ABOUT THIS EPISODE
In this episode, I'm opening up the toolbox most men refuse to touch: penis rings, vacuum pumps, and prostate massagers. Men avoid these products for the same reason they avoid the doctor. They think needing help means something is wrong with them. It doesn't. Your body at 50 isn't your body at 25, and a tool that works with it is a way to enjoy the body you're in right now, not an admission of failure.
I break down what a ring can and can't do (it holds what's already there, it doesn't create it), why your overnight data can be an early warning sign for your vascular health, and the 30-minute rule I repeat every single time. I explain why pumps started in urologists' offices, why going slow matters more than going fast, and why this part of your body really does follow a use-it-or-lose-it rule. Then I get into the prostate, the gland most men ignore, the myth that keeps them from exploring it, and how it can support pelvic health.
If there's a man in your life who's been quietly struggling, or just curious, send him this one.
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In This Episode:
0:00 – Rings, Pumps & Prostate Massagers
0:09 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth
0:35 – Why Men Avoid These Tools
1:14 – How a Ring Actually Works
1:43 – When to Talk to Your Doctor
2:13 – Beginner Silicone Rings
2:28 – FirmTech: Hook Ring, Tech Ring & Add-On
3:17 – MyHixel & Lasting Longer
3:43 – Ring Options for Couples
3:58 – Ring Safety: The 30-Minute Rule
4:16 – The Ohnut: Comfort for Couples
4:51 – How Vacuum Pumps Work
5:09 – Dr. Joel Kaplan's Clinical Pump
6:02 – Go Slow: Pump Safety
6:23 – Use It or Lose It
6:44 – Bathmate Water Pumps
7:17 – Why Pumps and Rings Work Together
7:28 – Why the Prostate Matters
8:04 – The Myth That Holds Men Back
8:25 – Prostate Massage for Pelvic Health
8:44 – MysteryVibe Molto
9:04 – Aneros: Hands-Free Massagers
9:58 – Patience & Safety Basics
10:19 – Final Thoughts
10:37 – Outro
To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!
Shop the products I mention:
FirmTech Penis Rings (15% off) with my link: https://myfirmtech.com/karenbigman
Couples: Kiiroo's Lux Him/Lux Her or FirmTech's vibrating attachment.
Mystery Vibe Molto Prostate Massager (10% off) with Code: TABOO10
Silicone beginner rings (Amazon)
MyHixel Pressure-point ring
MyHixel Endurance Trainer
Ohnut Buffer Rings
Dr. Joel Kaplan Vacuum Devices (10% Off) with code TABOO10
Bathmate Penis Pumps (15% off) with code TABOO15
Jim Benson's The Multi-Orgasmic Lover ($50 off using my link)
About The Host:
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
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