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The Conversation Beneath the Conversation: How Perception Drives Misunderstandings
In this @SilverDisobedience Perception Dynamics podcast episode, host Dian Griesel explains why conversations can get really confusing or very tense -- even when we're thinking our words seemed straight-forward enough. Dian explains that in most conversations, there is the primary one and often a second, “invisible” conversation happening underneath. This second convo is being shaped by each person’s interpretations of trust, respect, competence, control, and safety. Using examples like discussing project decisions, lateness, pricing, and seemingly reasonable questions that are heard as criticism, Dian describes how meaning forms through individual perception -- highly personalized lenses built from our unique past experiences, sensitivities, and current emotional states. It is these factors that lead to emotions and then behavior that can derail communication. Dian explains that most communication breakdowns are interpretation issues and suggests that "getting curious" instead of over-explaining or getting louder is a great strategy to use. This might be remembering to ask questions like “What did you hear me say?” or “What changed in this conversation?” to uncover what the words meant to the other person and move toward resolution. Tune is for 16 minute and learn new ways to elevate your communication skills.
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I’m Dian Griesel aka @SilverDisobedience to my hundreds of thousands of monthly blog readers. You can learn more about me here: https://diangriesel.com
For three decades, I’ve helped people understand what they may be missing — in themselves, in others, and in the situations they face — so they can communicate with greater clarity, make wiser decisions, and navigate both business and life more effectively."
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