ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Have you ever looked at a man and thought, “I KNOW he’s not giving me what I need… but I can’t keep away?”
In this episode, Vanessa Maree is joined by clinical hypnotherapist Adrianna Carlesimo to explore the subconscious patterns that can influence who we’re attracted to, what we tolerate and why hot and cold behaviour can sometimes feel so compelling.
Together, they unpack self-worth, worthiness wounds, emotional unavailability, breadcrumbs and the difference between knowing what we want consciously and what our subconscious may still be programmed to seek.
In this episode, we talk about:
- Why we can be attracted to someone even when we know they're giving us the bare minimum.
- Why inconsistency and hot and cold behaviour can feel more exciting than consistency.
- The difference between conscious desiresand subconscious programming.
- How worthiness wounds can show up in ourdating lives.
- The relationship between self-worth and what we’re willing to accept.
- Whether changing our self-worth can change who we're drawn to.
... And a little end of recording synchronicity involving two very similar nail polishes!
The takeaway in this episode is sometimes the question isn't just “Why do I keep attracting these men?, its “What is the program running in the background and how can I break it so I can be drawn and attracted to a healthy relationship?”
Understanding the subconscious patterns behind our attraction doesn't mean taking responsibility for someone else's behaviour. It means becoming curious about our own patterns, strengthening our self-worth and learning to recognise when something familiar isn't necessarily something healthy.
Because Single & Not Settling isn't just about having higher standards.
It's about becoming the woman who no longer has to convince herself that the bare minimum is enough.
To connect or work with visit Adrianna Carlesimo, visit her website
Connect with Vanessa Maree and say hello! @vanessamaree_wingwoman
Follow the podcast page @singleandnotsettling.podcast
Download a copy of the FREE eBook "The Empowered Single Woman" here to transform your beliefs about dating and find the love you deserve.
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