just over this past year, um, as well.
00:37:46.880 --> 00:37:50.960
Another, another little redirection in my business.
00:37:51.199 --> 00:37:53.280
Um, so that was really good too.
00:37:53.599 --> 00:37:57.360
I have a segment called The Living Word, and I forgot to prep you on this.
00:37:57.519 --> 00:37:57.679
Okay.
00:37:57.920 --> 00:38:02.000
But it's it's it's sharing a Bible verse that resonates with you.
00:38:02.239 --> 00:38:03.599
I have a Bible if you need one.
00:38:03.760 --> 00:38:12.400
No, but is there one that is there one that you kind of come back to, or is there one that maybe symbolizes this kind of midlife renewal we're talking about?
00:38:12.719 --> 00:38:16.719
Philippians 4 13, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
00:38:16.960 --> 00:38:20.000
Has always been that one always comes back.
00:38:20.159 --> 00:38:22.880
And then the other one is uh Jeremiah 11, I believe.
00:38:23.039 --> 00:38:28.400
It's um, I know the plans that I have for you to prosper and not to fail, you know.
00:38:28.719 --> 00:38:36.719
So those are very comforting and uplifting because some the world's telling you, nope, you're not, and it's like, yeah, but okay, but I know.
00:38:37.280 --> 00:38:48.320
Well, and it's I just had this conversation with Pastor Don Richmond last week, is that it's like the world is sort of the opposite of heaven or the eternal, right?
00:38:48.400 --> 00:38:53.840
Like it's sort of all the things we value here, yes, it's gonna be flipped.
00:38:54.719 --> 00:38:58.320
So why not get on board with valuing the other things?
00:38:58.480 --> 00:39:06.159
You know, we were given this body, we were given these minds, and we have to make the absolute best of of what we've got.
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So why not why not take care of it?
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Absolutely, we should.
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No, for sure.
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Because, you know, it will honor God, it will honor you, it will honor your family, and um you'll just enjoy life more.
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And we weren't put on this earth to to suffer and not enjoy it, you know?
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Like I think that well, you know, there is some things that we go through for sure, but as people even just practically, people have worked so hard to get to a point where they want to retire and enjoy life.
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Right, yeah.
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And if you're spending them all in doctors' appointments, I mean just recently a family member who is like I'm 58 and she's quite a bit younger than me.
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She's 51.
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Sorry, you 58.
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That that's surprising to me.
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I used I use that as the example.
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I thought that you did that because you knew.
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Oh my goodness, so funny.
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I was like, I'll pick a number that's older than Tadia.
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Oh, sorry.
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Well, thank you.
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Good job, Daddy.
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There you go.
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Makeup was good this morning.
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It worked.
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Um, but yeah, and she's, you know, she's 51 and thinking that maybe she might have to have a stent put in.
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So have you got her?
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She's a family member, so we're waiting for test results and things to come back.
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Family is very hard to we've talked about health and things before with her.
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And so, but yeah, it's um, but her husband just retired and so wanting to do traveling and all those things.
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So let's just, you know, I I said I'm gonna send you sending you prayers and everything for all of this because you you need to be healthy.
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Well, I like that you are showing women that they can be in the driver's seat.
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Women and men.
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I keep saying women.
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I I guess well, mostly I coach women.
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Well, we're the ones who are more proactive and talking about and talk about it more.
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And we're the example, you know, like the woman sets the tone in the house.
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For sure.
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Right?
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There's there's a few men that are out there that are doing the cooking and whatever, and that's great.
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But most of the time we're setting the tone.
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We're buying the groceries, we're we're doing the stuff and how we're we're showing what needs to be done, and everyone else is kind of following along, right?
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So if you're setting that example, then then hopefully they're gonna follow you on some of the good stuff.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Well, thanks for being a shiny example physically, mentally, spiritually.
00:41:18.079 --> 00:41:23.280
And if somebody has more questions for you or is interested in all the things you've had to say, how do they reach out?
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Uh, they can find me on Instagram, Facebook, uh, with my name, Tanya Gustafson, or you can find me T-A-N-I-A.
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I A.
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That's right, thank you.
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And uh, you can find me on fuelignite thrive.com.
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That's my website.
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Fuel Ignite and Thrive.
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Thank you for coming here today.
00:41:38.000 --> 00:41:39.280
I know you have your own podcast.
00:41:39.519 --> 00:41:40.159
Yes, I do.
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What's it called?
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The Fit Woman Podcast.
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The Fit Woman Podcast.
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Yes.
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Anywhere where you watch your podcast, it's there.
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All right, excellent.
00:41:47.039 --> 00:41:48.079
Okay, well, thank you so much.
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Well, thank you.
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It's been fun.
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Thank you for joining me on Talk with Toby Real Life, Real Faith.
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Until next time, keep walking in faith, keep trusting God in the everyday, and may his peace meet you right where you're at.